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  • Why are writers for The Gospel Coalition coming after the dad in the cartoon series Bluey? He’s an involved dad who loves his kids. Why are they so offended? Rick Pidcock joins Rebecca and Connor Lindenbach for a deep dive—and then Rebecca and Connor talk more about our anemic view of fatherhood.

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    Things Mentioned

    Rick Pidcock’s article about coming after BlueyJeremy Pryor’s article about Bluey turning fathers into mothersRick Pidcock's blog

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  • Christa Brown was sexually assaulted dozens of times by her youth pastor when she was 15. She was made to repent and apologize to his wife. The pastor just got moved around from church to church for decades. When Christa’s daughter reached the same age Christa was when she was assaulted, she went public—and started the movement to push the SBC towards accountability for the sexual abuse crisis in their midst. She’s written a memoir called BaptistLand, and today we talk about Christa’s fight—and how SBC megachurch pastors today are still demonizing “little girls” rather than holding men accountable.

    THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST:

    Pick up our Great Sex Rescue Tookit—to help start important conversations to those close to you

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    IMPORTANT LINKS:

    Christa Brown’s book BaptistLandChrista on TwitterChrista on SubstackRead the Guideposts reportThe original Houston Chronicle articleNews article about the amicus brief filed by SBC entities AGAINST a sexual assault victimJosh Howerton sermon clipSee the documentary For Our DaughtersFollow the Sons of Patriarchy podcast about Doug Wilson on Spotify

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  • Talking to your kids about sex & puberty is awkward! And over the years the church has made some big mistakes. Today we talk about how to avoid the biggest ones--and some encouragement for how to do this with as little awkwardness as possible.

    OUR SEX AND PUBERTY COURSE:

    Check out our revamped version of The Whole Story--our sex and puberty course for parents to share with kids. It's video-based, and it makes covering all the info much easier. It's on sale until Monday, October 28 at midnight.

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    THINGS MENTIONED:

    Our book She Deserves Better

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    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

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  • We aren’t going to fix the abuse crisis in the church until we deal with the underlying beliefs that actually enable abuse. Today Kristin Kobes Du Mez joins us to talk about her new documentary For Our Daughters, which shows how beliefs about gender, power and politics that are rampant in the church actually contribute to abuse. And Pastor Trey Ferguson joins us to comment on a recent article he wrote explaining how evangelicalism’s views of sex, which ignore intimacy, contribute to abuse too.

    OUR SPONSOR:

    Dr. Camden’s wonderful new book Recovering from Purity Culture launches this week! Learn the 5 myths of purity culture, how they affected you, and best of all—how to heal from them. Highly practical and insightful!

    Plus Sheila wrote the foreword!

    https://drcamden.com/book/

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    THINGS MENTIONED:

    Check out our Hazardous Materials stickers to go on your books!Kristin’s documentary For Our DaughtersThe website for the filmJesus and John WaynePastor Trey’s article on Reframing SexTrey Ferguson’s Online ChurchTrey Ferguson’s book Theologizin’ BiggerAndy Savage’s bio on his new church’s websiteMy video about Andy Savage not returning to ministry

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  • We know purity culture hurt so many of us. But how do we actually move on and recover from purity culture? Today Dr. Camden Morgante joins us to look at the 5 myths of purity culture, and how to heal and get to the other side!

    OUR FREE WEBINAR!

    Join Rebecca and me as we host Camden for a FREE webinar looking more into these myths, where we find them, and where we go from here! It'll be a super fun hour with some prizes, games, and lots of inside scoop!

    Monday, October 14, 8 pm EST. Sign up here

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    THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST:

    Dr. Camden's book Recovering from Purity CultureGet Dr. Camden's pre-order bonuses!Follow Dr. Camden onlineFind Dr. Camden on Instagram

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

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    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

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    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  • Ever heard the stat from “a recent study” that found that, when a husband comes to Christ first, in 93% of cases the wife and kids follow, but when the wife comes to Christ first, it’s only 17%? Today Beth Allison Barr and Miranda Zapor Cruz, both academics looking into gender relations in church, join me to try to track down the source. Spoiler alert: People seem to have made this up about 30 years ago—and they keep quoting it! We look at what happens when churches assume this stat is true.

