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    Using Tinder in marketing campaign against sex traffing

    · The Persuaders Marketing Podcast

    The ICAD Awards are an opportunity for Ireland's creative talent in advertising and design sectors to showcase their best talent. Among the Gold winning campaigns for 2015 was that created by 8020 for their client, The Immigration Council.   Plus we explore the challenges of marketing to the older customer with founder of 20Plus30 Dick Stroud.   We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf TWe’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf We’ve just launched a new campaign on Tinder on behalf of the Immigration Council of Ireland to create awareness about sex trafficking in Ireland. It’s one of the first campaigns globally of this nature on Tinder, and raises awareness about the crimes behind sex trafficking and prostitution using Tinder profiles to tell stories about victims of trafficking. There are a large number of these profiles live on Tinder at the moment and feedback from people viewing has been great so far. - See more at: http://www.eightytwenty.ie/blog/tinder-sex-trafficking-campaign-immigration-council/#sthash.TkQI2jog.dpuf

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    Sex Gets Real 149: Bad sex toys & the truth of running a sex shop

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Enrollment for the 2017 Explore More Summit is OFFICIALLY open. The summit is free, runs for ten days, and features interviews with SOO many incredible thought-leaders. You can sign-up at exploremoresummit.com. It's been incredible creating these talks, so I hope you'll check it out. It all starts March 8th, 2017. This week, I'm so excited that Matie Fricker and Hunter Riley from Self Serve Sexuality Resource Center are here. We talk about community sex education, sex toy testing fatigue, and how they make their sex store welcoming and empowering. Matie goes deep into toxic toys and what happened when they gave customers a choice between toxic and non-toxic toys. Plus, their testers have to fill out an 8-page survey about each and every product the store carries. We also dive into bad sex toy design, the ONE product that Matie has been searching for for 10 years and has not found a decent one, orgasm stuckness and toy loyalty and why that can inhibit pleasure, and my frustration with sex classes... why do blowjob classes consistently sell out at stores across the country but not cunnilingus classes? Yeah. Let's name it. Don't forget to send in your sex confessions! I created a guidelines page for you. February theme is surprises. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources mentioned in this episode Hunter's blog post all about the drama at UNM's sex week That Travel & Leisure article on hotel sex that I mentioned in the intro. About Matie Fricker Matie Fricker is a smut peddling sweetheart with a deep love for the odd and tender. She owns Albuquerque’s best sex shop, Self Serve Toys. Self Serve is a shiny bubble of love and safety for those seeking pleasure and joy in their lives. One of her proudest accomplishments was causing Rush Limbaugh to say “female orgasm” on-air multiple times. Matie has been awarded the 2008 Tough Cookie Award from the National Association for Women Business Owners, Best Sexy Shop in ABQ’s Alibi Weekly Newspaper for 9 years and Albuquerque Pride’s Outstanding Retail Store Award. About Hunter Riley Hunter Riley is the manager of operations and outreach at Self Serve, a sex educator, speaker and social media maven. She helps young adults find their voice and comfort level around conversations about sex and sexuality. After earning degrees in psychology, Spanish and journalism, she moved on to teaching classes in English and Spanish about pleasure, sex toys, communication, safer sex, consent, oral sex, kink, non-monogamy, birth control and more! She has authored several sex columns for newspapers and online media outlets in New Mexico including the Daily Lobo, the Santa Fe Reporter and Albuquerque Free Press. She has partnered with organizations like Planned Parenthood, the University of New Mexico, UNM Hospital, Enlace Comunitario, Santa Fe Care Center and more. Anyone interested in hiring Hunter or learning more about the services she provides can contact Hunter via email: hunter@selfservetoys.com for more information. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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    Sex Gets Real 191: Face sitting, cheating, & hating your body

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    My porn workshop, Hands Down: A Workshop on How Porn Can Heal, Connect, and Be Ethical, is now streaming. Check out the details at dawnserra.com/porn. Let's talk about the porn! Here's that funny article I was giggling over called, "20 Things Guys Have Actually Said to Me In Bed." Now, on to your questions. Brittany wrote in seeking sexy kink events near her. The best place to go for kink events is Fetlife.com. You'll want to keep an eye out for munches and conferences. Because Brittany is in Massachusetts, she might also want to check out The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health in Rhode Island for workshops. Plus, Joellen Notte lists Oh My! Sensuality Shop and Good Vibrations in Massachusetts on her superhero sex shop map. Basically, any feminist sex shop will have classes and workshops that could be a fun way to meet folks. A listener wrote back with an update. They found a friend to watch them have sex and it's turned into a fun threesome situation. Yay! Jen wrote in because apparently there was a shit-show on another sex podcast where the guest did some major body shaming and had some sexist ideas about getting desire back. I love knowing people can turn to Sex Gets Real and Explore More Summit for more inclusive conversations. Ha. As sex educators and therapists, we have a responsibility to examine our advice and our stories to ensure we aren't hurting people further. Fatphobia is one of those things we must confront and rewrite as experts. Nugget wrote in with some words of love. Nandi is fat and confused and needs help with her changing body. She's getting bariatric surgery and wonders if there's a way to find ease in her body without surgery. I have so many thoughts, including the importance of checking out all the talks at exploremoresummit.com because they're all about this VERY topic. You never have to love your body. You are allowed to do whatever you need to do to survive. If you want to start diving into resources about fat stigma, self acceptance, fatphobia, and fighting diet culture, the resource page I created (which is growing) is a great place to start. Your body is NOT the problem. The problem is our culture, our fatphobic doctors, our media consumption. I highly recommend Hanne Blank's, "Big, Big Love", Elle Chase's, "Curvy Girl Sex", "The Intuitive Eating Workbook, "The Fat Studies Reader", and all the other books on the resource page mentioned above. We have to prioritize our needs. We have to prioritize our body. We will always disappoint someone and people will always feel like they have a right to comment on our body or threaten us with "health" concerns. Finding people who can help support us as we exist in our body, as it is, is crucial. Mastadon is a horny hubby. He and his wife opened their relationship temporarily a few years ago, and even though she doesn't want to do that again, he can't stop thinking about it. He wants adventure and new lovers and he feels like she just isn't adventurous or open to that sort of thing. He doesn't want to be a cheating piece of shit (his words), but he really wants to have new sexual experiences. So often these questions are about avoiding discomfort and awkwardness. But that's just not possible. You have to evaluate what you most value, what you're most curious about, and then make some tough decisions. You are either committed to your relationship, which means uncomfortable conversations and finding ways to feel expressive and creative inside of it. Or, if your pleasure is more important, then transitioning out of the marriage might be the discomfort you need to move into. Our partners may be open to changing things, but we cannot force them or manipulate them into it. Getting a sex coach or a sex therapist can be a good place to start, just to help the conversations to be more open and vulnerable. Honesty and integrity are not about comfort. They take practice and moving into uncomfortable spaces. But the payoff can be tremendous when we do that. Miss Lou is a BBW who has been asked to sit on a partner's face. What should they do? How should they do? How do you get on someone's face without it be awkward? Let's talk about fat face sitting! Sometimes we just have to climb on and wiggle around, try pillows in a variety of positions, and find what works in the moment. Awkward can be fun when you're both excited and open about the fact that it's awkward. It's sex! So, get on, bounce around, and see what works. Then, do more of that. Hoodie sex? Nick wants to know if it's weird that he wants to have sex with his girlfriend while she wears his hoodies. Is that weird?  Nope. Because if it's consensual and you're both having fun, then who cares? Sex itself is weird. Enjoy it! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Dawn Serra I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too. When I’m not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. But it’s not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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  • 00:56:54

