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Do you remember what it was like falling in âlikeâ with your spouse?
What was it that originally drew you to them? Maybe it was their humor, kindness, or how they made you feel seen and appreciated.
Over time, it's easy for that âlikeâ to fade.
Instead, criticism, judgment, or even indifference creeps in.
But imagine being in your spouseâs shoesâeverything they say and do, examined under a magnifying glass, critiqued and picked apart. That kind of scrutiny doesnât help them thrive. And nothing wounds deeper than feeling that the person you chose, the one closest to you, doesnât actually like you.
What if, instead, you accepted their weaknesses and quirks? After all, they have them, and so do you.
What if you chose to see their strengths instead? What if you noticed what theyâre doing right and spoke it out loud?
I want to encourage you to take that step.
Scripture is clear about encouragement and loving our neighbors:
âTherefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.â 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NIV)
âJesus replied: ââLove the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.â This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: âLove your neighbor as yourself.ââ Matthew 22:37-39 (NIV)
âDo nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselvesâ Philippians 2:3 (NIV)
âLove one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.â Romans 12:10 (ESV)
âBe completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.â Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)
Your spouse needs to know that you see the good in them. That you still like them. That youâre rooting for them, not against them. Itâs amazing what a little grace and encouragement can do to rebuild connection and joy.
This Christmas week, I invite you to be gracious with your spouse. Notice the small thingsâtheir kindness, their effort, their dedicationâand let them know you see it. Accept their weaknesses, support them gently, and call out the good that God has placed in them.
God bless you, and from all of us here at Delight Your Marriage, Merry Christmas!
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you want to learn more about how to love your closest neighbor well, we would love to chat with you. Click the link to schedule a FREE Clarity Call: delightym.com/cc
PPS - The third installment of our Pre-Marriage series, the Pre-Wedding Workbook, is available now! We hope this book blesses you and sets you on the path to a peaceful, playful, passionate, and purposeful marriage! Check it out here: Pre-Wedding Workbook
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Change is possible.
We are honored to be able to share Patâs story with you today.
After years of therapy and struggling with a porn addiction, Pat felt hopeless. He had done all he knew to do, yet there was still a hole in his heartâand in his marriage.
But Pat decided to take a courageous step of faith. After years of being a listener to the podcast, he made the call, and through the Masculinity Reclaimed program, he finally found what he had been searching for: true community and lasting change.
Surrounded by other men who were pursuing God and committed to loving their wives well, Pat finally found a community that felt safe enough to let his guard down. He began applying what he learned through the MR program, growing closer to God and putting in the work to heal his marriage.
And the results? His wife noticed the change, telling him, âItâs good to see the man I married back.â Pat himself shared that the hole he once felt in his marriage is now gone. Praise God!
We hope Patâs journey inspires you and reminds you that change is possibleâand it begins with you.
God bless you!
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you want to learn more about this community and our Masculinity Reclaimed program, we would love to talk with you: delightym.com/cc
PPS - Less than a week away, our Pre-Wedding Workbook is releasing December 18th on Amazon! We are so excited to get this book to you and hope it blesses you immensely! -
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How do you prioritize your life?
This episode is for our lovely wives in the audience.
Dear wives, life can feel like a never-ending whirlwind. Maybe right now youâre juggling errands, picking up your kids, or running around doing everything for everyone else. Itâs easy to get caught up in all the demands, isnât it?
But letâs pause for a moment and think about what God has asked us to prioritize. When Jesus was asked about the greatest commandment, His response was crystal clear:
ââLove the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.â This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: âLove your neighbor as yourself.ââ
Hereâs something worth reflecting onâhave you neglected your closest neighbor?
Your husband is your closest neighbor. Heâs the one God has entrusted to you. The one youâre called to love as yourselfânot just love, but love in a way that truly meets his unique needs.
Itâs not about doing it all perfectly. Itâs about leaning into curiosity and compassion. What if you remembered your husband is a brother in Christ? What if you began to discover and appreciate how God intentionally designed himâeven the aspects you might not fully understand, like his sex drive? Itâs all part of Godâs good and purposeful plan.
In this episode, weâll explore how God designed men (all the way from the beginning to now!), why their design matters, and how to love them in a way that speaks to their heart. Itâs not about fixing him or changing him but learning to support and honor the way God made him.
