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The path from self-destruction to self-love isn’t a straight line. Often when we commit to a kinder relationship with ourselves, we falter and self-sabotage and that leads to guilt and shame, which leads to more self-sabotage.
But shame will never fuel a real transformation.
What if we could interrupt this spiral with something more friendly? What if we could tap into even the tiniest amount of self-love?
Most people don’t realize that shame is actually a fuel, and our society conditions us to feed our souls that way, but it doesn’t work. Like eating junk food everyday, you get a certain type of nourishment, but it doesn’t actually sustain us. That’s why we’re starved for a sense of our own worthiness, and try to fill our reservoir with all the wrong things.
When we love ourselves through self-sabotage, we stop getting fuel from beating ourselves up and start to mend the hole inside and fill our reservoir with self-love.
How do we unlearn self-destructive behaviors and tap into even the slightest sense of self-love? In this episode, we talk about how to increase our capacity for self-loving actions.
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
Create a new model of wholeness
If we grew up in environments where people were rewarded for concealing their truth, how do we learn to honor and express how we feel?
Adrenaline vs. presence
Shame and guilt might not feel good, but many of us are fueled by them. When we make a mistake, how can we get out of adrenaline and into presence?
Drops of love
If we’ve always struggled with self-sabotage, it’s hard to quickly shift to self-love. Where can we source it before we learn to become our own source?
About Your Hosts
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.
Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.
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When two or more people find themselves at the crossroads of a fundamental decision, the advice they are often given is to compromise.
But compromise doesn’t actually lead to a solution that fulfills everyone. More often than not, it leaves both sides feeling like they got robbed, and it kills the connection necessary to come up with something better.
Good news - even in the most seemingly impossible choice, there is an option that honors everyone. Our “either/or” society doesn’t teach us to look for it, so we’re constantly working with limited creative possibilities when so much more is accessible.
When we bring curiosity into the space and lead with a willingness to resolve, that’s when we access the many other options that serve everyone better.
How do we clear the emotional debris that makes it hard to access the creative possibilities? Why are so many people okay with small talk, even if it drains their aliveness?
In this episode, we talk about how to shift from either/or choices into conversations and solutions that truly honor and fulfill everyone.
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-Deep wounds create defensiveness
When people have to navigate a fundamental difference, it’s common to refuse to budge and come up with a better solution. Does this actually point to a deeply rooted wound that goes back to our formative years?
-The real reason people talk about the weather
Small talk is so easy for some people, they can talk about nothing for hours. Why is it comfortable to some and irritating to others? What drives the need for small talk?
-The great power of a genuine conversation
Small talk doesn’t nourish us in any way. How do we invite conversations that allow people to unleash their authenticity?
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In the event of an emergency ... the body takes notice, but the problem is, people often try to ignore the body or stop it from responding.
From panicking and hero-ing to pretending that nothing happened, we tend to come up with ways to avoid the healthiest response of all - feeling.
Between a stimulus and a response, there’s this tiny and beautiful opening for us to go with the feeling. When we go with the feeling, it creates expansion, aliveness and a greater capacity to be with big and unexpected things.
Ultimately, the body has immense capacity for helping us deal with the difficult, but we have to allow it.
How do we get located in our body in difficult moments? How do we use the art of looping to move through feelings? In this episode, we talk about how to accompany yourself during an emergency and the power of letting yourself feel to heal.
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-How to encompass opposites
Very often, sad moments and beautiful moments happen in close succession. How do we allow ourselves to carry them both?
-The power of looping
Instead of being captured by fear, how can we give attention to our feelings, go with them and effortlessly return to ourselves?
-Feel your way to aliveness
Between stimulus and response there’s a space that most people don’t really experience. How do we find the opening so we can meet the magic?
About Your Hosts
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.
Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives. Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.
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Attention is one of the most important aspects of human existence, but also the most misunderstood and misused.
When we give attention to ourselves in a nurturing and curious way, it’s a powerful medicine that supports our essence and self-love. When we seek it through external validation it becomes a destructive drug we can never get enough of.
