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"How can I love you better?"It's a brave question. An interesting question. A profound, yet simple question. It's a really effective question to help with small, achievable steps towards a more healthy and flourishing marriage.Join us this season as we deep-dive into this question together.Hosted by Ps Jason & Emma Schroeder
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"How can I love you better?"It's a brave question. An interesting question. A profound, yet simple question. It's a really effective question to help with small, achievable steps towards a more healthy and flourishing marriage.Join us this season as we deep-dive into this question together.Hosted by Ps Jason & Emma Schroeder
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"How can I love you better?"It's a brave question. An interesting question. A profound, yet simple question. It's a really effective question to help with small, achievable steps towards a more healthy and flourishing marriage.Join us this season as we deep-dive into this question together.Hosted by Ps Jason & Emma Schroeder
SHOW NOTES:
Point 2: Intentionalise a new communication method
Drive-thru listening :Fast-Food Employee (listener)
This personâs job is to listen - attentively. When receiving an order, you can only repeat back what youâve heard the same concept applies here. No editing, evaluating, or defending yourself. You can ask to have the order repeated if you did not understand something. However, this is only for clarity â you donât have to agree. Listen for their heart â their feelings, fears, beliefs and emotions. Pay attention, focus on their words and heart, not being distracted by your right of reply, your own thoughts, your line of defense etcCustomer (speaker):
This personâs job is to express needs or feelings using âIâ statements. No bringing up past issues, starting a new argument, or making blaming âYouâ statements (e.g., âYou always âŠâ). Offer âbite-sizedâ thoughts or information so the other person can remember in order to repeat it back correctly and understand your feelings. Share your heart â your feelings, fears, beliefs and emotions.General Rules:
Repeating statements in the employee role does not mean you agree with whatâs being said. Instead, the goal is to listen and validate the other personâs feelings and individuality. You are not looking for solutions at this time. Solutions can be sought after each person feels heard and validated. Agree to take a time-out if withdrawal, escalation, invalidation, or negative beliefs creep into the conversation. When the customer (speaker) feels heard and validated, you switch roles, so both parties get the opportunity to share the heart/belief/feelings. Above all else, strive to honour one another in all that is said and repeated.Point 3: Expand your Toolkit
Key resources to read to help the tension management at the wall
Revisit Season 4, "Expert Minis" where we thumbnail the key aspects of these texts:
Keller, The Meaning of Marriage Gottman, 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work Tripp, Marriage : 7 Gospel Principles Leman, Sheet Music -
"How can I love you better?"It's a brave question. An interesting question. A profound, yet simple question. It's a really effective question to help with small, achievable steps towards a more healthy and flourishing marriage.Join us this season as we deep-dive into this question together.Hosted by Ps Jason & Emma Schroeder
SHOW NOTES:
Point 2: Intentionalise a new communication method
Drive-thru listening :Fast-Food Employee (listener)
This personâs job is to listen - attentively. When receiving an order, you can only repeat back what youâve heard the same concept applies here. No editing, evaluating, or defending yourself. You can ask to have the order repeated if you did not understand something. However, this is only for clarity â you donât have to agree. Listen for their heart â their feelings, fears, beliefs and emotions. Pay attention, focus on their words and heart, not being distracted by your right of reply, your own thoughts, your line of defense etcCustomer (speaker):
This personâs job is to express needs or feelings using âIâ statements. No bringing up past issues, starting a new argument, or making blaming âYouâ statements (e.g., âYou always âŠâ). Offer âbite-sizedâ thoughts or information so the other person can remember in order to repeat it back correctly and understand your feelings. Share your heart â your feelings, fears, beliefs and emotions.General Rules:
Repeating statements in the employee role does not mean you agree with whatâs being said. Instead, the goal is to listen and validate the other personâs feelings and individuality. You are not looking for solutions at this time. Solutions can be sought after each person feels heard and validated. Agree to take a time-out if withdrawal, escalation, invalidation, or negative beliefs creep into the conversation. When the customer (speaker) feels heard and validated, you switch roles, so both parties get the opportunity to share the heart/belief/feelings. Above all else, strive to honour one another in all that is said and repeated.Point 3: Expand your Toolkit
