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  • How do you usually react when you're angry?

    Have you ever regretted saying something in the heat of the moment?

    Today, Jay talks about the transformative power of the "90-Second Rule," a life-changing technique that can help you choose your response in moments of intense emotion. Have you ever acted in the heat of the moment and later regretted it? Jay explores how 90 seconds can be the difference between reacting impulsively and responding with intention.

    Inspired by Viktor Frankl's quote, "Between stimulus and response, there is a space," Jay unpacks the concept that this small window of time holds the key to our growth, freedom, and ability to create better outcomes in our lives. He shares personal stories, practical tips, and scientific insights to help you harness the power of this technique, including deep breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, and ways to recognize and label your emotions.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to control your emotions in stressful moments

    How to apply the 90-second rule to avoid impulsive reactions

    How to recognize and label your emotions accurately

    How to practice mindfulness in moments of frustration

    How to take a 90-second break to reset your mindset

    By allowing yourself those 90 seconds to breathe, reflect, and choose your response, you create the space to align with your values and intentions.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    02:17 It’s About How You Respond to Situations

    06:27 The 90-Second Rule

    11:55 #1: Set a Timer

    13:05 #2: Do an Internal Weather Report

    13:47 #3: Check-in with Your Body

    18:01 Sadness Last Longer than Other Emotions

    20:53 We Repeat What We Reward

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  • What part of your past self do you feel most attached to?

    What fears are holding you back from embracing who you are now?

    On this extremely special episode of On Purpose, Jay sits down with global music sensation and dear friend, Shawn Mendes. Shawn is a Grammy-nominated singer-songwriter known for his soulful voice and heartfelt lyrics. The two go in deep to Shawn’s newest album ‘Shawn.’ Shawn is an advocate for mental health awareness, openly sharing his personal struggles with anxiety and self-discovery.

    For the first time, Shawn opens up about his struggles with anxiety and the difficult decision to cancel his world tour to focus on his mental health, sharing the weight of that moment and the liberating journey of prioritizing his well-being. He reflects on the challenges of growing up in the spotlight, the pressures of maintaining perfection, and how therapy, friendships, and embracing vulnerability helped him find balance and peace.

    Shawn and Jay explore themes of love, relationships, and the intricacies of navigating public life while protecting private emotions. With heartfelt honesty, Shawn shares how he’s learned to diversify his life beyond music and embrace all forms of love, not just romantic, but the love that comes from connection and support from those around him.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to prioritize mental health

    How to embrace vulnerability

    How to let go of perfectionism

    How to accept love and support

    How to build emotional resilience

    How to be honest in relationships

    Remember, the hardest decisions often lead to the most meaningful transformations. Take care of yourself, lean on those around you, and trust that, with time, you will find your way to peace and authenticity.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro 03:54 Clubhouse Studio’s Significance (Where the interview takes place!) 05:51 The Struggle of Asking for Help When Making Hard Life Decisions 07:48 Why Shawn Canceled His Tour 12:48 Tough Choices and Growth 15:10 Breakdowns Leading to Breakthroughs 17:09 Finding Shawns Own Authenticity in Music 21:08 The Power of Vulnerability and Expressing Emotional Truth 23:50 Letting Go of Ego to Heal 26:52 Learning to Accept Yourself Through Therapy 28:42 The Hardest Internal Question to Face 30:47 The Power of Listening Without Judgment 32:51 Learning How to Face Pain Instead of Running From It 38:18 Finding Emotional Balance of Extreme Emotions 40:00 Shawn Opens up About Grief and Guilt Over a Lost Friend 51:10 Healing Through Art and Music 55:26 Questioning ‘Forever’ in Love 59:09 Maintaining Love Under Pressure 01:02:16 The Importance of Over-Communication in Relationships 01:03:50 Why Partnership is More Than Just Love 01:07:27 How to Be Open to Love that is Not Just Romantic 01:13:38 How to Avoid Focusing on the Highs 01:15:45 Trusting Your Inner Voice and Learn How to Listen to Your Intuition 01:18:36 How to Surrender to Life Unfolding Naturally Without Forcing It 01:21:59 Surprise Note from Shawn’s Sister 01:33:09 Final Five with Shawn

    Episode Resources:

    Shawn Mendes | Website Shawn Mendes | Instagram Shawn Mendes | Facebook Shawn Mendes | TikTok Shawn Mendes | YouTube Shawn Mendes | LinkedIn Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human Body

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  • Who in your life challenges you the most?

    Who sees more potential in you than you do?

    Today, Jay unpacks the powerful idea that everyone we meet serves a distinct purpose in our lives, acting as mirrors, windows, or doors. Inspired by a concept shared by TikTok creators Kim Peretz and Stale Hope, Jay talks about how different people reflect our flaws, show us glimpses of our potential, and open new pathways to growth.

    Jay explores the idea that some people mirror back our darkest and most uncomfortable traits, offering us valuable opportunities for self-awareness and growth. He emphasizes the challenge of accepting lessons from those we may not want to listen to, reminding us that the message is often more important than the messenger.

