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  • ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇

    in this episode, Dr. Tay talks about helpful tips and strategies for autism families navigating the holiday season. we discuss the importance of preparing for potential disruptions to routines, setting realistic expectations, giving choices, and setting boundaries. Dr. Tay addresses several elements including helping your child anticipate upcoming events, being mindful of safe foods, empowering your child by involving them in the process, and handling comments from others. there is an emphasis on the importance of being present during these moments and cherishing the progress that your child has made since the last holiday season.

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approachᵀᴹ and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

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  • In this special mini-episode Dr. Tay, a child psychologist specializing in autism, discusses how extended family members can better support parents of autistic children during the holiday season. Drawing on over a decade of experience and direct feedback from parents, Dr. Tay shares practical advice, such as understanding triggers, recognizing the effort parents put into preparing for events, and ways to offer meaningful help. This episode is what your loved one wants you to know! A special thank you to the parents who submitted their insights and are featured on this episode.

    00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

    01:12 Understanding Autism and Neurodiversity

    02:21 Holiday Support for Autistic Children

    03:29 Parental Insights and Requests

    06:38 Common Misunderstandings and Challenges

    15:07 Sensory and Social Considerations

    18:38 Creating a Supportive Environment for Neurodivergent Children

    19:05 Offering Help and Dropping Judgment

    20:21 Understanding Meltdowns and Neurodivergence

    21:11 Challenges in Getting Diagnoses and Support

    21:51 Validating Parents' Efforts and Experiences

    23:23 Navigating Family Traditions and Accommodations

    27:18 Grief and Emotional Complexity in Parenting

    32:08 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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  • In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes back Ashley Barlow, a special education attorney and advocate, for her third appearance. The discussion dives into the complexities of special education disputes, specifically focusing on mediation, due process, and parental rights. They explore the challenges parents face with school systems, legal options available, and the importance of advocacy and negotiation. Essential resources and strategies for navigating these situations are also shared, providing parents with valuable insights to better support their children’s education.

    00:00 Introduction and Guest Reintroduction

    00:33 Overview of Today's Topic

    01:18 Host and Guest Backgrounds

    02:43 Challenges in Special Education

    03:59 Navigating Special Education Law

    05:21 Advocacy and Negotiation Strategies

    10:36 Understanding Due Process

    23:32 Legal Counteractions in School Disputes

    24:05 Understanding Independent Educational Evaluations (IEE)

    24:43 Financial Considerations and Attorney Fees

    26:24 The Role of Due Process in Special Education

    28:50 Navigating 504 Plans and Anti-Discrimination Laws

    36:44 Alternative Approaches to Due Process

    41:32 Final Thoughts and Resources for Parents

    44:08 Wrap-Up and Next Steps

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ listen to episodes 53 and 57 for more information about special education from Ashley as well as her podcast The Collaborative IEP

    ⚡️ see all that Ashley has to offer here, including her newly launched IEP Guru Academy

    ⚡️ follow Ashley on Instagram @thecollaborativeiep

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    *please note: PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

  • In this episode, Dr. Tay invites Alyssa Campbell of Seed & Sew to discuss the importance of supporting autistic students at a classroom-wide level, particularly focusing on their nervous system and sensory regulation. Alyssa, with her extensive background in early childhood education and emotional development, shares insights and practical strategies for creating sensory-friendly environments and understanding individual sensory profiles. They explore the benefits of proactive versus reactive strategies in educational settings, the vital role of teachers and parents in advocating for proper supports, and the importance of normalizing neurodiverse needs to foster inclusive learning spaces for all students. The episode is filled with actionable insights that are beneficial for educators, parents, and anyone involved in the care and development of autistic children.