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    THINGS MENTIONED:

    Miranda Zapor Cruz’: The Myth of the 93% Julie Roys’ podcast with Amanda CunninghamTim Clinton ClipDanny Akin citing the “stat” Josh Howerton clip (around 20:15)J.D. Greear clip The Baptist Press articleThe Orthodox Barbie clip The Christ Church of the Valley handbook with the “stat” Matt Chandler saying he preaches to men: (around 36-37 minutes)

    ABOUT MIRANDA ZAPOR CRUZ:

    Find Miranda Zapor Cruz on Facebook Order her book Faithful Politics

    ABOUT BETH ALLISON BARR:

    Find Beth Allison Barr on Threads Pre-order Becoming t

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  • We're all about healthy advice for marriage and sex. But what if evangelical teachings around parenting have also been messed up? And how can we parent in a healthy way? David and Amanda Erickson join us to talk about their new book The Flourishing Family, based on Scripture, brain science, attachment theory, and more. THIS is how we should parent!

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    THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST

    The Flourishing FamilyFollow David and Amanda on InstagramFollow them on FacebookThe clip of the Baptist pastor talking about spankingOur post where we look at the research about spankingPre-Order The Marriage You Want (our new book coming in March!)

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  • The evangelical world has an orgasm gap of 47 points between husbands and wives. Only 48% of women orgasm almost always or always, and 33% orgasm never or rarely.

    The good news is that if you're in that 33%--you can still get to the 48%!

    Today Rebecca and I look back at all the other episodes we've talked about orgasms, and have a great time discussing how we can learn to help couples prioritize her pleasure!

    THE ORGASM COURSE

    It's on sale until Monday, September 23 at midnight! When you purchase the regular course, you'll get the men's version added for free!

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    Things Mentioned in the Podcast

    The Great Sex RescueEpisode 74: You're Not Broken if Orgasm Is ElusiveEpisode 92: All about OrgasmsEpisode 129: Where Emerson Eggerichs Ignores Marital Rape (and doesn't understand women's arousal)Episode 222: How Sex Is Like Chef BoyardeeEpisode 168: The Myth of the Magic Penis

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  • We know it’s not all men who are predators. But it’s far too many. And a recent horrible court case in France is reminding women all over the world that far too many men are willing and eager to do the unthinkable. The only way to tell who is safe is to look at their words and their actions. And the words of far too many evangelical leaders and authors and pastors are straight up rape culture. After what happened to Gisele Pelicot, I’m not willing to put up with it anymore. No more Every Man’s Battle rape culture mindset in the church!

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    LINKS

    Our Sponsor:

    Rebecoming: Come Out of Hiding to Live as Your God-Given Essential Self.
    This amazing book is one of the best I’ve read to explain basic counseling concepts, and gives you practical exercises to work through as you try to get unstuck. Highly recommend!

    Things Mentioned

    The 7 Point Evangelical Confession of 2024Josh Howerton’s sermon clipA synopsis of the horrible ordeal of Gisele PelicotThe Great Sex RescueThe Great Sex Rescue ToolkitThe Every Man’s Battle one sheet downloadCoinswallow's post on Instagram


    Check out Sheila's books:

    The Great Sex RescueShe Deserves BetterThe Good Girl's Guide to Great Sexand The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

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    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

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    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  • It’s a complete therapy session—in one book and one podcast! Dr. Merry Lin joins us to explain why we so often feel stuck—and how to move forward. If you’ve been confused by terms like trauma, attachment theory, the Stone Age brain, and more, Dr. Merry Lin joins us for a primer that can help us get unstuck—and rebecome who we were meant to be!

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    About Dr. Merry Lin:

    See her book RebecomingFind Dr. Merry’s websiteFind Dr. Merry on Instagram


    THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST:

    The Orgasm CourseSelf Awareness Test

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

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    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

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  • What does it look like to actually grow like Christ? Like, not from a sermon, or not from some lofty retreat, but just in the here and now? Can we actually grow “holier”? A beautiful conversation with Karen Stiller, author of the book Holiness Here. We tackle envy, joy, contentment—and even grief, as she shares about processing the death of her husband.

