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Here's the shocking thing about herpes- it's not a big deal. No really, it's not a big deal. It can seem that if you have herpes, that is just the story you need to tell yourself to make the sting of having an STI feel better. But here's the thing about having herpes, or any STI; suddenly you are forced into a world that is unfamiliar, and so you LEARN. You read. Research. Educate yourself. And suddenly you are shocked to learn that truly, this is not a big deal.
After my diagnosis I thought my dating life was over. I knew nothing about herpes other than what I learned in a severely lacking education system that consistently fails us with sexual health information, and of course media. And so my scared little mind was flooded with the horrible images from google, the mean jokes I heard from movies and television, the jokes I heard from social settings. But then I educated myself, because suddenly this was MINE. I dove into the world of herpes information- everything from the CDC, WHO, social media accounts, magazine articles. If I am being honest, I thought I was going to be doom scrolling, reading horrible information that was going to validate my feelings of fear. Instead, I was faced with so many facts that blew my mind. I had NO clue what a large portion of the world's population has herpes. I had no clue that having herpes did not, in fact, mean the you were suddenly walking around with a constant herpes outbreak. I was shocked to discover how little of an impact it truly has on a person's everyday life, and especially their dating life.
There is a sense of empowerment when you realize those scary feelings were silly. That you are going to be ok. It is not that hard to turn it all around and feel quite confident with your diagnosis. And you will see that confidence, and positivity, everywhere throughout the sexual health social media accounts and media articles. And that is truly fucking FABULOUS. But this is where I casually stand up to insert a little HOWEVER in all this fabulousness....
While it is SO important to know that you are going to be ok with your diagnosis. That you are going to have a great and active dating life if you choose to. That your life is going to be barely affected by your herpes. It is also SO important to know that sometimes, it just fucking sucks. AND THAT IS OK. Seriously friend, it is ok if you feel like a badass with your herpes diagnosis, and also cry about your herpes diagnosis.
I have had a very active and successful dating life since my diagnosis almost 6 years ago. I barely think about. I can easily and comfortably admit that I still get incredibly nervous when I have to have the disclosure discussion with a new partner, but I also get incredibly nervous when I have to talk to the lady at the cash register in the grocery store, so there's that. But I still can stand on pretty firm footing with my positivity and confidence while living with a positive status. But sometimes that confidence gets rocked. And it feels uncomfortable. And I think of some of the sexual health accounts I follow online, and all of their positivity surrounding herpes, and I feel almost ashamed that I am feeling bad about myself because of my diagnosis. It makes me feel alone.
My goal is to make sure you truly know that having an STI is NOT a big deal, but that also, sometimes it DOES hurt. And that is so damn ok. And you are not alone if you are feeling this. And there is nothing wrong with feeling this. You are not alone- the thing is, most people just don't talk about the other side of things. Those damn uncomfortable things. So dammit, let's just get snuggled into the discomfort for a minute! Let's have a cuddle puddle with the uncomfy so that you can see that we have all felt this and you are not alone.
In this episode I discuss a herpes disclosure that was disappointing, and really rocked my confidence. It brought up so many feelings that really bothered me. It made me question how I could stand online and spew so much positivity surrounding the subject, while then crying on my couch in disappointment. I felt ashamed of myself, because the people I looked up to in the sexual health world never shared this side of things. Maybe I'm not good enough if I am letting this rock me like this. Maybe I should not have a platform where I share my stories if I can't keep my positivity about this. But then I thought, FUCK THAT. I just feel alone because they aren't talking about it. It doesn't mean they don't FEEL it. They are simply not sharing it.
Join me in a conversation where I share how I disclose, why I disclose the way I do, how I handle a "rejection", and why we need to reframe the idea of it being a rejection at all; it is someone simply making a decision. I will share my personal story of a disclosure that left me in tears of disappointment, and why it is not productive to be upset with the person telling you no. I'll share my view on why I disagree with my friends that say "you are better off without them" simply because they were not comfortable sleeping with me. And we will explore the difference between someone making an informed decision to not sleep with you, versus someone making a decision based on misinformation.
Be sure to explore my library of episodes for numerous discussions about the journey of having herpes, as well as the links below to some of my favorite social media accounts that educate on herpes and sexual health in general. And never, ever, be afraid to slide in my DMs if you have any questions about the topic. Don't forget...I'm your safe word! And if you are shy, you can also find a link below to ask questions anonymously.
Now let's go get weird!