    00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

    00:48 Meet Alyssa Campbell: Expert in Emotional Development

    01:58 Dr. Tay's Background and Mission

    03:33 Alyssa's Journey and Collaborative Emotion Processing Method

    04:12 Understanding Sensory Regulation and Nervous System

    18:00 Practical Applications in the Classroom

    20:34 Supporting Sensory Needs in Education

    25:19 Parental and Teacher Collaboration

    25:58 Understanding Early Childhood Sensory Responses

    27:17 Proactive Strategies in Schools

    35:13 Supporting Teachers and Parents

    38:32 Managing Diverse Needs in the Classroom

    45:55 The Role of Occupational Therapy

    49:26 Resources and Final Thoughts

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️check out Alyssa and her parent-friendly resources, including the sensory quiz here: https://www.seedandsew.org/parents

    ⚡️check out her resources for teachers and schools, including her certification here: https://www.seedandsew.org/seedcertificationteachers

    ⚡️follow her on Instagram @seed.and.sew and listen to her podcast Voices of Your Village

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    *please note: PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

  • In this episode, Dr. Tay speaks with Courtney Peebles, co-founder of Solobo Toys, which designs educational toys with neurodivergent children in mind. Courtney shares personal stories about her diagnoses, launching the company, and navigating a neurodiverse household. Courtney designs toys for all ability levels. They discuss how parents can select toys that promote children's learning and interests.

    00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement

    01:23 Meet Dr. Tay: Your Host

    02:25 Courtney's Journey and Family Background

    03:09 The Diagnosis Journey

    09:41 Starting Solobo Toys

    13:36 Challenges and Triumphs in Business

    23:03 The Story Behind the Emotional Baggage Toy

    23:55 Changing the Narrative in Parenting

    24:52 Navigating Autism and Family Support

    25:32 Self-Advocacy and Permission

    26:58 Modeling Behavior for Kids

    27:43 Challenging Unrealistic Expectations

    28:22 Teaching Self-Advocacy Early

    29:31 Creating a Safe Space at Home

    32:50 Exploring and Setting Boundaries

    36:11 Designing Inclusive Toys

    41:53 Balancing Business and Accessibility

    46:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ shop Solobo Toys and check out their sensory guide

    ⚡️ follow @solobotoys on Instagram

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    *please note: PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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    In this podcast episode, Dr. Tay welcomes back Dr. Arielle Rubin, a triple board certified psychiatrist, to discuss the role of psychiatry for autistic children with co-occurring mental health conditions. This is a follow-up to episode 94, where Dr. Rubin answers parent-submitted questions.

    00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

    00:15 Recap of Episode 94

    00:53 Challenges in Psychiatry

    01:12 Disclaimer and Podcast Purpose

    02:25 Welcome Dr. Arielle Rubin

    02:38 Dr. Arielle Rubin's Background

    03:57 Breaking the Status Quo in Psychiatry

    04:22 Community Support for Families

    06:18 Diving into Parent Questions

    06:51 Stimulant Medication for ADHD

    11:11 Alternatives to Atypical Antipsychotics

    14:55 When to Consider Psychiatry

    20:08 Tips for Discussing PDA with Psychiatry

    23:24 Genesight Testing for Kids

    27:42 Considering Mental Health Programs

    29:09 Inpatient Psychiatry: When and Why

    30:53 Residential Treatment Centers

    32:04 Intensive Outpatient Programs and Partial Hospitalization

    35:19 Medications for Rumination and Aggression

    39:36 Medications to Avoid and Supplement Interactions

    42:53 Final Thoughts and Resources

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ listen to episode 94 on Apple or Spotify

    ⚡️ follow Dr. Rubin on Instagram, join the Autism Roadmaps Community, and sign-up for her newsletter

    ⚡️ download the Supplement Guide for Autism and Mental Health referenced in the episode

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    *please note:

    1) in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

    2) PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge...

  • ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇

    In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses the key themes she is seeing in clinical practice. Dr. Taylor Day is a licensed psychologist specializing in neurodiversity affirming care and shares insights regarding common referral questions as well as what many families in her group therapy program are navigating.

