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Do you ever feel like an emotional sponge, absorbing the feelings of others around you?
Especially when you’re with someone you care about?
Especially when you’re in certain parts of your cycle?
Extra especially when they are agitated, frustrated, angry, or anxious?
In this episode, we dive deep into understanding emotional regulation, stress management, and the unique challenges faced by moms with ADHD. From absorbing everyone else's emotions to navigating the stress ladder, we'll explore the struggles and I’ll offer practical strategies for finding balance and grace in the midst of the storm.
You CAN learn to hear your own signals and trust them, as well as build your stress tolerance to help you regulate during the day, in spite of the rest of your and your family’s stressors!
And once you know how, you can teach your kids how to increase their stress tolerance, too.
Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool!
Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/medusa-mom.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-221-frustrated-easily-adult-adhd-meltdown-mood-swing
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Sometimes you need a reminder that it’s okay to spend a little money on yourself, especially when the guilt of the last 3 wasteful impulse buys are still weighing on you.
In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, we're diving headfirst into why self-care is NOT selfish. I want you to know that putting yourself on the budget’s priority list is worth it - without guilt creeping in and talking yourself out of it before you ever get that much deserved break.
Often that guilt (or fear of something else) also prevents you from bringing up the topic of money with your partner.
I’ll cover how you can prepare for a money conversation with your partner and set the stage so it’s as smooth as possible.
If even thinking about money conversations or putting yourself first gives you hives, this episode is a great first step toward ditching the guilt, as we dive into two uncomfortable conversations in today’s episode.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-220-spend-money-on-yourself-guilt-free-how-to-talk-to-your-spouse-husband-partner-about-the-budget
New workshop alert!
Your Gifted Child: a 3 workshop series to help you understand your gifted child better, parent them well without losing your sanity, and learn the skills to help them be calm, well-rounded and successful. We'll talk about 2e, comorbidities, emotional regulation, and executive function skills.
Come to the live workshops OR listen to the private podcast version OR watch the replay.
In case you’re new around here, I'm a certified K-12 GT teacher and taught middle school for many years before becoming an ADHD Coach, so I’m using my years of experience teaching gifted & 2e kids to support my boys’ school GT program.
It's donate-what-you-can admission! Sign up here: patriciasung.com/gt
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Watching your child struggle is pretty much the worst. Not knowing what to do about it is more than icing on the doo-doo cake.
I've got your back, mama! In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, I dive into the rollercoaster of emotions and challenges of parenting a struggling child. When your child needs help, but you don’t know where to begin, this episode is for you.
From dealing with overwhelming chaos to understanding the unique dynamics in a family affected by ADHD, here are my key tips to help you navigate the stress. So, buckle up, mama, because we're about to unpack the struggle bus and turn it into the ambulance you need for support during a crisis.
In this episode, I’m sharing the five essential C's for helping your struggling child. First up, we zoom in on crisis management and understanding what’s on fire before taking action. Then, we delve into the critical aspect of self-care for moms because, let's be honest, we can't pour from an empty unicorn mug. We also explore caring for our kids, making sure they find their own spaces to shine and thrive. Plus, we emphasize the importance of building strong connections and boosting our kids' confidence, because every little victory matters.
So, put on your driving gloves, grab a cup (or 40 oz travel mug) of coffee, and get ready to drive into a world of empathy, support, and practical advice on nurturing your struggling child. If you want to join us in person, we’re discussing parenting WITH ADHD in March & April in Successful Mama Meetups. Because among the chaos, you're already a fantastic mom who’s trying her best, and you're not alone in this bumpy journey.
New workshop alert!
Your Gifted Child: a 3 workshop series to help you understand your gifted child better, parent them well without losing your sanity, and learn the skills to help them be calm, well-rounded and successful. We'll talk about 2e, comorbidities, emotional regulation, and executive function skills.
Come to the live workshops OR listen to the private podcast version OR watch the replay.
In case you’re new around here, I'm a certified K-12 GT teacher and taught middle school for many years before becoming an ADHD Coach, so I’m using my years of experience teaching gifted & 2e kids to support my boys’ school GT program.