    Sex Gets Real 114: Moving beyond sex positivity

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    JoEllen Notte is a sex educator powerhouse - she is revolutionizing the discussion about sex and depression, and also has a beautiful blog all about sex positivity, sex toys, and introversion. She recently reached out to me and asked if she could come on the show to talk about sex positivity versus sex performativity. Or, as we discuss in this episode, the way sex positive folks often exclude people by their actions and behaviors in a way that makes spaces feel unsafe. Sex positivity has been an incredible response to our sex negative culture, but it's also just that - a response to the existing paradigm. Not everyone wants to have all the orgies or flirt all of the time, and that gets overlooked a lot. So in this episode, JoEllen and I have a really frank discussion about some of the ways sex positive communities are failing us, and then we field two listener questions about using inclusive language and not being a creep at sex toy stores when you have questions about sex. Don't forget: I just revamped my one-on-one coaching packages and spots are filling up. If you need some help around sex, your relationship, and connecting with a loved one, you can check out the new options over on DawnSerra.com. About JoEllen Notte JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate who has spent the last 2 years exploring the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, vibrators, mental health, and how none of us are broken on the award-winning RedheadBedhead.com as well as for xoJane, Bitch Media, Daily Dot, AlterNet and Kinkly. She has travelled North America touring the best sex shops in the US and Canada, led workshops on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and online dating, and has spoken at length on sex toys but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex– check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and extensive work on sex and depression. JoEllen is certified as a sex educator through Planned Parenthood of Massachusetts Sexuality Education Certification Series and has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit and the Playground Conference. You can stay in touch with JoEllen over on Facebook and on Twitter @JoEllenNotte. Hearing from you is the best, so here's how to contact the show: Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here

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    Sex Gets Real 147: Fat sex with Elle Chase

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Elle Chase is back, which delights me to no end (though, I'm wrong in the episode - Kate McCombs was the first repeat guest!). I adore this chat despite some audio issues, because we get so personal - sharing sex stories and awkward moments and keeping sex so very real, especially for folks who are fat and curvy. Her brand new book, Curvy Girl Sex, just hit stores, and of course, I use her beautifully curated LadyCheeky.com anytime I want to turn myself or my sweetie on. Rawr. So, here we are talking fat tummies and fat butts and bad backs and awkward sex noises and all the glory of anything-but-elegant sex. Oh, and if you're looking for the details on submitting a listener confession, I created a guidelines page for you. February theme is surprises. About Elle Chase Sex educator and sexuality and body image coach Elle Chase, is a graduate of the comprehensive San Francisco Sex Information, Sex Educator Training Program and a member of the American College of Sexologists. Elle also serves as the Director of Education & Lead Sex Educator at the Los Angeles Academy of Sex Education, which offers pleasure inclusive classes, on sexuality, gender, sexual health and sexual lifestyles. She is also the author of “Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower your Sex Life,” from Fair Winds Press and as her alter ego Lady Cheeky, is the editor of the smash hit (very) adult coloring book, the #NSFW Totally Naughty Coloring Book by SheVibe.com. Elle is also the creator, curator & editor of two award-winning and highly trafficked sexuality websites, www.LadyCheeky.com (NSFW) which has been named as the number one site for porn for women, and its companion editorial site www.SmutForSmarties.com which has been L.A. Weekly’s choice for ‘Best Sex Blog’ since 2013. Follow Elle on Twitter @TheElleChase and @LadyCheeky (NSFW). Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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  • 01:00:50

    069 Natalie Vartanian & Bob Schwenkler: The Sex & Wellness Connection

    · Wellness Force Radio | Discovering Physical & Emotional Intelligence To Live Life Well

