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Host Jake Deptula is joined by family law attorney Michele Locke and Allyn Amerongen, a survivor, advocate, and podcaster, featured in lovelustfear episode sixteen, "Itâs A Lot Worse Than We Thought."
Allyn opens up about her traumatic experience in a long-distance relationship, the double-edged nature of vulnerability, and the challenges survivors face when navigating relationships after trauma. She also shares her personal journey while creating her podcast, âWhen Heaven Meets Hellâ, and its global impact on listeners. The conversation emphasizes that survivors should never feel pressured to prove their trauma and be encouraged to embrace their truths. The episode highlights the importance of setting clear boundaries, fostering trust, and supporting survivors as they share their stories and continue their healing journeys toward recovery.
ââ**This episode of lovelustfridays contains topics including sexual abuse. Please listen with caution.**
links
When Heaven Meets Hell
Apple
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/when-heaven-meets-hell/id1757647021
Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/show/0Ck1Xm1rqmu8BgEUbZpyfE
Amazon Music
https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/596cc7d9-1ad4-4777-838a-8680c1b62cf6/when-heaven-meets-hell
Allyn Amerongen
Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/allyn.amerongen/
Michele Locke
https://www.michelelocke.com/
https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/
Additional Links
War Party Movement
https://warpartymovement.com/
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
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Allyn meets a captivating man who swiftly declares his love, asks her to be his girlfriend, and proposes. But as their long-distance relationship deepens, she uncovers his lingering connection with an ex, leading her down a dark path of deception.
chapters
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(00:16) next on lovelustfear
(01:40) about allyn
(02:38) allynâs story
(56:35) questions & answers
(01:01:54) closing thoughts
(01:02:40) charity & organizations
(01:03:10) submit your story
(01:03:21) disclaimer
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âMy criteria was something more serious and committed in hopes of finding my person in marriage and all the things that I had kind of been shown and was striving for in lifeâŠâ - Allyn
âHe was all the things that I hadn't experienced in conversations prior with people, and that was something that really drew me in and that I appreciated about him.â - Allyn
âWithin less than a week, he told me that he loved me. That was right after our first FaceTime, within probably twenty minutes of us getting off the phone. At that same time, he told me that he wanted to have kids with me, couldn't wait for me to be their Mom.â - Allyn
âWithin two hours, probably two hours of being there, I was with his momâŠand his mom was with me and she ended up on the phone, on speaker with someone. And they said, Allyn and, and him are going to be coming by, they're with us now, we'll all be together later or something. And the person said, who's Allyn? Who's that? I can't keep track of them.â - Allyn
âAnd I leaned down, pull something, and out comes lingerie from under his bed. And I just froze. And I look under there, and there's also a woman's shirt and a purse. And I'm thinking really fast, how do I want to handle this?â - Allyn
â...but, in my mind, I was just waiting for, we were waiting for something to happen with his work, we were waiting for a green light on something, and again, he left me in limbo. I just felt like a weird suspended state.â - Allyn
topics
#datingjourney #onlinedating #datingapps #socialawkwardness #whirlwindromance #commitment #engagement #intertwinedfamilies #engagement #honesty #secret #trust #stability #housing #ex-girlfriend #frustration #gaslighting #doubts #cheating #breakup #devastation #infidelity #confrontation #devastation #anger #remorse #cover-up #betrayal #trauma #mentalhealth #recovery #chronicillness #podcasting #awareness #support #podcast
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Podcast | When Heaven Meets Hell
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/when-heaven-meets-hell/id1757647021
https://open.spotify.com/show/0Ck1Xm1rqmu8BgEUbZpyfE
https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/596cc7d9-1ad4-4777-838a-8680c1b62cf6/when-heaven-meets-hell
Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/allyn.amerongen/
Allyn Amerongen: Coaching. Speaking. Community.
https://doingitdespite.com/
War Party Movement
https://warpartymovement.com/
At War Party Movement we're about having "less thunder in the mouth, more lightning in the hand." We are fiercely committed to taking action in breaking cycles of abuse and fundamentally changing the way women are treated, across the country and particularly in Native communities, through our 501(c)3 non-profit War Party Ranch. We provide opportunities for women and girls to create working and life skills that foster independence and self reliance in all aspects of their lives and in all future endeavors.