So many people get these two things mixed up and find themselves leaning more on the attention they receive for what they do and achieve.
Of course attention and affection from people who love us is incredibly nourishing, but instead of making it the whole cake, it should just be the cherry on top!
How do we start regarding ourselves with love, curiosity, enough-ness? How does childhood provide the blueprint we use to give attention to ourselves?
In this episode, we talk about the right way to deal with attention.
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-How we move from competition to cooperation
We’ve been socialized to frame our relationships around competition but that’s not the way human life actually occurs. How do we shift from competition to cooperation, collaboration and connection?
-How we go from being to doing for attention
The way we were looked at and cared for as infants and children determines how we give love and attention to ourselves. What are some of the ways we’re taught not to trust ourselves or embrace our own uniqueness?
-Regard people with care, curiosity and wonder
When we have someone in our lives who SEES us and wants to support who we are at our core, it gives us the foundation to see and support ourselves. How do we become that for others?
About Your Hosts
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.
Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.
Stanford Study
Being Current - rebuilding trust in choices
Love In Action w/Katie
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In order to be, play and love, we have to become very intentional about where we’re placing our attention. Now, we might think attention is something we do from our critical and conscious mind, but true attention comes from our body wisdom.
When we give attention to the right things, we get into the flow and that opens up so much aliveness.
Even in the most chaotic situations, like a crowded airport during a busy holiday season, we can still create doorways of attention which increase our scope of awareness and our choicefulness. The more we learn to shift our awareness, the faster it becomes something we do readily and easily at any moment.
How do we build the skill of attention and muscle it up? How do we learn to let feelings flow through us instead of avoiding them?
In this episode, we talk about the power of attention and how to shift it from negative to true curiosity.
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-How to move through feelings faster
Many people think leaning into a feeling will swallow us whole, but refusing to feel is what actually gets us taken in the whirlpool. How do we learn to be with a feeling?
-Attention creates choicefulness
In the midst of mayhem, getting in the flow of what’s happening actually brings solutions faster. How do we learn to play with the uncomfortable feelings that come up?
-Shift from critical brain to wonder brain
Even if it doesn’t feel good, we can shift to curiosity when we’re in a funk. How do we shift our attention in the moment, and how does this widen our scope of attentiveness?
-How to readily shift your attention
Paying attention often feels like such a conscious mental effort. How do we get to a point where it’s unconscious and we do it without even thinking?
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As mothers, we truly get to experience the magic and miracle of the female body as we carry our babies. Growing another human being makes us bring attention to our bodies in a profound way.
But at the same time, that beautiful experience gets interrupted in the birthing process, especially when it’s a traumatic one. Because the process of having a baby is governed so heavily by the mechanics and medicine of it, we can lose that connection with our bodies and struggle to reignite it. Perhaps you stop feeling safe in your body.
Or you escape into your brain to make sense of it all. Or you start feeling like you didn’t deliver (pun intended) on what’s expected of you as a woman.
Bringing attention to our body wisdom allows us to reclaim our bodies, but first, we have to grieve. We have to move through the sadness and feelings of loss in order to heal. If we learn to be with grief, our internal landscape expands and creates room for more joy, love, connection and self-love.
How do we heal ourselves through giving our bodies attention? How do we work through the aftermath of a difficult birthing process? In this episode, we’re joined by our good friend and collaborator Abby Hildebrand. She shares her journey into motherhood and how she’s reconnected with her own body.
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-Reignite the conversation with your body
As women, society gives us so many reasons to not feel safe in our bodies. How do we reclaim the connection and find the safety in ourselves?
-Birth and rebirth
Having a baby is a beautiful experience but a traumatic birthing process can leave us feeling like strangers to our own inner landscape. How does this emerge and show up?
-The friendliest way to be with grief
There’s a huge difference between riding the wave of grief and picking at a scab to continue the suffering. How do we let the grief move through us?Guest Bio
Abby Hildebrand is a trauma-informed Breathwork Facilitator, Perinatal Mental Health Advocate, Emotional Transformation Guide, speaker, author and CEO of Wellness Creek Consulting. As an experienced human connection and development leader at a successful engineering firm, Abby thought motherhood would be a breeze in comparison. After navigating the ups and downs of postpartum anxiety and depression, she has dug deep into what creates massive emotional transformation and is on a mission to empower mothers everywhere to take control of their own health and wellness, one breath at a time.
