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On this Midlife Repurposed podcast episode, Michelle Rayburn joins guest Linda Hanstra as they discuss finding joy and purpose in midlife transitions. Linda shares her story of discovering hope and renewal in unexpected places, providing practical tips and insights along the way.
Michelle and Linda talk about:
* Linda’s journey from blogging about her daughter’s health challenges to connecting with a new blog audience of empty nesters.
* The power of community and how sharing personal stories can inspire and connect others.
* Embracing faith and finding joy even in the face of difficult life transitions.
* The concept of a "mighty nest" and how to transition from an empty nest into a fulfilling phase of life.
* The unexpected blessings and moments of joy experienced in the midst of trials and struggles.
* Overcoming imposter syndrome and finding authenticity in writing and personal growth.
* Encouragement for those navigating midlife transitions, finding joy, and embracing the ride.
Connect with Linda Hanstra:
* Check out Linda’s uplifting content in her Substack newsletter: Empty Nest Joyride.
* Explore more about Linda’s journey and connect with her at LindaHanstra.com.
* Get Linda’s free resources.
* More about Linda's published books, including her Lenten devotional.
* Check out This Reimagined Empty Nest, where Linda shares her story in one of the chapters.
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In midlife, newfound confidence often leads to more freely expressing opinions, but balancing that confidence with empathy in communication is crucial. Overly blunt communication can come off as abrasive, potentially damaging relationships. While speaking honestly and directly can be refreshing and effective, particularly in business or building trust in relationships, it can also risk misunderstanding and hurt feelings if not handled carefully.
The key to maintaining this balance lies in empathy. It’s important to consider how your words might be perceived by others, asking yourself if your delivery is both honest and kind. Practicing empathy helps you understand others' perspectives, ensuring that your confidence doesn’t hurt others. When confidence becomes abrasiveness, it can shut down communication, erode trust, and create a toxic environment.
An increase in confidence may also lead to dismissing others' opinions, which can create a feeling of superiority. This dismissive attitude can damage relationships, as others may feel belittled and stop sharing their thoughts. This can be especially prevalent in political discussions or social media posts where blunt labels or phrases like "Obviously" or "Only weak-minded people would think..." can alienate others.
To avoid these pitfalls, it’s important to approach communication with humility. Even when you strongly believe in your perspective, it’s vital to remain open to others' viewpoints. Listening actively and respecting differing opinions strengthens relationships and fosters growth. True confidence isn’t about always being right—it’s about respecting others’ opinions and creating an environment where dialogue and mutual respect thrive.
Five strategies for balancing confidence with compassion include:
* Pause Before Speaking: Take a moment to consider the impact of your words. This can help you find the right balance between honesty and tact.
* Choose Your Words Carefully: Small changes in phrasing can make a big difference. For instance, replacing "You're wrong" with "I see it differently" softens the message without diluting it.
* Be Mindful of Your Tone: Tone can convey as much meaning as words. A calm and respectful tone, especially in sensitive situations, can prevent misunderstandings.
* Practice Active Listening: Focus on the other person's perspective, acknowledging their input. This fosters understanding and helps you respond more effectively.
* Apologize When Necessary: If your words unintentionally hurt someone, a sincere apology can repair the damage and show that you care about their feelings.
Ultimately, the goal is to build a culture of respect. Confidence should be tempered with kindness and consideration, creating communication that uplifts and empowers rather than tears down. In a world that often values bluntness, choosing to balance confidence with compassion strengthens personal growth and relationships, and creates a more supportive environment.
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In this episode of Midlife Repurposed, host Michelle Rayburn interviews guest Ruthie Gray about her journey from feeling lost and purposeless in an empty nest to finding fulfillment through online marketing, mentoring, and writing. Ruthie shares her experiences of caregiving, parenting, and grandparenting, offering practical advice and insights for listeners navigating similar life transitions. From her journey to publishing her book, Empty Nest Awakening, to her expanding role as a mentor and coach for empty nest entrepreneurs, Ruthie's story is one of personal growth, faith, and finding God's purpose. Michelle and Ruthie discuss the challenges and triumphs of midlife and how to embrace change with courage and boldness.
Episode Summary:
In the latest episode of Midlife Repurposed, host Michelle Rayburn invites guest Ruthie Gray to share her inspiring journey of finding purpose and fulfillment in the midst of midlife transitions. Ruthie Gray, a former stay-at-home mom and now a successful online marketer, opens up about her struggles with the empty nest phase, caregiving for aging parents, and discovering her calling through faith and perseverance.