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
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If you would like to consider being a guest on lovelustfear or would like your story featured anonymously, please contact us below.
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Host Jake Deptula is joined by family law attorney Michele Locke, along with Shaun and John from "Sins and Survivors: Las Vegas True Crime," to explore the heartbreaking case of Ashley and Dennis Prince, who were tragically killed by Ashley's ex-father-in-law, Joe Houston, during a deposition.
The discussion reflects on Ashley and Dennis's lives, the legal proceedings, and the emotional and legal complexities that culminated in their deaths. They examine the intense divorce proceedings and custody battle, highlighting how Ashley's attempts to escape an abusive relationship were overlooked by a justice system that missed vital warning signs. Michele provides valuable insights into the motivations of those involved, pointing out the instability within the legal framework. The conversation also tackles systemic issues surrounding domestic violence and the emotional strain on families while advocating for greater community awareness and resources for survivors. Shaun and John reveal their mission to enlighten the Las Vegas community by shedding light on these devastating stories.
topics | True Crime, Domestic Violence, Ashley Prince, Dennis Prince, Legal Perspectives, Advocacy, Community Awareness, red flags, relationships, divorce, Las Vegas, survivor stories, law, podcasting, courtroom, legal profession, community, instincts, lawyers, professionalism
ââ**This episode of lovelustfridays contains graphic depictions of murder. Please listen with caution.*
links
Sins & Survivors: Las Vegas True Crime
Apple
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sins-survivors-a-las-vegas-true-crime-podcast/id1712245894
Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/show/1W2swCx9LP38sFY06294pB
Amazon Music
https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/18ce5b73-c8ec-4e38-827d-df4119e845ea/sins-survivors-a-las-vegas-true-crime-podcast
Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/sinsandsurvivors/
Website
http://sinsandsurvivors.com
Michele Locke
https://www.michelelocke.com/
https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/
Additional Links (Topics Discussed)
The Vegas Justice League (Cold Cases)
https://www.vegasjusticeleague.com/
Original Episode Link
https://sinspod.co/episode36
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
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If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic youâd like us to cover, contact us below.
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Host Jake Deptula speaks with Desiree, who shares her dating misadventures, including cringe-worthy encounters with older men who misrepresent themselves.
Their conversation highlights issues like catfishing and the bait-and-switch phenomenon. Desiree reveals the aspects of old-school dating and the early days of AOL Online romances. She emphasizes critical criteria for partners, such as having a job, apartment, and car, and discusses the dangers she has faced, including awkward and potentially risky situations. She reflects on the importance of personal safety and learning from past mistakes while navigating the modern dating landscape. The episode also touches on sensitive topics like sexual assault and boundaries in relationships, encouraging listeners to be aware of red flags and the significance of trust and accountability in dating.
ââ**This episode of lovelustfridays contains topics including sexual assault. Please listen with caution.**
topics | bad dates, catfishing, true crime, online dating, SMITTY, dating stories, friendship, betrayal, dating criteria, dangerous situations, dating experiences, personal growth, dating, personal stories, domestic violence, abuse, sexual assault, boundaries, relationships, trust, instincts, accountability, sharing experiences, red flags
Desiree - Episode Link
"His Name Was SMITTY"
https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1jQ7VjUQ0S7feHDADg1fM6
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
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If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic youâd like us to cover, contact us below.
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Introducing: Next Realm - Have you ever felt a presence, heard a familiar voice, or received a sign that made you believe your loved ones were reaching out from beyond the veil? Next Realm is the podcast that explores the profound and heartwarming stories of individuals who have experienced messages from their departed loved ones. In each episode, we delve into personal accounts that transcend the boundaries of the physical world. From mysterious dreams and unexplained coincidences to undeniable signs, our guests share their extraordinary encounters that go beyond the realms of explanation. Host Amber Rasmussen guides you through these captivating narratives, exploring each encounter's emotions, connections, and spiritual significance. Together, we embark on a journey into the unknown, where love transcends the boundaries of time and space. Whether you are a skeptic or a believer, âNEXT REALMâ invites you to open your heart and mind to the possibility that your loved ones may communicate with us in ways we never imagined.