It's donate-what-you-can admission! Sign up here: patriciasung.com/gt
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-219-parenting-struggling-child-with-adhd-how-to-help-kid-in-crisis
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It’s here again… that awful feeling: I’m behind.
You swore this year you’d print those adorable Christmas cards with your family’s smiling faces in front of a glowing tree, but it’s December and you haven’t even started.
Your friends are sending you theirs, and just seeing them makes you feel guilty.
You’re scrambling to shop for presents online, wondering how you’re going to fit it into your budget.
And that damn elf on the shelf?
Hasn’t moved for days.
Mama, the holidays are a stressful time for most people.
But the truth is, it doesn’t have to be quite this bad.
If you’re feeling behind, and like you can’t rest because there just.isn’t.time… this episode is for you.
We talk about:
How to clean up after the holidays without feeling overwhelmed
Why you feel “behind” and what to do about it
Relearning how to rest, when adulting made you forget
How to make time to recharge when there just isn’t any time
There’s no law that says holidays have to be hard. Join me in choosing calm over chaos this year.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-218-holiday-self-care.
The cure to your holiday hangover: quick & easy steps to get your home back to its normal level of chaos after the holidays!
https://www.patriciasung.com/holiday-hangover
Looking for a quiet fidget to help keep you and your kids peaceful when life feels uncomfortable?
Calm Strips are the way to go! Touch, scratch or trace the textured surface to regulate restless energy, increase focus, and remind yourself to breathe.
Head over to CalmStrips.com and use the code MOTHERHOOD20 for 20% off orders of $20 or more.
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Ever feel like making friends is a puzzle you can't quite solve?
You're not alone, mama!
In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, we unpack the nuances of friendship with our guest Caroline Maguire.
Caroline is a leader in social skills development and the author of the book, “Why Will No One Play With Me?” – a handbook on how to communicate social skills training for your kids… and yourself!
If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD impacts how you make and keep friends, this episode is for you.
We're talking about those oops-did-I-say-too-much moments and the I-have-no-idea-what-to-say ones.
Caroline answers questions from listeners like:
What do I do when I’ve been ghosted?How do I reach out when I’ve been distant due to my ADHD?
How should I approach talking to my friends, co-workers or bosses about how my ADHD affects my communication style?
How do I help my kids have successful friendships without pushing them too hard?
Our relationships shape our lives – but they’re not easy when you have ADHD. So let’s dig in and figure it out together.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-217-adhd-and-friendships-with-social-skills-expert-caroline-maguire
What’s your ADHD Parenting Style? Find out at patriciasung.com/quiz because you’re not your average mama bear!
Looking for a quiet fidget to help keep you and your kids peaceful when life feels uncomfortable?
Calm Strips are the way to go! Touch, scratch or trace the textured surface to regulate restless energy, increase focus, and remind yourself to breathe.
Head over to CalmStrips.com and use the code MOTHERHOOD20 for 20% off orders of $20 or more.
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How do you feel when you think about taking ADHD medication?
Nervous?
Hopeful?
Overwhelmed?
The process of obtaining and finding the right medication can feel like A LOT.
First, you have to approach the subject with your doctor (who may or may not be well-informed about ADHD) -- and then there is finding the right type and dosing of medication, dealing with potential side effects, and the whole process of trial and error.
It never goes perfectly. But it can go more smoothly -- when you take a few steps to plan and prepare for it.
On this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, I share all my best tips and strategies for starting ADHD medication that I learned the hard way -- from tackling that first conversation with your doc, to riding out your first few months.
You'll learn:
Tips for remembering to take your medication daily (No more, "Ugh, did I actually take that today?" moments)
How to take your medication for maximum effectiveness
How to work with your doctor to start and stop medication safely
Tips for finding the right dosing
What to do if you can't afford your ADHD medication
Tips for approaching the topic of ADHD medication with your doctor (No, you're not a "drug seeker"!)
And so much more!
