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In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into what it means to parent with intentionâand how that journey forces you to confront your own childhood, unhealed emotional wounds, and reactivity patterns. This oneâs for you whether youâre knee-deep in diapers or raising teenagers⌠or even if you donât have kids, but you're realizing you still need to reparent yourself.
Dr. Ryan opens up about the unexpected emotional chaos triggered by fatherhood, while Kendra shares a moving story of emotional regulation with their daughter Lily that reveals how generational patterns show up in real time. Together, they discuss:
Why parenting is one of the most powerful mirrors for healing your inner child
How reactivity differs from healthy responseâand what to do when your kid triggers your past
The power of family meetings and âparenting on purposeâ conversations
Tools for emotional regulation, including routines, breathwork, and core grounding practices
How to unify as a couple and parent from a place of alignment, not default
This episode is filled with real-life examples of what it looks like to grow yourself while raising someone else. Whether you're reparenting yourself, learning to co-parent better with your spouse, or simply trying to show up differently for your kids, this one hits deep.
âChildren arenât behavior problemsâtheyâre mirrors revealing where we need healing.â
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In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt open up about their journey with plant medicine and how it has profoundly impacted their individual healing and their marriage. They discuss the fears, breakthroughs, grief, and gratitude that emerged from their three journeys together, and how these experiences allowed them to see each other in a completely new light. From uncovering childhood wounds and unresolved trauma to rebuilding intimacy and connection, this episode explores what it really means to heal as a couple.
The Hewitt's also break down common misconceptions about plant medicine, explain how intention shapes the experience, and share what to look for in a safe and guided environment. If youâve ever been curious about how deep, intentional inner work can transform your relationship, this episode is raw, real, and full of revelation.
Key Takeaway:
Why healing individually strengthens the marriage bond.
The power of seeing your partner without the ego mask.
How plant medicine brings unconscious wounds to the surface.
Why intention and safe facilitation are crucial.
The importance of retelling your story from both perspectives.
âEvery journey peeled back another layerâgrief, gratitude, anger, and graceâand helped us choose each other again.â
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In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt get honest about the subtle red flags that slowly erode intimacy, trust, and connection in modern marriages.
Theyâre calling them what they areâsilent assassinsâand they unpack five of the most common signs your marriage may be in trouble⌠even if everything looks fine on the outside.
From roommate syndrome to emotional jabs masked as jokes, score keeping, avoiding real conversations, and even secretly fantasizing about escapeâthis episode pulls back the curtain on the small habits that create distance over time.
What youâll hear in this episode:
⢠Why sleeping in separate bedrooms (yes, even in your 30s) may be a massive intimacy red flag
⢠The difference between being âbest friendsâ and being loversâand why your marriage needs both
⢠How sarcasm and criticism slowly build resentment (even when they seem like âjust jokesâ)
⢠Why keeping scoreâespecially around money, sex, and choresâis toxic to lasting connection
⢠How avoiding hard conversations silently sabotages trust, and how to create safety to speak freely
⢠The difference between fantasizing about escape vs. adventureâand why one brings life and the other steals it
Dr. Ryan and Kendra share real-life examples from their own journeyâincluding honest confessions, mistakes, funny moments (like âpeg leg hikesâ and credit score screenshots), and what finally helped them rebuild deeper emotional and physical connection.
Key Takeaway:
Connection doesnât die in one moment. It slowly drips away through silence, sarcasm, and self-protection. But the good news? Every one of these silent assassins can be healedâwhen youâre willing to face them together.
If this episode hit home, share it with another couple, leave a review, and follow for more real talk and tools to strengthen your marriage.
âYouâre not roommatesâyouâre teammates. But when the mission becomes managing logistics, intimacy silently dies.â
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In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt peel back the curtain on a topic many couples are curious about, but few are talking about openlyâhormone health and how it impacts marriage. Whether youâre in your 30s, 40s, or beyond, this episode is a wake-up call to the unseen ways declining hormones can silently erode connection, sex drive, and overall vitality.
Dr. Ryan shares his personal journey into testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) after years of physical burnout and chronic underperformance despite high-intensity training and a âhealthyâ lifestyle. Kendra gets vulnerable about her resistance, the fears many women have around hormone therapy, and how her own journey with low testosterone and long-term birth control use left her feeling foggy, exhausted, and disconnected.
