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Do you believe you're capable of doing more?
Being more productive?
Becoming a better person?
Do you want to stop procrastinating on everything, big or small?
Well then why aren't you doing it!?
I asked myself the same question.
Honestly- we don't do that stuff because we don't know how.
And we don't know how because we aren't even looking at it the right way.
In this episode I want to show you how to be the source of your own motivation! I want you to take the first step to tackle your challenges.
Let's talk about what motivation really means and how we can reframe our thoughts from negative to positive.
PS- Choosing to this episode counts as taking action, so you've already started! Follow through and listen now!
(0:55) - You're not ready until you answer YES to this question
(1:40) - How does negativity show up our life?
(3:29) - What does motivation really mean?
(4:29) - Cleaning up our messy thinking
(7:21) - What does it look like to think positively?
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If you're feeling stuck in a rut...
Or feeling trapped in your job or in your relationship...
The feelings of wasted time and disappointment can become quite painful.
The good news, you may not be stuck at all!
In this episode I will share with you a simple but powerful technique for reframing our thoughts of being trapped or feeling stuck.
When we shift where we are looking, and learn to take control of what we can control, we realize we are moving again! You can get started TODAY so listen now and let's get going!
(01:54) - Understanding this problem as a circle
(02:50) - Does this really apply to you and your life? Let's find out.
(03:58) - Reframing our fear as distraction
(04:19) - Learning from yourself and making the shift!
(05:42) - Don't agree with this? Well, listen to this then!
(06:56) - Exactly where to look and what to do going forward
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Late last year I realized I was barely talking to my partner.
I was also struggling to communicate in the workplace.
Sound familiar?
Not sharing your thoughts, not sure what to say, people talking over you and at you...
The truth is, if we don't express what we think and feel, we don't actually know what we think and feel. Our life is just happening to us, passing us by.
So, let's talk about it! I'll tell you what I did to start the conversation at home and how I began speaking up at work.
And of course, I will give you a task that you can start TODAY that will make a difference immediately.
The people in your life want to hear from you. Let's get started!
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Do you find yourself wishing you had better self-control?
Many of us, myself included, are faced with shame and guilt when we can't do what we BELIEVE we SHOULD do.
My life improved once I stopped that negative, abusive way of thinking, and started looking at self-control in a new way.
You can try this for yourself today!
In this episode I will break down the old way of thinking about self-control and present a new way for forward for you.
This mindset shift plus your own determination could help you improve your eating habits, stop your laziness, end procrastination, or understand and quit drug and alcohol use.
I will give you the NUMBER ONE thing to look out for and some concrete steps to take this week. If you're ready for a new and improved lifestyle, let's get started!
02:24 Self control vs. Self-abuse - are you doing THIS!?
04:08 A question for you
09:27 What does self control REALLY mean?
12:53 The #1 thing to watch out for!
14:45 How to get started TODAY!
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You can and you will find your purpose!
Thanks for stopping by. On today's episode we will discuss a major, major issue that many of us face.
How do you find your purpose in life?
Of course, no podcast (no matter how great 😉) can tell you your purpose. In fact, despite all the challenges and struggles in my life, I have never struggled with my purpose.
So what can I really tell you?
If you are feeling boredom and dissatisfaction, if you are asking "what is the point of my life," and if you don't have any goals or a reason to keep going...
Let me jump in right there! By listening to this episode:
-- You will know EXACTLY WHAT PURPOSE MEANS and LEARN 2 MASSIVE words that you can begin to think about.
-- You will get a dozen questions that you can ask yourself with those two words in mind so you can start CLEARLY seeing where your Purpose may lie AND
--You will come away with a plan of action to start defining your Purpose for yourself.
Why am I qualified to tell you all this?
Well, I will also share a bit of my story. How pain and trauma in my childhood led me exactly to my Purpose today. In hindsight, I can see how I lived out this process and found the MEANING OF MY LIFE.
So take 20 minutes today and let's talk about what purpose means and where to look if you're searching for yours. Listen now!
