Why Aren’t Stable Relationships Sexy?U Up? add
The Js are back and ready to talk about affairs. After reading Esther Perel’s “A State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” Jordana explains the hypothesis of why cheating and relationships have changed from generation to generation. Older generations seem to have settled and gotten married younger leading to a ton of cheating whereas millenials live a lot more life and date tons of people before they settle down. At 37:00 their weird sexual encounter comes from a listener who had a sleepover with a bed wetter. At 53:00 a listener looking for a spark with a new guy writes in wondering how long you can continue to date a guy while still being on the fence about him. At 1:01:40 a listener writes in wondering if it’s worth it to work out a relationship with a boyfriend who has turned cold and mean. At 1:11:50 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “everything is perfect but they live above, or in a funeral home”, “everything is perfect but they’re a mascot for a semi pro-sports team.” Thanks To Our Sponsors Leesa- The Leesa mattress is the product of 30 years of experience and hundreds of hours of rigorous product testing. Designed for body contouring and pressure relief, the Leesa mattress is perfect for all sleepers. Shop conveniently online with free shipping and 100 nights to try the mattress in your own home. Get $150 off the Leesa mattress + a free pillow at leesa.com/UUP Teami Blends- Teami Blends Detox Mask has ingredients like matcha, and bentonite clay and it smells like a spa. Get yours today and use promo code UUP25 at checkout for 25% off any order.
Are Dating Apps Bad For Society? Featuring Nancy Jo SalesU Up? add
J and J are back and they’re joined by award winning journalist and director/producer of “Swiped: Hooking Up In The Digital Age,” Nancy Jo Sales. Nancy’s documentary explores the landscape of dating in the era of swipe apps and social media for better or for worse. They discuss the morality of the apps from their invention to their execution and the culture built around it. At 1:00:20 a listener writes in wondering what to do about a new relationship that may become long distance very soon. At 1:10:30 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “They refuse to pay for Spotify premium”, “facetiming someone before you’ve even met,” “he’s on the Buzzfeed hottest mugshot list.” Thanks to our sponsors! Zola- Zola, the wedding company that will do anything for love, is reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in couples' lives even happier. To start your free wedding website and also get $50 off your registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/UUP Thirdlove- ThirdLove knows there’s a perfect bra for everyone, so right now they are offering our listeners 15% off their first order! Go to THIRDLOVE.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra… and get 15% off your first purchase!
Is Halloween the Best or Worst Hook-Up Night?U Up? add
Happy Halloween from the J’s. Jordana is planning to force her bf into a couples costume, which believe it or not, Jared is opposed to feeling that couples costumes are all about ownership. At 12:45 they discuss a controversial article proclaiming that dating without texting is the absolute best. At 32:35 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which could be either a bad joke or a Freudian disaster. At 38:30 a listener writes in to ask if she can bring her boyfriend home for the holidays despite his abysmal table manners. At 53:13, an overworked betch with no time to go out writes in looking for advice on how to meet guys since the dating apps have been letting her down. At 1:05:10 they play Red Flag Or Deal Breaker including, “you’re on a first date and find out it’s their birthday”, and “they have $200,000 in student loans”. Thanks to our sponsors: Leesa- Get up to $160 off the Leesa mattress or $235 off the luxury Sapira mattress and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/UUP Ritual- Whether you’re living life—or creating it—why not add some good looking science into your daily routine? Visit ritual.com/UUP to start your ritual today!
What Do I Do If My Significant Other Is Texting Their Ex? Ft. Johnny BananasU Up? add
J and J are back. Jared is looking for the party, but Jordana confesses that she doesn’t go out anymore, unless she’s going to a wedding. They agree that weddings are much different for single people than they are for couples and it affects whether or not people will have fun at them. At 18:00 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week as a listener writes in wondering if it’s hot or gross when a guy licks and swallows his own bodily fluids. At 27:30 a listener writes in wondering what to do about her husband who is still texting an old ex-girlfriend. At 44:40 a confused listener writes in trying to figure out if a guy she’s talking to likes her despite his inconsistent texting habits. At 1:00:02 Johnny Bananas joins the show to talk about “The Challenge”, dating on reality TV and play “Red Flag Or Deal Breaker.” Thanks to our sponsor Leesa! Get up to $160 off the Leesa mattress or $235 off the luxury Sapira mattress and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/UUP Thanks to our sponsor Care/of! For 25% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, visit TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP
How Do I Make the First Move Without Coming Off Desperate?U Up? add
J and J are back and this week the show’s theme relates to initiating romantic contact with a guy without coming on too strong. At 13:25 a listener writes in asking how to make a romantic introduction with an old college crush who she has always had chemistry with. At 35:50 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week from a listener who is wondering if he was gaslighted by a girl who tricked him into thinking he finished sexually without knowing it. At 47:00 a listener writes in wondering what to do about a girl he’s dating who’s hoping for exclusivity, but not a relationship. At 58:30 they take a letter from a listener who is going on a vacation with an ex that she recently broke up with. At 1:05:30 they play red flag or deal breaker including “he/she writes inspirational quotes on their wrists” and “they want to have ONLY joint social media accounts after you get married.”
