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Hello, my friend! As we dive into the new year, Iâm reflecting on an unusual but powerful resolution: the importance of being willing to disappoint others to stay true to yourself.
In this episode, I share:
A heartfelt conversation with my daughter about her fear of disappointing a close friend as she embarks on a semester abroad.Why so many of us, especially women, feel a deep need to avoid disappointing others, and how this stems from societal and cultural conditioning.Personal stories, including how leaving my marriage and religion required me to face others' disappointment so I could thrive authentically.Practical strategies for navigating those difficult conversations where you choose yourself over othersâ expectations.We explore why sparing othersâ disappointment is not only impossible but often harmful to your own growth. I challenge you to ask yourself:
Why is their disappointment a problem?Am I willing to have difficult conversations to avoid difficult relationships?Plus, my daughterâs surprising insights from watching Millionaire Matchmaker (yes, that binge was totally worth it!) and how it inspired her vision of the confident, self-assured woman she wants to be.
This episode is a rallying cry for everyone whoâs ready to stop bending over backward to keep the peace and instead honor their own needs, dreams, and happiness.
Resources Mentioned:
Millionaire Matchmaker on Netflix (for inspiration and some laughs!)Call to Action:
Letâs start this year strong by choosing authenticity over people-pleasing. If this episode resonated with you, hit that Follow button and share this podcast with a friend who needs to hear it!
And if youâd like to get in touch, email me at [email protected]. (Yes, the website is under construction, thanks to my Netflix binge!)
Stay true to yourself, and Iâll see you next week! đ
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Happy New Year, and welcome to 2025! In this episode, Quinn dives into the magic of new beginnings and the importance of slowing down, being present, and exploring the unconscious to create a life you truly love.
Whatâs Inside This Episode:
2025 Goals: Why being present unlocks deeper emotions and clarity.Understanding the Unconscious: Inspired by Carl Jungâs insight: âUntil you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.âTools to Explore Your Unconscious:Dream work and journaling.Active imagination through writing or art.Body-centered practices like yoga, dance, or drumming.Symbol systems like tarot and archetypal storytelling (Women Who Run With the Wolves).Parts Work (Internal Family Systems) to heal and integrate inner conflicts.Why It Matters: Gain clarity, overcome self-sabotage, and reconnect with your intuition to become unapologetically âfull of yourself.âClosing Thought: The unconscious holds your deepest wisdomâitâs time to trust yourself and let your light shine.
Connect with Quinn: Email [email protected] for coaching and support on your journey to becoming your fullest self. đ
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In this special Christmas Day episode, Quinn reflects on how her approach to the holidays has evolved over the four years since her divorce. She discusses the importance of managing expectations and focusing on connection and relaxation. The episode further delves into strategies for personal growth post-divorce by providing examples from her coaching practice. The common theme among her clients is identifying and focusing on one impactful goal that can create significant positive changes in their lives. She emphasizes that concentrating on one thing, whether it be health, career, relationships, or self-discovery, can lead to exponential personal growth and fulfillment.
00:00 Welcome and Holiday Reflections
02:26 Balancing Life and New Beginnings
03:36 Client Journeys and Common Themes
08:49 The Power of Focusing on One Thing
11:40 Personal Transformation Stories
17:33 Setting Goals and Taking Action
24:33 Coaching and Accountability
27:21 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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In this heartfelt episode, Quinn reflects on the importance of living a sensual, embodied life post-divorce. She discusses the concept of sensuality as fully engaging with all five senses and the journey of reclaiming this aspect of life without shame. Drawing from personal experiences and insights from thinkers like Brene Brown and Glennon Doyle, she addresses overcoming societal and religious stigmas around women's bodies and desires. Quinn encourages you to honor your senses, create sensory joy lists, and give yourself permission to savor life fully. The episode underscores the necessity of filling oneself up with sensory pleasures to lead a more fulfilling, connected, and joyful life.
00:00 Introduction
01:50 Embracing Sensuality Post-Divorce
02:56 Living Sensually: Engaging All Senses
07:19 Overcoming Shame and Guilt
11:26 Practical Steps to Sensual Living
22:58 Permission to Savor Life
24:53 ConclusionPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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Quinn discusses her personal journey of redefining traditions after a divorce. She shares how she balances religious and secular celebrations, focuses on creating meaningful and joyful traditions with her family, and emphasizes the importance of traditions for emotional resilience, identity, and community. Through practical tips, she encourages starting small, involving children, harvesting the good from past holidays, and being consistent but flexible. The episode highlights the significance of traditions in cultivating a new, fulfilling life post-divorce.