About Your Hosts
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.
Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.
Stanford Study
Being Current - rebuilding trust in choices
Love In Action W/Katie
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For women, one of the biggest battles we fight is with the size of our bodies. Parents, media and society as a whole have conditioned us to believe that our bodies are wrong.
Cue the deep-rooted lack of kindness towards ourselves, the spiral of suffering, the fraught relationship with food, and an endless pursuit of physical perfection.
Every food choice we make - whether it’s healthy or unhealthy - is run by our relationship with ourselves. Each bite falls into one of two categories. We’re either confirming that we’re not enough or we’re affirming that we are enough.
We might not even know it, but how we eat and what we eat goes back to the painful conclusions we made about ourselves in our formative years.
What is the gateway to form a loving relationship with ourselves and food? How do we start befriending our bodies instead of battling them?
In this episode, we’re joined by multiple New York Times bestselling author, Geneen Roth. We talk about how to change our relationship with food by going back to where it all began.
One’s relationship with food is an outpicturing or expression of how you feel about yourself. -Geneen Roth
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-The battle between food and self
One’s relationship with food is an expression of how you feel about yourself. What are the food rules we’re following without even realizing we’re following them? What are they connected to?
-How to stop holding ourselves to awful standards
As women, we’re taught to evaluate ourselves from the outside. How do we start with our inner landscape instead?
-When you’re present, nothing is wrong
Resistance to what’s happening right now creates suffering. How can the question “If I had orchestrated this, what would I have wanted to learn” help us?
Guest Bio
Geneen Roth is the author of ten books, including her newest, This Messy Magnificent Life, and New York Times bestsellers When Food Is Love, Lost and Found, and Women Food and God, as well as The Craggy Hole in My Heart and the Cat Who Fixed It. Over the past forty years, she has worked with thousands of people in her groundbreaking workshops and retreats and has appeared on numerous national shows, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, 20/20, the Today show, Good Morning America, and The View. She lives in California with charms of hummingbirds; her husband Matt; and Izzy the fabulous, eating-disordered dog. Geneen Roth's pioneering books were among the first to link compulsive eating and perpetual dieting with deeply personal and spiritual issues that go far beyond food, weight and body image. Rather than pushing away the "crazy" things we do, Geneen's work proceeds with the conviction that our actions and beliefs make exquisite sense, and that the way to transform our relationship with food, our body, and so much more in our life is to be open, curious and kind with ourselves -- instead of punishing, impatient and harsh. To learn more or to find out about Geneen’s retreats, visit https://geneenroth.com/.
About Your Hosts
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.
Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.
Women Food and God
Live Online Retreat with Geneen Roth
November 14-17, 2024
More Information & Online Registration: https://retreats.geneenroth.com/
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In life, relationships and business, big pivots are preceded by an internal pull towards something new. Your intuition is telling you it’s time to complete a cycle and follow the surge of expansion into the unknown. There’s an inner knowing that it’s time to leap into what’s next.
This creates a rollercoaster of emotions - on one hand, you feel the peace and clarity that comes with honoring yourself. On the other hand, you have to deal with the fall out of parting ways with something you’ve been doing.
Here’s the thing: the back and forth, the doubt, the tears and the joy and expansion are all part of the pivot. In order to complete the arc and land gently in the new thing, we have to honor the messiness.
We have to let the cycle complete organically.
This was the journey Jesse Israel found himself on. On two occasions, he’s felt that inner pull to something new, and as scary as it was, he honored it. How did tapping into his intuition trigger a transition? How do we move through a transition by letting intuition lead the way?
In this episode, the meditation leader, speaker, leadership coach and founder of The Big Quiet tells us what the process of pivoting was like, and how he was able to move through it with grace.