Key resources to read to help the tension management at the wall
Revisit Season 4, "Expert Minis" where we thumbnail the key aspects of these texts:
Keller, The Meaning of Marriage Gottman, 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work Tripp, Marriage : 7 Gospel Principles Leman, Sheet Music -
"How can I love you better?"It's a brave question. An interesting question. A profound, yet simple question. It's a really effective question to help with small, achievable steps towards a more healthy and flourishing marriage.Join us this season as we deep-dive into this question together.Hosted by Ps Jason & Emma Schroeder
SHOW NOTES:
Point 2: Intentionalise a new communication method
Drive-thru listening :
This personâs job is to listen - attentively. When receiving an order, you can only repeat back what youâve heard the same concept applies here. No editing, evaluating, or defending yourself. You can ask to have the order repeated if you did not understand something. However, this is only for clarity â you donât have to agree. Listen for their heart â their feelings, fears, beliefs and emotions. Pay attention, focus on their words and heart, not being distracted by your right of reply, your own thoughts, your line of defense etc
Fast-Food Employee (listener)Customer (speaker):
This personâs job is to express needs or feelings using âIâ statements. No bringing up past issues, starting a new argument, or making blaming âYouâ statements (e.g., âYou always âŠâ). Offer âbite-sizedâ thoughts or information so the other person can remember in order to repeat it back correctly and understand your feelings. Share your heart â your feelings, fears, beliefs and emotions.
Repeating statements in the employee role does not mean you agree with whatâs being said. Instead, the goal is to listen and validate the other personâs feelings and individuality. You are not looking for solutions at this time. Solutions can be sought after each person feels heard and validated. Agree to take a time-out if withdrawal, escalation, invalidation, or negative beliefs creep into the conversation. When the customer (speaker) feels heard and validated, you switch roles, so both parties get the opportunity to share the heart/belief/feelings. Above all else, strive to honour one another in all that is said and repeated.
General Rules:
Point 3: Expand your ToolkitKey resources to read to help the tension management at the wall
Keller, The Meaning of Marriage Gottman, 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work Tripp, Marriage : 7 Gospel Principles Leman, Sheet Music
Revisit Season 4, "Expert Minis" where we thumbnail the key aspects of these texts: -
"How can I love you better?"
It's a brave question. An interesting question. A profound, yet simple question. It's a really effective question to help with small, achievable steps towards a more healthy and flourishing marriage.
Join us this season as we deep-dive into this question together.
Hosted by Ps Jason & Emma Schroeder -
"How can I love you better?"
It's a brave question. An interesting question. A profound, yet simple question. It's a really effective question to help with small, achievable steps towards a more healthy and flourishing marriage.
Join us this season as we deep-dive into this question together.
SHOW NOTES:
1/ â K10 Mental Health online assessmentâ 2/ Basic triage of mental health and its intersection with spirituality : Ask yourself (using 1-10 rating scale)How much stress is this causing?How much is this impinging on my life? (consider sleep, relationships, daily functioning)How is this impacting my spirituality namely my sense of God, self and faith? Evaluate your score here 4/ HelplinesLifeline (13 11 14 or text 0477 13 11 14), Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636), Headspace (12-25 year olds 1800 650 890), Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467)
5/ Some key resources that have shaped my mental health experience and understanding:Darkness is my only Companion by Kathryn Greene-McKnight (Priest and theologian lives with bi-polar)Finding Jesus in the Storm by John Swinton (previous chaplain to the Queen, theologian, registered mental health nurse)The Night is Normal by Dr Alicia Chole (Doctorate in Ministry and Spiritual Formation)The Other Side of Happiness by Brock Bastian (Associate Professor in School of Psychological Sciences Melbourne)A non-anxious Presence by Mark Sayers (Pastor, Cultural Commentator, has bi-polar)Troubled Minds by Amy Simpson (2013 Christianity Today Book Award Winner)Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Pete Scazzero (Founder of Emotionally Healthy Discipleship)Kate C Bowler's work including her podcast, devotionals, books (Associate Professor of Christian History, Academic, Podcaster, stage IV cancer survivor)
Helpful Scriptures:
2 Timothy 1:7 Romans 12:2 Romans 15:13 Philippians 4:6-7 1 Kings 18 Luke 8:49-55 Matthew 16:24 Matthew 26:36-45 Philippians 4:8 -
"How can I love you better In Grief ?"
