Episodes

  • Low Self Esteem cam not only impact your wellbeing, relationships, and happiness, it can be very SUBTLE! In this bonus epiosde, we want to share exactly what that can look like.

    In celebration of our brand new Porgramme GLOW, this episode is dedicated to sharing 6 subtle signs that you need to pay more attention to self-esteem work. If you fall into these patterns, you don't have to stay there, there is a way out!

    Sign up to the FREE Workshop HERE

    GLOW THE WORKSHOP

  • It’s our final episode of season 2, and we’ve saved the best topic to last! I think this might be our favourite one yet. In this episode we’re talking all about how to be happy being alone, whether you’re in a relationship or single! 

     

    We discuss: 

     Why learning to be happy single is SO important in every stage of life  Have we gone too far the other way with hyper independence?  Why we forget this when getting into a relationship  What Caitlin gets jealous of that Carly-Ann does every day  Tips on what you can do to create a life you love and get used to spending time alone 

     

    Find us on Instagram: 

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ 

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach 

     

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

     

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

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  • In this episode we’re chatting about Love Languages! We discuss the hype around them, try to vaguely figure out what ours are, and how we can use them as a tool to improve our own relationship’s friends, families and partners.  

     

    We Discuss: 

    What the five love languages are in detail Why it can be useful to explore them in relation to friendships and dating Tips for what you can do to make your partner and friends feel seen and happy A really interesting discussion on stamps  

     

     

    Find us on Instagram: 

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach 

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ 

     

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

     

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay



  • In this episode we lay down the law about the BASIC standards everyone should be expecting when dating and in a relationship! That means no more medals for someone asking how you are, or texting you back. We discuss how you can start to raise your standards and up your dating game. 

     

    We Discuss: 

    What is the bare minimum you should be accepting The impact of dating apps on this Our own personal (rubbish) experience when dating The difference between high expectations and low standards  Why sometimes things get worse before they get better when raising standards What exactly you can do to increase your standards 

     

    Check out our Group Courses: 

    Leading in Love with Caitlin: HEREBecoming Secure (& MORE!) with Carly Ann: HERE

     

     

    Find us on Instagram: 

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ 

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay



  • In this episode, we discuss how to self-soothe in the moment, when an abandonment wound is triggered. This episode is about learning what powerful tools you can apply and practice to work towards inner child healing and healthier relationships. 

     

    We Discuss:

    How abandonment wounds can manifest in dating (and what it looks like) How to cut through the jargon and define what self-soothing means Our personal experience with abandonment wounds + self-soothing How to start practising somatic work Why it is so important to build this up when you are NOT triggered Key powerful tips on how to start self-soothing An important discussion about driving tests 

     

    Check out our Group Courses: 

    Leading in Love with Caitlin: HERE

    Becoming Secure (& MORE!) with Carly Ann: HERE

     

    Find us on Instagram: 

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ 

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach 

     

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

     

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay




  • All About HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

    In this episode, we delve deep into the signs of healthy relationships and uncover the elusive yet essential concept of "green flags." While red flags often dominate the conversation about relationships, it's time we shift our focus to the positive signs that lead to lasting, fulfilling love 

    We Discuss:

    Our personal experience with healthy relationshipsWhy you need to make the shift from red flags to greenKey Green flags for a healthy relationship to look out forHow to manage conflict within relationshipsWe questions if we should compromise or sacrifice for the person we love?And we dive into relationships feeling boring

     

    Check out our Group Courses: 

    Becoming Secure (& MORE!) with Carly Ann: HERE

    Leading in Love with Caitlin: HERE

     

    Find us on Instagram: 

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach 

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ 

     

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

     

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay




  • Do you have an anxious and/or avoidant attachment style? Perhaps you are curious to understand attachment styles. In today’s episode we’re doing a longer deep dive on the three key Attachment Styles, Secure, Anxious & Avoidant. 

     

    We talk about: 

     

    The key characteristics of the three Attachment styles Our own experiences of being on the anxious and avoidant scale Why we view a secure attachment as the holy grail How you can turn your attachment style into your superpower How the perception of time and goodbyes can be difficult when anxious Why it’s not true that avoidant attachers are the villains of the worldWhy labelling theory can be detrimental 

     

     

    Check out our Group Courses: 

    Leading in Love with Caitlin: HERE

    Becoming Secure (& MORE!) with Carly Ann: HERE

     

    Find us on Instagram: 

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach 

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ 

     

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.


    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

  • Today we’re discussing situationships! In today’s dating world where situationships have become the new norm.

    Whether you're unsure about the status of your current fling, experiencing mixed signals, or simply seeking clarity in the midst of romantic confusion, this episode is for you!

    We Discuss:

    What is a Situationship?Our personal experiences with situationshipsThe feeling when you have only been in situationshipsWhy the end of a situationship can make us want them moreWhether situationships be empoweringTips for getting out of situationships

     

    Learn about our Courses:

    Becoming Secure (& MORE!) with Carly Ann: HERE

    Leading in Love with Caitlin: HERE

     

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

  • Do you tend to lose yourself in love? This might look like attaching very quickly, putting your plans on hold in case they call, worrying or overthinking about them. If so, this is the podcast for you!