There’s so much power and potency in honoring that intuition. The wavering and back and forth was so necessary because it helped me understand even more why the gut is the way. -Jesse Israel
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-Make your inner knowing louder than external pressure
Very often, pivots push us in the opposite direction of what we’ve been doing for years. How do we lean into our intuitive calling to transition when the external world is [loudly] telling us to stay where we are?
-The turmoil (and triumph) of transitions
Pivots bring up doubt and we constantly go back and forth on the decision, even when we know it’s right. How do we cultivate trust and find joy in the not knowing and emotional ups and downs?
-Let the cycle end organically
Completing cycles is really hard - so hard in fact, that people tend to resist the change. Why does this only lead to more pain and difficulty?
Guest Bio
Jesse is a meditation leader, keynote speaker and leadership coach known for founding the mass meditation movement The Big Quiet. Named "The Meditation Expert" by The New York Times, Jesse has led some of the largest meditations on earth — having toured arenas with Oprah Winfrey and co-hosted international broadcasts with Deepak Chopra. An Audible Originals best-selling creator and a Forbes Next 1000 recipient, Jesse has collaborated on meditation projects with Grammy winning rappers, coached the world’s most influential entrepreneurs and keynoted at Fortune 500s around the globe. Prior to his work at The Big Quiet, Jesse ran a tech fund and record label called Cantora (acquired 2016), where he signed multi-platinum bands like MGMT. To learn more, head to https://www.jesseisrael.com/.
About Your Hosts
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.
Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.
Check out this episode on our website, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify and don't forget to leave a review if you like what you heard. Your review feeds the algorithm so the show reaches more people!
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The whole point of living in true connection with others is the social exchange of giving and receiving love and care. Many of us don’t have any problem with the giving part - we do that freely. But when it comes to being the recipient of that gift? Not so much, and it manifests in many ways.
You could be the caregiver struggling to carve out space to care for yourself.
Or you’re the friend not sure exactly how to be there for someone in a vulnerable time.
Perhaps you’re the care-getter feeling uncomfortable with needing others. Or maybe someone did something nice for you and you’re putting yourself under intense pressure to reciprocate.
In all these instances, we run into the difficulty we have with the concept of care. The thing is: the river of connection has to flow for connection to flourish. Any resistance to care actually stops the flow and robs us of the richness of aliveness.
Why do we have such a hard time receiving care? How do we give care without depleting ourselves? In this episode, we talk about why caregiving is so emotionally complex and how we can get past it.
Part of the richness of living is the giving and the receiving of the abundance we experience when we’re living in love and flow. -Katie Hendricks
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-Offer presence and care
When someone has experienced a loss, a common thing to ask is how we can help them. Does this actually create more stress in a difficult time?
-Taking care of yourself when you’re the caregiver
When you’re in the role of supporting someone else, it’s really easy to play the hero and overlook yourself to the point of depletion. How do you make space to pay attention to yourself?
-The truth about being cared for
How we feel about receiving love and care has a lot to do with whether or not we feel lovable. What steps can we take to feel worthy of the support of others?
-Nature isn’t transactional
People have a hard time receiving love and care but in nature, the flowers don’t refuse the pollination of bees. How do we embrace the fact that receiving love is just as important as giving it?
About Your Hosts
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.
Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.
Check out this episode on our website, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify and don't forget to leave a review if you like what you heard. Your review feeds the algorithm so the show reaches more people!
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In our relationships with others, there are going to be wrinkles, miscommunications and misunderstandings. Depending on how they are dealt with, they can make bonds stronger or break them down completely.
A small dropped stitch of disconnection doesn't have to disintegrate the entire fabric of a friendship. There is a way to express how we feel without completely breaking down the flow of connection and irreparably rupturing the relationship.
In fact, we can use these challenging moments to bring things to the surface, clarify our communication and ultimately move through the messiness together.
The challenge is: a lot of people tend to completely call off the game when there’s a miscommunication, but it’s so much better to commit to keep the game going!
How do we turn the wrinkles of communication into an invitation to increase the flow of connection? How do we learn to stop calling off the game? In this episode, we talk about a recent interruption, and what we can learn from it to make our relationships more alive.
