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Who decided being single has to be a pit stop on the way to something better? In this episode, we’re showing you how to make your single era the main event. Think solo date nights, orgasms (duh), reframing everything you thought you knew about singlehood, and building a life so good it turns heads. Being single isn’t a gap, it’s the glow-up.
What We Cover in This Episode:
Why singlehood isn’t a “pause” in your life, it’s the glow-up. We reframe being single as an expansive, intentional chapter, not something you’re just surviving until your next relationship.
How to build a life that turns you on. From friends to creativity to pleasure, we dive into what it means to design a life that lights you up from the inside out.
The real reason timelines make you feel behind (and how to break free). We unpack the fear-based messaging around age, marriage, and milestones and how to stop letting them run your love life.
How to date yourself with the same energy you’d give a partner. We walk through what it actually looks like to show up for yourself emotionally, romantically, and sexually.
Tips for creating the perfect solo date night (that ends with pleasure, not loneliness). We share our go-to structure for solo dates—including a downloadable guide you can find HERE—to help you feel connected, sexy, and satisfied.
Why redefining intimacy is key to thriving in your single era. We explore how to create intimacy through friendships, rituals, and self-connection no partner required.
How to stop confusing being alone with being unworthy. We break down the loneliness lie and how to reclaim your worth, confidence, and joy while solo.
Resources:
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In this episode, we’re joined by Nicole Thompson, a sex and relationship psychotherapist and host of the Modern Anarchy Podcast. Nicole brings a trauma-informed, radically compassionate lens to the way we talk about sex, relationships, and desire. Together, we explore how shame holds us back from pleasure and how we can start speaking up, owning what we want, and creating the kinds of connections that feel liberating and real.
What we cover in this episode:
How to talk about sex, whether you're in a long-term relationship or a casual hookup. Practical tools for naming your needs without shame, fear, or performance.
Why community is key to sexual confidence. How surrounding yourself with sex-positive people helps normalize your desires.
The silent damage of purity culture. How early messages about sex create shame and how to unlearn them.
How to overcome shame after a hookup. Reframing “sluttiness” as something powerful, not something to regret.
Why self-pleasure is step one to communication. What Nicole recommends for anyone struggling to talk about what they want.
To feel big pleasure, you have to feel big feelings. Why crying and cumming might be more connected than you think.
How to find the words for what you want. Tips for discovering and articulating your desires, even if you’ve never done it before.
Resources + Links
Follow Nicole on Instagram: @modernanarchypodcast
Listen to the Modern Anarchy Podcast HERE!
Get The Psychedelic Jealousy Guide HERE!
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In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.
The Question: "I'm in a really loving and supportive relationship and I want to have sex. Like, I mentally want it—I’m attracted to my partner, I crave intimacy, I feel emotionally connected… but it still takes me a long time to feel fully turned on physically. I don’t just get wet easily, and sometimes it feels like I’m waiting for my body to catch up. It makes me feel kind of broken or like I’m doing something wrong. Is this normal? Why is it so hard to just “flip the switch,” even when I want to be there? And how can I navigate this with my partner in a way that doesn’t make things awkward or overly clinical?"
We're covering:
The difference between spontaneous vs responsive desire
How to stop "shoulding" on yourself when it comes to sex
Tips for talking to your partner about your needs (BONUS: how to talk to a casual hookup about your needs)
Specific strategies you can use to get in the mood (solo or with your partner)
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We sat down with Susanna Brisk, Sexual Intuitive®️ and certified sex educator who's been helping individuals and couples for nearly a decade reignite their sexual spark. We're diving deep into what really happens to sex and intimacy after having kids, exploring how parenthood can reshape desire and sharing practical tools to reclaim your slutty self. We cover:
How to reignite sexual connection after having kids – tips for rebuilding desire and intimacy at any stage of parenting
Common myths about sex after kids – and why losing your libido doesn’t mean your sex life is over
Practical ways to communicate about sex with your partner post-baby – even when you're tired or touched out
Understanding mismatched sex drives in long-term relationships – and how to meet in the middle
Creating emotional and physical space for intimacy with kids at home – yes, it’s possible (and v necessary)
How to explore your erotic blueprint as a parent – and why rediscovering pleasure can be empowering
Real strategies for prioritizing intimacy without guilt – even with a toddler banging on the door
Why sexual identity shifts after parenthood—and how to embrace that change
Tools for reconnecting with your body and desire – especially after childbirth or parenting burnout
Why talking about sex openly can strengthen your relationship post-kids
Connect with Susanna:
Susanna's Website
Susanna's Instagram
✨ FREE DOWNLOADABLE HERE ✨
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This week we're diving into all things intimacy while pregnant and postpartum. Cass is answering listener questions about her experience navigating sex and relationships as a new mom. We cover:
WTF a mucus plug is
How Cass navigated body changes while pregnant and postpartum and a PSA on stretch marks
Normalizing postpartum vaginas
How Cass navigated sex and intimacy while pregnant and postpartum
A pep talk for when postpartum doesn't go the way you hoped it would
What advice Cass would give to partners of pregnant and postpartum people
What it's like dealing with mom shame
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In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a bunch of research.
