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Awakening Your Inner Giant: My Personal Take on Tony Robbins' Actionable Steps
Hey there, Self Aware leaders!
I recently revisited Tony Robbins' masterpiece, "Awaken the Giant Within." It's a treasure trove of practical wisdom for personal transformation. Today, I want to share my personal perspective on some of the key actionable steps that have resonated with me.
1. Raising My Standards
It all starts with a decision. A decision to refuse mediocrity. To stop tolerating anything less than the best version of myself. I've started setting higher standards for myself in every area of life. It's not about being perfect, it's about striving for excellence. It's about pushing my boundaries and refusing to settle.
2. Changing My Limiting Beliefs
We all carry beliefs that hold us back. For me, it was the nagging voice saying "I'm not good enough" or "Success isn't for me." I'm actively working on replacing those limiting beliefs with empowering ones. Every day, I remind myself that I'm capable of achieving anything I set my mind to.
3. The Power of Decision
Decisions shape our destiny. I'm learning to make more empowering decisions, even small ones, every day. It's about being decisive, taking action, and learning from the outcomes.
4. Mastering My Emotions
Emotions can be powerful, but we don't have to be their slaves. I'm practicing taking control of my emotional state. Whether it's through changing my physiology, focusing on positive thoughts, or using empowering language, I'm learning to cultivate a positive, resourceful state.
5. Taking Massive Action
It's not enough to just have a plan. It's about taking immediate, massive action towards our goals. I'm breaking down my big goals into smaller steps and taking action every single day. It's about progress, not perfection.
6. Focusing on Results, Not Activities
Busyness doesn't always equal productivity. I'm learning to focus on the results I want to achieve. Every day, I ask myself: "What's the most important thing I can do today to move closer to my goal?"
7. Pain and Pleasure
This one is powerful. I'm associating massive pain with the idea of staying stuck and massive pleasure with taking action towards my goals. It's a simple but effective way to push through resistance.
8. Modeling Success
There's so much we can learn from those who have already achieved what we want. I'm actively seeking out mentors and role models. It's about studying their strategies, mindset, and actions.
9. Setting Clear, Compelling Goals
Goals need to be more than just wishes. I'm setting SMART goals and visualizing the outcomes with emotional intensity. It's about creating a clear picture of where I want to go.
10. Practicing Gratitude
Gratitude is a game-changer. I'm making it a daily practice to focus on what I'm grateful for. It shifts my focus from lack to abundance and puts me in a more resourceful state.
11. Neuro-Associative Conditioning (NAC)
This is about rewiring our minds to associate pleasure with positive behaviors and pain with negative ones. I'm identifying triggers for my bad habits and creating new, positive responses.
12. Changing My Environment
Our environment shapes us. I'm surrounding myself with positive, supportive people and creating a physical environment that supports my goals.
13. Committing to Lifelong Learning
Growth is a lifelong journey. I'm committed to continually educating myself and expanding my knowledge.
My Journey Continues
These are just a few of the steps I'm taking on my journey of personal transformation. It's an ongoing process, but I'm already seeing positive changes in my life and leadership.
Remember, Self Aware leaders, we have the power to awaken our inner giant. It's about taking action, pushing our boundaries, and constantly striving for growth.
Let's continue this journey together!
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Leadership is a demanding path. We're constantly navigating complex challenges, making tough decisions, and trying to inspire those around us. But in the midst of all this, it's easy to lose sight of our own personal growth and spiritual well-being.
Recently, I embarked on a 12-stage journey towards spiritual transformation. I'm excited to share the first three stages with you today. My hope is that my experiences might resonate with you, or perhaps even inspire you on your own path.
1. Awakening Awareness
Understanding and Admitting My Limitations
The first step was about waking up. I had to look in the mirror and honestly acknowledge that I don't have all the answers. As leaders, we often feel the pressure to appear infallible, but the truth is, we're all human. Admitting my limitations wasn't easy, but it was an act of courage. It opened the door to growth, allowing me to seek help, learn from others, and foster a more collaborative environment.
Realizing That My Current Path Is Unsustainable
I also came to the realization that the way I was operating was simply not sustainable. The relentless pursuit of goals without self-care was leading to burnout. This wasn't just affecting me personally, it was impacting my team and my overall effectiveness as a leader. Recognizing this was a pivotal moment. It became clear that I needed to make a change—not just for myself but for everyone who depended on me.
Exercises in Self-Awareness and Mindfulness
To cultivate this newfound awareness, I started incorporating mindfulness practices into my daily routine. Simple exercises like mindful breathing, journaling, and taking short breaks throughout the day to reflect helped me stay present. These practices increased my self-awareness, reduced stress, and improved my decision-making skills. I found that when I was more attuned to my own thoughts and feelings, I could lead with greater empathy and clarity.
2. Recognizing Universal Connection
Accepting That a Greater Wisdom or Energy Can Guide Us
The second stage involved recognizing that we're all part of something larger than ourselves. I started to accept that there's a greater wisdom or energy that can guide us if we're open to it. This wasn't about adopting a specific religious belief but about embracing the idea that we're interconnected with the world around us.
Exploring Various Spiritual Traditions and Beliefs
I began exploring different spiritual traditions and philosophies—reading about Buddhism, Stoicism, and even delving into indigenous wisdom. Each offered unique insights into the human experience and our connection to the universe. This exploration broadened my perspective, allowing me to see beyond the immediate challenges of leadership and consider the bigger picture.
Meditation Practices to Connect with the Universe
Meditation became a key practice during this stage. Techniques like loving-kindness meditation helped me cultivate compassion, while mindfulness meditation improved my focus and presence. These practices not only enhanced my personal well-being but also had a positive impact on how I interacted with my team and approached problem-solving.
3. Embracing Surrender
Letting Go of Control and Trusting the Process
Perhaps the most challenging step was learning to embrace surrender. As a leader, I'm used to being in control, steering the ship, and ensuring everything goes according to plan. But I realized that clinging too tightly to control was limiting possibilities. By letting go and trusting the process, I opened myself up to new ideas and solutions that I might have otherwise overlooked.
Developing Faith in a Higher Self or Universal Intelligence
I started to develop faith—not necessarily in a religious sense but in the belief that there's a higher self or universal intelligence at play. This faith allowed me to trust that things would work out as they should, even if the path wasn't immediately clear. It brought a sense of peace and reduced the anxiety that often accompanies leadership responsibilities.
Practical Techniques for Surrendering Ego
To surrender my ego, I practiced active listening and encouraged feedback from my team. I made a conscious effort to value others' opinions and admit when I didn't have all the answers. This not only built trust within the team but also fostered a more innovative and collaborative environment. By stepping back, I empowered others to step forward, which ultimately strengthened the organization as a whole.
Conclusion
Embarking on this spiritual journey has been transformative, both personally and professionally. By awakening awareness, recognizing our universal connection, and embracing surrender, I've become more attuned to myself and those around me. These stages have helped me lead with greater authenticity, compassion, and effectiveness.
