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This is the first episode in an ongoing series on boundaries. Boundaries are foundational to our joy, freedom, mental and physical health, healthy relationships, and a successful business that is also joyful!
Boundaries are one of the most important things I work with my clients on. And because women have been told that "If you take care of yourself, other people suffer," boundaries are something we are not taught. And they are something that we tend to avoid at all costs.
Owning who we are and what we want is daunting in a world that tells us to know who other people are and what they want.
When we don't set boundaries resentment has fertile ground to grow. That's why learning how to set boundaries is so crucial.
You are not alone in struggling with when and how to set boundaries! It's a process--but one of the most worthy journeys you'll take. So join me today as I chat with Karen Falzone--a client, friend, super successful busines woman, and all around incredible human. You will LOVE her insights, I promise.
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/ Please come say hello!
A New Way to Do Business: Decode the Patriarchal Messages that Hold You BAck & Stop You from Marketing!
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If you want to stop hiding out and start powerfully showing up for your business then it is so important to unover what's holding you back and then create a new way to PLAY!
There's a lot of reasons we hide out but one of the biggest one's I've found is because we are given some really fucked up messaging in our patriarchal society around marketing.
In this episode I share how I started my business and the internal road blocks I ran into when trying to market and launch! It took me a bit to figure out what was stopping me but THANK GOODNESS I eventually got there!
I dive into the lightbulb that went off and changed everything--including how it lead to me starting this podcast!
I walk you through three Patriarchal Marketing Messages that are most likelty holding you back:
•The Myth of Perfectionism
•The belief that in order to make the sale, we need to MANIPULATE
•The idea that in order ot market your business successfully you need false urgency, manipulative pricing, gouging people with payment plans, false scarcity, and exaggerated claims of success.
I give you journal prompts for each of these so that you can start unpacking and dismantling your internalized patriarchy today! Yay!
At the end of the podcast, if you're interested, I let you know about a gathering I'm holding this Thursday, April 11th. If it resonates, please join (I will be sending out a recording!)
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Aaaaaahhhh....getting our photos taken. Do I hear a collective groan? I do know a couple people who don't get stressed at the idea of a photo shoot (or simply having a friend snap a photo on their phone!) but most people I know get anxiety at the thought. Photographer, Éadaoin Curtin, recognized that her clients were stressed out and decided to do something about it. Éadaoin's goal is to empower her clients throughout the process. I think getting our photos taken has a special place in the Patriarchy--it can truly bring up ALL OUR STUFF. The impact of the Male Gaze in our culture cannot be understated. Éadaoin helps women challenge beauty standards and lean into self-acceptance--a radical act if ever there was one.
LINKS:
Éadaoin's website: https://firechildphotography.com/
Éadaoin's IG: https://www.instagram.com/firechildphotography/
Éadaoin's course, Dare To Be Seen: https://firechildphotography.com/dare-to-be-seen/
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
If you're interested in being a guest on my podcast, please fill out this short form!: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/12MUpzM-YVL7y6I4qzvtT4OVjRepYm4Ju5L0D4BEa2e0/edit
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[TW: this episode includes discussion of alcohol abuse and attempted suicide. If you know that hearing about these things will trigger you, please don't listen. Always take exquisite care of your beautiful self.]
When Amy Guerrero reached sent me the google form for "potential podcast guests" she wrote, "I am passionate AF about this work, and look forward to connecting and supporting your audience." I immediately felt a HELL YES in my body. Amy does so much more than help people with trauma--and yet, trauma is also so threaded throughout our systems and lives that understanding it and understanding how to work with it and regulate our nervous systems is nothing short of MIRACULOUS. Amy shares her with so much openness and generosity.
Please come hear about the power of surrender, the toxicity of shame, and the possibilities that exist when we start to understand these things. This episode is truly such a gift.
LINKS:
Amy's website: https://www.regulatewithamy.com/
Amy on IG: https://www.instagram.com/regulatewithamy/
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
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In this inspiring episode I sit down with Laura Hartley and we discuss Remaking the World. You know...just dismantling all the BS and creating a more just and free world. All of us change makers are living in two places--we have one foot in the current world, run my patriarchy, capitalism, white supremacy, racism and other systems of inequity, and we have one foot in the world we are creating--one that we are bringing to life through our thoughts, actions, conversations, activism, and work. One world is collapsing and the other is coming to life. I can't wait for you to listen in to this super rich, enlightening, and inspiring conversation. You're going to walk away with hope and also feeling EMPOWERED to make a difference!! Yay!
