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Welcome back for another week! I'm so glad you're here!
You have found this podcast while I am in the depths of norovirus and coming to you live from my bed. Everything hurts, chills, shakes, fever, headache. It's a whole thing. Which is WHY you will hear a weird automated intro from me this week. It's my words, but I truly did not have the strength to get out of bed and get my microphone to record the introduction. So, THIS was my solution. I got a bit silly with it sorry, I'm blaming sickness delirium.
The episode this week is with Ben Boyce, which, what the actual heck?! Ben is someone I have grown up watching on TV and now listen to on the Hits breakfast show, and the fact that he was willing to take the time out to talk to me about parenting is just testament to what a cool guy he is. Ben and his wife Amanda have two teenage daughters, Sienna and Indie, but you're probably already familiar because Ben, Sienna and Indie are going all sorts of viral across the internet with their comedy content! Ben and Sienna also have a podcast called "When I Grow Up" which you can listen to here!
While you're here, why not do all the things?! Follow, like, subscribe, rate, review, share. Or maybe do just ONE of the things? The stats show me that lots of people who listen to the pod aren't actually subscribed, which, wild! So go ahead and save yourself having to search for the pod, and just click subscribe.
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It's episode 2 of our bonus EXPERT episodes! If you don't know what these are, listeners from the WDYPLT community have the opportunity to submit questions to parenting-adjacent experts for them to be answered. This week Shrenika has 5 questions that she answers from listeners in the WDYPLT community, and she answers them beautifully!
If you want to find Shrenika this is her website and this is her instagram! If you're thinking about getting some first aid knowledge, Shrenika is your gal! As I say in the episode, I have done a session with her and found it so totally helpful.
Our next expert episode is with Caylin from Pepi and Parent about all things baby/toddler/child sleep! If you have a question you'd like to ask her the submission form is here
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This week I had the joy of sitting down and speaking with Hannah Porter AKA the owner of Bear and Moo NZ! Bear and Moo obviously have a special place in my heart after they became the first ever sponsor of WDYPLT. It was absolutely lovely hearing about Hannah's journey to becoming a parent and her experience of parenthood, as well as running a business and how those two things intertwine.
Hannah is kind, switched on, funny, and you can tell that she is just such a loving and proud mum.
Hannah's other baby Bear and Moo are opening their first ever brick and mortar store in Kirikiriroa on June 25th from 4-6pm. I'll be there celebrating! Come and say hey! The store is at 1 Glennis Place, Frankton.
If you enjoyed this episode, give it a 5 star rating! Or share it! Or review the pod! And make sure you're following us! Annnndddd.. Look in the mirror and tell yourself "YOU ARE A SEXY, SEXY BITCH".
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Holy friggin' moly can you believe that Aotearoa radio kuīni Sharyn Casey chatted with me for an hour about her parenting ~*jOuRnEy*~?! I certainly can't!
Sharyn sat down with me and shared so much about her experiences raising her two boys Tyson and Reuben with her husband (also radio royalty) Bryce Casey.
We talk fertility struggles, the 11 week early baby and NICU experience, raising boys to be loving and inclusive, instilling good values, not swearing til you're 18, dealing with parenting in the public eye, wiping poo off scrotums and so much more.
Sharyn is a joy to talk to, and had me cackling throughout the episode (my cackling was actually really hard to edit out, so apologies for how much of it you hear) but also had me really resonating with so much of her story.
I'm so thrilled we, as fans of Sharyn, got to hear this other side of her life that we don't hear about too often, and I'm so grateful for her vulnerability in sharing this aspect of her life that she has kept pretty private.
If you enjoyed this ep, why not share it? Go on, you know you want to. Send it to a boy mum, they'll bloody love it. Also, while you're at it, rate, review, and subscribe to the pod on whatever platform you're listening on.