    00:00 Introduction to Common Themes in Clinical Practice

    01:21 Understanding Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

    03:19 Challenges Faced by Parents and Families

    04:41 The Role of Clinical Care vs. Social Media

    07:12 The Importance of Tailored Clinical Approaches

    16:23 Second Opinion Evaluations and Autism Diagnosis

    20:52 Navigating the Broken System

    21:27 Scholarships and Financial Aid

    21:50 Late Autism Diagnoses in Children

    23:02 Parents Exploring Their Own Neurodiversity

    24:54 Parents' Mental Health Matters

    29:46 Advocacy as a Skill

    32:43 Challenges in Schools with Neurodiversity Affirming Care

    36:41 Conclusion and Community Support

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    *PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

  • ⚠️ DISCLAIMER >> this episode dives into trauma-informed care but highly sensitive topics are discussed, including Rachel’s personal experiences with a nationally publicized traumatic event while working at a school in 2018

    ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇

    In this podcast episode, Dr. Tay hosts Rachel Archambault, a speech-language pathologist specializing in trauma informed practices. They delve into the definition of trauma informed care, its importance in neurodiversity affirming practices, and how trauma can impact autistic individuals and their families. Rachel shares her personal experience with trauma, highlighting how professionals and parents can proactively adopt trauma informed approaches. The episode also covers practical tips for discussing traumatic events with children and ensuring that care providers are sensitive to trauma. Resources like the NASP guidelines and social stories are recommended for further support.

    00:00 Introduction and Theme Overview

    02:41 Guest Introduction: Rachel Archambault

    03:41 Rachel's Traumatic Experience

    07:03 Impact and Aftermath of Trauma

    10:42 Trauma Informed Care in Schools

    14:17 Supporting Children Through Trauma

    16:48 Collaborative Efforts and Resources

    23:26 Drills and Trauma: A Delicate Balance

    31:00 Big T vs Little T Trauma

    32:17 Understanding PTSD and Trauma Symptoms

    33:31 Personal Experiences with Trauma

    33:54 Listening and Validating Trauma

    35:02 Trauma in Autism and Communication Challenges

    36:03 Bodily Autonomy and Abuse Risks

    38:54 Trauma Informed Care: Key Elements

    47:49 Recognizing and Preventing Trauma

    54:22 Proactive Trauma Informed Approaches

    57:04 Resources and Final Thoughts

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ connect with Rachel

    Instagram @ptsd.slp

    Facebook @ptsd.slp

    LinkedIn @rachel-archambault

    Website: www.ptsdslp.com

    Email: [email protected]

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    *please note:

    1) in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

    2) PDA is referenced in this episode. it is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to...

  • ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇

    In this episode, Dr. Tay explores obsessive traits in autistic children, inspired by a conversation with Katherine @theneurodiversitymom. The discussion focuses on distinguishing between autism-related behaviors and potential co-occurring conditions like OCD. The episode highlights the need for diagnostic clarity and continuous reassessment of children's behaviors to identify effective support strategies. Dr. Tay also shares personal insights from a recent business retreat, emphasizing the importance of self-care for parents. Additionally, Dr. Tay discusses updates to her new educational membership platform aimed at empowering parents globally to advocate for their autistic children and providing tools for better support strategies.

    00:00 Introduction to Obsessive Traits in Autistic Kids

    00:07 Inspiration Behind the Episode

    01:47 Personal Life Updates and Reflections

    08:54 The Importance of Diagnostic Clarity

    09:20 Understanding Obsessive Traits and OCD

    12:11 Strategies for Supporting Kids with Obsessive Traits

    16:58 The Role of Medication and Therapy

    20:42 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

    25:29 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️learn more about the membership: drtaylorday.com/membership

    ⚡️learn more about group therapy: drtaylorday.com/therapy

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    *PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

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    In this episode, Dr. Tay explores the topic of neurodivergence in adults, particularly parents, with guest Dr. Salena Justice, a psychologist specializing in late diagnoses of autism and ADHD. They discuss the indicators of neurodivergence, the evaluation process, and the differences between self-diagnosis and formal diagnosis. The conversation also addresses common issues faced by neurodivergent adults, the therapy approaches that can be beneficial, and the importance of finding the right therapist.