Apple Podcasts
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/next-realm-beautiful-stories-from-beyond/id1768386038
Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/show/3tRhWVtSSdDfhqeGqMyo4T
Amazon Music
https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2272e97b-c58c-48c7-9570-d03a27e430fe/next-realm-beautiful-stories-from-beyond
Website
https://www.nextrealmpod.com/
Instagram
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Host Jake Deptula speaks with Danielle, a caregiver and spiritual healing advocate, who shares her traumatic experiences with domestic violence in high school.
Danielle details the verbal, physical, and sexual abuse she suffered at the hands of her then-boyfriend, along with the stalking that ensued. Danielle highlights the critical support from her family, especially her mother, which helped her escape the abusive relationship and reveals the challenges of rebuilding her life in a new school, finding supportive friends, and learning to trust again. Inspired by her role as a caregiver for her mother, who is battling cancer, Danielle emphasizes the importance of spiritual wellness in her healing journey and aims to raise awareness about domestic abuse and spiritual paths to recovery.
**This episode of lovelustfridays contains topics including the sexual assault of a minor. Please listen with caution.**
topics | domestic violence, abuse, sexual assault, teen dating violence, stalking, healing, relationships, support systems, spiritual wellness, caregiving, mental health, awareness, cancer, cancer patient, domestic violence awareness month
links
Danielle Gray
Newsletter:
https://daniellegray.substack.com/
Awaken with Danielle Gray YouTube Channel:
https://youtube.com/@awakenwithdaniellegray?si=HpHa_D653N7oAAOZ
Link To Danielle Gray's Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/iamdanielleegray/profilecard/?igsh=MXJsYjRvbGl4ZDVodg==
Additional Links (Topics Discussed)
Strictly Stalking Episode 157 âStalked At School: A Campus Confrontationâ
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/strictly-stalking/id1494237083
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
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Introducing: Morbidology â a true crime podcast created and hosted by Emily G. Thompson, author of âUnsolved Child Murders,â âCults Uncoveredâ and co-author of âUnsolved Murders: True Crime Cases Uncovered.â Morbidology was voted âBest International Podcastâ at the iHeartRadio Podcast Awards. Join Emily as she covers a new true crime case â solved and unsolved â released weekly. You can listen to Morbidology across all podcast platforms.
Iâm going to play a preview of episode 277 on the murder of Lise Fredette, a 74-year-old woman who failed to show up for her shift in Walmart in Peterborough, Ontario, Canada. Her daughter drove over to her home, and when she pulled up outside, she observed her car parked in the driveway. She headed up the drive but was stopped in her tracks by a large pool of blood on the ground. An investigation into her whereabouts got underway, and suspicion immediately fell upon an ex-boyfriend who had refused to accept that the relationship was over.
FULL EPISODE 277 HERE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/277-lise-fredette/id1463979546?i=1000672013286
Website
https://morbidology.com/
Visit and Join Patreon
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Spotify Podcast Subscriptions
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Social Media
https://www.instagram.com/morbidology/
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Host Jake Deptula and former family court judge and family law attorney Michele Locke sit down with Terra Newell, a victim advocate, public figure, and survivor of multiple toxic relationships.
They explore the complexities of toxic relationships and the expectations placed on survivors who become public figures. They also confront misconceptions stemming from media portrayals that often oversimplify these experiences, particularly beyond the sensational headlines of âDirty John.â Additionally, they discuss the responsibilities of true crime content creators, focusing on the glorification of serial killer culture and the ethical considerations that come with storytelling. Also, how advocating for a victim-centered approach is essential for fostering safe spaces for survivors and recognizing that each individual's journey through trauma is uniquely their own.