Ruthie's story resonates with many listeners who have faced similar life transitions. Her experience of struggling with a lack of purpose after her children left home is a common challenge for mothers. But instead of letting herself drown in the emptiness, Ruthie took courageous steps to journal, read through the Bible, and eventually start blogging about her journey. She shares her experience of finding meaning through mentoring younger moms online and writing two ebooks.
Ruthie's message about embracing flexibility and seeking help during caregiving resonates with anyone facing similar situations, offering practical advice and a sense of hope. Her personal growth from being an introvert to becoming a connector and mentor is truly inspiring, reflecting her courage and faith in God's guidance.
The episode encourages listeners to approach midlife transitions with courage and boldness, finding comfort in connecting with God's purpose. Ruthie's journey serves as a beacon of hope for those facing life transitions, urging them to take action and find fulfillment in the next chapter of their lives.
Links:
Michelle Rayburn on Ruthie’s Authentic Online Marketing podcast
Empty Nest Awakening Book
Authentic Online Marketing (coaching, podcast, and more)
RuthieGray.mom
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Hey there, amazing listeners! You might have noticed a little change around here—Life Repurposed has gotten a midlife upgrade! I’m here to give you a quick update on how that changes the podcast.
Yep, after 200 episodes, we've rebranded to Midlife Repurposed.
When I first started out, I was creating content for those who were about ten years behind me. But as time has marched on (and I’ve gracefully stepped into the fabulous 50s), I've realized that the person now coming up behind me is around 40. So, it only makes sense to tailor my content to what's relevant in this midlife chapter.
But don't worry if you're still rocking the 30s—there’s plenty of wisdom and laughs here for you too! After all, midlife is just around the corner, and it’s never too early to start thinking about how to repurpose it!
Here are some topics you might see in upcoming episodes:
* Pursuing new passions or reinventing your career.
* Staying active, healthy, and vibrant.
* Strengthening marriage relationships after the kids are grown.
* Finding community and connection in midlife with new friendships.
* Prioritizing your well-being, self-care, and mental health during midlife transitions.
* Exploring the world and finding new adventures.
* Decluttering and embracing a minimalist lifestyle or downsizing.
* Coping with grief and loss in midlife, whether it's losing parents or other loved ones.
* Navigating doubt and questioning long-held beliefs.
* Finding fresh and meaningful ways to connect with God.
* Considering the beliefs and values you want to pass on to the next generation.
When you subscribe to Midlife Repurposed on Substack, you’ll receive all the bonus blogs that go with the topics I cover on the podcast.
Thanks for sticking with me on this journey! I’m super excited about the upgrade!
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In this raw and unedited episode, Michelle Rayburn opens up about her personal journey with faith. From grappling with conflicting religious standards to experiencing a shift in church traditions, she shares her struggle to break away from a tradition and find a path to grace and love. Michelle's transparent testimony reflects her evolving understanding of grace, love, and the importance of remaining in Jesus. Join her as she recounts her college experience, intertwining lifelong friendships and spiritual activities, and her transformative shift toward what it means to abide in Jesus.
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What does it really mean to belong in church? When do you know if you've found a church home? Michelle Rayburn discusses this and also briefly mentions a social media post from author and speaker Mary Demuth, who shared her own definition of a spiritual refugee, and the importance of finding a place where we can be vulnerable and truly belong in a church community. Michelle talks about the key factors that contribute to feeling at home in a church community, and how to overcome the barriers to connection in order to find belonging and build meaningful relationships. Whether you're searching for your spiritual home or have found it, this episode will resonate with you.
Show Notes:
https://michellerayburn.com/rediscovering-your-place-in-the-pew/
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Is critical thinking dead? It doesn't have to be! In this episode of Life Repurposed, we're diving into the world of critical thinking and its profound impact on life, culture, Bible study, faith, and spirituality. Host Michelle Rayburn unpacks the importance of engaging with scripture in a discerning way, exploring diverse perspectives, and understanding historical and cultural contexts to avoid misinterpretation. But the conversation doesn't stop there. We'll also explore the surprising link between critical thinking and resilience to doubt and uncertainty, as well as the misconception that it challenges deeply held beliefs. Join us as we embrace the complexity of faith and reason, and discover the power of curiosity, the joy of discovery, and the diverse perspectives that enrich our understanding of scripture.