For the voyeurs among you, the full visual ep is over on our YouTube
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I know I bang on about it a lot, but I will just never get over how lucky I am that people as cool and interesting as Rāniera want to talk to me. Rāniera Procter (Ngāi Tāmanuhiri, Ngāti Porou) joined me for an incredibly insightful conversation about his whānau and the values they live. In particular his mission to raise his children with te reo Māori as their first language, a taonga he was also raised with.
Rāniera is a father who walks the walk, but he's very honest that it took him a while to get there. Becoming a dad at 22 was not in the plan, and Rāniera spoke to me about how that woke him up to becoming an adult, as well as ignited his passion for the revitalisation of Māori language and culture.
Rāniera has three children with his ex-wife and he and his wife Kawai are expecting their first pēpi together literally any day now. This is their second pregnancy, after they lost their first baby, Hinepūororangi, who was born still at 33 weeks last year. If stillbirth is a difficult topic for you, please look after yourself.
Rāniera is humble, funny, kind, passionate, gentle, reflective, and just a really great guy to chat to. I am so glad that people like him exist, and families like his exist. Particularly in regards to the incredible de-colonisation/reindigenisation work they are doing for their community.
These stories are worth sharing, so please share this episode with someone you know. Also, give us five stars while you're up there, go on, the button is just there!
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Your political ranting, mother-advocate, chaos aunties are back for another week! Here for your listening pleasure is the second half of my conversation with Charlotte Kells Robertson (aka @phdmamanz). In this episode, Charlotte answers the third, fourth, and fifth questions and as you can probably tell from the title, we manage to cover quite a lot of ground! (Us? Chatting? It can't be!) Charlotte, thank you for your knowledge and honesty and humour and alllll the taonga you gave me during this conversation.
I know by this point you are all absolutely in love with Charlotte and her whole vibe, so be sure to follow her here so you can keep up with all her goings on (including her refreshingly real insight to being a mum whilst doing a PhD!)
A huge, huge ngā mihi to Viva La Vulva for sponsoring this episode! It is such an honour to be a small part of the VLV whānau, and I am so proud to be associated with a brand doing such wonderful things for the vulvas of Aotearoa (and beyond!) the product I shouted out this week are the Soothing Postpartum Ice Packs and based on the fact that I still use them at least once a week with my gung-ho toddler, I think they're high on my recommendations list! Don't forget to use code VIVAMAMA for 20% off any orders over $50! Say it with me, everyone! "We love you, Viva La Vulva!!!!"
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Josie aka @playbasedpepiA link to all my socials and my NEWSLETTER!:
Instagram TikTok Substack/Newsletter YouTubeDon't forget to rate, review, subscribe, comment, laugh, cry, feel the rain on your skin, and share with a friend!
Also, if you've read this far, here is a secret. I was drinking white wine out of my Artemis Ceramics boob mug during this episode, and by the end of the two hours I was eeeeever so slightly tipsy. You may notice that I get a bit louder and a bit gigglier by the end of the episode, THAT WOULD BE WHY. Ok now you know my secret. I trust you. Keep it safe.
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The best thing about this podcast is that I get to approach people I admire and get them to have a conversation with me, and that is exactly what happened in this situation. I have followed Charlotte Kells Robertson (aka @phdmamanz) for a good, long while now. Her knowledge and insight on motherhood has always left me looking like the mind-blown emoji, and this time she got to see that reaction in person! I could have spoken to Charlotte all night, but I had to cut it off at 2 hours (which is still one hour longer than we were meant to talk - oops!) But, don't worry, Charlotte and I have become fast friends and I can absolutely see some more PHDMAMANZxWDYPLT content in our future.
As I say in this introduction, you're all in luck because we get Charlotte next week too! So this week is the first two answers, and next week is the last three.
Big shout out to Viva La Vulva for sponsoring this week's episode! I can highly recommend the perineal power pack, I purchased it before birth with both of my kids and found the products sooooo good. If you use code VIVAMAMA at checkout you will get 20% off any order over $50. THANK YOU, VLV!