I pray that as you listen, your perspective will shift. That youâll see your husband with fresh eyesâeyes of grace, compassion, and discovery. Let this be a reminder to focus on loving your first neighbor well, just as God calls us to do.
God bless you!
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If this episode resonated with you and you want to learn more about how to truly love your first neighbor well, we would love to chat with you: delightym.com/cc
PPS - Mark your calendar: The Pre-Wedding Workbook is releasing December 18th on Amazon! We cannot wait to get this workbook into your hands and hope it proves to be a great blessing to you and those around you. Stay tuned!
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Itâs so easy to feel the disconnect in your marriage and wonder if things can ever truly align.
Stuâs story is a beautiful reminder that transformation is possible.
Stu grew up feeling socially awkward and unsure about the purpose of marriage. After marrying his wonderful wife Linda and after 20 years of marriage, he still found himself asking, âHow do I understand her?â and âHow do I connect with her?â He described their relationship as feeling like âmisaligned velcro.â
But instead of staying stuck, Stu decided to take a step of faith. Through the Delight Your Marriage program, he learned practical tools like the CIRQUE listening technique, which he called ârevolutionary.â He discovered how to be prayerful and playful and he not only deepened his relationship with Linda but also grew closer to Christ.
Today, Stu says he and Linda are âperfectly aligned.â Praise God!
We hope Stuâs story inspires you to believe that change is possible. Itâs possible to break free from feelings of disconnection. Itâs possible to learn how to love your spouse in ways that make them feel cherished. And itâs possible for God to completely transform your marriage and your life.
God bless you!
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you are interested in taking the Marital Health Assessment that Stu mentions in this episode, you can find it here: https://delightyourmarriage.com/health/
PPS - If you want to participate in our FREE Masculinity Reclaimed Foundations Course, please check out this link: delightym.com/mrf
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Letâs set the scene-
Youâve planned the perfect evening.
A Friday nightâdate night.
You and your wife are dressed to the nines. Thereâs a show, a fantastic dinner, and deep conversation that reconnects your hearts.
But then you arrive back homeâŠ
What are you hoping will happen next?
Hereâs the truth: that unspoken hopeâyour expectationâmight be doing more harm than you realize.
When a husband subconsciously expects intimacy, it can feel like pressure to his wife.
And that pressure? It makes her withdraw. Intimacy begins to feel transactionalâlike something she owes you, a ârewardâ for good effort, rather than a mutual outpouring of love.
In fact, the more you expect it, the less sheâll desire it.
So, how do you break free from this pattern and draw her closer instead?
Here are three key ideas:
Drop the expectations & be content in your life (find true contentment in life by letting God satisfy you in many ways)
Share your feelings more with your wife (She needs emotional connection in order to be open to physical intimacy)
Think strategically about your marriage (Youâre intentional about your career, your goalsâwhy not your marriage?)
In todayâs episode, we unpack these three steps and explore how to release the pressure of expectations, discover fulfillment outside of intimacy (even when sex isnât in the picture) [We highly recommend you checking out Ep. 417: Re-sensitize Your Pleasure for more on this topic], and create a marriage thatâs full of joy, connection, and God-honoring pleasure.
We believe God when he said he meant for couples to be âone fleshâ. And we believe that he created intimacy to be unifying, satisfying, and connecting heart, soul, and body.
We hope this episode brings a new perspective and new joy, intimacy, and connection into your marriage.
God bless you!
Belah & Team
PS - If this episode resonates with you, we highly recommend signing up for our FREE Masculinity Reclaimed Foundations Course at delightym.com/mrf.
PPS - Here is a quote from a recent MRF graduate:
"We were emotionally, intimately, and spiritually disconnected. We lived in the same house but didn't live together. I was angry and bitter, critical of everything, and judgmental. I hated that about myself. [Now,] My wife and I are closer than we have ever been! She has a glow. It's crazy how much we love each other. Life is fun! I can't stand to be without her. Glory to God!â
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We know that intimacy is an integral part of married life.
But what happens when that intimacy⊠isnât happening?
Youâve tried to explain, youâve tried to give your point of view, youâve even tried to give pointers, and still⊠nothing.
What can you do?
At Delight Your Marriage, we have developed a framework for what men and women need in order to feel loved and thrive in their marriages and, in turn, move towards intimacy. When these things are missing from a marriage, it can often cause bitterness, resentment, and can lead to months, even years, of lack of intimacy, physical or otherwise.