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Social Media Accounts about Herpes & Sexual Health
Courtney Brame https://www.instagram.com/courtneybrame_/
Positive Results (this account is inactive, but has been one of my go-to’s for years) https://www.instagram.com/positive_results_us/
Safe Slut https://www.instagram.com/safe.slut/
Sexelducation https://www.instagram.com/sexelducation/
Herpes- Related Articles
Hello Wisp: Having Sex With Someone Who Has Herpes
https://hellowisp.com/blog/having-sex-with-someone-who-has-herpes?
World Health Organization: Herpes Fact Sheet
https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/herpes-simplex-viru
Hello Wisp: Which Major STD Isn’t Part of Normal Screening
https://hellowisp.com/blog/which-major-std-isnt-part-of-normal-screening
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PRETTY UNCOMFORTABLE PODCAST HERPES EPISODES:
Dating with Herpes: You are still f*cking fabulous…and absolutely f*ckable
https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-cpg8q-13818b1
Herpes Disclosures: Don’t Leave Your Partners Out in The Cold...You Need To Disclose If You Get Coldsores
https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-qajgc-13beab8
Herpes & OnlyFans: How An STI & An Adult Content Site Share The Same Stigmas & Why We Should Rethink Our Judgements
https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-bppsv-142fb5c
The B-Sides: A Partner’s Reaction to a Herpes Outbreak- Both Mine AND His
https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-69hxw-13beff8
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Consider this your formal invitation to my pity party. In this episode I sit down to discuss why I have had such a hard time producing more podcast episodes, how I like to indulge at my pity parties, and how I am learning to show up- even when I absolutely don't want to.
We all have moments, some longer than others, where we just can't. We just can't cope. We just can't put on a happy face. We just can't see the bright side of things. I am here to tell you that that is absolutely ok. But, does that mean that we should just not show up at all? No. Join me in exploring what a pity party looks like, and when is the time to end the party.
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The silent treatment seems like a childish game...but it can have a heartbreaking effect on a person. It's easy to want to just ignore an uncomfortable situation, maybe you want to prove to your partner that your mad, so you will just ignore them, or maybe you become like a turtle in the face of discomfort and hide in your shell.
Whatever the reason, it can be easy to forget what the effect of the silent treatment can do to a person. If you have anxiety, and then layer on a dose of the silent treatment.... oof. It's a tornado of overthinking and panic.
In this episode I discuss why silence is not a boundary, and what simple steps you can take to step away from a situation in a healthy way, to allow yourself time to think before having as discussion. I also share my history with the silent treatment- both giving it and receiving it, and how I have worked to get better with my communication skills.
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"Hey, I know it's been a while since we've talked, and I'm really sorry to send you a message like this, but I just tested positive for chlamydia, so you should probably go get tested and see if you need meds."
No one wants to get a message like this. It's no fun sending that message either. But if you have sex, and especially unprotected sex, there is always a chance that you will send or receive one that is similar to this. And what do you do when that day comes?
In this episode you will join me as I process my own recent positive chlamydia test result and how it has effected me emotionally, what my conversations surrounding it looked like, and how my partner reacted to the news. Spoiler alert...it wasn't great.
I will shared how I told a past partner, my fears of telling my current partner, and how we can manage our emotions surrounding news like this while still showing respect to our partners. There are ways to express our anger and fears while still holding space for the other person.
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Sexless relationships is a topic that is not discussed often enough. So many couples suffer silently behind closed doors embarrassed to discuss a problem that a surprising amount of couples are going through.
Inspired by a listener question inquiring if it is ok to look for sex elsewhere if his wife is no longer interested in sex, I explore what can cause a sexless relationship, the effects it can have, and what the solution is. I reflect on my own experience in a marriage that suffered from close to a decade of no intimacy and how it still effects me now in my dating life.
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Welcome back to part two of the episode where I share with you what women wish that more men knew about sex. Part two brings the conclusion of the list, sharing simple things that you can do to help improve your sex life with your partner.
While this list is compiled from research on what women wish men knew, it is important to understand that many of these tips can apply to all of us. Many times, there are small things that we haven't even taken into consideration, that if we can work to improve upon, can dramatically improve the connection that we have with our partners.
So set your egos aside for this episode, have an open mind, and take notes on how to make some simple changes to improve your sex life!
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All of our egos can get pretty attached to our sex lives. It can be hard to think that maybe you could be doing something better. Or maybe even LOTS of things better. I know it can be hard. But if you are able to set your ego aside and listen with an open mind, you might find some simple ways to improve your sexual encounters.
