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In this second of two episodes, Elle and Vee dive deep into the remaining four of the eleven different types of orgasms with School of Intimacy founder, intimacy coach, and author of No More Faking It, Magda Kay.
Anal Orgasm: a brief mention! (2:35)
Nipple Orgasm. (3:10)
Energy Centers: the kundalini energy arcs and centers that women and men have. (7:02)
Throat Orgasm. (10:13)
De-armoring: what is de-armoring, and when do you know whether you should push through discomfort or if it's going to be too much? (13:55)
Yoni mapping: the difference between a therapeutic yoni massage and yoni mapping to de-armor the genitals. (16:01)
Energy Orgasm: what is it? Is it possible to have a full body orgasm without touch? (18:44)
HOW to have an energy orgasm. (25:40)
Why seek pleasure? What's the significance of seeking orgasms and pleasure? (27:47)
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Instagram: @magdakayofficial
Youtube: @magdakay
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In this first of two episodes, Elle and Vee dive deep into seven of the eleven different types of orgasms with School of Intimacy founder, intimacy coach, and author of No More Faking It, Magda Kay.
Noticing and Asking for What You Need in your sex life. (1:28)
What gets you in the right headspace for orgasm? Safety. Physical environment. (7:56)
Circadian Rhythms, chronotypes menstrual cycles and how it affects our sex drive. (12:32)
Sleep Types/Chronotypes. (19:01)
Genital Cupping and the Benefits of NOT Having Goal Oriented Sex. (21:01)
How to have more Fulfilling, Satisfying Orgasms! (25:48)
11 Types of Orgasms: according to whom? (29:58)
Clitoral Orgasm: using breath to deepen the climax; giving disclaimers or âheads upâ when you bring breathwork into the bedroom. (36:58)
Inside the Vagina: G Spot, A Spot, K Spot, P Spot. (49:08)
Female Ejaculation: from G and A Spots; how to let go and let yourself ejaculate. (53:36)
Ejaculation vs. Orgasm. (58:52)
Cervical Orgasms. (1:03:35)
How do you know what type of orgasm youâve had? Whatâs the best position to acheive cervical orgasm? Woman on Top! (1:07:32)
V Spot/Entry to Vagina Orgasms. (1:13:51)
What is an orgasm? (1:16:15)
Find Magda:
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Instagram: @magdakayofficial
Youtube: @magdakay
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In this episode, Vee and Elle chat all things sober sex with Tawny Lara! She is the author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze and co-author of The Sobriety Deck, co-host of the Recovery Rocks podcast, and co-founder of the NA botanical spirit, (parentheses).
***You don't need to be sober or even sober-curious to get something out of this conversation! Have you ever had a situation when you couldn't drink and felt a little weird or uncomfortable? The girls chat about how to deal with that discomfort, where it's coming from, and how to turn to intrinsic courage rather than liquid courage to have better sex and better dates.***
Can we still go out without drinking? Or does not being able to drink make us too uncomfortable to socialize? Life Circumstances that force us not to drink. (00:38)Sober Curious: Does less alcohol lead to more creativity? Get curious about your relationship with alcohol. (4:49)
Dating Yourself: The importance of working on the self in any relationship. (11:05)
The Physiology Behind Alcohol in the Body: you canât selectively numb. If youâre numbing anxiety, youâre also numbing the pleasure centers! (20:00)
Sober-Friendly Date Ideas: DO something! Experiential dates over sit-and-talk-over-a-drink dates. (30:28)
Parentheses: all about Tawny's slow-sipping, small batch spirits with a vinegar base, and the health benefits of vinegar! (34:51)
Rituals to Get Sexy: figure out what your goal is in different circumstances which you drink - is it to loosen up? To feel sexy? etc. âŠand what can we do instead? (42:48)
Sexuality Post-Sobriety: Getting honest about what you really want when youâre not numbing. Living in evolution. (49:23)
âComing Outâ as Sober: What are the best ways to disclose that you donât drink or at least aren't drinking tonight? Should you put it on your dating profile? Should you tell them at the date? Before? (52:25)
The Sobriety Deck: an easy, digestible self-help tool to use when you need support in not using liquid courage. (56:31)
Final Nuggets of Wisdom! (58:26)
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In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with Slutlana (031: Opening Your Marriage, Throuples, and Falling In Love With Someone Besides Your Husband) and CJ about what might stereotypically be one of the biggest fears in the non-monogamous community: falling in love with secondary partners and decoupling with your primary. How can this happen? How do you move on? How do you evolve for your next relationship? They touch on all of these topics and more in this juicy, deep episode!
