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Tired of getting tangled in your own words? Overcomplicating it? Asking "Does that make sense?" at the end of every sentence? Discover why you can't stop talking (even though you REALLY want to), the science behind overexplaining for perfectionists, how overexplaining is harmful to your health mentally, emotionally and physically, and why its a coping skill you want to retire ASAP.
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Understanding the Science Behind Overexplaining
Resources Mentioned In Episode 244:Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private CoachingImpeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202Interoception + Self-Regulation Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 194Inner Critic Be-Gone Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 212Emotional Overexplaining Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 173Proving Yourself At Work Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 232 Citations/Sources:
02:24-Why Perfectionists Are More Likely To Overexplain
05:18-Control Tactics and Overexplaining
08:46-Self Worth vs. Self Esteem
12:32-The Emotional Charge Behind Overexplaining
14:02-Toll of Overexplaining on Mental + Physical Health
16:18-How Interoception Kills The Need To Overexplain
20:39-TRUTH BOOTH What Overexplaining Really Is
22:33-Steps to Resilience and Reducing OverexplainingBarrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews. Neuroscience, 16(7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950
Price, C. J., & Hooven, C. (2018). Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Frontiers in Psychology, 9. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798
Ventura-Bort, C., Wendt, J., & Mathias Weymar. (2021). The Role of Interoceptive Sensibility and Emotional Conceptualization for the Experience of Emotions. Frontiers in Psychology, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.712418
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Craving Certainty? That need to be absolutely, undeniably, 100% sure before making a move? You’re not alone. In this episode, I unravel why the struggle of dealing with uncertainty holds high performance perfectionists back, how to recognize it in your own life and take control of the fear uncertainty and doubt (so it stops controlling you!). You’ll discover practical strategies to break free from the cage of high uncertainty avoidance and gain the confidence to move forward, even before every detail is known.
Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
TIMESTAMPS:00:00-High Uncertainty Avoidance
Resources Mentioned In Episode 243:Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private CoachingImpeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202
00:40-What Perfectionists ARE Secretly in Control Of
01:36-Why Perfectionists Crave Certainty
02:21-Examples of Uncertainty
03:39-The Myth of Ironclad Certainty
04:47-Uncertainty Tolerance is a Learnable Skill
05:34-Making Good Decisions
06:50-Moving Forward Even When You Don't Know The Outcome
07:27-Rewiring Perfectionism from the Inside OutCitations/Sources:
Anderson, E. C., R. Nicholas Carleton, Diefenbach, M., & Paul. (2019). The Relationship Between Uncertainty and Affect. Frontiers in Psychology, 10. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02504Reis-Dennis, S., Gerrity, M. S., & Geller, G. (2021). Tolerance for Uncertainty and Professional Development: a Normative Analysis. Journal of General Internal Medicine, 36(8), 2408–2413. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11606-020-06538-ySeif, M. N., & Winston, S. M. (2019). Needing to Know For Sure: A CBT-Based Guide to Overcoming Compulsive Checking and Reassurance Seeking . New Harbinger Publications.
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Are You Waiting for the Right Time? It’s time to stop waiting for the perfect time. Feeling 100% ready (or whatever ideal set of conditions you’ve been waiting for) is an illusion that keeps you from taking charge of your life right now. Learn how to recognize if you’re giving your power over to ideal circumstances and how to take control.
Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for the right time won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
Resources Mentioned In Episode 241:Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private CoachingImpeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202Citations/Sources:
Leclerc, F., Schmitt, B. H., & Dube, L. (1995). Waiting Time and Decision Making: Is Time like Money? Journal of Consumer Research, 22(1), 110–110. https://doi.org/10.1086/209439Osuna, E. E. (1985). The psychological cost of waiting. Journal of Mathematical Psychology, 29(1), 82–105. https://doi.org/10.1016/0022-2496(85)90020-3 -
Ever wish you had more confidence? Too many driven perfectionists wait for more confidence before making bold moves, mistaking insecurity for preparation. But waiting is killing your confidence slowly. 'm clearing up all the confusion around getting more confidence so you can stop waiting for it to show up and giving you the exact formula to get more confidence today!
Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more confidence on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
Resources Mentioned In Episode 241:Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private CoachingImpeccable Boundaries Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 239Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202Citations/Sources:
Bandura, A. (1977). Self-efficacy: Toward a unifying theory of behavioral change. Psychological Review, 84(2), 191–215. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.84.2.191Katie Stringer Lucero, & Chen, P. (2020). What Do Reinforcement and Confidence Have to Do with It? A Systematic Pathway Analysis of Knowledge, Competence, Confidence, and Intention to Change. Journal of European CME, 9(1), 1834759–1834759. https://doi.org/10.1080/21614083.2020.1834759
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Lifelong learner but not taking bold action? I used to wait for more time, more confidence, more certainty, more information, more money and more support. Then I’d get MORE of what I was waiting for….and still find excuses to keep waiting. Until one day I quit waiting for more. Find out why perfectionists love to wait for more, precisely how this keeps you stuck and what happens IRL when perfectionists stop waiting for more information.
Ready to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create? Waiting for more on the sidelines won't get you there. Uncover how to joyfully play in the arena of your life by rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching that gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
Resources Mentioned In Episode 240:Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching
Fixed Mindset Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 234
Unlearning Learned Helplessness Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 202
6 Self-Sabotaging Patterns Perfectionists Unknowingly Nurture Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 215
The Sneaky High Performance Habit Holding You Back Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 140
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Imagine feeling empowered, calm and grounded. You trust yourself. The incessant judgey voice in your head has been replaced with a witty, encouraging narrator. Your relationships built on truth. You say no to stuff you don’t want to do, without explanation. You take care of yourself FIRST. You've upgraded from exhausted to excited. Want that to be your reality? It starts with Impeccable Boundaries. Listen to learn how to create your own Impeccable Boundaries
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
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- Can impeccable boundaries actually exist in relationships with unconditional love?
- Impeccable Boundary vs Ineffective Boundary
- how do you actually go about creating impeccable boundaries
- Why it's more challenging for a perfectionistic person to have impeccable boundaries.
- Perks of impeccable boundaries
- How who/what hurts you, can't heal you
Resources Mentioned In Episode 239:Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching
More You Control, Less Powerful You Feel Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 196
Care-ing vs Carrying Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 202
Everything You Need To Know About Self-Regulation As A Perfectionist Perfectionism Optimized Ep. 194 -
Just as you finally get everything under control, life throws you ANOTHER curve ball. Seems like no matter what you do, you never get a moment of peace bc It’s Always Something. Discover exactly how to break down the elusive barriers that perpetually seem to get in the way of perfectionists and equip you with practical tools to let go of the chaos so you can navigate life’s unexpected twists without getting overwhelmed.
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
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How where you source your confidence from determines how well you adapt to life's surprisesWhy resourcing yourself mentally, emotionally + physically enables you to handle unexpected challenges like a proThe secret to stop feeling like everything is always on your shoulders (this is way better than deep breaths) Resources Mentioned In Episode 238:Neuroplasticity (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 178)
Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 Private Coaching
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Green, C. S., & Bavelier, D. (2008). Exercising your brain: A review of human brain plasticity and training-induced learning. Psychology and Aging, 23(4), 692–701. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014345Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3Levine, S. (2003). Psychological and social aspects of resilience: a synthesis of risks and resources. Dialogues in Clinical Neuroscience, 5(3), 273–280. https://doi.org/10.31887/dcns.2003.5.3/slevine -
Discover why being proud of yourself is a mission critical skill for all perfectionists and how to rewire your brain to see your value. Un-learn the misconceptions currently getting in the way of you being proud of you and how to exit the inadequacy cycle. Thinking I don't have anything to be proud of? I'm giving you 5 reasons that you can be proud of yourself + the tool I use everyday to be proud of myself NO MATTER HAT I have or haven't accomplished.
