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Welcome to NK Podcast 277, where we dive deep into the complexities of blended families, co-parenting, and everything in between. In today's episode, Lori has the pleasure of speaking with esteemed guest Bradley S Craig, a Licensed Master Social Worker and Certified Family Life Educator, known for his insightful book Between 2 Homes. Todayâs conversation ranges from the nuanced roles of stepparents to the intricacies of custody modifications, all the way through effective co-parenting techniques and the societal impact of blended family dynamics. This interview was so full of information we had to split it up into two parts!
We explore the often misunderstood influence of stepmoms, the implications of custody change requests post-remarriage, and the significance of terminology with terms like "bonus mom" and "nesting." Bradley shares his wisdom on maintaining consistent family dynamics, avoiding common pitfalls in high-conflict co-parenting situations, and adopting a professional mindset for better child welfare.
We'll also discuss practical tools like the "Our Family Wizard" app, the pressures societal norms place on stepfamilies, and Bradleyâs recommendations for effective co-parent communication.
This is not just a theoretical discussion; Bradley also brings in his personal experiences and professional insights, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating the challenges of blended families.
Stay tuned for a thought-provoking conversation that offers valuable strategies, empathy, and a fresh perspective on stepfamily complexities.
Let's dive in!
In this episode, we discuss:
Stepmom Influence
Trust and Boundaries
Court System and Legal Procedures
Parenting Facilitators
Business Mindset in Co-parenting
Terms and Perceptions
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI have never seen anyone care so much about helping others. Lori goes above and beyond for her clients. You can tell she and David both do this to truly help others. They are a blessing to the world of stepparents!â ~ K.H.
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Welcome to Episode 276 of the Nacho Kids Podcast! In this episode, hosts David and Lori discuss some of the complexities of stepfamily dynamics with special guests Will and his stepmom Jo. Jo, who has no biological children and has been in a relationship with Willâs father for four years. They explore Willâs transition from living with his mother to moving full-time with his father and Jo, discussing how responsibilities and structure have positively impacted his life. Will opens up about the emotional challenges he faced, including dealing with depression and adjusting to new household routines.
Weâll also delve into Joâs role in Willâs life, how cool of a stepmum she is, and the importance of building trust and friendship between stepparents and stepchildren. Jo and Will share a story of being blessed to have each other in their lives.
This episode is filled with heartfelt stories, practical advice, and relatable experiences that provide valuable insights into stepfamily relationships. Whether you're part of a stepfamily or just interested in family dynamics, youâll find something meaningful in todayâs conversation. So sit back, relax, and join us for a candid discussion on navigating life in a blended family!
In this episode, we discuss:
Adjusting to New Living Arrangements
Building Trust and Friendship
Influence of a Stepparent:
Stepfamily Challenges and Integration
Celebrating Milestones
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âAs a family court attorney, I have had several of my clientâs partners, who are stepparents, of course, mention Nacho Parenting over the past several months. Being curious about this method, I decided to look into it. I read the blogs but wanted to know more about these people and what they were teaching people. After reviewing the content, Iâm convinced the family court system should mandate a class on the Nacho method!â ~ W.O.
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Welcome back to another exciting episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! This is Episode 275, and we have a jam-packed show for you today. I'm your host, David, and as always, I'm joined by the wonderful Lori. We have some thrilling updates and announcements and an insightful conversation about expectations in blended families.
We'll kick things off with our upcoming eventsâstarting with a meet and greet in Denver, Colorado. If you're in the area, don't miss this chance to connect with us! Plus, we have a podcast review contest running until the end of September, where you can win a $100 Amazon gift card. And don't forget about the 5th annual Step Family Summit from September 11th to 13th, hosted by Claudette Chenover, and our very first guided "Change Your Stinking Thinking Challenge."