Show Notes
https://michellerayburn.com/is-critical-thinking-dead/
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As we journey through life, our perspectives and beliefs undergo a transformation, often challenging long-held traditions and assumptions. In Episode 197 of "Life Repurposed," host Michelle Rayburn shares her personal journey of challenging traditional beliefs about biblical manhood and womanhood. Reflecting on her own evolving perspective and the influence of influential books, she explores the need for open dialogue and understanding within faith communities, particularly regarding women's leadership in the church. Michelle offers practical steps for empowering women and emphasizes the importance of embracing diverse gifts for shared leadership.
Show Notes:
https://michellerayburn.com/challenging-gender-roles-in-the-church-empowering-women-in-leadership-and-ministry/
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Join Michelle and guests Amber Cullum (Grace Enough Podcast) and Amy Fritz (Untangled Faith Podcast) in a candid and emotional conversation about planning for an empty nest. As midlife moms with kids at various stages, they share their thoughts, fears, and hopes about their children growing up and leaving home. From navigating the transition to preparing for empty nesting, this episode offers relatable insights and genuine conversations about the next chapter in parenting. Tune in for an honest and heartfelt discussion on Life Repurposed. Then hop over to liferepurposed.me to have a conversation about your questions and fears.
Show Notes
https://michellerayburn.com/a-candid-chat-on-planning-ahead-for-an-empty-nest/
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Did you stay in a church for the kids? Would you stay for your friendships? In Episode 195 of "Life Repurposed," Michelle Rayburn discusses the topic of staying or leaving a church, particularly as individuals navigate changes in their lives and spiritual journeys. Drawing from personal experiences, biblical examples, and insights from experts, Michelle explores the complexities and considerations involved in discerning this spiritual path. Listeners are encouraged to prioritize their relationship with God, embrace change with faith, and seek guidance when contemplating a new church community. This episode provides valuable reflections and practical guidance for those grappling with the decision to stay or seek a new spiritual home.
Show Notes:
https://michellerayburn.com/stay-or-go-church-choices-and-spiritual-journeys/
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In Episode 194 of "Life Repurposed," Michelle emphasizes the transformative power of love as the foundation for rebuilding and enriching lives. With a focus on practical ways to cultivate love, the episode explores empathy, compassion, active listening, and seeking to understand others' unique life stories and worldviews. She discusses the importance of extending acts of kindness, practicing forgiveness, and embracing love as a guiding principle in relationships, communities, and society. The episode also delves into the role of loving others, emphasizing emotional and soul maturity aligning with love and understanding the bigger picture of life. Join us as we prioritize love and intentional relationships, with practical steps for fostering empathy and compassion.
Show Notes:
https://michellerayburn.com/love-comes-with-maturity-if-we-cultivate-it/
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In this episode, host Michelle Rayburn explores the importance of pursuing passions and overcoming obstacles in midlife. She shares personal stories and practical tips for reigniting a sense of purpose, embracing uncertainty, and investing in personal growth. Listeners are encouraged to step out of their comfort zones, confront fears, and pursue their true aspirations with courage and conviction. Join Michelle as she challenges you to live each day with intention and embrace the beauty of self-discovery.
Show Notes:
https://michellerayburn.com/uncover-passions-and-live-with-intention/
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Discover practical tips and playful insights for navigating life's adventures and memory lapses. Learn memory-boosting strategies, organizational hacks, and how to thrive in midlife and beyond. Rediscover the joy of living fully in the present moment while staying organized and embracing new experiences. Gain practical tips for navigating forgetfulness and maximizing productivity amidst life's chaotic moments. Join Michelle as she inspires and empowers you to celebrate each day as an opportunity to create memories, pursue passions, and connect with the world around you.
Show Notes:
https://michellerayburn.com/midlife-memory-hacks-task-management-and-renewed-purpose/
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In this episode, Michelle dives into the topic of midlife, reframing it as a pivotal crossroads rather than a crisis. Embracing authenticity, shedding societal expectations, and seeking empowerment and purpose are just some of the transformative themes discussed. Through personal insights and engaging storytelling, Michelle encourages listeners to approach midlife with wonder, gratitude, and a sense of self-discovery. Join her for an inspiring conversation that challenges perceptions and celebrates the beauty of this transformative stage of life.