LINKS:
Laura's website: https://www.laurahartley.com/
Laura on IG: https://www.instagram.com/laura.h.hartley/
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/stories/elijahshannonselby/
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Capitalism is geared against most of us, though here we are working within this system. How do we find a way to be in this system that is not exploitative? How do we find a way to be in the system that does actually help us to find some power-- when power is in this system expressed through money and that can be so problematic!" That's basically how Natalie opens up this seriously badass conversation about money, gender, power, and privilege.
In this episode we talk about:
Money and gender
Money and power
What it means to be extractive and how not to be!
How can we feel good about making money?
Why do so many women get stuck at earning "just enough"
Ways to be generous!
How to think about scaled pricing--should you or shouldn't you do this?
This episode has a partner episode about power over on Natalie's podcast, Mind Witchery! Go listen now--link below!
DM me in Instagram and let me know what you think!!
LINKS: Mind Witchery Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1MMxLPSz3FJYV7o8OT5csa
(Go now and listen to the partner conversation we had about power!)
Natalie's website: https://www.nataliekmiller.com/
Natalie on IG: https://www.instagram.com/msnataliemiller
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Come say hi! Business as Activism on IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
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Hello loves. Welcome to the first podcast of 2024. And therein lies the seed of this episode--why is this the first episode? And what are my feelings about that? (Spoiler alert--wasn't very happy about it.) But the beautiful gift this situation brought me was that I sat in powerful reflection of who I am and what I stand for. I leaned into Business as Activism. In this episode I'll share the journey with you, and I believe you'll be inspired--at least that is my hope. Changing the world is happening in real time. Recording this episode felt like a true embodiment of some of the changes I'd like to see for this world. Thank you for being here. I'm so grateful.
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In this last episode of 2023 I have one of the most important conversations I've had--a conversation about the Israel Gaza War. As I reveal in the episode, this is not the conversation I imagined having with the incredible Andréa Ranae. But when she showed up in the Zoom room that day I could feel that everything was going to the wayside--what was present for her was the war and I knew if I was going to have this conversation with anyone, Andréa was the person I'd choose to have it with. In our conversation we talk about:
How difficult this conversation is to have and why that's so. Self-care and activism for long-term change. The importance of empathy and understanding in the face of conflict. Grief, trauma, and holding space for marginalized communities. Embracing differences and finding hope in difficult times.Andréa Ranae is devoted to inspiring her community to embrace our world’s greatest challenges from the inside out. Please listen with love and share with anyone you think may crave to hear a conversation like this one.
LINKS:
Andréa Ranae's website: https://andrearanae.com/
Andréa on IG: https://www.instagram.com/andrearanaej/
Andréa's music on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/37V1HDBAAlm13Drjnp1w9D
Information on the Grief Cafe: https://linktr.ee/sashaheron
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
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The Mother Wound touches all areas of our life. Join me in my discussion with Shelly Sharon, Hakomi Somatic Psychotherapist and Life Coach about The Mother Wound.
In this episode we explore:
•The Mother Wound and its impact on self-esteem and relationships.
•The impact of inherited beliefs and trauma on women's lives
•The Mother Wound and the Patriarchy
•Belonging and identity in a Patriarchal society
•Healing the Mother Wound in business and your personal life
I can't wait for you to listen to this powerful episode.
LINKS:
Shelly's website: https://www.shellysharon.com/
Shelly on IG: https://www.instagram.com/motherwound_healingcoach/
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism on IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
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Other titles I considered for this episode:
Personal Style and Gatekeeping in the Workplace
Body Image, Privilege, and Influencer Culture
Breaking Free From the Matrix of the PR World and Embracing Authenticity
At one point in her career, author and coach Helen Jane Campbell was pulled into a room (along with the other women in the firm) and told what kind of underwear they should wear underneath their work clothes. That somebody ever thought that it was okay to dictate women what kind of underwear they should wear is jaw-dropping but it also is exemplary of the Patriarchy in the workplace...and life, really. It may be jaw-dropping, but you know what? We women participate in this dictatorship or how we should look and what we should wear every day. We don't necessarily even understand that we are doing that until someone lifts the veil for us. Well, we are lifting the veil! Helen shares her remarkable journey with us from working in PR, buying the right handbags, having the right haircut, and doing all she could to fit it, to BREAKING FREE of that and discovering her true authentic self. She has two decades of PR experience that she brings to the table and applies that knowledge in a disruptive way to help change the narrative! It's so compelling and really exciting! I can't wait for you to listen!
