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Misty, and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie and Angel in London to talk about Angel's journey of discovery and trans experience.
What is it like to hide your trans self?
What is a man, and how do men act?
When and why did Angel's dysphoria blow up?
And who sold weed to George Michael?
Angel is a pro domme (under the name Eris), cam girl, spicy content creator, kink photographer, welfare monitor, and dungeon mistress at some of the biggest UK feti$h parties. She founded Catnip FLINTA play parties.
As a seggs worker as well as a certified scene queen of the queer kink community, and as a woman of trans experience, Angel advocates for intersectionality within the London kink and fetish world.
[Insta] @angel_in_a_cage_80
[Website] Serve Eris
[Parties -London] Catnip parties (no CIS men allowed)
*What we were consuming*
[Book] Roxanne Gay, Not That Bad (2018)
[Music] Grime music
[Party-London] Riot Party
[Writing] Five act structure
[Definition] FLINTA - those who identify as Female, Lesbian, Intersex, Non-binary, Trans, or Agender
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Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by special guest Simon to talk about men, masculinity and the patriarchy. Simon discusses his journey of learning to suppress emotions and to open up about feelings, something that is absent from most boys' and men's skills sets, but why?
What do men talk about when they talk?
What don't men talk about when they meet up?
Why don't men have their own feminism?
Why don't men even think of themselves as men beyond the male roles they are given?
Should gender education be part of school curricula? What would it look like?
Simon Fokt holds a PhD in Philosophy and lectures at HTW Berlin. His academic work focuses on aesthetics, applied ethics, and metaphilosophy. His focus on taking complex philosophical concepts out of the scholarly discourse led him to adapt Aristotle’s virtue ethical concepts and apply them to modern masculinity discourse.
For more on Simon, visit his Linktree (website, Insta etc) here
Simon on YouTube: Here
*What we were consuming*
[Video] What is The Man Box?
[Statistics] Suicide is the biggest killer of men under 50 in the UK
[Statistics] The connection between a lack of male role models on violence, drug abuse and criminality
[TED Talk] How masculinity is evolving
[Academic article] Changing men, changing masculinities
[Philosophy] David Hume: "Reason Is and Ought Only to Be the Slave of the Passions."
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Effie and her special guest Jane Grey are in London to talk about life as a dominatrix. Misty joins from Berlin as the three discuss their personal and professional experiences of being dominant or submissive and how their play has evolved over the years.
The Crudies also talk consent, again. And give tips on what to say if you find it difficult to say no before, during or after a scene.
Should we say Femdom or Dom femme? What's the difference?
Jane Grey is a professional Dominatrix, and founder of Scene and UnScene parties in London. She is also a creator of luxury, personalised experiences.
[Parties] UnScene (@unscene_ldn) or Scene (@sceneldn)
[Jane's branding agency] wmh-i
*What we were consuming*
[Wikipedia] Queen Jane Grey
[Podcast] The Orgasm Cult
[Hangover cure] Pre-Pear juice
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When are hot dogs more than just hotdogs?
Crude goes to the zoo for this episode all about bestiality or sexual interactions with our furry and not-so-fury little friends on this earth.
Elle and Effie in London are joined by (lone wolf) Frank in Berlin to talk through the laws and hypocrisies within people's attitudes to animal welfare regarding sexual interactions with animals.
Which animals would the crew most like to kiss?
Is peanut butter the most effective way to seduce your pet?
*What we were consuming*
[Book] Luck Cooke Bitch: On the female of the species (2023)
[YouTube] Isabella Rossellini on bedbug mating (Green Porno)
[TV] Nip/Tuck episode with dog love
[Article] The Berlin magazine on zoophilia
[Article] Seggs with Donkeys in Colombia (Vice magazine)
[Article] [German] Two men discuss love affairs with their dogs
[History] Man loves horse (10,000 years old)
[History] Roman graffiti
[Pig love] Black Mirror Ep. 1
[Article] UK woman has seggs with pug
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The Crude team talk all about different types of threesomes and what makes us desire them, as well as touching on how to have a good one.