It's a brave question. An interesting question. A profound, yet simple question. It's a really effective question to help with small, achievable steps towards a more healthy and flourishing marriage.
Join us this season as we deep-dive into this question together.
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"How can I love you better today?"
It's a brave question. An interesting question. A profound, yet simple question. It's a really effective question to help with small, achievable steps towards a more healthy and flourishing marriage.
Join us this season as we deep-dive into this question together.
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"How can I love you better today?"
It's a brave question. An interesting question. A profound, yet simple question. It's a really effective question to help with small, achievable steps towards a more healthy and flourishing marriage.
Join us this season as we deep-dive into this question together.
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Relationships expert mini episodes: gritty, helpful insights from those who know their stuff!
This episode Ps Jase & Em begin their discussion around The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Timothy Keller.
SHOW NOTES:
â â The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller
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Relationships expert mini episodes: gritty, helpful insights from those who know their stuff!
This episode Ps Jase & Em begin their discussion around The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Timothy Keller.
SHOW NOTES:
â The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller
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Relationships expert mini episodes: gritty, helpful insights from those who know their stuff!
This episode Ps Jase & Em begin their discussion around The Four Horsemen of marriage, from John Gottman's 'The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work'.
SHOW NOTES:
'The 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work' by John Gottman
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Relationships expert mini episodes: gritty, helpful insights from those who know their stuff!
This episode Ps Jase & Em begin their discussion around The Four Horsemen of marriage, from John Gottman's 'The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work'.
SHOW NOTES:
The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
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Relationships expert mini episodes: gritty, helpful insights from those who know their stuff!This episode Ps Jase & Em begin their discussion around sex with insights from author 'Sheet Music', Kevin Leman.
SHOW NOTES:
Sheet Music by Kevin Leman
https://www.amazon.com.au/Sheet-Music-Kevin-Leman/dp/0842360247
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Relationships expert mini episodes: gritty, helpful insights from those who know their stuff!This episode Ps Jase & Em begin their discussion around sex with insights from author 'Sheet Music', Kevin Leman.
Sheet Music by Kevin Leman
https://www.amazon.com.au/Sheet-Music-Kevin-Leman/dp/0842360247
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Relationships expert mini episodes: gritty, helpful insights from those who know their stuff!This episode Ps Jase & Em continue their discussion around some insights from pastor & author, Mike Todd.
SHOW NOTES:
Relationship Goals: How to Win At Dating, Marriage, and Sex by Michael Todd
â https://www.koorong.com/product/relationship-goals-how-to-win-at-dating-marriage-and-sex-michael_9780593192573â
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Relationships expert mini episodes: gritty, helpful insights from those who know their stuff!
This episode Ps Jase & Em continue their discussion around some insights from pastor & author, Mike Todd.SHOW NOTES:
Relationship Goals: How to Win At Dating, Marriage, and Sex by Michael Todd
https://www.koorong.com/product/relationship-goals-how-to-win-at-dating-marriage-and-sex-michael_9780593192573 -
Relationships expert mini episodes: gritty, helpful insights from those who know their stuff!
This episode Ps Jase & Em continue their discussion around some insights from pastor & author, Paul David Tripp.SHOW NOTES:
Marriage: 6 Gospel Commitments Every Couple Needs to Make (Paul David Tripp)
https://store.paultripp.com/products/marriage-6-gospel-commitments-every-couple-needs-to-make-book -
Introducing Season 4!
Relationships expert mini episodes: gritty, helpful insights from those who know their stuff!
This episode Ps Jase & Em discuss some insights from pastor & author, Paul David Tripp.SHOW NOTES:
Marriage: 6 Gospel Commitments Every Couple Needs to Make (Paul David Tripp)
https://store.paultripp.com/products/marriage-6-gospel-commitments-every-couple-needs-to-make-book - Vis mere