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-A vibratory difference
When we’re moving into an expansive season and making a big leap, not everyone is going to come along. How do we know who is going to the next adventure with us?
-Don’t call off the game
There are so many ways people interrupt the flow of connection in their relationships. Is it possible to stay connected despite a momentary lapse in closeness?
-Repair, recommit and reinvent
A relationship with a mutual commitment to move through the messiness is full of aliveness - it’s so much juicier! How do we get comfortable with having difficult conversations?
The Basic Toss
Difficult Conversations Are Sexy
About Your Hosts
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.
Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.
Check out this episode on our website, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify and don't forget to leave a review if you like what you heard. Your review feeds the algorithm so the show reaches more people!
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Human beings are on a constant search for synchronicity, connection, and aliveness, but those things are easier to access than we think.
Those “oh my gosh, this is so wild” moments are all around us, but we can’t experience them when our own channels are clogged up with emotional debris.
For most people, getting tapped into this channel of wonder comes on the back of a radical shift in consciousness often brought on by the notion of our mortality. Being reminded of our own impermanence has a way of waking us up. Could we make this shift happen without something terrible happening?
Being clogged up doesn’t just rob us of synchronicity, it’s like smoking an emotional cigarette that damages your health. The more aware we become of this unseen part of our health, the more we’ll feel like the universe is guiding us in a beautiful way. That, in turn, will allow us to experience magic in the mundane.
How do we kickstart change in ourselves and the world around us? Today, we’re delighted to be joined by CEO and Co-Founder of SuperMush, Alli Schaper. We talk about practices that will deepen our experience of aliveness.
Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-Plug into synchronicity
Synchronicity surrounds us at all times, it’s something we can easily access if our channels are unclogged. How do we clear the debris so we can experience it?
-Changing without crisis
On an individual level and collectively, periods of contraction incite a lot of momentum in a beautiful way that allows us to move consciousness forward. Is there a way we can make that momentum happen without a negative trigger?
-Consume or co-create
As humans, we’re either operating as source or operating as a machine. How do we know if we’re consuming the world or creating as a part of it?
Guest Bio
Alli Schaper is the CEO & Co-Founder of SuperMush, an LA-based mental wellness lifestyle brand inspired by the 60s and 70s that creates superfood mushroom supplements, streetwear and media. Her mission is to bring the power of mushrooms to the masses alongside creating community and collaboration within the psychedelics industry. She is also the host of SuperMush's mental health podcast, @intothemultiverse. Their guests are globally-acclaimed artists, creatives, doctors, therapists, and thought leaders across wellness, mental health, consciousness, and psychedelics.
Alli is passionate about serving as an ally in bringing the future of psychedelics and microdosing to the mainstream wellness conversation. She has partnered and co-created experiences with 200+ wellness brands and is a trusted strategist and advisor across wellness and psychedelics. Her work has been featured in Forbes, National Geographic, Well+Good, Rolling Stone, Goop, Bloomberg and more. Follow @allischaper on Instagram and go to https://supermush.com/.
About Your Hosts
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.
Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.
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One of the uncomfortable truths about human beings is that telling the truth and saying what's real is very difficult. In fact, some of us believe that lying about our experience preserves trust and makes our relationships stronger.
In reality, this discomfort with truth is a discomfort with feeling our feelings and expressing our real emotions.
That in turn dampens our spontaneity, disconnects us from our realness, and robs our relationships of the authenticity they need to be strong and fulfilling.
It’s impossible to truly BE WITH if we’re not expressing our unarguable truth. So many of us have spent years shoving our emotions down, and that means we’re actually living a lie with ourselves and the people around us.
Learning to feel our feelings starts with honoring what we’re experiencing.
How do we learn to tell our unarguable truth? In this episode, we talk about how to open up about your feelings and why it makes for better relationships.
As people, we all feel and that’s part of what makes us people. We’re messy and we’re structured - integrating those things is what makes us whole, not one or the other. -Sophie Chiche
Four Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-Honor your feeling state
As humans, we’ve been taught to lean into logic because unlike our emotions, it’s neater and easier to control. Is that why so many people struggle to feel and tell the truth? How do we start speaking from discovery/experience?