    00:00 Introduction to Neurodivergence in Parenting

    00:37 Guest Introduction: Dr. Salena Justice

    00:50 Understanding Late Diagnoses in Adults

    01:35 Host's Background and Podcast Purpose

    02:44 Challenges in Diagnosing Autism in Adults

    07:35 Evaluation Process for Adults

    12:21 Common Presentations of Autism in Adults

    15:14 ADHD in Adults: Common Presentations and Challenges

    17:45 Discussing Autism Diagnoses and Common Misdiagnoses

    19:08 Evaluating Autism and ADHD in Women

    23:15 Therapy Approaches for Autism and ADHD

    26:52 Finding the Right Therapist

    28:40 Connecting with Dr. Salena Justice

    31:04 Conclusion and Next Steps

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ connect with Dr. Salena on Instagram @@psychologywithsalena and check out her website

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

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    In this episode, Dr. Tay discusses child-led therapy with Nicole Casey, a speech-language pathologist known for her work with gestalt language processing. The conversation delves into the importance of child-led approaches, how they differ from traditional methods, and what parents should look for in therapy sessions. They also touch on the misconceptions around play-based therapy, the challenges and benefits of truly child-led sessions, and the significance of honoring all forms of communication. Nicole shares her experience of growing her practice and social media presence, advocating for child-centered methods, and collaborating within the field to offer authentic support for neurodivergent children.

    00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic

    00:21 Meet Nicole Casey: Speech Therapist and Advocate

    01:59 Nicole's Journey and Social Media Impact

    09:03 Defining Child-Led Therapy

    11:18 Balancing Therapy Goals with Child-Led Approaches

    15:56 The Importance of Play in Therapy

    27:31 Communication Beyond Spoken Language

    32:11 Kids Taking Initiative

    32:29 Recognizing Progress in Therapy

    33:38 Mindset Shifts for Parents

    34:55 Child-Led Therapy in Practice

    38:05 Navigating Real-World Challenges

    40:07 Balancing Boundaries and Freedom

    45:34 Adapting Child-Led Approaches in Different Settings

    49:22 Conclusion and Resources

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ connect with Nicole Casey on Instagram @connectionsspeechpathology and her website www.greatlanguagepartner.com

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

  • In this mini episode, Dr. Tay discusses the distinction between Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). Inspired by conversations with parents in her group therapy program, she delves into the complexities and overlaps between the two diagnoses. Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of understanding PDA within the framework of anxiety and highlights the stigmas associated with ODD, especially in racialized communities. She also touches on the limitations of behavioral approaches and the significance of adopting neurodiversity-affirming practices.

    00:00 Introduction and Life Updates

    00:45 Exploring PDA and ODD

    02:03 Nuances and Misconceptions

    02:49 Clinical Perspectives and Research

    05:33 Therapeutic Approaches and Stigma

    09:52 Evidence-Based Practices

    14:46 Conclusion and Future Episodes

    *PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

    DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

  • In this episode, Dr. Tay interviews Kaley Stymeist about "Spell to Communicate" (S2C), a method used to support non-speaking autistic children in expressing themselves. Kaley shares her journey with her son Hudson, who is progressing his communication through S2C after language regression. The discussion covers the methodology of S2C, emphasizing its neurodiversity-affirming approach and the importance of motor planning. Kaley also addresses common misconceptions and the need for structured training. Listeners learn where to find S2C practitioners and how to get started.