topics | terra newell, domestic violence, toxic relationships, true crime, survivor stories, ethics in media, accountability, red flags, healing, victim support, dirty john, survival, podcasting, serial killer culture, responsibility, survivor, domestic violence awareness month
Terra Newell - Episode Link
"I Want You To Always Be Available To Meâ
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear-terra-i-want-you-to-always-be-available-to-me/id1735876283?i=1000663173031
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2H7GJVeaVXV3cLvCsBTuC7?si=TlkZexWPT5WsIVcbm4I5Nw
links
Terra Newell
https://www.terranewellsurvival.com
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Terraâs 30 Day Trauma Journal
https://square.link/u/DvXXYN27
Exclusive Content on Patreon!
http://patreon.com/Terrasbaddyclub
Terraâs Baddy Club (Podcast)
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/terras-baddy-club/id1477935020
Michele Locke
https://www.michelelocke.com/
https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/
Additional Links (Topics Discussed)
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/article/2024/jun/19/alex-murdaugh-son-sues-netflix
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
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This October, lovelustfear returns along with brand new episodes of lovelustfridays!
We'll dive deep into compelling topics like cheating, catfishing, love bombing 101 stalking, and the FBI's approach to battling romance scams. I'll be speaking with new guests and guest speakers, including therapists, dating coaches, law enforcement professionals, private investigators, legal experts, celebrities, authors, and influencers.
Additionally, I'm excited to announce I'll be participating in a True Crime Podcasting Ethics course with Terra Newell. You can find more information on her Instagram here:
https://www.instagram.com/terranewell/
And if you'd like to share your dating and relationship story, I want to hear it.
You can reach me at [email protected] or: https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/
https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear
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Host Jake Deptula and former associate family court judge and family law attorney Michele Locke sit down with Lorraine, a narcissistic abuse survivor from episode fifteen of lovelustfear, "You Have To Be Very Careful With Him.â
They delve into Lorraine's experience of escaping an abusive relationship with a partner diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder and her legal challenges co-parenting with him. They also examine the significant struggles she faced within the police and court systems, which may have displayed bias and racism, particularly in Family Court. Also, they discuss how the judicial system focuses on child protection and how it sometimes fails to consider the best interests of the abuse victim, emphasizing the urgent need for reform in family courts to provide better support for victims.
topics | toxic relationship, unfair treatment, police, court system, bias, racism, co-parenting, narcissistic ex-partner, self-care, narcissism, white privilege, family court, psychological evaluation, coercive control, court reform, self-discovery, support networks, humor
Lorraine - Episode Link
"You Have To Be Very Careful With Him.â
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear-lorraine-you-have-to-be-very-careful-with-him/id1735876283?i=1000664798749&itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1000664798749
https://open.spotify.com/episode/54b3WJWHzDo324QLD2VU1o?si=P9hTAjHKTjW4HV73DUFYsw
links
Michele Locke
https://www.michelelocke.com/
https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/
Lorraine
Go Fund Me Page: https://gofund.me/5bd8a430
Narcissism The Comedy Night:
https://www.montrealimprov.com/shows/narcissism-a-comedy-night
Narcissism The Improvised Musical: https://www.montrealimprov.com/shows/narcissism-the-musical-a-fundraising-event
Instagram:
www.instagram.com/thestarparentpodcast
Woman Aware:
https://www.womenaware.ca/
Natalie Bedard better known as NatNat
Energy Healing Specialist: Regulating the Nervous System and Relieving Emotional and Mental Pain Through Breathwork
Website: www.LiftOneSelf.com
IG: Https://instagram.com/liftoneself
FB: Https://facebook.com/liftoneself
Podcast:
https://liftoneself.buzzsprout.com
Youtube:
https://m.youtube.com/@LiftOneSelfPodcast
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
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Host Jake Deptula and former associate family court judge and family law attorney Michele Locke sit down with Lena, an abusive marriage survivor from episode nine of lovelustfear, âHeâs Your Problem Now.â
They discuss Lena's toxic marriage and the influence of cultural obligations in her Armenian community, the nuances of recognizing abuse, and how she found her voice and empowerment through her second husband's supportive and matrilineal Native American culture. The conversation also highlights the themes of coercive control, gaslighting, financial manipulation, and the emotional toll these experiences have on physical health, including the long-term effects of trauma. Also, they discuss the importance of support systems and reflect on the necessity of self-care in the healing process.
