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    You’ve probably heard “it’s not how you start, but how you finish” and as cliche as it has become, it is such a powerful statement. Just because life starts out rough and harsh doesn’t mean it remains that way. Vanessa Lachey is a wife, mother, actress, model, and so much more and yet having her mother leave at the age of nine has not held her back. She shares with Lisa the perspective she’s developed over the years that has lead to her success and the release of her first book, Life from Scratch. Vanessa wants everyone to know that “creating your own happy ending,” traditions and happiness is always possible and within reach. If a life of shame and darkness or a string of failures and mistakes make it difficult to see how, she urges you to simply start with a time when you were your happiest and recreate from there.

    To Purchase a Copy Vanessa’s book ‘Life From Scratch’: https://www.harpercollins.com/pages/lifefromscratch

    SHOW NOTES:

    New Tradition | Vanessa explains how she found her way to start a life from scratch [0:46]
    No Regrets | Why living a life with no regrets started with knowing what you want [5:18]
    Friend Traditions | Nurturing bonds with friends being intentional to stay connected [9:02]
    Romantic Traditions | Making sure you don’t let important moments pass by big or small [13:15]
    Saying No | How to say no to stress and anxiety to make room for what matters no guilt [16:21]
    Self Care | Vanessa on what self care is for her to feel refreshed and better for others [19:36]
    Communicating | How communication helped strengthen Vanessa’s family and marriage [23:41]
    Future Rehearsal | Reframing mistakes, reshape the future, be prepared for what’s next [26:32]

    QUOTES:

    “You can make it happen! No one's going to bring you the job, no one's going to bring you the husband, it's not going to land in your lap. You have to be open to receiving it, to accepting it, but also [...] working on yourself to be ready for when it comes." [3:30]

    “The hardest thing about friendship is reciprocity, where we always want to know that people have our back when we're down, but we don't ever think to reach out to them.” [11:00]

    “In the moments of overwhelm or stress or anxiety, where's like that those are the times you really don't feel like it. But of course, those are the times that you really need it.” Lisa Bilyeu [16:22]

    “Finding ways to say no to other things that will stress you out or give you anxiety to be able to say yes to the things that matter.” [16:32]

    “People are really appreciative when you're like, ‘I'm going through a lot right now, and I think I over committed, can we raincheck, I don't know when ’” [18:04]

    “When you hold it in and you blow up, you end up beating yourself up or you end up hurting someone close to you and then beating yourself up for hurting them.” [23:22]

    Follow Vanessa Lachey:
    Website: https://www.vanessalachey.com/
    Twitter: https://twitter.com/VanessaLachey
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessalachey/?hl=en
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VanessaLacheyOfficial

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    It seems like everywhere you look, society is constantly reminding us that successful, powerful women are failing at dating. In a survey that was listed this year on mantelligence.com states 64% of women prefer to find a husband who earns more money! So, are successful women raising the bar too high, expecting too much and are men feeling the pressure of having to step up their game and their status way higher than before? Being strong, independent and successful doesn’t necessarily come with an ego or attitude for women. So what is the best way for you to approach dating when you have your shit together and don’t want to be single?

    Tom joins Lisa in this discussion and explores why at the root of this situation is a much needed conversation and a good working insecurity filter. It is important for women to understand that while there may be men that are intimidated by your success, there are also men that are confused by the mix of messages they are receiving from women. While one woman expects a man to pay for dinner another is easily offended. Have conversations while navigating the dating scene and meet people with compassion for where they are.

    Survey mentioned: https://www.mantelligence.com/dating-statistics/

    SHOW NOTES:

    Facing Reality | Women being successful shrinks the dating pool, men want to lead [0:26]
    Is It Insecurity? | Being intimidated is not insecurity, it can be what you want to be better at [3:55]
    50/50 | Making a safe assumption half of men are insecure the other half aren’t into it [12:40]
    Filter Insecurity | Why it’s not worth dating someone insecure and intimidated by you [14:58]
    Attraction | Being attracted to what matters and enjoying what you’re better at matters [21:17]
    Confusion Dating | Awareness that some women catch offence to a guy paying or not [24:36]
    Feel Good | Understand both of you have something you are good at than the other [29:46]

    QUOTES:

    “Deal with the world the way it is not the way that you wish it were.” Tom Bilyeu [0:55]

    “Feel good is an angle that people need to look at, instead of just writing everything off as insecurity.” Tom Bilyeu [9:04]

    “With utter compassion, you clearly have insecurities that you need to work through, or find someone that isn't actually successful or wealthy as me, and that's totally fine.” Lisa Bilyeu [15:27]

    “Have compassion for the people that have the insecurities” Lisa Bilyeu [16:40]

    “Guys are judged by their height and access to resources, it's the fucking way that it is. Women are judged for beauty and youth, it's the way that it is.” [17:46]

    “It's the differential. It's being good at something that you're not good at. It's you being good at something I'm not good at. That's what people like.” [24:26]

    “While us women find ourselves in a situation where it's difficult because we want to be our own person, we want to be independent, we want to be around wealth creators, and yet, we still want this.” Lisa Bilyeu [26:32]

    “People should very much avoid for their own reasons, avoid moralizing, or saying this is how people should be and help people move to where it is mutually better.” Tom Bilyeu [28:00]

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  • When you hear about influence, maybe you think of influential people or you immediately think of social media influencers. Have you considered, however, your own influence? To varying degrees we all have some level of influence over someone or something. You probably have more influence than you take credit for and acknowledge. So, how are you using your influential power and do you know when and how to activate it and get the most out of it?

    Evy Poumpouras, a former secret service agent, is sharing her own strategies of influence so that you can find creative ways to connect with people and stop getting steamrolled over. Having influence and knowing how to activate that influence is another ingredient for becoming unstoppable. In the first episode of this series, we talked about confidence, in the next episode Evy and Lisa took a deep dive into the skills you need to start using your voice. In this episode it’s time to add another layer and look at how to effectively off balance people’s perception of you and better adjust and navigate to the people and situations all around.

    You can use these strategies to get people to say yes, stay in the forefront of their mind, and connect in a more authentic way.