Your first go-round with ADHD medication doesn't have to be a disaster. You deserve to feel confident, informed and fear-free while you find a treatment plan that works for you.
**This material is not intended as medical advice. Please consult your doctor or a trained medical professional to find the treatment plan that best fits your personal situation.**
This episode is part of our Best Of Series by your requests and originally aired in June 2022.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-216-what-i-wish-i-knew-before-taking-adhd-stimulants-best-of-series
What if you could feel productive and accomplished, knowing you showed up for the people and things you love most? What if you could look back at your day, and know you did what was on your to-do list?
It’s possible with the Daily Planning for Moms with ADHD course, where I teach you how to keep a calendar and organize your to-do lists in a way that makes sense for your ADHD brain.
Join today at: bit.ly/adhdplan
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“I’ve tried everything!”
When you’re dealing with a particularly frustrating problem that’s gone on for years, like parenting your exasperating child, looking for relief from a chronic health issue, or advocating for your child struggling at school, you start to run out of energy AND optimism.
When you’ve got a situation that feels hopeless…
When you’ve run out of ideas…
When you’ve looked under every rock and barked up every tree…
Should you just give up?
Sigh.
Except you REALLY want to find a solution. You’re not ready to give up on your kid, your health, the things that truly matter to you.
What’s a mom to do?
My kindergartener surprised me with his fresh take on counting last week, and it made me think twice about how I look at the same-old-same-old.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing five valuable ways to find a fresh perspective when you feel overwhelmed or stuck. Let’s look outside the box and past the same advice you’ve heard 37 times to find what you actually need or could use.
These are the kinds of problems that are worth another go. You’re worth it, too.
Get some cheerleaders in your corner and join our free Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/motherhoodinadhd
After our first session together, you’ll know how to stay cool when your Uncle Roger starts with his political BS at the next holiday party. It won’t ruin the day for you.
Early Bird Registration of my next round of Lighthouse Group ADHD Coaching ends today! Registration reopens in January.
The group starts in 2024, so put your name on the waitlist now to get signup details, so you’ll know that after the holidays are over and the kids are back in school, you are ready to get your life together and your emotions in control.
You’ll learn the skills you wish you knew growing up to make adulting easier as someone with ADHD and you’ll be able to teach your kids how to live well with ADHD.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-215-dont-know-what-else-to-do-how-to-solve-hopeless-problems-feel-stuck
Thank you to our sponsor, Skylight Calendars, whose support allows me to share this podcast with you for free! I only partner with brands I know and love, so I bet you’ll love this amazing digital calendar as much as I do - it will help keep your family coordinated and less stressed. Use the coupon code PATRICIA to get 10% off your family calendar at SkylightCal.com
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What’s your story of working under an unqualified or unsupportive boss? I’m sharing a few of my terrible boss experiences.
But today’s episode is not just about the bad bosses in the workplace. As a parent, we often feel underqualified. You don’t want to be a “bad boss”, but no one handed you an instruction manual when your children arrived!
What do you do when you don’t know what to do?
When you don’t feel sure of your choices, it starts to seep into your confidence level. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) shows up to make you doubt your parenting decisions, increasing the guilt around what you should have done, and layering in the shame on how you’re ruining your kids forever with your mess ups.Yikes!
RSD also taints how we relate to our partners, which can stir up the same conflict over and over again. It influences how we react to the slightest eyebrow raise and every “what if” scenario. It makes you scared to bring up important conversations.
Knowing it’s not just you is half the battle. Let’s dive into how we can better support and care for our families and partners, by starting with ourselves.
Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool! Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/calm
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-214-parenting-lessons-from-bad-bosses-when-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-adhd-rsd-affects-parenting-partners
When you know how to stay calm, your child’s meltdown over leaving the holiday party won’t ruin your day. You can respond firmly and lovingly because you’re in control of your emotions.
Next week, Early Bird Registration of my next round of Lighthouse Group ADHD Coaching is open to the waitlist for 3 days only.
The group starts in 2024, so put your name on the waitlist now so you’ll know that after the holidays are over and the kids are back in school, you are ready to get your life together and your emotions in control.