As mentioned in the introduction, WDYPLT is now on the iHeart Radio Podcast Network! Bloody exciting stuff, to put it lightly! I am so thrilled to be partnering with the iHeart team to help this poddy grow, and the community of listeners to grow! I've written a post on my substack about it, which you can read here if you would like to know more, but the TLDR is: nothing is changing from a listener perspective, other than you will hear some ads throughout the episodes. The change is mainly coming on my end of things, with having a big support system helping me learn, and grow, and get better at the podcasting thaaang. This is a really exciting step forward for the pod, and I see great things coming down the pipeline.
As usual, pls do all the things, like, share, subscribe, rate, review, and follow me on social media! instagram, tiktok, and substack!
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You guys.. I'm honestly lost for words. Jo Robertson is on the pod, and I'm cheesing so hard about it. If you can't tell by the grin plastered on my face throughout the whole episode, Jo is a bit of a personal inspiration for me professionally. She has done some seriously, seriously impressive work in the child advocacy and parenting education space, but she makes it so easy to digest! Her communication skills are next level, and you'll see those skills on display in this ep.
Jo was so generous with her story, and even though she is the literal expert on parenting, she was so honest about how she isn't perfect. I think that it is so important for us to see that not even parenting experts get it right all the time, because there is actually no way you can.
Also, Jo is such an interesting person that during her introduction I forgot to mention that she has done a TED talk AND was an expert on MAFS NZ?!! Can you imagine being decorated enough that those things can be left out in an introduction and you STILL have a full intro? Wild. Simply wild.
A small content warning that during the first question segment, Jo talks about a tricky birth and a tricky recovery. If those topics are hard for you to hear right now, please look after yourself and skip forward.
Thank you so much to Bennie & the Jets for sponsoring this episode!! The coooooolest kids clothes on the block (and that's before even taking into consideration that everything in their store is ethically and sustainably made!). There's a 10% discount code for listeners, WDYPLT10 at check out! (Non-sale items only). ALSO ENTER MY GIVEAWAY WITH BENNIE & THE JETS! Over on my instagram account. You will seriously be kicking yourself if you don't at least TRY to win this prize. https://www.bennieandthejets.co.nz/
Like, share, subscribe, rate, review, follow, right hand in, right hand out, do the hokey pokey etc. etc. all the things PLEASE I BEG YOU!
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Welcome to the very first episode of Why Do You EXPERT Like That? A bonus episode that you'll see every 6-ish weeks. I'm gonna be asking experts in parenting-adjacent spaces questions that have been submitted by listeners (you guys!) and get their big, big, beautiful brains to get some answers!
This week we had five listener submitted questions and Jo answered with love, empathy, kindness, and was so helpful! (imo).
If you haven't listened to her main episode (also in your feed now!) go back and listen, because some of her story contextualises her answers even more! And also because it's a damn good listen.
AND WHILE YOU'RE AT IT RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, SHARE. HOW MANY TIMES DO I NEED TO SAY IT.
Follow my socials or subscribe to my substack to have the opportunity to ask our next expert your questions!
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If you've ever wanted to see me try and act cool and normal around someone I have a crush on, this is your opportunity! The absolute charisma-bomb that is Steph Monks joins me on the pod this week, and she's exceeded all expectations of funny, relatable, and insightful.
You'll know Steph from her illustrious career in NZ radio, but she is currently keeping us entertained on our drives home with the Edge Arvos show! Steph and her lovely partner Jake have a one year old named Rocco, and hearing Steph speak about her journey of parenting so far was an absolute delight.
The thing that struck me the most about speaking with Steph is about how much she credits the Mums in her village for getting her through the tricky early days, and how much she strives to be a champion for the Mums in her life now! She is like the ultimate hype woman for any person looking after a small human and it is bloody delightful.
In honour of Steph's philosophy of Mum-hype, if you've made it this far, send a message to a Mum in your life telling them how much of a f*cking legend they are.