Bonus U Up?: Live At Canton Hall Ft. Raven GatesU Up? add
J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live in Dallas, TX. At 8:15 they talk about the best opening lines to use on dating apps. At 22:00 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 39:00 they are joined by Raven Gates of “The Bachelor” to play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker. At 55:40 they dissect their “Deal Reveal” wondering why guys get off the hook for playing dumb after things get intimate. At 1:07:35 they talk about the “Awkward Sexual Encounter Of The Week” and it gets a little messy. At 1:17:20 they are joined by Poo Pourri VIP of creative, Nicole Story, to uncover some “Poo-tastrophes” from the audience. At 1:24:00 they go into the audience and listen to some of their horrible dating stories. A huge thank you to our sponsor Poo-Pourri! Pick up your Poo-Pouri before you go toilet spray today at https://www.poopourri.com/
What’s The Difference Between Loving Someone and Being “In Love?”U Up? add
The Js are back with an ep you won’t want to miss. This week’s topic is longer term relationships and they discuss The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. They discuss the question of what it means to love someone versus being “in love” with them. At 34:30, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy gets off to a very specific part of his body being licked. At 44:44, they take a letter from a listener dealing with a toxic ex who keeps making contact. At 53:00, they a letter from a listener who tells a guy he can spend the night, but she won’t sleep with him. He proceeds to take his phone out and show her a group chat where him and his boys share pics of women. What gives? After they do some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including “you have to spend all major holidays at their parents’ house” and “they don’t believe in vaccines.”
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How Do I Stop My Boyfriend From Acting Like a Drunk Asshole? Ft. Girls Gotta EatU Up? add
The Js are back, hot off their live show in Dallas. They briefly discuss how men ask a few close friends about new partners, while women get opinions from around 70 people. At 15:05, they take their first email from a listener who notices her friend’s boyfriend’s Tinder profile is up with a fresh profile pic as soon as she goes on vacation. At 24:00, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a listener finds that sex is ruined by an affectionate canine. At 34:37, they take another letter from a listener asking about her boyfriend who drinks too much. His drunken episodes are becoming a pattern, but she’s not sure what to do about it. At 45:55, they are joined by Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine of Girls Gotta Eat podcast to respond to listeners and play some games. At 47:49 they take a letter from a listener who meets a guy at a wedding and it seems like love at first sight. He buys a non-refundable flight to visit her, but then bails at the last second. What gives? They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Deal Breaker: their favorite movie is Paul Blart: Mall Cop.
What’s The Best Way to Get Someone to Stop Texting You?U Up? add
The J squad is back with another ep you won’t want to miss. At 15:15, a listener asks what to do about a friend whose new guy is clearly a bunch of trouble, but she just won’t react to a ton of red flags. At 25:50, they take the Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy puts a girl into a sex position that seems straight out of Cirque du Soleil. At 35:50, they take an email from a listener who occasionally hooks up with a guy, but he texts her every single day and it’s getting to be a bit much. What should she do? At 47:14, they take another letter from a listener who was badly burned by a girlfriend of three years who left him for her coworker. He can’t seem to shake it. They wrap up playing games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: wears the same thing on your first ten dates and is really mean to waitstaff but leaves a 50% tip. Thanks to our sponsor, FabFitFun. Listeners to U Up? can use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com.
Did Instagram Ruin My Relationship? Ft. Corinne FisherU Up? add
The Js are back. They briefly discuss an article that says 18-year-old women get the most swipes and the most responses on dating apps. At 19:42, they take an email from a listener whose friend decides to like all of her crush’s pics on Insta using her account. Now, he's gone cold. At 37:20, they take another email from a recently single listener who can’t stop Insta stalking her ex even though he has a new girlfriend. At 43:38, they are joined by Corinne Fisher of Guys We F*cked and Two Less Lonely Girls. They talk about slut-shaming and then take the Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl hooks up with a DJ who has some wild role playing requests. At 1:10:00, they wrap up with some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: a burglar breaks into your home and they run into the closet without you.
