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Ever think about how authentic is the way you breathe, walk, or sit?
What if some of those patterns or postures are ways you've learned to be to protect yourself or be accepted, but it's not actually what's true in the moment?
And what if you could then change your life by simply changing your physical patterns and nourishing your nervous system?
My guest Oren Shai comes on to the podcast for the second time to talk about how we can create more authentic relating and relationships by growing our awareness of the authenticity of our movements and postures.-How we hold our body determines how we live our lives.
-How we've all been living in an envinronment that's akin to a "rock concert" and how that impacts of nervous system awareness.
-The power of slowing down and how it can help us feel more and rely less on stimulants.
-How responsible are we for feeling regulated in our relationships?
-How can we learn to recognize when we're externalizing our sense safety so we can source that safety from within?-Sensing vs. sensemaking.
-How sharing our feelings with others can be invitations for deepening intimacy.
-The power of taking pauses when we're relating with others.
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This summer I took an incredible 5 day training called 'Fierce Love' led by John Wineland, a speaker and teacher I've been following for years that leads men and women in the practices of embodied masculine leadership, spiritual intimacy and sexual polarity.
IT WAS AMAZING! I truly feel changed on a cellular level. This immersion taught me the power I have within myself to be in my heart in relationship with men through any experience, the beautiful, the sexy, and the difficult.
Today I bring along Matt Bockenstette, a fellow participant and leader in the world of intimacy and relationships, to share with you what we both took away from our weekend and how we're applying our takeaways in our lives!
I gurantee you will feel resonance in what has come up for Matt and I in our relationships with the opposite sex.
We share practical tools you can use as you deepen the intimacy and love in your relationships with men and women!
Matt Bockenstette is the Co-Founder of University Of Man, a global men’s community and revolutionary brotherhood leading men to open hearts, aligned purposes, and playful transformation through the “5 Pillars Of Masculinity.” He’s built and sold multiple business, lives a life of sobriety, and now calls Austin, TX home. -
In this solo episode, I talk about how in the past, the fear of losing myself made opening my heart and leaning into intimacy seem impossible. Join me as I explore the delicate balance between being there for another and self-preservation, and how prioritizing our own needs is essential to feel safe when we're opening ourself to connection or to be there for someone else.
If you've been working on your avoidant tendencies in your relationships like me, you might be probably familiar with feeling like you're going to "lose yourself" in a relationship when people need you, or when you percieve that they need you.
Tune in for some practical tips on what to do to help you come back to your heart and connection when you're triggered and want to run away. -
Holy shh!! What a powerful episode! This week I interviewed Rachel Butts, a powerhouse, beautiful, radiant woman who has been a client of mine the past 3 years. Rachel, a former pastor's wife, bravely transformed her life from one of unhappiness and suppression to one of empowerment and authenticity. She opens up about her journey to reclaim her voice, independence, and true self after years of living in a way that wasn't aligned with her inner truth in order to please everyone else.
Join us as we explore:
The personal cost of living to please others and the harm it does to our spirit. The sneaky ways she was using vulnerability to get away with hiding her truth The freedom and empowerment that became available when she stopped calling herself a victim The dangers of a "right" vs. "wrong" mentality and how it traps us in unhealthy situations. The futility of changing ourselves to fit others' expectations and the freedom in embracing who we truly are. The often untold reality that healing can cause life to fall apart before it gets better, and why this process, though challenging, is ultimately what leads us to our deepest joy and alignment. The importance of trust and self-compassion when you leave behind a life of certainty and follow your heart/Rachel's story is a testament to the strength it takes to break free from societal and relational expectations and the beauty that comes from living authentically, even when that journey is initially painful and we don't know where it's taking us. Whether you're struggling to find your voice, trapped in a situation that doesn't serve you, or simply in need of inspiration, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in and discover the transformative power of authenticity. 🌟
#PodcastEpisode #Authenticity #PersonalTransformation #SelfEmpowerment #HealingJourney #SelfCompassion #BreakingFree
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Hoy en dia se habla mucho de las energias masculina y femenina que llevamos adentro, y como crear polaridad sexual con el otro atravez de la encarnacion de estas energias. Pero la verdad es que dentro de cada uno de nosotros estas energias no viven separadas, interactuan y son una pareja en si, un matrimonio.
