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We are living in an extraordinary time where we are pioneers in exploring the vast potential of our own minds. Experienced navigators know that a tiny change in direction can land them in a completely different place. The same goes for our ways of thinking. A tiny change in our thinking can create a ripple effect in our lives. If you would like to be at peace and have a little more control check out my Feel Better Masterclass. Today’s episode explores a way to expand our thinking. Our brains default to the story that they’re used to. What if we took the time to ask, how is the opposite true? I’ll share client stories and examples of how intentionally exploring other ways of thinking can change how we feel and the trajectory of our lives. Ultimately, we are the ones who are in control of our thoughts.
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small changes in thinking can lead to significant life improvements over time
our brains tend to repeat established stories, even if they cause suffering
thought work involves examining our thinking patterns and challenging them
use "How is the opposite true?" to challenge limiting beliefs
take the time to intentionally explore other ways of thinking
we can choose what we want to believe
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FEEL BETTER Master Class Begins September 8th Registration Opens August 18th
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I'm thrilled to introduce my special guest, Kristine Ashworth, a recent graduate of the Feel Better Masterclass. This transformative six-week program, designed specifically for smart midlife women, teaches behavior change using cutting-edge neuroscience research and cognitive behavioral science. Kristine, a retired teacher with 32 years of experience who now works part-time as a writing tutor, will share her journey through the masterclass. We'll explore how she applied the concepts to transform her approach to emotions, relationships, and personal growth. Whether you're dealing with perfectionism, people-pleasing tendencies, or simply wanting to feel more authentic and empowered, Kristine's story demonstrates how the Feel Better Masterclass can make a real difference in your life.
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why the most important work you can do is on yourself and your own mind
understanding that 50% of our emotions are comfortable and 50% are uncomfortable - and why this is normal
how allowing and accepting uncomfortable emotions gives you authority over them
the process of changing ingrained thought patterns through consistent reminders and practice
why growth often involves short-term discomfort for long-term gains
the impact of investing in your mental wellbeing versus trying to fix external problems
practical applications of neuroscience concepts to manage anxiety and improve relationships
Resources
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FEEL BETTER Master Class Begins September 8th Registration Opens August 18th
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Caring for aging loved ones can be incredibly challenging. That's why I've invited Mary Remmes here today. She is a life coach specializing in helping adults navigate the complexities of caring for aging family members. Her extensive background in nursing home administration makes her a trusted expert on this topic. Caring for aging parents is a demanding experience that many of us will face. Our family has first-hand experience, and I've seen countless clients grapple with similar challenges. Mary compassionately reminds us that one in five adults is involved in elder care. You're not alone. Caregiving can be emotionally taxing and lead to self-doubt. In this episode, Mary shares insights and resources that have helped me and should help you.
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pay attention to interactions between staff and patients and other staff at facilities
our highest priority for aging parents is safety, theirs is independence and autonomy
siblings may have different perceptions of relationships with parents
let go of notions of fairness and equal distribution of caregiving responsibilities
loneliness is a significant issue for the elderly that can't always be resolved from outside
it’s crucial to have conversations about end-of-life wishes and care preferences
focus on loving aging parents in the moment to navigate complex caregiving challenges
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Mary Remmes Website
Being Mortal by Atul Gawande
When Your Aging Parent Needs Help by Leslie Kernisan, MD
Aging Life Care Association
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Most of you know that I teach a masterclass called "Feel Better," designed to help smart, midlife women adjust their thoughts and emotions. This episode, drawing from my masterclass, is all about the true purpose of our lives and achieving emotional maturity. We often think happiness is our ultimate goal, but the true purpose lies in growth. Through increased awareness, challenges, and discomfort we grow and increase our emotional maturity, which leads to increased well-being and life satisfaction. Today, I’ll share insights on life's purpose, overcoming challenges, and practical applications for continued self improvement.
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emotionally immature people aren’t aware that it’s a problem
people pleasing is a sign of being imprinted by an emotionally immature person
challenge and discomfort help us grow
long-term well-being comes from learning how to tolerate negative emotions
emotional maturity is the path to increased well-being and life satisfaction
adults need guidance and coaching too
Resources
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Three Steps to Clarity: How to Know What You Really Want
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This is a rebroadcast of Episode 47. During the pandemic when we were under lockdown, I took an incredibly powerful class from Anita Moorjani. Anita has an amazing story that really inspired me in several ways, so I am spending today’s episode sharing what I learned from her class, including but not limited to the idea that being spiritual is at our core, that a challenge can come with a blessing that we might not see until we are past the challenge, and the importance of loving oneself. We are here to always be learning and growing, so it is my hope that sharing a few of the key inspirational lessons that I learned from Anita’s class will be helpful to you as well.