    In this episode we’re having a frank discussion about:

    What happens when you lose yourself in love and why it happens. We also give you practical tips and exercises on how to find out who you are and maintain that in the face of dating and love.

    We share:

    Our own experience with losing ourselves in loveThe reality of a new relationship vs losing yourselfHow childhood experiences affect our relationships todayThe top tips to practise if this is your patternHow to find out who you are

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    Find us on Instagram:

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_  

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach

     

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey. Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

  • Today we’re discussing something we get asked about a lot - chemistry! This episode is ideal if you are dating or with someone where you are overthinking and wondering how to know if this person “is the one”. You may be asking how important chemistry is, or even what it is, in this episode we are giving you valuable insight on these very questions.

    We share:

     

    What is chemistry and compatibility?Do we need them in order to have a successful relationshipWhy people get so hooked on certain people and struggle to let goWhat are the specific elements of compatibility to look out for when you want a long-term relationship 

     

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    Find us on Instagram: 

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach 

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ 

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay



  • Today we’re discussing one of our favourite topics - MANIFESTING! Regardless of whether you have are spiritual or note, we have a unique on why manifesting can help with love & relationships anyway. This episode is ideal if you are feeling the need to up-level your mind, body, and soul because you have a feeling you are made for MORE.

    We share:

     

    Our own experience with manifesting and magicHow manifesting plays a key role in our happiness & wellbeingTips & tools you can use each day to manifest loveThe basic foundations of manifesting love & relationships

     

     

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     https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64009ba2e53da0b99ec986a2

     

    Find us on Instagram: 

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach 

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ 

     

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

     

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay



  • Today we’re discussing heartbreak! Regardless of where you are in riding the heartbreak wave, and whether that’s from a long term break-up, or a series of ‘mini-heartbreaks’ we’ve got you. In this episode we want to provide you the space and support to turn whatever you're going through into your superpower.  

     

    We share:

     

    Our own experience with heartbreak (or lots of ‘mini-heartbreaks’ in Caitlin’s case!) 5 amazing things you can to do move yourself through this, regardless of where you’re at The basics everyone forgets when dealing with heartbreak How to turn it in to your biggest lesson and growth point 

     

     

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     https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64009ba2e53da0b99ec986a2

    Find us on Instagram: 

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ 

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach 

     

     

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

     

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay



  • In today’s episode we are chatting about all things awkward conversations! We want you to lean into the cringey moments, the hard questions, and vulnerability. From letting someone you know you like them, to asking someone to move in with you.’

    This episode will help you figure out your dating patterns and what you can do about it.

    We share:

    Common awkward conversation in love and relationshipsHow to bring up awkward conversation when you’re afraid of the outcomeHow to recover when communication doesn’t go to planThe energy behind the conversation

     

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     https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64009ba2e53da0b99ec986a2

    Find us on Instagram:

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

  • We don’t hold back in this episode! Today we discuss all things time related - the pressures that we face once we reach a certain age, the biological clock, freezing your eggs and everything comparison related. This is a practical episode where we talk through tips for managing anxiety and comparison.

    We share:

    Our own experience being ‘the single ones’How to approach the fear that it won’t happen and what you can focus on insteadPractical exercises you can do to lessen the anxietyMindset tips to move away from comparison

    You can find the visualisation HERE

    Disclaimer: When researching topics like fertility and egg freezing please conduct your own thorough research, as advice differs between practitioners. Caitlin & Carly-Ann are not medical experts in this field and have no responsibility for decisions you take going forward.

    Find us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_ https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

  • We don’t hold back in this episode! Today we discuss how you can cultivate hope in your romantic relationships!.

    If you have ever lost hope in love, dating, and your future, than this episode is for you.. This applies to you whatever your relationship status, AND let’s face it, you can use this info to improve any area of your life you’ve been lacking hope.

     

    We share:

    Our own experience of having hope, losing hope, and cultivating hopeWhat if hope doesn’t come easy to you?How to navigate the space where you don’t have what you desire and want in lifeStrategies you can use when you are feeling anything but helpful

     

    Find us on Instagram:

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach  

     

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay

  • Ever heard of zombieing? Well apparently it’s a thing. In today’s episode we are talking about good old ghosting, bad behaviour on dating apps and why we can get fixated on rejection. Plus we answer the question what you can DO if you’ve been ghosted.

     

    We share:

    The top three reasons about why people ghostEasy texts you can send to your date rather than ghostingWhy Caitlin called her dad to get her out of a date she later ghostedIf attachment styles has anything to do with ghosting

     

    Your non-ghosting script: Hi X, thank you for last night. I wanted to send a message, as for me, I don't think we're on the same page/ in the same place / had the connection that we're both looking for. It was really great to meet you and thank you for X [insert something you talked about like a TV show] recommendation - I'll start watching soon!

     

    Find us on Instagram:

    https://www.instagram.com/the.compatibility.coach

    https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_

    Your hosts are Caitlin & Carly-Ann, two experienced love & relationship coaches who specialise in attachment work, self-esteem, & dating. Between them they have worked with hundreds of people on their own healing journey.

     

    Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay