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In this episode, I sit down with Lily Sais, a former school psychologist turned registered Three Principles practitioner, whose journey has taken her from anxiety to a place of peace. Lily is passionate about helping others uncover the peace that already lies within them, beneath anxious thoughts (the peace that already lies withinâŠLOVE!)
We cover:
Why itâs important to stop focusing on whatâs wrong with youWhy seeking more information is not always usefulHow we can release the need to think and do more An analogy of anxious thoughts like a snow globe Lilyâs powerful definition of loveâŠand more!
For more of Lilyâs work:
https://www.peace-from-within.com/pfwcommunity
https://www.instagram.com/_peacefromwithin/
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Over the years, there is a recurring âthemeâ that brings up discomfort for me within my relationship, and that is when things feel boring or mundane. It used to really freak me out, and I would jump to thinking I had to go find a more exciting partner or relationship.
I still have these moments of judging the boredom, but when I pause to reflect further, I see things a little differently now: as a chance to pour into my life more intentionally, vs. placing the relationship or Nate on a pedestal.
In this episode, I explore how I am setting intentions this winter to intentionally show up for myself and nurture 3 key areas:
My inner lifeMy valuesMy personal interestsThese are 3 key areas that Robert Johnson shares in his book (We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love) to take the projection off our partner to complete us and make us whole. Excited to share this with you so you can take the time to reflect on these key areas, too!
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This is a long overdue episode to explore signs of what an abusive relationship is and isnât. I often give the disclaimer âmy work does not apply to abusive relationshipsâ and wanted to have a licensed therapist explain the types of abuse so people are aware.
And who better than Dr. Molly Burrets, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles with 15 years of experience practicing psychotherapy, conducting research, and teaching at the undergraduate and graduate levels.
In the episode, we mentioned resources for people experiencing abuse in an intimate relationship:
peaceoverviolence.org
Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN) â 800.656.HOPE (4673)
National Domestic Violence Hotline â 800.799.SAFE (7233), 800.787.3224 TDD
Books:
The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond
by Patricia Evans
The Dance of Anger: A Womanâs Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
by Harriet Lerner
The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself
by Beverly Engel
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
by Bessel van der Kolk
For more of Mollyâs work, check out:
www.drmollyburrets.com
www.instagram.com/drmollyburrets
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In this episode, I unpack the phrase âwhen you know you knowâ and how I used to take this phrase very literally, which caused a lot of anxiety and pressure on me. I deconstruct what it actually means to âknowâ something or have âknowledgeâ, as well as the characteristics of someone who is more likely to âknowâ something within their relationship or life.
If youâve ever heard someone say they âjust knewâ their partner was the one and felt crappy about it (âwhat do they know, and how do they know it?!â) â this episode is for you!
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Does it feel like youâre doing all the ârightâ things but youâre still not happy? Does it feel like everyone around you seems to be happier than you, and you feel so guilty about it?
What if this wasnât a flaw or something youâre doing wrong â and we have been getting happiness wrong all along? In this episode, I sat down with Stephanie Harrison of @newhappyco to explore what happiness is and isnât, and how we can take small steps to become more happy and fulfilled in our lives.
For more of Stephanie and New Happy, check out: www.thenewhappy.com
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In this episode, MJ and I discuss why lowering the bar in your life and relationship might actually be a good thing. No, this isnât about settling or letting go of standards. Itâs about moving forward without beating yourself up for every imperfection along the way, and taking small intentional actions instead of waiting for everything to perfectly line up before you can move forward.
This is the permission slip Iâve needed for so many years, and I know it will feel like a breath of fresh air!
For more of MJâs work:
The Perfectionist's Guide to Taking Action on Creative Ideas audio classSign up for the Internet People newsletter hereCheck out her Instgaramâ
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In this episode, I explore the common struggle of wanting anxiety to disappear and how this often makes the anxiety feel even stronger. Many people ask, âWhy is my anxiety still here even after Iâve tried all the tools?â â let's discuss a helpful shift in mindset that can transform your relationship with it.
I cover:
The nature of anxiety and why resisting it can make it feel strongerHow to reframe your motivation behind coping tools and strategies Why viewing anxiety as a "roommate" rather than a "guestâ can lead to a more peaceful coexistenceâŠand more!
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Iâve never done this before, but today I am bringing you a training from my Patreon membership to the podcast to show you a peek into the types of trainings we have every month!
This monthâs topic: wanting to stay in your relationship, but knowing you want things to be better or different, too.
If you want to dive into a library of trainings like this, and connect with 300+ others on a journey to become more secureâŠ
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In this episode, Chelsea and I dive into the idea that true relationship strength often comes from embracing differences rather than being exactly the same.
We cover:
Chelseaâs journey of overcoming internalized beliefs that partners must think alikeHow she learned to appreciate her husband's contrasting qualitiesHow differences can nurture a deeper love, personal growth, and a more expansive understanding of what it means to truly connect with someoneâŠand more
For more of Chelseaâs work
Website: www.healingembodied.com
IG & TikTok: @healing.embodied
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It can feel so painful to be disconnected from your partner. I get it, because Iâve had a few of these moments myself recently! Letâs talk about it.
In this episode, I share:
Recent examples when Nate and I felt disconnectedWhy it feels so painful to be disconnected from your partner 5 ways to respond next time youâre disconnected 7 helpful mindsets around disconnection + connection to help you feel more empoweredâ
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This episode focuses on healing anxiety from the inside out. And who better to speak to than Alison Seponara â therapist, anxiety educator, holistic healer, and author who specializes in helping others create their own holistic anxiety healing toolkit!