Fear of Loss: Falling in love with your best friendâs partner. (1:42)
When do you know if itâs not working anymore, and that itâs time to move on? (11:06)
Healthy reasons and ways to be ethically non monogamous. (14:49)
Self growth and how it shows up in relationships. (19:31)
Approaching a new relationship differently. Asking for what you want and using your own self knowledge to communicate better with your partner. (30:26)
Human Design and Attachment Styles: how knowing yours can benefit communication in a relationship. (45:35)
Evolving Agreements in Non Monogamy: adapting to needs throughout your relationships, from exclusive to soft swapping to same room to open etc. (51:38)
Learning Moments: donât assume. Talk about it and move on, donât hold resentments. (52:56)
Last (sexual) Nuggets: Role playing spiciness! (59:50)
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In this conversation, Elle, Vee, and Arik Bruckner discuss the concept of paid companionship and its implications in society when approached in a serious, professional, safe, consensual and ethical way. Arik is the co-founder and CEO of Choice, a pioneering global online booking platform for paid companionship and intimacy.
This online booking platform is revolutionizing the paid companionship industry, extending beyond sex by offering a solution to loneliness and prioritizing safety.
In this chat, Arik shares insights into the origins of the Choice platform, the importance of destigmatizing paid companionship, and the various services offered. The conversation highlights the legal concerns, potential for education and understanding in reshaping perceptions around sex, intimacy and companionship.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Paid Companionship and Escort Sex Work
02:51 The Concept of Choice and Its Origins. Breaking the preconceived notions of paid companionship from sex work to non sexual activities.
07:28 Understanding the Market and Destigmatization and interview result Revealed from 700 sex workers across Europe, Canada, Australia and the US.
09:35 Safety and Legal Aspects
12:39 The Spectrum of Companionship Across Different Demographics.
18:00 The 250+ options services offered and growing and how it depends on the jurisdiction of where the services are offered.
20:08 What is a male wing person experience? It is requested often by women or groups of women or having a date to corporate event
23:31 How Choice verifies users, survey responses revealed from female customers to male customers and the feedback process to access user experience
26:40 The behavioral guidelines and required questionnaire for both parties after each event
25:26 A walk through of the user experience of Choice and why Choice doesnât use user ratings
30:00 How Choice prioritizes safety through their verification process and using escrow account
32:34 The Legal concerns, Challenges and Misconceptions in the Industry
36:00 Stigmas and stereotypes to overcome, consent, authenticity and how paid companionship can compliment lifestyles
44:26 Sex Work Union Opinions, Policy issues around Legalized Sex Work and HowPaid Companionship differ in Various countries New Zealand, Amsterdam, Switzerland, Nordic areas
56:33 Sexual Surrogacy and Using Choice as a way to get real life education sexually as opposed to the current model of learning from prom aka sexual entertainment
01:03:21 Providers profiles have levels which indicate verification steps
01:07:45 Misconceptions Arik had about this industry, privacy concerns, and how he adjusted the platform based on surveys and feedback
Choice Website
Choice Instagram
Choice X
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In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with author Kathy Labriola, who has written 4 books on polyamory, including a life-changer for Vee: The Jealousy Workbook.