You’ll learn the skills you wish you knew growing up to make adulting easier as someone with ADHD and you’ll be able to teach your kids how to live well with ADHD.
Thank you to our sponsor, Skylight Calendars, whose support allows me to share this podcast with you for free! I only partner with brands I know and love, so I bet you’ll love this amazing digital calendar as much as I do - it will help keep your family coordinated and less stressed. Use the coupon code PATRICIA to get 10% off your family calendar at SkylightCal.com
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What does the inside of your kitchen junk drawer look like?
And why is it always in the kitchen?
We all have a random smattering of ideas laying around and today I’m sharing a few that wouldn’t necessarily make a whole episode in and of themselves, so I’m combining these random thoughts rattling around my brain into one Junk Drawer episode.
First, we cover a few questions around ADHD medications with some crowdsourced helpful tips on how to find medicine with shortages happening everywhere, as well as what it feels like when I forget to take my medicine (a clear indicator towards it not being addictive when you use it as prescribed).
We’re also talking about emotions surrounding a late ADHD diagnosis, exploring feelings of frustration and grief while questioning if things would have been different had we known earlier? Shout-out to listener Sara, who suggested this topic!
Then, I’m celebrating our amazing sponsors: Skylight Calendars, Calm Strips, and Time Timers, who believe in our mission and help keep this podcast free for you. I’m so thankful to be working with great companies who are amplifying our goal of sharing quality ADHD info in the world. You’ll only hear recommendations for great products that I love and use myself.
Finally, I’m wrapping up by courageously reading some of my bad reviews (yikes!), an experience that can be both daunting and enlightening. Here’s how I deal with negative feedback and RSD, and still choose to share so much of myself online.
Let's dive into this "ADHD Junk Drawer" together!
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-213-late-diagnosis-grief-find-forget-to-take-adhd-medicine
Curious how ADHD shows up frequently in women? Download this free checklist of ADHD symptoms to help you feel confident at your diagnosis assignment or in your own knowledge of ADHD.
Thank you to our sponsor, Skylight Calendars, whose support allows me to share this podcast with you for free! I only partner with brands I know and love, so I bet you’ll love this amazing digital calendar as much as I do - it will help keep your family coordinated and less stressed. Use the coupon code PATRICIA to get 10% off your family calendar at SkylightCal.com.
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“Should I become a mom if I have ADHD?”
Here’s an episode you’ve been asking for - pregnancy and ADHD! You ask me so many questions around pregnancy friendly symptoms management, ADHD medication while pregnant, and the big question of should I even have kids if I can’t take care of myself???
It’s been almost 6 years since I was pregnant, so I called in a friend who’s in the thick of it.
Today’s guest is Candin Phillips of Humanity Hive. Candin is a licensed therapist with over ten years of experience working with people with ADHD. While her little one just arrived, she was pregnant with her second child during the recording of this conversation.
Candin and I recount some of the struggles that come with being pregnant with ADHD and share what’s working for us and our clients. We discuss how pregnancy can affect your ADHD (spoiler alert: it’s different for everyone!) and answer YOUR questions submitted through Instagram and my free facebook group.
Neither Candin nor I are licensed medical doctors, so please take all of our advice as advice you got from friends and talk with your medical team to find the best decision for you.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-212-pregnant-with-adhd-should-I-become-a-mom-if-I-have-adhd-pregnancy-with-candin-phillips
Looking for support on how to treat your ADHD beyond medicine? Grab my free list of strategies and ADHD treatments at patriciasung.com/beyond-meds
Thank you to our sponsor, Skylight Calendars, whose support allows me to share this podcast with you for free!
I only partner with brands I know and love, so I bet you’ll love this amazing digital calendar frame as much as I do - it will help keep your family coordinated and less stressed.
Use the coupon code PATRICIA to get 10% off your family calendar at SkylightCal.com
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When you’re dreaming about taking time for yourself, does that nudge (or wave) of guilt make you pause?
Today, I’m reflecting on 5 things I learned this weekend while I hung out with many of you.
