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Even though you may feel that you should take other's advice on what action you should take regarding the abuse you suffered: like (for example), forgive your abuser, or just move on with your life: The reality is you must do what resonates with you, in other words:
You do You.
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Meet Janet Jacobsen
Grandmother, wife, mother, football lover and survivor.
Janet was abused by a doctor while her father was dying. she also had a local shopkeeper do the same. Her call to action was on hearing of the death of the doctor. Don't miss this survivors incredible story of courage and overcoming.
You can reach out to her on Facebook as Janet Jacobsen and on Instagram as https://www.instagram.com/gdadnansjj/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
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Resolution Options
Because we are all different, so are our views on how to get resolution regarding our abuse.
For some of us it may be finding forgiveness, for others it may be confronting the abuser. Whatever you need to do to find peace is the key. Trust how you feel and go from there.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
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Gloria talks about her life story.
What she experienced and what led her to do the work she does on Handing the Shame Back.HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
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Never Give Up
Even tho it can feel tough at times, please keep going on your individual survivor path. That could be making sense of what happened to you, or convincing people how hard it is some days etc. You so deserve to get what you need: The simple message being, Never Give up.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#letssavesomekidss
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
https://youtu.be/oCf-JGp1PTc?si=vPQN0i2coixtMgQu
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Meet Three incredible survivors of Abuse in Care.
Malcolm Justice. Phill Ashworth and Neil Harding.
Their stories will move you.
For more on this please watch the entire video.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#letssavesomekids #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #believesurvivorsTo learn more reach out to
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Every wonder why you struggle with certain areas in your life?
This could be anything: Confidence, speaking up, relationships, even food.
I liken it to a puzzle with missing pieces, because underlying those struggles will be a connection between them and your childhood abuse.
Have a listen, you may just solve your own puzzle.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
#letssavesomekidsTo learn more reach out to
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Meet Heidi Olson
Forensic nurse. Business owner. Coffee lover and outdoor enthusiast.
She was first abused at 2 years of age, and experienced several instances over the years with different abusers. She looks at the link between early child abuse and the risky behaviour she engaged in as a young adult, when she felt broken, and in self destruct mode. You can reach out to Heidi at www.paradigmshifttc.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsTo learn more reach out to
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Purity
If you are a survivor who emerged from a strict religious sect or background, you are not alone.
The conditioning around purity, virginity and innocence was intense. The message was clear, purity was everything, anything else was dirty, sinful and evil. As a survivor of abuse, please know your heart and soul was pure, has been pure and is still pure. You were innocent. The rest is just noise.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsTo learn more reach out to
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Meet Heidi Olson
Forensic nurse. Business owner. Coffee lover and outdoor enthusiast.
Heidi did not feel seen growing up.
She was first abused at 2 years of age, and experienced several instances over the years with different abusers. She believes this (in part), occurred because of the ongoing and unresolved intergenerational trauma her parents experienced.
You can reach out to Heidi at www.paradigmshifttc.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsTo learn more reach out to
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Self Esteem
When you know your survivor is not feeling good through the way they are behaving or the words they are using, through not validating themselves or putting themselves down, please counteract this, as this gives them an opportunity to make the link between their behaviour and the childhood relationships they had, where they were not valued.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
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Meet Allen Goodall
He is a Survivor, training to be a peer support worker and runs mens support groups.
He experienced sexual abuse beginning at age of 3. He eventually recognised that the fear of public speaking/panic attacks was linked to the abuse as in he was threatened to keep silent in many ways. He now speaks out!
You can reach out to Allen at [email protected]
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsTo learn more reach out to
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Connecting the Dots
Making sense of behaviour we use as adults that we know doesn't serve us is hard, but there will be a connection to the past in there.
We can often unknowingly replicate our childhood conditioning.
The tip is look at the behaviour now that doesn't serve or work for you: Using a therapist, track it back to your childhood. I promise you there will be a connection.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsTo learn more reach out to
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Meet Allen Goodall
He is a Survivor, training to be a peer support worker and runs mens support groups.
He experienced sexual abuse from the age of 3 and was threatened about ever speaking out. He now does so fully and freely due to the want and desire to end the demons, and to give other men some hope.
You can reach out to Allen at [email protected]
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsTo learn more reach out to
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Your memories emerging when your child turn the same age you were when the abuse began is much more common than you may imagine.
It is also frightening.
Triggers are released and it can feel the nightmare is happening all over again.
This is even more so when your child is the same gender you are.
There is a way through this, have a listen to how it is possible.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
#letssavesomekidsTo learn more reach out to
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Meet Justine Dean
Coach, Mentor, Confidante
From the age of 3, Justine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and teenage years. Her mother seemed unable to support her through this. When Justine was 5 years old and being molested by her 12 year old male neighbour, her mother screamed at her; 'What did you do?' Don't miss this profound interview.
You can reach out to Justine at Justinedean.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsTo learn more reach out to
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What about me?
If you are the child of a narcissistic parent, it would have been almost impossible to be given any space, comfort or protection. There was no room for you as this child.
You had to take on another role to have a connection with them.
Listen to the full clip to understand where to from here.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsTo learn more reach out to
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Meet Justine Dean
Coach, Mentor, Confidante
Justine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and adolesence.
You can reach out to Justine at Justinedean.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsTo learn more reach out to
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Healthy Bonds
Your survivor having healthy and transparent relationships is of course, optimum.
When this is not so, you will see their behaviour change in order to be accepted. This is a form of toxic bonding: arising from the abuse, and their needs not being met as children.
(All you need to do is gently point it out, and let them know you have their back)
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsTo learn more reach out to
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Meet John Cardamone
He is a Survivor, Educator, and Speaker from Victoria in Melbourne.
When he was between 6-7 years old he was abused by a family member.
When his son became that age, John became really anxious and concerned about his safety and eventually recognised he was being triggered by his own history of abuse.
You can reach John on: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-cardamone-86632738/
https://www.instagram.com/john_cardamone/
https://www.facebook.com/john.cardamone
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsTo learn more reach out to
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