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background information about Anita Moorjani
all about the class I took from Anita
the most important things that I learned
why we should learn to trust and love ourselves
how to increase your self-love
how what I learned from Anita ties into Thought Work
Resources
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Do you ever find yourself thinking, "This is so hard," and feel overwhelmed by the challenges in front of you? It's a thought that might seem true but often goes unexamined. The real question is: What do we create when we think that thought? Do we like the outcomes it brings? By becoming aware of this thought and understanding that it’s an opinion, not an objective truth, we can start to see how it might not be serving us. Negative emotions, not the tasks themselves, often make things feel hard. In this episode, we’ll learn how to become aware of these thoughts and turn down the volume on negative emotions.
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our negative emotions are what makes it hard
take a look at what you are thinking, believing, and expecting
turn down the volume on unnecessary negative emotions
you are always in charge of your emotions
saying something is hard makes the experience hard
Resources
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Do you ever feel like there's something important you want to do, but you just can't make it happen? Do you get mad at yourself for not sticking with it or making a lasting change? In spite of our best efforts, it can feel impossible to change. A lot of this boils down to the thoughts we’ve accumulated over time. Actions don’t arise out of the blue; they are based on our thoughts, which lead to feelings, which lead to actions. In this episode, we’ll explore how to override those negative accumulated thoughts and create a state of action leading to the outcomes we desire.
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thoughts and feelings create our energetic state
thinking defeated thoughts is an energetic state that creates reluctance
understanding and mastering emotions is the secret to all change
women in particular need to look at change and how they feel
it's the programming that needs to transform (slowly)
Resources
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If you're struggling with a problem or stuck thinking about a conflict or issue with another person, always start by asking yourself, "What am I thinking?" Your thoughts are what create feelings of worry or irritation. It's all coming from the thoughts you are thinking now. More analysis isn't always the answer. That's why, in this episode, I'm going to give you a few alternatives for when you are struggling and stuck in a state of irritation, annoyance, or worry.
Show Highlightsfeelings of worry are created by our thoughts and what we're thinking
breathing resets our nervous system without using our thinking mind
when you stop thinking, you give space to a dimension that is beyond your thoughts
when struggling, it’s helpful to express our mind to someone we trust
Resources
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This week I share a story from a client who has been making great progress with Thought Work and learning how to turn down the volume on worrying. Just as she thought she was making headway, she started the same pattern of worrying and fretting about a new thing. Sound familiar? This is exactly how the brain works. And understanding this is the difference between creating the lasting change you desire and quitting on yourself.
Show Highlightsthe importance of understanding the lower mind
shifting attention and redirecting focus positively
how awareness empowers decision-making and positivity
why we should align with the higher mind
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Tune in this week as we revisit episode 43 of the show, “Claiming Your Own Authority.” Sharing insights from my recent Feel Better master class, I rewind to episode 43 to delve into the profound importance of tuning into our inner world amidst societal pressures. Exploring the concept of "claiming your authority," I invite listeners to envision themselves as the authors of their own lives, emphasizing the power of aligning decisions with personal values and desires. From navigating career choices to managing daily schedules, I highlight the liberating shift that occurs when we prioritize self-awareness and intentional decision-making.
Whether it’s your first time hearing the episode or if you are also revisiting, join me as we unravel the myth of perfection, embrace the beauty of imperfection, and embark on a journey towards a simpler, more empowered life.
Show Highlightswhy claiming your own power is so fundamental as an adult
why you should identify your personal values and what you want
how to be the author of your own life
humans have memory banks so that we can learn from them
reminder that we are meant to make mistakes
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Join me for a truly inspirational episode this week as I sit down with Becky Garner, a life coach with a remarkable journey from addiction to empowerment. Becky shares her intimate story of overcoming addiction, revealing the deep struggles and pivotal moments along her path to recovery. From battling depression and opioid addiction to finding hope through coaching, her resilience shines through.
Becky and I delve into the transformative power of coaching, exploring how it offered Becky the tools to navigate cravings, manage pain, and cultivate self-acceptance. Becky imparts wisdom on breaking free from self-judgment, finding purpose in struggle, and fostering growth in oneself and others.