This past weekend was my ADHD Moms Weekend Retreat and we had a blast! It was soo soo good and I didn’t want it to end! We rested, we ate hot food, and we focused on ourselves.
One of the things we all discussed was how refreshing it was to be the most important person on the agenda, and the moms wished they could stay another day (or 3, lol!). Next year’s retreat will also be a weekend, but I’m certainly dreaming of longer trips in the future!
Listen in as I discuss what you all told me are the challenges of being an ADHD mom and the importance of embracing our unique strengths and abilities. We need self-care and the incredible impact it can have on ourselves and our families, so you can feel strong about prioritizing your well-being and break free from mom guilt.
Want to join us next year? Join the waitlist for the 2024 retreat here: https://www.patriciasung.com/retreat-waitlist
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-211-power-of-community-5-things-i-learned-from-hanging-out-with-adhd-moms
Make your life easier as a mom with ADHD. All of my free resources are in one place! Download my ADHD Mama Toolkit for support and strategies to create a life fit you and your family.
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Appointments, birthdays, permission slips, library books, names, the one thing you went into the store for…
In today's episode, I delve into one of the most frustrating features of ADHD: forgetting important things.
From my personal experiences of forgetting to pick up THE ONE THING that my husband had requested while I went backpacking through Spain to missing my child's swim lesson due to a mix-up in scheduling, we’ll explore the guilt and shame that often accompany these forgetful moments.
But it's important to remember that having ADHD is not an excuse for forgetfulness, but rather an explanation. But how do you clearly make the distinction in your intention so everyone’s not mad at you for forgetting the thing for the 300th time???
In this episode, we explore the delicate balance between understanding the role of ADHD and taking personal accountability for our actions. Join me as we uncover strategies and insights to navigate through forgetfulness and rewrite our stories from shame spiral to success story.
Get ready for a powerful (and uncomfortable) discussion on forgetfulness in motherhood and ADHD.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:
https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-210-sorry-i-forgot-excuse-explanation-adhd
Time blindness. YES. It's a very real thing and it can be a challenge for lots of people with ADHD.
I'm here to tell you there IS HOPE!
I created a resource for mamas like you so you can stop waiting until the last minute to complete the project, send in the forms, or do the shopping.
Stop stressing about time. It doesn't have to be that way.
Grab my Secrets for Overcoming Time Blindness, a free resource on my website here:
https://www.patriciasung.com/monthahead
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Oh, the lies you’ve been told about your brain…
Today’s guest challenges the traditional description of ADHD, viewing it not as a disorder, but as a unique collection of traits that showcase different ways of thinking and experiencing emotions.
Dr. Caroline Leaf is a communication pathologist, audiologist, and clinical and cognitive neuroscientist specializing in psychoneurobiology and metacognitive neuropsychology. Her passion is to help people see the power of the mind to change the brain, control chaotic thinking, and find mental peace. She shares her profound knowledge and insights on how the mind can shape and transform the brain, offering hope and practical strategies for finding mental peace in our daily lives.
We dove into everything from habit formation, ADHD brain scans, the difference between the mind and the brain, self-reflection and self-management, and tools to manage our messy minds. This episode is a beautiful blast of science sprinkled with well-earned mothering experience.
Her latest book, How to Help Your Child Clean Up Their Mental Mess: A Guide to Building Resilience and Managing Mental Health, is available now.
Learn more about Dr. Leaf at:
Her website – https://drleaf.com/
Instagram – @drcarolineleaf
Facebook – Dr. Caroline Leaf
Twitter – @DrCarolineLeaf
Let’s dive into our messy minds, mama.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-209-adhd-lies-cleaning-up-you-and-your-childs-mental-mess-building-habits-neurocycle-caroline-leaf
Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool! Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/calm
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When you want to help your kid, but you’re triggered yourself, it’s really hard to show as the mom you want to be.
Today I’m taking you behind the scenes of one of our July meetups in Successful Mama Meetups. The theme for the month was "Angry Moms Unite," focusing on how to stop yelling at your family and regulate your emotions, so you can show up as the mom you want to be more often.