What inspired The Jealousy Workbook? (3:18)
Jealousy in ethical non-monogamy vs. monogamy. (7:05)
Core beliefs and how they affect us in relationships. (8:32)
"Signifiers" which instill confidence in partners. (11:37)
Where does jealousy stem from? (14:07)
Jealousy vs envy: defining and differentiating them. (17:17)
Unpacking the emotions integral to jealousy. (21:33)
Practical strategies to manage jealousy in the moment. (30:24)
Figuring out the root cause of jealousy: the relationship, you, or a little bit of both? (44:39)Doing the internal work to overcome jealousy: understanding your attachment style and how it affects your level of jealousy in different relationships. (49:06)
Conversations to have with your partner. (55:10)
Phobia vs engineering methods to mitigate jealousy. (1:01:27)
How to support a partner who is feeling jealous. (1:06:20)
Final "nuggets of wisdom". (1:13:43)Find Kathy:
Kathylabriola.comWhere to find us, and how you can support us:
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This week, Elle and Vee bring back Lolo and B from Episode 081: Long Distance ENM and Creating Sexy Spaces, and Lola Jean from Episode 074: Fetish Wrestling, Choking and Squirting Misconceptions to play WHOREible Life, a card game all about breaking down barriers and getting naughty AND deep!
Have You Ever: Been fucked with a strap on dildo? Favorite dildos, and what makes strap on sex good. (3:05)Have You Ever: Paid for sex? What is the appeal behind role playing as an escort? (15:18)
Would you Rather: Use a ball gag or receive a rim job? (21:30)
Pubic Hair doâs and donâts! (22:59)
Would you Rather: Be the focus of a gang bang with 4 or more or be in an orgy with 8 or more people? (29:44)
Different types of gang bangs? (32:14)
The Wheel of Consent. (34:22)Would you rather: Give impact play with a flogger, or give or receive bite marks? (36:54)
What is possessive touch? How to feel desired without messing with labels and power sub/dom dynamics. (38:33)
What is primal play? (41:02)Would you Rather: Go to a daytime orgy aka âdorgyâ or masturbate together next to your partner? (43:32)
Lola Jean:
@lolajeandotcom
www.lolajean.comWhere to find us, and how you can support us:
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Elle and Vee have Summer back for an encore episode after she shared her experiences as a trained submissive under two doms in Episode 088: Inside the Mind of a Sub. This time, she discusses her experiences and the lessons she's learned from being a unicorn for an array of couples with lots of different dynamics, and the girls put in their two cents from their own experiences.
How do you become a unicorn in the ethically non monogamous lifestyle? (1:46)Navigating couplesâ dynamics as a unicorn and establishing your boundaries. Why you should keep texting in the group chat. (9:12)
Deferring to the wife/girlfriend, and holding their feelings in high regard. Feeling thankful for being invited in. (16:07)
As a husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend: the benefits of playing separately as a unicorn. (22:20)
Playing with a couple when youâre more attracted to one person than the other. (27:01)
BDSM vs ENM: rough sex vs vanilla sex. (32:30)
Questions to ask as the couple, and as the unicorn, before playing. (34:23)
Best threesome positions. (42:50)
Meeting couples on apps. Overcoming past experiences and being a couplesâ first. (46:42)
Listener question: tips to stay safe when meeting new people as a single unicorn. (49:59)
What does this lifestyle (ethical non monogamy) bring to your life in the absence of having your own primary partner? (1:00:26)Where to find us, and how you can support us:
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In this conversation, Elle and Vee chat with Summer (FetLife: DaddysPrettyToy ) about her journey through a BDSM Dom/Sub relationship. She shares her experiences as a trained submissive, highlighting the positive aspects of her BDSM journey and the transformative power of a healthy Dom/Sub dynamic. Listen in for a detailed play-by-play of her scenes, insights into her daily tasks, and the reasons and methods behind her punishments.
How Fifty Shades of Grey and Playful Wrestling with Her Boyfriend Inspired Summer to Explore BDSM: She discusses how she found her first Dom and what motivated her to get into this lifestyle. (1:04)
Her First Dom/Sub Relationship: The Agreement and Lessons Beyond. (8:40)
A Day in the Life of a D/s Relationship: Sessions and Communication: Details of a typical day in her Dom/Sub relationship, including the dynamics of their sessions and the importance of clear communication. (11:43)
A Day in the Life of a Trained Sub: 8-10 Hour Sessions and Rules (13:12)
A Sexy Wax Play Scene: Building Trust, Aftercare, and Debriefing: Summer describes a wax play scene, the questions that were asked to build trust, why the scene was suddenly stopped, and the aftercare and debriefing discussion. (15:52)
Characteristics of a Good Dom and How It Can Be a Gift to a Sub. (19:09)
The Misuse of the Term 'Dom'. (20:17)
Shibari Rope Scene Play by Play: Summer compares the differences between her two Doms, the sexual skills she learned, and details a scene involving being frog-tied with shibari rope and using a TENS unit. (22:49)
Being a Good Dom Means being a Good Sub: Summer explains where her two dominants learned their skills. Exploring how BDSM practices push personal limits and how these experiences can translate into real-world scenarios. (31:00)
Punishments as a Sub: What Happens When Youâre a Brat; A look at the various types of punishments a submissive might encounter, whether they enjoy them or not, and what happened when Summer was a "brat." (35:53)
People-Pleasing, Struggling to Say No, and Asking for Permission to See Other Men (40:21)
Ending a Sub/Dom Relationship for a Vanilla Relationship (44:20)
Finding the Right Dom for You: A play-by-play of how Summer met her Dom on FetLife, along with tips and questions you can use to find the right Dom for yourself. (46:20)
Insights into how her Dom helped with her personal wellness and growth. (49:15)
Reflecting on whether it's possible for Summer to pursue a monogamous relationship after such deep and intimate Dom/Sub experiences. (51:00)Be intentional with your desires and sexual awakening. Tips to Be Safe when exploring BDSM. (54:00)
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In this episode, Elle and Vee dive deep with School of Intimacy founder, intimacy coach, and author of No More Faking It, Magda Kay. This episode is FULL of "nuggets", touching on everything from tantra to energy centers to how to up the intimacy in your relationship to why it might be better to practice tantra with someone other than your primary partner. You don't want to miss this one!
Why tantra and intimacy coaching?
Becoming orgasmic: orgasming with yourself and unlocking the ability to orgasm with others.
The pussy as an energy hub: taking on sexual partnersâ trauma.
What is a full body orgasm, and how do we know if weâve had one?
Orgasmic states and self mastery through tantra.
Releasing through tantric sex, and who should you practice with? Crying during sex, and holding space for your partnerâs release.
How to find the right practitioner for a yoni or lingum massage.
Listener Question: âHow can I get my wifeâs spark back in the bedroom?â
Listener Question: âWhatâs a quick guide on tantric breathing?â
Intimacy Block: The ability to let go with people you donât know or care about as much.
Looking at sex as something more than just the physical experience.
School of Intimacy: providing the foundation for better sex, relationship and tantric education.
Can you practice tantra with the same sex, when traditionally it's all about the yin and yang of the masculine and feminine energies?
Find Magda:
Website: www.magdakay.com
Instagram: @magdakayofficial
Youtube: @magdakayWhere to find us, and how you can support us:
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In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up and discuss their takeaways from two sex party events their friend group (the Joy Fam) threw, including recapping sexy stories, "a-ha" moments and reflections.