    Influential Terms:

    Priming: exposure to one stimulus influences how a person responds
    Reciprocity: exchange of something between two or more people where something is given
    Stereotype: widely held and oversimplified idea of a particular type of person or thing
    Common Ground: opinions or interests shared by two or more people

    If you didn’t catch it the 1st time:
    1st Episode of Unstoppable, Be Confident As Hell: https://youtu.be/kZ7R1T2GCQA
    2nd Episode of Unstoppable, Use Your Voice: https://youtu.be/_vG_OcS5QiA


    SHOW NOTES:

    Priming | Tips for priming people you need to influence [0:57]
    Pink Is Life | How to influence Evy into wearing pink on set [12:32]
    Do Something for Them | Evy explains the idea of reciprocity [14:35]
    Branding | The way you see yourself vs. the way others see you [24:08]
    Swag Bag | Lisa reveals what’s inside Women Of Impact’s Swag Bag [31:27]
    Common Ground | How to find common ground or create it [33:28]
    Influence in Action | Evy shows how all these strategies work [48:32]


    QUOTES:

    “This is not about manipulating people, this is about setting you up so that you understand people, understand behavior and put them in a space where they feel comfortable and feel connected to you.” Evy Poumpouras [6:34]

    “As long as you’re not manipulating or as long as You just don’t want this stuff to come off as disingenuous when you use influence techniques” Evy Poumpouras [41:35]

    “We are resistant to things we don’t understand, we are negative towards things we don’t know, and we really want to break down those barriers and find the threads that connect us.” Evy Poumpouras [46:25]

    “If you can just simplify people and find ways to connect and find that human element [...] how can I make you feel good about being with me and because I do that now I’ve influenced you to want to have a relationship with me.” Evy Poumpouras [48:12]

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    A study referenced by the National Organization for Women, states that 53% of 13 year-old American girls are unhappy with their bodies. By the age of 17 the percentage of girls unhappy with their body increases to 78%! This isn’t a fad that ends when you reach womanhood, at least it doesn't seem to be the case for 60% of women surveyed in the U.K. How you feel about your body affects your confidence when you're dating and when you become more sexually active.

    “Hands down, men and women say confidence is the sexiest trait in and out of the bedroom” Dr. Emily

    So if you’re not feeling confident with your body image what are you supposed to do? Dr. Emily Morse returns to Women of Impact to give a lesson on confidence and some practical tips you can try right away! Being confident about your flaws and the parts of your body that you feel most insecure about is critical.

    3 Ways To Boost Your Sexual Confidence (In and Out Of the Bedroom):
    1. Make eye contact with yourself in the mirror
    2. Look at yourself in the mirror in the nude and admire yourself.
    3. Sign up for a pole dancing class or sensual dancing

    SHOW NOTES:

    Self Confidence | Dr. Emily on the importance of taking time to learn about yourself first [0:58]
    Body Confidence | Why getting to a place of body acceptance is important to feel sexual [4:59]
    Insecure Flaws | Acknowledging your physical flaws isn’t attractive or the right move [10:40]
    The Journey | How confidence is a practice, and a tool you use to get what you want [14:42]
    Aging Body | Celebrate your changing body and know that you deserve sexual pleasure [18:12]
    Reprogram | Dr. Emily gives practical ways to surround yourself with realistic images [22:15]
    Dating Confidence | How to show the real you when dating and not be confidently fake [26:39]
    Body Counts | Dr. Emily warns you to never discuss how many people you slept with [31:24]
    Good For You? | Why you should stop performing to please your partner and speak up [35:07]
    Sex Positivity | Becoming sex positive and sex confident with no judgement [43:07]

    QUOTES:

    “We're not going to pick always the best partners, if we're just coming from desperation, or coming from a place of lack, or coming from a place of a deep insecurity that this person is going to complete me.” [1:51]

    “A lot of women, too, are also focused on the external part of sex, which is how they look, and we're in our heads the whole time. But when we're in our heads, worrying about sex the whole time, the blood is washing away from our journals, and it's going to our head.” [13:15]

    “I am my own worst critic, we are our own worst enemies. If we can also remember that, it's just really important to take a step back. Your thoughts are not the truth, and your thoughts are actually something that is keeping you from living the life that you want and finding the partners you want.” [21:47]

    “You're choosing somebody whose difficulties you can work with, who's challenges you can work with.” [30:59]

    “Never have this conversation, the body count conversation, or it used to be how many people you slept with [...] you should never have this conversation because we are setting ourselves up for failure.” [32:03]

    “Find the partners that are invested in pleasure that have a growth mindset around sex, and pleasure..” [39:31]

    “Before we go inward and start to beat ourselves up, just have a conversation, have a healthy conversation and remember to be open, and to be curious, and to be non judgmental, and to be an active listener.” [42:50]

    Follow Dr. Emily Morse:
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/
    Twitter: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily
    Website: https://sexwithemily.com/
    Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6rOdElQl90RMJq3rlwwGmK

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    When was the last time you felt triggered? Was it a week ago? A few days ago? Within the last hour (no judgement here by the way)? Feeling triggered can not only make you feel threatened but it can also make you feel vulnerable and out of control in a situation. With stress and the potential for added stress on the rise everyday it’s more important than ever before to learn what’s triggering you and how to deal with it.

    Lisa’s taking your questions and opening the floor to discuss emotional triggers so you can be better equipped and prepared the next time it happens. The best part is that in this Q & A, Lisa is being completely honest and transparent about how hard it really is to tackle your triggers while remaining cool, calm and collected. In this episode, we’re going to give ourselves permission to try, fail and escalate when the situation demands it of us to honor ourselves. It matters how you feel about yourself at the end of the day. When you lay down at night to rest, you want to be proud of how you showed up, how you stood up for yourself, and how you
    responded without shame or embarrassment. Losing control, being mistreated and taken advantage of is a choice you make every day. Now Lisa is going to show you how to make that a conscious choice you can be proud of.

    Lisa’s Empowering Tips & Takeaways:

    1. Remember how you felt the last time you lost control and use it to rewrite how you'll
    respond next time.
    2. Empathy can be a superpower when you have the right boundaries in place.
    3. Don’t allow someone else’s emotionally charged stay to dictate your emotional response.
    4. When you need to show up for yourself, ask yourself, what's more important, being there
    for yourself? Or not offending people?
    5. Know what kind of language to use in sticky situations so you can better handle them
    and honor your boundaries to get the results you want.

    SHOW NOTES:

    Anger | How to not be triggered by emotions but stay cool, calm and collected [0:15]
    Empathy | How empathy triggers boundaries needed to avoid being mistreated [8:08]
    De-escalation | How to not get triggered by someone else’s emotional turmoil [15:03]
    Guilt | How to stop being triggered by the guilt of being too assertive [24:48]

    QUOTES:

    “When you meet anger with anger, there's nowhere to go but up” [3:45]

    “When it comes to people crossing your boundaries when it comes to you feeling like you are mistreated by your friends or people are taking advantage of you, that is a freakin 'choice.” [10:10]

    “Stop dictating your actions based on how other people are going to perceive you, or whether you've hurt them or upset them or not.” [28:18]

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    If you have ever dated someone and created expectations long before a commitment was ever discussed, or fallen victim to being gaslit and thinking you were crazy because of the person you were involved with, this episode is for you. Being single is great when it’s your choice, and you have other goals that rank higher on your list of priorities. But, when being single feels like an involuntary life status and no one you date seems to be working out, what are you supposed to do? We’ve pulled together 7 Tips for dating and getting rid of unreasonable expectations to help you find love in a healthy relationship that allows you the space and environment you need to thrive. These 6 relationship experts break down everything from why you have to stop trying to be the problem solver when he tells you why he doesn’t have time for you to reasons why you have to start prioritizing sex and stop getting too far ahead of yourself.