    He introduces the concept of doors and keys—those who open paths and unlock parts of ourselves in the most perfect way. He discusses the importance of gratitude and recognizing the people who have helped us move forward, even if we may have forgotten them.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to accept difficult truths about yourself

    How to recognize the people who reflect your potential

    How to stay open to advice even when it’s hard to hear

    How to appreciate the role others play in your personal journey

    How to stay curious about what others see in you

    As you navigate your journey, remember that every person you encounter has something to teach you, whether they act as a mirror, window, door, or key. You're not alone on this path.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    02:12 The Mirror, Window, and Door of Our Life

    03:12 People Mirror Back to Us Our Flaws

    11:14 People Are Like Windows, They See More Potential in You

    18:07 Some People Open a Door or Path for Us

    19:33 Some People Are Keys, They Unlock Parts for Us

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  • How do you usually handle stress in your life?

    Have you ever tried anything to boost your dopamine levels?

    Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Andrew Huberman, a neuroscientist and professor at Stanford University, known for his insightful work on brain development, neuroplasticity, and the intricate connection between the brain and body. Together, they discuss the neuroscience of friendship, exploring how our deep-rooted need for safety and acceptance plays a pivotal role in our social interactions. They unravel the paradox of modern society, where people feel emotionally distant despite increasing online connections and followers.

    Dr. Huberman highlights how our brain circuitry, which governs social bonding and connectedness, is tightly linked to our need for predictability and safety. He breaks down how these fundamental needs influence our relationships, both in early development and throughout adulthood, and how understanding these mechanisms can help combat the loneliness epidemic many experience today.

    Jay and Andrew discuss practical tools like sending a simple daily “good morning” text, which may seem trivial but has profound implications for maintaining connection and combating feelings of isolation. They also explore the value of doing hard things, such as cold plunges and structured routines, which anchor our physiology and create a sense of predictability, crucial for mental resilience and creativity.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to Build Predictability in Relationships

    How to Activate Bonding Circuits in the Brain

    How to Build Trust Through Consistency

    How to Combat Loneliness with Regular Check-Ins

    How to Ask Meaningful Questions to Deepen Relationships

    How to Build a Reliable Circle of Friends

    How to Balance Stress with Breathing Techniques

    By embracing small yet powerful habits, we not only improve our own lives but also create a ripple effect of positive connection in the lives of those around us. Now is the time to prioritize real, human connection—and in doing so, enrich every aspect of your life.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro 04:06 Safety and Acceptance 19:12 Healthy Friendships 29:39 Predictability 38:15 Breathing Protocol 51:32 Body Still, Mind Active 01:02:15 Tenacity and Willpower 01:13:06 Walls of Adrenaline 01:18:21 Limiting Cynicism 01:24:54 You Can’t Control Everything 01:34:29 The Human Narrative 01:43:15 Be Yourself

    Episode Resources:

    Andrew Huberman | Website Andrew Huberman | Instagram Andrew Huberman | Facebook Andrew Huberman | TikTok Andrew Huberman | YouTube Andrew Huberman | LinkedIn Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human Body

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  • Are you feeling burnt out from dating lately?

    Do you feel like you're repeating the same mistakes in dating?

    Today, Jay talks about why dating burnout is a common and natural response to repeated disappointments, unmet expectations, and the overwhelming nature of modern dating apps. He notes that most respondents feel disconnected, disillusioned, and emotionally drained, which leads to frustration and reluctance to continue dating.

    It is important to accept and acknowledge feelings of burnout. Jay explains that a vital first step in overcoming this is to reframe expectations and approach dating with a healthier mindset. Dating is like applying for a job, where the process may involve multiple attempts and disappointments, but persistence is key. To avoid personalizing every rejection, focus on their self-worth, be kinder to themselves, and build resilience throughout the dating journey.

    Jay highlights the importance of identifying and aligning with core values, explaining that these are the foundation for long-term relationship success.

    In this episode you'll learn:

    How to Overcome Dating Burnout

    How to Spot Red Flags Early

    How to Build Resilience in Dating

    How to Align with Your Core Values

    How to Reframe Rejection Positively

    By approaching dating with less pressure, identifying red flags early, and giving second chances, you can create healthier, more meaningful connections while avoiding emotional exhaustion.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:44 Are You Dealing with Dating Burnout?

    05:43 Approach Dating with Higher Resilience

    08:10 Four Red Flags of Poor Communication

    11:39 Attraction is Beyond What You See

    13:08 The Pressure to Present Yourself in a Certain Way

    18:04 Focus on Having One Conversation at a Time

    22:39 Why Do We Get Bored When Dating?

    23:54 3 Strategies to Successful Dating

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  • What would you tell your 14-year-old self?

    How do you quiet the “not good enough” voice?

    Today, Jay welcomes Ryan Holiday, renowned philosopher, bestselling author, and host of The Daily Stoic. With over 10 million copies of his books sold globally, Ryan returns to the podcast to dive deep into the concepts of personal growth, parenting, and finding purpose in a success-driven world.

    Ryan reflects on the journey of becoming a parent and discusses the difference between having kids and truly being a parent. He explains why intentional parenting is a radical shift from simply fulfilling biological or legal roles and explores the transformative impact of parenthood on personal and professional ambitions, emphasizing the importance of being prepared for the changes it brings.

