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In this episode, we’re diving into something I know so many of us feel but don’t always talk about: that deep need to feel supported and truly connected with our partner. Sometimes, it’s not about what your partner does or doesn’t do; it’s about the little moments that either build trust or chip away at it.
Remember that classic line from The Break-Up with Jennifer Aniston? “I want you to want to do the dishes!” It’s a funny moment, but it’s also deeper than that. We're exploring what this really means when it comes to feeling supported by our partners.
Tune in to discover:The 3 most common reasons couples feel unheard and disconnected - and what you can do about it
How small, every day promises (like showing up on time or picking up groceries) can significantly impact whether we feel truly supported and seen
The truth about the “mental load” and why an imbalance here can lead to resentment
Practical tips for creating a fair, flexible system at home where both partners feel valued
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Intimacy goes far beyond the physical; it’s about creating a safe, loving space where you and your partner feel truly valued and cherished. With the whirlwind of daily life, kids, and endless to-do lists, building a relationship that not only survives but thrives can feel overwhelming. But making time to nurture each other isn’t just a nice-to-have - it’s essential.
In this episode, I’m joined by the amazing Susan Bratton, an Intimacy Expert and advocate for couples who crave lasting passion and connection. Trust me, you won’t want to miss her insights on keeping the spark alive, especially during life’s busiest seasons!
Tune in to discover how to:Cultivate intimacy that feels safe, pressure-free, and fulfilling for both of you
Make time for what truly matters to build a joyful, lasting marriage
Harness the power of communication and empathy to deepen your connection
Bust through the “no time” myth and prioritize your relationship
Use “erotic play dates” to keep things fun, fresh, and free from pressure
Resources mentioned in episode:
seductiontrilogy.com
Sex tips newsletter: betterlover.com
sexlifebucketlist.com
30 Day Masturbation Challenge: https://betterlover.com/30-day-masturbation-challenge/
pumpingguide.com
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Sometimes, the topics that make us most uncomfortable are the ones we need to talk about the most. In this episode, we’re diving into the tough (but crucial) topic of triggers - those moments that make us feel defensive, frustrated, or downright vulnerable in our relationships. If you’ve ever felt like certain conversations leave you feeling overly angry or misunderstood, this one’s for you.
Tune in to discover:Why it’s often easier to focus on what we wish our partner would change rather than looking inward (and what happened when my partner pointed out something I never expected)
The hidden reasons behind feeling “triggered” and how to understand what’s really going on beneath the surface
A surprising strategy to use in arguments that shifts the dynamic and helps both of you feel seen
How to recognize your own triggers and communicate them to your spouse
Why facing your triggers head-on is essential for breaking free from the same frustrating cycles
The power of grace and love when dealing with uncomfortable feelings
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You don’t want to wait months (or even years!) to feel happier and more connected in your marriage. And the good news is, you don’t have to. There are simple shifts you can make today to start seeing results right now. Let’s dive into strategies that can help you bring more joy, ease, and connection into your relationship, even in the busiest seasons of life.
Tune in to discover:
Why the importance of feeling good in your marriage is often overlooked
A surprising question to ask yourself about how you spend time together (hint: is it more about connection or just tackling to-dos?)
How things outside your marriage may be influencing how you feel inside your marriage - and why taking care of yourself could be the key to feeling closer
The underrated power of setting up systems with your spouse to support each other and keep the household running smoothly
Why setting clear boundaries in your marriage is key to feeling respected and connected
Why getting the right kind of support could make you feel a huge sigh of relief (and where to start)
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Have you seen the “marriage is scary” TikTok trend? While it’s fun to laugh about the little things that can be scary in a marriage (and trust me, they are valid), there’s often a lot more beneath the surface that couples may not realize.
In the spirit of Halloween, let’s dive into the bigger, deeper issues that can make your marriage feel scary - especially after having kids and, most importantly, how you can address them to move forward in a happier, healthier way.
Tune in to discover:
The #1 thing every relationship needs to thrive (spoiler: it’s the opposite of scary - safety), and why couples who lack it are in dangerous territory
Why your spouse’s words - whether it’s a compliment or a criticism - cut deeper than anyone else’s
What to do when you feel stuck - when you want things to change in your marriage, but don’t know how to work together to make it happen
How to resolve conflicts without damaging your relationship, and instead, use disagreements to build a stronger connection
The hidden danger of carrying an unequal mental load, and how to address it when you’re feeling overlooked, unsupported, and uncared for
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Juggling the demands of parenthood often leaves intimacy on the backburner. In this episode, I’m joined by marriage and family therapist Steph Flood, who has helped countless couples rediscover a healthy, joyful marriage. Together, we’re diving into realistic ways to stay connected, even in the busiest seasons of parenthood.