In this episode, Lori and I will be diving deep into the complexities of expectations within blended familiesâfrom unspoken assumptions to the importance of clear communication. We'll share our personal experiences, challenges, and the valuable lessons we've learned along the way. And of course, we'll also touch on some lighter moments, like David's ongoing battle with the Amazon delivery driver.
So sit back, relax, and join us as we explore the highs and lows of blending families and managing expectations. Let's get into it!
In this episode, we discuss:
Scope and Importance of Expectations
Personal Experiences and Misconceptions
Household and Parental Roles
Expectations of Family Dynamics
Disciplinary Expectations
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âMy husband and I used to make fun of the Nacho method. We thought it was stupid. The name, the principals behind it, everything. One day we were fighting about his kids and he told me I needed to Nacho. I looked at him like he was crazy. He told me we could join the Academy together and try it for thirty days to see if it helps with the stress in the blend. I agreed to try and I can not explain to you the difference it made in our lives! We are staying in the Academy a while longer to digest more of the content and get more tools to help us. This stepfamily stuff is hard and Lori and David make it a lot less traumatizing.â ~ M.M.
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Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In this enlightening episode, hosts David and Lori dive deep into the complexities of blended family dynamics just in time for the holiday season. Tune in as they share insights on upcoming events like the 5th Annual Step Family Summit with Claudette Chenevert and the release of exciting challenges such as the Nacho Guided "Change Your Stinking Thinking" Challenge, and a special opportunity for our podcast listeners.
Lori and David discuss navigating family gatherings, the intricacies of gift-giving, and managing expectations within stepfamilies. They share practical tips on handling holiday schedules and ensuring no one feels left out, even in financially tight situations. Plus, they address the emotional challenges children in blended families face and emphasize the importance of equipping them with resilience tools.
Don't forget to check out the Nacho Kids Academy for resources to improve your blended family relationships. Join us for an episode packed with valuable advice and heartwarming stories, and rememberâlife is good when you Nacho!
In this episode, we discuss:
General Challenges of Holidays in Blended Families
Rotating Schedules
Gift Giving in Blended Families
Grandparents and Fixed Incomes
Balancing Fairness and Realistic Expectations
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI wish I would have signed up for one-on-one coaching with Lori sooner. Iâve been going to therapy for years because of the blended challenges. My most recent therapist relocated and only has in-person meetings, so I decided Iâd see what the Nacho people had to offer while trying to find a new therapist. In just one hour with Lori, just one, and I learned more than I had learned in two years from my therapist! Iâm still in shock! Thank you, Lori, you are the best!â ~ B.A.
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Welcome to Episode 273 of the NK Podcast, "Nacho Parenting Really Works!" Today, Lori dives into the fascinating dynamics of blended families with her special guest, Mikel Van Cleve, a certified financial planner with a unique personal story. Mikel opens up about embarking on a whirlwind romance that led to marriage just three months later. We explore their challenges with differing parenting styles, their impact on their children, and the innovative Nacho Parenting technique that transformed their family life.
Join us as Michael shares the ups and downs of blending families, including feeling as if he had to choose between his wife and kid and the eventual reconciliation between his wife and daughter. We discuss the importance of modeling healthy relationships for children and the inherent favoritism towards biological kids.
In this episode, we discuss:
Stepdaughter stepmom relationships
Relationships within the blend
Biological child goeing to live with the âotherâ biological parent
Choosing between your partner and your kid
Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting method for the win. Again!
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI joined the Nacho Academy after reading about it in the Atlantic magazine. My partner and I were about to split up because of the kids. I watched one of the video courses in the Academy and told my partner she had to watch it! I was so excited!! After she watched it, we agreed that we would give this crazy Nacho Parenting a shot. Life is so much better in only two months! We still have much to learn, but we are both hopeful about our relationship and future. We will forever love the creators of Nacho Parenting!â P.E.
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Welcome to NK Podcast! In today's episode, we dive deep into the intricate world of blended families with our special guest, Matthew Steiner. As a Christian stepdad who has navigated the complexities of step-parenting and the "Nacho" method, Matthew shares his journey of balancing faith, family dynamics, and the emotional challenges that come with being a stepparent.