    Jay also opens up about his own thoughts on parenthood and the life shifts that accompany major decisions, offering a heartfelt glimpse into the conversations he’s had with his wife about the timing of having children. Throughout the conversation, both Jay and Ryan unpack the struggles of balancing a career with personal life, with Ryan drawing from Stoic philosophy to offer guidance on setting meaningful goals, aligning actions with values, and learning from life's obstacles.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to Embrace Parenthood as a Central Life Purpose

    How to Set Goals Based on What’s in Your Control

    How to Approach Parenting with Intention and Purpose

    How to Learn from Life’s Obstacles and Failures

    How to Align Your Career with Personal Values

    How to Build Emotional Resilience through Parenthood

    Whether through parenting, personal growth, or our professional pursuits, the key is to stay rooted in what truly matters—our values, intentions, and the legacy we leave behind.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro 01:33 Are You Ready to Become a Parent? 05:43 What Type of Goal Should We Set? 10:54 Love What You’re Doing 18:59 Stuck in Life 22:06 Trust the Process 26:04 Patience 30:18 Process of Accumulating Experiences 33:35 What Difference Are You Making? 35:57 Raise a Reader 40:14 What Are You Struggling With? 45:00 General Parenting Tip 52:56 Unconditional Parental Love 58:50 Do What’s Important to You 01:02:04 What is at Stake? 01:06:03 Comparison Game 01:09:36 Dad Guilt 01:15:30 Fear as a Parent 01:19:11 This Stops with Me

    Episode Resources:

    Ryan Holiday | Website Ryan Holiday | Instagram Ryan Holiday | Facebook Ryan Holiday | TikTok Ryan Holiday | YouTube Ryan Holiday | LinkedIn The Daily Dad: 366 Meditations on Parenting, Love, and Raising Great Kids

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  • Have you ever thought about taking a solo trip?

    What do you think you'd learn about yourself if you traveled alone?

    Today, Jay unpacks the unexpected benefits of solo travel. Whether you’re an avid traveler or someone hesitant to step out of your comfort zone, traveling alone, even just once, can be one of the most powerful experiences of your life.

    Jay explains how solo travel helps break free from the “herd mentality”—when we defer to the preferences of those around us—and instead allows us to deeply understand our own desires and needs. You’ll learn how traveling alone can expand your worldview, teach self-reliance, and push you to explore not just new places but new aspects of yourself.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to Expand Your Worldview

    How to Boost Self-Reliance

    How to Connect with New People and Cultures

    How to Build Confidence Through Solo Travel

    Whether you're seeking new perspectives or personal growth, traveling alone can be a powerful tool to reconnect with your true self.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:48 Do You Need to Go on a Solo Trip?

    04:50 #1: Learn More About Yourself

    11:10 #2: Improve Your Confidence

    13:43 #3: Expand Your Worldview

    16:53 #4: Develop Self-Reliance

    19:49 #5: Master Your Mind

    21:54 #6: Beat Boredom and Distraction

    23:09 #7: Vigilance

    24:55 #8: Get to Know Diverse People

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  • What are your emotional needs?

    How do you communicate them clearly?

    Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist, best-selling author, and founder of the SelfHealers Circle, a global community for self-healing. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller "How to Do the Work," and her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," guides readers on breaking cycles, finding peace, and healing relationships. Dr. LePera is known for her approachable, transformative approach to mental wellness, empowering individuals to heal themselves and live authentically.

    Nicole talks about how our earliest experiences shape our adult relationships. She explains the concept of trauma bonds—dysfunctional patterns that often stem from childhood but persist into adulthood, affecting how we connect with others. These bonds can feel familiar and even comforting, but they often prevent us from forming healthy, fulfilling relationships.

    Jay and Nicole explore how awareness is the first step toward breaking these patterns. They emphasize the importance of understanding our subconscious beliefs and the roles we play in relationships, often unknowingly repeating cycles of pain and misunderstanding. She talks about the importance of staying present, learning to regulate our emotions, and building healthier habits that align with our true selves, and offers practical advice on how to navigate the complexities of love, whether it's setting boundaries with toxic family members or letting go of unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to recognize trauma bonds

    How to break the cycle of reactivity

    How to set healthy boundaries

    How to cultivate self-awareness

    How to develop emotional resilience

    How to foster a growth mindset in relationships

    Remember, every moment is an opportunity to choose differently, to show up for ourselves with kindness, and to build the relationships we truly deserve.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro 03:44 You Create Change 06:58 Toxic Family Members 11:21 Change is Voluntary 14:33 Deep Rooted Emotions 18:35 Why We Struggle in Relationships 22:58 The Unmet Needs 27:27 We Project What We Think to Others 34:29 Familiarity with Chaos 38:18 Is It Genuine Love? 41:55 Panic Attack 48:54 Chronic Illness 53:54 Countering Beliefs 57:17 Physiological Shifts 01:01:11 What is a Trauma Bond? 01:04:25 Attraction Based on Familiarity 01:06:24 Inner Child Work 01:09:41 The Habit of Showing Up Authentically

    Episode Resources:

    Nicole LePera | Website Nicole LePera | Instagram Nicole LePera | Facebook Nicole LePera | TikTok Nicole LePera | YouTube Nicole LePera | LinkedIn How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

    Special thank you to Kajabi. Visit: https://kajabi.com/JayShetty

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  • What lessons have you learned from your past 12 months?