topics | cultural obligations, empowerment, trauma recovery, self-care, mental health, women's rights, love, relationships, trauma, abuse, relationships, cultural expectations, toxic traits, vulnerability, healing, hashimoto's disease, independence, personal growth, podcasting, toxic relationships
Lena - Episode Link
"Heâs Your Problem Now"
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear-lena-hes-your-problem-now/id1735876283?i=1000657913302
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3VuTd9CszCR6CyVMNmddRW?si=zHN5QTHhRXGe-VK61UY9jg
links
Michele Locke
https://www.michelelocke.com/
https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (Author) (Book Recommended By Michele)
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748
More About Hashimoto's Disease
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hashimotos-disease/symptoms-causes/syc-20351855
Music Playing During Lenaâs Freedom Ride, aka âThe Grapevineâ
Siouxsie and the Banshees (Spotify Playlist)
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/37i9dQZF1DZ06evO0KJgF1?si=k68HOnZbQVSZRBxD9OSVuQ
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
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Host Jake Deptula and former associate family court judge and family law attorney Michele Locke sit down with Mira, a survivor and parent, from episode five of lovelustfear, âA F**king Broken Mess.â
They discuss the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissistic ex-partner, the complications substance abuse brings to custody battles, and how custody laws can prioritize parental rights over child welfare. The discussion also touches on why therapists might be reluctant to testify in custody cases. Strategies for handling high-conflict situations include documenting interactions, careful planning, and setting boundaries. Additionally, they examine the appeal of toxic relationship patterns and the warning signs to watch for.
topics | custody, co-parenting, substance abuse, family law, child welfare, parental rights, therapy, legal advice, family dynamics, psychology, custody battles, personality disorders, toxic relationships, red flags, mental health, empathy, codependency, legal representation, domestic violence
Mira - Episode Link
"A F**king Broken Mess"
https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/lovelustfear-mira-a-f-king-broken-mess/id1735876283?i=1000654910765
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1grB6rj9w4wYwYefeEXQIG
links
Michele Locke
https://www.michelelocke.com/
https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/
Narcissistic Trauma Healing (Recommended By Mira)
https://carolinestrawson.com/
Caroline Strawson is a multi-award winning Qualified & Accredited Trauma Therapist & Coach, Founder of The School of Trauma Informed Positive Psychology - a school with a mission to create a wave of change around trauma healing and education both personally and professionally.
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
guest + story | submission information
If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic youâd like us to cover, contact us below.
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Spotify
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Apple
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283
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Host Jake Deptula and former associate family court judge and family law attorney Michele Locke sit down with Kaitlyn, a domestic abuse survivor, from episode ten of lovelustfear, âWe Didnât Have Boundaries.â They discuss how trauma can disrupt memory, making it difficult for survivors to recall details and affecting their ability to seek justice effectively. They also explore how growing up in toxic environments can impair one's ability to trust gut feelings and make sound choices. The conversation also addresses the unique challenges faced by romantic partners of abuse survivors, highlighting the importance of empathy, patience, and open communication.
topics | toxic relationships, domestic violence, trauma, legal system, healing, support, trauma, relationships, recalibrating instincts, toxic environments, trust, picker, broken picker, compassion, understanding, abuse, validation, court system, support, partners of trauma survivors, understanding, compassion, communication, safe space, education, forgiveness, triggers, boundaries, domestic violence
Kaitlyn - Episode Link
"We Didnât Have Boundaries"
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear-kaitlyn-we-didnt-have-boundaries/id1735876283?i=1000658756399
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3vQ4DO13Irvg50QWX74aZK?si=J0qsPr9aRhu1awFqQj6yfw
links
Michele Locke
https://www.michelelocke.com/
https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
guest + story | submission information
If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic youâd like us to cover, contact us below.
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Spotify
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Apple
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Host Jake Deptula and Family Law Attorney Michele Locke sit down with Justine, a former military wife and domestic abuse survivor, from episode three of lovelustfear, "You're Never Allowed to Leave Me." They discuss the challenges military spouses face in abusive relationships, the complexities of navigating the court system, and the biases that can impact legal outcomes. They also explore the journey of finding love and healing after trauma, the power dynamics within abusive relationships, and the vital importance of sharing survivor stories.