LINKS:
Helen's website: www.coachingbyhelen.com
Helen on IG: https://www.instagram.com/coachingbyhelen
Helen on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachingbyhelen/
Helen's Book!!! https://www.businessexpertpress.com/books/founders-freelancers-rebels-how-to-thrive-as-an-independent-creative/
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism on IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
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Sarah Zero left corporate America to start her own business doing branding work for entrepreneurs whose work create positive impact on the world--she went solo and discovered how LONELY that was. So many of us can relate. Even if we are not solopreneurs--finding and building community as an adult can feel daunting. Feeling alone can feel like the norm. After attending networking meetings that never felt rewarding or satisfying she decided to create the kind of networking she desired--networking that actually was COMMUNITY. Sarah shares with us what she learned and how she's set things up in powerfully unique ways and what the results have been. It's everything we crave and more.
LINKS: Sarah's website: https://www.wellstruck.com
Sarah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/wellstruck/
Sarah on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahzero/
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism on IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
Elijah on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elijah-shannon-selby-31a3905/
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If you wonder how to gain visibility in a very noisy world, you will want to listen to this episode. Natalie Koussa is a business development coach and Podcast Guesting Strategist who helps industry changemakers create their fully expressed, fully booked business. She’s the creator of the Luminous Mastermind, and The Speakeasy - a group programme which supports entrepreneurs to clarify their thought leadership message, pitch like a pro and get booked on the podcasts their future clients are listening to.
In this powerful conversation, Natalie shares her personal story with us on how she gained visibility through podcast guesting and how she then found her genius in helping others do the same. She talks about:
*How to create your message and show not only what you're doing differently but what it is you stand for.
*How podcast guesting helps you have your message heard in a powerful way (think consent and intimacy).
*How podcasting, referrals, and her email list gets her 95% of her business vs. being able to count on one hand the number of clients she's gotten off social media.
*What you need to have in place in order to start growing your business through podcast guesting...and so much more!
I can't wait for you to curl up and get cozy with this warm and wonderful conversation that is going to create so much possibility for you!
LINKS: Natalie's website: https://www.nataliekoussa.com/
Natalie's Speakeasy Program (open now!): https://www.nataliekoussa.com/speakeasy
Natalie on IG: https://www.instagram.com/nataliekoussa_/
Natalie on LinkedIn: https://ie.linkedin.com/in/nataliekoussa
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism on IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
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The way we lead makes a difference. Leadership can be Activism, just as Business can be Activism! Brooke Hofsess takes us on her own journey to leadership.
In this episode, she shares five leadership paradoxes that invite you into your fullest expression (while also disrupting the status quo):
Insecurity and trust;
Competition and community;
Self-reliance and sharing the load;
Fear of chaos and flow;
Gatekeeping and generatively.
You're going to leave feeling empowered and inspired.
LINKS: Brooke's website: https://www.brookehofsesscoaching.com/
Brooke on IG: https://www.instagram.com/brookehofsess/
Brooke on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brookehofsess/
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism on IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
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"Speak human, win the internet" is Lara Eastburn's tagline--so I'm sure you can tell right away that she's totally awesome. She started learning about internet ads for her hoola hoop business when advertising online was still in the "bunny slope" era! And she found out rather quickly that she 1) loved it and 2) was totally good at it! I don't know about you, but advertising on FB or IG or any other platform has always felt pretty overwhelming. Lara is so good at her job AND she does things really differently (which is what we are interested in here at Business as Activism, right?!) You're going to learn so much and FEEL INSPIRED!! Remember--the way we do business matters. Please share this podcast with someone you love!
LINKS
Lara's website: https://www.laraeastburn.com/
Lara's IG: https://www.instagram.com/laraeastburn/
Lara's One Word Archives (Click each image to read) https://www.laraeastburn.com/one-word-archives/
Elijah's IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
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Hello, Loves! I'm just popping in with a quick announcement about the podcast. Have a listen! See you next week with a full length episode! xoxo, Elijah
Come say hello on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
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“A culture fixated on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty, but an obsession about female obedience. Dieting is the most potent political sedative in women’s history; a quietly mad population is a tractable one.”― Naomi Wolf. No wonder women are in a constant argument with our bodies. No wonder we are disconnected from our bodies--and we see them as "other." And yet, the relationship with our bodies is the most important relationship we have. Nina Manolson brings so much love, compassion, wisdom, and soul to the conversation we are having with and around our bodies. What becomes possible when we feel Body Peace? What become possible when we set ourselves free from the chains of patriarchal beauty norms? If you're like me, it is actually hard to imagine. But for certain this conversation is crucial to our wellbeing. I cannot wait to hear what you think of this profound episode.