Matthew opens up about his personal experiences, including the frustrations of not being able to control decisions and timelines related to his stepchildren, and the eventual harmony achieved through improved co-parenting and understanding roles.
Join us for an honest and heartfelt conversation that promises to offer valuable insights for any parent or stepparent navigating similar waters.
In this episode, we discuss:
Realizing the limitations of a stepparent's role.
Tensions due to discipline and shared finances.
Frustration with lack of control over decisions and timelines related to stepchildren.
Household rules and chores expectations.
Effective co-parenting
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI am so appreciative of all Lori and David do to help stepfamilies. They treat you like family and honestly care about you and your blend! They changed our lives! Rock on David and Lori and fellow Nachoers!â ~ O.T.
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Welcome to another episode of the NK Podcast! Today weâre diving into a compelling and deeply personal conversation with an anonymous stepmom, who shares her experience navigating the complex dynamics of blended family life. In this episode, anonymous stepmom discusses her struggle with being overprotective, and the challenges posed by her partnerâs high-conflict ex. Weâll explore how she juggles being a step-parent, dealing with traumatic events, and maintaining her mental health through counseling. Join host Lori as she unpacks the nuances of setting boundaries, dealing with disrespect, and finding balance in a stepfamily after this stepmomâs decision to step back from certain responsibilities. This episode promises to shed light on the trials and triumphs of blended families and offers valuable insights into creating harmony amidst chaos.
In this episode, we discuss:
When to Nacho
Adding an Ours kid
High-conflict bio-mom
Overwhelmed stepmom
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
"This method is absolutely amazing! I had worked with other stepfamily coaches about disengaging and it never worked, so I decided to give this a try. Thank goodness I did! This is so much more than disengaging, that's why it didn't work before! Thank you Lori and David for teaching us how to better our blended lives. I will be forever grateful!" ~ G.V.
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In this episode, Lori talks with Keri, a stepmom of four years who has one bio kid and two stepkids, well technically one stepkid. The other stepkid is not her partnerâs biological child and stopped coming for visitation about two years ago. This is her second blended family. Her first blend lasted eight years, and Keri was very involved in her stepdaughterâs life. After swearing to never date anyone else with kids, she met her now husband and yep, ended up in another blend. And guess what? This blend isnât the same as her first one!
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Moving to be with your partner and their kids
Being a high school teacher and stepmom
Asking your partner to change their visitation schedule
Stepparent communicating with partnerâs ex
Super stepmom crashes
Finding Nacho!
Adding an ours baby to the blend
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âComing from a blended family, I thought I wouldnât struggle like most stepmoms do. After all, I have had three stepmoms and two stepdads. I had lots of âexperienceâ. Little did I know that my world would be turned upside down two years after our marriage. I found the Nacho Academy through a friend who is a therapist and suggested it after telling her I was ready to give up and that I couldnât do this anymore. I was hesitant at first because of some of the negative stuff I heard, but after listening to one of the courses and crying my eyes out, I knew this was my tribe! I knew the negative I had heard about the method was not accurate and this is what I needed. I needed to Nacho and my husband and his kids needed me to Nacho too! It has made a tremendous difference in our blend and Iâm excited to continue learning in the Academy from Lori & David.â ~ L.G.
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In this episode, Lori and David talk to family law attorney Billie Tarascio of Modern Law. Billie supports the Nacho method and discusses some family court issues.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Nacho Kids
Family court challenges
Self-representation
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âMy son and his new wife are a blended family. I joined the Academy in hopes of learning things to help them navigate their blend. It was absolutely amazing the amount of content in the Academy! I decided to gift my son and his new wife a year-long membership. They are putting Nacho into place in their home and are so much happier and feel they have hope they didnât have before! Thanks, Lori and David, for all you do!â ~ I.W.