Bonus: U Up? Live At The Comedy Cellar (10 PM Show) Ft. Michelle WolfU Up? add
The duo of Js returns with another bonus ep from their unreal night at the Comedy Cellar’s Village Underground. It’s a wild one. The topic this time around: what to do if a guy booty calls you after a date? At 8:08, they read an email about a Hinge date that went well but then he seemingly just wants sex. She is looking for a response that doesn’t make her look like a “ho”. At 16:55, they do a dating app makeover where they go through a girl’s profile and discuss the various kinds of bikini pics - and whether it’s OK or not to have one. At 32:50 they bring on their special guest, HBO star and Host of the White House Correspondent’s Dinner, Michelle Wolf. At 39:41, they do some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including: “makes instagrams for his cars”, “loves shitting at public restrooms” and “has 5 roommates.” At 57:50, they do a deal reveal, where they read a letter from a listener who has been friends with a guy for 6 years and finally decides to give it a shot. He’s acting weird so what’s his deal? At 1:18:00, they begin taking questions from the audience and things get wild. Don’t miss the story at 1:23:50 where a girl hurts herself during sex in an unbelievable way and is debating Venmo-ing the guy for the hospital bill. Thanks to our sponsors P.VOLVE: Get 30 days free access to P.volve’s streaming service by visiting http://my.pvolve.com/offer/betches and typing in the code UUP Beau Undies: Sign up at beauundies.com using our special promo code BETCHES to try it out and get your first undie for just $3!
When Do You Introduce Your S/O To Your Friends?U Up? add
The Js return with an episode about meeting your S/O’s friends. At 11:17, they take an email from a listener who has gone on a few great dates, but then ends up at loud bars surrounded by her date’s friends. Is this normal? Also when is it OK to leave? At 20:00, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week that ends with a trip to Planned Parenthood. At 36:22, they take a letter from a listener talking who can’t get over her insecurity and jealousy. At 45:07, they take another letter from a listener who split with her boyfriend, but noticed that he left pictures of the two of them on Instagram. Could this mean anything? At 1:05:33, they wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Deal Breaker: gets all their dating advice from their mom. Listeners to the U UP? Podcast can use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com.
Bonus: U Up? Live At The Comedy Cellar (8 PM Show) Ft. Matteo LaneU Up? add
J Squared is back with a bonus ep. from their epic night at the Comedy Cellar's Village Underground. The topic this time around: How to be an excellent stalker. At 6:02- A listener writes in wondering if it’s flattering to find out that your current hookup is stalking your ex. At 22:00 Hillary from Hoboken joins J and J for a dating app makeover. She’s looking for the Jewish boy of her dreams. At 37:00, they are joined by Matteo Lane. They play some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including "they put their credit score up as a picture on their dating app" and "insists you call their parents mom and dad as soon as you meet them." At 56:00 they re-enact their Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week. A listener encloses a full Bumble conversation and wants to know why the guy she was messaging suddenly disappeared from the app. At 1:17:10 they are joined by audience members looking for dating advice. Thanks to our sponsors
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Is It Crazy to Call Someone Out After Stalking Their Instagram Story?U Up? add
Jor and Jar return for an amazing episode about going deep into peoples’ social media profiles. Jared says you know you’ve gone too far when you hit a bar mitzvah. At 16:57, they take a letter from a listener who went on several dates with a guy only for him to bail on one because he “needed to nap.” After some stalking, the listener discovers he was liking food pics on Insta. What gives? At 31:14, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a dental student stuck his finger in a girl’s mouth in an unsexual way. At 40;11, they take a letter from a listener who's displeased with her merely financially adequate boyfriend. He doesn’t have the drive to earn more. What should she do? At 53:25, they take another letter from a female listener who’s hooking up with a guy and he decides things are moving too fast. He says he wants to start from scratch and cut the sex out of the picture. Is this a thing? After they wrap up on some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including “still believes in the tooth fairy” and “has his own place, but he still has glowing stars on the ceiling.” This episode is brought to you by Leesa. Don’t miss Leesa’s limited time Labor Day Sale! Extended now through September 13: Get up to $235 off and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at Leesa.com/UUP and enter promo code UUP at checkout.