LINKS: Nina's website: https://ninamanolson.com/
Nina on IG: https://www.instagram.com/ninamanolson/
Nina on FB: https://www.facebook.com/NinaManolsonBodyPeace
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism on IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
Do you want to work with Elijah? https://calendly.com/thefemininerising/90min
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Success is right around the corner if you buy the right course, right? There's just one piece of information you're missing...and when you read the marketing copy for that course you're CERTAIN that this will be THE THING that makes is all happen.
How many courses have you bought? $2k here, $3k there...it sure adds up, doesn't it? I know I've spent multiple thousands of dollars on courses that I have not used, not finished, or did not deliver. Deanna Seymour was an art teacher looking to start a side hustle to bring some extra money into her family of four. Like so many of us, she googled her way into the online business world, discovering so many celebrity entrepreneurs...and before long she had the feeling of, "Yeah, I can do that--I can be a bazillionaire and run my business from the beach." How many of us have had a similar thought? Deanna opens up to take us on this journey of investing big sums and not getting the desired results; of being convinced by the marketing and then discovering the program really didn't deliver. As a result she created a course called, STOP BUYING COURSES to help people understand marketing and how it is designed to make you feel so you can make empowered decisions. Deanna is AMAZING. OMG, you're going to love her. Truly.
LINKS: Deanna's website: https://deannaseymour.com/
Deanna on IG: https://www.instagram.com/thedeannaseymour/
STOP BUYING COURSES: https://deannaseymour.com/stopbuyingcourses
Deanna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedeannaseymour/
Deanna's Podcast--the eff that series: https://deannaseymour.com/effthatseries
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism on IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
Work with Elijah: https://calendly.com/thefemininerising/90min
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I've had many conversations with people recently where it became clear that I take a lot of my knowledge for granted--and that I assume everyone else knows what I know. NOPE! Not true. So I created this episode to share some foundational beliefs I have when it comes to creating change in this world. I am calling you all in to cozy up so I can walk you through things--how the Paradigms of the Patriarchy operate in our lives, how we change them, and some core paradigms that we can look at in our own businesses and lives to start shifting--small shifts that will make big changes. Because we all have a lot going on, don't we? So what I want you to know is that you don't need to massively overhaul our judicial system in order to create change (however if that is something you can do, yes please!) I remind us all that small hinges swing big doors and then I share some of those small hinges you can start swinging!!
LINKS: Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism on IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
Book a call with Elijah: https://calendly.com/thefemininerising/90min
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"We must shift America from a needs, to a desires culture. People must be trained to desire, to want new things even before the old had been entirely consumed. We must shape a new mentality in America. Man's desires must overshadow his needs." - Paul Mazor, Lehman Brothers (post WWI era). Chelsea Quint talks to us today about how that vision became a reality, and how we are manipulated by the modern day marketing machine. I know we've talked a lot about marketing on this podcast (and we are sure to do it again), however this conversation uncovers WHY and HOW we got here. Prior to Mazor's declaration, things were advertised for their FUNCTION. The, Edward Bernays, Sigmund Freud's nephew, took up the mantle and created numerous ways of advertising that created DESIRE. If we are going to be free from the manipulative shackles of consumerism, we have to first understand how we are being manipulated! Please share this episode with someone and help spread the word!
LINKS: Chelsea's website: www.chelseaquint.comChelsea on IG: www.instagram.com/chelsea.quint
Chelsea on FB: www.facebook.com/xochelseaquint
Century of the Self BBC Docuseries: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eJ3RzGoQC4s
Elise Meyers: https://www.tiktok.com/@elysemyers?lang=en
Charlotte Palermino's IG: https://www.instagram.com/charlotteparler/
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism on IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
Book a call with Elijah: https://calendly.com/thefemininerising/90min
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We pull back the curtain on the financial industry on this one! The financial world uses language and jargon that purposely acts as a gatekeeper of knowledge so that only a select few are able to navigate these waters. Maura Madden, Certified Financial Planner witnessed this for years before she decided to start her own firm, with the aim of supporting people to truly understand and take hold of their finances in ways that make sense for their lives (among other things--Maura is very talented!) There's reasons women often feel that finances are either something they are not good at, or something that other people should deal with...and yet, we disempower ourselves when we buy into that. Pull up a chair and take notes!
LINKS:
Maura's website: https://mauramadden.com/
Maura on IG: https://www.instagram.com/maura.madden/
Maura's blog: https://mauramadden.com/blog/
Elijah on IG: https://www.instagram.com/elijahshannonselby/
Business as Activism on IG: https://www.instagram.com/businessasactivism/
I have two openings for clients--if you're curious, book a call with me here: https://calendly.com/thefemininerising/90min
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