Here is what we have determined the framework to be:
What Women Need:
To be safe
To be known
To be whole-heartedly cherished
What Men Need:
To be respected
To be admired
To have whole-heartedly sexual intimacy
When these key elements are missing- everything else crumbles. If you are reading (or listening) and wondering why your spouse has not initiated intimacy or why they shut down initiations - look back to this list. Are you giving this to your spouse?
We hope todayâs episode will bless you as we shed some light on this topic, expand on the âwhyâ behind these needs, and give practical ways on how to implement this framework - not only for the goal of physical intimacy, but for the goal of having a thriving and beautiful marriage.We are rooting for you!
God bless,
Belah & Team
PS - To check out the Marital Health Assessment mentioned in this episode, visit https://delightyourmarriage.com/mhac/
PPS - If you are wanting to grow in your marriage and learn exactly how to implement this framework (and get support while you do it!), we would love to talk to you. https://delightyourmarriage.com/cc
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We are so glad to be able to share a re-release episode with you this week! My husband, Dario, joins us again and he, as always, has some words of encouragement for you. We hope this episode does indeed encourage you and bless you!
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Nov. 11, 2021
Donât give up.
My goal today is to encourage you. Youâre doing a really good job. Just by tuning in, youâre winning.
Youâre seeking to love your spouse well, even when it doesnât look like it matters.
Youâre seeking to do Godâs will in the midst of your circumstances.
My husband is on the show today because heâs the best encourager that I know. And I want you to hear from him how much he wants you to know, youâre on the right path, youâre doing the right thing, and I am proud of you.
Love,
Belah
PS â If you need help right away, get with a Clarity Advisor to see how we can help you: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS â If you have yet to check out our free stuff â do so here! delightyourmarriage.com/free
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Itâs so easy to focus on the weaknesses of your spouse.
In fact, itâs one of the easiest things to do when you think of them, but if you can imagine being in your spouseâs shoes, everything you say and do, picked apart and looked at under a magnifying glass⊠That doesnât help them live their best life and thrive.
I invite you to instead accept your spouseâs weaknesses. They have them. You have them. And look instead at their strengths. Notice what theyâre doing right and comment on it.
Today. Iâm joined by my husband, Dario, who is an amazing father and amazing husband. Iâm very honored to walk this road of life alongside him. But he sees me at my very worst and he accepts those weaknesses, but he also supports me in them. So, like many of you, I can be on my screen too much or not want to go to sleep on time amongst other weaknesses⊠And my husband is so gracious, gentle, but also responsible to help me do what I need to do to live my best for God.
I invite you to support your spouse and their weaknesses, but also really focus on their strengths and help them to realize the good that God has placed in them. I hope even this weekend you will have more grace for your spouse and focus on the good in them.
God bless you!
Love,
Belah
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Weâre thrilled to share Craigâs story with you today.
For years, Craig and his wife were stuck in a painful cycleââYou always ____,â âYou never _____ââboth keeping score, building walls of resentment, and matching hurt with hurt. Things seemed like theyâd never change.
Then, a friend from church mentioned the transformation he had experienced through Delight Your Marriage. Craig was skeptical at first, but as the months passed, he couldnât deny the remarkable shift in his friendâs life. Thatâs when Craig decided to take the first step and schedule a Clarity Call.
What surprised him most was that the change didnât come from trying to fix his wifeâit started with him. Within the first month, Craig embraced a new way of showing up: becoming âquick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.â Through his own transformation, the marriage began to heal.
Today, Craig shares with joy that his children will never have to grow up in a divided home. The family tree will remain unbroken, with a straight and strong trunkâthanks to the tools, community, and growth Craig found through our program.
We hope Craigâs story reminds you that change is possible. Itâs possible to break free from arguments. Itâs possible to experience peace and joy in your marriage. And itâs possible for God to rewrite your story in ways you never imagined.
We believe in you, and we are cheering you on.
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you want a change in your marriage like Craig had, with no more arguing and no more resentment, we would love to talk with you. Check out our free Clarity Call here: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS - Check out this testimonial from (another) recent graduate:
âMy wife had her mind pretty much set on divorce. She said she had an upcoming meeting with an attorney when I first joined the program. My stress level was up, my appetite was pretty much nothing, and I couldn't sleep. [After MR}, I have grown spiritually, mentally, and feel more whole as a person. My wife and I have come to a place in our marriage where it used to be, like when we first got married. We are happy to be around each other again, can't wait to see each other at the end of the day, and have more connected conversations again.â
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We have the honor and privilege of sharing Lindsay's Transformation Story today.