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(0:00) Intro and what to expect. Are you looking in the right places?
(4:24) What is the AAXR framework and how can you use it to find your purpose?
(6:59) What does PURPOSE really mean??
(8:29) A chapter of my story: how did pain lead to purpose for me?
(11:00) The most important question to ask
(13:40) Bored? Dissatisfied? Your purpose begins right there, right now!
(15:10) Understanding the AAXR Framework: 3 steps you can begin this week
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No one can tell you how to live your life!
This is a big reason why we fail to quit our bad habits using SOMEONE ELSE'S advice.
But of course, you'd still like help with a plan of action, right?
Wouldn't it be great if someone could give us a personalized method for curing our anxiety or stopping unhealthy habits like smoking, pornography use or procrastination?
This is exactly what this podcast can do for you.
I cannot judge you and I can't instruct you on how to live your life.
Instead I want to share with you a process that you can use FOR YOURSELF to create solutions for yourself.
Need a remedy for anxiety? Want to quit smoking pot? Need to stop using TikTok for awhile?
You can do these things and together we can develop a plan to make this happen.
In this episode, I will explain how Acceptance of your habits, Self-expression, and Reflection are the 3 steps you can begin TODAY to start to see a way forward for yourself.
In just 10 minutes, I will load you up with:
Why you must Accept your bad habits FIRST,
How to Express yourself,
And how you can Reflect on your life to actually improve your self-control!
So, join me for a quick 10 minutes, and let's get you going on a personalized plan to see yourself in a new light! Listen now!
(0:00) - Intro and what to expect PLUS why this podcast is DIFFERENT
(02:50) - Why you must first accept yourself as you are before taking action
(04:10) - EXACTLY HOW to take control of YOUR LIFE with self-expression
(06:02) - How can self-reflection be a remedy for anxiety!?
(08:20) - A difficult question many of us must ask our self.
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Thanks for checking out the Self-Control podcast!
Are you feeling down these days or feeling like you're in a rut?
Do you find yourself thinking about the bad things in life?
The most empowering part of this podcast is that I will share with you behaviours and tips that you can begin today to feel better sooner than later.
So when it comes to "not feeling 100%" or if you're looking to change your life for the better, let me drop some wisdom on ya.
In this episode, I will share with you EXACTLY what I had to do last month when I was feeling down and not at my best.
I'll give you one word to REMOVE from your vocabulary AND the #1 way we MAKE THINGS WORSE for our self that we can STOP RIGHT NOW.
The second half of this episode might not be for everyone, but I think it's time I started sharing a little bit of my spiritual journey in the hopes that it might inspire you.
So, if you're ready to feel better this month, and you want a plan of action, look no further. Take 15 minutes and get ready to FEEL BETTER this month!
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On today's Mindfulness Minute, we'll continue talking about natural remedies for anxiety, as well as understanding self-doubt and frustration.
Ultimately, these are a problem of being distracted.
But distraction doesn't happen here or there, it happens ALL OVER our life. It is a way of life.
You want improved productivity? You want to feel happy? Proud?
Focus!
Easier said than done, but practice makes perfect. Let's talk about it. In less than 10 minutes, I will leave you with something you can start this week to level up your mindfulness practice. Let's go!
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If self-discipline happens in our mind, what are the actual, physical tasks we can do to strengthen it?
One of these behaviours is EXPRESSION.
But how do you express? What are you supposed to say?
How does it help?
All of this will be answered in less than 10 minutes. In this episode, I will explain how expression frees us from a life of "not thinking for our self" and tell you exactly what I had to express (and how to do it) in order to quit numerous bad habits.
So if you're looking for some advice on quitting a bad habit or starting some real work on your own life, start here!
(00:57) What to expect in this episode
(2:46) Recap last episode - Awareness, Acceptance, Expression
(4:34) Why don't you express yourself?
(5:52) How to know if you aren't thinking for yourself
(7:14) WHAT exactly are you supposed to express?