-Give yourself a breath hug
When we don’t let sadness move through us and we push down our emotions, it disconnects us from ourselves and it creates a massive feelings backlog. How do we start to unravel our feelings?
-Learn to love with a spine
For those of us who are immensely empathetic, it’s easy for someone else’s emotions to overpower ours. How do we love others without abandoning ourselves?
-The deliciousness of being real
Telling the truth clears up the emotional debris and allows us to experience the full range of our aliveness. How does it make our relationships better?
About Your Hosts
Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.
Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.
Check out this episode on our website, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify and don't forget to leave a review if you like what you heard. Your review feeds the algorithm so the show reaches more people!
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So much of our existence is being in relationship with others. Partners, parents, children, siblings, friends, colleagues and even competitors on the pickleball court! We’re always dealing with people, and that’s why so many patterns emerge out in the wild when we’re with other humans.
Relationships with others can be a source of stress and conflict or an opportunity for connection and shared essence.
Before we can even begin to have healthy and nurturing relationships with others, we have to deepen the relationship we have with ourselves. When we’re the source of our own value, it pours out into relationships and interactions that add to our aliveness.
What are some of the things we need to know in order to have healthy relationships? In this special episode, we share relationship insights and highlights from season 1 of Be.Play.Love.
You’ll also learn about;
-The incredible story of how Katie and Gay met
-How to have real relationships without hero-ing ourselves or others
-How to become a safe space for people through nurturing conversations
-How to clear the debris of past relationships
-What relationships where people love and be with each other look like
-How to give curious and kind attention
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There’s a reason why it’s so hard to silence or ignore our inner critic. It’s the same reason why we doubt our own experiences and body wisdom. It’s also why we often feel like in order to be lovable we need to do more instead of just being ourselves.
Childhood is our most sensitive phase. We’re like sponges soaking up everything around us with no filter. Unfortunately, some of the things the adults did (or didn’t do) become wounds that follow us into adulthood. So many of us grew up pickled in criticism, so we never felt like we were enough. The critical words we hear become the soundtrack of our lives, and even though we try, we just can’t shake them.
Here’s the thing: the core YOU is lovable as you are. Instead of being fueled by the approval and love of others, we have to shift to being our own source of love and approval. That’s how we heal from the wounds and experiences of our early years.
How do we identify the wounds that were created in our childhood? How do we become a stable source of our own self-love? How do we learn to speak to ourselves kindly?
In this special episode, we talk about how to heal our younger selves so that we change how we show up today.
You’ll also learn about;
-How to use an “mmmm” to interrupt the inner critic
-Why language is where we’re hardest on ourselves
-How to find your voice when you were raised to doubt your own experience
-The easiest way to dissolve being hard on yourself
-Why most people learned to earn love instead of experiencing it
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Our culture has taught us to put an emphasis on and trust only in the information we get from our brains. At best, we completely ignore what our bodies have to tell us, and at worst we treat our body and its sensations like the enemy. When we don’t tap into our body’s wisdom, we’re operating without the richest source of information available to us.
Our bodies are our friends - they provide a level of wisdom we can’t get from our minds. They tell us what’s giving us life and what’s taking it away. They give us insight into the areas we need to heal emotionally, and they communicate a lot faster than the most brilliant brain ever could. They give us the tools we need to navigate fear and other challenges. If you’re disconnected from your body you’re robbing yourself of this vast and lush garden.
Learning to listen to our bodies and making them a safe space for us has a wealth of benefits.
How do we start building a friendship and connection with our bodies? What are all the amazing things we can learn by feeling into our body sensations instead of skipping over them? In this special episode, we revisit an important skill we all need to develop - listening to and trusting our body wisdom.
You’ll also learn about;
-Sense foraging and the power of exploring your inner landscape
-Presencing and the importance of shifting your attention within
-How to get fuel from life energy, not adrenaline
-How to use daily practices to care for your body
-Why your sensations are quicker than your thoughts
-Simple ways to bring attention to your body’s wisdom
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Most people experience an injury or other setbacks as an enterprise of the universe working against us. But what if the setback is an important transition, a demarcation point between who we were and who we’re going to be going forward? Maybe it’s buried traumas we need to address, or physical healing that will make us stronger.