Sponsor: Classic Marriage book
https://michellerayburn.com/classicmarriage/
More show notes: https://michellerayburn.com/forget-the-crisis-midlife-is-a-crossroads/
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Are you facing a major life transition? Let's explore the transformative power of change and the resilience it can bring. In this episode of "Life Repurposed," Michelle shares her personal experiences and insights on navigating changes and transitions in midlife. From moving to a new community, dealing with personal and family losses, to reinventing her career, she discusses the emotional challenges, spiritual practices, and practical strategies for handling transitions. Join her as she explores the complexities of transitions and offers hope and encouragement for embracing change and finding renewal in the midst of life's challenges.
Series: Midlife Mixtape: Rocking Out to the Soundtracks of Our Middle Years
Show Notes
https://michellerayburn.com/navigating-transitions-and-change-in-mid-life/
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In this thought-provoking episode, Michelle explores the complex world of spiritual growth and finding authentic connection in Christian communities. She tackles the tricky topic of midlife transitions, questioning of faith, and the search for deeper meaning and purpose. She explores the impact of phrases commonly used in church circles and the signs of spiritual abuse within Christian communities.
Drawing from her own experiences, Michelle emphasizes the importance of remaining connected to Jesus and seeking genuine, supportive relationships within the church. Michelle encourages listeners to take a leap of faith to find authentic connection and fruitfulness in their spiritual journey. This is an episode that will challenge, inspire, and encourage you to seek genuine growth and connection in Christ.
Show Notes:
https://michellerayburn.com/thriving-connections-in-christian-community/
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Is it possible to love someone while hating their behavior or decisions? In this episode of Life Repurposed, host Michelle Rayburn explores the potentially controversial phrase "hate the sin, love the sinner," challenging its implications and impact on our relationships. Through biblical insights and compelling examples, Michelle discusses the potential harm and judgmental attitudes this phrase may foster, advocating for a more empathetic and inclusive approach to loving others. She’s honest and transparent about her own thoughts on how to treat others and the origin of the phrase. Listen in and explore the transformative power of genuine love and acceptance.
Show Notes:
https://michellerayburn.com/challenging-hate-the-sin-love-the-sinner/
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Join host Michelle Rayburn and her husband, Phil Rayburn, as they share insights and playful banter about their 34-year marriage. They discuss intentional date nights and the value of communication. Tune in for a fun game of "would you rather," their preferences in various scenarios, and a glimpse into their relationship dynamics. Having fun together is one of their secrets for a long marriage. Don't miss out on this heartwarming and candid conversation about love and marriage. Subscribe to Michelle's mailing list on Substack for bonus gifts and explore more resources in the Life Repurposed magazine. (Paid members get chapter 1 of Classic Marriage this time!)
Show Notes:
https://michellerayburn.com/love-laughter-and-classic-marriage/
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Is “born-again Christian” just a box to check on a survey? How does it apply to life today, and is it a label we still use, or has it been ruined by modern evangelicalism? Host Michelle Rayburn begins this thought-provoking episode with exploring the history and modern use of the term “born again” and its impact on the evangelical movement. She reviews the transformative journey of Nicodemus in John 3 and its parallels to the modern Christian experience. Explore beyond a mere label as Michelle encourages listeners to embrace continual transformation and renewal that make being spiritual rebirth (being born again) lead to a way of living rather than a label to claim.
Show notes:
https://michellerayburn.com/what-is-a-born-again-christian/
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Is “Christian” a noun or an adjective, and what difference does it make? In Episode 185 of "Life Repurposed," host Michelle Rayburn dives into the implications of the title "Christian" in various aspects of life. She explores the significance of embodying the qualities of Jesus in everyday decisions and challenges listeners to seek spiritual transformation over “plastic” versions of Christianity.
What happens when we use Bible verses out of context for decoration on t-shirts, mugs, and wall art? Michelle also explores the importance of understanding the context of Bible verses to avoid misinterpretation and misapplication, providing practical tips to achieve this. Zooming out to look at the context has changed her personal Bible study so much, and she gives examples of how she’s experienced a repurposed life in this area.
Show Notes:
https://michellerayburn.com/christian-is-a-noun-and-scripture-is-not-for-decoration/
Substack:
www.LifeRepurposed.me
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