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I want to let you know that YES, there are natural ways to increase focus and concentration.
The fact that you are reading this means you have already started. So let's keep going!
If you are aware that you struggle to stay focussed...
Or if anxiety is getting worse because you can't achieve your goals...
Now is the time to bring mindfulness into your life. These improvements won't come over night, but it's time to start the process of repetition.
Through watching our self and our thoughts over and over, magic happens!
Today, I'll tell you what I learned from my many nights of stress eating, and share with you how a little bit of awareness led to a whole lot of focus.
Plus I will suggest a behaviour you can start RIGHT NOW to improve your focus!
In 15 minutes you can gain from my years of trial and error. What do you have to lose? Listen now and improve your focus this month!
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For years, I was in the grip of both a pornography and marijuana addiction. Many, many days of my youth wasted.
Toxic habits like these lower our energy, put us in a bad mood, ruin our self-confidence, and WORST OF ALL, they blind us to who we truly are! They rob us of our potential.
Looking back on how I quit these 10 and 15-year-long addictions, I have developed a clear process that I want to share with you. You can apply this process to nearly any toxic habit or vice.
And you have already begun the first step. So let's keep going.
Join me now, and in less than 15 minutes, I will tell you about the SHIFT in my thinking that helped me finally quit those shameful, stinky behaviours and feel proud of who I was. This is a shift you can begin TODAY.
Listen now!
And make sure to subscribe, because our next few episodes are going to go deep on the third step of this process.
You won't want to miss out on this chance to EXPLODE your self-development and surprise your friends and family this summer.
(0:00) Intro and what to expect - why am I qualified to help you?
(02:06) Step 1 - What was really preventing me from quitting?
(06:24) Step 2 - How can you master your time and focus on the present?
(09:00) Step 3 - The ACTION we must take to end toxic habits for good
(10:38) Recap
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There are too many ways to be distracted these days.
So why add to that by distracting yourself?
If you find that you're not getting enough done, not staying on task, and struggling to concentrate, you may be asking yourself "how can I focus better?"
Then the anxiety starts to creep in...
Not getting enough done, falling behind, doubting yourself.
This has been a major problem for me, but through mindfulness I have begun to find ways to both manage my anxiety and improve my focus and attention.
In this episode, I will give you my 3 pillars of Mindfulness and walk you through a real-life example of how I was distracting myself and causing my own anxiety.
Using these 3 steps repeatedly, I believe anyone can find relief from anxiety and improve their ability to focus on what needs to be done.
So join me for another Mindfulness Minute and you'll be on your way to less anxiety and more productivity in just 10 minutes. Let's get started!
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I have spent years trying to understand why I fell into toxic habits like pornography, marijuana, and overeating.
I tried and failed to quit those habits more times than I can count.
Today, I consider myself free and clear of both porn and weed. Now I am working on healthy eating. (I've lost 30lbs, but the battle continues!)
It wasn't until I regularly did these 3 things that I began to understand why I self-sabotaged with harmful behaviours. Then and only then, was I able to quit.
In this episode, I will share these 3 steps: Acceptance, Awareness and Expression, and I will walk you through exactly what that means with real-life examples.
I truly believe that when it comes to non-life-threatening addictions and bad habits, we can all be empowered TODAY if we are willing to look deeper. There's nowhere else to go or anything you have to buy.
But how do you start? What questions do you ask? Where do you look? What do you actually do?
All of that is laid out here in just 20 minutes. Join me as I continue to understand my own self-sabotage and toxic habits and work to leave them behind. Let's go!
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(0:00) Intro and what we've been talking about lately
(2:35) Today's topic - desire, numbness and bad habits
(5:14) The big breakthrough I had thanks to journalling
(8:00) What can binge eating and pornography abuse teach us about our self?
(10:20) Step 1 - Acceptance
(13:34) Step 2 - Awareness
(14:56) Step 3 - Expression
(16:23) How can this process help us find more direction and purpose?
(18:00) One more question to ask yourself
(20:55) Wrap-up
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We humans are gifted with many great powers.