Later on, they focus on the rise of male + male + female and male + female + male (MMF and MFM) threesomes. Are they all about power? Is placing the woman at the centre a necessary part of any successful threesome? Are male attitudes on same sex experience changing to suit women's desires, or are the Crudies just living in a sex-positive bubble?
While FFM threesome have been the cornerstone of 'risqué' mainstream culture and heteronormative fantasy, there has been a gradual shift toward more gynocentric attitudes to women's desire which is exemplified by increased female interest in porn that's focused on MMF fantasizes or more phallocentric sexual imagery and fantasies.
The crew also discuss some examples of MFM scenarios in films like Challengers (2024)
*What we were consuming*
[Article] Stats on women's top searches on adult websites (access original P*rnHub data via ManofMany website)
[Article] A Film Lover’s Guide to the MMF Threesome
[Film] Y Tu Mamá También – MMF scene (2002)
[Film] Challengers – boys in love (2024)
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Effie is joined by Elle in London, Frank in Berlin and Elle's Lemurian sibling Margaux in California for this extra-sex-terrestrial episode all about aliens, probes, martian pegging and sci-fi.
History, scandal and three-boobed mutants. Crude goes to space.
Which aliens would the Crudies most like to sleep with or probe?
Why did people say aliens abducted them and gave them prostate massages? Was this a medical kink? Or are THEY walking among us now?
Abduction story credit: @libbiehiggins
*Alien Genetics*
[Alien-Ancestry.com] Elle & Margaux's alien heritage
*What we were consuming*
[Article] Nancy Reagan as the Throat Goat of Hollywood
[Article] H.R. GIGER’s Private Life Was Just as Dark, Sexy, and Pop as His Art
[Article] John E. Mack and the Unbelievable UFO Truth
[Article] Alien abduction claims examined
[Article] Neuropsychological profiles of adults ... implications for claims of sex abuse and alien visitation/abduction experiences
[Video] Betty and Barney Hill abduction documentary
[Article] The Satanic Panic
[Sci-fi author] Octavia Butler
[Book] Adrian Tchaikovsky Children of Time (2015)
[Book] Ursula K. Le Guin The Left Hand of Darkness (1969)
*Movie nerd stuff*
[Movie] Barbarella (1968)
[Movie] Labyrinth (1986) (Effie's Goblin King)
[Movie] They Live (1988)
[Movie] The Celluloid Closet - Documentary looking at queer cinema tropes (1995)
[Movie] Arrivals (2016)
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In this episode, Frank in Berlin is privileged to be joined by the ineffable Effie and special guest Poppy in London. After all their poly-bashing, are the Crude Crew open to changing their mind on the term? Other questions that the Crew looks at include ...
What is polyamory? Why do Misty and Frank cringe at some poly language like "compersion"? Is everyone poly?
Poppy Scarlett is a professional over-sharer and Full Time Sex Person™️. As a certified Sex and Relationships Educator, non-monogamy content creator and seggs worker, she bares all to help others shed shame and embrace pleasure.
Through her playful workshops and one-on-one coaching sessions, Poppy educates on sex, non-monogamy, and intimacy. She regularly appears as a guest expert on podcasts and panels. A proudly kinky, queer, and polyamorous woman, Poppy previously ran the much-loved online sex toy boutique, Self & More, before dedicating herself fully to pleasure education in all its forms.
For more, visit: poppy-scarlett.com
Instagram: @polyampoppy / @poppyscarlett_
*London parties*
SceneUnscene*What we were reading*
[Book] Natalie Lue The Joys of Saying No (2022)
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On this episode, Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London and special guest Carlos in Birmingham, UK as the Crudies talk about all things gay party scenes and men-who-have-s3x-with-men (MSM)
Misty also tells us about her first g0ngbong experience, and Effie talks about London's S3x-worker pride and the party series that celebrated its inaugural event.
Special guest Carrrrrlos came on to answer all the questions we wanted to ask gay/MSM people who visit dark rooms and s3x parties. Are unsolicited d1ckpics ok? What is PrEP? What's the difference between Grindr and HInge? What is wrong with condoms in the gay scene in London and Berlin? What about beauty standards among gay men?