    How have your goals evolved over the past months?

    Today, Jay reflects on the 12 key lessons he has learned over the past year. He begins by discussing the idea that the seeds we plant—our actions and intentions—manifest as either flowers or weeds, the importance of pursuing meaningful actions for personal fulfillment rather than external validation, and how to distinguish between setting goals and choosing growth, underscoring that genuine progress requires a commitment to personal development rather than simply aiming for outcomes.

    The episode highlights the importance of protecting one's purpose from external distractions and maintaining a clear focus on one's path, the challenges we face as opportunities to grow into who we're meant to be, and the concept of defining experiences proactively to shape our own narratives rather than letting circumstances dictate our identities.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to handle envy with love

    How to act for fulfillment, not praise

    How to focus on growth, not just goals

    How to guard your purpose from distractions

    How to use challenges to evolve

    How to stay open to unexpected help

    Stay open to the unexpected, protect your passions, and choose growth over comfort. By doing so, you not only transform your own life but also inspire those around you to do the same.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    02:29 Lessons Learned in the Past 12 Months

    03:50 #1: The seeds you planted in the past will grow into flowers or weeds today.

    07:08 #2: Envy will erode your life.

    10:27 #3: People forget things quickly, do the right thing and what's meaningful to you.

    13:06 #4: Everyone sets goals, not everyone chooses growth.

    15:00 #5: Don't let anyone deter you from your purpose.

    16:45 #6: Your challenge is designed for you to become who you're meant to become.

    18:37 #7: You'll let things define you if you don't define them first.

    19:35 #8: Help can come from unlikely sources in unlikely ways.

    21:34 #9: Try to see things as an invitation, not an impediment.

    24:07 #10: Sometimes to get to your dreams, you have to take the stairs, the elevator, or come through the roof.

    25:17 #11: The people you leave behind will feel left behind no matter what you do.

    26:35 #12 Love is not enough.

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  • Are you struggling to overcome your past trauma?

    Are you looking for ways to heal from it?

    Today, Jay sits down with renowned reggaeton artist and songwriter Nicky Jam. Nicky's music career took off after a series of successful mixtapes and collaborations with other artists, including Daddy Yankee, with whom he formed the iconic duo Los Cangris. His work has earned him international fame and multiple awards, establishing him as a major influence in the reggaeton and Latin trap genres.

    Nicky recounts his first foray into music, packing groceries and freestyling at a supermarket, which inadvertently launched his career despite his young age and the informal nature of his work. He opens up about the difficulties of his upbringing, including his mother’s struggle with substance abuse and prostitution, shaping his understanding of normalcy and family life. This background set the stage for his initial break into the music industry, where early rejections and setbacks paved the way for his eventual success in the Puerto Rican mixtape scene and beyond.

    Together with Jay, Nicky also discusses the challenges of maintaining authenticity and personal happiness amidst fame, expressing discomfort with being seen as a role model and emphasizing the importance of understanding and support for mental health, especially for men in the public eye. Despite ongoing struggles with PTSD, anxiety, and the scars of his traumatic past, Nicky remains hopeful and driven, looking forward to continuing his career and making a positive impact through his work and personal experiences.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to handle early setbacks

    How to deal with the pressure of expectations

    How to use personal struggles as a source of strength

    How to maintain creativity under pressure

    How to find redemption through new opportunities

    How to help others through your work

    Nicky's story demonstrates that with unwavering determination and a genuine approach, it's possible to transform challenging beginnings into legacies of success and enduring influence.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro 03:12 Earliest Childhood Memory 04:06 First Deal 06:44 I Was Happy with the Album 08:15 Life on the Streets 12:06 There’s a Different World Out There 15:22 Looking for Billy 17:20 Simpler or Complicated Life? 19:05 Commands Don’t Work on Me 24:58 Battling Alcohol Addiction 31:06 Drug and Alcohol Problem 34:20 Finding Help 36:40 Feeling Alone 39:18 Almost Dying 42:52 Prison Life 45:59 Moving to Columbia 52:00 My Mom is Different 54:48 Do You Pray a Lot? 58:01 Reconciliation 59:49 Forgiveness 01:05:31 I’m not Retiring 01:09:24 My Album is My Story 01:10:11 Some Misunderstanding People Have 01:12:37 Surgery and Recovery 01:13:46 Talking is Therapy 01:15:12 Nicky on Fast Five

    Episode Resources:

    Nicky Jam | Website Nicky Jam | Instagram Nicky Jam | Facebook Nicky Jam | TikTok Nicky Jam | YouTube

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  • Do you feel unproductive?

    How can you boost your daily productivity?

    Today, Jay talks about how to become productive without feeling burned out. In a world where productivity often leads to burnout, Jay offers practical and transformative strategies to help you achieve more while reducing stress. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by an endless to-do list or struggling to manage your time effectively, this episode provides the tools you need to reclaim your focus and energy.