I encourage you, fellow leaders, to consider your own path. Maybe some of these experiences resonate with you, or perhaps they inspire you to explore new avenues of growth. Remember, leadership isn't just about guiding others; it's also about evolving ourselves.
I'm excited to continue sharing my journey with you. In my next three blog posts, I'll delve into the next nine stages of my spiritual transformation. Stay tuned!
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As a self-aware leader, I’ve learned that one of the biggest challenges we face isn’t external—it’s the internal battle with our own ego. Ego can be tricky; it often disguises itself as confidence or ambition, which is why many leaders don’t even realize when it's in control. But make no mistake: if left unchecked, ego will slowly erode your leadership, relationships, and your team's ability to thrive.
I’ve fallen into the ego trap myself, and I’m not afraid to admit it. The ego wants to be in the spotlight, to be the one with all the answers, and to silence dissent. It makes us defensive when we should be open, and it compels us to micromanage when we should be empowering others. Worse, it leads us to take credit for victories and deflect blame when things go wrong. Sound familiar?
Let’s be real: we’ve all been there. Whether you're a business leader, military officer, or spiritual guide, that voice inside sometimes says, “You did this. You made it happen. You’re indispensable.” While this might feel good in the moment, it’s a destructive path. When ego takes the wheel, the vehicle of leadership runs off course, and the collateral damage is trust, creativity, and collaboration.
The first step to taming the ego is self-awareness. You have to recognize when your ego is running the show. Here are some signs I’ve encountered in my own journey:
Feeling threatened by differing opinions. Do you bristle when someone challenges your perspective? Taking all the credit. Do you struggle to share the wins with your team? Blaming others for failure. Do you instinctively look for scapegoats when things go wrong?If you see yourself in any of these, don’t worry—you’re not alone. Self-awareness isn’t a destination; it’s an ongoing process. So, what can we do about it?
1. Cultivate HumilityIt’s crucial to remind ourselves that we don’t have all the answers. No matter how much experience we accumulate, there's always something to learn. This can be hard for those of us who’ve been rewarded for our confidence and decisiveness. But humility isn’t about shrinking away from responsibility—it’s about knowing that leadership is a team effort. I’ve found that when I actively ask for input, especially from less experienced team members, I get fresh perspectives that would’ve been lost if I let my ego dominate.
2. Practice Active ListeningToo often, leaders think they’re listening when really, they’re waiting for their turn to speak. Active listening is about being present and fully engaged with what’s being said. It’s not just about hearing words; it’s about understanding the emotions, intentions, and perspectives behind them. I’ve had to train myself to ask more questions and offer fewer answers. Doing this doesn’t just help me grow—it empowers my team to own their contributions and ideas.
3. Admit Your MistakesWe all screw up. What separates a good leader from a great one is the ability to own it when we do. I’ve found that apologizing—especially when my ego’s been the culprit—creates an environment of transparency. It shows my team that it’s okay to fail, as long as we own our missteps and learn from them. I once had a situation where I got frustrated and lashed out. Later, I went back, apologized, and said, “That was my ego talking.” That simple act of owning my fault didn’t just mend the relationship—it deepened the trust and respect within the team.
4. Celebrate the Success of OthersLeadership isn’t about being the hero—it’s about creating heroes. If you're always the one getting the praise, you're limiting your team's growth. I’ve made it a personal mission to give credit away, and it’s transformed how my team operates. When people feel seen and valued for their contributions, they bring more to the table. As leaders, it’s our job to recognize and uplift, not hoard the spotlight.
5. Coach Your Team on Ego AwarenessIt’s not just about managing your own ego; part of your role as a leader is to help your team manage theirs. Encourage self-reflection and provide constructive feedback. When someone’s ego is harming the team dynamic, have an honest conversation. Ask them to consider how their actions are affecting the bigger picture. High performers in particular crave this type of coaching—don’t shy away from it.
ConclusionTaming the ego is an ongoing challenge for all leaders. It requires constant self-awareness and a willingness to confront our shortcomings. But when we get it right, the benefits are immense. We create an environment where people feel valued, where creativity can flourish, and where trust isn’t just an ideal, but a lived reality.
If you’re serious about leading well, it starts with checking your ego at the door. Create space for humility, active listening, and vulnerability. In doing so, you’ll unlock not just your own potential but the full potential of your team.
After all, leadership isn’t about being the strongest, smartest, or most confident—it’s about guiding others to discover their own strength, wisdom, and confidence.
Remember: The ego is not your enemy, but it must be kept in its place.
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Hey there, leaders!
Just got back from an amazing trip to the Pacific Northwest, where I spent some time reflecting on the power of nature and how its principles can be applied to leadership. Today, I want to share some insights on how we can harness the natural flow of creation to build stronger businesses and teams.
We're going to dive into three fundamental laws that I believe are key to unlocking your leadership potential. These aren't just abstract concepts; they're practical tools you can implement right away.
1. The Law of Origin and Interconnectedness (Cause and Effect)In nature, every action triggers a reaction. The same is true in business. Every decision you make, no matter how small, sends ripples throughout your organization. As leaders, we need to be mindful of the potential consequences of our choices and take responsibility for their impact.
Remember, your actions shape your company culture. If you want a positive, collaborative environment, you need to model respectful communication and recognize the contributions of every team member. Celebrate successes, big and small, and foster a sense of interconnectedness where everyone feels valued.
2. The Law of Reciprocity (Interaction)The law of reciprocity is simple: give, and you shall receive. In business, this means fostering positive relationships with your customers, partners, and community. When you genuinely value interactions and go the extra mile, you'll create meaningful connections that lead to loyalty and growth.
As a leader, your communication style sets the tone for the entire organization. Model respectful collaboration, and you'll cultivate a supportive environment where everyone feels empowered to contribute their best.
3. The Law of Growth and Purpose (Motion & Striving)Nature is constantly evolving and adapting. To stay ahead in business, we need to embrace a similar mindset of continuous improvement and innovation. Define a clear mission and vision for your company, and inspire your team with a compelling purpose.
Encourage personal and professional development, and set ambitious goals that challenge everyone to reach their full potential. Remember, challenges are simply opportunities for growth. Embrace them, learn from them, and keep striving for greatness.
These three laws are just the beginning. There's so much more to explore in the world of creational leadership. I encourage you to delve deeper, experiment, and discover how these principles can transform your business and your life.
Remember, leadership is a journey, not a destination. Let's keep learning, growing, and evolving together.
Until next time,
Stay self-aware!
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As an introverted leader, I've always been fascinated by the dynamics of human interaction, especially when it comes to building and nurturing relationships. If you're like me, you might find social interactions a bit draining, but also recognize their immense value. So, how do we balance our need for solitude with the essential task of forging meaningful connections?