Implementing Lessons Learned: change your environment and have vacation sex! (0:33)House of Love club night takeaways: Veeâs birthday celebration, and Elleâs first big night out since having a baby! Getting over new mom nervousness with costumes: How themes get you into the sexy mood - especially animal theme :) (3:56)
How to feel confident while carrying baby weight: MILK PLAY! Break the touch barrier by using breast milk play as an ice breaker? (5:56)
Sexy Story with The Greek: what makes a good single male in the lifestyle? Wolf energy. (11:11)
Feeling overwhelmed at a sex party when youâre the guest of honor, taking a backseat but staying involved. (18:27)
Joyunion: sex friends getting together with babies - itâs different but the same! (20:46)
TIP: how to get sexual if youâre not sure if youâre horny. Getting turned on by hearing another woman orgasming. (23:27)
Sexy story: Pushing past your own limits. Elle orgasms twice when she thinks she can only do it once. (27:13)
CREAM PIE STORY: Trying to do TVP (triple vaginal penetration), DVP (double vaginal penetration) and cream pies. (29:33)
TIP: take 5 minutes away from the overstimulation of the party to let your body relax and your dick to get hard. (31:46)
TAKEAWAY: The problem with peeing in the middle of the orgy. (34:26)
TAKEAWAY: The best orgy snack, and issues with dry mouth. (37:00)
Being a mom in an orgy and getting distracted during play. How to re-center yourself and focus on your body and sensations. (39:36)
Listener question: Our book recommendations for jealousy! (43:34)
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In this episode, the girls chat with Mommy (Episode 018: Female Friendships in ENM) and play WHOREible Life, their favorite game to break down barriers and get naughty AND deep! They touch on everything from being called Mommy during sex, to stretching fetishes and putting food in vaginas, to bisexuality and all-female orgies!
Growth: seizing the moment rather than getting in your head and not taking advantage of sexy opportunities. (1:59)
-Would you rather role play as a teacher or be called mommy during sex? (7:52)
-Would you rather have peanut butter licked off your genitals or be peed on? (12:35)
Whats Up Down There? The weird things people put in their vaginas, and whatâs the weirdest thing youâve had in your vagina or put into a vagina? (14:51)
Pee Play: Peeing on people, first Tinder dates with pee fetishists, Baptism by pee. When youâre new to the lifestyle and go on a date with someone whoâs super kinky. (19:15)
Watersports and Vee pushing her boundaries by sitting in pee in bathtubs and in resort pools. (22:50)
-Would you rather have a same sex threesome or give another bruises from impact play? (26:08)
All girl play and bisexuality on a spectrum. Sometimes you crave female energy, and sometimes you crave a dick! (30:00)
Comparing Elle and Mommyâs favorite strap ons: Oxyd Creations and Strap-On-Me. (34:09)
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In this episode, Vee and Elle catch up on Veeâs solo trip to Thailand and Vietnam. Vee has some major sexual takeaways and "aha moments" going on vacation with no sex in sight... until the last day of her trip when she met Mr. Bangkok. Hear her play by play and so much more, including:
Solo Travel: not knowing when youâre going to have sex next, and where are all the sex clubs in Thailand?! (1:57)
Hot Hookup: Vee has a sexy one night stand in Bangkok after 8 hours of foreplay in the back of a bus! The sexiness of meeting in a non-sexual environment. (6:54)
NIPPLE PLAY: Vee almost has a nipple orgasm. Techniques of nipple play. The beauty of having an experience with someone who canât get enough of you no matter what you look or smell like. (15:35)
ANAL PLAY: enthusiasm and ravenousness. (23:38)
Hooking up with Monogamous, Macho Men: how to approach the âopen relationshipâ conversation with a vanilla hookup. Unlearning ingrained societal norms. Toys in the bedroom. (26:01)
Relaxation plus vacation equals maximum horniness! (30:49)
Listener Questions, Answered!