    Jay shares the importance of creating a workspace that fuels productivity and how subtle changes, like scent and sound, can enhance your environment. He also highlights the significance of workplace trust and how identifying whether an issue is people- or system-related can save you time and energy. He wraps up with insights on "monk mode," a method to achieve deep focus in the midst of distractions, and encourages listeners to experiment with these principles to find what works best for them..

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to focus on one task at a time for better productivity

    How to identify key drivers of success

    How to lean into your momentum for maximum output

    How to use a 'to start' list instead of a to-do list

    Tune in to discover how to be productive without compromising your well-being, and walk away with actionable tips that you can implement immediately.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    02:29 Burnt Out Already?

    04:03 Tip #1: Doing One Thing at a Time

    10:10 Tip #2: Clean Your External Space

    12:40 Tip #3: Create a To-Start-List

    14:17 Tip #4: Give Yourself Positive Validation of Task Completion

    18:51 Tip #5: No Email Until 10AM

    19:47 Tip #6: Goal of the Day, Goal of the Week

    22:03 Tip #7: Know When is Your Most Productive Time

    23:41 Tip #8: Create a Space of Workplace Trust

    26:21 Tip #9: Focus on What’s Causing Success or Failure

    27:42 Tip #10: Lock Into Your Task

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  • What's a simple negotiation trick you can try today?

    How can you get better at persuading others?

    Today, Jay welcomes former FBI lead international kidnapping negotiator and author of "Never Split the Difference", Chris Voss. He is renowned for his innovative negotiation strategies that emphasize empathy, emotional intelligence, and tactical communication. After retiring from the FBI, Voss founded The Black Swan Group, a consultancy firm that provides negotiation training for businesses and individuals. He is also a popular speaker and has taught negotiation at various business schools.

    Chris discusses his journey from being on a SWAT team to becoming a lead FBI negotiator. He shares that his career path changed after a knee injury and his growing interest in crisis response led him to hostage negotiation where he found the work more satisfying than his previous roles, emphasizing the importance of decisive action in crises.

    Chris and Jay discuss how human beings are naturally wired to be negative as a survival mechanism, which impacts negotiations. He reframes negotiation as a collaborative process rather than a confrontational one and suggests that effective negotiation often goes unnoticed because it looks like seamless collaboration. They also talk about gender dynamics in negotiation, with Voss providing advice on how women can better negotiate in environments where they might be undervalued.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to calm tense talks

    How to negotiate with narcissists

    How to disarm aggression

    How to foster collaboration

    How to build rapport

    In any situation, effective negotiation is not about winning at all costs but about creating a shared path forward that benefits everyone involved.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro 01:23 Becoming a Lead Negotiator 04:08 Suicide Hotline Conversations 08:03 Labeling the Negative Emotions 09:35 Negotiation Isn’t a Form of Conflict 14:59 How to Get Someone to Collaborate with You? 21:15 How Do You Slow Down? 25:10 How Do You Prepare for a Negotiation? 29:54 Biggest Negotiation Mistakes 31:42 Always Look for the Patterns 40:20 Used and Taken Advantage Of 44:21 The Illusion of Control 46:17 What’s Your Intention? 48:37 How to Negotiate a Better Salary? 50:49 Reward Strategy in the Workplace 53:33 Negotiating Unfulfilled Salary Raise 58:57 How Can Women Negotiate Better? 01:00:57 Negotiations That Don’t End with a Deal 01:05:03 Work with the ELFs 01:11:05 Polite Boundary Setting 01:16:29 How to Not Be Emotional When Negotiating 01:22:08 Are You in the Right Relationship? 01:25:55 Respecting Other People’s Values 01:30:52 Tactical Empathy Documentary 01:34:01 Chris on Final Five

    Episode Resources:

    Chris Voss | Website Chris Voss | Instagram Chris Voss | LinkedIn Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It

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  • How did you realize they weren't the one for you?

    How did you cope with the heartbreak?

    Today shares a detailed exploration of the emotional journey involved in recognizing and accepting that someone you once believed was "the one" for you, wasn't actually the right person. Often, it’s common for people to convince themselves that someone is the perfect partner, even before that person has committed or shown signs of being a suitable match. This can lead to heartbreak when the relationship fails, but it’s okay because the person wasn't truly right for them either.

    Jay also discusses the importance of understanding whether the person was truly healed from past wounds or whether they were presenting a version of themselves that wasn’t authentic. Consider the idea that sometimes people stay in relationships out of fear of being alone rather than genuine love or connection. And if a partner is unable or unwilling to engage in meaningful conversations, they might not be the right person.

    In this episode you'll learn:

    How to recognize when someone isn't right for you

    How to focus on your partner's reality, not ideals

    How to prioritize meaningful conversations

    How to stay self-aware after a breakup

    How to balance emotions in a relationship

    Remember, it's okay if someone wasn't the one for you—what matters most is that you remain true to yourself and continue to seek the love and connection you deserve.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:54 They Weren’t For You and That’s Okay

    05:04 #1: When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them

    09:09 #2: They Never Showed Up When It Mattered

    10:55 #3: They’re Still Healing

    12:41 #4: They Kept Saying We Can’t Do This

    16:37 #5: You Were Chasing the Whole Time

    18:53 #6: They Made You Feel Detached

    19:13 #7: You Are More Scared Of Being Alone Than Be With Them

    20:58 #8: They Couldn’t Open Up in Meaningful Conversations

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  • How do you help your children build confidence?