Once again, the biggest thank you to Bear & Moo for their sponsorship this episode. They even spoiled Steph and sent her some goodies! They have just moved warehouses AND announced their store opening, so huge things happening over there. I'm particularly grateful for the honeysticks watercolours set this week, because Freddy made his Nonna and Grandmum a very cute painting for Mothers' Day. If you would like 10% off any non-sale item on their website use WDYPLT10 at check out. (Every time you do, I get a notification and get real excited about it!!)
I think the only resource we mention in this pod is a book that I can't remember the name of, that book is:
- Smart Mothering by Natalie Flynn
Please remember to subscribe, rate, review the pod! And share it with a buddy!! Also follow our socials to keep up to date with guest reveals, behind the scenes, and to have input on what direction the pod is going in.
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Don't ever say I don't treat you right, my babies!!! It's a whole new segment coming to your feeds!
Why Do You Expert Like That is going to be a bonus episode that features alongside the main episode every 6 weeks or so. I'll be asking a parenting-adjacent expert 3-5 listener submitted questions and give them space to answer in a long-form way. IT'S SO COOL, Y'ALL!
Our first expert is Jo Robertson (@jorobertson.therapy), a NZAC registered counsellor who takes private clients but also does heaps of awesome courses and workshops and seminars about sex/love/relationships/parenting/having tricky conversations with your kids etc. she basically takes every conversation that you naturally want to shy away from and makes it accessible! But she also just has awesome, awesome advice for those hard-to-work-through conflicts/dilemmas/sticking points that come up in parenting.
So, obviously, I need some questions to ask her! Here is the google form https://forms.gle/2ykbdvdCtxXE95jk7 please use it! Go and ask questions! I'd love to have a bunch to choose from.
As with any new thing, it's a bit of extra work, and if it's not something that people are into then I won't keep doing it. So if you're into it, let me know!
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Shut the front door, we've got a Dad!!! As I say in the introduction, something I've wanted from the beginning of this podcast is for this to be a space for parents of all genders. There are a lot of resources out there for mums and femme-identifying parents, and I think dads and masc-presenting parents can get a bit lost in the chaos. So I am so grateful that the wonderful Nic Haldezos (@nic_haldezos @nuggetcreative) agreed to be our first pod dad!
Not only that, but he came on and literally told me "no questions are off-limits, I'm an open book" which is so generous and so kind.
Nic is a guy who lives his life as a dad first and everything else second, and he and his fiancee (@cassidyskelton) do everything they can to live their lives intentionally to be the best parents they can be.
I actually adored listening to Nic's perspective, and about how he and Cass stay a solid team in amongst the chaos of two under two. The way he talks about Cass will make you melt!
The biggest, biggest ngā mihi to Bear & Moo for sponsoring this episode of the podcast. They even let me give away a $100 voucher to one of my listeners this week! I am bloody lucky! If you wanna support the pod, go and support them. Use our discount code WDYPLT10 at check out for a 10% discount on any non-sale items. Thank you, Bear & Moo! And good luck with your big move this week!
Also this is the first time I have uploaded the visuals of the recording, and it's a bit more effort, so if that's something you appreciate/enjoy, please let me know!! (As well as the usual rate, review, subscribe!)
Resources mentioned in this pod:
- We talk a lot about Nic's beautiful fiancee Cass @cassidyskelton
- I mention Sophie Moskowitz from Imperfect Parents quite a bit! @imperfectparents.nz (go and listen to her episode of this pod #3! And keep your eyes peeled, cos she may be back on your feeds very soon!)
Follow our social media for giveaways, guest reveals, highlights from episodes, and a new opportunity to submit questions to experts!! @whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast on tiktok and instagram.
If you have a story that you think would be awesome to share on the pod, please send me an email with a brief overview of your story to [email protected]
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Renata (@renataroaming) is just so, so cool. She's the founder of the Roam with Kids app and is on your social media feeds sharing all kinds of baby/kid friendly events and spaces.
Renata chatted with me this week about so many great topics, but I was particularly impressed with how politically clued in she is. Renata is passionate about changing the landscape so that birthing parents have just as much opportunity to crack the business world as non-birthing parents do.