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Perfectionists + Valuing Yourself Beyond Achievements
01:52-Upgrading From "Being Successful to Be Proud Of You"
03:15-Why being proud is USEFUL SKILL for perfectionists
04:57-Living a life stuck in inadequacy
06:03-Fear of Losing Motivation if Proud Now
07:48-Finding something to be proud of: $3,000,000 challenge
08:31-Attaching productivity to proud aka POISON
09:50-Passive failing vs. active failing
11:17-Feeling proud without eradicating negative emotions
12:56-Shrinking the part of your brain that triggers stress
SOURCES REFERENCED In Ep. 237
Fischer, J. (2012). Being Proud and Feeling Proud: Character, Emotion, and the Moral Psychology of Personal Ideals. The Journal of Value Inquiry, 46(2), 209–222. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10790-012-9337-xNeff, K. D. (2009). The Role of Self-Compassion in Development: A Healthier Way to Relate to Oneself. Human Development, 52(4), 211–214. https://doi.org/10.1159/000215071Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997 -
Do compliments make you uncomfy? Tired of constantly achieving and never feeling satisfied? Discover the *real reason* you’re still chasing validation from other people (it has nothing to do with accomplishments or self-esteem) and how to stop relying on external praise + recognition. Perfectionism Optimized client, bravely shares her story of being an Oscar-winning superstar vying for attention, feeling undeserving of praise and constructing her whole life around getting approval (and avoiding rejection). Hear step-by-step how she dropped the fears of not being good enough + being judged by others, let go of needing anyone’s approval and rewired recognition on her own terms.
If you want to make sure the Approval Trap never trips you up again, and want proven, science-backed tools to become SO CERTAIN about the value you bring, become RESILIENT + RESOURCEFUL during your most stressful moments and finally feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside, you belong inside Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:Why Achievements Feel Empty and How to Change ThatHow lies we tell ourselves hold us back from seeing our own valuePractical steps to start giving yourself the praise you deserve. Resources Mentioned:Decoding Your Unconscious Motivational Patterns (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 80)Perfectionism Optimized: Patented, proven science-backed tools that help you take charge of your perfectionism and learn to celebrate your achievements the healthy way.Credible Scientific Sources Cited In Ep. 236
Burton, K. D., Lydon, J. E., D'Alessandro, D. U., & Koestner, R. (2006). The differential effects of intrinsic and identified motivation on well-being and performance: Prospective, experimental, and implicit approaches to self-determination theory. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 91(4), 750-762. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.91.4.750Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2015). Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination in Human Behavior. SpringerLink. https://doi.org/10.1007-978-1-4899-2271-7Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997 -
Tired of thinking about work during family time? Feeling guilty whenever work takes you away from your family? Learn step-by-step how to LET GO OF GUILT. Perfectionism Optimized client Nicole shares how she went from mom guilt overload to missing her kids' first day of school and her entire family celebrating it. Also, discover the why behind your guilt, cost of continuing to carry guilt and how other approaches to stop feeling guilty simply *don't work* for perfectionists.
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
Credible Scientific Sources Cited in Ep. 235:Flynn, F. J., & Schaumberg, R. L. (2012). When feeling bad leads to feeling good: Guilt-proneness and affective organizational commitment. Journal of Applied Psychology, 97(1), 124–133. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0024166Schaumberg, R. L., & Flynn, F. J. (2012). Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown: The link between guilt proneness and leadership. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 103(2), 327–342. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0028127Wiltermuth, S. S., & Cohen, T. R. (2014). “I’d only let you down”: Guilt proneness and the avoidance of harmful interdependence. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 107(5), 925–942. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0037523 -
You've been thinking about fear of failure all wrong. Get it right and find out what fear of failure is protecting you from, the underlying reasons behind fear of failure, the sneaky ways fear of failure shows up for perfectionists, what fear of failure really is (not good enough) why popular advice for overcoming fear of failure isn’t helpful for perfectionists and practical steps you can take today to dissolve this pattern.
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
Episode 234 Timestamps:00:57-Sneaky Ways Fear of Failure Shows Up For Perfectionists
02:32-What Are You Waiting For?
04:47-Protecting Subconscious Mind From Feeling Inadequate
05:40-Black and White Thinking
06:17-Fear of Inadequacy
07:44-Procrastination and Indecision
09:34-Surfing Through Fear of Failure
10:25-Growth vs Fixed Mindset
11:32-Cognitive Dissonance in Perfectionism
14:06-Solving and Evolving Through Mistakes
16:46-Discovering the Only Problem You Have + Solving It -
Ever feel like you're constantly walking a tightrope? Expected to be confident but not too intimidating. Be assertive, but don't get aggressive. As women in leadership we've developed coping mechanisms to navigate these obstacles - like over-preparing, always getting it right and making sure we're well liked. These strategies have kept us afloat, but at what cost? Putting our careers ahead of our values, keeping one eye on the inbox even at the playground. So, how do we break free from this cycle? How do we burn bright without burning out and lead without losing ourselves? Your answers are inside this episode. .