    00:00 Introduction to Spell to Communicate

    00:42 Meet Kaley Stymeist

    01:03 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission

    02:20 Kaley's Family and Autism Journey

    03:07 Hudson's Birth and Early Challenges

    06:49 Discovering Spell to Communicate

    15:38 Hudson's Progress and Motor Planning

    25:32 Starting with Presuming Competence

    25:50 Introduction to Three Letter Boards

    26:16 Transition to 26 Letter Boards

    26:54 The Importance of Prompting

    28:32 Building Motor Control and Accuracy

    30:08 Progressing to Open Communication

    33:18 The Goal of Spell to Communicate

    39:09 Addressing Concerns and Misconceptions

    44:50 Finding a Practitioner and Training

    47:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ connect with Kaley on Instagram @kaley_and_3 and learn more about her S2C practice @autismsoulspeak

    ⚡️ find a local S2C practitioner >> https://i-asc.org/

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    *please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

  • Dr. Tay shares a mini-episode where she dives into the complexities and controversies surrounding Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) therapy in the autism field. She presents a balanced perspective on ABA, emphasizing the importance of informed consent and considering the diverse needs and privileges of families. Dr. Tay also highlights different neurodiversity affirming modalities under the ABA umbrella, upcoming podcast guests, and her own experiences, urging the need for more nuanced conversations in the field.

    00:00 Introduction and Personal Update

    00:52 Welcome to the Parenting Space

    01:05 Diving into ABA Therapy

    01:22 Controversies and Perspectives on ABA

    01:41 Upcoming Podcast Guests and Topics

    04:55 Informed Decision-Making for Families

    05:42 Advocating for Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

    07:06 Changing the Field from the Inside Out

    08:55 Accessibility Issues in Neurodiversity Affirming Therapy

    09:18 Challenges in Child Care for Working Parents

    10:02 Intersectionality and Racial Perspectives in ABA

    11:05 Safety and Compliance for Non-White Children

    12:08 Balancing Family Needs and Therapy Approaches

    12:43 Open Dialogue and Future Conversations

    13:34 Supporting Families Through Free Resources and Memberships

    14:47 Encouraging Informed Consent and Advocacy

    15:37 Conclusion and Future Episodes

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ listen to episodes 26, 59, and 128, which further discuss ABA and varying approaches. and check out the Making the Shift episode on ABA that inspired this episode!

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? schedule a free consult call here or email [email protected] if you have questions.

    DISCLAIMER >> anything shared on this podcast should not be considered clinical advice, and you should consult with your team of medical, mental health, and developmental providers if you need support.

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    In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Rob Gorski, known as The Autism Dad on social media, to discuss his experience as a father raising three autistic children. They explore the unique challenges and opportunities of fatherhood in the autism community, the grief process associated with diagnoses, and the importance of leaning into emotions. Rob shares his journey of starting a blog, the evolving support needs of his children, and the importance of self-care and mental health for parents. They also discuss the societal expectations for dads and the need for more inclusive and supportive conversations around fatherhood and autism.

    00:00 Introduction and Today's Special Guest

    00:58 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission

    02:01 Rob Gorski's Family and Autism Journey

    03:22 Challenges and Insights on Autism Diagnoses

    08:48 Support Needs and Progress of Rob's Children

    12:42 Navigating Parenting and Personal Challenges

    13:39 The Role of Dads in Autism Parenting

    18:05 Emotional Struggles and Mental Health

    28:38 Understanding the Impact of Parental Emotions

    29:34 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting

    31:10 Navigating Social Media and External Judgments

    32:54 The Importance of Repair and Recovery

    34:50 Challenging Parenting Norms and Expectations

    39:03 Advocating for Your Child's Needs

    44:06 The Power of Vulnerability and Self-Care

    48:33 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ connect with Rob on Instagram @theautismdad and on his website

    ⚡️ listen to our recent episode on Rob's podcast about autism in girls

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    *please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language they have been exposed to the most.

  • ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇

    In this episode, Dr. Tay speaks with Carrie Cariello, a mother of five, including an autistic young adult. Carrie shares her family's journey, advocacy work, and the unique challenges and triumphs of raising an autistic child. They discuss practical strategies for fostering independence, the importance of community, navigating the education system, and marital dynamics. Carrie also shares insights into the transition to young adulthood, including finding supportive college programs. This episode offers hope, practical advice, and a reminder that families are not alone in their journey.

