Episódios

  • On this episode of By the Book, Jolenta and Kristen dive into The Memory Book, with the hopes of becoming memory geniuses in two weeks flat. Written by Harry Lorayne and Jerry Lucas, the bestselling classic promises to help readers do everything from memorize lists to speak foreign languages. But does it actually work?

    Keep in touch with us! Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

  • Jolenta and Kristen have recovered from living by French Women Don't Get Fat. Join the ladies as they read listener mail and talk about leeks some more. And of course, next week's book is announced!

    If you or anyone you know is fighting food or body-image issues, there’s help. Please call the National Eating Disorders Association Helpline at 1-800-931-2237.

    Keep in touch with us! Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

  • Estão a faltar episódios?

    Clique aqui para atualizar o feed.

  • On this episode of By The Book, Jolenta and Kristen put on their berets and live by Mireille Guiliano's French Women Don't Get Fat. The ladies experiment with leek soup, the benefits of champagne, and lots and lots of yogurt. Do French women really not get fat? We're about to find out.

    Keep in touch with us! Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

  • Jolenta and Kristen have a Kon Mari postmortem. Join the ladies as they discuss life after The Life Changing Magic of Tidying up. Did either of them regret throwing anything away? And what did By The Book listeners have to say about the book? Also: the announcement of next week's book!

    Keep in touch with us! Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community!

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

  • On this episode of By The book, Jolenta and Kristen live by Marie Kondo's popular minimalist guide, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. The book tells them to throw out belongings, fold socks into pinwheels, and say thank you garbage! Can they do it? Will it change their lives? Did Kristen throw out her passport?

    Keep in touch with us! Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

  • Jolenta and Kristen have a Secret postmortem. Join the ladies as they hear from listeners, give post-Secret updates, discuss Kristen's husband's popularity, and get ready for their next self-help book.

    Keep in touch with us! Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

  • On this episode of By the Book, hosts Jolenta and Kristen dive into their first self-help book - the mega-bestseller The Secret. They follow it to the letter for two weeks. Listen as Kristen tries to manifest thoughts into things and Jolenta explores whether the Law of Attraction is as real as the Law of Gravity. Along the way, you can eavesdrop on the stranger moments of their social experiment, and learn whether either Jolenta or Kristen buy into the philosophy of The Secret at the end of their experience.

    Keep in touch with us! Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

  • On this episode of How to Be Fine - Kristen and Jolenta share listeners’ reactions to the New Year, Same Old BS mini series. Plus, they make a special announcement!

    Keep in touch with us! Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

  • On the final episode of How to Be Fine’s special series - New Year, Same Old BS - Kristen and Jolenta talk about the history of tobacco and weight loss marketing. Plus, they offer up advice on how to communicate more clearly as a new manager, and when to consider a therapist's techniques as red flags.

    Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

    Sources:

    https://www.nature.com/articles/s41562-021-01202-9.epdf

    https://www.britannica.com/topic/smoking-tobacco/A-social-and-cultural-history-of-smoking

    https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/1920s-food-flapper-diet

    https://books.google.com/books?id=Aiwdx4k4uNoC&pg=PA21&hl=en&sa=X#v=onepage&q&f=false

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cigarette_smoking_for_weight_loss

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2602591/

    https://time.com/3747439/smoking-cigarettes-weight-loss/

    https://nypost.com/2022/11/02/heroin-chic-is-back-and-curvy-bodies-big-butts-are-out/

    https://www.esquire.com/uk/style/fashion/a43258212/cigarettes-90s-london-kate-moss/

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_tobacco

    https://www.science.org/content/article/why-smokers-are-skinny-rev2

    https://www.mountsinai.org/health-library/selfcare-instructions/weight-gain-after-quitting-smoking-what-to-do

    https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2023/07/12/dua-lipa-lily-rose-depp-jenna-ortega-celebrities-smoking-cigarettes/70346466007/

    https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/data_statistics/fact_sheets/health_effects/effects_cig_smoking/

    https://www.cdc.gov/tobacco/basic_information/health_effects/index.htm

  • On this episode of How to Be Fine’s special series - New Year, Same Old BS - Kristen and Jolenta talk about a handful of the many Christian Diet plans. Plus, they offer up advice for dealing with jealous feelings, and finding the right therapist.

    Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

    Sources:

    https://www.smithsonianmag.com/innovation/the-seesawing-history-of-fad-diets-180981586/

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christian_diet_programs

    https://academic.oup.com/columbia-scholarship-online/book/22528/chapter-abstract/182850030?redirectedFrom=fulltext

    https://www.mdpi.com/2077-1444/13/2/182#:~:text=Christian%20diet%20culture%20focuses%20on,importance%20of%20a%20healthy%20lifestyle.

    https://scholarspace.library.gwu.edu/downloads/4q77fr355?locale=zh

    https://thebiblicalnutritionist.com/christian-weight-loss-programs/

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sylvester_Graham

    https://www.livestrong.com/article/120805-christian-weight-loss-programs/

    https://erinltodd.com/making-another-christian-weight-loss-resolution-read-this-first/

    https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2021/sep/29/gwen-shamblin-docuseries-the-way-down-remnant-fellowship

    https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-07-12/how-christianity-has-been-weaponised-by-weight-loss-movements/102509732

    https://abcnews.go.com/Health/daniel-diet-straight-bible/story?id=21029387

  • On this episode of How to Be Fine’s special series - New Year, Same Old BS - Kristen and Jolenta uncover the surprising history of the Tapeworm diet. Plus, they offer up advice on how to accept a post-birth body, and how to get over unrequited love.


    Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

    Sources:

    https://www.healthline.com/health/diet-and-weight-loss/tapeworm-diet

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cestoda

    https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/agricultural-and-biological-sciences/tapeworms

    https://www.mdpi.com/2673-6772/2/3/15

    https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-20695743

    https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/how-tuberculosis-shaped-victorian-fashion-180959029/

    https://thequackdoctor.com/index.php/eat-eat-eat-those-notorious-tapeworm-diet-pills/

    https://thequackdoctor.substack.com/about

    https://www.latimes.com/archives/blogs/booster-shots/story/2009-12-29/tyra-banks-and-the-tapeworm-diet

    https://www.today.com/health/iowa-woman-tries-tapeworm-diet-prompts-doctor-warning-6c10935746

    https://metro.co.uk/2015/03/24/eeew-one-of-the-kardashians-said-she-wants-a-tapeworm-to-get-slim-5118092/

    https://www.vice.com/en/article/xw5nnq/inside-the-lasting-legacy-of-tapeworm-diets

    https://www.huffpost.com/entry/woman-swallows-tapeworm-iowa_n_3780313

    https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/the-horrifying-legacy-of-the-victorian-tapeworm-diet

    https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/science-news/10607615/Journalist-infested-himself-with-tapeworm-for-BBC-documentary.html

    https://www.bbc.com/news/science-environment-25968755

    https://www.mountsinai.org/health-library/diseases-conditions/tapeworm-infection-beef-or-pork

  • On the first episode of How to Be Fine’s special series - New Year, Same Old BS - Kristen and Jolenta dig into the Cabbage Soup Diet. Plus, they offer up advice on how to wake up with more energy, and how to keep in-laws out of reproductive matters.


    Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

    Sources:

    https://www.encyclopedia.com/science/encyclopedias-almanacs-transcripts-and-maps/cabbage-soup-diet

    https://www.insider.com/guides/health/diet-nutrition/cabbage-soup-diet

    https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/lifestyle/food/1996/02/21/the-cabbage-soup-diet/25081d4f-ebd4-4c48-ba7e-a6d7af4edb54/

    https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/lifestyle/food/1996/03/06/a-closer-look-into-the-cabbage-soup-diet/52684c10-9c2d-445e-ac95-d198fd546e01/

    https://www.smithsonianmag.com/innovation/the-seesawing-history-of-fad-diets-180981586/

    https://health.usnews.com/wellness/food/articles/cabbage-soup-diet

    https://www.science.gov/topicpages/c/cabbage+soup+diet

    https://news.ufl.edu/archive/2002/03/cabbage-soup-diet-no-lucky-charm-for-weight-loss-says-uf-expert-1.html

    https://www.webmd.com/diet/a-z/cabbage-soup-diet

    https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/the-cabbage-soup-diet

    https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/cabbage-soup-diet

    https://www.verywellfit.com/what-is-the-cabbage-soup-diet-3496214

    https://www.emedicinehealth.com/cabbage_soup_diet_help_you_lose_weight/article_em.htm

    https://www.everydayhealth.com/diet-nutrition/cabbage-soup-diet.aspx

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cabbage_soup_diet#:~:text=The%20origins%20of%20the%20diet,and%20%22Russian%20Peasant%20Diet%22.

