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It's such a lonely, scary feeling when your manâs affection dries up. Especially if there was a time when he couldnât keep his hands off of you or he was always stealing kisses and putting his arm around you. I remember being so confused and worried that I wasnât attractive anymore. I thought it was because I was older and out of shape, but that had nothing to do with it, I found out. Iâm even older now, and all that easy loving is back and better than everâlike when we were falling in love. Now I know that I had gotten ugly, but not physically like I thought. On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, weâre talking about two ways to deal with a partner who is not affectionate.
Plus, my guest Jacquelyn was so tired of her husbandâs porn and substance addictions, him sleeping on the couch and their sexless marriage. Then she made a decision to better herself, which was really hard at first. But today those addictions are no longer an issue, her marriage is amazing, and she feels adored and happier than sheâs ever been. Sheâs going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too!
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If your husband speaks to you disrespectfully, it feels really hurtful and embarrassing, especially if anyone else hears it, even if itâs just your kids. Itâs not the role modeling you want them to have. If heâs yelling, swearing, calling you names, or telling you youâre crazy, stupid, or worse, you shouldnât have to live with feeling demeaned like that by the guy whoâs supposed to love and protect you. Itâs stressful and bad for your self-esteem. So letâs get you back to feeling safe and adored when he talks to you. On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, Iâm talking about 3 simple fixes if your husband speaks to you disrespectfully.
Plus, my guest Dr. K and her husband were separated on different continents. Since she was the breadwinner and they had a lot of disagreements about parenting, there wasnât much left to hold on to. But then Dr. K had some insights and changed how she showed up with him. Today her marriage is peaceful and she has a tender husband who takes on responsibilities for their family like never before. Sheâs going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
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When I got married, I thought my husband would support me, kiss away my tears, listen to my problems, desire me, snuggle with me, and do everything he could toward our common goals. And he didâfor a while. When he became distant, I felt bamboozled and just knew that something was wrong with him. I thought I would have to end it and find someone who COULD meet my needs, which was scary and dreadful. The longer we struggled and went to marriage counseling, the more hopeless I felt. I was working hard on the relationship, but I was doing all the wrong things. Turns out, I just needed to learn a few skills that contribute to a playful, passionate relationship where all my needs and desires are met because he naturally wants to make me happy, not because Iâm begging him to meet my needs (yuck!). On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, weâre talking about how to deal with unmet needs in a relationship.
And, my guest Raquel was still a newlywed when her husband moved out suddenly, wouldnât say why and wouldnât come back. Then Raquel discovered the Intimacy Skills and dove right in. Today, her marriage is better than she ever thought it could be, even better than when they were dating. Sheâs going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
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If you're anything like me, you love hearing your man say you're beautiful and the best wife or you did a great job. If youâre not hearing those things, itâs only natural to crave some compliments. Thatâs just human. We all need to be seen, heard and understood, and compliments are part of that. Going without them is dreary and unsustainable, like trying to hold your breath. So on todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, weâre talking about why compliments are important in a relationshipâand 3 ways to get more!
Also, my guest Rebecca felt that her husband was angry and emotionally unfaithful. But when she experimented with the 6 Intimacy Skills, she immediately got a positive response. Today, not only is her marriage romantic and adventurous, every relationship in her life has gotten better. Sheâs going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
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When you see your husband drinking too much, itâs very scary because you canât help but wonder: Is this an addiction? Is he an alcoholic? If so, everybody knows that would come with a lifetime of suffering. Even if youâre not worried about that, just seeing him choose to get wasted instead of wanting to be with you hurts a lot. I remember how confused and hurt I was when I realized my husband would rather do a lot of things that seemed like a waste than spend time with me. I felt so unlovable and undesired, which was painful because I really wanted to feel loved and desired. So on todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, weâre talking about the 3-step cure if your husband would rather drink too much than be with you.
Plus, my guest Jessica was living with a scary level of hostility and violence in her marriage. But she found there was something she could do about it, and she did it. Today she feels loved, cherished, and adored, and her marriage is free from domestic violence. Sheâs married to the same man. Sheâs going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.