00:00 Introduction and Holiday Context
01:26 Navigating Traditions Post-Divorce
02:50 The Psychological Benefits of Traditions
03:56 Creating New Traditions
06:49 Why Traditions Matter
13:48 Tips for Establishing New Traditions
22:51 Involving Community in Traditions
24:22 Conclusion and Holiday WishesPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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Quinn explores the distinction between being nice and being kind, emphasizing the importance of setting clear boundaries and honest communication. Sharing personal anecdotes, including a situation with a lifelong friend and navigating divorce, she highlights the emotional costs and the manipulative nature of being nice. Inspired by teachings from Brene Brown and Tara Brach, the episode discusses practical steps for applying kindness in relationships and personal growth, urging listeners to prioritize self-compassion and authenticity. Practical advice on recognizing self-critical thoughts, setting boundaries, and nurturing true self-worth is provided to help listeners transform their interactions and emotional wellbeing.
00:00 Introduction and Personal Story
02:36 The Difference Between Nice and Kind
08:30 The Cost of Being Nice
15:35 Breaking Free from the Trance of Unworthiness
29:41 Practical Ways to Be Kind, Not Nice
32:50 Client Story and ConclusionPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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Quinn reflects on her journey of personal growth and empowerment since her divorce. She shares a recent experience of obtaining an order of protection against her ex-husband, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and protecting oneself and one's children. The episode also delves into the concepts of 'the gap' and 'the gain,' encouraging listeners to focus on their progress and accomplishments. With a mix of personal anecdotes and coaching insights, the host offers support to others dealing with harassment and provides a reminder to stay present and grateful during the holiday season.
00:00 Introduction and Thanksgiving Greetings
01:06 Seeking an Order of Protection
02:17 Reflecting on Personal Growth
04:31 The Gap and the Gain
06:27 Embracing Your True Self
08:42 Navigating Post-Divorce Life
11:14 Practical Advice on Protection Orders
13:09 Staying Present During the Holidays
16:52 Conclusion and Thanksgiving WishesPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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Quinn addresses the persistent fears many experience post-divorce, particularly those involving threatening interactions with an ex-spouse. She shares a recent personal incident where an unsolicited, threatening letter from her ex triggered intense fear. Offering practical advice, she discusses essential steps for maintaining physical and psychological safety, such as keeping court orders, legal resources, and recording interactions. She emphasizes creating a safe environment through physical distance and mindfulness, and focuses on the importance of feeling and processing fear. Tips for handling stressful communications and building a support network are also provided, offering a comprehensive guide for navigating life after divorce with resilience and confidence.
00:00 Introduction: Facing Post-Divorce Fears
01:40 Unsolicited Letter from the Ex
06:02 Dealing with Physical Safety
13:20 Ensuring Psychological Safety
15:04 Facing and Managing Fears
29:02 Building a Support Network
31:53 Conclusion: Finding Safety and Moving Forward
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Quinn shares her journey of making new friends post-divorce, especially in the run-up to 2025. She discusses the importance of friendship in healing and offers practical tips on how to re-establish a social circle after a significant life change. From leveraging past connections and using apps like Bumble BFF, to engaging in community activities and local events, Quinn provides a comprehensive guide to building meaningful relationships. She also emphasizes the importance of being a good friend and offers strategies for nurturing these new connections. Whether you're recently divorced, new to an area, or just looking to expand your social network, this episode is packed with actionable advice.
00:00 Introduction and Goals
01:19 The Importance of Friendship Post-Divorce
03:11 Tips for Making New Friends
03:57 Reconnecting with Past Friends
05:32 Leveraging Kids' Social Circles
06:17 Using Apps to Find Friends
07:24 Exploring Local Groups and Hobbies
08:59 Volunteering and Community Involvement
10:38 Joining Classes and Sports Leagues
13:35 Tips for Maintaining Friendships
24:32 Conclusion and Personal InitiativesPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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Quinn reflects on the significance of the year's end, encouraging listeners to set goals and embrace change. She offers advice on being honest with oneself, tackling issues like fear of solitude, self-discovery post-divorce, and navigating financial stability. The speaker emphasizes the importance of setting realistic goals, being open to new experiences, and shifting negative narratives to foster a positive and fulfilling future.