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
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Discover why proving yourself is career poison, how to recognize the hidden, nuanced ways proving shows up (like when you put $$ in tip jar) and what lies beneath this constant pressure to constantly prove yourself. Finally get to the source of why even when you're at the top of your game, what's driving you to overwork, question your value and seek validation at every turn.
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
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Did I make the wrong choice? Why does this bother me so much? Am I letting them down? What if I fail? Spinning in self-judgement and second guessing every small move you make, your brain won't stop replaying magnifying your mistakes. Find out the REAL reason your inner critic won't shut up and how to start asking better questions so you can feel better right NOW.
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
Resources Mentioned In Ep. 231Episode on the science of how your brain answers questions (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 39)Questions To Ask Yourself For Instant Excellence (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 23) -
Discover the clues you’re clenching that you’d NEVER GUESS are rooted in your perfectionistic tendencies. Plus how Perfectionism Optimized client Molly reversed her Osteoporosis diagnosis and regained her sex drive. Learn why we clench, what’s happening inside your body + brain, the 5 core pillars key to releasing the clench
You don't have to white knuckle your perfectionism. And if you feel like you are, I invite you to come coach with me 1-on-1 inside Perfectionism Optimized, where you'll learn how to take charge of your perfectionistic tendencies, which means you'll finally feel as awesome as your life looks and stop trying to control everyone in your orbit. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
Perfectionism Rewired ep. 411 on Fasciahttps://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/fascia-the-missing-puzzle-piece-for-perfectionists Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By:Chiara Ghetti, Skoczylas, L. C., Oliphant, S. S., Nikolajski, C., & Lowder, J. L. (2015). The Emotional Burden of Pelvic Organ Prolapse in Women Seeking Treatment. Female Pelvic Medicine & Reconstructive Surgery, 21(6), 332–338. https://doi.org/10.1097/spv.0000000000000190Khan, Z. A., C. Whittal, S. Mansol, Osborne, L. A., Reed, P., & Emery, S. (2013). Effect of depression and anxiety on the success of pelvic floor muscle training for pelvic floor dysfunction. Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, 33(7), 710–714. https://doi.org/10.3109/01443615.2013.813913Taple, B. J., Griffith, J. W., Weaver, C., & Kenton, K. S. (2020). Enhancing behavioral treatment for women with pelvic floor disorders: Study protocol for a pilot randomized controlled trial. Contemporary Clinical Trials Communications, 17, 100514–100514. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.conctc.2019.100514 -
Signs you’re programming your kids for anxiety without knowing it, how children pick up anxiety from perfectionistic parents, why traditional methods like therapy are 15x slower at achieving results, what *actually works* for caring, busy, perfectionist parents who want a physiology of excellence and how developing a physiology of excellence gives you unrivaled resilience, presence, and emotional intelligence
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
Perfectionism Rewired episode 411 on Fasciahttps://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/fascia-the-missing-puzzle-piece-for-perfectionists Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By:Bordoni, B., & Simonelli, M. (2018). The Awareness of the Fascial System. Curēus. https://doi.org/10.7759/cureus.3397Langevin, H. M. (2022). Making Connections to Improve Health Outcomes - Helene M. Langevin, 2022. Retrieved June 22, 2024, from Global Advances in Health and Medicine website: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2164957X221079792Lesondak, D. (2018, April 6). Fascia: What it is and Why it Matters. Retrieved June 22, 2024, from ResearchGate website: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/324261326_Fascia_What_it_is_and_Why_it_Matters
Preventing passing of anxiety to your kids starts with understanding how your own physiology affects theirs. Children are always parroting you, especially how you carry worry, anxiety and guilt. Making it vital to learn how to metabolize your emotions efficiently with daily practices instead of shutting down or sweeping it under the rug. Learn how implementing a daily hygiene practice, like the patented E.P.I.C. Skills framework, you free up energy for what matters most and create a healthier environment for your whole family. -
Fascia is the Wi-Fi of your insides, with over 250 million sensory receptors weaving through its matrix - it’s how emotions are made and where we feel our sensations, instincts and intuition. But if you tend to overthink, ruminate, catastrophize or stress out, you're compromising your fascia which impacts your body's ability to function optimally + think clearly. Discover why fascia is the missing puzzle piece for perfectionists and how to detect if there's dead zones in your own fascial network- where your sensations, instincts and intuition intersect.
