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Thinking through my recent BIG decision to move (which I made quickly with relatively little friction*), I realized I need to call out some BIG mistakes people can make in situations like these.
*Note: "little friction" does not mean "zero emotions or stress"...those are normal human experiences and we're not selling snake oil here
Here's what I didn't do, that I don't want you to either:
I DIDN'T make "bad feelings" = bad thingsI DIDN'T try to make all the decisions at onceI DIDN'T focus on what I didn't knowAnd I DIDN'T try to keep the stakes low at any costThis episode will help you make your next big choice quickly and confidently.
And if you're in the MIDDLE of a big decision, it'll help you figure out what's creating extra stress right now that you can change!
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Meet the final two Cognitive Tendencies and Biases in our series!
Perspective-Taking and Delayed Gratification. 🙌
This episode will help you better understand:
Why you misinterpret other people's meaningsWhy other people misunderstand what you meanWhy seemingly harmful or illogical choices "make sense"And how to account for these biases so you can make clearer, more intentional choicesLINKS!
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Ok...we have a pretty good sense of Negativity Bias at the surface.
Negative information has a greater impact than positive information, when it comes to cognitive processing.
But do you know exactly how and why this is affecting your decision-making?
Let's continue our series on Cognitive Biases, pulled from a workshop I ran with a previous Coaching Group, to dig into:
The Framing EffectLoss AversionThe Endowment EffectLINKS!
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How often do you assume you know WHY something happened?
How quickly do you land on a conclusion about why something DIDN'T happen?
Turns out, we humans are great at assigning "causes" to things.
We're just not great at getting it right!
In this quick episode, I clue you into the cognitive tendency of Causal Attribution, including where it comes from, how to spot it, and how to make conscious decisions in spite of it!
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You might be familiar with Confirmation Bias.
But do you know how to use it to your advantage?
What about a quick, easy way to make sure you're not being blinded by it?
I've got you covered in this episode. 👍
Listen now to feel instantly more in charge of your thinking and decisions!
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We all want to make smart, thoughtful, "rational" decisions, right?
But how do we do that when we're working with a biased brain?
Today's episode is pulled from a Workshop I did for a Decision Masters Coaching Group, where we explored different cognitive biases and tendencies that impact our decision-making daily.
You'll learn:
How the Fluency Effect makes things seem easier than they areWhy the Planning Fallacy might be to blame for you not getting all 27 things done during that "90-minute time block" And how to use the awareness of these biases to your advantage, so you can still remain a human (we don't "conquer" our own wiring!) but also make intentional choices and set yourself up for successLINKS!
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Ok. So there's a problem.
Maybe someone's saying it's your fault. Or they're implying it. Or you're just assuming it.
What do you do? Well, if you're like a lot of folks, you go into Auto-Wrong Mode.
You question your right to have an opinion contrary to others...to implement a boundary...to say no to a requestYou assume you're wrong, you've created the problem, and now it's your job to fix itYou lose sight of what you TRULY think, feel, want and needNOT ANYMORE, friend.
I used to ask clients to consider another perspective ("What if this problem has 100% to do with them, and 0% to do with you?") but now - thanks to a brave, wise, empowered young woman - I have this gem of a question:
What if this is an ish-YOU, not an ish-ME?
Listen for how to free yourself from assuming you're in the wrong, and from taking responsibility for being "different" just so there isn't a problem anymore!
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The idea of deciding something "as an experiment" is appealing because it implies lower stakes and easier commitment, right?
But how do you "experiment" with big life choices that you can't just undo if you change your mind?
In this episode, I explain how you'll benefit from adopting the "Experiment Mindset" more -- and the most effective way to do it!
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How often do you set a goal - or create a plan to deal with a circumstance - only for it not to work perfectly and for you to end up feeling like a failure who "should've planned better"?
Whether you wanted to "get X done in Y time" or you thought you had a good strategy to deal with "Z situation" - if you don't end up with results you like, you might judge or resent your plan!
It's easy to look at "failed plans" in hindsight through major Judgment Goggles.
But what's the alternative?
This episode breaks down the KEY STEP to executing plans successfully: Assessment
I show you the big mistake people make when they miss a target deadline, or get stuck in a plan for several more months than intended.
And how to avoid it!