    How do you teach your kids to be resilient?

    Today, Jay welcomes Dr. Aliza Pressman. Aliza is a developmental psychologist with nearly two decades of experience working with families and healthcare providers. She is the host of the Raising Good Humans podcast and an expert in parenting strategies and child development. Dr. Pressman is also the author of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans, where she offers practical advice and insights for parents looking to raise emotionally resilient and well-rounded children.

    Aliza begins by discussing whether everyone should become a parent and emphasizes the importance of being intentional and reflective before making that decision. She suggests that potential parents should think about their own values and how they want to approach parenting. She explains that having a strong, secure bond with a child is crucial for their development and that this bond can evolve over time, even if there have been mistakes along the way.

    Some children are more sensitive and require a specific environment to thrive, while others are more adaptable. She encourages parents to be mindful of their child’s unique needs. The discussion moves on to discipline and encouragement. Dr. Pressman suggests that discipline should focus on teaching rather than punishing, with clear boundaries set for the child’s safety and well-being. When it comes to building confidence, she emphasizes that helping children develop skills (competence) is more effective than simply giving praise.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to handle parenting guilt and shame

    How to set boundaries for your child

    How to build your child’s confidence

    How to discipline effectively

    How to foster independence in your child

    How to build a secure attachment with your child

    By focusing on building secure attachments, setting clear boundaries, and fostering independence, parents can create a nurturing environment where their children can thrive.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro 02:57 Should Everyone Be a Parent? 04:29 How Do We Get to Be Who We Are? 05:50 Secure Attachment Relationship 07:15 Feeling of Guilt and Shame as a Parent 11:07 Tiny Moments to Build Resilience 15:31 The Tendency to Overcorrect 17:03 What is Effective Reflection? 21:44 Learn to Reflect with Your Children 26:31 Failure as a Parent 31:14 Different Forms of Communication with Children 35:10 What is the Right Approach to Discipline? 39:10 Three Parenting Styles 41:36 Tension and Rejection Can Be a Motivation 45:34 Dealing with a Child Who Doesn’t Want to Open Up 50:12 Your Presence is Important 51:46 How to Have a Social Media Conversation? 57:12 How to Raise a Confident Human? 01:01:40 Allow Kids to Showcase What They Learned 01:05:53 Adults Can Work on Themselves 01:07:23 Aliza on Final Five

    Episode Resources:

    Dr. Aliza Pressman | Website Dr. Aliza Pressman | Instagram Dr. Aliza Pressman | Facebook Raising Good Humans The 5 Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans

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  • How often do you check your phone daily?

    Do you feel anxious when you’re away from your phone?

    Today, Jay addresses the growing concern of excessive phone and internet usage, exploring its detrimental effects on mental and physical health. He begins by explaining how activities like swiping, liking, and commenting on social media provide our brains with dopamine hits, which can create a cycle of dependency and compulsive behavior. Despite the benefits of technology, such as increased connectivity and access to information, many people feel less connected and more distracted, anxious, and impatient.

    Jay elaborates on the neurological aspects of dopamine and its role in pleasure-seeking behaviors, emphasizing that problems arise when we expect constant rewards from our online activities. He draws parallels between the brain's response to food and its response to digital consumption, advocating for a balanced approach that avoids overindulgence in either.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to become more conscious of your internet use

    How to have wifi-free meals

    How to replace morning phone use with healthier habits

    How to stay mindful when using technology

    How to engage in a cell phone detox

    The ultimate goal is to create a healthier, more intentional relationship with technology, leading to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:46 On Your Phone All the Time?

    05:32 Losing Control Over Phone Use

    06:19 Six Steps to Phone Detox

    07:01 Dopamine

    11:23 People Aren’t As Happy As Before

    13:39 How Often Do You Check Your Phone?

    14:27 Cortisol

    17:26 Step 1: Become More Conscious

    19:19 Step 2: Wait an Hour Before Going Online

    21:18 Step 3: The WiFi-Free Meal

    23:45 Step 4: Watch What You Consume Online

    24:54 Step 5: Limit Potions

    25:48 Step 6: Intermittent Fasting

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  • How can you start letting your guard down in love?

    How can you become more open and vulnerable in your relationships?

    Today, let's welcome Alexis Ren and Allie Michelle. Alexis is a model, entrepreneur, and social media influencer with over 18 million followers on Instagram. Known for her advocacy of mental health and self-empowerment, Alexis has leveraged her platform to promote wellness and personal growth. She is also the co-founder of "We Are Warriors," a female-driven wellness community focused on fostering self-love, strength, and growth among women worldwide.

    Allie is a bestselling author, spoken word artist, and certified yoga, breathwork, meditation, Reiki, and craniosacral therapist. She is passionate about holistic health and personal development, which she incorporates into her work. The duo are the co-founders of "We Are Warriors," a female-driven wellness community focused on fostering self-love, strength, and growth among women worldwide.