We’re not looking for perfection, but progress. Empowerment. Giving you the confidence that you can change the things you want to change cuz you’re not doomed to be a hot mess.
This is a two-part episode, so you can go back and listen to last week’s episode with the exclusive group discussion and this week you get a peek into the free monthly coaching available to Meetup members.
Mamas inside of our community volunteer to be coached about whatever’s on their mind, and I help them work through it. Jess shares her struggle with anger and yelling at her family, which I think we can all relate to!
When you use your emotional regulation tools, you’ll feel more clear and connected in those overwhelming moments. With visualization techniques and a reminder to embrace who you are and how your brain works, you can find peace and happiness amidst the chaos.
In last week’s episode, I dove into our monthly theme, talking about why we get so upset and what we can do about it. How do we manage our emotions throughout the day to be able to have something left in the tank for after school and homework, or the witching hour and bedtime, without losing your ish and shutting everyone out?
Each week we start the meeting with 30 minutes of getting stuff done, then social time for the second half.
Every week is different because ADHD needs a lot of variety! However, there are some repeating themes, like once a month I do free live coaching and every month I share exclusive lessons and discussions within the Successful Mama Community only.
Other weeks, we hang out in small groups and chat, because there is so much power in showing up, getting things done, and finding support in a community of moms who understand the struggles of parenting with ADHD.
Ready to join us? Head to patriciasung.com/meetup and sign up for Successful Mama Meetups before our next meetup!
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-208-live-adhd-coaching-how-to-stop-yelling-as-a-mom
We have 2 bonuses inside of Successful Mama Meetups this month:
Want to set up your day in a way that feels exciting instead of exhausting? Join the ADHD Energy Recharge Workshop on September 21st at noon eastern (yes, there’s a replay.)
No matter if you’re an early bird or a night owl, I’m sharing how I work with my daily energy cycles with a splash of cycle syncing, to cater to my fluctuating energy levels and lessen the effects of PMDD.
And when you opt to join the Meetups with an annual membership, I’m giving you my original course for free: Daily Planning: How to Use a Planner for ADHD Moms, which is normally $267.
It’s all inside of Successful Mama Meetups this month. See you there!
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Did you spew angry volcano-vomit on your family today? Or yesterday? Or right before this, which is why you’re listening to this episode right now? IYKYK.
Today I’m taking you behind the scenes of one of our July meetups in Successful Mama Meetups. The theme for the month was "Angry Moms Unite," focusing on how to stop yelling at your family and regulate your emotions, so you can show up as the mom you want to be more often.
We’re not looking for perfection, but progress. Empowerment. Giving you the confidence that you can change the things you want to change cuz you’re not doomed to be a hot mess.
In this portion of our July meetup, I’m talking about why we get so upset and what we can do about it. How do we manage our emotions throughout the day to be able to have something left in the tank for after school and homework, or the witching hour and bedtime, without losing your ish and shutting everyone out?
Each week we start the meeting with 30 minutes of getting stuff done, then social time for the second half.
Every week is different because ADHD needs a lot of variety! However, there are some repeating themes, like once a month I do free live coaching and every month I share exclusive lessons and discussions within the Successful Mama Community only.
Other weeks, we hang out in small groups and chat, because there is so much power in showing up, getting things done, and finding support in a community of moms who understand the struggles of parenting with ADHD.
This is a two-part episode, so you’ll hear the exclusive group discussion this week and next week you get a peek into the free monthly coaching available to Meetup members. Jess shares her struggle with emotional outbursts, which I think we can all relate to!
This monthly theme aims to help us understand ourselves better, find strategies to take care of ourselves, and connect with the mothers we truly want to be.
Ready to join us? Head to patriciasung.com/meetup and sign up for Successful Mama Meetups before our next meetup!
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:
https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-207-angry-mom-how-to-stop-yelling-at-your-kids
We have 2 bonuses inside of Successful Mama Meetups this month:
Want to set up your day in a way that feels exciting instead of exhausting? Join the ADHD Energy Recharge Workshop on September 21st at noon eastern (yes, there’s a replay.)