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Whether you're going through a big life change or you've simply experienced an internal "season shift," now is a great time to check in and update your Core Values.
The best questions I can offer to make this easy are:
What do I want influencing my choices right now?Three months from now, what will I be happy having done / tended do / avoided?In this episode, I walk you through my own conversation with myself (on a dog walk) during which I updated my Core Values — since I have a big move coming up and our family's starting a new chapter soon (with Kenny working out of town most of the year and me taking care of our 3 dogs and my business here!).
I remind you of the guidelines of crafting your Core Values, and let you know how to get the most out of them.
So you can make the best, most aligned, trustworthy choices going forward, and create the life you really want!
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Is that a problem? Or is it, in fact, the plan?
This question sparked a huge aha for a client recently, and that's not the first time!
When we'd LOVE everything to get done with perfection, it's difficult to fully commit to a plan that leaves things undone or only allows for things to be "good enough."
So how do you fully commit to a plan, and execute it to success, when you don't totally love it?
When you can't plan on getting everything done, exactly how you want, it's vital to be able to commit to what you CAN do. Otherwise, you risk second-guessing and judging yourself daily — which both limits and discounts your progress.
Today's episode will help you get behind your plan — even if it includes putting something off 'til later, not spending as much time as you want to on something, and doing things "imperfectly"!
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Sometimes, you get to map everything out, take all the time you want and still create big, beautiful change.
Other times — not so much.
Life surprises you, and all of a sudden, you're facing multiple opportunities to make BIG DECISIONS.
But how do you keep a clear head and trust your choices when things are moving fast, or you didn't plan for any of this!?
Well, speaking from real-time experience right now...(in about 72 hours, Kenny and I made big moves including the decision that he'd go do a show for 5 months two states away and I'd move our 3 dogs and whole household elsewhere in L.A...and all of this is meant to happen within about a week!)...
I'm sharing 6 tips that I'm employing:
Tune into your feelings (hint: emotions drive decisions!)Clarify the decisions to be madeAllow yourself to make one decision (and "solve one problem") at a timeAsk for input strategicallyDo not obligate yourself to keep in touch, get back to people quickly or keep all the plans you made before big decision timeCompartmentalize your scheduleReady to make big decisions to create BIG CHANGE quickly?
Without excess guilt, stress or overwhelm?
Let's do this!
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Periods of transition and uncertainty can upend us.
And when you're thrown out of your norms, it's easy to make impulsive decisions you don't really love later on, get super overwhelmed and end up drained, wondering why that had to be so hard.
This episode will help you do the smallest (read: most doable) planning possible for these periods of time, so you can set yourself up for more success and much less chaos.
Listen for:
How to clarify your priorities during transitions (even if you have tons of questions)Why consciously "deprioritizing" things is so importantHow to anticipate your needs based on how you tend to respond to transitions and uncertaintyLINKS!
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If you're in a period of overwhelm, or it looks like you could be soon, this episode is for YOU.
I have 5 actionable, super practical things you can scan for and do to decrease the overwhelm you experience this week.
In this episode, I walk you through:
What to look for in your calendarHow to edit your To Do ListWays to plan on rechargingAnd the one tactic people are most likely to miss (#5) that will make the biggest difference (whether this overwhelm is temporary or feels "indefinite"!)You don't have to suffer overwhelm with no end in sight!
These tactics will help you be more stingy with your resources so you can be more restored and get back to feeling like your fullest self.
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Want to feel more confident, unlimited and authentic? Happier? More "like yourself"? Have you considered how your style impacts all of this? After today, you will!
Closet Coach Kelsea Neal is here to reveal just how connected your mental & energetic states and your STYLE are.
It turns out, after you weed out the bogus societal expectations and unnecessary judgments and assumptions, your style can be the key to ease, peace of mind and being fully on your own team.
Listen in for:
3 Super Common Style Myths BustedA powerful new way to start responding to thoughts like "Ugh, my hips are too big."What your style is impacting that you might not even know (and definitely want to take advantage of!)Why "style" needs to factor into the changes you make after a big life change!The ONE easy thing to do today to start changing how you see yourself and liking how you feel when you get dressedMeet Kelsea Neal, Your Closet Coach!