Tune in as we uncover the profound lessons and insights from Becky's journey of healing and empowerment. If you're ready to embrace change and discover the tools to navigate life's challenges with resilience and compassion, this episode is definitely for you, and be sure to visit Becky's website for additional resources on overcoming self-judgment and embracing personal growth.
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the power of coaching: how Becky's journey emphasizes coaching's transformative impact on addiction recovery
resilience in struggle: Despite challenges, Becky's resilience shines through in her journey.
holistic transformation: how coaching highlights holistic approaches, aiding mind management and emotion regulation
overcoming self-judgment: why ditching self-judgment is pivotal for progress in addiction recovery and personal growth
having faith in the journey: trusting the struggle as part of the journey and how that fosters growth and resilience
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Freebie: https://www.beckygarnercoaching.com/stuck
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I delve this week into a crucial topic that often sparks confusion: the distinction between emotions and nervous system reactions, and why it's essential to discern between the two. I guide my clients through understanding how their thoughts create emotions and how these reactions are intertwined with their nervous system's responses, but here's the thing: you can't effectively address your thoughts if your nervous system is in overdrive, so listen as I explore techniques to calm the nervous system, from somatic practices to cognitive approaches, empowering you to take charge of your emotional state and harness the power of your higher mind. By embracing discomfort and cultivating a supportive relationship with yourself, you'll unlock the pathway to growth and step into your true potential. Tune in to discover how to navigate your internal landscape and transform fear into courage on your journey to personal empowerment.
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emotion vs. nervous system reaction: understanding the distinction and why it matters
safety first: Only tackle thought work when feeling calm and curious.
somatic practices: how to use body-focused techniques to calm the nervous system
empowerment: Take control of your responses and create safety in your mind.
courage over comfort: why it's important to embrace discomfort for growth
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Do you ever feel like your day is hijacked before you even open your eyes? This week on the podcast, I am diving into the power of mornings, inspired by those oh-so-popular morning routines. Don't worry, though – I am not here to add 21 steps to your already busy day - just one simple, game-changing step to kickstart your morning and set the tone for your entire day.
Join me as we explore the ancient wisdom of the Stoics, Marcus Aurelius, and the art of directing your attention. It's all about that first splash of consciousness, so please tune in to discover how to reclaim control, set intentions, and master your mind.
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morning routines: the obsession with productivity and wellness
the power of attention: how to direct focus for a better day
one-step system: Begin by not thinking; focus on breath.
setting intentions: how directing your thoughts shapes your day’s outcome
taking control: You get to decide where to place your attention.
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Join me this week as I dive deep into the complexities of parenting and emotional pain. As a coach for smart midlife women, I explore the universal experience of suffering for our kids and offer insights into separating clean pain from unnecessary suffering.
From unraveling guilt to increasing emotional tolerance, I present eight transformative ideas to navigate the intricate journey of being a parent. Delve into paradoxes of emotional pain, the power of forgiveness, and the importance of self-compassion. Discover how embracing your truth and releasing self-blame can lead to profound growth and ultimately, finding relief in your own life.
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reminder that parenting comes with clean and dirty pain
how to transform emotional pain by understanding its source
understanding the power of forgiving yourself and others
the importance of recognizing and challenging false beliefs causing suffering
embracing the paradoxes of life to find deeper happiness
why your greatest contribution lies in feeling better about your life
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Join me on a reflective journey this week as I explore the four transformative gifts I gave myself that shaped my entrepreneurial journey and personal life. From investing in self-directed learning to embracing authenticity and love, I'll share insights and practical tips for crafting a fulfilling path tailored to your desires.
Discover the power of asking the right questions, trusting yourself, and prioritizing what truly matters. Let's embark on a quest to unlock our potential and design lives infused with purpose, joy, and abundance.
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Investing in Self: Prioritize learning what interests you, guiding your own education.
Self-Questioning: Transition from seeking external advice to trusting your own answers.
Individual Approach: Embrace your unique path, avoiding comparison and societal norms.
Choosing Love: Decide to amplify love in your life, focusing attention and appreciation.
Thoughtful Gifts: Give yourself what you truly desire, respecting your own wishes for enduring happiness.
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We are diving this week into the whirlwind of life, from the excitement of my daughter's college acceptance journey to the intriguing tales my husband uncovers while writing his latest book about... wait for it... the tuba.