    "The quality of our sex life is a direct reflection of our internal health."-Bob Schwenkler  On this week's podcast, trained life coaches and founders of Sex the Podcast, Natalie Vartanian and Bob Schwenkler, join me to talk about relationships, sex, and wellness. Since joining forces as a power couple in 2015, Natalie and Bob have been the secret sexual weapon for successful men from all walks of life. They’ve helped many people from former Army Sniper Instructors, Online Marketing Experts, to Corporate Airline Pilots from across 3 continents unlock the next level of joy and confidence in their sex lives and relationships. Meeting someone new and beginning a romantic relationship with them can create one of the most exhilarating feelings that you will experience during your lifetime. However, your emotional wellness plays a huge part in not only your health and fitness, but also your sex life. Past relationships and experiences can really effect new relationships, who you are, and who you want to become. Each time you begin a new relationship with someone, it's important to address anything that's going on with yourself. If you're emotionally unsteady because you have bottled up feelings of anger, sadness, and trauma on the inside, not only will it show up in your daily fitness and wellness health, but in your personal relationships and sex life as well. To have a healthy sex life, you need to be healthy on the inside by addressing any hidden issues or baggage that you may be carrying with you.    How to Recognize and Share Your Personal Feelings In a relationship, it's important to recognize how you feel and not to ignore those feelings. Ask yourself, what do you want in a relationship? What do you want for your sex life? What do you want for your career and the rest of your life? For you to be able to recognize your feelings and open up to your partner about your wants and desires, you should first become intimate with yourself. You can do this by giving yourself self-care and self-love.  Begin by slowing down and taking a moment to understand what is going on with you. Try to be in the present and recognize what emotions you're feeling right now. Come back to yourself and be honest with what you want and need. Learn To Understand Your Partner's Love Language When you understand yourself better, you can learn to listen to your partner better as well. However, miscommunication or no communication can still happen throughout a relationship. Fortunately, coaches like Natalie and Bob can help you can fix that by using strategies and tools to help open up and improve communication with your partner.  These communication tools can help you both to understand each other's love language, what your desires are, and how you can recreate something in your relationship.  To understand your partner's love language, it may mean unpacking any baggage and talking about issues that you haven't even discussed about in the past. How to Get Out Of A Shame Spiral Something that can keep us back from having a fulfilling relationship and sex life is the shame that we feel for ourselves. This shame spiral can happen to us when we don't feel good in our own bodies or the person that we are. If you're feeling shameful, it could be happening because you're in a constant pattern of avoidance. This pattern occurs when we're stuck in an unhealthy routine that doesn't allow us to find out what's really going on with ourselves. This pattern of avoidance could include having lots of unfulfilling sex, drinking, working a lot, spending time on social media, or even just rational thinking.  Rational thinking mode is a thought addiction and surprisingly enough, over-thinking will keep you from having connected, fulfilling relationships. To have a better sex life, you should look deep inside yourself and have an internal inquiry. Ask yourself what's holding you back from having great sex and even other experiences such as an amazing life or career?  To help you truly escape this shame spiral and begin having fulfilling relationships and great sex, reach out to sources of support and help if you must do so. Don't Be Afraid To Reach Out For Help If you're struggling with your emotions and your shame spiral is keeping you from connecting with your partner, don't be afraid to reach out for help.  Because we're only human, we can't take this journey all by ourselves. Talk to close friends about what you're going through and maybe they've been through the same obstacles. Ask someone to be your accountability partner to help hold you responsible for the goals that you want to accomplish. Spend time with like-minded people in person or virtually online with different communities. Seek professional help by reaching out to therapy groups such as the ManKind Project or life coaches like Natalie and Bob. They can give you the support, strategy, and the tools that you need to help you live a fulfilling sex life with your partner.   "Do the thing and you'll have the power."-Ralph Waldo Emerson   More About Natalie Vartanian For the past 6 years Natalie Vartanian has worked with women from across 5 continents to help them get the sex lives and relationships they want. As a featured writer on Elephant Journal and Good Men Project her love and relationship blog posts have gone viral to gain tens of thousands of shares. She is the creator of The Virtual Love Course and has helped hundreds of single women believe in love again and effortlessly attract the partner of their dreams. More About Bob Schwenkler As The Coach for High Achieving Sensitive Men Bob Schwenkler helps men access more love, power, and freedom in every area of their lives. His writing has been featured on sites such as The Huffington Post, Elephant Journal, and the Good Men Project. He is the creator of Advanced Sexual Stamina for Men, leads internationally based men’s retreats as a Sex and Intimacy Expert, and has worked privately with clients from the US, Europe, and Australia. What You'll Hear On The Show 0:00  Wellness Force Opening with Josh 2:05  Introduction to Natalie Vartanian and Bob Schwenkler 6:00 What do women truly want in a relationship? 7:05  What do men truly want in a relationship? 8:20  What is Natalie and Bob? What are you all about? 8:40  What led you both towards becoming relationship coaches? 11:40  What is the link between wellness and a healthy sex life? 13:00  How did your professional relationship change after your personal, romantic relationship break up? 15:40  What happens when you have different commitments for your work instead of your relationship? What does that mean for your intimacy levels in a relationship? 17:40  Question for Natalie: Any stories of success with clients who have broken through the limitations of intimacy and self love/care? 19:50  Question for Bob: Do you have a client with a success story that has really made you proud of them? 22:25  Question for Natalie: What is it like for you to help couples rekindle their intimacy and passion? 24:00 How can a man create intimacy within himself? 25:00 How do I get more intimate with myself before beginning a new relationship? 26:50 How does a woman (whether in a relationship or not) get in touch with herself and her intimacy. 29:00  As a relationship coach, has there been anything that you've done to help you create healthy boundaries so that you can focus on self-care? What are your tips for women and men? 31:00  How can males create healthy boundaries and focus on self-care? 32:50 What holds people back from being sexually fulfilled? 35:45  What makes men not feel sexually confident? 37:20  How do we recognize "shame" and how can we push through a shame spiral? 41:10 What is biologically different about men and women as far as their wants and desires? 43:35  What can do from a creation/solution standpoint for someone like a mom who wants to create more intimacy in her life. 46:05  Why don't people ask others for what they want in a relationship? 47:55  What can men do to break through their fear of intimacy?  52:30  7 Fast for 7 Questions 59:30 Wellness Force Episode Closing with Josh Resources Mentioned In The Show Natalie and Bob's website Natalie's website Bob's website Sex The Podcast Sexually Confident Men: Private Coaching for Men Wellness Force Episode 55: Love Vs. Fear: Body Intelligence with Katie & Gay Hendricks Wellness Force Episode 46: Dr. John Gray: ADHD, Brain Health, & Sex Addiction The ManKind Project Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill John Wineland: Relationship Salon Listen To Natalie and Bob Share How to address your emotions. What to do if you feel shameful. How to address the baggage that you'll bring to a new relationship. How to create open communication with your partner. What men and women want in a relationship. How men and women approach intimacy and sex. How to become intimate with yourself through self care and love. Why it's good to seek support to improve your sex life. What is a pattern of avoidance and how to stop it. How to understand your partner's love language. Rate & Review Wellness Force Aloha! Josh here. Listen, I deeply value your thoughts, now let your voice be heard! I thrive to serve better based on your words, feedback, and requests for the Wellness Force Community. (including breaking bad habits) Thanks To Our Amazing Sponsor Want to avoid more trips to the store and save hundreds of dollars a year on superfood supplements? Check out Perfect Supplements.com Go to perfectsupplements.com/wellnessforce to get your grass-fed collagen from today's show and sign up for a free membership, plus get 10% off your entire order - just enter promo code "wellnessforce" at checkout.     Ask A Live Question For The Next Episode Click here to leave a voicemail directly to Josh Trent to be read live! Get Your Free Audio Book http://www.wellnessforce.com/FreeBook  You May Also Like These Episodes Nir Eyal:Breaking Bad Habits, Technology Addiction, & Emotional Triggers Healthy, Happy & Harder To Kill w/ Steph Gaudreau of Stupid Easy Paleo Beyond Meditation: How To Get A Better Brain With Ariel Garten Living A Healthy Lifestyle In A Modern World With Dan Pardi Creating A Life Worth Living With Michael Strasner Get More Wellness In Your Life: Download your free Digital Health Transformation Guide: wellnessforce.com/radio Don't miss next week's show: Subscribe and stay updated Did you like this show? Rate and review Wellness Force on iTunes So nice! You read all the way to the bottom? That's what I call love! I do the same thing for the people, things, and movements I care about as well. PS: Looks like you and I share the same passion. I'm grateful for you and want to extend you my email address. Write to me and let me know what you'd like to have to get more wellness in your life!

