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0:00 intro 01:41 social interaction = society interaction04:41 You have status anxiety07:21 Value Gap11: 04 You’re not alone📖 my e-bookRead 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/
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POV: Your Social Feed Says You’re Falling Behind :')It’s so easy to get caught up in the endless scroll of someone else’s success—whether it’s the influencer flaunting a six-figure business or your friend who seems to be ticking off every milestone you never even dreamed about.Over the years, I’ve caught myself asking…Why am I not further ahead?Am I doing something wrong if I’m not a “rich girlie” by 25?But here’s the truth I’ve learned: Success isn’t always what it seems.Between social media highlight reels and the real-life pressures of inflation, climbing the corporate ladder, or figuring out a side hustle, it’s easier than ever to confuse someone else’s version of “making it” with your own. We get stuck chasing a formula or aesthetic for success, forgetting to ask, What do I actually want?In this video, I explain into why Gen Z’s obsession with success can be more about survival than ambition, how comparison can rob you of your originality, and why your biggest motivator might be shame rather than genuine passion.I also talk about how defining success on your own terms can set you free from the relentless grind. Because if you’re not careful, you’ll wake up living someone else’s dream—and wonder why you’re still not happy.
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0:00 intro
02:13 Why we seek validation
05:16 Validation and self esteem
07:51 The value gap
11:20 Hobbies
12:52 Spending time around the right people
16:16 The highest most confident version of yourself
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0:00 intro2:05 are we asking too much?4:34 the bare minimum6:23 date outside your type9:55 80% of couples are dissatisfied11:35 high self esteem protects you from poor quality relationships
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0:00 intro02:22 late bloomer theory05:00 the world says you're behind17:59 shiny object syndromePOV: You feel like you’re falling behind in life.📖 my eBookGrab 'Stop Shrinking Start Living' here → https://christina-aaliyah.com/
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0:00 intro1:16 letting go of a friend2:36 should i just accept i'm ugly?5:05 self confidence6:24 how to be your authentic self9:05 my co-workers hate me?11:45 how to stop people pleasing -
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📍 timestamps0:00 intro3:26 safety of misery7:36 the paradox of low expectations15:54 old you vs the new you19:47 fear of the unknown
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0:00 intro2:11 your fruits are only as good as your roots 3:54 mindset doesn’t dictate success, self worth does7:18 my vision board12:21 a vision board is just 1% of what you can achieve15:52 detachment
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0:00 intro 1:55 chapter 14:07 chapter 27:29 chapter 311:11 chapter 412:35 chapter 5
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0:00 Intro
1:46 Book 1: Finally be happy with your life
5:33 Book 2: Never overthink again
10:15 Book 3: Achieve TRUE wealth
16:49 Book 4: Become unrecognisable
1. Happier by Tal Ben-Shahar https://amzn.to/3BKp9L5
2. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle https://amzn.to/3BK3P8u
3. The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ DeMarco https://amzn.to/3VU6DXr
4. Letting Go by David R. Hawkins https://amzn.to/3ZSpYtr
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0:00 Intro
1:31 Sign 1
3:44 Sign 2
5:31 Sign 3
7:23 Sign 4
9:00 Sign 5
11:00 Sign 6
14:01 Sign 7
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I nearly didn’t upload this video LOL
This is an OLLDDDDDD video from the archives
I wasn’t able to film a new video this week (ya girl is working 60 hours this week 🥲)
But I still wanted to post for you guys so I thought I would upload this old video
Audio and editing is not the best but things will be back to normal next week 🙏🏽
Much love xxx
0:00 intro
1:33 what the hell is a nervous system
3:20 what happens when things go wrong
6:05 “if feeling is the problem, I’ll never feel again”
8:02 learning to reprogram
9:09 right now
10:01 this week
10:57 long term
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0:00 intro3:00 fear of love6:12 Hyperfixate on flaws9:09 being single is better than settling12:47 not all relationships are created equal -
0:00 intro
1:08 Definition
4:12 Procrastination and perfectionism are best friends
6:30 You Tie Your Worth to Outcomes, Not Effort
12:29 Avoidance behaviours
14:45 Face the emotion, face the problem
This is one of the most personal topics I’ve ever spoken about because I have BEEN IN THE TRENCHES of procrastinating so bad and hating myself for it.
Procrastination isn’t just about laziness or distractions—it’s about fear.
The fear that we won’t do it right, that we’ll fall short, or that we’ll fail in front of everyone.
I’ve been the person who delays sending that text, starting that project, or speaking up in a meeting because I wasn’t “ready” or I was too scared of the outcome. I’ve told myself, just research a little more, prepare a little better, or wait for the right time. But deep down, I knew the truth: I wasn’t avoiding the task—I was avoiding the emotions that came with it.
The fear of rejection, inadequacy, or imperfection has held me back from so much. And honestly? It’s exhausting. But I’m learning to face it. I’m learning that I can’t tie my worth to an outcome or wait for things to be “perfect” before I start.
In this video, I talk about the real reasons behind procrastination—the ones we don’t always want to admit. It’s about the discomfort, the self-doubt, and the pressure we put on ourselves to be extraordinary. And I share how I’m slowly learning to celebrate the small wins, face the uncomfortable emotions, and take action—even when it’s scary.
If this resonates with you, let’s figure it out together. Give yourself grace. Start small. Because you deserve to try, even if the outcome isn’t perfect.
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0:00 intro
2:24 grades fuel your self esteem
6:33 parental pressure
12:38 “the trophy child”
14:36 relationships act as “shock absorbers”
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0:00 intro2:47 undervaluing the work you’ve done6:01 your goals aren’t aligned with your values8:53 emotions are signals9:49 what you hide, owns you 15:15 not acknowledging your progress
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0:00 intro
2:30 motivation vs self-criticism
5:15 some things are better in your head, than in reality
9:12 some friends are temporary lessons
11:27 don’t take being ignored personally
14:54 trust your gut
16:45 achievement can happen through action
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0:00 intro
3:09 the pressure to live up to an ideal
6:36 pretending you’re okay
11:50 ambition
17:22 self-critical
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0:00 intro
2:26 desire for friendship
4:32 being seen
8:13 validation
11:16 the value gap
14:55 diversify your identity
18:09 self discovery
19:49 live in the moment
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