Anxiety can come from many different pillars of our life; our friendships, our physical health and wellbeing, our relational attachment dynamics, our mental patterns, and so much more. Alison and I cover each of these topics and offer bite-sized tips to healing anxiety.
For more of Alisonâs work:
Alisonâs website
Alisonâs books
Alisonâs Instagram
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You are in for a TREAT with this episode, which truly felt like a therapy session for me. I sat down with Thais Gibson who has over a decade working as a practitioner and specializes in blending attachment theory, psychology, and subconscious reprogramming.
We discuss what Thais refers to as the ârelationship shadowâ and explore why our partners can be so dang triggering (itâs not what you think!) and how to navigate these triggers more mindfully.
For more about Thais, check out:
Website: https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
Learning Love book: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
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Have you ever felt like you were not going âfast enoughâ in your journey to heal relationship anxiety or ROCD? Maybe youâve seen other people share their wins and felt like youâre just not getting it. Itâs easy to beat ourselves up when we compare to other peopleâs highlight reelsâbut today I am peeling back the curtain of what healing relationship anxiety actually looks like.
Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here!
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Montage Fallacy article by Herbert Lui
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If you are the partner of someone with relationship anxiety, this episode is for you.
If you have relationship anxiety and want to be able to ask your partner for more intentional support, this episode is for you!
Thank you to the help of the You Love and You Learn community on Instagram for this episode. I received dozens of answers to the question âhow does your partner help you navigate relationship anxiety?â to influence this episode.
I cover:
How to help a partner with relationship anxietyWhat to say and what not to say when theyâre in an anxiety spikeSetting boundaries to protect your own energy Is giving reassurance helpful, or not?âŠand more
PSâthe Relationship Anxiety Toolkit is LIVE! You can get it here.
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If you have ever felt like your healthy relationship is boring and the âvibes are offâ â this episode is for you! I sat down with Dr. Morgan Anderson, a clinical psychologist, relationship coach, and host of the âLetâs Get Vulnerableâ podcast.
In this episode we discuss:
Why Morgan rejected, sabotaged, and avoided available love for so longWhat emotional availability looks like What happens when we prioritize vibes, spark, chemistry3 reasons why we sabotage healthy relationshipsâŠand more.
For more of Morganâs work, check out:
Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmorgancoaching/
Her free resource: Www.drmorgancoaching.com/gift
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I loved this conversation because time and time again this comes up in the work I do with clients (and it was a pattern in my own relationship). I sat down with Charisse Cooke, who is a London-based relationship psychotherapist with over 20 years experience. She helps individuals, couples and groups develop relationship skills and define love in a way that has meaning for them.
In this episode we discuss:
what love addiction is and how we can take the thrill of the chase to extremeswhat happens when we put our partner on a pedestal and have an idealized version of themthe question âdo I love them, or am I just attached?âwhat love is and what love isnât so we can be more mindfulhow our expectations and past traumas create certain patterns on our relationshipâŠand more.
For more of Charisseâs work, check out:
Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charissecooke/
Her website: www.charissecooke.com
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Do you ever notice yourself feeling good, then suddenly an anxious voice pops up saying âwait, shouldnât I be worrying about something?â or âif I donât worry about thisâhow will I figure it out?â
Iâve been here, and I used to sabotage most of my good feelings by jumping straight back into worry. In this episode, I explore:
Why fear can try to block us from experiencing joyWhat patterns to look for (worry withdrawals, resistance)How to respond to these patterns differently and widen your tolerance for joyPSâbe sure to join my Instagram broadcast channel lovinâ and learninâ for the latest updates on a new exciting offering I have coming soon.
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In this episode, I share my personal journey from getting engaged (June 2023) to planning my wedding (in May 2025). Thanks to great questions from the You Love and You Learn communityâŠI discuss:
How to enjoy your engagement phase before and during wedding planningWhat Iâve learned about my personality during this time How to accept the moments when you felt stressed or overwhelmed by the planning / decisions How to make decisions about the wedding itself without worrying there is a better option out there that would make you happier on the day How not to get overwhelmed at the thought of spending forever with someoneâ
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You askedâŠweâre answering! Alexandra Schelling (of @toolboxforlove on Instagram) and I polled our communities for questions about navigating our significant otherâs families, and weâre answering the questions in a two-part episode.
Todayâs episode is all about navigating relational dynamics with our partnerâs family. Should we set boundaries with our partnerâs family? Should they? How to navigate with familyâs criticism? How to create connection with in-laws?
We explore all of these topics and how to respond to them more mindfully.
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Her Instagram
Her YouTube
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You askedâŠweâre answering! Alexandra Schelling (of @toolboxforlove on Instagram) and I polled our communities for questions about navigating our significant otherâs families, and weâre answering the questions in a two-part episode.
Todayâs episode is all about whatâs happening in our OWN mind when it relates to our partnerâs family. Expectation vs. reality (and the anxiety that causes), insecurities when we compare to other peopleâs relationships with their in-laws, and feeling triggered by specific interactions.
We explore all of these topics and how to respond to them more mindfully. Stay tuned next week for part two about setting boundaries with in-laws!
For more of Alexandraâs work, check out:
Her Instagram
Her YouTube
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