In this episode I will remind you of two of them: the ability to see the past, present and future, and the ability to talk to our self.
But as the late Uncle Ben said, "with great power comes great responsibility."
Are you worried about your future? Guilty about your past?
Do you talk to yourself like an enemy or a friend?
Do you see and express the life you want? The life you could build?
Or do you crap all over yourself and others for mistakes made and unfair outcomes?
Why? And for how much longer?
If you are sick and tired of your own limiting beliefs dragging you down...
You're done with feeling guilty about the past...
If there's stupid, toxic habits holding you back...
You already hold the key. This the formula for ROCK HARD, unbreakable self-control.
Let's talk about putting your SUPER POWERS to work for you TODAY.
Listen now and make April 2024 your best month yet!
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Is there a so-called "bad habit" in your life that you're trying to quit?
How's that going?
Have you considered that maybe it has something to teach you before it leaves your life?
My biggest and longest addictions took years to break, but over that time I learned so much about myself.
So hopefully, using what I learned, you can get past those unhealthy habits much quicker and still get the benefits of living an authentic life.
Today's episode is a little longer but I think you'll find it jam-packed with value. Above all, I will give you 3 steps toward understanding and developing past your toxic, unhealthy habits.
I also want to share with you the story of the 5-year process of quitting my addiction to pornography. I used these exact steps so you can trust that they work.
If it's time to grow up and get over these things that are holding you back, let's take that determination and put it to work.
It may not happen overnight, but by starting the process you will immediately get stronger and more aware. Why wait any longer? Let's go!
0:00 - Intro and what to expect
2:34 - The first challenge you will encounter in this process
7:03 - Where do we start if it feels TOO HARD?
9:07 - Step #1 - Improving the limiting belief language we use to talk to our self
11:03 - The 5-year journey to quitting pornography addiction and Step #2
16:30 - Step #3 - Patience and pursuing your "Why"
21:53 - Recapping the 3 steps: How can you finally develop past your vices?
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Everywhere you look, someone is trying to sell you a miracle cure or a product that will change your life.
I'm no different.
However- I believe the cure and the product exist within you already. I'm just encouraging you to look and listen hard enough to find them.
So, if you're working on improving some unhealthy habits...
If you have mental health issues, and you're feeling:
-Guilt and shame about your past
-Fear or hopelessness about the future
-Like becoming someone else, someone different
Maybe you're self-sabotaging, and setting yourself up for failure, because it's all you know.
Whatever it is, you can empower yourself IMMEDIATELY and begin living the life you deserve TODAY.
This is the power of how we speak to our self and how we listen to our self.
In just 20 minutes, I want to share with you the massive shift I have made lately that has improved my mood and mental health and brought me closer to being myself.
The best part is, there was nothing I had to buy or anywhere I had to go. This form of self-care and self-development can be a part of your everyday life.
So if you're done with self-abusive thoughts, and talking to yourself like an enemy...
If it's time to get more from life and give more to life...
If you want more self-control and less shame...
Listen now. I promise you it's just a few thoughts away. Let's start today.
(0:00) Intro and what to expect
(2:45) Recapping Binary Entrapment
(3:45) How do we "choose to lose" and surrender self control through our thoughts?
(5:05) The first thing you can do TODAY!
(7:16) The second thing you can do TODAY!
(9:45) How do we trap ourselves with our thoughts?
(11:36) This is how I ended my limiting beliefs and stopped feeling ashamed
(13:55) How can we free ourselves from self-abuse and feeling worthless?
(17:45) Wrap-up and what's next
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In our last few episodes we've been talking about Binary Entrapment.
What the hell does that mean and how can it help you?
It is THE fundamental understanding I needed to quit my addictions and improve my mental health.
This is something you CAN control if you're looking to stop feeling guilty, be less distracted and quit self-abuse and end self-sabotage.
So in the interests of communicating it to you as easily as possible...
Here is a 10 minute recap I did on my phone. Consider it my personal voicemail message for you.