How to Know You're Chasing The Wrong PeopleU Up? add
Dub-J are back with an episode you don’t want to miss. At 3:54, they take an email from a listener who went to block a male creeper, but when she saw her blocked list, there were several girls only her BF of a few months could’ve put there. This segues into a brief discussion of those moments when your friend breaks up with their S/O and you are inclined to sh*t-talk them, but know there’s a real chance they’ll get right back together and you’ll be cut out forever. At 30:21, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy’s phone goes off during sex. If he answered it and took the call, that would’ve been OK, but what this listener describes is far more weird. At 41:15, they take another email from a listener asking about "GU guys," geographically undesirable dudes. This listener seems interested and hesitant at the same time about one such man. At 50;32, a male listener writes in who can’t seem to keep a woman for longer than two to four months. Is he being too hard on himself? At 1:00:13, they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: “when meeting their parents, they get into a huge screaming fight with them” and “they tried out for The Bachelor five times, but they never made it on.” This episode is brought to you by Leesa. Don’t miss Leesa’s limited time Labor Day Sale: Get up to $235 off and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/uup
Is a Cheap Guy a Dealbreaker?U Up? add
J squared are back. They start off discussing "Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, a book that casts people into three groups: the anxious, the avoidant, and the secure. At 30:04, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl describes an encounter with a guy who strategically refused to remove his pants. At 50:14, they take an email from a listener who asked a guy she's been dating for four months to attend a wedding with her. He refused. Now what? At 57:34, they take another letter from a girl listener whose date keeps letting her pick up the tab. They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: wears a fanny pack un-ironically and gets food all over their face on a first date. This episode is presented by Leesa. Go to Leesa.com/uup or use the promo code UUP at checkout to receive $165 off your purchase of a mattress, or $235 off your purchase of a Sapira.
To Text or Not To Double TextU Up? add
J and J are back. At 3:00, they take their first email about when to double text - if ever. Is sending five iMessages in a row the same as two texts? This segues into a general discussion about texting strategies. At 19:12, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl hooks up with a guy in her living room and subsequently locks her door. He ends up knocking on her roomie's door and it only gets weirder. At 28:11 they take their third email from a girl who is back on the apps and goes lukewarm on a guy. Yet, he seems to want to keep it together. What's really going on? At 44:53 they take another email from a listener whose BF drops that he doesn't want kids. Do guys know what this really means? Jared says they sure do. At 54:44, they wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: Doesn't own a TV and they have no friends, but they're very close with their family.
Should I Swipe Right on Someone I Know IRL?U Up? add
After a brief discussion of "k" texts, J squared agrees that "Kk" is polite while "k" is extremely aggressive. At 12:37 they take a letter from a listener who is unsure if he should continue small talk with a suitor on a date that's a week in advance. This leads to a more general discussion of scheduling dates and how to broach small talk around them. At 38:40, they take a letter from a female listener who finally decides to swipe right on someone she knows IRL.
After seeing him in a group setting after he swiped right back, she's unsure how to proceed. At 46:50. they take a letter from a listener who learned her boyfriend used to hook up with a 20-year-old when he was 30. She's a bit uncomfortable with it. Is he out of line? After they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: he or she has a framed selfie of themselves in their room.
Can I Go Through My S/O's Texts?U Up? add
J and J are back. At 3:11, they take an email about a boyfriend who has yet to post a picture of her on his Instagram. The thing is he posts A LOT. At 18:55 they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a man wearing a retainer seems to misunderstand its role in sex. At 24:58, they take another email where a girlfriend goes through her boyfriend's texts and what she finds shakes her to the core. At 38:15 they take another letter from a listener whose friends' new guys went on vacation and upon their return, ghosted them. She's worried she'll suffer the same fate. At 51:35 they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: they have a tattoo of Daffy Duck pushing a lawnmower through their pubes.
Why Do Guys Stop Putting Effort Into Long Term Relationships? Ft. Hinge Founder Justin McLeodU Up? add
Jared and Jordana talk about the general state of U Up? which is now recommended by some therapists. Jared tells the story of a good friend who is in a bit of an Insta situation. He thinks a girl might be into him but then she seemingly hid her Insta stories from him. At 24:22 they take a letter from a listener whose boyfriend is a lifelong friend. After a year of dating, however, he's not putting in any effort. At 38:22, they take a very literary Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week. At 42:02 they are joined by Justin McLeod, the founder of Hinge who has brought with him some serious dating tips generated by Hinge's data scientists. They talk about the history of Hinge, a new feature called "Most-Compatible", and the best time to double text someone. You'll never guess how many NYT Wedding Announcements mentioned Hinge in the last year.