The Question: "I think my penis might be too big for comfortable penetrative sex with my girlfriend. We’ve had open conversations about it and she’s super reassuring, but I still end up feeling guilty, like my body is somehow making things harder (pun unintended, but also… not wrong). What is actually considered a “normal” penis size? Do women even care about size as much as we’re led to believe? And most importantly—how do we make penetrative sex work for both of us, or what are some other ways we can stay intimate without feeling like we’re missing out?"
We're covering:
What the research says about "normal" penis size and what partners are looking for
Alternatives to PIV sex that you can try
Tips for making PIV sex more comfortable (toy, tools, and positions)
Are some penises too big for condoms?
How to find YOUR condom size
BONUS: tips for if you feel like your penis is too "small" for penetrative sex
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You know when you're in a long term relationship and the sex just gets a little... meh? Maybe it's feeling routine, lacking spice, or just isn't hitting how it used to. That's why we're chatting up Dr. Diane Mueller, a board-certified sexologist with a game plan to get your sex life back on track. We cover:
The science behind why passion ebbs and flows over the course of a long term relationship
What a truly PASSIONATE relationship can look like
Tips for flirting with your partner
Action steps for rekindling the passion in your relationship
The importance of NOVELTY and how to build it into your sex life
Why you need to be having bougie sex
How create a passionate relationship with YOURSELF as a single person
Connect with Dr. Diane:
On her website
Take the libido quiz HERE!
Take the turn ons quiz HERE!
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We're joined once again by the LOVELY Susan Morgan Taylor, MA a somatic sex therapist and relationship coach, but this time we're diving headfirst into LIBIDO. We cover:
What a normal libido looks like & how we define low vs. high libido
Common myths and misconceptions about having a low libido
How to navigate sex drive differences within a relationship
The importance of the 3 N's: Noticing, Naming & Negotiating
Sex acts for when you're low on energy
How to bring this conversation to your partner
Connect with Susan:
On her website
On Instagram
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We're revisiting the juiciest lesson on foreplay and initiation with none other than Haylin Belay. Haylin is a sexual health educator, bodyworker, and pleasure witch who is ready to CHANGE YOUR DAMN LIFE.
We cover:
Expanding your definition of foreplay
How to turn yourself ON
Understanding the phases of sexual arousal and USING that to your advantage
How to feel ENTITLED to your needs
How to make communication feel ✨sexy✨
Low-stakes ways to initiate sex
How to engage in foreplay ALL DAY
Connect with Haylin:
On Instagram
On her website
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In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a whole lot of vulnerability.
The Question: "My best friend and I have been inseparable for years, but now we’re in different life stages—she’s focused on her career and dating and I’m starting a family. It’s hard to stay as close as we were. How can we keep this friendship strong while growing in different directions?"
We cover:
• Expert tips for navigating change within a friendship
• Questions you need to ask yourself
• Conversations you need to be having with your friend
• Ways to support one another
• Permission to just be sad... because honestly change sucks sometimes (even when it's a good thing)
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If the sex you're having is overly focused on penetration, you're missing out on a WORLD of pleasure. Treating P in V as the main event is keeping us from exploring the endless buffet of sexual options, which is why we're learning to broaden our menu with Claire Perelman, a Certified Sex Therapist. In this episode we dive into:
WHY you need to start decentering P in V sex
The BENEFITS of focusing on sexual acts outside of penetration
How to tell your partner you want to stop prioritizing penetrative sex
What to try instead of penetration
Connect with Claire:
On her website
On Instagram
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Ever had sex that didn't live up to your expectations? Maybe you didn't feel the way you thought you "should" or things didn't turn out the way you imagined. Moments like these can lead to some serious negative feelings, making you want to avoid sex altogether. Luckily, Sex Therapist Jessa Zimmerman is equipping us with all the tips, tools and knowledge to navigate these tricky times. We cover:
What sexual avoidance is, how it can feel, and WHY it happens
Redefining all the "shoulds" that come with sex
Tools for navigating sexual avoidance
Understanding low libido
Rethinking the belief that "the low desire partner needs to change"
Connect with Jessa HERE!
Subscribe to our Patreon HERE to access exclusive content!
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Ever wish you could hit refresh on a few of your personality traits? Maybe you want to be less nervous, more outgoing, or become a little more organized. Olga Khazan, author of the new book "Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change" is chatting us through the HOW TO's of all that and more, so grab a pen and buckle up. We cover:
The "Big 5" personality traits-- emotional stability, extraversion, openness, agreeableness & conscientiousness
How to figure out where you rank on each of the Big 5 traits
Are you still being "authentic" if you try to change your personality?