    00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview

    02:09 Meet Carrie Cariello: A Journey Through Autism

    03:00 Carrie's Family and Early Diagnosis

    04:07 From Writing to Advocacy

    06:40 Navigating Challenges and Safety Concerns

    08:59 Parenting Strategies and Splinter Skills

    17:50 Redefining Family Dynamics

    27:48 Parenting Challenges and Triumphs

    28:41 Navigating Discomfort and Fix-It Mode

    29:16 Dinner Time Dilemmas

    31:28 College Program Search

    36:24 Balancing Marriage and Parenting

    40:12 Encouraging Independence

    45:48 Final Thoughts and Resources

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ connect with Carrie >>

    Instagram @carrie_cariello 

    Facebook @whatcolorismonday

    Website Link: https://carriecariello.substack.com

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    *please note: in this episode, many terminologies and phrases are used to describe autism. Dr. Tay honors what each child and family prefers, and intentionally chooses to use affirming and identity-first language after listening to autistic adults and their preferences. various guests on the podcast are likely to use the language that they have been exposed to the most.

  • ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇

    In this episode, Dr. Tay hosts Maggie of Unfurling Littles and explores Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) from an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) lens. They discuss how to incorporate neurodiversity-affirming practices into ABA to create a compassionate, child-led approach. Maggie shares her journey into the field, her own lived experience as an autistic individual, and practical examples of how ACT principles can be applied within ABA for the benefit of both children and their families. The episode also addresses common concerns about traditional ABA and offers insights on fostering mindful play and regulation.

    00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview

    00:46 Guest Introduction: Maggie from Unfurling Littles

    02:33 Maggie's Journey into Early Childhood Special Education

    03:43 Challenges and Criticisms of ABA

    06:28 Maggie's Personal Neurodivergence Story

    08:29 Founding Unfurling Littles and Professional Challenges

    10:59 Navigating ABA and Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

    14:38 Introduction to ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy)

    16:39 Implementing ACT in Family and Child Goals

    21:26 Balancing Family and Child Values in Therapy

    27:08 Practical Applications of ACT in Therapy

    29:25 Measuring Engagement and Joy in Child Interactions

    29:59 Integrating Child-Led Approaches in Therapy

    30:27 Present Moment Awareness and Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

    32:04 Mindfulness in Neurodiversity Affirming Care

    34:16 Handling Dysregulation with ACT Principles

    36:32 The Importance of Validating Emotions

    40:41 Healing Through Neurodiversity Affirming Practices

    44:33 The Evolution and Future of ABA

    50:49 Connecting with Families and Resources

    52:45 Final Thoughts and Next Steps

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ connect with Maggie on Instagram @unfurling_littles and her website https://www.unfurlinglittles.com

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

    Note: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110

  • 👉🏼 ENROLL NOW >> http://drtaylorday.com/membership

    If you find value in this podcast and want even more support, tune in to learn about “EVOLVE the membership.” This new membership offers a lower-cost, flexible alternative to traditional clinical services, designed to provide accessible support and education for autism families. I share personal insights about my journey from academia to entrepreneurship, the challenges faced in balancing multiple roles, and the motivation behind creating this membership. Making this launch happen even while I’m in Europe (and truthfully it feels quite sentimental!).

    What’s included in the membership:

    ⚡️a comprehensive video library

    ⚡️community support

    ⚡️expert masterclasses

    ⚡️ resources

    ⚡️and if you’re a founding member, you get the opportunity to shape what’s in the membership and what I create.