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If your man isnât happy, of course you want to cheer him up so youâre not getting dragged down yourself, which is tiring. I thought I could make my husband happy by doing things for him that wouldâve made me happy. I was doing a bunch of stuff I thought would make him happy that felt like a lot of work for me but was not workingâat allâbecause he is so different from me. Sometimes it made him feel even worse, then weâd fight because he didnât appreciate all I was doing. Letâs not both make that mistake. On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, Iâm talking about 4 significant ways to make your husband happy.
Plus, with no intimacy or communication, my guest Tracyâs marriage felt on the brink of divorce. When she experimented with the 6 Intimacy Skillsâą, she was surprised to find out that her husband just wanted to make her happy. Today she is married to the man she always hoped to be. Sheâs going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
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If your husband has a crush on another woman, it can make you feel terrible and not special. He committed to loving you and only you âtil death do us part, and now? Heâs using an excited voice with the neighbor, going out of his way to help her, texting someone a lot more than usual, staying at work later with a female colleague, or staring at another woman. And thatâs scary. It seems so wrong that he could feel that way, like a betrayal. Crushes can grow into something more. Even if nothing has happened, itâs not how you want him to feel about someone else. How can make him stop crushing on someone else and adore you instead? On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, Iâm talking about 5 signs your husband has a crush on another woman and 5 questions to ask.
Plus, even though my guest Irenaâs marriage was good, she felt disconnected, which had always bothered her. But things got a lot better when she made this discovery. Sheâs going to tell us how she made her marriage connected, intimate and authentic so you can do it too.
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Being around Eeyore all the time is draining and discouraging. How are you supposed to enjoy life when your man is constantly making gloomy comments and throwing cold water on everything? You might wonder when heâs going to snap out of it or look for nutritional supplements for him or sleep aids or a therapist to help him cheer the heck up so you donât have to be around his apathetic self. But none of that works, in my experience. So on todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, Iâm talking about what to do when your husband is always negative, including 3 ways to change that.
Then, with all the blowups and cold wars, the temperature at Michelleâs house was getting colder and colder. When she experimented with just one cheat phrase, things got warmer fast. She kept going with the Intimacy Skills, and today her marriage is happy, playful, safe and loving.
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It has such a chilling effect on intimacy youâre getting called names, especially rude ones that you wouldnât even want to repeat. Itâs so hurtful and scary. Everyone knows you shouldnât put up with that if you have any self-respect. Verbal or emotional abuse is not okay. It also makes you feel really badâunless you practice the Intimacy Skills and know about vulnerability. I know it sounds odd to even use the word âvulnerabilityâ in the same sentence as âname-calling.â How can you be vulnerable when he has just attacked you like that? That sounds crazy, right? It did to me too at first. So on todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, Iâm sharing 3 decisive strategies for when your husband calls you names.
And, my guest Breâs husband never wanted to spend time with her. Then she found out he was having an emotional affair with his ex. She wanted a divorce. But when she started to do some things differently, he changed without her even having to ask. Today they spend time together, and her marriage is fun and meaningful. Sheâs going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
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When you want a reset, you donât like the track things are on⊠Thereâs too much conflict, tension or distance. Maybe you miss how passionate your relationship once was. Instead of having fun together, it feels like painful drudgery. Instead of being exhilarated together, you feel like awkward roommates. So how do you get back to the good times you once had? Is it even possible? Or was that just him being on his best behavior and now youâre seeing the real him? On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, Iâm sharing two effective ways to start over in a relationship.
Plus, my guest Noor felt so broken and depressed in her miserable marriage that she was making plans to leave her husband. But when she started a few new habits, their fights stopped within two weeks! Today she describes her marriage as happy, easy and funny. Sheâs going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.