Olga's tips (based on years of research and personal experience) for changing your personality
Action steps you can take to become more extroverted, less neurotic, more open and/or more conscientious
Take the personality test Olga took HERE!
Get Olga's Book HERE!
Read Olga's other work at The Atlantic HERE!
Connect with Olga on her Substack HERE!
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Chances are your masturbation practice could use a little *refresh*. That's why we're giving you a step by step guide to crafting your PERFECT solo play ritual. We cover:
What our current masturbation practices look like (HINT: not ideal lol)
WHY you should be prioritizing masturbation
The MANY physical, emotional, mental, AND relationship benefits of masturbating
How to set up your space for a peaceful practice
Extra steps you can take to make yourself feel special
3 example masturbation practices
Subscribe to our Patreon HERE to access our Masturbation Menu Downloadable and so much more!
References In the Episode:
Passion Fruit Fizz Mocktail Recipe
Liz Moody's Creamy Strawberry Cinnamon Aphrodisiac Mocktail
Silk Sheets Playlist
BB Outlet by Bellesa
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Whether you're looking to take charge in the bedroom, feel more confident in your everyday life, or learn wtf it means to be a lifestyle dom, then this episode is FOR YOU. We're talking with Mistress Damiana Chi, a legendary Dominatrix with over 25 years of experience and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology who uses BDSM as a healing modality. We cover:
A refresher on what BDSM is and what it means to be a Dominatrix
What it's like to be a lifestyle dom and a deep dive into the master/slave dynamic within BDSM
The 4 Dominatrix Archetypes and how YOU can start embodying each one
How BDSM can be used as a healing modality for both the giver and receiver
Simple strategies you can use to come across as more confident (in and outside the bedroom)
How to be more dominant in the bedroom as a beginner
PLUS Damiana walks us through what a session with her looks like!
Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi HERE!
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BIG transitions are a part of life. Whether you're moving in together, getting married, having a baby or experiencing some other form of change, your relationship is bound to feel a little (or a lot) different. Cue Tarah & EJ Kerwin, two therapists on a mission to provide couples with the tools they need to GET THROUGH these transitions without giving up on one another. In this episode, we cover:
The most common transitions couples go through and WHY they're so f*cking hard (even if they're "supposed" to be good)
Habits to start incorporating NOW so you can navigate big transitions with ease
A weekly check in you can do with your partner to feel seen, heard & supported
Simple tools to help keep you on track during a fight
Questions you can ask to reignite the intimacy in your relationship
And at what point you should consider WALKING AWAY
Connect with EJ and Tarah:
Listen Relationship Renovation HERE!
Check out their website HERE!
Follow them on Instagram HERE!
Watch their YouTube HERE!
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We're diving DEEP into the history of PORN with our friends over at Right Answers Mostly, Claire and Tess. From the dawn of time to the creation of the internet, porn has captivated us horny little humans for basically EVER. So in this episode we're covering:
Ancient porn (because, again, humans have been horny from the start)
Porn in the 1800's (including erotic novels, naughty nudes & Stag Films)
The Golden Age of Porn
Porn & Pop Culture
A lesson on ethical porn (what is it, why it's cool & how to know if YOUR porn is ethical)
The types of porn people are actually watching (in 2016, 2021 & 2024)
PLUS a few benefits of watching porn!
Listen to Right Answers Mostly HERE!
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SEX IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN! Which is why we're introducing you to a BUTTLOAD of games you can start playing in the bedroom and beyond. We cover:
WHY you need to start playing sex games and their MANY benefits
Games to help you and your partner get to know each other
Teasing games to help build the (sexual) tension
Orgasm denial games
Food games
Games to play with sex toys
Timed games
& actual board games (including a special Honeydew Me game you can get if you subscribe to our Patreon!)
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We're diving into long term relationships with Dr. Frankie Bashan, a sex therapist and founder of Little Gay Book, an LGBTQIA+ matchmaking service! We cover:
Whether or not long term relationships should feel EASY + other common misconceptions about LTRs
The tools you NEED to build a strong relationship
The common (and toxic) mistakes we're making in our relationships
How to navigate with dreaded "roommate phase"
What being "clingy" actually means and what you can do to address it
Daily + weekly habits you can start incorporating into your life to benefit your relationship
Connect with Dr. Frankie:
On YouTube
Through Little Gay Book or Little Black Book
Watch Her Ted Talk HERE!
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In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a much needed pep talk.
The Question: "I’ve been with my boyfriend for a while now, and the sex... it’s just not great. It’s not that we don’t like each other, but it just feels off. I want to be honest, I just don't know how to approach it, so please HELP!"
We cover:
Questions to ask yourself
Expert tips for talking about sex with a partner
How to give critical feedback KINDLY
How to give feedback *in the moment*
Why it's actually TOTALLY OKAY (and very normal) to be bad at sex
Permission to break up with someone if the sex is bad
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