Tune in to discover:
Why the first five years of parenthood require so. much. grace.—and how to give it to yourselves and each other
The common challenge most women face post-baby and how it impacts intimacy
How men can help reignite intimacy in their relationship
Our conversation on why today’s dads are more involved than ever, but often lack the models or skills to actively support intimacy
The one small shift that brings lightness and fun back into your marriage
Practical tips to help women get to a place where intimacy feels good again
What she works with couples on (figuring out what feels right/good)
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Is your spouse preventing you from being happy in your marriage? The truth is, you may be focusing on the wrong thing. In this episode, I’ll guide you through the most common barriers to building the marriage you want - and how shifting your approach can lead to real, lasting change.
Tune in to discover:
Real-life examples of why couples come to me feeling unfulfilled (often assuming their spouse simply won’t meet their needs - when that’s rarely the case)
What’s actually getting in the way of your spouse meeting your needs (hint: it’s not that they don’t care)
The biggest factor holding you back from the marriage you desire
How mismatched or unclear expectations are creating tension and frustration
Why the way you’re asking for change may be pushing your spouse away and causing defensiveness or distance
The impact of being at different stages of change and how it’s affecting your ability to grow together
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When your marriage feels like it’s falling apart, it can be hard to imagine things ever changing for the better. The hopelessness creeps in, making you feel like a failure. And social media? It only adds to the pressure. The truth is, marriage doesn’t have to be this complicated - especially after having kids - and I’m here to help you make it easier!
Tune in to discover:
The common myths couples come to me with (hint: they think marriage should just work)
The biggest mistake people make that ends up making their marriage harder
Why you feel so guilty when you try something new you saw on social media and it doesn’t work
The three simple keys to having a happy and healthy marriage
How to block out the noise and figure out what truly works best for you and your relationship
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Reality TV. Bridgerton. Romance novels. We all crave that kind of intense, sweeping passion in our own relationships - the kind that has us glued to our screens. But what if that kind of love is actually setting us up for disappointment? Here’s my (very) unpopular opinion: The real magic in a successful marriage lies in safe, steady, and consistent love - not in grand, movie-worthy gestures. In this episode, I’ll break down why stability is the true secret to a fulfilling relationship. Ready to be convinced?
Tune in to discover:
The one thing no one tells you about deepening your connection with your spouse
How to figure out exactly what works for YOUR marriage (and why Hollywood-style romance is setting you up for a letdown)
Why prioritizing this one thing can make your marriage feel so much better
Simple ways to better support your mental load as a team (without adding stress!)
What brushing your teeth daily has to do with having a healthy marriage (it makes more sense than you think!)
The only time to have important conversations with your spouse (hint: when you’re able to really listen and validate them!)
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Do you know what works for you when life feels overwhelming? Do you know how your spouse can best support you? When the mental load is already heavy, and the to-do list feels endless, it’s time to talk about how to avoid tension and get the support you need most.
In this episode, I’m getting real about the stress I’m feeling in this season of life. I’ll share how I’m handling it, the strategies that have helped me (and my clients), and how you can use them too.
Tune in to discover:
The very first thing to do when it all feels too much
How to ask for and accept help - from your spouse and others
Ways to go from feeling lonely and unsupported to genuinely feeling cared for by your partner
The powerful shift I made in my marriage to feel fully supported
Why it’s essential to work on this now - and the cost of not addressing it
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No one seems to be talking about this. After years as a marriage expert and staying on top of the latest research, I recently came across something that made my jaw drop. It sheds new light on why so many couples struggle after having kids, and I’m surprised I’ve never seen it framed this way before.
Tune in to discover:
A staggering statistic about marriage and parenthood that changes everything
How having a child shifts both individuals in a relationship - and why it can feel so isolating
The single most important thing you and your spouse need to do to stop your marriage from feeling like a struggle
How to align with your spouse and become a team to support each other through the challenges
The key thing you and your partner are probably missing that’s creating conflict - and how to fix it
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Here’s the thing: this tool works every single time when it comes to defensiveness, yet so many people resist it - including my clients. But if you’re serious about building a stronger marriage where both your needs are met, this is one tool you can’t afford to skip. Ready to try the tool you’ve probably been avoiding but absolutely need?
Tune in to discover:
A deep dive into defensiveness in relationships (with relatable personal examples)
The real reasons behind your defensiveness and how it shows up in your marriage
What makes this defensiveness tool completely maddening, yet so effective
How to approach conversations when you suspect your spouse might get defensive
Practical steps to increase trust, safety, and love in your marriage
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We all know that feeling of being surrounded by people yet feeling completely alone—like no one truly sees or notices you. Parenthood can make it all too easy to lose yourself and your sense of joy. In this episode, we normalize those feelings and explore how to reconnect with who you are and what you need to feel more fulfilled.