How to Find Your Lifestyle Community (especially when you live in less progressive areas): Kasidie, Feeld, SDC, SLS, Fetlife, hotel takeovers, Luxx Parties, etc. and the benefits of each option. (33:44)
Dipping Your Toes Into Sex Parties and Kink for the First Time: go to meetups and mixers rather than the full blown sex parties. Go early to sex parties for the ice breaker games and making connections while itâs less crowded! (42:12)
Menâs Body Hair: whatâs popular these days, and whatâs appropriate? If you take nothing else away from this: Shave your balls and asshole. (48:58)
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In this episode, the girls bring back Brandi from Episode 047: Fulfilling Fantasies: Exploring Kinks and BDSM, the DC Fetish Ball, Sex Therapy and Hiring a Pro Dominatrix.
Together they play WHOREible Life by trying to guess whether or not each player has done the act mentioned on the card. This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!Sex Positions While Pregnant: which positions create a boy and which create a girl, and why laying on your back doesnât work while pregnant. (2:15)
Card 1: Had sex before the age of 15? Losing your virginity. (9:41)
What is considered âfull on sexâ or âfourth baseâ with a female? (15:29)
Formative sexual oral experiences as precursors to the lifestyle. (18:07)
Card 2: Used a fleshlight. What is a fleshlight? Other toy options for penis owners. (23:01)
Card 3: Own 3 or more dildos. Sex toy closets and favorite sex toys. (30:41)
Dildos vs. vibrators, and when and why would you use each? Frozen glass dildo to relieve pussy pain. (33:57)
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There are plenty of podcasts that talk about doâs and dontâs at a sex parties. This episode goes deeper.
The girls share their "aha" moments, discuss common mistakes made by veterans in the lifestyle, and storytell through it all with real-life examples.Joining Elle and Vee chat in this discussion is returning guest Jess from Episode 58: âHelp! My Ass Swallowed my Butt Plug!â, Golden Shower Pee Play, Fisting, and Staying Focused in Group Play and Episode 37: Edging: The Advantages of Withholding Orgasm, Electro Play and Spanking
Episode Breakdown
Intro and The Need for this Discussion from the More Experienced Perspective on Sex Parties. (00:35)
DONâT yuck someone else's yum. Be open minded for to otherâs desires and kinks. "What about that turns you on?" (04:51)
Tips for Making More Connections at Parties. (09:33)
DO Attend Sex Parties with other friends: How many is too many? Whatâs the right amount of people to ensure fun while still branching away to meet new people? (11:01)
DONâT Set Expectations, rather, DO Set Personal Goals. (13:44)
DO Create an Immersive Environment by Putting in Effort in Dressing Up for the Theme. (16:31)
DO Be Sexually Forward with Clear Communication and Honesty (20:08)
DONâT Take Anything Personally, and how not to lead People On. (26:45)
DO Ask âWhat Are Your Intentions For The Night?â To Uncover Compatibility. (30:43)
DONâT Assume Itâs Free for All: Interactions Between Other People Does Not Mean It Also Applies To You. (32:24)
DO Use Your Words and Tell Others When You Feel Uncomfortable, otherwise, youâre a part of the problem. (37:52)
DO Read the Room for Energy and Vibe, DONâT Talk During the Orgy. (43:32)DO Pack Your Slutbag, Organization Tips, Bringing Your Own Sex Toys, Toy Condoms. (46:42)
DONâT get too fucked up: Substances and Moderation. (48:54)
DONâT STINK! Preparation and Hygiene. (52:45)
DO Flirt Early, Arrive Early. (55:59)
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In this conversation, Elle and Vee chat with couple B and Lolo to discuss their long-distance relationship and how they practice non monogamy. They share how they navigate being apart and how they keep their relationship hot and exciting.
The conversation touches on topics such as playing separately, sharing sexy content, phone and video sex, the importance of creating the right atmosphere for sexual experiences, and their successful approach to meeting new people and introducing 'vanillas' into the lifestyle.