Topics: abusive relationships, power dynamics, military spouses, survivor stories, healing, love, toxic relationship, military, support, court system, biases, listening, comfortable environments, survivors, domestic violence
Justine - Episode Link
"Youâre Never Allowed To Leave Me"
https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/lovelustfear-justine-youre-never-allowed-to-leave-me/id1735876283?i=1000653439092
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5bNWUWoj1deSI8kcANsGpo?si=7945e7c09356460e
links
Michele Locke
https://www.michelelocke.com/
https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/
Military Spouse Support
https://www.militaryonesource.mil/
Talk: 1.800.342.9647
Military OneSource is your 24/7 connection to information, answers, and support to help you reach your goals, overcome challenges, and thrive. As a member of our military family, you are eligible to use this Defense Department-funded program anytime, anywhere. Turn to Military OneSource for tax services, spouse employment help, webinars and online training, relocation, and deployment tools, and much more.
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
Justine - Episode Link
"Youâre Never Allowed To Leave Me"
https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5bNWUWoj1deSI8kcANsGpo?si=7945e7c09356460e
guest + story | submission information
If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic youâd like us to cover, contact us below.
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Spotify
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Apple
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Introducing â Haunted Detective
A true crime podcast that investigates the Macabre side of the world. Kelsey Childs and her friend Pamela J explore Paranormal mysteries nestled within the strangest crime cases you will ever hear about. From human doll makers and odd hauntings to people who vanished without a trace, the Haunted Detective podcast is a series that will make you question everything.
The Murder of Pravin Varughese: Police Negligence & Racial Discrimination
Kelsey and Pamela are going to be deep diving into the murder of Pravin Varughese; a case that has involved horrific displays of racial prejudice, police negligence and just overall bizarre court rulings.
OFFICIAL FB PAGE FOR PRAVIN & AND PETITION
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Introducing: Sins & Survivors: Las Vegas True Crime â What if the system you trust to protect you fails miserably? We're diving into a narrative that paints this grim picture in the tale of Phoukeo Dej-Oudom and her children. Tragically, their plea for protection fell on deaf ears, and the consequences were fatal. They were robbed of their dreams and their lives in the city that markets itself as the city of second chances - Las Vegas. This heart-wrenching episode of Sins & Survivors brings to light the intersection of domestic violence and gun violence. The haunting echo of Phoukeoâs story is resounding in our current legal landscape, with a Supreme Court case considering the constitutionality of gun removal in the cases of protective orders being argued in November 2023. Itâs a complex matter, and weâre taking a hard look at the way victim blaming permeates these narratives. Join us as Shaun and John confront the unrealistic expectations of easy answers.
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After her divorce, Lorraine sought advice from a shaman, who encouraged her to let others take the lead. She started taking dance classes and began dating her partner, who eventually revealed himself to be a manipulative and controlling narcissist, drawing her into a cycle of escalating abuse.