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  • 00:55:00

    Sex Gets Real 188: Trust after betrayal, fat sex, safer sex

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    Two things! Sign-up for the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition at exploremoresummit.com. It's free and kicks off December 4th. Prepare to be challenged and cracked open. My porn workshop, Hands Down: A Workshop on How Porn Can Heal, Connect, and Be Ethical, is now enrolling. Check out the details at dawnserra.com/porn. Let's talk about the porn! Now, on to your questions. GR wrote in asking how porn stars and people in non-monogamous relationships protect themselves. How does safe sex work with multiple partners? It's such an important question. Ultimately, it depends on each of us. We all have different needs, different requirements around risk and prevention, so the answer is really all in how you negotiate it with a partner. The most important this is to remember we always default to the person who wants MORE protection. If you don't want to use their level of protection, then you either don't engage with them or you limit your activities, but we NEVER try to talk someone out of what they need for their peace of mind or bodily safety. Cece is trying to learn how to trust her partner after he betrayed her. How can she stop questioning his word? She even snoops sometimes because she's so convinced he isn't being upfront. How can she build trust? Is there any hope? Betrayals are absolutely something you can overcome, but rebuilding trust takes time. Like, years sometimes. And not just time, but consistent, reliable behavior that proves the person is who they say they are. A lot of people can't stand that uncertainty in the interim, so you have to decide for yourself if you can find some care and support in that uncomfortable space. I also recommend Esther Perel's two books, "Mating in Captivity" and her latest, "The State of Affairs."  There was an unfortunate incident on Dan Savage's podcast recently where a trans listener was misgendered and handled so poorly. If you want to read Bex Caputo's response as well as this great thread on Twitter about the whole debacle, check it out. Trans folks, you deserve better than what Dan & Buck offered you.  LoveAllOfHim wants some advice for having sex with her fat male partner. She loves his body, but sometimes positions are a little tough. Most sex books for fat folks focus on folks with a vulva. LAOH needs some guidance. I definitely recommend LAOH check out Hanne Blank's "Big, Big Love" book. Also, this article on Scarleteen about sex with a fat partner who also has a smaller penis. I also recommend sex furniture and cushions, using ropes and straps to adjust bodies, and also getting creative with sex toys made for a penis to possibly make access a little easier. Be sure to check out Chubstr.com, too. They don't have a sex section yet, but they do have loads of resources for large & fat men and masculine folks, and I suspect it will be added at some point down the road. Natalia wants to know if certain personality traits make for better worse lovers. Also, are artists better lovers? They're fun questions that I play around with for a few moments. Hint: it's not alpha males or folks who have something to prove. Julia is the final question of the episode. It's a heartbreaking, painful plea for help after Julia's husband betrayed her and blamed it on sex addiction and not being able to help himself. How can she recover? In the end, Julia needs to center herself and what she needs to heal, to grieve, to move forward. It's a tough place to be, and there is no easy answer. Can we grapple with that pain and uncertainty? We'll find out. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Dawn Serra I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too. When I’m not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. But it’s not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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    Sex Gets Real 156: Premature ejaculation, racist fetishes, & when a friend is raped

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    Don't forget - April 17th, there is an online PJ party just for Patreon supporters of the show. We will spend an hour sharing stories, asking questions, and hanging out in our PJs. Bring your hot chocolate, comfy clothes, and let's hang out. Support the show before April 17th to gain access. Plus, some news about my personal life. I'm moving to Canada, FINALLY. Also, my Bartholin gland flared up - and I had to take my own advice around new ways to experience sex and touch when intercourse and masturbation were off the table for several weeks. Ugh. Bodies. This week's show features a listener confession from S about a mess she had in her life. We also get an update from Scarlett Grace about telling her friend that she doesn't want to have threesomes with her anymore. Hailey wrote in asking how she can support a friend who was raped but who doesn't want to call it rape and who hasn't asked for support. How can you be a good friend and let someone know you're there for them after sexual assault, trauma, or rape? Let's talk about centering survivors and what that might look like, even if it feels really terrible for the people around them. Also, I am planning a trauma summit in August. Get on the Explore More list to get the notification. It will be free. Kelsey wonders - what's the difference between having a type or having a fetish, especially when it's racist and oppressive? Kelsey has a co-worker who constantly talks about Asian women and why he loves them. It's tokenism and exoticism, and she wants to know what she should do. My thoughts include why we ALL have a responsibility to critically reflect and examine our fantasies. Kitty Stryker has a thought-provoking piece on this very thing that's linked below. Sometimes we need to feel ashamed and move through that to get to deeper, more meaningful understandings of ourselves. Micah loves Conner Habib's deep questions, especially about impossibility and opening up conversations to new thought. He wants to know - why do we so often jump to "never" when even bringing up new ideas around sex and love? I have loads of thoughts. A lot of it comes back to safety. Stephanie's boyfriend has premature ejaculation and it's impacting their sex life. Medicine hasn't worked. She hates her body. She's faking her orgasms. What can she do? Big big thoughts there on body neutrality, on removing goals and expectations from sex, and from trying something new when the things you're trying keep not working. You do NOT need to love your body to have enjoyable sex. If you're interested in one-on-one coaching, check out my options here. Don't forget to send in your sex confessions! I created a guidelines page for you. March & April's theme will be messes! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources mentioned in the show Kitty Stryker's article about examining our fantasies and challenging ourselves when they're racist, sexist, and problematic. Meg-John Barker & Justin Hancock's new book, "Enjoy Sex: (How, when and if you want to): A Practical and Inclusive Guide" Elle Chases's new book, "Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life" About Dawn Serra Sex is a social skill. I speak it. I write it. I teach it. I help you learn how to develop it. I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too. When I'm not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. But it's not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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  • 01:01:48

    Sex Gets Real 133: Whores of Yore on sex & porn through the ages

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    Grab a cup of tea, settle in, and prepare to be amazed. When Kate Lister, creator of Whores of Yore, agreed to come on the show, I did cartwheels. And it's pretty evident why as you listen to this fascinating and hysterical episode all about the history of sex, porn, and sex work. Kinky Victorians who loved spankings and piss play? Check. Medieval monks drawing trees full of dicks and women making strap-ons out of bread to fuck each other? Yep. From the oldest recorded dildo in history to Kate's research on sexual violence in contemporary media, you will learn more about the history of sex than you ever knew possible, and you'll giggle all the way. Plus, you'll gain a whole new perspective into Game of Thrones! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources from this episode An article about Whores of Your in The Daily Dot About Kate Lister Dr Kate Lister is a researcher at Leeds Trinity University in historical attitudes to sexuality and sex work. She has published on the history of media narratives around sex work, the history of menstruation and sexual violence in historical dramas. She is the curator of the popular Twitter account @WhoresofYore where she tweets the history of illicit sex and works to promote sex worker rights and challenge stigma to over 57, 000 followers. Kate is currently working with leading sex worker rights activists and historians to expanded the Twitter feed to a website and online archive that will allow sex workers to tell their stories, and bring sex work history to an even wider audience. You can also follow along on Instagram @more_whores_of_yore. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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  • 01:09:48

    Sex Gets Real 126: Open relationships, touch free orgasms, & Daddy Doms

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    In the DC area? I'm teaching kink, anal sex, thriving relationships, blowjobs, and more in October and November. Check out the details at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page.  How does traditional consent education fail us? What do you do if you're in a new open relationship and it just isn't working for you? Can someone really orgasm without having their genitals touched? This week, Yana Tallon-Hicks joins the show and we roll around in all those questions and more (don't miss Dawn's story of aiming a penis). It's a fun, laughter-filled talk and it's clear why TEDx invited Yana to do a talk on sex education recently. The listener questions this week are particularly delicious, especially the final question from Lady Lilly - both Yana and I are near tears as we listen to the pain and heartbreak of her question. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources discussed in this episode Yana's resource guide to open relationships is here. Password: compersionimmersion Watch Yana's TEDx talk. Barbara Carrellas' book "Ecstasy is Necessary" A video of Barbara Carrellas having a brain-gasm (or thinking her way to an orgasm) in an MRI machine About Yana Tallon-Hicks Yana Tallon-Hicks is a consent, sex & sexuality writer and educator living in Northampton, MA. Her work centers around the belief that pleasure-positive & consent-based sex education can positively impact our lives and the world (like really though). Yana’s workshops work to create a welcoming & comfortable space for all to explore crucial aspects of our sexual selves such as pleasure, communication, consent & the body and are taught at colleges, high schools, and sex toy shops all over New England. Read more about Yana & her work here, where you can also read her sex advice column, follow her on Instagram & Twitter, and watch her TEDxTalk: Is the Porn Brain Our New Sex Educator? during which she talks about watching porn with her husband, how we learn about sexual pleasure, and what that does for our concept of consent. Find out more about Yana and her work on her website, yanatallonhicks.com. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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  • 01:04:37