Introversion as a Strength
Contrary to popular belief, introversion isn't a weakness. In fact, it's a superpower! Our introverted nature grants us unique strengths like deep thinking, active listening, and empathy. We thrive in one-on-one conversations, and we excel at truly understanding others' perspectives. However, our preference for introspection can sometimes make initiating new relationships a challenge.
The Dance of Human Interaction
I've come to realize that human interactions often follow a fascinating pattern. It all starts with avoidance. It's natural to feel hesitant when meeting someone new. But as leaders, we need to step out of our comfort zones and actively engage. This leads us to the competition phase, where we exchange ideas, energy, and sometimes even clash. It's through this intense interaction that we establish a dynamic of compliance, which helps define the power structure in the relationship.
The final and most rewarding phase is mutual understanding. It's that beautiful moment when we realize that even with our differences, we can find common ground. We might even "agree to disagree," but we do so with respect and a shared understanding of each other's positions.
Building Trust and Influence
To build influence as a leader, we need to guide individuals through these phases of interaction. It all starts with overcoming avoidance and encouraging genuine engagement. This aligns perfectly with the concept of "know, like, and trust" (KLT). Relationships begin with getting to know someone, and that requires overcoming initial hesitations.
Once we engage, we navigate through competition and compliance, fostering a sense of liking—even if it's not a deep connection. Trust, interestingly, can blossom unexpectedly through prolonged exposure. We don't necessarily need to deeply like someone to trust them. Trust often arises from observing predictable behavior patterns. It's about knowing that someone will consistently deliver, even if we don't always agree with their methods.
Embracing the Journey
Building relationships as an introverted leader is an ongoing journey. It requires us to step outside our comfort zones, actively engage with others, and embrace the different phases of human interaction. Remember, our introverted superpowers make us uniquely equipped to foster deep, meaningful connections that can propel us to new heights of leadership success.
What are your experiences as an introverted leader? I'd love to hear your thoughts and insights!
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Hey leaders, Jason Rigby here, your host of The Self-Aware Leader Podcast. Today, we're diving into the first three of the 11 Leadership Principles of the United States Marine Corps (link here for PDF). These principles aren't just for the military – they hold powerful insights for any self aware leader looking to excel.
Principle 1: Know Yourself and Seek Self-Improvement
This is the foundation of leadership. It's about understanding your strengths and weaknesses, seeking honest feedback, and constantly working to improve. Think of it like this:
Self-Evaluation: Use the leadership traits as a benchmark. Where do you shine? Where do you need to grow?
Continuous Improvement: Don't just identify weaknesses – actively work on them. At the same time, maximize your strengths.
Learn from Others: Seek feedback from trusted sources. Study the successes and failures of other leaders. They're a treasure trove of wisdom.
Communication is Key: Master the art of writing and speaking. Your ability to communicate effectively is a force multiplier.
Principle 2: Be Technically and Tactically Proficient
You can't lead effectively if you don't know your stuff. This principle is all about mastering your craft:
Competence: Demonstrate your ability to get the job done. Be the expert in your field.
Never Stop Learning: Attend service schools, pursue independent study, take courses. Knowledge is power.
Find Mentors: Seek out leaders you admire. Observe how they operate. Learn from their experience.
Broaden Your Horizons: Don't limit yourself to your own area of expertise. Associate with people from other fields.
Principle 3: Know Your Marines and Look Out for Their Welfare
This principle is about caring for your team. It's about putting their needs above your own:
Servant Leadership: Always put your people first. Address their concerns, remove obstacles, and create a positive environment.
Be Visible and Approachable: Make sure your team knows you and feels comfortable coming to you with anything.
Support Their Well-being: Help them access the resources they need. Pay attention to their mental state.
Encourage Growth: Invest in your team's individual development. Help them reach their full potential.
Next Time:
In the next episode, we'll cover the remaining leadership principles, including the importance of setting the example, taking initiative, and making sound decisions.
Remember: Leadership is a journey, not a destination. It's about constantly learning, growing, and adapting. These Marine Corps principles offer a powerful framework for self-aware leaders who want to make a real impact.
Call to Action:
I'd love to hear your thoughts on these first three principles. Which one resonated with you the most? Share your insights in the comments below or connect with me on Instagram here. Until next time, keep leading with purpose!
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Ever felt like you're stuck, like success is just out of reach? Robert Kiyosaki's "Rich Dad Poor Dad" hit me hard with this truth: our mindset is everything. Kiyosaki contrasts his "rich dad" (his mentor) and his "poor dad" (his own father), showing how different views on money and success can make or break us.
I've struggled with this myself. Growing up, most of the people around me had that "poor dad" mindset. They were good people, hard workers, but they saw money as something you just earned at a job, not something you could grow.
I started noticing how their fear of risk and their focus on just getting by was rubbing off on me. It was like a subtle pull, holding me back from even dreaming bigger.
But reading "Rich Dad Poor Dad" was a wake-up call. It made me realize I needed to shake things up if I wanted a different life.
Learning to Think Like a "Rich Dad"
I started seeking out people who were already successful, people who thought like Kiyosaki's "rich dad." I read books on finance, took courses, and most importantly, surrounded myself with mentors who could guide me.
It wasn't easy. Unlearning old habits and beliefs is tough. I had to constantly challenge myself to step outside my comfort zone, to take calculated risks, and to see money as an opportunity, not just a paycheck.
But little by little, my mindset started shifting. I began to see possibilities I hadn't seen before. I started making bolder decisions, investing in myself and my ideas.
The Challenge of Breaking Away
The hardest part, though, was distancing myself from the "poor dad" influences in my life. I didn't want to lose my friends and family, but I knew I couldn't let their limiting beliefs hold me back.
I had to find a balance. I still care about them, but I've also made a conscious effort to spend more time with people who are on the same path as me.
My Journey Continues
I'm not where I want to be yet, but I'm miles ahead of where I would be if I had stayed stuck in that old mindset. I'm building businesses, investing in assets, and creating a life I'm truly excited about.
If you're feeling trapped by a "poor dad" mentality, know this: you can change. It's not easy, but it's absolutely possible. Seek out mentors, educate yourself, challenge your limiting beliefs, and most importantly, take action.
Your future self will thank you.
Jason
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To My Fellow Self-Aware Leaders,
Procrastination is often painted as the villain of productivity, a time thief we must tirelessly battle. But what if I told you that procrastination can be a valuable ally, a signal worth heeding?
As self-aware leaders, we know that our habits and behaviors often hold deeper meanings. By turning our attention inward, we can uncover hidden insights within our procrastination patterns.
Understanding Procrastination Through Self-Awareness
Self-awareness is our superpower. It's the ability to recognize our own character, feelings, motives, and desires. When applied to procrastination, it invites us to examine the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors surrounding tasks we tend to put off.
Let's delve deeper. Ask yourself:
Emotional state: Am I feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or afraid of failure?
Physical state: Am I tired, hungry, or uncomfortable?
Environment: Is my workspace conducive to focus? Am I surrounded by distractions?
Task perception: Do I find this task boring, challenging, or unclear?