*What we were reading*
[Fetish] Bug Chasers
[Medicine] PrEP explanation
[Parties UK] Riot Party UK
[Parties UK] Female and femme-leaning OneNightParties
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On this episode, Elle and Effie in London are joined by a special guest Maya to talk about how sex workers date and the many complications that arise from it.
Crude Podcast: Seggsual healing
*What we were consuming*
[Podcast] Eva Oh
[Berlin exhibition] With Legs Wide Open
[Activism] Hackling // Hustling
[Article] Boomtown
[Article] Whorearchy
[Theory] Madonna–Wh0re complex
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Misty and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to talk about their breakup experiences. Did they end things or stay friends, and why not just burn their sh* and move on? What about post-break-up seggs? Is it a good idea? Or have they lost the privilege?
In the catch-up, Effie talks about her holidays in the French nudist and swinger paradise in Cap d'Agde.
*Crudie break up songs*
Lou Dillon – ICUPeaches – Fuck the Pain AwayGotye - Somebody That I Used to Know (acapella) Parcels – OnceMichael Kiwanuka – Love & HateJulia Jacklin – Don't know how to keep loving youRoger Fakhr – Fine AnywayMichelle Guerevich – End of an Era.... more suggestions to our Insta @crude_podcast
*What we were consuming*
[Book] Katherine W. Thomas. Conscious Uncoupling (2016)
[Book] Esther Perel. Mating in Captivity (2006)
[Nudist holidays] Cap d'Agde on Insta: @villagenaturistecap
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Misty in Berlin and Effie in London are joined by their special guest Kėkė to talk all about sex and music. The Crudies kick off with a discussion of how therapeutic gangbangs can be and Effie gives more tips on how to organise them.
Berlin-based un-disciplined artist, researching the intersections of sound, film, performance and somatic research. Kėkė's artworks are a space to explore how contemplative embodiment and improvisation can be a point of access to sense the living and connective tissue between ourselves, the spaces we inhabit and one another. By working across disciplines and sense organs, Kėkė seeks to create experiences through my art that invite introspection and innate curiosity, out of which the unexpected may emerge.
*Keké's links*
Keké's homepageKėkė's Instagram: @kekecreatureAuthentic Movement*What we were consuming*
[Film] Midsommar
[Book] Andreas Weber. Matter And Desire: An Erotic Ecology (2017)
[Book] Adrienne Maree Brown. Pleasure Activism (2019)
[Essays] Audrey Lorde. Sister Outsider esp. “Erotic Empowerment” and “Naked Intimacy: Eroticism, Improvisation, and Gender”
[Wiki] Henri Bergsson
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In this (yummy) episode, Effie in London is joined by Frank, Misty and special guest Clara from WeFeast to chew the fat on all things food and seggs.
After discussing how the food-fun plays out at Berlin's unique WeFeast play parties, the crud(ité) crew discuss their own experiences related to food and sex. Ever sploshed in a bath in a dress suit? What about remote zucchini seggs from Mexico?
Clara hosts unique and exclusive experiences for sex and food enthusiasts under the wings of We Feast. Carefully selected curious people are invited to explore themselves for a full weekend through immersive culinary adventures and tantric workshops hosted in a refined playspace. You can join WeFeast in Berlin and London.
Join the table: https://wefeast.life/berlin-feast/
Juicy newsletter: https://wefeast.life/letters/
*What we were consuming*
[YouTube] The Gum Wall
[Effie's elixir] Sweetened coconut condensed milk
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The Masturbation episode
Misty, and Frank in Berlin are joined by Effie in London to talk all about the joys and methods of making love to your very special own self. The team talks about the moral panics and history of shame surrounding a theme that is still very much taboo for many people. Did King Onan pull out or spill the seed? How often does the Crude team beat the meat, and why? Why don't we all talk about it more? Is everyone doing it?