    “Instead of going in with a curiosity, we go in with a conclusion.” Matthew Hussey

    Also check the full episodes from any of these amazing clips here:
    Matthew Hussey, Relationship Expert:
    https://youtu.be/ny2KL8mYyFE
    https://youtu.be/pse1IbIc7vM
    Spirit, the Professor: https://youtu.be/2dkk3D8tXDs
    Steph Purpura & Emily Morse: https://youtu.be/uTKIe8iVKls
    Najwa Zebian: https://youtu.be/xWWSgnIGIRg
    Stephan Labossiere, Relationship Coach: https://youtu.be/V96AzU8JZXA
    Emily Morse: https://youtu.be/KLukArHg-vk

    SHOW NOTES:

    Tip #1 | You Get Ahead of Yourself [0:38]
    Bonus | Matthew Hussey’s 4 Stages of Importance [5:10]
    Tip #2 | You’re Not Actually Compatible [10:54]
    Tip #3 | You Don’t Know How to Communicate [19:07]
    Tip #4 | You Ignore Your Past [27:04]
    Tip #5 | You’re Not Mature Enough [32:33]
    Tip #6 | You Don’t Prioritize Sex [36:53]
    Tip #7 | You Lack Self Awareness [41:18]


    QUOTES:

    “Instead of watching a story unfold, we've created the story before it's happened [...] so now what happens is our mind takes the 5% of what we know and uses it to build a story for the next 95%.” Matthew Hussey [2:06]

    “You are hiring for the most important position on Earth. And that position is for your life mate. And that's how we have to see dating” Spirit [13:45]

    “I had to understand how I got myself to a point where my whole self worth and my whole image of who I was, and understanding of who I was, was in someone's hands” Najwa Zebian [30:38]

    “Just because someone took advantage of those needs, and of those dreams, it doesn't mean that something was wrong with me for wanting them, we all want love” Najwa Zebian [31:31]

    “Recognize the difference between the person who does not belong in our life and continues to do wrong, and the person who does belong in our life, but makes mistakes.” Stephan Labossiere [35:36]

    “As soon as you're having sex with somebody, it's time to start talking about it.” Emily Morse [40:19]

    “At least allow your knowledge of how long you've been in the past to create the space for you to be curious instead of rushing to the end of the story already.” Matthew Hussey [45:10]

    Follow Matthew Hussey: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/
    Follow Spirit: https://www.instagram.com/talk2spirit/
    Follow Steph Purpura: https://powerful-u.com/
    Follow Emily Morse : https://sexwithemily.com/
    Follow Najwa Zebian: https://najwazebian.com/
    Follow Stephan Labossiere: https://www.stephanspeaks.com/

  • Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. More than 70% of people say they have regrets related to their ideal self. If you’re a human, you’ve most likely been in relationships and situations that spark regret, shame and confusion on what to do and who to be in the moment. So often, people spend time trying to please everyone around them. The way you dress, the way you style your hair, where you sit in the meeting, all of these decisions are so easily influenced by a want and desire to be given approval from the right people. But what about you? What do you want? How often are you spending time apologizing for feeling, and even better how often are you downplaying that you even feel anything? Najwa Zebian is an activist, poet and celebrated author. She joins Lisa for a second time to discuss how she came to radical self acceptance, and share the startling fact that we may actually be gaslighting ourselves when we diminish and disregard the pain we feel when vulnerability has been betrayed in the hands of the wrong person. Najwa’s Questions for Self-Acceptance: 1. Who are you? 2. Why do I believe what I believe? 3. Why do I live my life the way that I do? 4. Why am I scared of X, Y and Z? 5. Why are you so afraid of feeling pain? “When you build your home and other people you give them the power to make as homeless” -Najwa Zebian SHOW NOTES: Gaslighting Yourself | Why diminishing your painful experience lessens your self-worth [0:40] Homeless | How we build homes in others and end up homeless when they walk away [6:37] Toxic Savior | Trying to save someone doesn’t mean you’re owed anything, that’s toxic [9:47] Proof of Love | Examining the real cost of having someone love versus what you receive [16:03] Self-Aware | The need to be aware of your triggers and the filter you’ve created for life [19:56] Self-Acceptance | Self-acceptance versus indifference and know who you’re accepting [25:59] Identity Crisis | Najwa shares the personal crisis that made her question her identity [33:59] Being Hurt | Why you need to acknowledge the hurt and know healing in your power [39:30] Vulnerability | How to be open to vulnerability after being hurt even in protection mode [45:24] Unwinding Triggers | Finding the origin of your triggers and allow yourself to feel it [51:56] Self-Judgement | Not blaming or judging yourself for allowing things to happen [55:36] QUOTES: “You should never be okay with being treated that badly. You should never be okay with being betrayed. You should never be okay with having someone you trusted so much to turn around and treat you as if you never meant anything to them. You should never be okay with that.” Read by Lisa [0:46] “Don't push yourself to a point where you gaslight yourself out of your own pain” [2:09] “When pain knocks on your door, if you keep it out the door, yeah, it might stay there for a while, but you're adapting your life to noise in the background.” [5:45] “The foundation of your home is self acceptance and self awareness. Once you have those two elements, you can build whatever home you want within” [9:23] “Let me separate what I've chosen to give you from what you've chosen to reciprocate” [12:47] “You don't deserve someone's burdens to be placed on your back for them to believe that you actually love them.” [17:18] “Once you become aware of yourself, historically, and in the moment, you're golden” [25:49] “The one who broke you cannot heal you. You have to heal you. You can't expect the person who broke you into pieces to bring those pieces and say I'm gonna put you back together.” [42:32] “Vulnerability is beautiful, it is what's needed for connection to happen, but vulnerability [...] is being open to injury” [44:14] “Boundaries aren't about being in protection mode. Boundaries are about knowing that what you have within is so valuable that you will not allow certain people to come near it or hurt it or whatever. Boundaries stem from self worth.” [48:46] “The ending itself is not what you need to change, the storyline is what you need to change and that's in your hands.” [1:01:20] Follow Nejwa Zebian Website: https://najwazebian.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/najwazebian Twitter: https://twitter.cokkfdlk dfmlkfd m/najwazebian Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/najwazebian1 Podcast: https://najwazebian.com/stories-of-soul-podcast