Personal values: Does this task align with my core values and long-term goals?
By regularly checking in with ourselves, we can paint a clearer picture of our unique procrastination triggers.
Decoding the Procrastination Signal
Once we've cultivated self-awareness, we can start interpreting our procrastination as a signal. It may be telling us something important:
Need for rest: Are we overworked and in need of a break?
Misaligned priorities: Is this task truly aligned with our goals and values?
Lack of clarity: Do we need more information or guidance to proceed?
Fear of failure: Are we using procrastination as a shield against potential disappointment?
Intuition about timing: Is our subconscious telling us that now isn't the right time?
By listening to these signals, we can make more informed decisions about when to push forward and when to step back.
When Procrastination Might Be Beneficial
While chronic procrastination is detrimental, there are times when delaying can be advantageous:
Incubation for creativity: Allowing our subconscious to work on a problem can lead to innovative solutions.
Gathering more information: Waiting can provide time to collect valuable data.
Emotional regulation: Taking time to process emotions can lead to more rational responses.
Energy management: Procrastinating on less critical tasks can help preserve energy.
Avoiding premature action: Delaying can prevent hasty decisions we might later regret.
Harnessing Self-Awareness to Manage Procrastination
So, how can we harness our self-awareness to manage procrastination effectively?
Keep a procrastination journal: Document your procrastination patterns and the insights you gain.
Practice mindfulness: Enhance your ability to notice thoughts and emotions in the moment.
Set reflection time: Schedule regular check-ins with yourself to review your tasks and goals.
Experiment with action: Try both pushing through and delaying tasks, and observe the outcomes.
Seek feedback: Ask trusted colleagues or friends for their perspectives.
Conclusion
Procrastination isn't always the enemy. As self-aware leaders, we can learn to interpret our procrastination as a potentially valuable signal. Let's approach it with curiosity, not judgment. By tuning into our inner signals and respecting what they tell us, we can transform procrastination from a foe into an unexpected ally on our journey toward productivity and well-being.
To your continued self-awareness and growth,
Jason
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Hey everyone,
I've always believed in the power of personal growth, especially as a self aware leader. Recently, I've been diving deep again into Stephen R. Covey's "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People," and it's been a game-changer. I wanted to share some of my takeaways and how I'm applying these habits to my own leadership journey.
Habit 1: Be Proactive
This one's all about taking ownership. I've realized that I have more control over my environment and outcomes than I sometimes give myself credit for. I'm making a conscious effort to be more accountable and proactive in my decision-making.
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
Having a clear vision is so important. I'm taking the time to really define my long-term goals, both personally and for my team. This helps me make sure my actions are aligned with where I want to be in the future.
Habit 3: Put First Things First
Prioritization is key! I'm learning to focus on what truly matters, rather than just reacting to the loudest demands. This involves some tough choices, but it's incredibly freeing to know I'm working on the right things.
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Collaboration is at the heart of this habit. I'm striving to create a team environment where everyone feels valued and we all work together towards shared goals. It's about finding solutions that benefit everyone involved.
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
Listening is a skill I'm constantly working on. Before jumping to conclusions, I'm trying to truly understand where my team members are coming from. This has already led to better communication and stronger relationships.
Habit 6: Synergize
This is where the magic happens! When we combine our diverse skills and perspectives, we can achieve amazing things. I'm encouraging more brainstorming and creative collaboration within my team, and it's been exciting to see the results.
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Self-care is not selfish, it's essential. I'm making sure to prioritize my own learning, health, and well-being. It's like the old saying goes, you can't pour from an empty cup. I want to be the best version of myself for my team and those I lead.
I'm still on this journey, and it's an ongoing process. But re-incorporating these habits into my leadership style has already made a noticeable difference. I'm more focused, more effective, and I feel a deeper connection with my team. I hope this inspires you to explore the 7 Habits as well!
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Every System is Perfectly Designed... To Change Your Perspective
Have you ever found yourself caught in a cycle of frustration, questioning why you and your team keep hitting the same walls despite your best efforts? I've been there too, feeling the weight of repeated failures and the temptation to point fingers at myself or others. But then I came across a profound insight from W. Edwards Deming, a pioneer in quality management, who famously said, "Every system is perfectly designed to get the results it gets." This single statement has the power to transform how we, as self-aware leaders, approach our challenges in both business and life.
The System is the Culprit, Not YouDeming's quote is not about resigning to fate but rather a powerful invitation to adopt a systems thinking mindset. Here's a deeper dive into what this means:
The System: This encompasses every aspect of our environment, from processes and procedures to our mindset and the overarching culture. It’s the complex web of interconnected factors that drive outcomes.
Perfectly Designed: This phrase doesn’t imply that the system is flawless in a positive sense. Instead, it means that the system is producing the exact results it’s set up to achieve. If those results are less than desirable, it’s a sign that the system itself needs reworking.
Results: These are the end products, both intended and unintended, of the system’s design.
Embracing the Principle for Self-Aware LeadershipHere’s how I’ve come to apply Deming’s principle in my journey as a leader, and how you can too:
Own the Results: It’s easy to blame individuals when things go wrong, but true leadership involves taking ownership of the system's outcomes. If your team is underperforming, consider that it’s likely a systemic issue rather than a few bad performers.
Challenge Assumptions: Take a critical look at your existing processes. Are they truly efficient? Does your company culture genuinely support the values you stand by? Sometimes, the systems we’ve grown accustomed to need a fundamental reevaluation.
Focus on Improvement, Not Blame: Shifting from blame to problem-solving is crucial. When you understand that the system is flawed, you can direct your energy towards identifying and rectifying those flaws rather than assigning blame.
Experiment and Iterate: Don’t shy away from trying new approaches. Experimentation is key to finding better ways to achieve desired outcomes. Test, measure, and adjust continuously—each iteration is a step towards refining the system.
Lead with Empathy: Recognize that people are integral parts of the system. Understand their challenges and actively involve them in the problem-solving process. Empathy fosters a collaborative environment where everyone is committed to improvement.
Applying Deming's Principle in Your LifeDeming’s insights aren’t confined to the professional realm. They can significantly impact our personal lives as well:
Fitness: If achieving your fitness goals feels like an uphill battle, scrutinize your system. Is your diet plan realistic? Does your routine accommodate regular exercise?
Relationships: Recurring conflicts might signal deeper, systemic issues in communication or expectations. Evaluating these patterns can help address the root causes.
Happiness: If you’re feeling unfulfilled, consider how your daily habits and choices contribute to this state. Small systemic changes in your routine can lead to a profound improvement in your overall well-being.
A Real-World Example: The Toyota Production SystemThe Toyota Production System (TPS) is a shining example of Deming’s philosophy in practice. TPS focuses on continuous improvement, root cause analysis, and empowering employees to identify and solve problems. This approach has led to Toyota’s outstanding quality and efficiency, demonstrating the power of a well-designed system.
