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I feel happy as I've completed another milestone of leaving a legacy through my podcasts.
It may have been done during a challenging time but looking back, it got done.
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Season 2 has seen me dive deeper into issues like mental health, self-harm and misbehaviours.
I have raised the importance of us as adults, parents and educators to look in and practice self-care before we look out for others.
It's been a great journey and I hope that what I have shared will be of help to those who want to be of help to children and youths. -
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Rudeness is typically not a natural behaviour.
Children and youths who are rude have learned such behaviour through their social circles.
Rudeness has to be addressed without rejecting the person per se.
We have to reassure the rude person that it is their rudeness we can't condone and not themselves. -
Some children and youths are quick to make promises but don't keep them.
It could be they are seeking acceptance without first realising the responsibility.
We have to help and even hand-hold those who may require help in understanding responsibility and show them how to keep to promises. -
Some youths who lie do so to avoid certain consequences that frighten them.
It could be that they perceive they can't get what they want.
We have to reassure those who lie that they are not rejected as persons; only their behaviour is not acceptable. -
Some youths may display an air of indifference to hide their insecurities.
Yet they could actually be saying, "I don't want to get hurt."
We need to acknowledge the fears and insecurities in some children and provide them reassurance. -
Some children and youths gripe because they want to avoid responsibility.
Others do so because they have fear.
An attitude of gratitude is a good antidote to griping.
We need to help those who gripe by expanding their perspectives beyond themselves. -
Those who like to clown around may be naturally humourous.
They need to learn what and when is appropriate.
We can appreciate the humourous ones while at the same time helping them direct their self-awareness. -
Some children behave like perfect and innocent beings so as to receive favour.
In manipulating feelings, they learn to exert power and control.
We must both tell and assure children that we will be there for them. -
Anger is a strong emotion - often for our protection.
Children who are angry all the time often lack the feeling of safety.
Yet they need to learn to exercise healthy restraint.
We must soothe the ruffled feelings of fear in youths who are constantly angry. -
Attention seekers fear being isolated and rejected.
They need to know and feel accepted but yet redirect their misbehaviours.
We should not dismiss the attention seeker but instead firmly direct and affirm them. -
Agitators have a need for exerting power behind the scenes.
They need assurance and fear rejection.
We can help youths by reassuring them of our acceptance and yet need to provide boundaries. -
The four steps are:
1. Identify the behaviour
2. Understand the effect of the behaviour
3. Identify the cause of the behaviour
4. Avoid common mistakes
Having a systematic way to handle misbehaviours is a helpful process. -
Some children and youths believe that if they don't try, they won't fail.
They give up because they don't want to be hurt more.
We need to encourage those feeling a sense of despair with assurance that they can still succeed, step by step. -
Hurt youths hurt others.
Sometimes they are mean to others in order to feel they matter.
Hurt children and youths need to be soothed and reassured that they are being heard. -
The need for power and autonomy is a basic one.
Youths need to feel that they matter and that what they do matters too.
Concerned and caring adults must empower children and youths through appropriate avenues. -
Attention-seeking behaviour is a common drive.
Sometimes youths lacking in attention act up or act out in order to get it.
Providing appropriate attention to children and youths can reassure them they are ok. -
Most humans seek belonging and hence social behaviour is often purposeful.
Misbehaviour then results from a mistaken assumption of fulfiling that need.
Basic drives are for attention, power, revenge and a sense of helplessness.
We must look beyond the external behaviours and into hidden causes in order to redirect misbehaviours. -
Our calmness helps soothe ruffled feelings in youths.
We need to practice self-care first before we can tend to others with calmness.
Our calmness helps to diffuse and defuse youth misbehaviours. -
It starts with me but it is not about me.
Don't take it personally because many times misbehaviours exhibited by youths are not directed as us per se, although it may seem so.
We have to question ourselves why we want to handle such misbehaviours too.
An awareness of our own strengths, needs, and motives is the starting point for handling youth misbehaviours. - Vis mere