    Alexis and Allie's friendship began when they were preteens and they share how their relationship has been a cornerstone of their personal growth, providing mutual support through life's challenges. A significant turning point in their friendship occurred when Alexis's mother passed away, leading to Allie’s family adopting Alexis.

    A significant theme throughout the discussion is the balance of masculine and feminine energies, which Alexis and Allie explore in depth. They describe how these energies play out in their lives and work, with Alexis often taking on a more masculine, action-oriented role, while Allie embodies a more feminine, intuitive approach. They emphasize the importance of recognizing and honoring both energies within oneself and in others, as this balance has been crucial in their personal and professional lives.

    Alexis and Allie also address the societal pressures that women face, particularly around beauty standards and career expectations. Both women emphasize the importance of breaking free from limiting beliefs and societal expectations to find deeper fulfillment and authenticity.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to support a friend

    How to manage criticism

    How to build a strong friendship

    How to stay authentic

    How to handle creative blocks

    How to empower others

    Embrace the balance of your masculine and feminine energies, break free from societal expectations, and empower each other to thrive on the journey to self-discovery and growth.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro 03:38 Beginning of a Friendship 08:25 Growing Together Independently 10:21 Going Through Big and Small Changes 15:19 Creative and Emotional Intelligence 18:30 Validating and Complimenting Each Other 21:59 Types of Archetypes 27:18 What's Holding Women Back? 29:46 Start Embracing Your Feminine Energy 33:38 Why Did It Trigger You? 41:00 How to Prepare for Life 45:23 Living an Internally Peaceful Life 52:44 Balance Between Masculine and Feminine Energy 01:02:25 Dealing with the Imbalance in Your Energy 01:07:00 You Can Do Uncomfortable Things 01:10:16 The Best Journaling Practice 01:14:39 Speak to Your Subconscious 01:16:55 Try Leaning Into the Moment 01:23:27 Relationship Checklist 01:28:38 Alexis and Allie on Final Five 01:37:46 Giving Each Other the Grace of Change

    Episode Resources:

    Alexis Ren | YouTube Alexis Ren | Instagram Alexis Ren | Facebook Alexis Ren | TikTok Allie Michelle | YouTube Allie Michelle | Instagram Allie Michelle | TikTok Allie Michelle | Books We Are Warriors

    Special thank you to Kajabi. Visit: https://kajabi.com/JayShetty

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  • How does unresolved trauma impact your life?

    How can you rewire your brain to overcome trauma?

    Today, in the On Purpose podcast, Jay sits down with actress and LGBT advocate, Laverne Cox. Laverne’s groundbreaking performance on "Orange Is the New Black" made her the first openly transgender person to be nominated for a Primetime Emmy Award. In addition to her acting career, Laverne Cox has been involved in various advocacy and awareness campaigns, making her a significant figure in the ongoing struggle for transgender and LGBTQ+ rights. Her work has contributed to greater visibility and acceptance of transgender individuals in the entertainment industry and society at large.

    In this episode, Laverne and Jay dive deep into transgender rights, media representation challenges, and how empathy can make a big difference in our divided world. They also discuss how fake news and false information on the internet can be a problem and why learning how to spot them is crucial.

    Laverne also shares personal experiences and insights that shed light on the struggles and triumphs of the transgender community. She also talked about the need for structural change, greater investment in education, and the role of love and empathy in promoting understanding and healing.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    The power of personal stories in changing perceptions and fostering empathy The struggles and rights of transgender individuals in society Ways to challenge and correct misconceptions about transgender individuals The importance of uncomfortable conversations and understanding why having difficult discussions is essential for growth and progress.

    Remember that understanding and empathy can bridge even the widest divides, and it's through collective efforts that we can work toward a more inclusive and compassionate world.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro 01:10 Childhood Memories That Define Who Laverne Is Today 10:51 Reparenting Her Inner Child 18:27 Why Is Denial Unhealthy? 25:05 Try To Let Go Of All Your Thoughts 27:43 The Fear and Freedom of Growing Older in Hollywood 31:13 Unlearning Transphobia and White Supremacy 46:06 Fight for Trans Rights and Mental Wellness 59:03 Bridging the Divide Through Thoughtful Conversations

    Episode Resources:

    Laverne Cox | Instagram | Laverne Cox | X Laverne Cox | Facebook Laverne Cox | TikTok

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  • How do you deal with negative people close to you?

    How do you stay positive around negative people?

    Today, Jay welcomes Robert Greene, known for his bestsellers like "The 48 Laws of Power" and "The Daily Laws." Robert's works draw on historical figures and events to provide insights into the dynamics of power and social influence. His books are often used as guides for personal development, leadership, and understanding the complexities of human interactions.

    Robert shares tips on dealing with negative people, emphasizing the importance of emotional distance and understanding that everyone has their flaws and shares his thoughts on the idea that our sense of self is just a mental construct, and real enlightenment comes from letting go of our egos. He also stresses the importance of questioning your beliefs to truly understand who you are and what you’re meant to do in life.