Conclusion: Empowering Change Through AwarenessBy embracing the idea that systems are the key to results, we empower ourselves to become architects of our own success. This shift in perspective transforms us from victims of circumstance to proactive leaders capable of designing better outcomes. Whether we’re in the boardroom or navigating personal challenges, recognizing that “every system is perfectly designed to get the results it gets” equips us with the insight to create meaningful change. Remember, every system is perfectly designed… to change.
This journey of awareness and improvement is ongoing, and it starts with a single step—challenging the system.
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As a leader, I often grapple with an unsettling feeling – that people are against me. It's a heavy burden to bear, casting shadows on even the brightest days. Perhaps you've felt this too, my fellow leader. It's a lonely path, one that can make us question our purpose and abilities.
The Spiritual Roots of My Struggle
In my heart, I believe this struggle is more than just professional challenges or interpersonal conflicts. It's a spiritual battle, a tug-of-war between my ego and my higher self. My ego, driven by a need for validation and control, whispers in my ear, convincing me that I am constantly under attack. It magnifies negativity, distorting my perception of reality.
I've come to realize that this ego-driven perspective is a defense mechanism, a shield against perceived threats to my identity and self-worth. It's a natural human response, but one that can be incredibly damaging.
Why Does My Ego Act This Way?
Deep down, my ego is trying to protect me. It sees any challenge or criticism as a threat, a potential blow to my self-esteem. This defensive stance creates a sense of separation and isolation, feeding the illusion that I am alone in my struggle.
But I am learning to see through this illusion. I am beginning to understand that my worth as a leader is not defined by external validation or the approval of others. True leadership comes from within, from a place of self-assurance and unwavering faith in my purpose.
The Path to Self-Awareness
My journey toward self-awareness has been a winding road, filled with moments of both triumph and despair. It's an ongoing process, but one that I embrace with open arms.
I've learned to reflect on my feelings, exploring the triggers and patterns that fuel my sense of victimization. I challenge negative thoughts, seeking evidence to support or refute them. I practice mindfulness, grounding myself in the present moment and observing my thoughts and emotions without judgment.
I seek feedback from trusted colleagues and mentors, welcoming their insights and perspectives. I embrace challenges as opportunities for growth, recognizing that true strength is forged in the fires of adversity.
Questions That Guide My Journey
Along this path, I ask myself:
What evidence do I have that people are against me?
Am I interpreting the situation accurately, or am I letting my ego distort my perception?
How can I respond to this situation from a place of strength and compassion rather than defensiveness?
What can I learn from this experience to become a better leader?
Affirmations That Strengthen My Resolve
I repeat these affirmations to myself, like a mantra:
I am in control of my thoughts and emotions.
I choose to see challenges as opportunities for growth.
I am confident in my abilities as a leader.
I release the need for external validation and trust in my inner wisdom.
I am surrounded by supportive and understanding people.
Embracing Vulnerability as a Leader
My journey as a leader is not just about guiding others; it's about guiding myself. It's about embracing vulnerability, acknowledging my struggles, and sharing my story with others who may be facing similar challenges.
I believe that true leadership is born from authenticity and compassion. It's about recognizing our shared humanity and supporting each other on our individual paths.
I invite you, my fellow leader, to join me on this journey of self-discovery. Let us embrace our vulnerabilities, challenge our egos, and lead with open hearts and open minds. Together, we can create a world where leaders are not defined by their struggles, but by their courage to face them.
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Hey Self-Aware Leaders,
I've been diving into Jocko Willink's book "The Dichotomy of Leadership," and it's sparked some serious reflection on the role of humility in leadership. As someone who's committed to personal growth and self-awareness, I believe this is a topic we all need to grapple with.
Jocko makes a bold statement: "Humility is the most important quality in a leader." Now, that might seem counterintuitive in a world that often celebrates confidence and charisma. But hear me out.
The Ego Trap
Ego can be a powerful motivator, but it can also be a dangerous trap. When our egos get inflated, we become resistant to feedback, blind to our own shortcomings, and unable to learn and grow. We start to believe that we have all the answers, which is a recipe for stagnation and failure.
Think about it: how many times have you seen talented leaders derail their careers because they couldn't check their egos? It happens all the time.
The Power of Humility
Humility, on the other hand, opens up a world of possibilities. It allows us to:
Listen: To truly hear and understand the perspectives of others, even when they disagree with us.
Learn: To continuously seek out new knowledge and skills, recognizing that we always have more to learn.
Lead: To build trust and respect with our teams by acknowledging our own limitations and empowering others.
The Micromanagement Myth
One area where humility plays a crucial role is in managing up. We often blame our bosses for micromanaging, but Jocko argues that the solution lies in leadership, not complaining. When we take extreme ownership of our work and performance, we naturally earn more autonomy and trust from our superiors.
Checking Your Ego
So, how can we cultivate humility in our own leadership? Here are a few questions to ask yourself:
Am I open to feedback, even when it's difficult to hear?
Do I actively seek out opportunities to learn and grow?
Am I willing to admit my mistakes and take responsibility for my actions?
Do I value the contributions of my team members and empower them to succeed?
These are tough questions, but they're essential for any leader who wants to reach their full potential. Remember, humility isn't about weakness or passivity. It's about having the courage to confront your own ego and embrace a mindset of continuous improvement.
Let's be honest with ourselves, acknowledge our flaws, and commit to becoming more humble leaders. The rewards will be worth it, both for ourselves and for those we lead.
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Hey Self-Aware Leaders,
Today's episode is a special one, inspired by a recent conversation I had with a friend who's leading a team through some major uncertainty. It got me thinking about a powerful concept I stumbled upon in the Harvard Business Review: the importance of developing a clear vision when managing ambiguity.
Now, I know what you're thinking – "Vision? That's easy to say, but how do I actually create one when everything feels up in the air?" Trust me, I get it. As leaders, we're constantly navigating the unknown, and it can be tempting to just react to whatever comes our way.
But here's the thing: when we don't have a clear vision, we're like ships without a rudder, tossed about by the waves of uncertainty. We lose sight of our goals, our values, and what truly matters. And that's when things can really start to unravel.
So, what does it mean to develop a clear vision in the midst of ambiguity?
It's about more than just setting a goal or having a plan. It's about defining what success looks like for you and your team, even when the path forward is unclear.
I love the example they shared in the article about parents trying to raise "good kids." The definition of a "good kid" is different for every family. For some, it might mean academic success, while for others, it might mean strong family connections or athletic achievements. The key is to identify what matters most to you and use that as your guiding light.
So, how do we do this in our own leadership roles?
Here are a few self aware questions to get you started:
What are the core values that guide your decision-making?
What does success look like for your team, your organization, or even your personal life?
How can you align your actions with those values and goals, even when faced with uncertainty?
Once you have a clear vision in mind, it's like having a compass that points you in the right direction, no matter how turbulent the waters get.