00:00 Introduction and Seasonal Reflections
01:41 Setting Year-End Goals
05:14 Honesty in Self-Reflection
07:52 Addressing Post-Divorce Challenges
19:41 Rewriting Negative Narratives
31:06 Taking Action and Moving Forward
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In this episode, the Quinn shares her personal journey of self-discovery and empowerment post-divorce. Triggered by a letter from her ex-husband, she reflects on the strength required to navigate life after marriage. She delves into the concept of being 'intentionally self-partnered,' distinguishing it from simply being single or alone. Through her experiences with Britta Jo's community and her own coaching practice, she outlines a framework consisting of healing, exploration, and play. Emphasizing the importance of self-compassion, self-reflection, and the joy of new experiences, she offers guidance on how to build a fulfilling life centered on knowing and loving oneself deeply.
00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections
02:19 The Concept of Intentional Self-Partnering
05:42 Healing After a Relationship
13:50 Exploration and New Experiences
20:31 The Joy of Playfulness
24:02 Conclusion and Embracing Self-Partnering
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In this episode, Quinn and Britta dive into life after divorce and all the changes that come with it. đż From navigating new relationships to balancing co-parenting and work, they explore how to embrace the "crisis period" (those first two chaotic years) and use it as an opportunity for growth.
They share personal stories, insights from For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered by E. Mavis Hetherington, and talk about how change, while hard, doesnât have to be negative. đȘ Whether you're worried about your kids, stepping into dating again, or finding your footing in your career, this episode will leave you feeling empowered to move forward. đ
Itâs full of honest, relatable conversation, and packed with humor, heart, and plenty of aha moments. đ
00:00 Welcome
01:23 The Beauty of Contrasting Experiences
01:48 Post-Divorce Discussions and Future Relationships
03:28 The Crisis Period and Dramatic Changes
06:07 Parentification and Emotional Skills
16:03 Reframing Divorce and Embracing Change
20:27 Empowering Women and Changing Trajectories
25:52 Emotional Incest and Parental Alienation
33:21 The Painful Period and Healing Post-Divorce
42:42 Navigating Co-Parenting Dynamics
51:24 Intentional Choices and the Window of Change
59:18 Exploring New Relationships and Sexuality
01:04:47 Healing Through Secure Relationships
01:06:27 The Role of a Coach in Personal Growth
01:08:46 Navigating New Relationships Post-Divorce
01:16:51 The Impact of Work on Post-Divorce Life
01:29:23 The Reality of Divorce and Its Effects on Children
01:35:05 Challenging Traditional Marriage Narratives
01:56:32 Britta's New CommunityPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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Navigating Divorce: Empowerment, Safety, and Growth
Quinn & Britta discuss diverse challenges and personal growth experiences related to post-divorce life, particularly for parents and children. They delve into emotional and financial fears, single parenting, co-parenting dynamics, and the importance of both emotional and physical safety for children. They emphasize personal development through coaching and mind management, reflecting on the gains from overcoming adversity. Topics cover societal and gender expectations, reevaluating motherhood, children's emotional wellbeing, and the benefits of diverse family environments. The narrative also highlights the creation of supportive communities for women and the intricacies of launching group initiatives, demonstrating collective resilience and empowerment.
00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement
01:22 Technical Difficulties and Triumph
02:34 Discussing Kids and Divorce
03:28 Fears of Ruining Children's Lives
05:57 Emotional Distress and Adjustment Challenges
07:36 Single Parenting Fears and Realities
11:38 Financial Concerns Post-Divorce
25:28 Legal and Safety Concerns
51:22 Parental Role Double Standards
01:00:45 The Burden of Being a 'Good Mother'
01:02:08 Childhood Trauma and Control
01:03:15 Redefining Good Parenting
01:04:27 Personal Stories of Divorce and Parenting
01:08:25 The Impact of Divorce on Children
01:27:11 The Benefits of Divorce for Kids
01:47:30 Creating a Supportive CommunityPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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In this episode, Quinn discusses the pervasive issue of marital rape, highlighting a recent high-profile case in France, and expanding on how this issue resonates with her clients' experiences. She delves into the history and misconceptions around marital rape, consent, and coercion, specifically in the context of marriage, including legal and cultural barriers. The episode aims to redefine consent, debunk myths, and offer strategies for healing while encouraging women to reclaim autonomy over their bodies and find a supportive community. She also shares personal anecdotes and insights into how women can begin the journey of recovery and personal empowerment after experiencing marital rape or coercion.