For years, she struggled with the pain of infidelity, unsure if she could ever trust her husband again. But when her husband decided to join the Masculinity Reclaimed program, the changes she saw in him stirred something in her heart. Thatâs when she reached out, booked a free Clarity Call, and joined the Delighted Wife program.
Through Godâs grace, their marriage has been completely transformed. Moments once marked by tension and fear have been replaced by playfulness and peace. She has rediscovered the joy of being with her husband, and together they are experiencing a marriage that has truly been redeemed by the Lord.
We give all the glory to God for this incredible renewal. Time and time again, He proves that no situation is beyond His redemption.
If youâve felt hopeless about your marriage, let this story remind you that there is truly no relationship too far gone for Him to redeem.
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you want to try our free Clarity Call like Lindsay did and talk with one of our Clarity Advisors, we would love to chat with you: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: âSeven years ago, my husband began a 3 year affair with an employee⊠After a separation in our own home we each began our own counseling... After 4 years of marriage counseling and feeling stuck in a marriage that was barely hanging on, I discovered your program. I found hope for my marriage and began to see my husband in a different light.
I was ready to quit, I had considered divorce. [Now], I am able to appreciate the small things my husband does, I am able to give compliments which he appreciates. I am practicing vulnerability and playfulness!... Itâs changed the way I see my husband.â
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Todayâs episode is an incredible story of Godâs transformative power.
From a man who started out broken and lonely, with a history he wasnât proud of, God was able to take his little seed of faith, his little seed of hope that just maybe something could change for him, too.
He decided to sign up for a free Clarity Call, and then to join our program. He went through the program once on his own.
Eventually, his wife saw some changes in him and decided that she wanted to do the work to heal from their past.
Ultimately, they both did the program at the same time, and praise the Lord, they are completely renewed and restored.
You would not believe the description that Jim gives of their marriage today. He said that itâs the way he always dreamed marriage could be.
I hope this gives you encouragement, that you too, can have a marriage rescue no matter the past. God can redeem.
If youâd like our help, weâd love to help you on a free Clarity Call. Delightyourmarriage.com/cc
Love,
Belah & Team
PS There IS hope, dear one! Healing is what Jesus does! Bring it to Him and ask for His touch. Our programs can help with the healing process and equip you with the tools. Jesus does the rest! Take that step of faith...delightyourmarriage.com/cc.
From someone who did:
"Celebrating making it to 12 weeks when I thought I wouldnât make the course at all... GOD is great! ...Loving my husband again after infidelity on both sides - never in my wildest dreams did I think it was possible to find that love again and so quickly. The peace God has bestowed upon my marriage, life, house, and children since walking through this course... I love life and am dreaming again because God has brought healing to my marriage. Itâs like all the stop buttons that were pushed because I was out of alignment with Godâs will in my marriage have been pushed to GO/GREEN again and I feel more aligned, more focused, and things are moving again."
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Is it true?
Are you sure itâs true?
How often do we ask these questions when an anxious thought comes to our mind?
Too often we allow ourselves to assume a thought is true and allow the anxiety to drive us to choices we don't want to make.Anxiety is fear. Stress is masked fear. And controlling or mothering behavior... yep... it's also fear.
The Bible is crystal clear: Do not fear. Be anxious for nothing.
If you want to break free from this snare, it starts with 1) calming your physical body 2) investigating the mental tapes playing in your mind.
What anxious thoughts have you allowed to run your life?
âIâm not good enoughâ 'I'm a failure as a husband' "My husband doesn't love me"Whatever it is, I challenge you to investigate those thoughts.
Get curious about your anxiety.When you work on acknowledging and understand your fears, you build the resilience needed to face them, biblically. Itâs not about denying the struggle; itâs about leaning in and clarifying what is actually going on.
This is a technique adapted from Byron Katie, and it is a series of questions you ask yourself.
A - What mental tape am I repeating?
B - Is it true?
C - Am I absolutely sure itâs true?There are a couple more steps we talk through in the podcast, which I'm very excited for you to listen to!
May God give you grace to walk in His abundant peace and comfort.