Remember, a vision isn't a rigid plan. It's a flexible framework that allows you to adapt and adjust as new information emerges. But it's also a powerful tool that can give you the confidence and clarity you need to lead with purpose, even when the path ahead is uncertain.
So, my fellow self-aware leaders, let's commit to developing a clear vision, not just for our organizations, but for our own lives. Let's embrace the unknown with courage and clarity, knowing that we have the power to create our own success.
Until next time, keep leading with awareness!
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Hey friends,
I've been pondering a quote by Dennis Waitley lately, and it's got me thinking about the language we use as leaders – and how it shapes our reality.
Waitley said: "Winners say, 'I must, I can, I will.' Losers say, 'I should have, I could have, I wish I had.'"
Now, before you roll your eyes at another motivational quote, hear me out. As someone who's committed to the journey of self-awareness and higher thinking, I believe this quote offers a powerful insight into the connection between our thoughts, our words, and our results.
The Inner Dialogue of a Winner
Think about the winner's language for a moment:
I must: There's a fire in this phrase, a sense of purpose and urgency. It speaks to a deep-rooted belief that the goal is not just desirable, but essential.
I can: This is pure confidence, a trust in one's abilities and resilience. It's the voice that says, "Challenges are opportunities for growth, and I'm up for the task."
I will: This is the ultimate commitment, a vow to take action and see it through. It's a recognition that our choices and efforts are what drive our progress.
This is the kind of self-talk that propels us forward, that empowers us to create the reality we envision.
The Trap of the Loser's Language
Now, let's shift gears and look at the loser's language:
I should have: Ah, the familiar sting of regret. This phrase anchors us in the past, replaying missed chances and what-ifs.
I could have: This is the voice of unfulfilled potential, whispering about paths not taken and possibilities left unexplored.
I wish I had: This is the final surrender to longing, a resignation to a reality that feels out of reach.
While these phrases might seem harmless, they can create a mental and emotional prison. They keep us trapped in a cycle of self-blame and inaction, preventing us from moving forward.
Rewriting Your Script
So, how do we shift our internal dialogue from loser to winner? It's not about denying the past or ignoring our shortcomings. It's about choosing a more empowering narrative:
Awareness: Pay attention to your thoughts and words. Notice when you slip into the loser's language and gently challenge those patterns.
Reframing: Replace those self-defeating phrases with more positive affirmations. Instead of "I should have," try "Next time, I will." Instead of "I could have," declare "I am capable."
Action: Turn your words into reality. Take steps towards your goals, even if they're small ones. Every action reinforces your commitment and strengthens your belief in yourself.
The Choice is Yours
Remember, you have the power to choose the story you tell yourself. The words you use matter because they shape your perception of reality. By consciously shifting your language, you can unlock a new level of self-belief and create a life that truly reflects your potential.
As always, I'm here with you on this journey of self-discovery and growth. Keep leading with awareness, my friends!
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If you're a leader – whether you're running a business, managing a team, or simply leading your own life – I've got a question for you:
Have you ever felt torn between what you know is right and what others expect of you? Have you been called "stubborn" or "difficult" because you refuse to budge on your core beliefs?
If so, you're in good company. I've worked with some incredibly successful people, from startup founders to Fortune 500 CEOs, and I can tell you – the best ones share a common trait: they are uncompromising in the pursuit of their goals.
What Does It Mean to Be Uncompromising?
Now, before you roll your eyes and think I'm talking about being bullheaded or inflexible, let's get something straight: Being an uncompromising leader isn't about ignoring feedback or steamrolling others. It's about having a rock-solid sense of purpose and the courage to stay true to it.
Think about it:
Vision: Uncompromising leaders have a clear, vivid picture of what they want to create. They don't just see the present, they see the future potential.
Values: They know what they stand for, what's non-negotiable. This is their moral compass, guiding them through tough decisions.
Grit: They're not afraid to stand alone when necessary. They have the guts to say "no" to opportunities that don't align with their vision, even if it means facing criticism.
Why It's Not Easy (But Totally Worth It)
Let's be real, this path isn't always a walk in the park. Being an uncompromising leader means:
Facing Doubt: People will question you. They'll tell you you're wrong, that it can't be done. You'll have to find the strength to trust your gut.
Making Tough Calls: Some decisions will be unpopular. You might have to cut ties with people or projects that aren't serving your vision.
Constantly Learning: You'll need to be self-aware, always seeking ways to improve and adapt while staying true to your core.
So, How Do You Get There?
Dig Deep: What makes you tick? What are your non-negotiables? Get crystal clear on your values and priorities.
Craft Your Vision: What do you want to build? What impact do you want to make? Paint a detailed picture of your future.
Build Your Tribe: Surround yourself with people who get it, who will support you, challenge you, and call you out when needed.
Take Bold Action: Don't just dream, do. Start small if you have to, but keep moving forward. Learn from your mistakes and adjust along the way.
The World Needs Your Uncompromising Leadership
If you've ever felt like an outsider because you refuse to compromise your values, know this: You're not alone, and you're not wrong. We need more leaders who have the courage to stand for something, to create positive change in a world that desperately needs it.
Embrace your uncompromising spirit. It's your superpower.
What are your thoughts on uncompromising leadership? Share your stories and experiences in the comments below!
Until next time, keep leading authentically.
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Welcome to the Self Aware Leader Podcast with Jason Rigby. In this episode, we have the pleasure of hosting Scott Freidheim, author of "Code of Conduct," a memoir and guide to crafting your own principles in an increasingly complex world.
Scott takes us on a journey through the extraordinary highs and challenging lows of his life, from the boardrooms of Wall Street to the personal brink of bankruptcy. Through tales of adversity and triumph, close encounters with global leaders, and life-changing moments of clarity, Scott distills 32 chapters of noble tenets and moral insights.
In this episode, we explore several key themes from Scott's book:
Bravery: Scott shares his harrowing experience during the 9/11 attacks and the critical decision-making moment that likely saved many lives.
Gratitude: We discuss the profound impact of first responders and the importance of recognizing their selfless service.
Compassion: Scott reflects on a haunting encounter with mental illness and the need for a compassionate approach to mental health.
Humility: We explore Scott's journey from aggressive collegiate soccer player to a leader who understands the value of humility in personal growth and success.
Ethics and Accountability: Scott shares stories that highlight the importance of ethical leadership and personal responsibility in the face of challenges and setbacks.
Strategy and Relentlessness: We dive into Scott's experiences at Kenmore and ettain group, discussing the role of strategic thinking, leveraging partnerships, and persevering through adversity.
Throughout the episode, we reflect on the essence of living deliberately, inspired by the resilience and insights of Scott Freidheim's remarkable journey. This conversation isn't merely about listening to a captivating story; it's an invitation to reflect on your own values, consider what drives you, and deliberate on how you navigate the freedoms and trials of life.
Join us as we explore the wisdom and perspective needed to forge your own path, guided by the principles and experiences shared in "Code of Conduct."