    Sex Gets Real 190: Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg on kink & changing bodies

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    Did you hear last week? CrashPad Series is sponsoring the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition. It's free and online, so sign-up today. We'll spend 5 days going super deep into body politics, self acceptance, fat activism, diet culture, weight stigma, and shedding body shame so we can center our pleasure. To see the line-up for the summit and to enroll, pop over to exploremoresummit.com. And if you want to see a VERY HOT scene with April and Milcah, head to CrashPadSeries.com and join today. This week, Sunny Megatron and Ken Melvoin-Berg are here! Which means it's basically an hour of me laughing hysterically. We talk about their new sex podcast, American Sex, and some of the guests they've had - like the grapefruit lady and a guy whose fetish is death and sex. Ken talks about how his relationship to kink has changed due to some health concerns, and Sunny talks about menopause and her libido. We also answer listener questions about pubic hair and fisting. Ken even wows with the history of the merkin.  Looking for my new porn workshop? Pop over here. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Ken Melvoin-Berg & Sunny Megatron: Superheroes of sex ed, married couple Ken Melvoin-Berg & Sunny Megatron are partners in every sense of the word. In addition to co-producing Showtime’s “Sex with Sunny Megatron,” they initially gained recognition writing and teaching about everyone’s favorite subject, SEX. In their sell-out workshops, their unique brand of “edutainment” plus combined 25+ years of sexuality teaching experience puts students at ease. Each session seamlessly combines their humorous lecturing style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny hosts their Showtime original television series, “Sex with Sunny Megatron,” taking viewers on a journey into the world of adult play, as everyday people expose their deepest and most intimate fantasies. Always honest, funny, and sex-positive, the show provides an interesting, fresh twist on sexual exploration. Their latest endeavor is their podcast called American Sex that features an eclectic mix of guests from all walks of life. American Sex podcast is available on most major podcasting platforms. On a more personal note, this dynamic duo are married, parents, occasionally ethically non-monogamous, and lifestyle BDSM enthusiasts. Want to stay in touch? Check out American Sex Podcast on Twitter and Facebook. You can also visit Sunny's website sunnymegatron.com. Follow Sunny on Facebook and Twitter and Ken on Twitter. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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  • 00:09:58

    Sex i litteraturen: Dags att utforska de erogena gråzonerna

    · OBS

    I en värld där sex finns överallt, vad har då litteraturen att hämta i sängkammaren? En hel del, konstaterar författaren Elin Grelsson Almestad. ESSÄ: Detta är en text där skribenten reflekterar över ett ämne eller ett verk. Åsikter som uttrycks är skribentens egna. Hur många gånger går det att skriva efteråt? Låta kläderna falla, stämningen bli mer intensiv och sedan: nytt stycke och klipp till efteråt. Att bara undvika det där klichétyngda, svåra och pinsamma däremellan. Vad som sker framgår ju ändå, hundratals filmer och serier har använt sig av samma knep. Så varför inte litteraturen? I skönlitteraturen är förväntningarna snarare de motsatta: du har full frihet att skriva ut varje samlagsdetalj om du så önskar, fri från Hollywoodcensur och åldersgränser, så varför gör du det inte? Så sitter du där som författare, med all frihet i världen och det där jobbiga framför dig. Klipp till efteråt, tack. jag ...  grimaserar av plågor inför det icke-angenäma valet av benämning på det manliga könsorganet. Hur kan det fortfarande vara så svårt att skriva om sex? I en upplyst tid, fri från skam och förbud, borde det ju vara lika enkelt eller åtminstone lika lite laddat som att gestalta en middag, promenad eller något annat vardagligt förehavande. Ändå sitter jag framför tangentbordet, skruvar på mig och grimaserar av plågor inför det icke-angenäma valet av benämning på det manliga könsorganet. Jag försöker hitta råd i Stephen Kings numera klassiska memoarhandbok Att skriva: en hantverkares memoarer, som våren 2017 gavs ut på nytt på svenska. Krångla inte till det, använd de första ord som kommer till dig, påpekar King, uttryck dig så rakt på sak som möjligt. Jo, det låter ju enkelt och som en bra regel. Å andra sidan är just Stephen King vida omtalad för sin oförmåga att skriva om sex och har blivit nominerad till det mindre prestigefyllda Bad Sex in Fiction Award, som årligen utses av Literary Review. Och kanske är det en tröst någonstans, som kämpande författare. För många storheter är det som nominerats sedan utnämningen instiftades 1993. År 2016 återfanns bland andra Ian McEwan och Jonathan Safran Foer och åren dessförinnan Erica Jong, Jonathan Franzen och Péter Nádas. Samtidigt säger priset, vars shortlist alltid får stor uppmärksamhet, en del om svårigheterna med att skriva om sex och de kritiska ögon som de läses med. Syftet med priset är att dra uppmärksamhet till dåligt skrivna, summariska eller överflödiga passager av sexskildringar i modern skönlitteratur, som Literary Review själva uttrycker det. Priset ska gå till en författare som har skapat en utomordentligt dålig sexscen i en annars bra roman.  ... vi har sett allt och överexponeringen kan göra vem som helst blasé En av svårigheterna går kanske att förklara med hjälp av en artikel som Malte Persson skrev i Expressen Kultur under sommaren 2017. Han påtalar här läsarens kanske extra nagelfarande och kritiska ögon när det kommer till sexskildringar. Eller som han uttrycker det: Möjligen går det att skriva bra om dåligt sex, men nästan bara dåligt om bra sex Kanske är inte sexscener överlag sämre skrivna än andra scener. Kanske är det bara att läsarna mer uppmärksamt spanar efter klichéer där. Resultatet, menar Persson, blir att det sex som ska skildras som njutbart och himlastormande framförallt blir en företeelse som återfinns i Harlequinromaner, där litterär kvalitet överhuvudtaget inte eftersträvas. Och visst har han en poäng i att det dåliga sexet, precis som den stela middagen, den konfliktfyllda promenaden eller något annat som skaver är betydligt lättare att skriva. En berättarröst som är blasé eller frånvarande i sexskildringen ger helt enkelt andra dramaturgiska möjligheter än någon som bara ger sig hän. Att skriva om lycka och glädje är en omtalat svår konst och den gestaltning som inte syftar till att skava eller gestalta en underliggande konflikt fastnar gärna i stället i fysiska redogörelser och kroppars rörelser. Det är sällan särskilt intressant och ännu mindre god litterär läsning. Könsdelar och ställningar gör sig helt enkelt inte så bra i andra skrifter än dem som skrivs i sexualupplysande syfte. En annan faktor pekar Tone Schunnesson på i sitt svar till Malte Persson. I samtiden är inte sex behäftat med vare sig skam eller brist på språk, snarare en ompaketering till ett livsstilsprojekt. För en kvinna född på 1980-talet är sexualiteten en populärkulturell markör. I ett klimat som svämmar över av bilder och tal kring sex och sexualitet blir det helt enkelt ganska ointressant att skriva om sex. I en tid där en kvinna som har sex med män anses vara en symbol för frigjordhet finns inte mycket kvar att berätta. Om det så är reklam, populärkultur eller pornografi; år 2017 är allt tillgängligt, vi har sett allt och överexponeringen kan göra vem som helst blasé och ointresserad av att behöva harva sig igenom det där sexet också i det skönlitterära. Men borde inte just litteraturen vara platsen för att hitta det som finns bakom det diskursiva talet om sex och bilderna som vi ständigt möts av? Om litteraturens uppgift är att lyfta fram det dolda och fördunklade- vad gömmer sig där idag? Jag skulle tro att det är känslorna. Inte nödvändigtvis som i de amorösa, utan snarare att finna ett sätt att skriva om intimitet och om det gränsupplösande som sex också kan vara men som saknar ett språk i de bilder som vi matas med. Att hitta en uppriktig röst i något som är söndertuggat och överexponerat, men på samma gång trots allt också skambelagt och ängsligt. Vi är inte så frigjorda som vi tror. ... den särskilda laddning som uppstår när du bär på aggressioner mot någon du samtidigt attraheras av och inte kan låta bli att ha sex med. Vad skulle den uppriktiga rösten kunna berätta? Här finns mycket. För påfallande ofta är sexscener fortfarande antingen en gestaltning av en sönderfallande relation, där någon längtar bort, eller motsatsen visar hur vansinnigt förälskade de inblandade är i varandra. Både sexualiteten och våra relationer rymmer naturligtvis många fler dimensioner än så och är sorgligt outforskade i litteraturen. Sällan förekommer exempelvis den trassliga, ofta generade kommunikation som krävs för att nå fram till det himlastormande som ska gestalta kärleken. Fortfarande är just sex i litteraturen märkligt ordlöst, liksom automatiskt. Diskrepansen mellan en bra och fungerande relation, men sex som liksom bara inte funkar, lyser också med sin frånvaro. Kanske vill vi författare undvika den sortens tråkiga socialrealism som kanske inte direkt tjänar ett litterärt syfte, men jag tror snarare att det däri går att hitta en spänning att bygga något på. Och så naturligtvis, vice versa; alla relationer som inte är allt igenom bra och som med små medel kan gestaltas genom sexscener. Inbördes maktrelationer, osäkerhet, orimliga förväntningar och projiceringar exempelvis. Eller för den delen det som på engelska kallas för hate fuck; den särskilda laddning som uppstår när du bär på aggressioner mot någon du samtidigt attraheras av och inte kan låta bli att ha sex med. Hatknullet borde kunna ge upphov till sexscener som rymmer betydligt mer än det klichéartade himlastormande eller det rent fysiskt beskrivna. Jag tänker på Eiríkur Örn Norðdahl egensinniga roman "Ondska", om relationen mellan nynazisten Arnór och historikern Agnes, som har judiskt påbrå och skriver om samtida högerpopulism. Efter att de legat med varandra för första gången reser han sig och går in i duschen för att som han skämtsamt säger - skölja av sig judestanken, medan hon närstuderar hans kön för att se om där finns intatuerat ett hakkors. Det är en brutal, absurd, men också rolig påminnelse om vad som är möjligt att göra i litteraturen. Mellan före och efteråt finns fortfarande mycket att utforska och gestalta, någonstans i den trassliga ängslighet som sex och sexskildringar fortfarande innebär. Elin Grelsson Almestad, författare