Love,
Belah and TeamPS - If you want help rewriting that mental tape and want help getting rooted in the truth of Scripture and your marriage, we would love to talk to you. Please contact us at delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate:
â[Some of my] quick fire celebrations:
-The peace God has bestowed upon my marriage, life, house, and children since walking through this course
-The new refreshed hope I have in Jesus
-Praying and reading my Bible and actually getting together with people who love and believe in Jesus. I was repulsed by Christians for a while but I now see value in community after doing this course.
-The way Iâve grown to know what God thinks about marriage and life in general. He actually wants to make it easy and wants to help us not make us work hard or struggle like slaves for the sake of marriage. HE REALLY IS GOOD.â -
Have you ever felt so disconnected in your marriage that you wondered if it was worth fighting for?
Kevin found himself in that very placeâemotionally, spiritually, and physically distant from his wife. Harshness and criticism seemed to cloud their every interaction, leaving him discouraged and ready to give up. He felt his energy was drained and was unmotivated in many aspects of life.
He took the courage to sign up and speak with Dana on a Clarity Call, he felt it gave him insights into himself and helped him discover what was at the root of their disconnection.
He felt he wasn't the role model he'd want to be for his children. He had allowed his marriage to be transactional which he knew wasn't what God designed marriage to be. That's when he decided he wasn't giving his family all that he should and he signed up for the men's program.
Through this journey, Kevin began to implement the daily gratitudesâa practice that sparked a profound shift in his mindset. He was encouraged through his Coaching Calls to stand firm as the spiritual leader he longed to be for his family, even amidst resistance. He finally feels he is spiritually leading his family.
We are so proud of Kevin and know that the same change he saw in his marriage can happen with yours. As he shared with us, where there is breath, there is hope. We believe this podcast will encourage you that God CAN heal this marriage. He may be calling you to be the very one who does it, by changing yourself.
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you are interested in a Clarity Call and speaking with one of our advisors as Kevin did, we would love to talk with you: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS - Here a quote from a (different) recent graduate:
âSome of my biggest celebrations: Our relationship, our discussions have become much more peaceful, easygoing and playful than before!... She has expressed often how she likes the changes she sees in me⊠I have a renewed hope that things can get better. I now have a clearer vision of my role as a husband and how things can and should be. I have grown in confidence by learning what is the path to get there. I understand my wife so much better now and realize that contrary to what I thought before, she is not broken!... One change that I think is the most telling of how the DYM program has impacted our lives: Prior to the program we had been sleeping in separate rooms for years. I am thankful to say that I am back in our marriage bed, physically, emotionally â for good now!â
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By the end of this episode, I hope you'll get this, men: Courage. Character. Restraint.
What I really want to share is that if you want your wife to follow you and be turned on by you, cowardice isn't sexy... to say the least.
It's true that the "righteous are as bold as a lion". If you want to grow in courage you must grow in your character.
When you lie to yourself or to others, you are undermining your confidence and courage.
You are the leader of your home. Whether you feel that way or not, what you do (or don't do) creates the culture.
You are the first man your children ever see as a role model.
You are the first husband your wife has ever had.
You are their standard.
If you "follow" your father, and don't realize you're a leader, you will fall into the same issues he had.
But if you realize that you're a lion, you are a leader. You have the opportunity to do everything differently.
It starts with looking at your character.
It starts with not lying.
You must work on integrating all the parts of yourself: your spirituality, sexuality, wealth, family life, etc, etc, etc.
When your character is your focus and goal to increase, you become more courageous. When you can be honest with the tiny, then you can make big decisions easily.
I give some embarrassing examples that I hope you can learn from (at my expense).
Please know I love you and am praying for you.
Blessings,
Belah
PS - If youâre ready to take the next step in fighting for your marriage, we want to talk with you. Please contact us at delightyourmarriage.com/cc and schedule a totally free Clarity Call with us.
PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate:
Before the Masculinity Reclaimed Program: âI often felt disrespected and controlled. To a degree I felt unloved because of the lack of physical intimacy.
I often felt I couldnât be myself or express my opinion because of the disapproval I would feel when I did. There was anger and indifference growing in me. We were growing further and further apart⊠hopelessness was making me accept the fact that we would continue to become more and more estranged until one or both of us died.â
After MR: âI have a renewed hope that things can get better. I now have a clearer vision of my role as a husband and how things can and should be. I have grown in confidence by learning what is the path to get there.