**This episode contains graphic depictions of sexual assault, racism, and mental, emotional, and physical abuse. Listener discretion is advised.**
chapters
(00:00) listen with caution
(00:16) next on lovelustfear
(01:58) about lorraine
(02:51) lorraineâs story
(47:10) questions & answers
(49:34) closing thoughts
(50:37) charity & organizations
(51:07) submit your story
(51:17) disclaimer
quotes
âI decided to take therapy sessions from a shaman. And she said to Lorraine, you have problems being led.â - Lorraine
âI always already checking off all the boxes of how could I be the helper in this the Savior in this relationship?â - Lorraine
â...she said, it took me eight years to get my life back together after what he did to me. And she said, This man will break you down until you are absolutely nothing.â - Lorraine
âI would often lock myself in rooms to get away from him because sometimes things became violentâŠâ - Lorraine
â...the Police officer flips open his gun, puts his hand on his gun and says to me, are you resisting arrest? And that's when it hit me. I'm like, Oh my God. I am a black English speaking woman in a French speaking province. I am fucked.â - Lorraine
âWe keep our head up and we walk strong and we believe in God. And we believe in higher power, and we believe in kindness, and that's what's kept me through.â - Lorraine
music | sounds
Music (CC BY 4.0):
Lost Place Atmospheres 002 & 003 by Sascha Ende
Very Low Note by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Other Music and Sound Effects by Alex Wit, Yevhenii Kovalenko, Samuel Kamau, Cybercutie, Syouki Takahashi, Timothy Kulig, Pixabay, Samuel F. Johanns, and UNIVERSFIELD from Pixabay
stay aware | follow | share (lorraine)
Go Fund Me Page: https://gofund.me/5bd8a430
Narcissism The Comedy Night:
https://www.montrealimprov.com/shows/narcissism-a-comedy-night
Narcissism The Improvised Musical : https://www.montrealimprov.com/shows/narcissism-the-musical-a-fundraising-event
Instagram:
www.instagram.com/thestarparentpodcast
Woman Aware:
https://www.womenaware.ca/
Natalie Bedard better known as NatNat
Energy Healing Specialist: Regulating the Nervous System and Relieving Emotional and Mental Pain Through Breathwork
Website: www.LiftOneSelf.com
IG: Https://instagram.com/liftoneself
FB: Https://facebook.com/liftoneself
Podcast:
https://liftoneself.buzzsprout.com
Youtube:
https://m.youtube.com/@LiftOneSelfPodcast
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
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Introducing: Women and Crime â Two Criminologists cover a new female-focused case each episode. Youâll hear the stories of these women, paired with the science that tells you where it all went wrong. Weâll explore the causes of female crime, victimology, the legal system, as well as celebrate heroines who have left their mark on the criminal justice system. Dr Meghan Sacks and Dr Amy Shlosberg are both Professors of Criminology at Fairleigh Dickinson University. Both have years of first-hand experience working with offenders and professionals in the criminal justice system. They teach classes covering topics such as: Women & Crime, Race & Crime, Criminology, and Serial Killers.
Find us wherever you listen to podcasts, or go to: https://womenandcrimepodcast.com/how-to-listen/
Apple
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-and-crime/id1485129718
Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/show/6TCBkYEtwkBsDl5UrYDa1b
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At seventeen, Terra is captivated by a charismatic classmate who exploits her need for attention, leading them into a troubling cycle of drug abuse and criminal behavior. Terra's physical addiction to him only serves to deepen the toxicity within their relationship.
**This episode contains graphic depictions of sexual assault, murder, suicide, mental, emotional, and physical abuse, and drug use. Listener discretion is advised.**
chapters
(00:00) listen with caution
(00:16) next on lovelustfear
(01:42) about terra
(02:23) terraâs story
(33:25) questions & answers
(36:46) closing thoughts
(37:43) charity & organizations
(38:12) submit your story
(38:23) disclaimer
quotes
âI found myself leaning into the attention whenever I would get it. And then when the attention would stop, I would seek it out.â - Terra
ââŠbut then he smoothed things over. He was just so good at explaining everything so good at covering everything up.â - Terra
âWith him coming into my life with him even bringing the drugs and creating that addiction, it created an addiction in the relationship with him.â - Terra
âIt made me feel like I had to have my phone on me all the time. I need to answer him right away. I need to, be there for him. And, if I didn't answer that message, then I got punished.â - Terra
âI say before you even think about making that comment of âshe should have leftâ or âshe chose thisâ is go and do the research of how hard it is to leave. Go and do the research of what your brain actually looks like when you're in this toxic relationship.â - Terra
music | sounds
Music (CC BY 4.0):
Lost Place Atmospheres (001 - 003) and Neon City by Sascha Ende
Very Low Note by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Other Music and Sound Effects by Alex Wit, Yevhenii Kovalenko, Cybercutie, AlesiaDavina, Syouki Takahashi, Timothy Kulig, Pixabay, Samuel F. Johanns, and UNIVERSFIELD from Pixabay
Spacetime by Mountaineer
stay aware | follow | share (terra)
https://seasonofjustice.org
https://www.terranewellsurvival.com
National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)
Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)
Text: START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline
https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/
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lovelustfear is being developed as a streaming TV series! (Listen for more details.)
L.A. Not So Confidential Live Video Q&A with Jake Deptula
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