This episode is NOT an episode to make men feel bad. The intention is not to make you feel like you are being picked on, or being made to feel as if you are lacking in the bedroom. Because listen, if you don't know what you may be missing, how can you even know to even fix it?
I'm here to show you some things that you may be missing in the bedroom. Some are small changes that will make your partner smile, others I hope you truly think about and try to improve on, because if you do? I promise you, your partner will be ecstatic. In part one of this episode I will explore topics that range from kissing to trimming your nails, taking those damn socks off, and learning to realize there is no ONE main event when it comes to sex.
State tuned for part two, and if you have any suggestions you would like to add to the conversation you can send me a message anonymously at the following link: https://ngl.link/tera_vee
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Welcome to another Listener Questions 5 in 5! In these episodes I answer 5 randomly selected listener questions, each answered in five minutes or less.
In this installment I cover everything from what BDSM is, to advice on how a couple can bring a third person into the bedroom. If you want your questioned featured on a Pretty Uncomfortable episode you can reach out to me anonymously HERE: https://ngl.link/tera_vee or send me a DM on Instagram @prettyuncomfortablepodcast
Episode Question Line-Up:
1:10 - "BDSM" I define what BDSM is, and remind you that perhaps the stigmatized image that you have in your head of what you think BDSM is, is actually wrong. I also share a link for a wonderful test to see where you stand in the world of BDSM. www.bdsmtest.org
7:10 - "You are more amazing than sliced bread". Yes, perhaps sometimes I troll my own question prompts. I'm my own biggest fan, what can I say?!
7:58 - "Would you do a long distance relationship?" I discuss why a long distance relationship would not work for me while also enjoying a little bit of distance from my partners.
11:33 - "Girlfriend has hinted that she may want to try involving another woman with us when we are intimate but both of us are unsure on how to go about it." I will share the most important thing that you need to do before introducing a third person into your dynamic.
16:50 - "How do you recommend getting started in the "spicy links" community?" *"spicy links" refers to adult content sites. I discuss the motivation to get into adult content, the risks, and what I believe is one of the most important "rules" if you enter into creating adult content.
These episodes continue to be some of my favorite! I love the element of being unprepared and never knowing what is coming next! Let's keep the fun going and send me your questions to be featured in an episode
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This B-Side is a companion to Ep. 36 "Butt Plugs; Plugging Into Pleasure: A Beginner's Guide To Looking Past The Taboo And Exploring The Pleasure Potentials Of Butt Plugs"
In episode 36 I wanted to make sure that you understood that playing with plugs does not automatically mean you need to explore any further than that. I wanted to make sure you can do this, and not feel like you have to do THAT.
But for those that do want to explore further, and get their bodies ready for a pleasurable experience with anal sex, this episode is for you! This B-Side is dedicated to the anal training guide that was created by John Romaniello, who you can find on Instagram at the handle @johnromaniello. Whether he wants the guide to be his legacy or not...I'm not sure if he has much of a choice! The man is known for his guide, and so many of his followers swear by it.
So, what IS an anal training guide? With the use of butt plugs, this guide will help you to become accustomed to the new sensations in order to move on to anal sex without the dreaded discomfort that you may be fearing.
So grab a notebook and a pen, and grab a seat as I present to you a three week guide to booty bliss!
Full credit to the anal training guide goes to John Romaniello. Guide is shared with permission.
John Romaniello's Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/johnromaniello/
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When it comes to sexual taboos, any kind of anal play it right there at the top of the list. Sheesh, just saying the word anal can lead to embarrassment, judgment, and awkwardness.
The opinions on anal play can be very polarizing- they love it or they hate it, but rarely do you hear someone in the in-between. It is easy to have a quick reaction of "No" when you are presented with any play that involves the backdoor, especially when those taboos have been shoved in our faces for so long. But here's what I want you to know- anal play can be so much fun, and bring you new sensations that you have never experienced before. And you can hate anal sex, yet love anal play. Confusing, right? I know. I used to think if I hated one, there could be no way that I would love the other....I was wrong. Let me show you why.
In this episode I explore the world of butt plugs for beginners, and remind you that just because it's taboo, it doesn't mean it isn't fun! Here's the thing with taboo things like anal play...more people than you think are enjoying it, they're just too uncomfortable to talk about it. That's what you've got me for!
Get ready to learn all things butt plugs- WHO they are for, WHY they can feel so good, WHAT kind of plugs are out there for you to explore, and HOW do you explore with your new toy?