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Episode Breakdown:Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship requires effort and communication, and the story of how Lolo and B met. (01:27)
How they explored the non monogamous lifestyle together, B had no experience and Lolo tried with her ex-husband. (7:19)
How they practice non monogamy in their long distance relationship. (15:17)
How to keep it hot while being long distance: sexy content and FaceTime sex. (18:20)
Orgasms: Frustration losing an orgasm, breathing through the orgasms or holding your breath. (22:10)
Creating a sexy environment in temporary spaces like hotels or airbnbs: the role of low lighting and color temperature with amber-hued incandescent light bulbs, led light strips. (28:40)
Preventing messes with waterproof fitted sheets, furniture placement and other essentials. (34:49)
Music recommendations: Create a party-like atmosphere without being distracting is ideal for setting the mood. (38:53)
Hedonism Jamaica Story Share: Naked, covered in squirt juice and room temperature to get naked plus how B and LoLo met Elle. (41:50)
Enthusiastic consent and how it's importance in meeting new people, the power of open and honest communication. (46:48)
Successful Sport Fishing: How they pick up 'Vanillasâ (non monogamous people) for threesomes or foursomes, while out at a bar. Creating a safe space for exploration. (51:56)
Their foundation for a successful journey their relationship, through ENM, and being long distance: No Secrets, No Lies: Everything Else is a Conversation. (1:02:18)
Navigating jealousy and conflict requires self-reflection, non reactivity in the moment and effective communication. (1:04:22)
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In todayâs episode, Elle and Vee bring back two guests to play WHOREible Life (@wlthegame), the game of have you ever all things sex and kink!
The first guest is Kate Maxx from (from Episode 73: Owning and Loving What You Do with Kate Maxx featuring Humiliatrix Work, Stripping, and OnlyFans Content Creation
Our second guest is Bridget Scholes (@bridgetscholessexology) from Episode 75: Sexologist Bridget Scholes on Connected Pleasure, Mismatched Libidos, Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire, and Piss Play
Bridget is a sexologist in Australia. She also owns her on dildo sex company, Madame Dahlia (@madame.dahlia) and host of Sexploration with Bridget Scholes Podcast.
With both guests, we play the game WHOREible Life by choosing two cards and asking which Would you ratherâŠ.
This conversation perfectly displays how WHOREible Life the game facilitates a little bit of the naughty chat with a little bit of the DEEP!
WL cards: Would you rather orgasm from spanking or other impact play or make someone squirt (1:11)
WL cards: Would you rather roleplay as puppy or cat OR be bound and restricted as a rope bunny (5:11)
Underwater shibari with Markus Leather (5:55)
WL cards: Wear a spreader bar OR have someone ride your face (11:06)
Ways to insert yourself into an orgy (14:32)
All girl orgy, how female play changes when men are not watching, the skirt club a space for bi-curious and bisexual women (16:38)
WL cards: Practice tantric sex OR receive foot worship, foot licking or toe sucking (21:50)
Tantric sex and how to do energetic breathing alone or with your partner to increase sexual energy (23:05)
WL cards: be fucked by someone else with a strap on OR slap someone in the face with an open hand (27:41)
Using glass dildos from temperature to the pressure and hardness to massaging to penetration (32:20)
WL cards: Have sex on a beach or post a personal porn video for public viewing (35:21)
Giving handjobs (37:10)
Sex on a beach (39:56)
Chili, pepper spray and jalapeños sex mishaps (42:12)
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In this episode, Elle catches up with Vee on everything she's been up to over the past few months while she's been gone on maternity leave. Vee shares her takeaways from various sex parties and the personal challenges she's been working through that have made getting sexual more challenging than usual.