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We've all been there. Those moments as leaders when a project stalls, a key team member leaves, or that big initiative feels like it's crashing and burning. It's so easy to slip into a spiral: frustration, blame (at others or ourselves), and a sinking feeling of helplessness. That's the victim mentality, and as comfortable as it seems in the moment, it's incredibly destructive to our leadership.
The Trap: How We Give Up Our Power
Here's the thing about playing the victim: we surrender. We convince ourselves that our fate is out of our hands – bad luck, unfair bosses, you name it – anything but ourselves. Thoughts become a chorus of "I can't...", "This always happens to me...", or "Why bother, it's pointless...". It feels easier than taking a hard look in the mirror, but make no mistake, this is us putting ourselves at the mercy of every setback.
We all want to feel in control as leaders. The victim mentality is the illusion of control, where it's somehow safer to wallow than to confront the hard choices ahead. Yet, the very act of choosing this mindset robs us of the true power we hold to shape our path.
My Own Victim Trap (and Yours Too, Let's Be Honest)
Let me get real for a minute. Early in my career, I had a boss who micromanaged everything, undermining my confidence at every turn. It was the perfect breeding ground for a victim mentality. I could blame her for my lack of progress, for feeling stifled and unseen. It WAS unfair...and it was also a dead-end. The day I decided enough was enough, wasn't about her changing. It was about me.
Steps to Break the Cycle
True leadership – the kind that changes teams, organizations, and even ourselves – demands we break free from this trap. Here's what's worked for me, and countless other leaders I've coached:
Awareness is the Antidote: Catch yourself playing the victim. What are those inner monologues, the excuses? Journaling can be powerful here. Get brutally honest about the stories you tell yourself. This isn't about self-judgment, it's about seeing the pattern.
Reframe to Empower: Those negative thoughts? Don't try to silence them, retrain them. "I can't present to this group" becomes "I need more prep to feel confident with this crowd". Instead of "why me?", ask "What might this experience teach me to become a more resilient leader?"
You Do Have a Choice: We can't control everything, but response is always OURS. Taking responsibility doesn't mean being at fault. It means owning the fact that YOU can chart the course ahead, even if that's course-correcting from a mess.
Your Tribe Matters: Mentors, a peer group, even a therapist – we weren't meant to tackle this alone. Find people who get real about leadership struggles and genuinely believe in you, even when you don't.
Spirituality as a Strength (If It's Your Thing): For me, meditation and affirmations help quiet those self-critical voices. Others find strength in a sense of larger purpose. If spirituality plays a role in your life, let it be an anchor when the seas of leadership get stormy.
Resilience: The Muscle We Build: Every time you fall flat, get back up, and dust yourself off, you're growing this muscle. Failing is how we learn. Embracing that is how we become unstoppable.
This Isn't Easy, But It's ESSENTIAL
There will be days the victim mentality whispers sweet nothings of surrender. That's when these steps become a lifeline. True power as a leader is not the absence of challenges, but our ability to meet them, learn, and rise stronger on the other side. The world needs more of that kind of leadership, don't you think?
Let me know in the comments – what's been YOUR biggest victim mentality trap?
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Dear Self Aware Leaders
Just this week, I stepped onto a plane headed for a much-needed work trip. As the familiar safety briefing began, the flight attendant's voice caught my attention. "Remember," she said, "in case of an emergency, please secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others." Her next words hit me with newfound resonance: "...even though this trip is to Miami, I don't want to see any of you underwater."
It was a playful reminder, but it struck a deeper chord. In the heart of leadership, amongst its demands and the noble drive to serve, lies a paradox: we must sometimes withdraw to truly give. We all know the flight attendant's instructions—secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others. But as leaders, do we truly live this principle?
I believe nurturing our own spirit is the most generous act we can perform for our teams and the world we seek to impact. When we deplete ourselves, it's not just our personal energy that suffers. Our clarity dims, our empathy wanes, and our ability to inspire becomes strained. Without meaning to, we may offer a diminished version of our leadership potential.
Yet, when we prioritize our own wellness—not as a luxury but as a sacred responsibility – something profound happens. We refill our inner reserves. Just as a wellspring nourishes the land, we become sources of resilience, wisdom, and unwavering compassion for those we lead.
So, how do we nurture ourselves, especially in demanding roles?
Title: Dear Exhausted Leader: It's Time to Put YOUR Oxygen Mask On First
Dear Self Aware Leaders
Just this week, I stepped onto a plane headed for a much-needed work trip. As the familiar safety briefing began, the flight attendant's voice caught my attention. "Remember," she said, "in case of an emergency, please secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others." Her next words hit me with newfound resonance: "...even though this trip is to Miami, I don't want to see any of you underwater."
It was a playful reminder, but it struck a deeper chord. In the heart of leadership, amongst its demands and the noble drive to serve, lies a paradox: we must sometimes withdraw to truly give. We all know the flight attendant's instructions—secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others. But as leaders, do we truly live this principle?
I believe nurturing our own spirit is the most generous act we can perform for our teams and the world we seek to impact. When we deplete ourselves, it's not just our personal energy that suffers. Our clarity dims, our empathy wanes, and our ability to inspire becomes strained. Without meaning to, we may offer a diminished version of our leadership potential.
Yet, when we prioritize our own wellness—not as a luxury but as a sacred responsibility – something profound happens. We refill our inner reserves. Just as a wellspring nourishes the land, we become sources of resilience, wisdom, and unwavering compassion for those we lead.
So, how do we nurture ourselves, especially in demanding roles?
1. Embrace Sacred Pauses: Carve out dedicated moments in your day for stillness—even a few minutes of mindful breathing or a walk in nature. These aren't indulgences, but the very act of replenishing the well from which you give.
2. Discover Joy's Power: Actively fill your life with what brings you true joy. This isn't about frivolous escapes, but honoring the unique things that light up your soul. A joyful leader radiates inspiration.
3. Boundaries as Love: Saying 'no' with grace can be the most loving act. It protects your energy for the tasks that truly need your unique leadership. Train yourself, and your team, to respect your boundaries.
4. Seek Growth with Humility: There's always more to learn, more ways to see. Embrace a beginner's mindset, seek out mentors, engage in personal development. This isn't about striving, but expanding your capacity to serve.
5. Honor the Body Temple: Your body is integral to your leadership. Mindfully nourish it with healthy foods, movement, and rest. A vibrant body steadies your spirit against the storms of the work world.
6. Community as Sustenance: We are never meant to lead alone. Nurture a circle of trusted friends, colleagues, or a mentor where you can be vulnerable, receive honest feedback and be buoyed by authentic support.
Remember, this is a journey, not a destination. Some days will be harder than others. Embrace self-compassion—the most crucial skill for any leader. Be gentle when you fall short, then resolve to refocus. Just as a flight attendant reminds passengers of the safety priority, bring gentle reminders to your own mind.