Hoy hablo con mi profe de Tarot Clara Maria Abad para hablar de como el tarot nos enseña de estas polaridades de energia femenina y masculina, luz y oscuridad, emocion y mente, que viven dentro de nosotros, y como nos ayuda a traer mas consciencia y profundidad en en mundo vincular. -
In this deeply moving episode, join us on an intimate journey with the resilient and inspiring Luis Molinar as he shares his story from being depressed and suicidal to finding his purpose and living a heart-led life.
Luis found himself getting seperated from a long-time partner, burned out, struggling emotionally until he hit a rock bottom that forced him to face his inner demons, unfelt emotions and lack of self-love.
"Life is about getting back on the horse."- Luis
Tune in to listen to how Luis rose from the depths of hitting rock bottom to embrace a life filled with faith and an open heart. Luis opens up about the challenges that tested his spirit and the transformative moments that led him to a path of profound positivity."It's ok to experience sadness and pain but we also have the choice of stepping out of that. It's there, we want to experience it, learn from it, but we don't want it to become part of our personality."
Topics we share:
-How burning out helps us align ourselves with our truth and let go of what's out of alignment.
-How listening to your body helps you align with your truth.
-How death helps create a sense of urgency to live out a life of purpose.
-Life is about "choosing your hard."
-How we meet the universe halfway by taking action towards our dreams and allowing the universe to show us the way.
-What happens when we move from doing things by obligation to do them out of desire. -
Ever feel like even when you're surrounded by people, you feel alone, or like your conversations are so shallow they end up draining you?
My guest Ryel Kestano is the co-founder of an organization I have been involved with in the past two years and DEEPLY impacted by called ART-Authentic Relating Training.
At its simplest, authentic relating is a groundbreaking relational practice that creates profoundly enriching, enlivening, and nourishing relationships in all social domains of life, from the bedroom to the boardroom, with intimate partners and perfect strangers and everyone in between.
For me, it's been a gamechanger in how raw and authentic I let myself show up in my interactions on dates, with friends and with my parents.
Ryel comes on to share why he devoted himself to this work and how it can impact the level of depth and intimacy you can experience in your relationships, from closed ones to strangers to even people you're in conflict with."Authentic relating has been called relational meditation, where the object of our meditational presence is relational space itself, which really brings us into presence, and presence, really being in the here and now, is where we experience connection, the deepest sense of being seen, seeing another, and partly the reason why that is, is because when we're really committed to the here and now we can't rely on programs and conditioning that we so often lean on as a crutch in our conversations."
Ryel is now offering an online 4 week course called "The Art of Authentic Dating."
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An update episode on recent breakthroughs in my dating and how I navigated a situation where I really liked the guy but we weren't looking for the same things.
We've all been there...you like this person but you're not looking for the same things.
Sometimes you disregard that and enjoy connecting with them.
Sometimes you hope things will change...sometimes, they do! Most of the time they don't, but you learn something anyway.
On this episode I talk about how to honor yourself and your truth while accepting the other's truth. -
Most people think of kink and they imagine scary, extreme, torture-filled, sexual interactions.
I wanted to bring someone on to talk about the love and medicine that can actually be present in kink and how it's way less intimidating than most people imagine...because it's actually be a really playful, transformative journey with the right people, setting and structure!
My guest Yossef Sagi, a Sex and Magick Educator, had the same negative connotations to kink and couldn't possibly imagine it resonating with him. Until an experience made him realize that it wasn't only powerful, it was a modality that he could use to combine all of his skills and passions and faciliate deep healing and shadow work.
Yossef comes on to give us the 101 on conscious kink and the many ways he infuses it into his coaching practice to help people heal from trauma, express lost and repressed parts of themselves, love themselves more, and deepen intimacy in relationships.
Tune in to get all your basic questions answered about kink and what it means to engage in kink in a conscious way!
We cover: power dynamics,objectification, pain, taboo and how Yossef uses each one for specific people's needs in what they want to heal or experience.