Tune in to discover:
The hidden shame of not knowing who you are or what you truly enjoy
The key to unlocking your unique path to feeling less lonely (hint: it’s different for everyone)
Practical steps to take when loneliness hits
Thought-provoking questions to help you discover and prioritize YOUR needs—not everyone else’s
The one crucial thing everyone should know about themselves (that no one else can tell you)
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If you're waiting for things to magically improve in your marriage once the kids are older or life calms down - think again. Change doesn’t just happen; it requires active, intentional effort. If you notice any of these red flags in your relationship, start acting on them today.
Tune in to discover:
The misconception that everything will return to the way it once was “someday”
How you might be blocking your spouse from validating you without even realizing it
Whether your actions are truly justified when your spouse makes you mad - and vice versa
The one thing you should prioritize above all else to fuel your marriage (and it’s not about scheduling date nights)
How your assumptions about your spouse can shape your relationship and your happiness
What to focus on to ensure your marriage works for BOTH of you
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You’ve asked for what you need. You’ve given examples. You’ve worked on your mindset. And yet, nothing in your relationship has changed. It’s heartbreaking to feel like you’ve tried everything, but don’t lose hope - this episode is your light at the end of the tunnel. There are still ways to create the marriage you desire!
Tune in to discover:
How learned helplessness can sneak into your marriage and why it happens so often
What to do when you feel like it’s not even worth bringing up what’s bothering you anymore
The one major factor researchers found to avoid marriage shutdown
How to shift from "I’m never going to get what I need from my spouse " to "we just haven’t figured it out YET"
The key to using realistic thoughts
What more you can do when your needs still aren’t being met
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Conflict is a key aspect of maintaining a healthy relationship.
It doesn’t mean having screaming matches all the time. Instead, conflict can involve respectful disagreements and deep conversations that come from a loving place. If this seems completely foreign or impossible to you, then this episode is for you. Loving well is crucial, but in my opinion, fighting well is even more important.
Tune in to discover:
The importance of identifying both your and your spouse's fighting styles
One essential question to ask yourself about conflict - especially if you find yourself having the same argument repeatedly
Tips for having effective and productive arguments
How to argue without getting defensive
What to do if you fall back into old, unhealthy patterns
Why establishing rules for conflict in your relationship is vital and what to consider when creating them
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This has the potential to completely change your marriage, just like it changed mine.
I dare you to try this - it will make your marriage easier, happier, more fulfilling - all the good things! This is the go-to tool for making your marriage improve quickly and allowing you to feel better in your relationship. Get ready to dive in - trust me, you won’t want to miss this!
Tune in to discover:
How to “do the work” in your marriage, even as a busy parent
Why waiting for someone else to make you feel better isn't the answer and how it takes away your control, preventing lasting results
Real-life scenarios that illustrate how changing the way you look at things can improve your relationship
The importance of taking control of your automatic thoughts and why they are often unhelpful
Practical tips to help you put this into practice regularly
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Are these 4 marriage killers lurking in your relationship? Discover the key pitfalls that predict divorce and learn how to address them to safeguard and strengthen your relationship. Don’t wait—tune in now to turn things around before it’s too late!
In this episode, you’ll hear:
What types of negativity are undermining your marriage
The difference between complaints and criticisms
The lethal impact of contempt and how to counteract it
How we protect ourselves from getting hurt or being wrong
Why stonewalling is the deadliest pitfall
Essential tools to help you avoid divorce and how to implement them
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How do you start a conversation so that your spouse truly listens? And what should you do if their response isn’t what you hoped for? Here’s a hint: the WAY you have these conversations is more crucial than WHAT you actually say (a kind and loving tone makes all the difference!).
Tune in to discover:
The significance of waiting to have the conversation if you can't approach it kindly
What you need clarity on before you start the discussion
An introduction to the “conflict burger”
How to work with your spouse's reactions to ensure your needs are met
What to do if your plan never gets set into motion after you’ve agreed on it
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If you aren’t doing what I discuss in this episode, you definitely won’t get your needs met by your spouse. This is the second episode in our mini-series on how to get your needs met by your spouse. I’m focusing on what we often do (or don’t do) that unintentionally gets in the way.
Tune in to discover:
The two things I focus on when clients feel their needs aren't being met by their spouse
A wildly effective tool that will significantly impact not just your marriage, but all of your relationships
My top tip to avoid exploding at your partner or shutting down during an argument
Practical ways to calm down when emotions run high
Immediate steps to start implementing these strategies right away!
Mentioned in the Episode:
The Antidote to Divorce episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1vVi5KSBz4iSSBvAnCYFy6?si=e4q80edARbamyabQHdk3xg
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