  • Check out our sponsor: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Building a successful business takes confidence and some level of skill no matter who you are. As women, there are sets of challenges we face that have to become part of an intentional way through to success. Natalie Ellis and Danielle Canty are the genius inspiration, muscle and energy behind the infamous online community for ambitious women, BossBabe. Even after building an 8-figure business they share how imposter syndrome is still something to be dealt with at every level of success. They share the lessons and wisdom they’ve found along their journey and explain how to start having the right conversations to change your upper limits and reimagine what is possible. This episode is about having the understanding of the many forms of confidence it takes to be a successful entrepreneur and a Badass BossBabe! SHOW NOTES: Imposter Syndrome | Why imposter syndrome meets you at every level of success [0:35] Mindset | What it looks like being all in, getting resourceful, & deciding where to go [6:54] Competence | Finding confidence in what’s unknown through growing competence [9:06] Capabilities | How women doubt themselves more and ways to have more confidence [12:39] Confidence | Recognizing what your good at and celebrating yourself and others [14:32] Receiving | People struggling to receive compliments without deflecting back [19:26] Recognition | Why being recognized is important and can create positive spiral [22:28] Communication | Being open to conversation, being more efficient, avoiding triggers [25:19] Managing Emotions | Advice to manage emotions in business & personal relationships [29:15] Triggered | Being triggered and learning to work through it and not taking feeling as truth [34:33] Lifestyle | How lifestyle decisions impact confidence, productivity, and your responsibility [37:00] F.O.M.O. | Pursuing your goals and sticking to your decisions over what you miss [46:03] Money Talk | Why women are uncomfortable talking about money & the need for more [51:04] Upper Limit | Pushing through upper limits to find success without overwhelm [1:02:09] QUOTES: “Give yourself a reality check and do it anyway. There really is nothing that is going to set you up for success more than just being willing to do something, getting resourceful, leaving your excuses at the door and not waiting for anything to be perfect.” Natalie Ellis [1:28] “A lot of my imposter syndrome was doing the things that I actually wanted to do, and the thought of not doing them then became worse or like the thought of not achieving the goals became worse than the imposter syndrome.” Danielle Canty [3:09] “You have to own how you're feeling. So that you can start addressing it head on.” Danielle Canty [5:51] “If you're all in with something, you get resourceful. I can't say that enough, getting resourceful being the kind of person that just figures it out.” Natalie Ellis [7:31] “When you look at people who are famous or experts in the industry, they start at nowhere, like they started at the beginning to” Danielle Canty [12:17] “The people around me that actually matter will celebrate that I'm celebrating myself. And if they don't, I can't be around them.” Natalie Ellis [15:54] “If you struggle to receive, it's actually very hard, [...] like you actually repel that too, because you're just not good at receiving anything: knowledge, money, love any of it.” Danielle Canty [21:18] “You have to take responsibility for your words, your actions, everything. If you want to change your life, if you want to do something new, if you want to, if you don't like the situation, you have to take responsibility.” Danielle Canty [27:17] “Your only success was going to be mentally and physically capable of being.” Danielle Canty [39:16] “I don't have FOMO so much because whatever I'm missing out on is a choice.” Natalie Ellis [46:54] “Choosing an easy life now leads to a harder life later. Choosing a hard life now leads to an easy life later.” Danielle Canty [50:38] “If women are serious about building wealth it's important to really acknowledge that, and claim that, and not be ashamed to talk about it.” Natalie Ellis [53:40] “You get to change your narrative around money, you get to learn about money, and you get to understand how other people use money is part of the process.” Danielle Canty [55:39] Follow Natalie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamnatalie Follow Danielle Canty: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellecanty/ Follow Boss Babes: Website: https://bossbabe.com/ Podcast: https://bossbabe.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bossbabe.inc/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/teambossbabe/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6h1nurnE-9auq41a5oiPnA

  • This episode is brought to you by Evy's new course Becoming Bulletproof: How To Read People And Detect Deception. Go to http://Bulletproof.ImpactTheory.com to learn more. Though we all know how important communication is for literally every relationship you have, very few have taken the time to learn how to do it well. When communication is not done well, relationships suffer, individuals suffer and the consequences can be high stakes. If there’s any chance of your communication needing improvement, you’re in the right place. Grab and pen and paper, you’ll want to take notes and add this to your favorite playlist to listen to again. Evy Poumpouras is a former secret service agent and an Unstoppable Badass, here to lay out everything you need to know about communication alongside Unstoppable Badass, Lisa Bilyeu. Spoiler Alert! This is about you, and the tactics you can learn and practice to improve your communication skills to build rapport. It’s not about what the other person should do. Unstoppable Women of Impact Tips: ● Build rapport ● Tell the other person exactly what you’re looking for Evy’s Strategies for Building Rapport 1. Acceptance: recognize what is being said without trying to change or protest it. 2. Adaptability: able to adjust to new conditions or circumstances. 3. Autonomy: having the capacity to make informed and uncoerced decisions. 4. Empathy: ability to see from the other person’s perspective Unstoppable Communication Questions to Ask: ● Who are you speaking to? ● Who is that person? ● How do I speak to this person? ● What is your goal and what is the best way for you to achieve that goal? Unstoppable Key Terms: Rapport: The ability to understand and communicate with people Mirroring: When one person imitates how the person across moves, talks or acts Identify Based Motivation: Where perception of self motivates you to take action toward a goal Instrumental Based Motivation: The end state is what’s motivating the person to take action Relational Motivation: The way that two or more people are connected Order Evy Poumpouras’ book, Becoming Bulletproof: https://amzn.to/3hDQ4e4 SHOW NOTES: Build Rapport | Eva on why established rapport is a ping pong match for communication [0:45] Strategies | 4 ways to build rapport and keep people talking and communicating [1:41] Using Strategies | Example for using these strategies with close relationships & situations [8:07] Building Blocks | How building rapport establishes connection, trust and faith [10:23] Close Relationships | Handling rapport and these strategies with close family & friends [13:28] Being Adaptable | Not being so rigid, allowing people the space y build rapport [16:15] Lisa’s Rapport | Lisa shares behind the scenes ways that she builds rapport with guests [17:51] Get In Synch | Identity motivation vs instrumental motivation & getting to cooperation [19:26] Cooperative Zone | When you find a way to move the conversation forward together [26:53] Motivation | Eva explains how to use base motivations to get in synch and adapt [33:20] Identity Vs. Instrumental | Lisa and Eva showing you how it’s done [34:03] Choose Your Words Thoughtfully | Define words that you use, comply vs. resist [35:40] ‘No’ | Improving ways that you say no with compassion and without being harsh [41:38] ‘Sorry’ | Ways that language diminishes you when you apologize for everything [43:13] Word Play | How words land with people: powerful, shut people down, provoke reaction [46:25] Word Challenge | Lisa & Eva share how different words make them feel [47:13] QUOTES: “When it comes to communication, rapport is king. When you have rapport you have trust. When you have trust you have cooperation.” Evy Poumpouras [0:48] “I have someone who’s giving me no trust, and I want to move that relationship forward, I do it through rapport.” Evy Poumpouras [8:00] “People don’t remember what you say to them, what people remember is how you make them feel.” Evy Poumpouras [26:23] “Rather than me trying to change you, I’m going to adapt to you.” Evy Poumpouras [29:23] “Language can also diminish you and there are some people who their language is littered with, ‘I’m sorry’ and I think when you use that language when it lands on that person, it lands in a negative way for you.” Evy Poumpouras [43:39] Follow Evy Poumpouras: Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/

  • Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Girls begin going through puberty as early as 8 years old. From the moment you become aware of your body and people begin commenting on your changes, shame, discomfort, and confusion begin to settle in. While we all settle into our bodies in different ways and at different ages, the harsh reality is that 53% of American girls are not happy with their bodies by 13 years of age and by 17 the amount of unhappy girls grows to 78%! Behind the onslaught of body image issues and societal pressures that mark the barometer of where you fall on the ‘acceptance meter,’ are a mounting number of quietly misdiagnosed hormonal issues. Dr. Sara Gottefried is a Harvard and M.I.T. graduate, medical physician, and NY Times bestselling author of, The Hormone Cure. She shines light on the issues women are having with being properly diagnosed, treated and even heard on health issues that have been sold as not being related. As females, the number of factors that impact our hormones, our moods, our ability to function and feel like we have worth and value is mind-blowing. Dr. Gottfried is sharing some of the issues, their sources, how to resolve them and most importantly how to speak up confidently for yourself. She’s debunking myths about what’s the best diet for you and misconceptions around the “man hormone” testosterone and why it’s so critical for female health. “Genetics loads the gun and food pulls the trigger” SHOW NOTES: Misconceptions | Ways women can take ownership of their health and transparent risks [0:51] Testosterone | Why testosterone can cause problems with confidence and empowerment [4:15] Hormones | Identifying hormonal issues, and why cortisol is a big concern to watch for [7:13] Precision Medicine | How it starts with diet, lifestyle, & nutrition observed with wearables [13:34] Average Treatment | Dr. Gottfried shares reality of how medicine for the average works [16:58] After 40 | How hormonal changes affect women and allows us to speak our truth more [20:35] Food Plan | How to use elimination diet to assess how food is impacting your health, [24:15] Eating for Hormones | Connecting the dots between your food, hormones and mood [32:05] Body Messages | Stop ignoring the messages your body is sending you [38:33] Antibiotics | The havoc antibiotics caused Dr. Gottfried’s microbiome, changing it by 87% [43:28] Feeling Shame | How shame is holding you back from being honest about your health [46:29] Confidence | Feeling okay with challenging your doctor and getting hormones checked [52:38] Fertility Value | Women not given full evaluation and tests based on not wanting kids [54:52] Gut Related | Dr Gottfried explains why gut health has everything to do with estrogen [57:10] Nutrigenomics | How genetics predict food and nutrient response to gluten, salt, caffeine [58:30] QUOTES: “Whatever you're experiencing, is your truth, and you don't need a doctor to validate that for you.” [2:35] “When it comes to your hormones. Your food is the backbone of the hormones that you make.” [32:10] “What is a perfect meal for you today might be different than 10 years ago might be different than five years from now.” [36:32] “Women have such clear messages about what's going on in their body, and yet were invalidated when we bring them to our doctors.” [38:56] “It is normal for women to be moody. I just want to normalize that right now, that is totally cool, like that is our superpower to use our moodiness to use our willingness to speak our truth...” [47:56] “A big part of stepping into our power is not just not allowing a physician to disrespect you, but to not do it to yourself, like not reinforce the habit by putting up with it.” [54:11] “Medicine is set up to reinforce fertility in women.” [55:34] “Genetics is part of the story. Environment is a bigger part of the story. So, the way that we sometimes think of it is that genetics loads the gun, but environment pulls the trigger.” [1:01:27] “So much It is under your control the choices you make with food, the time that you go to bed tonight, the amount of morning sun that you get the, the people that you feed yourself with…” [1:04:59] Follow Sara Gottfried: Website: https://www.saragottfriedmd.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrGottfried Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saragottfriedmd/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrGottfried/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drgottfried/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrGottfried

  • Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Boundaries don’t push people away, they can actually make relationships closer. Anna Yusim says, “the stronger your boundaries, the closer you can get to somebody.” Have you ever stopped to think about boundaries in that way? I’m sure many of you, myself included, are guilty of thinking if we have stronger boundaries we’ll end up pushing people away. The fear we face of disappointing people or somehow offending them can easily keep us stuck in a space of not honoring ourselves. This episode is for all the strong women (even if you don’t feel strong every day) that need a little more assurance that it’s not only okay to have boundaries, but it’s essential to the health of your relationships and critical for your own mental health. Start standing up for yourself (no one else can) and prioritize you, your needs, and what matters for you to flourish in the life you choose to live. SHOW NOTES: Tip #1 | Communicate Your Boundary [0:34] Tip #2 | Set Boundaries with Those Close to You [5:34] Tip #3 | Know Who’s In Your Corner [14:03] Tip #4 | Get Clear on Your Priorities [18:30] Tip #5 | Separate work from your personal life [22:20] Tip #6 | Stand up for yourself [27:30] Tip #7 | Decide if the boundary is worth breaking [32:15] QUOTES: “A lot of times it means them changing, it means them experiencing you differently. It might mean them not having that role that used to play for them performed anymore, and they might need to find somewhere else to go with that need.” Nicole Lepera [2:31] “To know your own boundaries, you have to be comfortable enough with yourself to really feel in real time what you're comfortable doing versus not.” Anna Yusim [6:01] “Not every person in your family can help you promote growth, and to create an environment for you to incubate hope some people are blowing your candle out while you're trying to get the flame going” Sara Jakes Roberts [14:20] “What I do need to carefully covet and protect is my time because I can't get more of that.” Chalene Johnson [22:06] “Assertive is clearly stating what you want or need, being mindful of your tone, and trying to say it in the right setting.” Nedra Glover Tawwab [28:46] “If you're trying to turn these healthy habits into a lifestyle, you have to learn how to hold your boundaries in those social situations.” Melissa Urban [35:03] “There's no guilt, there's no shame, there's a consequence, and the only person who can decide at that consequences worth it is you” Melissa Urban [37:34] Follow Anna Yusim: https://www.annayusim.com/ Follow Sara Jakes Roberts: https://sarahjakesroberts.com/ Follow Chalene Johnson: https://www.chalenejohnson.com/ Follow Nicole Lepera: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ Follow Natalie Ellis: https://bossbabe.com/ Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Follow Melissa Urban: https://whole30.com/

  • Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. At what age did you become aware of your body? How long after becoming aware of your body did you start to feel shame or embarrassment? When your walking down the street, sitting in a class, at work, or scrolling through social media, everywhere you look, consciously or unconsciously you are silently judging others and judging yourself. Maybe you think to yourself, ‘she’s so pretty,’ ‘at least I have more curves than her,’ or ‘she’s too skinny (or fat).’ From Khloe Kardashian to Billie Eilish, from your grandmother to your best friend and the last woman you saw today, everyone seems to be struggling with body image, self-love and confidence. Emme, the first plus-size supermodel that flipped modeling industry standards for how thick or thin is actually beautiful, joins Lisa and discusses her experience getting into modeling and on her first big photo shoot, being called a ‘fatty’.Emme is an international ambassador and champion for changing beauty standards to help “real” women embrace and love the body they have. She is speaking out against unrealistic standards and talking about leveling up your life, your vibe, your passion and purpose for living. For more information on eating disorders and body image issues, Emme highly recommends: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/ SHOW NOTES: Big Photo Shoot | Photographer refuses to work with Emme. This was her response [0:31] Not About Me | Emme on why it's more about where the other person is coming from [4:31] Fear | Identifying when people are coming at you from a place of fear and bullying [7:45] Body Dysmorphia | Think about what your relationship is with food and view of self [8:53] Comparison | Emme on why comparison is problem, know what’s right for you first [12:11] Solutions | Limiting social media, knowing yourself and connecting to nature is a start [15:00] Gratitude | Reframing gratitude and having appreciation for your body and soul [19:15] Confident | Emme shares how she found confidence in spite of body shaming at home [22:48] Empowered | You choose your journey and how you decide to feel, it’s empowerment [29:51] Self Talk | How to talk to yourself & counter negative self talk, you’re a work in progress [33:38] Self Acceptance | Love yourself and be free with who you are in the present moment [35:33] Passion |How to live a full with joy and a meaningful life with purpose on purpose [38:36] QUOTES: “If I let one person trip me off of my game, that's my fault. [...] you don't know where people come from with their own ideas of body image” [3:31] “The goal is always to be the master of your own universe” [10:49] “It touches me deeply when you can really get into that place of gratitude, and thankfulness when it's all hairy and crazy all around you and you can save yourself” [19:15] “You learn and then you go forward, and it's like life was presenting me with opportunities to get beyond that, but not to forget it.” [27:04] “Set yourself free to be able to to be okay with just exactly who you are in this present moment. Not a second later. Not a second from before, but right here. And now.” [35:35] “go for what really gets you so excited that [...] gets you so excited that when you talk about it and when you're engaged with it, that you feel it all throughout your body and you know that that moment of truth is real.” [39:41] “Go for what really gets you so excited that I'm goosebumps and pumps all over gets you so excited that when you talk about it and when you're engaged with it, that you feel it all throughout your body and you know that that moment of time Truth is real.” Follow Emme: Website: https://www.emmestyle.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/supermodelemme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theofficialemme/?hl=en

  • This episode is brought to you by Evy's new course Becoming Bulletproof: How To Read People And Detect Deception. Go to Bulletproof.ImpactTheory.com to learn more. In this special episode Lisa and Evy tag team and bring you into their world of confidence and share all the tips you need to walk into your day with the most confidence. As Lisa shares, competence is confidence, and this episode is about empowering women to become more confident and learn what it means to be unstoppable. Former Secret Service Agent and friend of the show, Evy Poumpouras, never disappoints and challenges you to reflect on all that you’ve overcome and everything you’ve accomplished to give your confidence an immediate boost. Think about your daily habits and examine if those habits are building your confidence or diminishing your confidence. TIPS FROM THIS EPISODE: ● Don’t be afraid to raise your voice ● Be proactive to avoid being reactive ● Use clothes to feel confident and also affect how others perceive you ● Don’t let people's negative perception of you affect how you present yourself ● Being authentic to yourself helps you feel grounded and confident ● Shift and adapt to what you are doing and how you feel A CHALLENGE FROM EVY: Write a list of the greatest accomplishments and difficulties you’re overcome. SOMETHING TO TRY ASAP FROM LISA: Put on your best outfit and say out loud, ‘I got this,’ ‘I’m confident,’ ‘I’m unstoppable!” Order Evy Poumpouras’ book, Becoming Bulletproof: https://amzn.to/3hDQ4e4 SHOW NOTES: Confident Woman | How to step into a space with comfort of being woman not stereotype [0:50] Watch Self Talk | Flip negative voices so you are not tearing yourself down with words [4:00] Confident Now | Looking at your accomplishments can help boost your confidence now [11:00] The Inner Voice | Listen in on the inner voice Lisa and Evy use to push through training [14:15] Over Prepare | How preparation is the secret to confidence, over preparing is peace [15:18] Proactive | The value of having a plan in place, not being reactive, just being prepared [21:20] Lisa’s Prep | Quick peak into how Lisa prepares for another amazing interview [25:54] Look Confident | What you wear has an effect on the way you act & feel about yourself [27:07] Identity | Remaining confident and not having your identity tied solely to how you look [37:17] Camera Ready | Behind the scenes of how Evy and Lisa get ready to show up confident [42:24] QUOTES: “Confidence is not like genetics, you either have it or you don’t. I really think it’s like a skill you cultivate [...] I think you build it by gaining competence.” Lisa Bilyeu [6:07] “50% is what the world does to you but 50% is you. This you can manage, and so if you want to be those things and you want to change those things, it’s something you can do.” Evy Poumpouras [13:21] “When I’m over prepared, it’s one less thing I have to worry about.” Evy Poumpouras [16:36] “I am proactive at prepare, prepare, so that when things happen I am less reactive. When you’re reactive you’re sloppy, you’re emotional, you’re in that moment, you’re going to make mistakes, you’re not sure.” Evy Poumpouras [23:20] “We shift and adapt to how we’re feeling in that moment to what we’re doing, or maybe what we’re trying to feel.” Evy Poumpouras [39:41] Follow Evy Poumpouras: Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/ Check out our AMAZING theme song by Lorenzo Taft here: https://open.spotify.com/album/12AV0W5m9SyUBE7GG6Liw8?si=LAp9IIl1TzSgAUWIZ5tA4Q&dl_branch=1