00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview
01:45 The Case of Giselle Kott: A Shocking Story
04:21 Personal Stories and Client Experiences
06:02 Historical Context and Legal Background
10:56 Understanding Consent and Marital Coercion
23:57 Healing from Marital Rape: Strategies and Support
33:02 Emotional and Physical Healing
36:15 Reclaiming Your Narrative and Moving Forward
42:49 Conclusion and Call to Action
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In this episode, Quinn discusses her personal journey of changing her name post-divorce, sharing valuable insights and practical tips for others considering the same. Topics covered include reasons for and against changing your name, the emotional and cultural implications, and a detailed step-by-step guide on how to navigate the legal and bureaucratic processes in the United States. The episode emphasizes the empowerment and personal transformation that can come with choosing a new name and offers encouragement for anyone in a similar situation.
00:00 Welcome and Personal Update
01:22 Developing New Skills
03:15 Introduction to Name Change After Divorce
05:42 Reasons to Change Your Name
11:43 Reasons to Keep Your Ex's Name
15:58 Choosing a New Name
24:02 The Legal Process of Changing Your Name
32:13 Tips and Pitfalls in the Name Change Process
39:26 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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In this episode, the Quinn explores the concept of internalized misogyny through the stories of three different women coping with post-divorce challenges. By discussing societal standards that devalue women's contributions, the episode aims to provide insight and practical advice for women to reframe their self-worth and roles in parenting, financial independence, and personal relationships. She also shares valuable resources and encourages listeners to get curious about their own beliefs and seek support if needed.
00:00 Introduction and Fall Break
02:27 Client Stories: Overwhelmed Single Mom
03:41 Client Stories: Career Sacrifices and Self-Worth
05:17 Client Stories: Healing and Moving On
06:51 Understanding Internalized Misogyny
07:26 Satirical Piece and Internalized Misogyny
12:12 Revisiting Client Stories with New Perspective
12:26 The Good Mom vs. Good Dad Standard
20:02 Valuing Women's Contributions Post-Divorce
27:44 Dating After Divorce: Overcoming Internalized Misogyny
38:03 Conclusion and Call to Action
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In this episode, the host shares her transformative day filled with client interactions and personal growth milestones. She emphasizes the power of redefining oneself after divorce, citing inspiring stories of Tina Turner, J.K. Rowling, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Elizabeth Taylor. Through the lens of these remarkable figures, Quinn encourages listeners to identify and take consistent action towards their passions and dreams, pushing past limiting beliefs. The episode culminates with a heartfelt invitation to lean into oneâs potential and create a life that feels truly aligned and fulfilling.
00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections
02:16 The Power of Alter Egos
03:31 Embracing Change Post-Divorce
08:34 Inspiring Stories of Resilience
18:37 Taking Action Towards Your Dreams
23:26 Final Thoughts and EncouragementPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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In this episode, Quinn discusses the importance of slowing down to process emotions, especially for women recovering from divorce. Using personal anecdotes and client experiences, she highlights how acknowledging and integrating emotions like anger and frustration can lead to significant personal and professional growth. Practical tips for emotional processing and the benefits of having an empathetic witness are emphasized. Listeners are encouraged to visit her website for personalized coaching sessions.
00:00 Welcome and Warm Wishes
01:13 Dreams and Visions Post-Divorce
01:45 Three Transformative Experiences
03:22 Slowing Down to Process Emotions
07:10 The Power of Emotional Release
13:05 Practical Steps to Slow Down
18:38 Encouragement and Final Thoughts
21:27 Invitation to ConnectPostDivorceGlowUp.com
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Quinn and Britta face down fear, that fiery emotion that many of us try to avoid but inevitably can't. They discuss why embracing fear as a tool for growth and self-awareness is the path forward.
They dive into why anger isn't something to fear - it's a powerful teacher and could be the best tool to use for the transformations you seek. Sharing personal stories and insights, they show how embraving anger can lead to breakthroughs, healing, and life that is more authentic and empowered.
If you've ever felt like anger is too much or might hurt those you love, this episode is for you. They'll guide you through practical ways to channel that energy into something constructive - because you deserve a life that honors your deepest truths.PostDivorceGlowUp.com
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In this episode, key topics include the emotional recovery timeline, the impact of self-reflection, rebound relationships, and considerations when children are involved. Quinn emphasizes the importance of individual readiness, healing, and the unique journey of self-discovery through dating. Listeners are encouraged to reflect deeply on their own needs and circumstances while navigating post-divorce life.
00:00 Introduction and Personal Experience
02:17 The Importance of Dating After Divorce
03:04 Understanding the Healing Process
07:33 Self-Reflection and Personal Growth
10:53 Guidelines for Dating Post-Divorce
15:06 Considering Children in New Relationships
17:01 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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