    👉🏼 MORE DETAIL HERE + ENROLL NOW >> http://drtaylorday.com/membership

    00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

    00:32 Launching a New Membership

    02:24 Personal Journey and Professional Growth

    04:42 Challenges and Expanding Services

    06:51 The Evolve Membership Details

    09:46 Balancing Personal and Professional Life

    12:02 Advocacy and Real-Life Stories

    18:03 Membership Benefits and Pricing

    31:35 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

  • ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇

    Dr. Tay and Rachel Madel, a speech language pathologist specializing in AAC, dive into the benefits of Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) for autistic children, both non-speaking and verbally fluent children. They dispel common misconceptions about AAC, discuss various high-tech and low-tech AAC tools, and emphasize the importance of modeling and integrating AAC into daily routines. They also explore the impact of AAC on motor planning, literacy, and overall communication skills. Rachel shares practical tips for parents starting the AAC journey, highlights the significance of robust systems, and challenges the use of PECS. The episode includes insights on how technology can enhance communication, even among children with well-developed spoken language, and offers various resources for further learning.

    00:00 Introduction to AAC and Its Importance

    00:47 Meet Rachel Madel: AAC Specialist

    02:34 Understanding AAC: Tools and Techniques

    06:07 The Role of Technology in AAC

    09:37 Starting the AAC Journey: Tips for Parents

    14:21 Addressing Misconceptions About AAC

    19:57 Motor Planning Challenges: Apraxia vs. Dyspraxia

    26:08 Popular AAC Apps and Tools

    30:01 The Importance of Core Words in AAC

    30:20 Grammar and Literacy in AAC Systems

    31:04 Modifying AAC Systems

    32:54 Motivating Children to Use AAC

    36:04 The Role of Modeling in AAC

    39:00 Why Not PECS?

    43:54 Introducing AAC to Verbal Children

    46:46 Resources and Final Thoughts

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ connect with Rachel on Instagram @rachelmadelslp, find resources on her website www.rachelmadel.com, and listen to her podcast Talking with Tech

    ⚡️ get on the waitlist for Rachel's course, AAC Ally

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay

  • ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇

    In this episode, Dr. Tay welcomes Stefanie, the president and co-founder of the nonprofit Lilly's Voice. Stefanie shares the inspiring story of her non-speaking autistic daughter, Lilly, whose journey with augmentative and alternative communication (AAC) devices led to the creation of the nonprofit. Lilly’s Voice provides AAC devices to children who have communication differences for families who cannot access these tools through conventional means, such as through school funding, insurance, or other grant mechanisms. Lilly’s Voice also provides education on AAC. The episode covers the importance of AAC, debunks common myths, and emphasizes best practices for parents to support their children's communication. Stefanie also discusses fundraising efforts and the impactful work of Lilly’s Voice.

    00:00 Introduction to Lily's Voice Nonprofit

    02:19 Meet Stephanie: The Inspiration Behind Lily's Voice

    03:32 The Journey to AAC: Challenges and Discoveries

    05:51 Launching Lily's Voice: A Nationwide Nonprofit

    08:34 Understanding Apraxia and the Role of AAC

    12:11 Debunking Myths About AAC

    20:01 Navigating the Process of Acquiring AAC Devices

    25:48 How Lily's Voice Supports Families

    27:18 App Limitations and Popular Choices

    28:02 Guidance for Parents on Choosing Apps

    30:20 Personal Experiences with AAC Apps

    31:28 Best Practices for AAC Devices

    34:55 Learning and Customizing AAC Devices

    40:12 Fundraising and Support for Lily's Voice

    45:25 Encouragement and Final Thoughts

    46:39 Conclusion and Next Steps

    RESOURCES

    ⚡️ learn more about Lilly's Voice, apply for a scholarship, and learn about AAC on their website

    ⚡️ connect with Stefanie through the nonprofit’s Instagram account @lillysvoice and Lilly’s personal page @afriendforlillybug

    ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com

    ⚡️ join the Evolve Facebook community to participate in the episode Q+As >> facebook.com/groups/evolveautism

    ⚡️ learn from me and submit your questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>

    Instagram @the.dr.tay

    TikTok @the.dr.tay

    LinkedIn @the-dr-tay