The world needs leaders who operate from wholeness, presence, and a heart overflowing with love. Let's choose to model that, starting with how we love ourselves. Each time you put your own 'oxygen mask' on, you grant permission for your team and those you serve to do the same. We rise together.
With warmth and encouragement,
Carve out dedicated moments in your day for stillness—even a few minutes of mindful breathing or a walk in nature. These aren't indulgences, but the very act of replenishing the well from which you give.
2. Discover Joy's Power: Actively fill your life with what brings you true joy. This isn't about frivolous escapes, but honoring the unique things that light up your soul. A joyful leader radiates inspiration.
3. Boundaries as Love: Saying 'no' with grace can be the most loving act. It protects your energy for the tasks that truly need your unique leadership. Train yourself, and your team, to respect your boundaries.
4. Seek Growth with Humility: There's always more to learn, more ways to see. Embrace a beginner's mindset, seek out mentors, engage in personal development. This isn't about striving, but expanding your capacity to serve.
5. Honor the Body Temple: Your body is integral to your leadership. Mindfully nourish it with healthy foods, movement, and rest. A vibrant body steadies your spirit against the storms of the work world.
6. Community as Sustenance: We are never meant to lead alone. Nurture a circle of trusted friends, colleagues, or a mentor where you can be vulnerable, receive honest feedback and be buoyed by authentic support.
Remember, this is a journey, not a destination. Some days will be harder than others. Embrace self-compassion—the most crucial skill for any leader. Be gentle when you fall short, then resolve to refocus. Just as a flight attendant reminds passengers of the safety priority, bring gentle reminders to your own mind.
The world needs leaders who operate from wholeness, presence, and a heart overflowing with love. Let's choose to model that, starting with how we love ourselves. Each time you put your own 'oxygen mask' on, you grant permission for your team and those you serve to do the same. We rise together.
With warmth and encouragement,
Jason
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This morning, I woke up like I often do – caught in a whirlwind of thoughts and anxieties. We all face this, especially as leaders. The pressure to have answers, to define ourselves by accomplishments... it's easy to lose our footing. But in these moments, I'm learning something profound (inspired by the spiritual teacher Luuk Moelker's From Confusion to Clarity) – the very essence of our leadership lies in recognizing what confusion truly is.
Moelker teaches that our mental chaos is just that – mental. It's a storm in the mind. For me, the revelation came when I finally paused and asked myself, "Who am I, truly, beneath all this?" Suddenly, the noise fell away. A core of undeniable selfhood was there all along, needing no external justification.
This is a truth every leader needs to know – confusion happens, but it is not you. Underneath the responsibilities and expectations, there's that same causeless, vibrant 'I am' within each of us.
Finding that clarity isn't about guru retreats or complex psych-techniques. It's accessible here, now. Trust in your own direct experience. Sidestep the endless self-improvement, the pressure to 'become'. You already are. Causeless. Needing no justification. That is what enables true leadership.
How do we put this into practice? Let the anxieties and fears do their thing. Notice them, but stay rooted in the peace of your inner being. It's like watching storm clouds pass while knowing the blue sky remains untouched.
Remember, clarity is your baseline, not something earned. No need to protect or 'prove' your simple existence. This frees you from the exhausting cycle of self-definition, the subtle pressure to always be 'on'.
When you crave a sense of completion or a more 'authentic' leadership style, stop. Say to yourself, with conviction, "I already am.". Let this anchor you. Then face the day's challenges not as battles against yourself, but as a chance to act from that causeless, clear place.
Much like Moelker's work, my experience is simply a guidepost. It's about inviting you to know this truth for yourself. Leaders, it's time to cut through the chaos and embrace who we were meant to be. The ripple effects aren't just personal - they extend to how we lead and show up for others.
Maybe create your own short mantra, inspired by Moelker. Mine is: "I return to the causeless Self." It's my compass when life gets turbulent.
This isn't about ignoring problems, but understanding how we relate to them. True clarity means seeing we are not our thoughts or accomplishments. That shift has revolutionary potential for how we lead. Shouldn't we be modeling wholeness, not constant striving?
Thank you, Luuk Moelker, for the reminder contained within From Confusion to Clarity.
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Hello fellow leaders, this is Jason. In today’s episode of The Self-Aware Leader, I’m taking a moment to share a more personal perspective on leadership. These aren't just abstract concepts; they're five core areas I am actively exploring in my own life. As we delve into these principles, I hope my journey resonates with you, offering both guidance and inspiration as you navigate your own path to becoming a more effective and self-aware leader.
1. Clarity: Seeking Light in the Shadows
Clarity is paramount. Recently, I've been reflecting on times when I've felt stuck, questioning what steps I need to take to regain a clear vision. It’s about asking the tough questions, like, "What am I not seeing? What have I been avoiding?" For me, gaining clarity often means disconnecting from the noise—stepping back, going for long walks, or just sitting in quiet meditation to listen to what my higher self is trying to tell me.
2. Momentum: Moving Forward When It’s Hardest
Momentum is something I've struggled with, especially when facing setbacks. It’s easy to feel like you're slogging through mud. I've learned that the energy it takes to get stuck is the same energy that can propel me forward. The key for me has been to redirect this energy positively—setting small, manageable goals, and using visualization techniques that create a series of wins, no matter how minor, to rebuild my momentum and get myself out of the rut.
3. Respect: Building Self-Respect and Mutual Respect
I’ve been pondering what respect means in my personal and professional life. How do I respect myself? This includes setting boundaries, acknowledging my achievements, and forgiving my mistakes. Extending this respect to others is equally vital. It’s about listening actively, valuing others' contributions, and understanding their perspectives. This dual respect fosters a healthier, more supportive environment for those I lead and myself.
4. Understanding: Embracing Continuous Growth
As a leader, I’ve always believed in the importance of evolution—of striving to learn and grow from every situation. This means being open to feedback, willing to confront uncomfortable truths, and eager to apply new insights. Understanding doesn't just apply to external knowledge; it's also about introspection and recognizing our own patterns and behaviors that need evolution.
5. Embodiment: Living My Values Every Day
The concept of embodiment has been transformative for me. It’s about more than just understanding or agreeing with certain ideas; it's about living them out loud, every day. Whether it’s in how I conduct a meeting, manage my time, or interact with team members, I aim to reflect my values in every action I take. This alignment is what I strive for—to not only believe in integrity, honesty, and compassion but to embody these qualities in all aspects of life.
Conclusion:
These five principles are not just leadership strategies; they are markers on a map, guiding me through the complex terrain of leading both myself and others. Sharing this path with you is a way of honoring my commitment to not just talk the talk but walk the walk of a self-aware leader.
Call to Action:
I encourage you to reflect on these areas in your own leadership practice.
How can you bring more clarity and momentum into your daily challenges?
In what ways can you cultivate deeper respect for yourself and others?
How might you commit to understanding and embodying your values more fully?
Share your stories and challenges with me—let's grow and learn together in this journey of self-aware leadership. Let's make our leadership not just effective, but deeply personal and profoundly impactful.
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