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  • 01:10:41

    Sex Gets Real 177: Thriving in sex work with Lola Davina

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    How can you thrive as a sex worker, navigating the fact that you have no real safety while also performing erotic fantasies and sex at the same time? How can you care for yourself as clients bring in their pain, shame, and fear and expect you to heal them? Lola Davina is here to help us answer those questions and more. Her new book, "Thriving in Sex Work," is like a big sister's guide to caring for yourself as a sex worker. We talk about the unrealistic expectations clients often come in with, being financially responsible, setting boundaries and trusting your gut, creating rituals to celebrate small and big wins, and a whole lot more. It's fascinating and practical. It's one of my favorite chats, and I think you'll hear why. Have you signed up for my Sex is a Social Skill group calls yet? It's a fun online group video chat every 2 weeks where we practice talking about sex, love, and life. Join in the fun and let's level up together. Learn more and enroll here. The next call is today, Sunday, September 3rd at 4:00pm Pacific. Oh! Don't forget: Patreons who support at the $20 level and above get FREE access to the group calls. Of course, you can support the show at any level from $1 and up and it means so much to me. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sexgetsreal Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources from this episode Grab Lola Davina's book, "Thriving in Sex Work: Heartfelt Advice for Staying Sane in the Sex Industry: A Self-Help Book for Sex Workers" About Lola Davina Lola Davina has spent more than 25 years in and around the sex industry, working as a stripper, dominatrix, porn actress, and escort over a fifteen-year period. She has earned an M.A. in Human Sexuality and an M.S. in Nonprofit Fundraising, and writes a self-care and wellness column for YNOTcam.com. You can stay in touch with Lola at loladavina.com, on Facebook, and on Twitter @Lola_Davina. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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    Sex Gets Real 141: Losing your virginity, starting with anal, & empathy

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. It's Christmas Day! What better way to celebrate a holiday than with a sexy, fun chat with not one but TWO fellow sex educators? And from New Zealand, no less. Kate McCombs and Louise Bourchier are here to help me answer questions from you about getting started with anal sex after a bad first experience, dealing with big emotions after losing your virginity, feeling sexually frustrated in a relationship after moving in with your boyfriend, the importance of empathy, and a whole lot more. These two women are smart, kind, and endlessly fascinated in sexuality and communication. I adore them both. Don't forget to check out the details about submitting your listener confessions because I want to hear from you. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources from this episode Dawn's online anal course is here. "Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel "When Your Sex Drives Don't Match: Discover Your Libido Types to Create a Mutually Satisfying Sex Life" by Sandra Pertot "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristan Taormino "The Ultimate Guide to Kink" by Tristan Taormino "The New Topping Book" and "The New Bottoming Book" by Dossie Easton "Baby Got Back: Anal Erotica" by Rachel Kramer Bussel "Enough to Make You Blush" by Princess Kali Kink Academy for all those kinky how-to videos About Louise Bourchier Louise Bourchier, MPH knows sex. She presents workshops on sexual health, sexual pleasure and communication in relationships. Her focus is on the feel‐good aspects of sex, delivered with a healthy dash of humour. Equipped with a vulva puppet and anatomy diagrams, you can guarantee this is not the sex education you received in school. As a leading sex educator, Louise has taught over one hundred workshops to diverse adult audiences. She has presented at Sexpo Australia, spoken at universities including University of Sydney, University of Melbourne, and University of Auckland, as well as working with a wide range of professional and community groups. Louise has a Masters of Public Health, specialising in sexual health, from the University of Melbourne, and lives in Auckland, New Zealand. You can find Louise at LouiseBourchier.com, and follow her on Twitter @louiselabouche and Instagram. About Kate McCombs Kate McCombs, MPH is a sex & relationships educator who’s geeky about empathy and connection. Ultimately, all of her work is about helping people feel more comfortable talking about sex and feelings. She believes that meaningful conversations and accurate information can help us create a healthier and more joy-filled world. To that end, she writes articles and facilitates workshops on how to build amazing relationships. You can find out more about Kate at KateMcCombs.com. You can also follow her on Twitter @katecom and on Instagram. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)  