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    ABOUT KAREN

    Find Karen’s book Holiness HereFind the article Karen wrote about grief


    THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST:

    The post I wrote for Karen about what churches need todayJoin the Bare Marriage cruise, February 2025!The Orgasm CourseWe're in the midst of revamping The Whole Story, our sex and puberty course! If you purchase it now you can still work through it, and then you'll have access to the new one when it's out in two months. See Keith and me speak at a marriage conference in Lead, South Dakota, September 27 & 28



    Check out Sheila's books:

    The Great Sex RescueShe Deserves BetterThe Good Girl's Guide to Great Sexand The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

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    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

    And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  • Sheila and Rebecca are answering your questions today! We covered how to find a new church when you feel like church has let you down; how to start your sex life well; what to do when people don’t think purity culture was harmful; and so much more! And we throw data and nuance into the mix too.

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    OUR SPONSOR

    It's the Bible that lets girls see themselves in the story! The Kingdom Girls Bible from Zonderkidz--with profiles of all the women in the Bible (including many you may not have heard of!). It's an awesome Bible for girls 8-12--or for you too!

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    LINKS

    Download our rubric and scorecard for the problematic booksCheck out our Toolkit with handouts on all the toxic teachings, and moreThe Good Girl’s/Good Guy’s Guides to Great Sex (make them the engagement gifts!)The Great Sex RescueMy Instagram Channel where all the questions came fromLast week’s podcast on authoritarian controlPodcast from a Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist

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  • What if you discovered that marriage books like The Excellent Wife actually follows Steve Hassan's BITE model of cult indoctrination? And what if these marriage books were giving advice that mirrored coercive control?

    Bare Marriage podcast, episode 246, featuring Bethany Jantzi. Bethany did her thesis on coercive control, and today she shows us how these books use methods like: diminishing/devaluing personhood; undermining autonomy; creating psychological dependency; using a fear-based system of control; suppressing critical thinking; and conditioning compliance. And all of those things factor into abuse rates and coercive control. And we can do better than this!

    OUR SPONSOR:

    It's the Bible that lets girls see themselves in the story! The Kingdom Girls Bible from Zonderkidz--with profiles of all the women in the Bible (including many you may not have heard of!). It's an awesome Bible for girls 8-12--or for you too!


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    FIND BETHANY:
    Free From Control on Instagram
    Bethany's website: Free From Control

    THINGS MENTIONED:

    How God Sees Women by Terran Williams
    Marg Mowczko on Bible Interpretations
    Our Series on the Danvers Statement



    Timestamps

    0.11 Intro

    11.30 Complimentarianism

    18.24 God Knows Best

    31.50 Control and Domination

    40.10 Wife as a Training Ground

    59.30 Are We Under Undue Influence

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  • The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace sells like hotcakes in biblical counseling/ fundamentalist/ homeschooling circles, and even though it seems like a “fringe” book, it’s affecting tens of thousands of women. Today Marissa Burt and Tia Levings and I sit down to talk about the problems with this book that tells women they must obey their husbands and submit—no matter what.

    Our Sponsor:

    It's the Bible that lets girls see themselves in the story! The Kingdom Girls Bible from Zonderkidz--with profiles of all the women in the Bible (including many you may not have heard of!). It's an awesome Bible for girls 8-12--or for you too!

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Download our Onesheet on The Excellent WifeOur podcast on how Emerson Eggerichs misuses Scripture in Love & Respect Marissa’s post on 10 reasons parents have a hard time giving up spanking 4 Concerns with Biblical Counseling

    About Tia Levings:

    Tia’s book, The Well-Trained Wife Find Tia on Instagram and Substack (as The Anti-Fundamentalist)Listen to last week’s podcast with Tia

    About Marissa Burt:

    Find Marissa on Instagram and X Read Marissa’s Substack

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

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    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

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    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  • She went to a flagship SBC church. She wasn’t supposed to get sucked into fundamentalism. But Tia ended up being stuck in an abusive marriage, trying to fix things by following advice from Gothard and more. It made her sick. It made her hopeless. But finally she realized, no one else is going to rescue us. I have to do this for me and the kids. And she did. Her story is riveting, touching, and relevant. Listen to a Well-Trained Wife!