Overthinking and using labels as a crutch: demisexuality. (1:57)
Trying to get sexy when you have a lot of stress in your life. (10:39)
Sex party takeaways: Squirting in public. Balancing and communicating with your partner, and using orgasms as stress relief. (13:16)
Donât take anything personally: you never know whatâs going on for someone in their own head and life. (20:19)
Likening sex parties to restaurants. If youâre not in the mood to participate, how can you leave the night feeling fulfilled and successful? (23:45)
Thinking for two at a sex party: how can you meet in the middle as a couple so that youâre both satisfied? Being a wingwoman/wingman for your partner so that youâre both fulfilled by the experience. (28:46)
Turning the conversation sexual: Getting turned on by talking about fantasies. (32:06)
Rooftop sex story: being attracted to androgyny. Getting out of your head and acting on instincts. (36:00)
The energetic difference when someone is âthirstyâ vs when thereâs no expectations. A subtle expectation for sex when youâre at a sex party. (39:37)Oversaturation with sex parties leading to numbness. (41:41)
How to work through the feelings when the dynamics change in your polycule. When solo female unicorns leave the lifestyle when they find a monogamous partner. (45:31)
Setting intentions for upcoming events. (57:20)
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Elle had her baby! In this episode, she shares all the intimate details about how she and her husband, M, used natural sexual tactics to induce labor, and how they got back to being sexual after six weeks of healing.
How to induce labor with sex: nipple play, penetrative sex, nipple clamps, orgasms and Braxton Hicks. (3:07)What is labor pain like? Comparing contractions to DVP, speculum spreading, fisting, anal discomfort: breathing through discomfort, and thinking of words as spells. (11:04)
Post-baby vagina: "the husband stitch", and does it look different? Is it loose? (17:31)
Postpartum sex: how long does it take to get back to sex after having a baby? Getting over the fear of having an orgasm. How to get comfortable with penetration again. The first orgasm after six weeks of vaginal healing. (20:43)
Scheduling sex when you have a newborn. (28:09)
Breast milk play: Breastfeeding and nipple play. Tasting breast milk and squirting it during blow jobs. (28:41)
Being in the open lifestyle and parenthood: confidence issues with postpartum body. Diving back into sex parties and ENM (ethical non-monogamy) after having a child. (35:40)
Maintaining your sex life with a baby around. How having a short timeline can be hot! (38:34)
Major takeaways from giving birth and getting back to sex: Prioritizing sex to reignite sexuality in your relationship postpartum. Falling in love with your partner again. (42:01)
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In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with professional cuddler and dominatrix Bee, who is also the co-founder of Temple in Chicago, a shibari and aerial performer, and the partner of previous repeat guest Physics (Episode 45: Yoni Massage vs Squirting, Episode 46: BDSM, DDLG and Shibari). In this wide-ranging conversation, the four of them touch on everything from DDLG dynamics to overcoming vulva shame through yoni gazing.
Temple: The feminine energy vs the masculine energy, creating a space for women to feel vulnerable enough to have those transformational experiences. Events at Temple from yoni gazing to massage to Littles Parties. (1:26)
Overcoming vulnerabilities about our vulvas by yoni gazing. Admiring, acknowledging and affirming your vulva. Porn star pussy vs real life. Uneven labia. (11:09)Professional cuddling: platonic touch therapy. The importance of touch. What does a cuddling session entail? How can a professional cuddler maintain safety? (21:08)
Therapeutic Kink as a mode of healing and helping others work through trauma through professional domming. Do all clients have something to work through? (31:08)
DDLG (Daddy Dom Little Girl) Dynamics: how being a âlittleâ allows Bee to be in her dominant energy during the day. (39:11)
Switchy Domme: Power dynamics and differentiating between personal pleasure practices and experiences vs. work experiences. (43:16)
Shibari: what does it do for the people practicing it? Showmanship with suspension combined with aerial skills and squirting. How to prep for squirting: regular hydration! (46:09)
Upside down squirting: wow factors and showmanship in erotic shibari performance. (50:47)
Links:
Find Bee on Fetlife: LilHoneyBeeBuzz
Find Physics on Fetlife: Physics
Websites:
CuddlesByBee.com
The TempleWhere to find us, and how you can support us:
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