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  • 01:15:30

    Sex Gets Real 138: Kitty Stryker on sex work, polyamory, & what makes a community

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Content note: talk of suicide. I always love when I get to have nuanced conversations about topics like sex work, porn, consent, and polyamory. So, when Kitty Stryker said she'd come on the show, I knew the discussion would be a gritty one. Kitty is currently working on an anthology book all about creating consent culture that comes out in 2017. We dig into what that looks like and how she's centering marginalized voices. Then we talk about what consent means within the context of capitalism and work. If you can't leave sex work because traditional employers won't hire former porn performers and you have to remain in sex work even if you're ready to leave, can you truly be consenting to the work? If we started focusing more on labor issues and capitalism, could we bridge the gap between anti-sex work feminists and pro-sex work feminists to find a common ground where nuance was encouraged? Kitty also shares a personal story about suicide and how it ties into kink and poly communities. What does a community actually mean, anyway? At the end of the hour, we field a question from a listener about polyamory and whether it's right for her. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources from this episode Kitty's article "Porn Didn't Ruin Your Sex Life. Sorry." "So Someone You Love is Suicidal" by Kitty can be read here, too. The Five Love Languages About Kitty Stryker Kitty Stryker is a writer, activist, and authority on developing a consent culture in alternative communities. She was the founder of ConsentCulture.com, a website that ran for 4 years as a hub for LGBT/kinky/poly folks looking for a sex critical approach to relationships and which will be relaunched on 2017. Kitty also cofounded the artsy sexy party Kinky Salon London, as well as creating the award winning Ladies High Tea and Pornography Society, the SF based kink party Whippersnappers, and acting as head of cosplay for queer gaming convention GaymerX. Now working on "Ask: A Discussion of Consent Culture", an anthology through Thorntree Press coming out in 2017, Kitty tours internationally speaking at universities and conferences about feminism, sex work, body positivity, queer politics, and more. She lives in Oakland, California with her fiancee and two cats, Foucault and Nietzsche. You can find Kitty at kittystryker.com, on Twitter @kittystryker, and on Facebook. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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    Sex Gets Real 120: Trans fetish, pegging, & being bad in bed

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    It's just you and me this week. No guest. No interview. Just your questions and emails and me savoring every single one of them. We're talking transsexual fetish sex, pegging, exploring sex with a partner who is a rape survivor, what it means to be bad at sex, Hollywood myths about how sex should look, and ALL the ways to communicate with the folks we're fucking so that we can all be more successful in the sack. Don't forget to take the location poll on the homepage of sexgetsreal.com to help me choose the cities I'll visit with my Sex Gets Real tour, too. Psst...did you know you can follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook? It's true. Resources discussed in this episode "Radical Ecstasy" by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton "Cyber Infidelity" by Dr. Eve SpareParts Joque harness - want one? I sell them. Contact me for details. Ruby Ryder, pegging expert Sex after rape. There's a great article here and here. About Dawn Serra For those of you who have listened for awhile, you know more about my sex life than most people know about their partners, but I figured it was time for a little bio action. First, you can check out my sex & relationship coaching over at DawnSerra.com. You can follow me on Twitter @dawn_serra, on Facebook, and over on Instagram, too. Here's the official word: In a world that makes us feel like we aren’t enough, Dawn Serra is on a mission to rewrite the stories we’re told about sex, relationships, and our bodies. As a sex coach, sex educator, and fat-bodied trauma survivor, Dawn invites you to drop the shame, get curious, and explore sex on your terms, in whatever form that may take. Dawn is also the creator of the annual Explore More Summit. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". You know I love hearing from you, so here's how to reach the show Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: info@sexgetsreal.com Contact form: Click here

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  • 00:58:29

    Sex Gets Real 175: Sensual BDSM porn, inconsistent sex, & inorgasmic partners

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    Guess what? LOLA is sponsoring this week's episode. You can get pads, tampons, and liners delivered to you, via their rad subscription service, at 60% off your first order when you subscribe. Just use promo code SGR when you visit mylola.com and get started. My bi-weekly Sex is a Social Skill calls are a fun conversation where we practice all sorts of skills and geek out over sex and relationships. Check out the details and join in the fun. This week it's you and me and all your emails. Let's dive in. Ariyanna wrote in about how the show changed her life. Coleman, too! Yay for learning from this show. Jess needs help finding BDSM porn that isn't extreme or just about the fucking. She wants sensual, intimate, connected porn that is also kinky. Where can she turn? I have a few suggestions, including EroticFilms.com. That's my affiliate link, and all the films on the website are curated by Erika Lust, so most of them are super sensual. Also, check out Jackie St. James, Crashpad, and Madison Young. Johnny wrote in wanting to give his partner an orgasm.  He says all his previous partners orgasmed from penetration alone (which I highly doubt). But his current girlfriend has never had an orgasm and he NEEDS to give her one because he's horrified. Long time listeners know this is one of those questions that gets me up on my soapbox, so let's talk about why orgasm is NOT the goal of sex. Also, the fastest way to not orgasm is to expect an orgasm. I have some big thoughts for Johnny, all of which I'm sure he won't like. Broad City Broad wants to know how she can find high quality lovers who actually want intimacy and connection, even if it's not a romantic relationship. How did I do it? A lot of it was luck, but being honest in your dating profile is a big part of finding good lovers. I share a few more thoughts. Greeney is struggling because she recently broke off a 10 year monogamous relationship. She developed a relationship with a polyamorous man, who just recently moved away. She's rekindling her relationship with the monogamous ex and wants to try and make all of it work. My thoughts? Don't. Hiding & lying as a way to claim you're trying not to hurt someone aren't the way to not hurt someone. Darkness Wonderer is worried that the sex with her partner is sporadic and that she gets turned on by women. Is she secretly a lesbian? Should their sex be more consistent? Why doesn't she want sex like she used to? There's a lot to unpack. A high school sophomore wants to ask out bisexual junior. How can he find out whether she prefers women or men and how to ask her out. Ahhh high school. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Dawn Serra I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too. When I’m not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. But it’s not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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  • 00:51:29