    Our Sponsor:

    It's the Bible that lets girls see themselves in the story! The Kingdom Girls Bible from Zonderkidz--with profiles of all the women in the Bible (including many you may not have heard of!). It's an awesome Bible for girls 8-12--or for you too!

    To Support Us:

    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    About Tia Levings:

    Tia’s book, The Well-Trained Wife Find Tia on Instagram and Substack (as The Anti-Fundamentalist)

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Tia's reel on Fundie Baby VoiceThe Dallas area pastors who have had to resign

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

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    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

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    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  • The evangelical church spends a lot of time giving modesty messages to girls. But we hardly ever talk about vanity--even though the Bible condemns it. Could it be that in all our talk about modesty, we're inadvertently promoting vanity? And perhaps we can't call out vanity, because our messages to boys essentially enable vanity. Join Rebecca and Sheila as we hash this one out!

    With thanks to our sponsor:

    If church was your place of deepest hurt, can you find peace and healing with Christ? Check out Ryan George's book Hurt and Healed by the Church

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    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Our book She Deserves BetterThe Instagram channel HerCherch with all the cartoonsOur Orgasm Course and Libido CourseOur podcast looking at the long-term effects of the modesty messageWhy is Dannah Gresh calling 8-year-old bellies intoxicating?Our one-sheet on Lies Young Women BelieveThe reel from Our Savior's ChurchThe side-by-side plagiarized apology from Josh Howerton




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  • Ever heard people say, "The Bible is crystal clear" or "if you don't believe that, you don't believe the Bible?" Quite often people equate their interpretation of the Bible with the Bible itself--with bad results. Today Scott Coley joins us to talk about his new book Ministers of Propaganda, and to look at how many evangelical leaders have used logical fallacies to keep themselves at the top of the power hierarchy. Plus let's look at how to get back to the way of Jesus!

    With thanks to our sponsor:

    If church was your place of deepest hurt, can you find peace and healing with Christ? Check out Ryan George's book Hurt and Healed by the Church

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    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Find Scott Coley's book Ministers of PropagandaFind Scott on XCheck out The Great Sex Rescue Toolkit

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    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

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    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  • What if the church hurt you terribly? Can you still heal? Today Ryan George joins us to talk about how his fundamentalist family covers up his father’s sexual abuse of others—and how Ryan eventually learned the truth and turned his father in. And then Ryan deconstructed so much of what he had been taught—and found the real Jesus. Join us as Ryan George talks about his book Hurt and Healed by the Church.

    About Ryan's Book

    Ryan’s book Hurt and Healed by the Church Find all of Ryan's books


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    Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

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    The Great Sex RescueShe Deserves BetterThe Good Girl's Guide to Great Sexand The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

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    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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    Check out her books:

    The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

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    Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

  • What happens when your family gets sucked into fundamentalism, and your father insists on controlling your life, including who you will marry? You grow up under Christian patriarchy, and you experience serious emotional abuse. Today Cait West joins us to talk about her absolutely beautiful memoir Rift, about how and why she had to break free. Then Keith and I talk about why people are deconstructing, and why it’s so desperately important to listen to stories like Cait’s.

    About Cait West:

    Find Cait’s book RiftFind Cait on Twitter and Threads


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    Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

    Our post on 8 things to know about deconstructionOur book The Great Sex Rescue The Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to help people understand why certain teachings hurt people

    Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

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  • People who deconstruct are often accused of never believing in the first place, or of just wanting to sin. But those who deconstruct are often those who have been hurt the most by toxic teachings. Today Sarah McCammon joins us to talk about who are “ex-vangelicals”, and her own story of deconstruction. And then Keith and I talk about what it means to create a safe and just community that honors people’s fears, betrayals, and concerns.

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    Our book She Deserves BetterThe Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to help people understand why certain teachings hurt peopleMarg Mowczko's site analyzing the biblical passages pertaining to womenThe saga of Robert Morris’ abuse, from Dee at Wartburg Watch who broke the story Larry Linn’s Twitter thread about righteousness

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