Together, they walk through:
⢠The hidden signs of hormone dysfunction in both men and women
⢠How stress, overtraining, and poor recovery can destroy hormone health
⢠Why traditional medicine often fails couples looking to optimizeânot just survive
⢠The emotional and sexual disconnects caused by hormone imbalance
⢠The unexpected intimacy, clarity, and confidence that came from hormone optimization
⢠The importance of growing together in healthânot apart
This episode offers a raw, real-world look at how optimizing hormones can strengthen emotional intimacy, improve physical health, and even save a struggling sex life. Itâs not about shortcuts or âbiohackingâ; itâs about committing to vitalityâfor yourself and your spouse.
Key Takeaways:
⢠Hormone imbalances often show up as fatigue, fogginess, low libido, or emotional disconnect
⢠TRT and hormone optimization isnât just for aestheticsâit improves brain, body, and relationship health
⢠Resistance to change often stems from outdated beliefs or fear; education leads to empowerment
⢠A shared commitment to health is one of the strongest investments couples can make
⢠You donât need to be broken to get betterâtesting and proactive care is key to long-term vitality
Ready to explore whatâs going on under the hood in your own body?
Start with awareness. Get your labs done. Learn the facts.
âI thought TRT would turn him into a raging lunatic⌠but it turned him into a more grounded, confident man.â - Kendra Hewitt
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In this episode of Weaponized Marriage, hosts Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt dive into one of the most challenging yet transformative aspects of relationshipsânavigating trauma and grief together. Kendra opens up about a deeply personal experience: the day she came home at 12 years old to find her father had passed away. Decades later, the emotional impact still lingers, surfacing in unexpected ways. But how do past losses shape the way couples communicate, connect, and even trigger one another?
Kendra and Dr. Ryan explore the tension between shutting down versus confronting emotions, the natural differences in how men and women process grief, and the silent wedges that can form when trauma remains unspoken. They discuss the power of becoming the resident expert on your spouseâunderstanding their traumas, triggers, and tendencies to build true emotional intimacy.
This conversation also challenges the way we frame our partners over time. The very qualities that first attracted us can later become points of frustration if left unchecked. By revisiting the original attraction and shifting our perspective, we can reframe our spouseâs behaviors and break cycles of resentment.
Key Takeaways:
⢠Trauma isnât always about death; loss of identity, purpose, or security can deeply impact a marriage.
⢠Unprocessed grief can either strengthen or breakintimacy, depending on how itâs handled.
⢠Understanding your partnerâs emotional wounds creates deeper empathy and patience.
⢠What once attracted you to your spouse might now frustrate youâreframing that perspective is key.
If youâre ready to transform the way you and your partner handle challenges, subscribe to Weaponized Marriage and leave a review. Letâs redefine connectionâtogether.
âUnspoken pain becomes a silent wedge in your marriage. Healing starts with honest conversations.â
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In this transformative episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt welcome two of their most influential mentorsâmarriage therapists Steven and Marianne Kalas. Known for their unconventional and deeply effective approach, the Kalas` duo shares profound insights on marriage as an institution, personal growth within relationships, and how couples can truly thrive.
Listeners will learn:
⢠Why marriage is a âpeople-growing machineâ and how embracing this truth can transform relationships.
⢠The importance of becoming the resident expert on your spouseâs patterns, traumas, and triggers.
⢠How modern couples misunderstand marriage and the pitfalls that lead to stagnation.
⢠The power of the Enneagram in marriage, how personality types shape dynamics, and why understanding your spouseâs type can deepen connection.
⢠The #1 mistake that leads to disconnection and how to overcome it.
Steven and Marianne introduce their upcoming Only for the Brave marriage workshop, a powerful, immersive experience designed to help couples rekindle passion, strengthen intimacy, and build an unshakable foundation.
If youâre ready to invest in your marriage and take it to the next level, donât waitâsign up for their workshop today. Find all the details and register HERE.
âThe biggest mistake modern couples make is assuming that love should happen naturallyâindifference is what happens naturally.â â Steven Kalas
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In this episode of Weaponized Marriage, hosts Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt tackle a question that many couples faceâwhat happens when one person in the relationship starts growing, but the other doesnât? Is it possible to maintain connection when priorities shift, fitness journeys begin, or one spouse pursues personal development while the other stays the same?
With candid conversation and real-life examples, Kendra and Dr. Ryan dive into the reality of how relationships evolve. They share personal insights, including how Dr. Ryanâs bodybuilding competition initially created tension but ultimately became an opportunity for deeper connection. They also explore how personal transformationâwhether in health, faith, business, or mindsetâcan either bring a couple closer or drive them apart.
Key Takeaways:
⢠Growth in marriage is inevitable; you either grow together or grow apart.
⢠Resisting a partnerâs evolution can create tension, but reframing it as inspiration fosters unity.
⢠Competitiveness in relationships can be playful, but when unchecked, it can lead to division.
⢠Shared values are the foundation of a strong marriage, even if visions evolve over time.
⢠You canât force your spouse to change, but you can invite them to rise with you.
If youâve ever struggled with feeling like youâre growing in a different direction than your spouse, this episode will give you the clarity and practical steps to strengthen your relationship.
Listen now and take the first step toward growing together!
âWhen one person starts leveling up, the other has two choices: resist it or use it as motivation to step up.â
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In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive deep into a concept that is often misunderstood but crucial for building intimacy and trustâholding space. Most couples think they know what it means to listen, but are they truly creating a safe, judgment-free environment where their partner can be fully seen and heard?
Dr. Ryan and Kendra explore how men and women process emotions differentlyâwhy men tend to problem-solve while women seek to be understood. They break down why reacting defensively can kill emotional intimacy and how learning to hold space can dramatically improve communication, connection, and even physical intimacy in a marriage.
Through raw, honest conversation and real-life examples, they discuss:
⢠What it actually means to hold space for your spouse (and what it doesnât mean)
⢠The #1 mistake most men make when their wife shares something vulnerable
⢠How emotional constipation is sabotaging relationships and how to unblock it
⢠The surprising connection between fighting fair and holding space
⢠Practical ways to listen without fixing, judging, or getting defensive
If youâve ever struggled with communication, felt like your partner âjust doesnât get it,â or want to create deeper emotional intimacy in your marriage, this episode is for you.
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âMen want to fix; women want to be understood. The secret is learning when to do which.â
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In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into one of the most uncomfortable yet transformative truths about relationshipsâhonest, raw communication is the key to true intimacy. Too often, couples bury past traumas, suppress difficult emotions, and avoid the deep conversations that could actually set them free. But what happens when you finally face the dark side of your marriage head-on?
Dr. Ryan and Kendra share their personal journeys of emotional suppression, trauma, and the breakthroughs that changed their marriage. Dr. Ryan reflects on his experience at Landmark Forum and Wake Up Warrior, where he first confronted his fear of vulnerability. Meanwhile, Kendra opens up about a deeply personal trauma she kept hidden for years and how it unknowingly created barriers in their relationship. Together, they discuss how unspoken pain shapes behaviors, impacts intimacy, and limits true connection.
Key Takeaways:
⢠Burying trauma doesnât make it disappearâit silently controls your marriage.
⢠True healing begins with acknowledging, sharing, and reframing past pain.
⢠Emotional constipation is real, and most men model it from generations before them.
⢠The truth is only powerful if you take ownership and intentionally create new meaning.
⢠Couples who dare to be honest about their struggles can transform their marriage into something stronger than before.
Itâs time to stop pretending everything is âfineâ and start building a marriage that thrives on truth. If this episode resonates with you, donât just keep it to yourselfâsubscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Your breakthrough starts here.
âYou canât build a strong marriage on buried traumaâat some point, you have to dig it up and deal with it.â
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In this eye-opening episode ofThe Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into the raw and unfiltered truth about emotional vulnerability in marriage. Inspired by a recent conversation with their therapist, they explore what it truly means to âget nakedâ in a relationshipâboth physically and emotionally.
Many couples unknowingly build walls between each other, hiding behind unspoken fears, past wounds, and silent resentments. Dr. Ryan and Kendra share how emotional nakednessâthe ability to be seen, heard, and fully knownâis the key to deep connection and long-lasting intimacy. They unpack the damaging effects of keeping secrets, even small ones, and how unspoken frustrations can quietly erode trust and passion over time.
Through candid personal stories, they highlight:
⢠Why secrets make you sickâand how small unspoken truths can lead to massive disconnection.