    Sex Gets Real 165: HPV, becoming a Domme, & anal pain

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    Interested in supporting the show? Well, now you can! Just head to Patreon.com/sexgetsreal and you can pledge anything from $1 and up. I would ADORE the support. This week it's just you and me, working our way through some rad listener questions. Dave wrote in with one of the best complimentary emails I've ever received AND threw a few bucks my way on Patreon. Lala just found out she has HPV. She's brand new to dating after divorce and spending many years focusing on her kids, and she wants to know - is her sex life over? Can she find romance and love and great sex if she has HPV? I have so many thoughts, including checking out Ella Dawson and Ashley Manta as rockin' folks to follow who have amazing sex lives while navigating the world with an STI. Lovely J listens to the show with her honey. They can't remember the name of an author I recommended a while back (it was most likely Barbara Carrellas). Also, Lovely J is an inexperienced Dominant and her partner really wants her to dominate them. She's read some books, but how can she get some hands-on practice at being a dominant? My number 1 recommendation is Midori's Forte Femme weekend intensive. It IS possible to be a very effective, very sexy Dominant without it looking like the standard trope of a Domme you see on TV or at kink events. Jude is a white, middle-class woman who is new to learning about sex work. How can she learn more about why people choose sex work and what it's all about? It's critical to turn to sex workers themselves for their stories, for the lived nuance. All my book recommendations to Jude are below in the resources area. Frank wrote in needing help finding a way to get his wife to give him a blowjob. The advice will be disappointing, but it's the best I can offer when it comes to wanting something sexually from another human being. You have to be willing to talk about it - openly and without expectation or pressure. Kacey wants to know how common it is for women to have hair on their faces, cleavage and chest. Hirsutism can be caused by loads of things, and it's relatively common. Plus, there are so many women who are unabashedly embracing their rad beards and body hair and still having amazing sex lives and finding love. The Go Ask Alice article I mention in the episode is linked down below. Finally, K is having an issue with a butt plug. They can have anal sex just fine, but when you use an anal plug, it hurts on the out motion. What can they do? I have some thoughts. Yay butt stuff. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources discussed in this episode "Ecstasy is Necessary" by Barbara Carrellas "Urban Tantra" by Barbara Carrellas "Coming Out Like a Porn Star" by Jiz Lee "$pread: The Best of the Magazine that Illuminated the Sex Industry and Started a Media Revolution" by Feminist Press "Truth, Justice, and the American Whore" by Siouxsie Q TheWhoresOfYore.com by Kate Lister Go Ask Alice's response to a woman with a hair issue   Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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  • 01:05:45

    Sex Gets Real 161: Tell me about sex, grandma with Anastasia Higginbotham

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    Patreon supporters get exclusive access to rad content and extended episodes (including my recent chat with Dylan that goes up at the end of May!) Pop over to patreon.com/sexgetsreal and support at any level (even $1!) to join in the fun. I am constantly on the lookout for people who are doing amazing, inspiring, fun things in the world of sex and relationships. So, you just know I had to reach out to Feminist Press when I saw they were publishing a children's book with the title, "Tell Me About Sex, Grandma." And what better time to celebrate kids and parenting and sex and divorce and healing than Mother's Day? Anastasia Higginbotham is the author of a series of books called Ordinary Terrible Things aimed at helping kids to understand and find words for things like sex, divorce, death, racism, and queerness. Anastasia's books are about centering kids' wisdom and giving them space to have a full range of feelings and permission to be who they are. But the magic of these books is also in their healing power for grown-ups. If you were raped or molested, "Tell Me About Sex, Grandma" will offer a balm to your young self about what happened. If your parents split when you were young, "Divorce is the Worst" gives you permission to sit in those big feelings you may have tried to hide years ago. This is the kind of stuff that overturns patriarchy and helps young people realize that they actually hold a tremendous amount of wisdom and power. Also, at the end of this week's episode is a sneak peek of next week's incredible episode on abortion. Please do stay tuned. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources discussed in this episode You can pre-order "Tell Me About Sex, Grandma" and purchase "Death is Stupid" and "Divorce is the Worst" from Feminist Press, and you know I love supporting feminist, independent sources, so please do buy from them over Amazon or a big box retailer. About Anastasia Higginbotham Anastasia Higginbotham is a writer and artist who created the children’s book series Ordinary Terrible Things, published by the Feminist Press. The series includes Divorce Is the Worst (2015), Death Is Stupid (2016), and Tell Me About Sex, Grandma (2017). It’s been embraced by children and adults for empowering and trusting kids as the authority on their own lives. Higginbotham makes the books in collage on brown grocery bag paper with clippings from magazines and catalogs, and bits of fabric and jewelry that have special meaning. Higginbotham’s series is informed by more than 20 years as a speechwriter for New York City nonprofits that combat all kinds of injustice. For 10 years, Higginbotham taught full impact self-defense to kids and adults with Prepare Inc., coaching students ages 6 and up to breathe, talk, and fight their way through confrontation and attack scenarios. Her essays have appeared in Huffington Post, Ms., Bitch, The Sun, Women’s Media Center, and The Women’s Review of Books. She’s featured in the anthologies, Listen Up: Voices from the Next Feminist Generation, 30 Things Every Girl Should Know About Women’s History, and Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape. She is a 2015 Hedgebrook Fellow. You can stay in touch with Anastasia on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter @ahigginbooks. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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  • 00:35:26

    Sex Gets Real 158: Messy sex, dating obsessed, & jealousy

    · Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

    Did you hear? Dylan and I are planning an episode in the next few weeks. We'll have a short episode for everyone, and a longer bonus episode for Patreon supporters. YAY! Also, don't forget to send in your sex confessions! May's theme is FOOD. I created a guidelines page for you.  NW Mom wrote in with her confession about the mess she's in with a married man. Can she find her way out? She's lonely, she just discovered her sexual pleasure after a 20-year marriage, and yet, this amazing man can't be there for her. He knows it's not easy on her, so ending things shouldn't be a shock for him. Jess wrote in about her improved sex life and the new body safe Fun Factory vibrator she just got. Listening to the show has helped her sex life in fantastic ways and I am tickled. Jenister has a problem. She is bisexual, has anxiety, and wants to explore group sex with her partner. The only problem is she and her boyfriend have had threesomes before to great success. But, she is finding herself feeling super jealous and insecure when they look for potential play partners and she feels terrible. How can she overcome her jealousy and make the group sex fun again? Also, let's just honor Jenister's frustration about telling straight guys that she's bi - it's like they assume it means threesomes are automatically in the cards. UGH. NO. How do we care for ourselves when we feel jealous? How do you make space for meltdowns and insecurity without judging yourself? If you're interested in one-on-one coaching, check out my options here. What do you do if your friend is obsessed with having a boyfriend and totally defines their worth based on whether they're dating someone or not? I have thoughts. We live in a world that tells us we should all be on a quest for relationship, and that our worth is defined by the romantic partners we have. It's a big box to unpack. Bree Speed has way too much cum in her life. Her boyfriend shoots everywhere and she is cleaning cum off of everything. Is she the only one in this position? I have big thoughts like why isn't HE cleaning up his own mess? Why isn't he doing his laundry and taking care of this?  Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Dawn Serra Sex is a social skill. I speak it. I write it. I teach it. I help you learn how to develop it. I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too. When I'm not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. But it's not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

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