Let me know if this helps.
What will you do this week to break free of your binary entrapment?
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This is part 2 of the previous episode. Start there if you haven't already.
Frankly, I lived in a very childish way for a long time. Now that I've begun to really grow up, I'm reflecting on how I grew out of my addictions and limiting beliefs.
It is childish, and small, and immature to sit there and hate the present moment.
It is stupid to wish things were different.
It doesn't do me any good to let the scars from my past push me into distraction and fear. Push me away from living!
We all do it, but the healing begins in the moment.
When we responsibly reflect on our past and stop throwing away the present for an imaginary future.
In today's episode I will quickly give you the 3 steps I use everyday to stop being a baby and take control of my life.
While we do not have control of the future or the past, the more we do these 3 things, the more we can understand our self and the more certain we can be of where we're going.
Listen now and let me know what you think! Make sure to subscribe and be notified of new episodes.
0:00 - Intro and what to expect
1:27 - Why is journalling so important and how can you start journalling
5:28 - What does it mean to self-reflect and can we control the future?
10:50 - How can you stop being ashamed?
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All of us, myself included, have said "I need to change!"
And then we say tomorrow, or next time, or next month.
But I have discovered that that very mindset--that way of thinking-- is TOXIC!
So whether it comes to quitting bad habits, or working on slowing down an addiction, we have all made the mistake of distracting ourself with the future.
Substance abuse, behavioural addictions like gambling and sex, and unproductive habits like procrastination and lack of self care...
All of these are a response to painful, misunderstood moments in our past!
We run from our past, and we abuse our self by saying I need to quit in the future. It becomes a hamster wheel of blindness.
Blindness to what, you ask?
Who we are in the moment.
If you are looking to further develop yourself beyond your unhelpful, harmful habits...
If you believe you are capable of more and deserve more...
If it's time to take control of your urges and drive your life where it needs to go...
Let this be the start! Take 15 minutes today to hear me out. Understand this concept and get ready for part 2 where I'll lay out actual solutions that anyone can begin THIS WEEK!
And don't forget to subscribe so you'll be notified of that next episode!
(0:00) - Opening and what to expect
(2:04) - What is Binary Entrapment and how does it make our addictions worse?
(5:42) - A recent example of addiction in my life and what I learned this week
(11:28) - What does it look like to grow past our self-abuse? How do we know?
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If we spend 2 hours a day eating, then in 70 years, that's over 50, 000 hours!
Doesn't that seem like something we should pay close attention to?
And yet, because it is so routine and habitual, eating becomes automatic.
We eat whatever, whenever, and do other things at the same time.
Now, it's not my place to judge how you live your life, but...
If you're like I was, and you are dissatisfied with how you look and feel in some way, then it may be time to examine HOW you eat.
For me, I essentially gained weight from the day I was born till I turned 34. (Which obviously makes sense up to a certain point.)
But when I started to feel a little too heavy, and started to wonder why, for all this working out and hiking, I didn't have a lean body and 6-pack abs...
I knew it was time to look deeper.
I devised a whole new system of eating for myself, which I have talked about*, but nothing changed until I stopped this ONE behaviour.
Gaining insight into distracted eating and mindless living has allowed me to better nourish myself and get the results I want. So I want to share this idea with you.
If you're working on burning stubborn fat, losing belly fat, or you're looking for weight loss tips, I believe that mindful eating is often overlooked. Let's dig into it right now and get you going on something that can start TODAY!
In less than 15 minutes I'll explain how distracted eating is a symptom of mindless living and share with you the shift I had to make to begin eating well and looking good ;)
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*For more on Improving Your Eating, check out Season 3 Episode 88 from October 16, 2023:
"Low Energy? Know You Can Look Better? Wasting Money on Junk Food? Take These 3 Steps to Heal Your Relationship to Food and Get More Out of Life!"
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DISCLAIMER: This podcast is not medical advice. Consult a qualified medical practitioner before making any major lifestyle changes.
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