I understand my wife so much better now and realize that contrary to what I thought before, she is not broken! Anxiousness about when sex will happen next is pretty much gone.
Our communication is so much better: we have not had an argument since the beginning of the program. I am sharing more of myself now â my wife will not die without knowing her husband of all these years!â
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Consider this: you might be more like Paul than you realize. Yes, Paulâthe apostle whose praises were so powerful they shook prison walls, and who found joy even in his suffering. What could you possibly have in common with him?
Well, Paul had a thorn in his side. A persistent struggle that he begged God to remove. Iâm willing to bet thereâs a thorn in your side tooâsomething youâve desperately asked God to take away. Whether itâs sexual sin, pride, greed, jealousy, or anger, this thorn is your personal struggle.
I am here to tell you: Embrace the thorn in your side. This might sound counterintuitive, but in your weakness, Godâs strength is made perfect. The thorn is there for a reason. God has given it to you to keep you humble, to remind you that youâre not in control of everything, and to draw you closer to Him.
How do folks often respond to their (God-given) thorns?
Disassociate. Disown. Disregard.
Disassociating yourself from these strugglesâespecially the deep ones like hidden addictionsâcan be perilous.
Essentially, if you do not embrace your thorn, it is the enemy's playground to attack you in the same way again... and again... and again... to the destruction of all those you love and the reputation of the gospel that you represent to others.
We are urging you, bring these struggles into the light. Seek accountability, find support, and create a plan. On the good days it's easier to make that plan and structure to support you on the hard days that you know will come... because you've embraced the thorn that is God's gift which keeps you humble.
Important: Perfection isnât required- 80% of a plan is enough to start making meaningful progress. The point is to start. Remember when you perceive the negative pattern in your history, it's time to take action so you can prevent things going downhill... for when you are weak, then you are strong.
This week, I encourage you to identify your thorn (start with one, we likely all have many! I certainly do), confront it, confess it to God, repent and confess it to safe people. Then, know that He forgives you and makes a way of escape for the future so you can truly truly walk in the humility that comes through the gift of this thorn... because His grace IS sufficient for you.
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you are interested in learning more about our program, maybe even getting that accountability in your life, we would love to talk to you. Check out delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS - I am excited to share with you a resource that I believe will be of value for your marital intimacy!
A group of pro-marriage / intimacy experts have gotten together and are doing a sex seminar. These are folks that believe marriage is right and good but they are not necessarily Bible-believing Christians.
Amongst really valuable and wise content, there will likely be perspectives represented that I donât 100% agree with.
I encourage you (as always) to seek discernment from God to gain the good insights that may be in this event and leave what may not be helpful to you.
Keep eternity in mind: at the end of it all we want to hear from God âwell done.â We want it to be true that we loved the spouse we were given with a servant heart and according to His Word.
I hope you gain wonderful encouragement and practical ideas to love your spouse well through intimacy!
Here are the links-
2024 Sex Seminar: https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/discount/DYM24?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fsex-seminar-2024Sex Seminar Bundle (all 5 years):
https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/discount/DYMBUNDLE24?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fsex-seminar-bundle-2024PPPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate:
"After 8 years of marriage, we had both grown complacent in investing in each other⊠I have long struggled with pornography and I tend to be a bit of a workaholic while my wife has been at home with our kids for 15 years. It seems we took every one of those opportunities to create distance in our relationship⊠[Now], I'm taking ownership. This is my home. This is my marriage. She is my wife. Ours is a union blessed by God. In taking my roles as husband, father, help mate more seriously, my whole family has begun to benefit. The man's role is not to simply coexist, but to lead the marriage and family. I can make a difference in the family by leading to and with God.â -
We want to share an inspiring story about Karl, a widower who experienced profound loss when his first wife passed away in 2020. Since then, heâs rebuilt his life with a new marriage to his lovely wife Rachel and a vibrant blended family of six children.
At first, their new life together seemed to be falling into place beautifully, but just nine months into their marriage, an unexpected challenge arose. Due to circumstances beyond their control, pornography was inadvertently introduced into their home through one of their childrenâs devices. This incident outside of their control ignited a series of conflicts, tension and bitterness.
As a pastor, he realized if he lost his marriage, everything, every thing in his life was at stake.