No matter if you’re an early bird or a night owl, I’m sharing how I work with my daily energy cycles with a splash of cycle syncing, to cater to my fluctuating energy levels and lessen the effects of PMDD.
And when you opt to join the Meetups with an annual membership, I’m giving you my original course for free: Daily Planning: How to Use a Planner for ADHD Moms, which is normally $267.
It’s all inside of Successful Mama Meetups this month. See you there!
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You want to grab dinner with your best friend…
You want to do that cool volcano science project with your 4 year old…
You want to snuggle on the couch with your partner and watch a movie…
But you also need sleep.
You feel like the worst friend, daughter, mom, partner, when you promise to do something and then cancel plans at the last minute because you don’t have the energy to do it when the time comes around.
You’re feeling burnt out, overwhelmed, and at capacity on top of the guilt. Ugh.
Having ADHD can feel really unpredictable when you never know what you’ll have the energy to do.
How can we set up a system that works for you and prioritizes what matters most to you?
When we’re not leaning into the kind of plans that make sense for our brains and energy patterns, it all feels way harder than it needs to be.
So how can we make this feel easier? Let’s discuss!
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-206-lots-of-ideas-moms-too-tired-to-plan-need-energy
Want to set up your day in a way that feels exciting instead of exhausting? Join the ADHD Energy Recharge Workshop on September 21st at noon eastern (yes, there’s a replay.)
No matter if you’re an early bird or a night owl, I’m sharing how I work with my daily energy cycles with a splash of cycle syncing, to cater to my fluctuating energy levels and lessen the effects of PMDD.
It’s all inside of Successful Mama Meetups this month. See you there!
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When your child charges in the room raging or super sour, how do you react?
Do you immediately tense up, knowing that the battle is about to begin?
When your spouse arrives home, do you listen to the noises they make outside the door to prepare yourself if they’ve had a rough day at work?
Does your stomach fall into the pit of your stomach, because you know the rest of the night is ruined?
For most of my life, someone else’s bad mood would ruin my mood. Every time.
And I hated it.
It didn’t matter if it was family, friends, waitress, teacher… I felt them.
I didn’t want their sour, grumpy, or angry feelings poisoning my mentality. But I didn’t know how, or even that I could, separate their feelings from my own.
Many of us with ADHD, especially those who are more inattentive or socialized as women, are emotional sponges when it comes to other people's feelings, problems, and struggles.
From a strength side makes us super empathetic and great friends. Where it can become a struggle bus is when we don't know how to turn it off. Our big, messy emotions don’t have to be a liability!
It may have taken me 40 years, but I want you to know that it is possible to still be a highly empathetic and kind person who also holds tight boundaries and takes care of themselves.
Today I’m sharing one of the strategies to do it!
I pulled a clip from the last round of my ADHD group coaching program, Lighthouse, teaching how you can begin to define your boundaries, understand where and how you feel safe, and lean into your big emotions as a strength.
So get comfy, lower as many distractions as you can, and let’s dive into how you can keep the yuck out while still connecting with your children, spouse, or coworkers in a way that is comfortable and secure for you.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-205-emotional-spongs-stop-absorbing-others-feelings-boundaries-emotional-regulation-adhd
If you’d like more support like this, the next round of Lighthouse Group ADHD Coaching starts September 14th.
In 3 months together, we’ll get your daily schedule sorted and your emotional regulation tools sharpened, so that you can connect home to what matters to you, start trusting yourself again, and and build the life you want to live.
Register now, as there are only a couple of spots left: patriciasung.com/lighthouse
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How many times have you questioned whether you are a “good mom”?
In the last 2 months, I’ve asked myself this at least 4000 times. This summer did not go as expected which made me doubt if I’m being a good mom.
Am I spending enough time with my boys?
Am I putting my phone down and paying attention when they talk?
Am I making my kids a priority over endless stress and anxious thoughts swirling around my head?