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In this episode, Lori and David talk to two of Davidâs kids about them moving back home after the military, Yoo Hoo gate, and how they viewed things as stepkids.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Rebounding stepkids
Yoo Hoo gate
Perception
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI have never been so happy in our blend! This Nacho stuff is awesome! If you are debating on joining the Academy, donât debate any longer, do it today. You will not regret it! Itâs life-changing!â ~ A.N.
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Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast, Episode 267. Today, Lori, David, and our iconic Nacho Intro Lady dive into the challenges of stepfamilies, starting with the important question: "When will my partner love my kid like their own?" Tune in as we explore the common struggles faced by blended families, share real feedback from our latest Nacho Kids Boot Camp Challenge, and address listener questions about step-parenting dynamics, from the usefulness of "nachoing" from day one to managing deep-seated resentments towards stepchildren. Whether you are new to stepfamily life or looking to improve your current situation, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. Stick around for some heartfelt tips on navigating your blended family journey with patience, understanding, and a sprinkle of humor. Remember, life is good when you Nacho!
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Relationship between stepparent and stepkid
What if the bio parent doesnât step up
What if you hate your stepkid and have zero desire to fix it
Should you Nacho from the beginning or wait until things cause stress
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI hated my life. I had no desire to continue my blended relationship. Then, my partner found Nacho Kids while listening to podcast and decided we should join the Academy together. Three months later, our lives are so much better! It was the best decision we ever made. We are creating a happy healthy blended family now thanks to Nacho!â ~ E.R.
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In this episode, Lori and David answer questions submitted by followers. These questions are based solely on the question without having any details of the personâs dynamics.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
How do you get a Disneyland parent to stop guilt parenting?
How to get your grown up stepkid to allow you to see the grandchildren more?
How do you nacho stuff that directly affects you?!
Does it get better after they all turn 18?
Is blending always this hard?
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI just finished the Nacho Kids Guided Bootcamp. I am shocked at how much I learned in just a few minutes a day! This was a treasure of information that has already started to improve our blend! God Bless you, Lori and David, for everything you do to help stepfamilies. You are your method are amazing!â ~ P.C. - stepdad from Florida
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In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to Stepdad Sean. Sean has been blending for over two years. His biological kids are no longer at home, and he has three stepsons who all live in the house. Sean has raised his kids and doesnât feel he should have to help raise the stepkids. The stepkids have poor manners and are a bit spoiled. He fights for that parental role because he doesnât understand being a husband without being a parent.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Preparing didn't help
Adult bio kids and teenage stepkids
Not wanting to raise someone elseâs kids
Fighting for control
Hugely different parenting styles
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âThis Nacho stuff is completely opposite of what everyone told us to do. We were struggling and decided what the heck. We did still love each other and made the decision to give this Nacho thing a try. Three months later, we are ALL happier and in a much better place. Life really is good when you Nacho!â ~ J.B.S.
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In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, speaks with Krista St-Germain about navigating grief as a stepparent. As a widow, stepkid, and stepparent, Krista shares her journey and wisdom. Her stepdad stayed in his lane and her stepmom was a little more authoritative.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Supporting a partner when you have different parenting views
Secondary losses
Five stages of grief
Time in relation to grief
Respecting previous relationships
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI canât believe how much better our lives are because of Nacho Parenting!â ~ E.V.
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In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, speaks with family law attorney Rachel King. Rachel has been practicing family law for over 10 years. Her parents divorced when she was very young. Rachel shares her story of being a stepkid with us.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Bashing the other parent
Being forced to call stepmom âmomâ
Differences in parenting in different homes
Parentification
Co-parenting
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âAs a child of divorce, I thought I would have an easy time being a stepdad. I was so wrong. Being a stepdad is the hardest thing Iâve ever had to work on. I thought Iâd come in and be âdad,â which resulted in many fights. I heard about Nacho through a lawyer friend. They recommended I join the Nacho Academy. Iâm so glad I listened to them! Through the Nacho Academy, I learned what I did wrong. I worked on repairing my relationship with my stepson, and we are now in a much better place. Thank you, Nacho, for saving our blend!â ~ E.W.