Through a series of unusual events, Karl learned of the success of Delight Your Marriage and decided to give it a try and fight for his marriage. He took our free Clarity Call and described it as a âbreath of fresh airâ that gave true clarity. He was able to see how not only the past few months had affected his marriage but how things from his previous marriage and the loss from 2020 were also affecting him even now.
He committed to the men's program, and the transformation was remarkable. Through the tools and guidance he received, he learned to communicate more effectively and approach his relationship with a renewed sense of empathy and understanding. As Karlâs approach to their marriage shifted, Rachelâs heart began to soften. This newfound healing was put to the test when their luggage, including passports, thousands in cash, work laptop, and IDs, was stolen right before their trip to Rachelâs home country.
He said this (and this is what we want for you) they leaned into each other and God during crisis, rather than being torn apart. When they used to have massive discord on something as simple as a family routine, now they have connection and healing amidst what could be described as a significant disappointment.
What they've discovered through it all... they have both said: âI have my best friend back.â
Be encouraged by God's miracle working power, which He can do for you too!
Belah & Team
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Thereâs a profound truth that can often be overlooked: love, in its truest form, is sustainably sacrificial. This means loving your spouse in a way that endures, even when it's challenging.
If you're a spouse who is tempted towards apathyâlosing hope and withdrawingâit can feel like a deep, unending chasm. This apathy might stem from various sources: exhaustion from the relentless demands of daily life, pride that blocks genuine connection, unforgiveness that creates barriers, or perhaps a combination of all these factors. Whatever the reason, itâs crucial to recognize these signs before they evolve into a dangerous pattern that jeopardizes your relationship.
There may be times when your spouseâs attempts to reach out (or lack thereof) seem ineffective or even hurtful. I encourage you to see beyond the surface and engage with the deeper purpose of marriage -- to make God proud of you.
Remember, youâre not loving your spouse for a specific result; youâre doing it because you love God. That love for God will sustain you when youâre not seeing the fruit of your efforts. He CAN fill us with all joy and peace, irrespective of our circumstances or the immediate outcomes of our actions.
Even amidst the temptation to lose hope and become apathetic. Don't. Instead, look to the Lord. Rejoice in Him, and trust that God is a God of hope. Your perseverance is not in vain, even when it feels like youâre giving more than your fair share in loving and meeting your partnerâs needs.
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you are wanting to fight apathy, fight for your marriage, or just even get some clarity for your marriage... we would love to talk with you. Schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc.
PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate:
âMy biggest celebrations have been: Forgiveness- I had no idea how much resentment I had towards my wife. There is no doubt in my mind that she felt that⊠I learned to not only forgive her, but look at some of those things as a strength for her⊠Replacing bad habits with good daily habits of first thanking God for my blessings. praying for my wife, shouting my faith statement and focusing on making my marriage the best it can be. I learned that it is all up to me. I know God is with me every step of the way, but I have to be the leader of my life and my marriage.â -
Perhaps the most heartbreaking situations I encounter are when one spouse becomes apatheticâlosing hopeâand decides to "pull the plug" on the relationship. When a spouse gives up hope, apathy sets in, leading them to consider divorce, an affair, or even a secret addiction because they feel their spouse isnât meeting their needs.
I may not fully understand all the dynamics that have brought your marriage to its current state, but my hope is that you recognize the warning signs before apathy takes hold.
LISTEN to your spouseâs heartcry. Donât let them lose hope because their attempts to communicate with you have been ignored. Yes, their communication may have been ineffectiveâperhaps controlling, critical, or accusatoryâbut underneath it all, they are expressing a hurt that you are overlooking.
If you ignore it long enough, they may stop hoping things will change. Tragically, this can lead to apathy and the potential destruction of your marriage.
As a marriage coach who genuinely cares, I urge you: please donât wait until apathy sets in before you start paying attention to what your spouse is trying to communicate. Even if their words make you feel like a failure, could you, just possibly, listen to the deeper message? They are crying out to be loved in the way they need to feel loved, and if you donât respond, they may become so weary that the dangerous temptation of apathy takes hold.
NOTE: If youâre the spouse who seems to be doing more than your fair share of loving and meeting your partnerâs needs, know this: your reward will be great, far beyond what you might receive in this life. Donât stop. Donât let apathy take root in your heart. Remember, God is a God of hope, and He will fill you with hope as you trust in Him. He doesnât want you to be hopeless. Trust in God. Love, Belah PS - If you're on the verge of losing hope and becoming apathetic about your marriage, we want to help. And if you're worried that your spouse might be feeling this way, we want to help too.