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When your husband resents you, the tension is so uncomfortable, especially if heâs just scowling or hiding in his cave and being silent, ignoring you, neglecting you. It would be nice if heâd just come out with it and tell you he resents you and WHY. Then youâd know exactly where you stand instead of wondering whatâs going to happen. You could make plans, defend yourself, or find a way to make him stop resenting you. You could look for the words to have him reevaluate, including that itâs not good for him to hold a grudge against his wife! The scowling, neglect, and silence are all pretty good signs that he resents you, right? But what if heâs not resentful at all? On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, weâre talking about what to do if you see these signsâand 3 common challenges that could be the real problem.
And, the tension was high for my guest Jane too. She was not controlling at allâshe was just trying to help her husband! But that wasnât going over well. Then she made a decision to do this one thing, which led to great peace and happiness in her marriage and in herself. Sheâs going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.
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Itâs so devastating and hurtful if your husband leaves you because heâs unhappy. First, he loved you enough to marry you in front of God and everybody. Then he was so unhappy he left you? Thatâs not what he promised to do, and it feels like such a betrayal. Not only does it knock the wind out of you, heâs the very person you would turn to for comfort. Instead, youâre left to fend for yourself, which is incredibly scary and lonely. It could even make you feel unlovable and hopeless. But you can change the story, even now. On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, weâre talking about what to do if your husband leaves you because he was unhappy.
Plus, my guest Michelle and her husband were in separate bedrooms and having cold wars that lasted for months. The threat of divorce felt heavy in their house. Then Michelle did a few unconventional things and the fighting stopped. Now her husband is as passionate as when they first married. Sheâs going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
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When my marriage was really bad, I just wanted to force it to get better through sheer will. Thatâs why I made John go to marriage counseling! I was willing to put in hard work and perseverance, of course, because thatâs what I figured it meant to âwork onâ your marriage. I mean, Iâd always heard marriage is hard work. Hard work! I heard that a lot. Weirdly, itâs not hard work now; itâs easy and fun and light. But back then I was exhausted, frustrated, and impatient for it to change already! I just wanted to know where to apply the force because I felt like I had plenty of that. Now that I know and my husband canât stop kissing me and is always bringing me tea and chasing me around the kitchen island, I just think youâll want to get this information and write it down. On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, Iâm revealing 3 ways to force your marriage to improve.
Then, my guest Ellen was devastated to find out her husband was involved with another woman. She felt so lost! But she decided to find herself again in a dignified way. She not only saved her marriageâshe made it stronger than she could have imagined. Sheâll tell us what she did so you can do it too.
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If your husband isnât keeping his promises, like to love, honor and cherish you, or is drinking way too much or thereâs another woman whoâs too close or heâs just become a loser pants, then how are you supposed to respect him?
What if heâs abusive? What if heâs distant or absent? What if heâs walking away from the marriage? What if he conned you?
Itâs painful enough to be in that situation without feeling like now you should somehow just suck it up and be a respectful saint to him. How is that even humanly possible? Especially if all you feel is disgust because of his narcissism, meanness to the kids, or cruising along while you do everything. Itâs already more than you should be putting up with.
On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, weâre talking about how youâre supposed to respect a husband who hasnât earned it.
Iâll share the key actionâdespite my great reluctance and resistanceâthat made it easy to respect my husband, who now does all the things that impressed me when I first fell in love with him.
Plus, my guest Yuki felt like the victim of her abusive husband. She was too ashamed to tell anyone. Then she found a way to interrupt the familiar pattern at her house, and today she has a very respectful marriage. It not only includes joking but she truly feels her husbandâs love. Sheâs going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
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If youâve been struggling in your relationship for a while, youâre probably exhausted. I remember how hopeless and scared I felt when weâd been struggling for years and nothing was working to make it better. Not marriage counseling, not books about relationships, not working on communicationânone of that worked for us. Itâs such a disappointment to go from feeling like heâs an amazing person youâre excited to spend the rest of your life with, to wondering what happened to that guy and feeling lonely, neglected, and stupid for falling for him in the first place. Now that Iâm back with that amazing guy I fell for, excited to get to spend every day with him again, hereâs what I wish I had known. On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, Iâm revealing 3 ways to rebuild a relationship and stop struggling.