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In part 2 of "My Journey To Madness" we pick up where we left off from part 1. After a long and violent day, I find myself on the way to the emergency room, where I know I will inevitably then be sent to be admitted into a mental health facility. I bring you through the degrading process of being admitted into the facility, the dramatic decisions I made for myself once I got home, and how I chose to find the good within all of the wreckage.
In this episode I explore the ways that we ignore ourselves, and others, when we choose to stay in a relationship that we know we should end, how a poem that once brought me incredible sadness transformed into a permanent reminder of my beauty, and my belief that sometimes we need to break to an unrecognizable degree in order to become who we really are.
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***SUICIDE PREVENTION RESOURCES***
Never be afraid to reach out for help- it’s the bravest thing you will ever do…
Suicide Hotline- CLICK HERE https://988lifeline.org
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In honor of premiering the first episode under the new name, The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast, I chose to get, well.....uncomfortable.
In this raw and vulnerable episode I share a story that I have never publicly shared before. One that is, quite honestly, filled with a lot of shame and embarrassment, but also a story that is important to tell.
In this episode I share my journey through my darkest days. It is a difficult story to tell, but it carries so many themes that we can all relate to- toxic relationships, carrying burdens alone, difficult decisions, loss and death, and finding ourselves lost.
I share with you a story that begins when the covid shutdowns began, where in the midst of a quickly deteriorating relationship I am faced with the unexpected death of my mother, my biggest support system. Under the weight of numerous traumas, combined with a sleep-deprived mind and a malnourished body, my mind hit a breaking point.
As things began to pile up and I could no longer bear the weight, things came to an explosive head on one fateful day that would change my life, and who I was, forever.
***SUICIDE PREVENTION RESOURCES***
Never be afraid to reach out for help- it’s the bravest thing you will ever do…
Suicide Hotline- CLICK HERE https://988lifeline.org
Suicide Prevention Resources- CLICK HERE
https://sprc.org
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"What?! YOU'RE single? I don't believe it!"
"You're too good looking to be single!"
"What is someone like you doing single? That seems impossible!"
When did being single become such a terrible, shocking thing? And WHY? For many, being single shows strength. Strength that they are making their way through this crazy world, solo. For staying true to themselves and not settling for anything less than what they deserve. And YET. Many people will have a tone that quietly whispers with pity as they question why you are still single.
Referencing back to Episode 7 "Being Single On Valentine's Day" I discuss the difference with wanting a relationship, and needing a relationship, and why it is absolutely ok to be picky. Inspired by someone making one of the above comments to me after I talked about spending my weekends alone, I hopped onto the dating apps, camera recording, to bring you on my journey of swiping, so you could bear witness to my choice to be single.
Sometimes, the dating world is just....rough. Sometimes our options are....limited. And sometimes, we just do not feel like dating. And again, THAT IS OK! Come join the conversation in this fun and lighthearted look at being the single friend, the joys of dating apps, choosing not to settle, and the friendly reminder to recognize your single friends for all that they are!
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5 listener questions randomly selected, each answered in 5 minutes.
In this episode I randomly select five questions that were sent from YOU! This was a fun episode that discussed everything from depression after a major surgery to how to get more confident with re-entering the dating world, and if I would sell pictures of my feet. Enjoy this mix of personal stories and advice. I enjoyed making this episode for you. I love the variety of serious and silly...I would expect nothing less from my little weirdos!
3:37 #1. How Is Life After Surgery?
I discuss how life after a major back surgery took me by surprise with unexpected depression and self image issues.
8:30 #2. How Do You Force Yourself Back Into The Dating Scene When You're Nervous About Jumping Back In?
I share ways to beat the nerves when you are getting back into the dating world, why I get diarrhea before dates, and things that I do that have helped me in my dating journey.
13:34 #3. Do I Ever Consider Talking With Someone On Here (social media)?
This is a question that I get a LOT. I share my feelings on this topic, if I have ever met anyone that slid into my DMs, and why it makes me uncomfortable.
18:51 #4. Do I Like Younger Guys?
Am I cougar? Absolutely. Let me tell you why I have a preference for men younger than me, what the largest age gap was of someone I dated, and what my favorite age is.
23:53 #5. Do I Sell Feet Pics?
Learn why you very rarely see the feet of adult content creators when they post on social media, my thoughts on selling pictures of my own feet, and what shoe size is.
This was a fun episode to record! I loved the unpredictability of not knowing where the discussion would go, and I love all the questions you are submitting! Be sure to send me a DM on Instagram @tera_vee with any questions you would like me to discuss, or click the link below and you can send them anonymously.
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Welcome to another B-Side episode!