  • Check out our sponsor: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! So, you’re up early, get the kids ready (or not), grab a coffee and you’re running out the door to start another- busy day. The problem is everyday is a busy day, and the reality is that a majority of women (and men too) never feel like there are enough hours in the day. This leads to more stress and more anxiety. Add to all this the fact that in 2020 it was estimated the average person was spending almost 2 and a half hours on social media every day. This would be okay, except that Dr. Wendy Suzki points out that continuous exposure to news and social media is contributing heavily to anxiety and stress. According to Dr. Wendy, there are healthy levels of stress you need in your life, and there are detrimental levels of stress and anxiety that do you no favors. So how do you cope with all the added stress? Avoid it? Pretend it’s not a thing, or even worse, spiral out of control ? There are free, simple, very portable and easy ways to effectively lower levels of “everyday stress and anxiety.” Dr. Wendy Suzuki is a Neuroscientist and Psychology professor that brings movement, joy and fun into brain science. This episode is best listened to before your next anxious situation or immediately after if it’s too late. Order Dr. Wendy’s new book, Good Anxiety, Harnessing the Power of The Most Misunderstood Emotion: https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1982170735?tag=simonsayscom SHOW NOTES: Value of Anxiety | Dr. Wendy on why anxiety is a protective emotion that is really valuable [0:41] Identify Anxiety | Dr. Wendy explains how anxiety shows up and useful tips to calm down [4:30] Self-Reflection | How to productively reflect on your anxiety to rebalance with positivity [8:40] Connection to Smell | Dr. Wendy explains why smell is so effective conditioning memory [10:51] Foolish Reframing | Why calling failure a failure is healthier than pretending you don’t [17:10] ‘What If’ Playlist | Dr. Wendy explains how to turn worry into action with a positive effect [25:44] Social Stress| Being prepared for social situations and the danger loneliness is shocking [29:32] Get Moving | Dr. Wendy on power of movement with verbal information you can do now [34:45] 5 Points in Anxiety | 5 points to help emotionally regulate and get out of anxiety [36:24] Change Responses | Dr. Wendy explains why your brain is capable of change for better [39:42] Power Reminders | What you remind yourself matters and your brain can learn anything [41:44] QUOTES: “I like to call a big failure, a big failure. And I think it's healthy, to be able to, to be able to admit that and to learn from it, because everybody has failures.” [18:34] “Negative emotions, like embarrassment and fear and worry, are very useful for us.” [19:02] “We are human, we have this whole array of emotions for a reason, and the reason for those negative emotions is to help us learn, help us learn about ourselves, help us motivate ourselves.” [20:00] “It helped me realize how much wisdom comes from great pain.” [23:24] “Just because that scary person or that scary question is there doesn't mean you have to go there. You can tactfully and thoughtfully avoid that to decrease your anxiety.” [38:06] “The human brain is the most powerful structure known to humankind, and it was designed to learn.” [43:11] “You can train your brain to learn anything. If you remember that. That is the best mindset that you can go into life with.” [43:58] Follow Dr. Wendy Suzuki: Website: https://www.wendysuzuki.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/wasuzuki Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.suzuki/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WendyASuzuki/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-suzuki-5a509411/

  • Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. How many times have you come across that person that really sparks your interest and makes you want to get serious? What about that moment when you find out they’re not ready for a serious relationship, they just want to have fun, or go with the flow and see where things go. If you’re honest, how many mental gymnastics have you gone through to continue pursuing a relationship like that? You know they don’t want the same level of commitment, but you just feel like, ‘if only I hang in there long enough…’ Matthew Hussey is no stranger to Women of Impact and in this episode he’s addressing everything you need to know about commitment and why trying to commit and stick it out with someone who’s already told you they aren’t ready is not only foolish, but it’s high stakes and a total waste of your time. Matthew is the relationship expert many of you already know and love, but get ready because in this episode he’s going off to let you know how serious he is about the time you’re wasting on people that just don’t want a relationship. It’s hard truth ladies, but it’s a powerful dose of medicine you may need right now. Make sure to check out this FREE 30 Day Challenge from Matthew Hussey to build confidence: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/challenge/ SHOW NOTES: Committing | How dating apps and social media has made fear of commitment worse [0:59] Giving Yourself | Why it’s only painful in the wrong hands and choosing who to give to [6:36] Conditional Love | The costs involved with committing and how to assess what’s worthy [10:04] Energy Management | Protecting yourself from dating burnout from misplaced energy [13:50] Dating History | When a person’s character is questionable from their relationship history [19:00] Trust Yourself | Trust your gut and rely on people around you to make accurate decisions [24:16] Validation | Engineering answers you want to hear and not being honest about yourself [29:16] Communication | The purpose is making progress through the friction to get closer [32:39] Timing | Staying with someone not ready stunts their growth and wastes your time [41:00] Not Ready | When someone says they’re not ready what’s the best way to proceed [47:11 High Stakes | Why it’s arrogant to think you can change someone to want a relationship [50:15] QUOTES: “When we're away from someone and we're investing in them through our thoughts. Even if it's not visible to them, we're investing psychologically in the situation.” [3:10] “Take the beauty in what you gave, and know that in the right hands, that remains a beautiful thing.” [7:49] “The danger is if we say giving equals pain. No, giving doesn't equal pain. Ignoring things, ignoring the fact that I'm giving to the wrong person equals pain.” [8:29] “Romantic relationships are conditional, because who would want to be in a relationship long term with someone who never gave back?” [9:56] “Your game is not to worry about someone else. Your game is energy management for yourself.” [13:50] “I have a limited amount of energy. Not everyone can have it. And my heart isn't something I give. It's a house that I invite people into.” [14:36] “Character is something that you see in people's actions every day. It's not in a grand gesture. It's what behavior Am I seeing from this person every day” [20:40] “On a first date, your job is not to be a human lie detector. Your job is to see if what they're saying aligns with the kind of person you're seeing in front of you.” [24:19] “Every time we're hung up on a mistake we've made or something someone else has done, or whatever we're not, we're not living in the moment of what can be made beautiful now.” [40:16] “The fallacy is that, because I've invested this much time and energy, I now have to make it work. That is the easiest way to throw away your life.” [43:02] “Assuming that the relationship that evolves is going to fit the template that you want for somebody else, that's fantasy” [52:40] “You have all this pain staying here anyway. So at least have the pain that's a question mark. This pain is a period, it's not a question mark. At least leaving means possibility.” [56:34] Follow Matthew Hussey: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/ Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/

  • Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Real Good Foods: Click the link for $25 OFF any order of $25 or more! https://realgoodfoods.com/discount/WOMENOFIMPACT In what ways did last year’s pandemic impact you as an individual? Yes, it was disruptive to all of our daily lives, routines, and relationships, but what fundamentally changed about you as a person? Mel Robbins, author of the 5 Second Rule, joins Lisa for the first time on Women of Impact, and she came in so real, so raw and so authentic to her truth, her failures and how much she uncovered and found unhinged in her own life from the pandemic. If you’ve been dealing with any kind of self-doubt or if you’ve ever stood eye to eye with yourself in the mirror and felt disappointed, disconnected or unworthy this interview is going to speak straight to your core. Mel is sharing the power she found in giving herself a simple high and why this simple gesture that packs so much meaning may be the catalyst you need to start connecting with yourself again and start dealing with the truths and pain we’ve all ran from at some time or another. Maybe you’re still running. If you are, sit down, catch your breath, and dare to see yourself in a new light today. Order Mel’s new book, The High 5 Habit: https://www.amazon.com/High-Habit-Take-Control-Simple-ebook/dp/B096JQSWQ6 SHOW NOTES: The Imposter | Mel exposes feeling like a total failure leading up to her Impact Theory interview High 5 Attitude | How Mel developed a high five attitude in the middle of perceived failure Pursue Dreams | What happens when something becomes so important to you, it takes over High 5 Habit | How Mel formed the high habit standing in her bathroom on a bad day Mirror Moments | Mel breaks down the power of taking a moment in the mirror in the mornings Celebration | Mel exposes how self validation and celebration is hard wired & not to be denied Put Yourself 1st | How to acknowledge your own existence by fulfilling your own needs R.A.S. | Mel explains the reticular activity system as a hair net and a filter you control Visualization | Mel breaks down why visualizing the suck part of the process is more effective Responsibility | Mel on how you are your own responsibility and that’s liberating power High 5 Your Heart | Mel breaks down why placing your hands on your heart helps anxiety Stop Running | How being busy is a distraction from the need to face yourself, slow down! Self Relationship | Mel on the importance of loving and respecting yourself first regardless Failing to Win | Mel gives the difference between loser mentality and winning mentality Look Forward | Mel shares why you have to look at the best days ahead not what past QUOTES: “Your feelings are going to rise and they're going to fall, and feeling nervous and feeling scared and feeling on edge and imposter syndrome, it's all normal stuff. You’ve got to develop the ability to feel all that stuff, have your cheeks be as red as a baboon’s butt, and walk out there and do it anyway.” “You need celebration and support so that you can do those things that you deserve and you want in your life.” “When you realize you can change the filter in your mind, at any time, you can silence the bullshit you've been saying to yourself.” “Instead of visualizing the finish line, which is what we all want to jump to in life, right? Visualize all the crappy, horrible things you have to do, in order to get to the finish line. [...] If you just visualize the good stuff, you are not preparing yourself to do the work that it takes to get that stuff.” “You are not responsible for the shit that was done to you. Period. You survived it, which shows you're worth celebrating, but you are responsible for healing, for changing and for who you become next.” “Know that no matter what, you are going to be okay. Because you have your own back.” “Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of every single relationship that you have. If you don't love and respect yourself, how on earth are you going to do that for other people?” “At any moment, you can choose to change, but no one's going to come in and do it for you. You got to look yourself in the mirror and you gotta say ‘I see you. I see that you're not happy, and I'm going to fucking do something about it.’” Follow Mel Robbins: Website: https://melrobbins.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins

  • Relationships inevitably have arguments, fights, and disagreements, but are you experiencing them more than normal? Are they taking a toll on the relationship? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to address these questions and discuss how to overcome chronic fighting and begin loving each other instead. They talk about how arguing is a sign of deeper issues, why you need to choose compassion, the importance of reframing your partners motives and understanding their perspective, how to let go and move on from arguments, and tools you can use to deescalate any disagreement. SHOW NOTES: Constant Fighting | Lisa and Tom address a couple’s case of constant-explosive arguing. [0:35] Collision of Values | Tom and Lisa on how arguments are about something much deeper. [3:41] Choose Compassion | Tom and Lisa discuss strategically approaching problems. [4:34] Reframe Motives | Tom describes the letter he wrote himself to hack his neurochemistry. [7:30] Understanding | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need sympathy for your partner. [10:04] Fight for Them | Tom and Lisa reveal you need to know if you want to fight for them. [11:49] Let Go | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of truly letting go and moving forward. [13:39] Needs | Lisa recalls a time when both her and Tom’s deep needs weren’t in sync. [16:32] Tactics | Lisa and Tom discuss effective practices to keep yourself rooted in love. [19:31] QUOTES: “You can’t let dust settle in a relationship.” [2:10] “There’s a generosity of framing.” [10:04] “It comes down to people’s ability to make something sacred.” [21:12] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

  • Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Gaslighting is one of those words that once you hear about it, you think to yourself “that’s what I’ve been dealing with all this time!?” When someone is gaslighting you, they are undermining your reality by denying facts and making you think you’re crazy. You find yourself asking questions like: Am I at fault? Did I do something wrong? Am I crazy? Do I need to start recording my conversations? Nedra Glover Tawwab is joining Lisa in this episode to take a deeper dive into manipulation and more specifically, gaslighting. If you’ve been in a relationship where you weren’t even aware that you were being gaslit, or you didn’t have the word to perfectly capture all the craziness and frustration, this is for you! Knowing how to recognize it is the first step in knowing how to respond and avoid being a victim of gaslighting in the future. These are unhealthy relationships to be a part of, getting the knowledge you need so you can apply it in the future is the beginning of stepping into your power. 3 Impactful Ideas from Nedra: 1. It's completely okay to not be perfect. 2. Arguing is a choice. 3. Conflict is a growth tool. Check Out Nedra’s 1st Episode, Don’t Be Manipulated: https://youtu.be/RslMYasPpxo SHOW NOTES: Gaslighting | Nedra explains why most people don’t realize it’s happening Apologies | The harm of apologizing when it’s not your fault, not being given apology Change Behavior | Focus on the behavior first not the origin story, action is a must Arguing | Nedra breaks down why arguing is a choice, you do not have to engage Speak Up | Nedra on finding courage to stand your ground and say it’s not your fault Internal Work | Practicing how to externalize the internal dialogue you should be having Be Assertive | Nedra explains difference between assertive and aggressive behavior Behaviors to Stop | Nedra breaks down conflict, the need to be right and denying others Preferences | Nedra exposes why arguing is usually about preferences Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: Website: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nedratawwab/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/nedratawwab/_created/

  • We’ve heard it from every relationship advice column ever: communication is key. But what does that even mean? In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share their secrets for effective communication. Now you have the chance to learn easily what they had to learn with great difficulty to make their relationship last for over 20 years. After you watch this episode, you'll know why communication is the secret to a long-lasting relationship and how to communicate in the right way. Furthermore, Lisa and Tom share how to use the right love language with your partner. SHOW NOTES: Why communication is the secret to a long-lasting relationship and how to communicate in the right way. [1:02] How to use the right love language with your partner. [2:24] The one word that Tom should never use because Lisa gets very upset. [2:59] QUOTES: “I think the more areas you have specific, discussed, and agreed-upon rules of engagement, the better off you´re gonna be.” [0:46] “Let me tell you if you know certain words gonna rub the other person the wrong way, don´t use them in an argument.” [2:24] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0