Plus, my guest Sharon felt starved for love and intimacy. So she flipped her part of the script and said some things sheâd never said before. Today her marriage is pure bliss, and she loves the passion and how meaningful it feels. Sheâs going to tell us what she did so you can do it too!
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I found myself doing all the housework not long after we were married because I thought it would be nice for him and I wanted to be a nice wife, plus I wanted a clean house, homemade meals, and neatly folded laundry. And I wanted those things done the right way. It wasnât long before I was overwhelmed, exhausted and mighty resentful! I was doing everything while he just skated along and watched TV, like I was the mom and he was a little boy. So I decided he HAD to help and told him that. But he didnât help. Looking back I can see why. But I didnât know I was making these outrageous mistakes that were preventing him from doing chores. And Iâm not the only one! I hear from students that they were making the same mistakes until they learned what to do. On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, Iâm revealing 3 mistakes with splitting chores and how to get more help with housework.
Plus, my guest Renee and her husband kept having big blow ups then cold wars then huge emotional hangovers over and over again. Renee took a long look at herself and saw some things she could improve. Today things are mostly peaceful, and he just wants to serve his wife and family. Sheâs going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
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This was one of the great mysteries of my life, so I want to share this with as many women as possible. I donât want anybody to suffer just because they donât know about these mistakes. Because before I knew them, I suffered. Just a few years into our marriage, my husband John refused to do housework. When I tried to tell him to wash the dishes, he just turned up the TV to drown me out. I begged, demanded, and repeated myself. I signed us up for marriage counseling, but it didnât help. He just didnât care about helping me, which made me question the whole marriage. Then I discovered a phrase that made him do chores willingly. The first time I tried it, John offered to clean the kitchen. And he did. That was over 20 years ago, and heâs been cleaning it ever since. Thousands of my students have also used this cheat phrase with great success. But it wonât work if you make these common mistakes that almost cost me my marriage. On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, Iâm revealing 5 alarming mistakes that make him tune you out.
Plus, my guest Jamese had zero romance at her house because her husband was always on the computer. And they were newlyweds! But then Jamese âgot herself some businessâ and got off of her husbandâs paper. Today, her marriage is fresh, loving, and fun! Sheâs going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
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If youâre anything like I was, this isnât the first year youâve resolved to improve your relationship. I said it year after year because I was so stuck and didnât know what to do to get my husband to pay attention to me, be more affectionate, and be more responsible. But this new year, your marriage can actually be different. And I donât mean because youâre going to try harder, which never works but is very tiring (Iâm tired just thinking about it). Or by going to counseling since many couples who get marriage counseling end up separated or divorced anyway. Or by being more giving and supportive to your man, even though I know you hear that everywhere.
Todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast is about the scary New Yearâs resolution that will actually save your marriage.
Iâll share 3 things that changed everything at my house and will make your relationship vibrant and shiny this new year.
Youâll also get to hear a true first coaching session with Brittany, who is so courageous to let me share this call with you from back when her husband was bent on divorce.
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Every month the Certified Relationship Coaches and I get together and tell true stories about our relationships because having lots of stories to share is an important part of being a great relationship coach. Some of the best stories, those most valuable to the person youâre coaching? Theyâre embarrassing. Theyâre not proud moments or good examples of how to be a model wife. More like horrible warnings of what NOT to do to have a healthy marriage. Those are the kinds of stories we tell at these meetings, which are exclusively for the certified coaches, no one else.
Hearing that I am NOT the only person who has these self-inflicted embarrassing moments is so comforting, such a relief, and so entertaining, at least for me. So this week I got permission to share a coachesâ storytelling meeting with you, even though the stories were originally told in this sacred space of our coaches-only private call. The coaches decided to let you in on things you donât hear women admitting to very often. On todayâs episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, Iâm letting you in on mistakes that were made, where you get to eavesdrop as relationship coaches confess!
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