We’re being given the opportunity for a completion so we can move into a deeper level of harmony with ourselves and others.
It’s so easy to fall into the old programming of self-pity and sadness, but everything that happens to us is reality trying to tell us something important.
It’s a powerful opportunity to rewire ourselves. We can give an open invitation to the universe to rewire and reorganize us in a powerful way. Instead of asking “why is this happening to me”, we can ask “what is the deepest message this event is trying to tell me?”
How do we stop recycling old patterns and traumas and put something to rest? How do we step into new energy instead of trying to fight it?
In this episode, we’re joined by Gay Hendricks and he shares what he’s learned from a recent health setback. We also close off season 1 of this podcast by reflecting on lessons and powerful takeaways from this experience.
Give an open invitation to the universe to reorganize you in the spirit of how you need to be now and what would best serve you now. -Gay Hendricks
Three Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-How to bring completion to a pattern
For a lot of people, past patterns and traumas can continue recycling themselves and we find ourselves in a loop of rehashing them. How do we fully and finally flush those things from our hearts, minds and bodies?
-An opportunity to rewire yourself
Setbacks and challenges are something we often treat as the universe conspiring against us. Could they actually be the universe's way of helping us get rid of old energy and usher in what and who we need to be now?
-Connection, discovery and a fluidity of intelligence
As we reach the completion of the first season of the podcast, what are some of the biggest lessons and special insights we’ve gained from it?
Guest Bio
Gay Hendricks has served for more than 30 years as one of the major contributors to the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies. Along with his wife, Dr. Kate Hendricks, Gay is the author of many bestsellers, including Conscious Loving, At The Speed Of Life, The Big Leap, and the New York Times bestseller, Five Wishes. Dr. Hendricks received his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford in 1974. After a twenty-one-year career as a professor at University Colorado, he founded The Hendricks Institute, and later co-founded its charitable organization, Foundation for Conscious Living. He was also the founder of a virtual learning center for transformation and a publishing company, and was a co-founder of a conscious entertainment company. Throughout his career he has done executive coaching with more than 800 executives, including the top management at such firms as Dell Computer, Hewlett Packard, Motorola and KLM. His book, The Corporate Mystic, is used widely to train management in combining business skills and personal development tools. Gay is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu. In recent years he has co-created a popular podcast called The Big Leap with Gay Hendricks and Mike Koenigs. He has appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others.
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For most people, when our brains feel sluggish or clogged up, the first thing we do is reach for the coffee. But there could be an entirely different reason why your creativity and energy are getting all tangled up.
From to-do lists that never end, to decisions we’re not making and actions we’re procrastinating on - incompletions are a drain on our energy.
In order to open the pathway towards space, choice and freedom, we have to develop the skill of completion.
Having incompletions is like having a drawer full of junk taking up space. It’s like having 100 tabs open on your browser - all it does is create a gnarly mess inside us.
What’s the first step we need to take to deal with an incompletion? Do we have to finish everything in order to complete them?
In this episode, we talk about a simple step you can take to feel more aliveness.
Our brains hold onto things and we won’t experience the free flow of energy, attention, new ideas and creativity until we complete them. -Katie Hendricks
Three Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-Out of your head and onto paper
Our brains can get clogged up by incompletions and it keeps us from experiencing flow and creativity. Why is a brain dump an important first step?
-Declare it done
You don’t have to finish something to complete it. You can decide not to do something but still close the loop. What actions count as completion?
-Consult your body
If you’re not experiencing more breath, more aliveness and more energy when thinking of an action or completion, what does it tell us?
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We live in an instant gratification culture, so it’s not surprising that a lot of people want to just skip to the good part. We’re looking for that button that will magically fix everything wrong with our lives.
Well, the truth is, the journey is just as beautiful as the destination we wish to arrive at. We expect great things to just magically appear, but we don’t expect the same for athletes and musicians. Great things take work, commitment, practice and recommitment.