Amidst it all, I find profound joy in my coaching practice, guiding others through life's twists and turns, so join me as we explore the power of envisioning our futures, challenging the status quo of our thoughts, and embracing the transformative potential within us. Plus, don't miss out on the upcoming “How to Feel Better” master class.
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why the key to success and growth is to spend more time thinking about your future and less time about your past
your thoughts shape your reality, so it's important to focus on what you want to create
how the lower mind hinders growth and change by dwelling on past problems and fears
the power of the higher mind in creating success
the importance of embracing your imagination
allowing yourself to feel the emotions of achieving your goals = manifestation
Resources
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“How to Feel Better” Class
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Discover how perceptions shape reality and how questioning beliefs can transform our emotional landscape.
Listen as I discuss the importance of not solely relying on external validation and instead focusing on examining your own beliefs for personal growth, understanding that everyone's opinions are just perspectives, not absolute truths. It's time to prioritize self-reflection and learning, recognizing our minds as our most valuable asset, and I invite fellow midlife women to join me in this journey through my upcoming master class available on my website.
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external feedback doesn't define you; it only reflects others' perspectives
how emotions signal internal beliefs and how exploring them leads to growth
the importance of challenging beliefs
how smart midlife women can transform by prioritizing self-reflection and learning
reminder to sign up for my six-week master class, "How to Feel Better”
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Join me today as I tackle a crucial life skill: disappointing people. As adults, we grapple with this, especially women conditioned to be nice and compliant. I get it; it's hard, but here's the key - disappointing others or ourselves is an inevitable choice.
Listen in as I discuss how to navigate this discomfort, drawing from my own struggles. Trust me; it's worth the temporary unease for the long-term benefit of living authentically. Dive into this episode for actionable tips on embracing authenticity, and remember, the better you feel, the better life you'll have.
I also want to be sure to make you aware of some exciting news. I am launching a game-changing class, "How to Feel Better," tailored for smart midlife women. It's a six-week journey where I share transformative concepts to elevate your emotional well-being, so be sure to go check that out.
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announcing a six-week master class, "How to Feel Better”
the importance of applying information (80%) over just acquiring it (20%) for real transformation
the class is an investment in emotional well-being, leading to sustainable change
the essential adult skill of disappointing others, challenging conditioned habits and fears
how living authentically involves overcoming discomfort and saying no when needed
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Join me this week as we dive deep into the concept of being “present.” We often hear about the importance of presence, especially in our most cherished moments, but what does it truly mean to be present, and why is it so powerful?
I break down the dynamics of our brains, the right hemisphere capturing the essence of now, while the left brain constantly compares to the past and projects into the future. Our ability to be present is our true superpower, aligning us with the vitality of life itself. Listen as we explore how to starve the egoic mind, unleash our creative agency, and make presence the primary force in our lives.
Be sure to also stay tuned to the end for information about a special guide on gaining clarity about what you truly want. Let's flip the paradigm and steer our thoughts towards the life we desire.
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the power of being present and how it helps foster awareness
the role of the Ego and understanding its function
how to flip the paradigm and shift from thinking about the past and worrying about the future
how to help foster an ability to direct your thoughts purposefully and gain creative agency
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I recently stumbled upon Fred Rogers' 1969 testimony before Congress, a poignant moment during a tumultuous time in history. Reflecting on the backdrop of political assassinations and war, I found his words resonating even more deeply. Watching his documentary Won't You Be My Neighbor? became a powerful reset, reminding me of the timeless relevance of his teachings. Amidst societal challenges, Rogers emphasized the importance of embracing ourselves, a message transcending age. He believed in respecting childhood, opposing sensory overload, and empowering children to make choices for themselves.
As we grapple with current complexities, his wisdom holds true - turning off what's loud and scary, acknowledging progress, and understanding the imperfections of childhood. As adults, we, too, often have to parent ourselves, appreciating the journey and offering self-acceptance. Ultimately, Fred Rogers encourages us to focus on the invisible essentials of life, turning our attention inward in a world clamoring for external distractions.
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Excerpt from Fred Rogers' 1969 Congress testimony defending children amidst national grief Rogers' teachings, initially for children, hold universal relevance in adulthood. emphasis on turning off overwhelming content, empowering children and adults to make choices Childhood isn't meant to be perfect; challenges shape us into resilient adults. encouraging a shift in focus from external distractions to our inner livesResources
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