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In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to Anthony J. Mohr. Anthonyâs father, Gerald Mohr, was a well-known radio actor before slipping to the Hollywood B-list thanks to the advent of television. Accepting the lead in a dying Swedish TV series, he fell for the script girl and divorced Mohrâs mother, who went on to meet and marry another divorced person, credit card industry pioneer Stanley Dashew.
As his stepfatherâs career rose and his biological fatherâs eased downward, Anthony tried to find his place. One weekend, he was sailing on his stepfatherâs fifty-eight-foot catamaran; the next, his Swedish stepmother told him that they were poor. Coming of age in a time when divorce was rare and viewed as shocking, Anthony lived at the edges of what others regard as a dream world, a place where reality and fantasy blend, maps lead to the homes of the stars, and obstacles abound.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Being a child of divorce
Two different lives
Fighting in front of the kids
Building bonds
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âAs a licensed therapist, a patient mentioned Nacho to me. I was intrigued. I looked into this Nacho method, and I must say it is genius! I am now referring all my stepfamily clients to the Academy!â ~ T.G.
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In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk to Lisa Johnson. Lisa is co-author, along with her partner Chris Barry, of âBeen There Got Out.â Like Lori and David, Lisa and Chris use their first-hand experience to help others.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Toxic relationships
High conflict divorce
Legal abuse
Coercive control
Jenniferâs Law
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI am a family law attorney. I kept hearing about this Nacho parenting from clients and in the courtroom. I decided to join the Nacho Academy to see what it was all about. Man, this stuff is gold! Iâm referring all my clients to the Nacho Academy even if they arenât currently in a blend, they will most likely be in one soon! I love what Lori and David are doing and canât express how much the world needs this!â ~ M.L.B.
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In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to stepmom Tikeetha. Tikeetha has one child, and her partner has two children, one of which is an adult and no longer living at home. Both of their teenage children have lost their other parent. Tikeetha and her partner decided to get married but have not moved in together yet but plan to in the future.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Choosing to get married but live sep
Having an autistic child in the blend
Partner wants family to blend
When a bio parent dies
Friction between the stepkids
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI have been a member of the Nacho Academy for two years and plan to be a life-long member. The support Lori & David give is worth the membership to me! I know I can get their advice on anything that comes up in our blend, as there are always changes and challenges.â ~ J.R.
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In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk about struggles blended families often face when it comes to Graduation ceremonies. Unfortunately, most kids are given a limited number of tickets and it can often cause issues within the family, even a nuclear family! But you add the blend⊠and whew! Hang on!
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Graduation Tickets
One upping your ex
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI joined the Nacho Kids Academy just out of sheer curiosity. I am also a stepfamily coach and wanted to see what Lori had in her Academy. I have to tell you, I am so impressed with the Academy, that I am now referring my clients to take her courses! It helps me because I can focus on stuff outside the Nacho method with them and I get to see the transformation that happens within one month of them joining. Makes my job easier and saves them money!â ~ L.T.
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In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk about some of the struggles stepmoms have with Motherâs Day. Motherâs Day is hard for a lot of people. Whether it be stepmoms, those who could never have children or have lost children, bio moms, or those who donât have good relationships with their bio moms.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
Stepmom expectations
Motherâs Day recognition for stepmoms
Stepmom's Day but no Stepdad's Day
Hallmark Holiday
Mental Health Wellness
Nacho Kids Academy Success Story:
âI asked my husband to get me a one month subscription to the Nacho Academy for one month so I could do the Bootcamp Challenge. After the first group call, I quickly realized I was going to need more than a one month membership! There is so much great content! I was really surprised at the amount of content and the interaction on the call considering the cost was so low. Thank you David & Lori! See you on the next call!â ~ B.K.
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