In this B-Side I revisit episode 29, where I discussed how difficult it can be for me to be complimentary to a partner. How I struggle with the feelings that come up when I show kindness to a partner. And how I was proud of myself for working to change that.
Episode 29 aired on a Monday morning and then, that evening, I got a call that immediately pushed me right back into the headspace of saying fuck vulnerability. Fuck showing affection. This is why I stay guarded.
In this B-Side I share that though we can try so hard, and make so much progress, we can just as quickly fall back into old patterns...and that is OK! I share that I sometimes struggle with practicing what I preach, and how being not dumped but definitely dumped made me want to run back to my old thought processes.
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Imagine this: you start a podcast. You brainstorm with a friend and end up with the most amazing name for your podcast. You love it. You want to roll around in it, fold it up and put it in your pocket to take it with you everywhere, you want to live inside the name. Ok ok, maybe I got a little excitable there, but you get the point. I love my podcast name.
Pretty In Kink debuted in January 2023. I sit here today, a mere six months later, and I am planning a re-brand. WHAT the hell am I thinking??? Welcome to this B-Side episode, otherwise known as my informal staff meeting with all my Pretty In Kink weirdos, where I discuss what in the world is going on in my head to bring me to this decision.
Have I boxed myself in with the name Kink? Am I excluding listeners? Will I be limited to who will sponsor me, have me as a guest, or be a guest here? Am I going against absolutely everything I have been talking about by running from a controversial name?
Get your butt in this meeting so you can share your input (spoiler alert...I may not take your advice, but I still want to hear it!) and tell me if I am being crazy. Also, there are donuts and coffee in the break room and I will pay you overtime for attending the meeting.
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Hey you! Yes, you. Look at you looking all gooood over there. You are looking GOOD today, has anyone told you that yet today? Hopefully they have...but I probably haven't. Over the years I have struggled with the simple act of complimenting my partners. It has created problems that should have been easy to fix...just give a damn compliment. Yet I couldn't.
I would be overwhelmed with the feeling of embarrassment if I tried to give a compliment. It left me with a feeling that I didn't like and so I started sitting with that, trying to figure out where that feeling was coming from, and WHY.
In this episode while discussing the importance of complimenting our partners, I take you on my journey as I start to realize where my reluctance to give a compliment comes from, how difficult past relationships shaped this habit, and how I have been working to tell you more often just how damn sexy I really think you are. Because dammmmn you're sexy!
Join the conversation as I discuss how a narcissist's behavior helped to shape this poor habit, how a history of being cheated on stopped me from giving affection, and why complimenting partners left me feeling so vulnerable.
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The classic friends with benefits scenario: have a friend, add some fun, and throw in a few orgasms with zero commitment. What could possibly go wrong?
A broken heart is sitting on the sidelines, just waiting to be called into the game. But I'm here to say that there is also the argument that a FWB arrangement can be exactly what someone needs to GROW their heart. To learn how to practice connection without that scary thing called commitment.
In this episode I discuss why someone may benefit from this type of sexual relationship, what the pros and cons are, and how to enter into a FWB relationship while ensuring that that sweet little heart of yours stays protected. I share my personal stories with how I have handled FWB relationships- why I chose this structure as an intentional way to date, when it went great for me, and when it left me crying into a bowl of ice cream.
Psssst...you may also want to stick around for the bloopers. I seem to have been in rare form during this recording, so if you need a little smile, bloop bloop!
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The G-Spot. Is it real? Is it not? Do we care?
In this episode we explore the history of this elusive erogenous zone, and HOW to explore it. Once you find it, your partner (or yourself) may be screaming omGGGG!
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You have herpes. You KNOW sooo many other people have it. YET. You are still too nervous to openly discuss it with people in your life because you have heard the jokes, the judgements, the stigmas that make you feel embarrassed of something that is incredibly common.
You create adult content for the popular platform, OnlyFans. You know there are MILLIONS of others that also create on the site, and even more that purchase the content. YET. You keep that side of your life hidden from so many people because you have heard the jokes, felt the judgement from people that you thought loved you.
Stigmas can be a heavy weight to carry. And somehow it feels even heavier when you KNOW you are not alone, yet everyone still keeps themselves hidden in the shadows.
In this episode I discuss how herpes and the adult content platform OnlyFans share more similarities than you may expect, and why it is important for us to learn to quiet our judgements when they arise so that we can look past them to see that there is so much more than what meets the eye.
Join me as I discuss why the title of an article angered me and set in motion the comparisons that formed this episode, why I avoid telling people about my own adult content, and how ridiculously common both of these topics actually are
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