She brings her two decades of experience in the fashion industry to your closet to help you find your unique style and love getting dressed every day. True style isn’t about chasing trends; it’s about knowing what works for you and feeling confident in your choices. Kelsea will help you discover your authentic style and transform your wardrobe from “meh” to “WOW!”.
Find her on Instagram @your.closetcoach and at her website your-closet-coach.com.
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This conversation is for you if:
You think of yourself as "creative" You absolutely do NOT think of yourself as "creative"You've struggled with the confidence to try something new You've changed careers and hesitated to own your new identityYou'd love to create more novelty in your lifePaige Ray and I get into it, y'all!
Some highlights:
"Don't let other people's doubt and projections decide what you do with your life because it'll go by faster than you think and — here's hoping you did what you wanted to do!""Every act of imagination is a creative act...I can't think of anything more creative than making a decision because it requires you to use your imagination on the different paths that you can go down...Being creative is really sitting down and being willing to picture a different world or a different moment.""If you're ever worried about what other people think, or 'am I gonna flop on this,'...you might not have decided yet that you are simply the authority figure for your own life."🤯🤯🤯
Paige Ray Creative makes stand-out visuals—photos, video and website design—for creative brands that are ready to cut through the noise and make the algorithm irrelevant. Learn how to build a brand that only competes with itself:
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Welcome to “I’ll Think About It” Part 3 🙌
A top contributor to the habit of delaying decisions for "later" is our fear of how people will react to them - yikes!
Learning to effectively process this fear — and intentionally muster the courage to communicate your decisions — can save you YEARS of angst, inauthentic people-pleasing and time spent doing crap you wish you hadn't.
In this episode, you'll hear:
How thinking about people's reactions like "the weather" can help you release responsibility for themA surprising upside to being honest (even if someone DOESN"T like your choice)And the best question to ask when you want the courage to overcome your fear and voice your decisionLINKS!
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Welcome to “I’ll Think About It” Part 2 🙌
A huge reason we put decisions off, drag them out, and end up making impulsive choices we don't trust (or just not making them at all) is our lack of a plan.
Specifically: A plan for HOW you want to approach a decision.
The good news? You're already making some choices with a plan — hooray!
The news we gotta work on: You're used to reserving this decision-making method for the few and far between choices that seem to warrant it.
In this episode, I show you:
Why "throwing decisions in the backseat for later" is costing you more than you thinkWhat questions to ask, to decide HOW you want to make a choiceHow to apply helpful structure to big and small decisions in under two minutesLINKS!
NEW! Decision Mastery Week is coming! Are you in? The 10-week Decision Masters Program is where you'll solidify decisive habits and make faster, more authentic choices for life: Book your free consultation!What's your DECISION STYLE? Take the Quiz!Need to say NO? Here's your 11-minute Crash Course on Saying NO Guilt-Free. -
Welcome to "I'll Think About It" Part 1!
What keeps you from making a decision quickly — like, on the spot?
When faced with a choice, a very natural default can be to "need to think about it, and decide later."
But how often is this a conscious decision to delay vs. a unconscious habit — and how often is that habit COSTING you time, energy and vital (life-changing) opportunities?
In this series, we're breaking down the decision-making paradigm that you should always think about it and decide later.
Today's episode gets into:
The 3 keys to deciding quicklyThe 1 question you need to break this habitI'll empower you to make more decisions NOW — decreasing your mental load and making things happen faster!
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Where do the expectations you set for "what you should be able to do" in a day or week or month come from?
I bring news!
If you've:
Been overscheduling yourself latelyOr crossing off 1/10th of your To Do List every day for the past yearOr find yourself constantly disappointed in today's performance because "back in the day" you could do things faster...Or worse: Sheryl over there is coping just fine, so why are you struggling?...You might be suffering from "Realistic Expectation Syndrome," which is a condition I just made up but is completely real.
Too often, we idealize our capacity and capability to the point that our plans (and To Do Lists) would only be achievable by 6-armed superhumans who don't require sleep.
Be honest: How many times have you looked at tomorrow's jam-packed schedule and said, "Well, if I focused enough or had the right energy, I should realistically be able to do all this"...?
That right there is why today, we're differentiating "realistic" from HONEST.
In the episode, I explain why adopting the latter perspective will not, as you fear, doom you to utter failure and ruin — and why it is, in fact, the KEY to being able to ramp up your productivity and focus when you need to!
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