Other things we talk about:
-Whether you should hire a proffesional dom
-The importance of consent and how it creates safety and freedom
-The difference between roles in kink
-How kink scenes create a metaphor for life
-Lots of tips if you want to start diving into kink! -
Geraldine and Mike met only for a few days before Mike went off to live in a monastery for 6 months acorss the country. It was like the universe was playing a game on them as they had a deep connection right before being apart for half of a year, and they decided to play.
I brought these wonderful humans on to talk about what helped them thrive through long distance and general practical and spiritual practices that help them foster the deep intimacy and connection they share today.
Some topics we cover:
-A play-by-play of how they met and how their relationship evolved through and post long distance.
-What it looks like for them to be totally themselves and in acceptance of the other.
-How they welcome what arises between them and create a safe space for their emotions.
-What it means to meet someone like a stranger every day and how that helps their connection.
-What it looks like for them to play on the same team.
-What they've each learned about themselves through their relationship.
This episode will leave you feeling like your heart is bursting with love :)
To connect with Geraldine and Mike find them here:
Mike: https://www.instagram.com/mike_alicea/
Geraldine: https://www.instagram.com/geraldinez.amor/Geraldine is a Somatic Sex Coach that helps women deepen their experience of profound intimacy and pleasure.
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"Masculinity is not toxic, masculinity is medicine."
Behind many of the challenges men and women have in relating, is the judgment and rejection they have towards the opposite gender.
My guest Mikaal Bates is a men's coach who's dedicated to accelerating the conscious evolution of men and masculiity across the planet in our lifetime, and to heal the divine between men and women.On this episode Mikaal comes on to talk about how we need to start celebrating and pursuing healthy masculinity, and end the internal and external battle between men and women to have deeper, more loving and connected relationships between humans, communities and nations.
Tune in to be inspired by Mikaal's passion about the brillance and shadows of men that he believes is the key of bettering not just men, but women too!
To connect with Mikaal you can check out with podcast The ReMasculation Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1xjEKsfxJvLnvXShooTYco?si=d7d93314c1464487His Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikaal_bates/
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My guest today Caitlin Lili helps women & couples communicate vulnerably so they can experience deeper connection and hotter sex.
Today we talk about:
-Oftenttimes what gets in the way for a woman to be available for love with a man, is her hatred towards men.
-Caitlin's journey transforming her disruptive communication style in relationships and how that drastically changed her dating patterns and the men she was attracting.
-How to communicate your needs and desires from a place that fosters connection vs. seperation.-How to "hold uncomfortable sensations" instead of defaulting to our trauma responses in relationships.
Connect with Caitlin and find out about her upcoming programs here: https://www.instagram.com/iamcaitlinlili/
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Welcome back to Commitment Phobe!
This year I am continuing to level up the game with episodes that will provide you with rich content, incredible guests and stories on how to deepen and heal the intimacy and connection in all of your relationships in your life.
With that in mind I had to bring on an old friend Spencer Jacobson, who's currently leading events around the world called Dance Meets Tantra, where they combine conscious dance, tantra, contact improvisation and kink.Spencer and his team are committed to creating spaces where people can feel truly safe to strip themselves bare, leave behind everything that no longer serves, and to step into the most powerful and loving version of themselves.
I knew he'd be a great person to talk to about intimacy!Ever think to yourself about how hard it is to follow the advice to "just be yourself?"
What if feeling safe and authentic in relationships was something you could actually faciliate and enable with the right tools and structure?Spencer comes on to share tools and stories about how to actually create spaces in groups or personal relationships where you and others can feel free to be themselves and feel deeply seen and safe.
Some of the questions we touch on:
-What does it actually mean to create safety in relationships?
-How can we practically create more permission for authenticity?
-Why is it important for us to connect to our feelings, especially anger, in relationships?
-How do we take care of our nervous systems in relationshisp when we tend to bypass?
-What does it mean to have self-responsibility in relationship and why is that important?