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
EP 228 TIMESTAMPS:01:38-The Role of Fascia in Mental Clarity and Confidence
Truth + Accuracy Brought To You By:Bordoni, B., & Marelli, F. (2017). Emotions in Motion: Myofascial Interoception. Complementary Medicine Research, 24(2), 110–113. https://doi.org/10.1159/000464149Bordoni, B., & Simonelli, M. (2018). The Awareness of the Fascial System. Curēus. https://doi.org/10.7759/cureus.3397Fede, C., Petrelli, L., Guidolin, D., Porzionato, A., Pirri, C., Fan, C., … Stecco, C. (2021). Evidence of a new hidden neural network into deep fasciae. Scientific Reports, 11(1). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-021-92194-zPalomero-Gallagher, N., & Katrin Amunts. (2021). A short review on emotion processing: a lateralized network of neuronal networks. Brain Structure & Function, 227(2), 673–684. https://doi.org/10.1007/s00429-021-02331-7
02:10-Where fascia is found and its impact on your body
03:03-Fascia's Role in Breaking Generational Belief Patterns
04:06-How fascia sends and receives information at the speed of light
05:01-Wi-Fi of your Insights + Intuition
06:10-What Skin is to Touch, Fascia is to Your Feelings
07:25-How To 10x Your Emotional Intelligence
09:18-The flexibility of fascia for quick improvements
10:15-Benefits of upgrading your fascia's communication system.
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Stressed out, frustrated or having trouble sleeping? Stress is physiological for perfectionists and our physiological stress impacts our brain, our ability to speak, to think and our emotional agility. So if you want to have the ability to take charge of perfectionism, you gotta solve stress at the source. Bc you don't have time to do 20 minutes of deep breathing when stressors pop up, you need a personalized process that works instantaneously fast. And that's the first thing I teach Perfectionism Optimized clients, how to de-stress level in any moment, so they can get back in charge. Discover how to solve stress at the source and the exact clues to identify if you need a process to help you handle your stress ASAP.
Mentioned In This Episode:Why Perfectionists Burnout (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 176)When Deep Breaths Aren't Enough (Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 192)EP 227 TIMESTAMPS:
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Apply today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized00:00-The Most Important De-Stress Skill Nobody Taught You
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00:47-Why Intellectual Solutions Don't Ease Stress
02:10-The Impact of Stress on the Body's Systems
03:55-The Looming Shadow of Chronic Stress
06:38-Recognizing Stress Eruptions
07:30-Patterns of Self-Destructive Stress Behavior
09:48-Physical Manifestations of Unresolved Stress
11:17-Rewiring Perfectionistic Habits -
Racing through your days on hyper-speed but still not present for any of it? Discover how high-achieving architect Jessica went from pushing through "everything will be better once..." to being present during the most challenging time of her life, her mother’s passing. Hear from Jessica how Perfectionism Optimized coaching gave her the tools to stop the worry/wish cycle, metabolize her stress an handle excruciating times with confidence and grace, and why it's "the best thing I've ever done for myself, I think, in my entire life."
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
Episode 226 Timestamps:
00:41-Pushing Through: Super Ineffective Perfectionistic Strategy
01:32-Recognizing Pushing Through in Your Own Life
03:00-The Exhausting Game of "Whack a Mole"
04:54-Chasing the Illusion of "Once It Gets Better"
05:54-Living in Fast Forward or Slow Motion
07:58-Being Present For Meaningful Moments
09:04-Fueling Fierce Ambition in a Grounded Way
10:53-How To Be More Present -
Feeling like you can't relax on vacation? As perfectionists the way we relax is completely different than other people. Learn why and how to start relaxing on your own terms.
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
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Why You Can't Relax on VacationStep-by-step to stop putting pressure on yourselfHow to cultivate the skill of relaxingEpisode 225 Timestamps:
00:00-Why Perfectionists Struggle to Relax on Vacation
01:45-Athleticism of Relaxing: Training Your Mind to Unwind
05:41-How can I clear my mind and relax
06:50-Dissolve Pressure and Anxiety While Relaxing
08:53-Getting an A+ in Relaxing as a Perfectionist - Vis mere