*What we were consuming*
[Book] Dr Eric Sprankle. DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation (2024)
[Article] Euphemisms for masturbation (2023)
[Article] Origins of masturbation traced to primates 40 million years ago (2023)
[Book] Thomas W. Laqueur. Solitary Sex: A Cultural History of Masturbation (2004)
[Academic journal] Kontula und Haavio-Manilla, "Masturbation in a generational perspective"; Journal of Psychology & Human Sexuality, 2002. 14(2-3). 49-83.
[Academic journal] German-language study (2016) Link
[O-gap reducing services] OMGYES
[Article] Masturbation laws around the world (2013)
[Book] Samuel Auguste Tissot. A Treatise on the Curse of Onan (1758)
[Book] Anonymous. Onania (c.1712)
[Personality] Gypsy-Rose Blanchard
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Special guest Lisa from Cybrothel talks us through the fascinating range of love dolls they have on offer, as well as VR experiences and other seggs tech services you can find at this unique house of pleasure in Berlin
Elle, Frank and Lisa look deeper into how love dolls will develop in the future and Lisa talks about how Cybrothel is actively looking to market dolls to a broader queer audience and for more female-centred doll experiences.
What are the ethics about seggs with dolls? What's happening in the future? And why do some people want to completely ban love dolls?
*What we were consuming*
[Futures anthropologist, Insta.] @roannevanvoorst Dr. Roanne van Voorst
[Cybrothel] Newsletter sign-up and info
[German kink magazine] My Kink
[Movie trailer] Her (2013)
[Series trailer] Westworld (2016)
[History of love dolls] “All Is Rubber!”: The Femmes en Caoutchouc and the Actual Origins of the Commercial Sex Doll
[AI chat bot] Replica
[Song, Elle's doll poem] Roxy Music: In Every Dream Home a Heartache
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I bought you mail order
My plain wrapper baby
Your skin is like vinyl
The perfect companion
You float in my new pool
De luxe and delightful
Inflatable doll
My role is to serve you
Disposable darling
Can't throw you away now
Immortal and life-size
My breath is inside you
I'll dress you up daily
And keep you till death sighs
Inflatable doll
Lover ungrateful
I blew up your body
But you blew my mind
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15 Is raw dogging really the wurst idea? Stipulations & reputations with bareback seggs
On this podcast, Effie in London is joined by Misty and Frank in Berlin to talk about raw dogging and bareback riding AKA completely irresponsible but occasionally hot seggs.
The discussion begins with a catchup on the team's news, the latest fivesomes, sevensomes and other some-somes. Including the perils of dating tall men and generic tech-bot guys ...
The crew then discuss raw dogging, bareback seggs (BB for short) and all the problems this can cause but also how hot it can be. Is it okay to fluid-bond with people while you are in an open relationship? Can your partner ask you to brush your teeth after you have swallowed some man jam? What is double-digging raw dog and is it worth it? What is the difference between rawdogging and fluid bonding? Effie gives us some insights from her now fully internalised polyamorous dictionary.
*What we were reading*
[Wikipedia] 'Rawdog' redirects to 'Bareback'
[Reddit] Who else hates the term fluid bonded?
[Gay adult film] BareBack Mountain (LycanFilms 2006)
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After a catch-up where the team swipe themselves into a flurry talking about some of the mishaps, traps and jackpots they've hit while burning precious life energy on dating apps.
How is it hooking up with couples on dating apps? Is it easy for couples to meet unicorns or single boys and girls for fun? How is dating for bisexual boys and girls? What can go wrong when looking for hook-ups?
Insta: @crude_podcast
Email: [email protected]
*Crudie dinner date menus*
Misty: Clementines - "Before, during, and after"
Effie: Vegan sushi - "Just because"
Frank: Grapes & cheese on spikes - "Oldie but goldie"
*What we were consuming*
[Movie] Newness
[Festival] Easter Fetish Festival
[Article] Relationships that begin online are less stable
[Article] Maximisers and satisficers
*The apps and websites we use*
Bumble @bumble
Feeld @feeldco
JoyClub @joyclub_de / @uk_joyclub
Hinge @hinge
Fetlife https://fetlife.com/
Grindr @grindr
[Website] Fabswingers.com
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After a catch-up where the Team discuss the opening of Elle's With Legs Wide Open exhibition at the Schwules Museum Berlin and the topic of sex work prohibition in Europe, the Crude crew dive deep into how they deal with jealousy in their relationships and situationships in the past and in the present.