Here’s some wise advice I received recently from an older, more experienced mom, on how to deal with challenging decisions and seasons. Plus, I’m sharing what is working for me to keep my head above the water and continue paddling (upstream) right now.
For more emotional regulation support so you can feel like you’ve got this even when life feels like you’re paddling upstream, join me at the Create the Calm all-inclusive luxury weekend retreat or for the next round of small group ADHD coaching.
Retreat registration closes TODAY, August 31st!
The next round of group coaching starts September 14, 2023.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-204-how-to-be-a-good-mom
READY TO GET AWAY?
Our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat is coming up October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas!
You're officially invited :)
“Gift yourself the opportunity to meet like-minded people (literally), make instant friendships, and the space to finally be yourself.” –ADHD Mama T.H.
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy.
Put it on your calendar now.
Because you deserve to take care of yourself too. Grab your all-inclusive ticket here: https://www.patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat
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Are you juggling 6,358 things?
If life’s been a little too much today or in general, let’s talk. I’m hanging on for dear life as things get next-level chaotic over here in the Sung house…
And I haven’t lost my ish on anyone yet! *celebration*
Last year, I couldn’t have said that.
I would have yelled at kids or my spouse or both, felt awful about it, and then hid under my covers and as I sunk into shame and guilt.
But this year is different.
I’m prioritizing different things, and they aren’t fancy or obvious self care ideas. It’s the little things. It’s the tools I’ve built up in my emotional regulation toolbox to take care of myself, which allow me to keep moving forward and get stuff done without shutting down or exploding. Even with a giant weight on your shoulders, you can be mentally present with your family. (You can watch my Instagram stories @motherhoodinadhd for the behind the scenes of the chaos LOL.)
Listen in for what’s helping me right now, as I hope it helps you, too.
I’m also sharing behind the scenes of the retreat in this episode, because you are invited! Come hang out with me and 8 other mamas next month! You deserve rest, care, and relaxation, too. Because taking care of yourself IS taking care of your family.
Learn how to Create the Calm in your life at this year’s luxury retreat for ADHD Moms.
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here: https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-203-create-the-calm-retreat-adhd-lesser-known-ways-to-reduce-stress-for-moms
You’re not alone.
“This is a chance to invest in yourself and build a community that will empower your future. Worth it!” –ADHD Mama D.B.
Our annual ADHD Moms Luxury Weekend Retreat is coming up October 6-8, 2023 in Houston, Texas! And we hope you’re coming, too!
I’ll take care of all the details - you simply show up and enjoy.
Put it on your calendar now.
Having a circle of moms who support you and believe in you matters. Register for your all-inclusive ticket here:
https://www.patriciasung.com/adhd-mom-retreat
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“My partner says I’m using my ADHD as an excuse. They’re not really understanding ADHD at all or how it affects me!”
You shared your relationship struggles and you’re not the only one!
Today’s guest, Melissa Orlov, answers YOUR questions from my free Facebook group. We discuss ADHD as an excuse, partners who don’t understand ADHD, communication obstacles between ADHD partners and non-ADHD partners.
We also dive into guilt, shame, trust, coping with RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) when it feels like your partner is constantly criticizing you, how all of this affects intimacy, and life after divorce.
Melissa is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com and works with couples impacted by ADHD. There’s hope for your relationship, too, mama.
Let’s dive into your questions!
Links mentioned in this episode :
Melissa’s recent read: Barbara Kingsolver's Poisonwood Bible
Melissa’s Blog post: https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/maybe-just-maybe-adhd-excuse-act-heartless-jerk
How to connect with Melissa:
Her website: http://www.ADHDmarriage.com
Her instagram: @adhd_marriage
Find links to everything mentioned in this episode & read the transcript here:
https://www.patriciasung.com/podcast/episode-202-Same-Fight-Again-how-to-Improve-Romantic-Relationship-when-Impacted-by-ADHD-with-Melissa Orlov
Stop Medusa Mom in her tracks with these 10 tips to calm down before you lose your cool! Watch (or read) the free video here: https://www.patriciasung.com/calm
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