Then you have to do it over and over again.
That’s why we have to fall in love with the journey instead of the outcome. Getting to the thing you want requires you to both build something new while enjoying exactly where you are right now.
It’s not a matter of leapfrogging to the top of the mountain, it’s a matter of enjoying the climb. How do we befriend and accompany ourselves? How do we make sure we’re making self-loving choices even when we’re not yet where (or who) we want to be? In this episode, we talk about the only “magic button” for getting everything we want.
We have to learn to be with ourselves so deeply that no matter what happens, we can accompany ourselves through the journey. -Sophie Chiche
Three Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-Don’t obsess over the outcome
The myth of life is that if we get the great relationship or the achievement we desire, it will solve all our problems. Why does this only set us up for disappointment?
-A sensory experience of self-love
We’re either making choices that affirm that we don’t matter or affirm that we love ourselves. How do these choices trickle down even to what we eat?
-Become your own ground
It’s easy to tie our joy to other people or some external milestone. How do we become so stable within ourselves that we don’t need that?
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Whether it’s an aggressive interaction at pickleball or a misunderstanding at work, our biggest lessons often come from not-so-pretty moments…if we choose to shift and learn.
When we feel attacked by other people, it might feel justified to have a knee-jerk reaction and kick back, but we can accomplish a lot more by making another choice.
It might be easier said than done, but we have to work our way back to ourselves and towards something more loving. It’s okay to have a messy moment, but you can still recover your presence and create a new commitment.
If we can expand our repertoire of responses, we can move through these moments with more grace and kindness towards ourselves and others. How did a pickleball kerfuffle turn into an interesting moment of introspection and growth?
Instead of using conflict to prove that we’re right, how do we turn it into a profound learning opportunity? In this episode, we talk about a different way to deal with a moment of conflict and how to practice responding instead of reacting.
It’s a courageous act to not have a knee jerk reaction. Emotional reaction doesn’t have to be a reflex. You can make another choice. -Sophie Chiche
Four Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-Reverse the fight or flight
When conflict comes up, we’re likely to flee from ourselves and end up in fight or flight mode. How do we drop into our bodies and find ourselves again?
-Don’t turn it into minus 10 moment
When we experience a moment of conflict, we can either shut down connection altogether or we can recommit. How do we avoid doing more damage by shutting down the whole game?
-How to honor yourself in challenging moments
Sometimes what makes an interpersonal misunderstanding worse is the inner stories and emotional scars we all have. How do we make ourselves so we understand each other better?
-Turn it inward
Instead of using conflict to prove that we’re right, how do we turn it into a profound learning opportunity?
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If you’ve ever felt uncomfortable and squirmy about celebrating your accomplishments, you have tall poppy syndrome AKA an upper limit problem. Unfortunately, because of how we’ve been conditioned to focus on others, women are more likely to struggle with this.
You’ll often find us downplaying our greatness, making ourselves smaller, and having a lot of difficulty sitting in something we should be proud of. You might even go as far as apologizing for doing something well. We’ve been taught that if we rise up too high, we’re in danger of getting chopped down to size, so it’s safer not to draw attention to ourselves.
Where does this come from? How does it manifest and what can we do to change it? How do you stop twisting your aliveness to make everyone else comfortable? In this episode, we talk about tall poppy syndrome and why women are so prone to it.
Be careful, don’t bring too much attention to yourself - that’s the tall poppy syndrome. If you look at the stats, you’ll find that’s how most girls are raised. -Katie Hendricks
Three Things You’ll Learn In This Episode
-Why women are uncomfortable in their muchness
Women are raised to believe that it’s our job to care for others, speak when spoken to, and not to declare too much. Is that why pride feels so unfamiliar and uncomfortable?
-How to stop abandoning yourself
It’s really easy to talk yourself out of celebrating your greatness. What are some of the ways women do that?
-Dare to be authentic
As women, we tend to spend time making the people around us comfortable, even if it’s at our own expense. How do we learn to take up the space that’s rightfully ours without apologizing?
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