⢠The real reason physical intimacy fadesâitâs not attraction, but a lack of emotional safety.
⢠How false stories shape your marriageâand how to rewrite them for deeper connection.
⢠The courage to tell the truthâstarting with yourself before bringing it to your spouse.
⢠Practical ways to build trust and intimacyâincluding small but powerful daily actions.
This episode is a must-listen for couples looking to reconnect, deepen their emotional bond, and reignite the spark in their marriage. Take the challengeâget emotionally naked and start rebuilding trust today.
Listen now, and if this episode resonated with you, share it with your spouse and start the conversation that could change everything.
âGetting naked in marriage isnât just physicalâitâs about stripping away fear, ego, and emotional walls.â
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On this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt break down why investing in marriage is non-negotiable if you want lasting connection, intimacy, and trust. They share their raw, real journey from nearly divorcing in 2016 to rebuilding their relationship stronger than ever.
Drawing from their experiences as married business owners, they reveal how ignoring key aspects of marriageâcommunication, leadership, and intentional connectionâcan lead to resentment and disconnection. Dr. Ryan opens up about his struggles with leadership and how his avoidance of finances, planning, and emotional investment eroded trust. Kendra shares how taking control became her survival mechanism, but also built deep resentment. Together, they unpack how their marriage transformed once they committed to structured investment, intentional time together, and honest communication.
Key Takeaways:
⢠Your marriage needs a strategy. Just like fitness or business, a thriving relationship requires vision and execution.
⢠Leadership matters. A manâs role isnât just financial; itâs about creating safety, presence, and vision in the relationship.
⢠Emotional deposits count. Small, intentional actionsâlike planning date nights or acts of serviceâmake a massive difference.
⢠Therapy is a game changer. Investing in a therapist provided tools, perspective, and accountability that helped rebuild their relationship.
⢠Your patterns shape your marriage. Unconscious habits, past family dynamics, and unaddressed trauma can silently sabotage intimacy.
This episode is a must-listen for couples looking to break toxic cycles, improve communication, and take intentional steps toward a deeply connected marriage.
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âIf you wouldnât wing your business or fitness goals, why are you winging your marriage?â
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In this raw and unfiltered episode of Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt take listeners back to where it all beganâtheir lowest moments as a couple. Before they became the powerhouse duo they are today, they were two business owners struggling to survive in their marriage, drowning in miscommunication, misaligned expectations, and unresolved wounds from the past.
From their whirlwind first year of marriage - buying a house, starting a business, and diving headfirst into entrepreneurship - Dr. Ryan and Kendra share how the lack of vision, leadership, and emotional connection almost led them to divorce. Dr. Ryan opens up about his struggles with stepping into the role of a true leader, the dangerous cycle of avoidance, and how fitness became his escape instead of his strength. Kendra reveals how she carried the weight of their business alone, took on the masculine role in the marriage, and found herself emotionally disconnected from the man she had vowed to build a life with.
Their breaking point wasnât just about the business; it was about the erosion of trust, intimacy, and identity. But this episode isnât just about the fall - itâs about the rebuild. They share how they clawed their way back, redefined their marriage, and ultimately weaponized their relationship into something stronger than ever before.
Key Takeaways from This Episode:
⢠Why lacking vision in marriage is a silent killer
⢠How business and success can mask deeper relationship issues
⢠The dangers of avoiding hard conversations and how it creates emotional disconnection
⢠Why leadership in marriage isnât about control - itâs about showing up with purpose
⢠The moment that forced them to choose: let the marriage die or rebuild it from the ground up
If youâre a couple in business together or simply feeling the strain of ambition, stress, and disconnection in your marriage, this episode will hit home.
đĽ Subscribe now and join the movement. Share this episode with another couple who needs to hear it, leave a review, and follow the Weaponized Marriage Podcast for more hard-hitting conversations on marriage, sex, money, and family. Your relationship isnât meant to just survive - itâs meant to dominate.
âAvoidance and disconnection donât just happen overnight; theyâre built in the silence between unspoken words.â
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In this episode of Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt cut through the noise of traditional marriage advice and bring an unfiltered, high-impact approach for power couples ready to dominate every aspect of their lives together. This isnât about playing small or settling for mediocrity; itâs about building a resilient, unstoppable partnership that thrives in the face of chaos.