I found our conversation so inspirational, and it gave me the affirmation I needed that I am allowed to take up space through the creation of this podcast.
Go and download the Roam with Kids app, and follow Renata everywhere! Show her some love and support a mum doing rad, rad things!
Please note a bit of a trigger warning during the "what the f was that" question portion, we talk about our births which weren't super straight forward (shoulder dystocia and postpartum haemorrhage) so if those feel like tricky topics for you, feel free to skip over that section or catch us back in the next episode!
As usual, the BIGGEST THANK YOU to Bear & Moo for sponsoring this episode. Another example of NZ mums in business supporting other mums in business is B&M sponsoring this ep! You guys are my favourites and I love you and my life is better because you're in it! Use code WDYPLT10 at check out for a 10% discount on non-sale items https://www.bearandmoo.co.nz
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- Roam with Kids App
- Sophie from Imperfect Parents' content and Imperfect Parents groups (you could also check out her episode with me on this pod!)
- Capsule NZ Motherhood Penalty series
- Chappell Roan episode of the Call Her Daddy podcast
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Buckle in, cos this is a goodie! Sophie Moskowitz joins Abbey for a brilliant conversation about her parenting journey and the isolation of parenting during COVID being the experience that sparked the idea of her business Imperfect Parents NZ.
Sophie has been a nanny, an ECE teacher, a parent, and is now an antenatal facilitator and parenting group facilitator, so parenting is her thing. Her wealth of knowledge and wisdom will leave you yelling "YES, AMEN" (like Abbey does a few times throughout the pod).
I could talk with Sophie for hours, and have plans to get her back on the pod to answer some listener questions, but, for now, enjoy this episode!
If you're interested to find out more about Sophie and Imperfect Parents NZ, follow @imperfectparents.nz on social media or check out their website https://www.imperfectparents.co.nz/
The biggest thank you to Bear & Moo for sponsoring this episode! They're having a monster moving sale right now, so if you are needing to grab some baby/kid essentials, now is the time to get some massive savings! Use WDYPLT10 at checkout for a 10% discount on non-sale items.
Resources mentioned in this podcast are:
- The Good Sex Podcast
- The Upbringing Podcast
- Cassidy Skelton's TikTok video about baby sleep
- Emily Writes (@emilywritesnz)
- Brene Brown's book The Gift of Imperfection
If you have a story that you think would be awesome to share on this pod, flick me an email at [email protected] with an overview of your parenting journey.
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This week the Aotearoa baby naming queen taking TikTok by storm Sonya Prior (@thebbnamer) is here! I forced Sonya to be my friend after finding her content because I knew we were birds of a feather, and I was totally right.
Sonya generously shared so much of her parenting story with me this week, including surprise pregnancies, her non-perfect births, not letting your childhood affect the childhood you create for your kids, finding the fun in everything, and how to not panic about the world maybe being on fire?
I understand why she is the darling of the baby naming world because she is someone I could talk to for hours and not get bored.
Please go and send her some love for her vulnerability, honesty, generosity, and crack up-ness in this episode. You'll find her @thebbnamer across socials.
A huge thank you to Bear and Moo for sponsoring this episode! I'd be totally lost without you guys. Use code WDYPLT10 at checkout for a 10% discount code.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Brene Brown's Family Gap Plan
PhD Mama NZ (@phdmamanz) Charlotte Bruce Kells' instagram post about Chappell Roan
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Testing, testing.. is this thing on...?!
Wow, here we are! A brand new parenting pod! A huge thank you to my gal pal Jessie Peters for bringing her insight and experience to the inaugural episode of WDYPLT. We got to chat about so many different aspects of parenting, including myth busting a bunch of lies we get told as new parents!
Resources mentioned in this pod:
- Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy
- The Invisible String by Patrice Karst
Thank you to our episode sponsor Bennie & the Jets! Use code WDYPLT10 at checkout to get a 10% discount on any non-sale items. https://www.bennieandthejets.co.nz/
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