    Followed by Jay and Robert's discussion on why it's more important to judge people by their character rather than their intelligence or charm, how a strong character is shown by handling criticism well, working well with others, and managing stress. They also talk about how modern life can make us less empathetic and the need to genuinely connect with others.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to deal with negative people

    How to develop empathy in modern life

    How to question your own beliefs

    How to stay true to yourself

    How to handle criticism constructively

    How to manage stress effectively

    By understanding the nature of the self, maintaining emotional distance from negativity, and focusing on genuine connections, we can foster a stronger sense of empathy and authenticity in our lives.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro 05:31 How to Deal with Negative People? 09:04 Look Behind the Mask 13:26 Getting Attracted to the Wrong People 15:02 Filling Up the Emptiness 17:23 Surprising Characteristics in Humans 19:10 Our Capacity for Empathy 21:31 What’s Your Most Repeated Thought? 22:34 How Quiet the Mind 24:54 Becoming More Aware 30:20 How We Process What We’re Experiencing 33:42 Who Really Are You? 37:44 How People Think About You 41:00 People’s Perception of You 43:46 The Before and After 46:57 Timeless Knowledge in Books 49:58 What Makes You Excited? 53:16 The Second Self 55:57 The Core of Your Reality 59:21 Limited Language 01:01:41 The Limited Circle of Harmony 01:04:49 Different Thoughts About the World 01:11:04 Slowing Down 01:13:21 Robert on Final Five

    Episode Resources:

    Robert Greene | Website Robert Greene | Instagram Robert Greene | TikTok Robert Greene | YouTube Robert Greene | Books

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  • What’s blocking you?

    What’s holding you back?

    Today, Jay talks about the concept of self-sabotage, examining how it manifests in various aspects of our lives and offering strategies for overcoming it. Self-sabotage is defined as behaviors that undermine our own success, happiness, and stated goals. These actions often occur subconsciously, rooted in deep psychological patterns formed during early childhood.

    Jay outlines four primary ways people self-sabotage: chronic lateness, procrastination, putting oneself down, and perfectionism. He also discusses the habit of putting oneself down, which can manifest through over-apologizing or refusing to take credit for accomplishments. This behavior is often linked to low self-esteem or an internalized critical voice from childhood.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to Recognize Self-Sabotage

    How to Stop Putting Yourself Down

    How to Change Negative Self-Talk

    How to Understand Your Triggers

    How to Set Boundaries

    By understanding and working through these patterns, you can unlock your full potential and achieve the success and happiness you desire.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:08 What is Self-Sabotage?

    05:41 Passive-Aggressive Behavior

    08:22 Behavior that Counters What We Tell Ourselves

    11:08 What Leads to Self-Sabotage?

    14:26 #1: Chronic Lateness

    16:22 #2: Procrastination

    19:53 #3: Putting Yourself Down

    23:15 #4: Perfectionism

    27:01 Three Ways to Deal with Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior

    28:53 weird noise in the background

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  • What was your biggest challenge after hitting rock bottom?

    How did you manage to overcome your failures?

    Today, let's welcome the one and only Fat Joe, a renowned American rapper and music industry executive. He began his music career in the early 1990s and quickly gained recognition with his debut album "Represent" in 1993, featuring the hit single "Flow Joe." Fat Joe has played a crucial role in promoting other artists, notably Big Pun, who achieved significant success before his untimely death. His journey from the streets of the Bronx to international stardom is a testament to his talent, perseverance, and enduring impact on the world of hip hop.

    Fat Joe provides an honest look at the gritty realities of his early life, including hustling for money and living through dangerous encounters. He shares how the aggressive nature of hip hop initially required him to hide his true, more personable self behind a tough exterior. However, he credits the genre for saving his life and offering a legitimate path out of the streets.

    The conversation takes a turn as Fat Joe talks about the devastating losses he endured, including the deaths of his sister, Big Pun, and his grandfather, all within a short span. These tragedies plunged him into a deep depression, from which he emerged with the help of therapy, highlighting the importance of mental health and seeking help. Despite facing financial mismanagement and betrayals, Fat Joe maintains his integrity and commitment to his values.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to balance career and family

    How turn negative experiences into positives

    How to build a resilient mindset

    How to give back to your community

    How to stay true to yourself

    Fat Joe's story is a source of inspiration, demonstrating that with determination and support, it is possible to overcome adversity and achieve lasting success and happiness.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    Special thanks to Soho Home at Soho Works 55 Water where the taping took place.

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro 02:04 Earliest Childhood Memory 03:52 Bullying 07:53 Developing resilience 08:37 Life and Death Choices 09:51 Thug Life 12:42 Ambition to Succeed 16:43 Figure It Out 22:03 Family Tree 27:43 Losing Family Over Addiction 31:57 Loss and Grief 39:21 Sister Love 41:13 Big Pun 46:56 Financial Literacy 50:19 Take Care of Your Parents 52:13 Money and Trust 56:25 Stick Around 57:44 Kids with Special Needs 01:02:30 Channeling Energy Through Music 01:04:30 Interview Gone VIral 01:08:30 Doing Good in Silence 01:11:05 The HipHop Culture 01:13:30 Spiritual and Healing Journey 01:16:34 Hair Care 01:19:47 Weight Loss 01:25:02 Joe on Final Five

    Episode Resources:

    Fat Joe | Instagram Fat Joe | TikTok

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