Your next step is a free, "low-stakes" conversation called a Clarity Call. We'd love to hear what's going on and potentially be the lifeline that prevents disasterâGod has worked miracles in situations like yours before. But it takes courage to take that first step of HOPE. Speak to a compassionate Clarity Advisor: delightyourmarriage.com/cc PPS -- Here is a quote from a recent graduate:
"I had grown so apathetic towards my husband that I KNEW this was very dangerous. I had built a case against him in my mind for the ways he did not appreciate me or accept me... I am a highly sensitive person with strong feelings, so to have little to no feeling towards my husband was intolerable to me. This is what drove me to DYM... A truly KEY realization I had to admit, was that I was a âbickering wifeâ and that I had been undermining him, disrespecting him, and deeply wounding him... I am so convicted of how it tore down my marriage, impacted my husbandâs self-esteem, and definitely was negative example to our children... Once I admitted that, I was able to grow!" -
Weâre excited to bring you a story of a woman who was nearing the empty nester phase and, if she was really honest with herself, wasnât looking forward to it at all. Her oldest had already left and grieving that separation added a strain on the marriage. Julie generally felt frustrated and unhappy and blamed her husband for the distance.
However, she did a very wise thing. She realized she is the only one who can change anything in the marriage by changing herself. She decided to take us up on our free Clarity Call offer and ended up feeling like she got a counseling session for free just by talking to our Clarity advisor.Thankfully, she didnât stop there and decided she wanted to join the program to gain the tools she needed to change everything in their connection. Which is exactly what happened. She started out feeling that she and her husband were opposites and maybe werenât even meant to get along. And thank God, through this work, she discovered her husband is a man who is actually complementary, she deeply loves, and even misses when they are apart.
With love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you want to try out a Clarity Call like Julie did, here is the link: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS - Here is a quote from a (different) recent graduate:âOnce I learned the 3 basic needs for my husband, I had a new understanding⊠He started to open up to me and we made more progress in a few weeks than we had in years.â
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Hello everyone!
I hope you all have had a good week so far! For todayâs podcast, we are doing something a little different!
I wanted to give you an inside look on what a Coaching Call with us is like. Confidentiality is of the utmost importance to us, so you wonât hear any names or any confidential information, but you will get to hear some of my coaching and some good truths being shared. We wanted to give you an example of what it would look like to be on a Coaching Call with myself and a few of your fellow peers.
Based on the men's questions, we cover a few important insights directed at men specifically:
Embrace humility in your identity as a believer.
Pursue sexual purity and healing.
Stay connectedâaccountability is a choice.
Lead your wife with courage; itâs what she desires.
Guide your family spiritually with practical ideas and encouragement.
If you are wanting encouragement, coaching, and want to seek out Truth and encouragement for your marriage, we hope youâll consider joining the program and being part of a company of men running together to achieve the prize and gaining a wonderful and healed marriage and intimacy in the process...
We want you to know:
Change is possible. Healing is possible. And God loves you.
Love,
Belah & Team
PS - If you want more information on how to be a part of a Coaching Program like this, here's your next step: delightyourmarriage.com/cc
PPS - Here is a quote of a recent graduate's favorite celebrations from the program:
âWhere do I begin? I have my wife back. We are having fun again. I almost feel like we are newlyweds again, but this time it is even better now after 28 years of marriage than it ever was. My wife feels safe with me. I'm loving her the way she receives love and she's loving me back wholeheartedly physically intimately towards me. No more duty sex. YEAH!!
She is pursuing her own pleasure too. She is frequently initiating to be intimate with me. She is flirting with me and she even did a tap dance saying how good it was the other day after we made love. I am holding back the tears as I am writing this. I will come back to this in a bit. Ok. I'm back. I have a heart filled with gratitude.
She even grabbed me as I was leaving the house today. She has never done that before. I think she is starting to crave my touch and now she likes to snuggle next to me. All of these celebrations while at the same time my wife is walking one of the most difficult seasons of her life... As I am writing this, she just sent me the most amazing text. I feel like I couldn't even come up with this if I had to. God is so so so good!!!!â
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