-What are some ways we can be authentic with others vs. playing the role we think we need to play?Find more info about Dance Meets Tantra here! https://www.dancemeetstantra.com/
Spencer also leads a 6 month mentorship, mastermind, and brotherhood journey for men that you can check out here: https://emergence.love/Connect with Spencer on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spencerjacobson_/?hl=en
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The podcast is undergoing some revamping as I'm getting it ready for next year but I wanted to end the year off sharing some of the lessons I've learned in love and relationships this year and how it's been deeply transforming who I am!
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What are you dying to hear more about? From who?
What's going on in your life?
I want to hear!!!My e-mail: [email protected]
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We accept the love we think we deserve. A statement like that is powerful, AND it's important to keep in mind that we don't have to beat ourselves up for what we accept, experience, tolerate and live in our relationships.
Mary Haberski, a tarot reader and spiritual guide, comes on to talk about how we can view relationships as tools and mirrors for self-love and personal growth.Mary is passionate about helping people view their relationships as evolutionary tools from a compassionate lens.
There is a difference between what we want in relationship and what we actually attract or what feels safe to us in relationship, and looking at our patterns in dating can be useful to understand the difference, and how to close that gap.
Tune in to listen to Mary and I talk about how we can approach our relationships with more consciousness and less morality to feel more fulfilled and loved in our connections with others.
I met Mary through her CDMX WhatsApp group where she brings together hundreds of people to connect through conscious events and spiritual services. Her tarot readings are absolutely magical and supportive to anyone looking to bring more depth and understanding to their current life situation and view things from a more empowered viewpoint.To contact Mary:
https://maryhaberski.com
https://www.tiktok.com/@tarotwitatwist?_t=8e4gMSRivif&_r=1
https://instagram.com/yogasurflove?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==
Book a tarot reading and mention this podcast to get 11% off!
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For years now, I have been telling the story of how over the past decade, I've chipped away at my intimacy fears and have become more and more available for deep connection, commitment and vulnerability.
I always tell the same story: I start liking someone, they start liking me back, I freak out, I leave.But the truth is that I don't have avoidant tendencies, I have anxious-avoidant tendencies, many times I first freak out about percieving their distance or distinterest, and THEN I freak out about percieving their closeness.
You can imagine how confusing it was my whole life. I've decided to come on here to share about what it's been like, because I know there are lots of people out there who have felt the same, and it's always healing to reveal and talk about it! -
Public speaking is among the most common phobias people have.
What if I choke? Will people find me interesting? Will I look stupid? How can I hide my anxiety?
My guest today, Eduardo Placer, dedicates his life to helping people transform and claim their power through speaking their truth in front of an audience through his public speaking coaching company Fearless Communicators.I had the pleasure of taking one of their week-long trainings coming in THINKING I was just coming in to learn how to tell a story, and I learned SO much more about my power, my fears, and my purpose.
Tune in to listen to us talk about authenticity, the impact of masoginy on gay men, the cultural pressures of fitting in, and Eduardo's personal transformation through storytelling.
We talk about:
-Eduardo's thoughts on perfectionism and some of the ways he made peace with it as a "recovering perfectionist."
- How he believes we can alchemically shift our relationship to our speaking to become powerful communicators.
-Eduardo's childhood experiences being a gay child in a machista environment.
-Eduardo's journey from seeking to comfort by fixing himself to being authentic.
-How storytelling helps you feel empowered in relation to your past trauma.
-We dissect the word confidence and it's deep relationship to trust.
-How popularity is it's own curse and isn't actually the social "end all be all."Today's guest, Eduardo Placer, is the founder of Fearless Communicators a public speaking coaching company that teaches communicators how to bring their whole BODY, MIND, HEART and SPIRIT to a moment and channel their message in service of an audience.
Originally from Miami, FL, he is proud son and grandson of immigrants who fled both fascism in Spain and communism in Cuba. Prior to starting Fearless Communicators®, he was a professional actor for over 15 years, performing in over 35 plays and musicals throughout the United States. Eduardo has an acute condition called SHOWTUNITIS where he breaks out into spontaneous song and dance. Eduardo has a BA in English from the University of Pennsylvania and MFA in Acting from the University of California, San Diego.
Check out the Fearless Communicators trainings at: https://www.fearlesscommunicators.com/ - Show more
