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0:00 intro
1:08 Definition
4:12 Procrastination and perfectionism are best friends
6:30 You Tie Your Worth to Outcomes, Not Effort
12:29 Avoidance behaviours
14:45 Face the emotion, face the problem
This is one of the most personal topics I’ve ever spoken about because I have BEEN IN THE TRENCHES of procrastinating so bad and hating myself for it.
Procrastination isn’t just about laziness or distractions—it’s about fear.
The fear that we won’t do it right, that we’ll fall short, or that we’ll fail in front of everyone.
I’ve been the person who delays sending that text, starting that project, or speaking up in a meeting because I wasn’t “ready” or I was too scared of the outcome. I’ve told myself, just research a little more, prepare a little better, or wait for the right time. But deep down, I knew the truth: I wasn’t avoiding the task—I was avoiding the emotions that came with it.
The fear of rejection, inadequacy, or imperfection has held me back from so much. And honestly? It’s exhausting. But I’m learning to face it. I’m learning that I can’t tie my worth to an outcome or wait for things to be “perfect” before I start.
In this video, I talk about the real reasons behind procrastination—the ones we don’t always want to admit. It’s about the discomfort, the self-doubt, and the pressure we put on ourselves to be extraordinary. And I share how I’m slowly learning to celebrate the small wins, face the uncomfortable emotions, and take action—even when it’s scary.
If this resonates with you, let’s figure it out together. Give yourself grace. Start small. Because you deserve to try, even if the outcome isn’t perfect.
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0:00 intro
2:24 grades fuel your self esteem
6:33 parental pressure
12:38 “the trophy child”
14:36 relationships act as “shock absorbers”
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0:00 intro2:47 undervaluing the work you’ve done6:01 your goals aren’t aligned with your values8:53 emotions are signals9:49 what you hide, owns you 15:15 not acknowledging your progress
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0:00 intro
2:30 motivation vs self-criticism
5:15 some things are better in your head, than in reality
9:12 some friends are temporary lessons
11:27 don’t take being ignored personally
14:54 trust your gut
16:45 achievement can happen through action
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0:00 intro
3:09 the pressure to live up to an ideal
6:36 pretending you’re okay
11:50 ambition
17:22 self-critical
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0:00 intro
2:26 desire for friendship
4:32 being seen
8:13 validation
11:16 the value gap
14:55 diversify your identity
18:09 self discovery
19:49 live in the moment
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0:00 intro
1:28 friendships have become more of a want than a need
3:30 replacing friends with our personal hobbies
6:20 effort
8:10 social media
11:43 millennial perspective
13:37 having a thriving social life
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Source: Co-Op Foundation - One Small Step September 2021
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0:00 intro
2:13 the 1 thing holding you back
7:49 the power of introversion
12:16 do less to get more
15:04 going out of your comfort zone
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0:00 intro
0:50 very socially aware
3:19 you only pursue meaningful connection
6:05 you’re independent
8:45 control your emotions
11:58 you know yourself very well
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0:00 intro
1:41 you expect yourself to be perfect
4:28 the illusion of completion
8:39 chasing perfection
11:36 we chase excitement and not peace
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0:00 intro
1:17 validation
4:54 being busy
7:17 relationships
10:02 friendships
12:30 success
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0:00 intro
2:22 prioritisation
5:29 self-sabotage
6:57 good news
8:03 wealth
11:08 rejection
12:56 vulnerability
17:01 love
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0:41 you can have a conversation with anyone
1:40 you live in the present moment
3:31 you’re a good mix of relatable and aspirational
5:20 right mix sense of humour and intelligence
7:03 strong sense of self
8:36 negativity is just as important as positivity
10:56 you’re comfortable being seen
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0:00 intro1:52 you have to work to get approval2:57 low self esteem4:38 are you trying to save them8:18 what do boundaries look like11:50 boundaries are an act of self-respect
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0:00 intro
1:41 social media
3:39 hyper individualist culture /hustle culture
8:24 Lack of third spaces
14:37 people are less open
8:24 lack of third spaces
16:06 neurodivergence
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2:56 hating yourself became your safe space
5:26 you make up for your lack of beauty elsewhere
6:45 friendships
9:45 relationships
14:56 confidence
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1:25 society places value on extroversion
3:49 you’re exhausted from pretending
7:38 lonely v alone
10:01 you thrive 1:1 and not in groups
13:00 feel like you’re in the outside looking in
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0:00 intro
2:08 being your authentic self isn’t about adding, it’s about revealing
4:50 Suppressed emotions
9:37 journal prompts to help you be yourself
13:21 the authentic you doesn’t need approval
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0:00 intro
2:17 self improvement creates excellence, but acceptance creates happiness
4:39 what is self acceptance?
7:53 forgiveness is your biggest barrier to self improvement (last chapter??)
13:47 pursuing perfection only makes you more insecure
16:18 elebrating yourself is a habit not an occasion
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0:53 micro habit 1
2:41 micro habit 2
5:00 micro habit 3
7:31 micro habit 4
11:04 micro habit 5
13:48 micro habit 6
15:48 micro habit 7
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