  • On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta have a conversation with special guest: screenwriter Juliet Giglio. Plus, they share listener feedback on Made-For-TV Holiday Movies and New Year’s Resolutions.

    Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

  • On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta discuss whether or not New Year’s resolutions are actually effective. Plus, they offer up advice on dealing with medical vulnerability, and how to find an IRL literary community.

    Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

    Sources:

    https://slate.com/human-interest/2014/01/new-years-resolutions-are-lame-the-peacock-vow-is-awesome.html

    https://www.teenvogue.com/story/new-years-resolutions-history

    https://www.economist.com/the-economist-explains/2018/01/05/the-origin-of-new-years-resolutions

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Year%27s_resolution

    https://www.history.com/news/the-history-of-new-years-resolutions

    https://www.merriam-webster.com/wordplay/when-did-new-years-resolutions-start

    https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/new-years-resolutions-statistics/

    https://today.yougov.com/society/articles/44868-americans-new-years-resolutions-2023-poll?redirect_from=%2Ftopics%2Fsociety%2Farticles-reports%2F2022%2F12%2F28%2Famericans-new-years-resolutions-2023-poll

    https://faculty.wharton.upenn.edu/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Dai_Fresh_Start_2014_Mgmt_Sci.pdf

    https://fisher.osu.edu/blogs/leadreadtoday/why-most-new-years-resolutions-fail

    https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/jclp.1151

    https://www.mdpi.com/1660-4601/18/6/3084

    https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0234097#pone-0234097-g002

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2980864/

  • On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the positive impact of made-for-tv holiday movies. Plus, they offer up advice on how to curb an emotional shopping habit, and how to create a more inclusive curriculum.

    Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

    Sources:

    https://www.npr.org/2019/08/07/749067994/this-changes-everything-geena-davis-on-empowering-women-in-hollywood

    https://www.fielding.edu/why-christmas-movies-make-us-feel-good/#:~:text=The%20familiar%20tropes%2C%20and%20simple,seated%20need%20for%20social%20connection.

    https://www.forbes.com/sites/nancyberk/2022/08/24/ashley-williams-sparks-hallmark-medias-new-female-focused-storytelling-initiative/?sh=2628c9875a13

    https://www.usmagazine.com/entertainment/pictures/hallmark-channels-leading-ladies-a-guide-to-the-networks-stars/

    https://www.thedailybeast.com/the-normalizing-of-horrible-christmas-movies-must-be-stopped

    http://www.thefutoncritic.com/ratings/2022/12/13/hallmark-channels-countdown-to-christmas-continues-to-be-viewers-number-1-home-for-the-holidays-in-its-eighth-week-566510/20221213hallmark01/

    https://www.vulture.com/article/lifetime-christmas-movie-santa-bootcamp.html

    https://www.vogue.com/article/why-are-all-the-women-in-hallmark-holiday-movies-portrayed-as-soulless-money-machines

    https://nursingclio.org/2019/01/17/hallmark-christmas-movies-guilty-pleasure-or-feminist-rallying-cry/

    https://fortune.com/well/2022/11/24/christmas-movies-happiness-mental-health/

    https://www.kqed.org/arts/10179597/anatomy-of-a-made-for-tv-christmas-movie

    https://www.her.ie/entertainment/christmas-movies-2-567989#:~:text=According%20to%20science%2C%20watching%20Christmas,actually%20good%20for%20your%20health.&text=That's%20right%2C%20tuning%20into%20Elf,us%20feeling%20happier%20and%20lighter.

    https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/here-s-why-it-feels-so-good-watch-those-hallmark-ncna1080841

    https://www.theglobeandmail.com/arts/article-why-do-women-fall-for-made-for-tv-holiday-movies/

    https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/tv/2022/12/07/hallmark-netflix-tv-christmas-movies-can-be-good/10837984002/

    https://www.vox.com/culture/2017/12/14/16752012/hallmark-christmas-movies-explained

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/positively-media/202212/why-christmas-movies-make-us-feel-good#:~:text=The%20Benefits%20of%20Holiday%20Movies&text=They%20are%20heart%2Dhealthy%2C%20reducing,inspire%20new%20activities%20and%20goals.

    https://www.mentalfloss.com/posts/watching-holiday-movies-makes-us-feel-good-according-to-science

  • On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta have a conversation with special guest: Melanie Hamlett. Plus, they share listener feedback on Seasonal Affective Disorder and The Great Divorce.