Is jealousy sometimes good? Can it be avoided? What should you do if you are jealous? Are some people more competitive or is that jealousy? And what the f**k is compersion?
*Effie's t-shirt design ideas*
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Project Insecurities
Onto Other People
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High & Lubed
3.
Jealous?
Play squash
*What we were consuming*
[Article] DW article on the 2017 prostitution law
[Book] Esther Perel. The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (2017)
[YouTube] ContraPoint on the difference between envy and jealousy
[YouTube] Esther Perel on the Nature of Erotic Desire
[Spotify] Esther Perel on polyamory on the Tim Ferriss podcast
[Ted Talk] Compersion and Jealousy
[Podcast - in German] Embrace Jealousy
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After a catch-up where Elle discusses an exhibition she is curating in Berlin (With Legs Wide Open), the Crude crew talk about all things ass, anal, butts and bums. Everything from rimming to fingers to plugs and willies and all the other stuff too.
Is it worth it for people with pussies? Does everyone like it? Can you cum from it?
Bottoms up!
*What we were reading*
[Book] Juno Mac & Molly Smith. Revolting Prostitutes: The Fight for Sex Workers' Rights (2020)
[Book on feminist sex wars] M.G. Grant. Playing the Whore: The work of sex work (2014).
*Important links*
[Collective] Objects of desire
Effie's beginner butt plug
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Elle, Misty, Effie and Frank are back and catching up on their recent lives from the past weeks. There are diggs that won't come down, blood from Empress Wu, peaches full of man jam and lots and lots and about Poor (Terrible?) Things.
*What we were reading*
[Book] Emily Nagoski. Come as You Are (2015)
[Book] Peter Brook. Ch. 7 "Frankenstein" in What is a Monster? (1993)
[Essay] Laura Mulvey. "Visual pleasure and narrative cinema". Screen. 16 (3): 6–18 (Autumn 1975).
[Film trope] Born Sexy Yesterday
[Film trope] Manic Pixie Dream Girl
[Exhibition Berlin] With Legs Wide Open
[Mary Shelley] Mary Shelly's Mother's Grave
*What we were watching*
[TV miniseries] Alias Grace
[Film trailer] The Holy Mountain
[Director] Yorgos Lanthimos: Dogtooth, The Lobster. The Favourite. Killing of a Sacred Deer. Poor Things.
[Film] Luca Guadagnino. Call me by your Name (2017)
[Film] Luc Besson. The Fifth Element (1997)
[Film] Franklin J. Schaffner. Planet of the Apes (1968)
[Film] Julia Ducournau. Titane (2021)
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In this episode, the Crude team get all wet as they dive deep into the fluid shallows of the world of squirting. So, what is it? How does it work? Can everyone do it? And, most importantly ... is it pee? [It's not :) ]
Misty and Frank in Berlin, Effie and Elle in London are joined by G in the studio to go over the myths and science as well as all the other sloshy details you need to know about squirting.
G (g/they/them) is an experimental intimacy artist, writer, erotic bodyworker and performer who has been 'orgynizing' and facilitating play spaces worldwide since 2014. G loves puns, is a proud squirter and prefers hip-hop to techno. You can find them on Insta @passions.g.ame
*What we were reading*
[Scientific study] A sexual superpower or a shame? Women’s diverging experiences of squirting/female ejaculation in Sweden
[Scientific survey] Female ejaculation has a positive impact on women's and their partners' sexual lives
[Historical article] The History of Female Ejaculation
*Squirting workshops and coaching*
[Insta] World record Squirter @lolajeandotcom
[Squirt coaching UK] ecbonyandivory.com
[Squirt coach UK, Insta] @jessicaparkerpleasure
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