    Melanie Hamlett's Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@melhamlett?lang=en

    Cecilia Regina: coined phrase "shut up ring" - https://www.tiktok.com/@ceciliaregina275?_t=8hy39NsPQob&_r=1

    Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

  • On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about a looming feminist movement called “The Great Divorce”. Plus, they offer up advice on how to manage a shifting friendship dynamic, and how to avoid keeping track of family gift ideas.

    Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

    Sources:

    The great divorce - https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8joNFfe/

    Decenter men summer - https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8jEv7gv/

    Mel Hamlett decentering men - https://www.tiktok.com/@melhamlett/video/7272349102459866401?_r=1&_t=8fpYVdiBQUt

    Shar Henley on king baby - tiktok.com/@sharhenley_/video/7236168121772526894?_t=8fpVerh8qXG&_r=1

    https://charliestoolbox.medium.com/what-happened-once-i-decentered-men-54a36bd2d9db

    https://news.umich.edu/exactly-how-much-housework-does-a-husband-create/

    https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2013/03/14/chapter-6-time-in-work-and-leisure-patterns-by-gender-and-family-structure/

    https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220511-why-women-file-for-divorce-more-than-men

    https://yougov.co.uk/society/articles/34980-women-are-still-much-more-likely-have-do-most-coup

    https://web.stanford.edu/~mrosenfe/Rosenfeld_gender_of_breakup.pdf

    https://www.forbes.com/advisor/legal/divorce/divorce-statistics/#sources_section

    https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles.html

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9434459/

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3478728/

    https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2019/11/06/marriage-and-cohabitation-in-the-u-s/

    https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X21001299#bib9

  • On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share surprising facts about S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder). Plus, they offer up advice on how to make less noise as an upstairs neighbor, and how to cope with a new work schedule.

    Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

    Sources:

    https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/seasonal-affective-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20364651

    https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/seasonal-affective-disorder

    https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/condition/seasonal-affective-disorder/#:~:text=Seasonal%20affective%20disorder%20occurs%20in,of%20people%20with%20bipolar%20disorder.

    https://www.bu.edu/articles/2019/seasonal-affective-disorder/

    https://psychnews.psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/pn.39.14.0390031

    https://medicine.yale.edu/psychiatry/research/programs/clinical_people/winter/

    https://newsone.com/4418543/seasonal-depression-seasonal-affective-disorder-black-people/

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23820095/

    https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/article-abstract/496414

    https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/01/12/seasonal-affective-disorder-depression-symptoms/

    https://www.healthline.com/health-news/seasonal-affective-disorder-can-affect-you-in-the-summer-too

    ​​https://abcnews.go.com/Health/longer-dangerous-heat-waves-raises-concerns-increased-seasonal/story?id=101953058

    https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/seasonal-affective-disorder-summer-1.6939208

    https://www.ciphr.com/advice/seasonal-affective-disorder-at-work/#:~:text=You%20may%20find%20that%20SAD,while%20absence%20levels%20may%20rise.

    https://cbsaustin.com/news/local/seasonal-depression-could-lead-to-violent-tendencies

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8154709/

    https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20170314-the-town-that-built-a-mirror-to-catch-the-sun

    https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2017/03/seasonal-affective-disorder-mosaic/519495/

    https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/shining-a-light-on-winter-depression

    https://www.cuimc.columbia.edu/news/how-fight-seasonal-depression

    https://www.va.gov/washington-dc-health-care/stories/combating-seasonal-affective-disorder/

  • On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on Not Washing and Dopamenus. Plus, Kristen creates her own dopamenu, and listeners share some additional tips for a letter writer who regrets giving her children culturally insensitive names.

    Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

  • On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about how to create a dopamenu, and when it may be useful. Plus, they offer up advice on dealing with a life-changing medical diagnosis, and maximizing limited free time.

    Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at [email protected], or tweet us @kristenmeinzer or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven't already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

    Sources:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-6WCkTwW6xg

    https://www.adhdrewired.com/about/

    https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/22/style/self-care/adhd-youtube.html

    https://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/childhood-adhd/adhd-dopamine

    https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-dopamine#causes

    https://www.bustle.com/wellness/dopamenu-productivity-dopamine-menu

    https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/184547

    https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/imaging-study-shows-dopamine-dysfunction-is-not-the-main-cause-of-attention-deficit-hyperactivity