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Many people decide in the New Year that they are going to look for love.
And many find it doesn't work.
Listen to find out what DOES work.
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Give this to your guy friends.
Make an effort!
Ask her out within the week.
Do NOT talk about sex with her until the third date minimum!
Just tell her if you're not interested.
Put some good photos on your profile. No shots up the nose.
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Women, what you can do to stand out in the sea of single women out there.
*Be positive! In the early stages, you are trying to impress not repel. You have plenty of time to be real eventually but start out sunshine and roses.
*He doesn't have enough data to know you otherwise. Give him enough good data so when the little stuff going wrong won't stand out.
*Be specific if you change dates.
*Do you know what you want? And are you realistic? These are real men not Disney princes. Please don't over rotate on the topic of wanting a tall man.
*Uncertainty is uncomfortable but you can get over it.
*Pictures!!! Do them right.www.dianebrandonmoody.com/50-places
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Are you up for this challenge?!
www.dianebrandonmoody.com/50-places and get my whole list of places to meet people.
50 places = 52 weeks in a year
Pick one place a week and have an open mind. Look for evidence and data.
Not your obligation to worry about whether he/she is married or not. Ask for advice, reach for a top shelf, what do you like with your steak? BFD, no issues.
Use a journal, write about your experience. What went right and what didn't?
Pick something else the next week.
I love dancing.
Take a girlfriend, but separate at the door.
Home Depot, but don't worry about it if it doesn't work.
Kicking off on October 1.www.dianebrandonmoody.com/50-places
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FENG SHUI – WHEN YOU WANT TO USE A LITTLE WOO IN YOUR WOOING
*BIG BELIEVER IN FENG SHUI. I DON’T KNOW IF IT WORKS BECAUSE I THINK IT WORKS OR BECAUSE IT REALLY DOES. DON’T KNOW AND DON’T CARE.
*Feng Shui is the ancient Chinese art of placement and energy. The belief is that energy swirls around your home and you can either block the energy or you enhance it. Each home has areas assigned to each part of life, including love. Let’s enhance that area, not block it!
*I DON’T BELIEVE FENG SHUI TAKES THE PLACE OF COACHING BECAUSE YOU COULD STILL GET IN YOUR OWN WAY PLENTY OF TIMES, BUT I THINK IT HELPS.
*HERE’S HOW TO DO IT:
DOWNLOAD A BAGUA FROM THE INTERNET – I’VE INCLUDED ONE I LIKE IN THE SHOW NOTES.
FENG SHUI MANHATTAN https://fengshuimanhattan.com/blog/2018/6/21/feng-shui-bagua-map-basics-for-your-home
PRETEND YOU’RE LAYING THIS GRID OVER THE FLOOR PLAN OF YOUR HOUSE.
THE CAREER AREA IS YOUR FRONT DOOR OR THE DOOR TO ANY ROOM YOU PLAN TO WORK ON.
FROM THE CAREER AREA, YOU LOOK TO THE BACK OF THE HOUSE AND IN THE FAR RIGHT CORNER IS YOUR LOVE AND ROMANCE CORNER. HERE ARE SOME TIPS FOR YOUR LOVE AREA:
*First of all, no single items, no photos or pictures of you by yourself or anyone by themselves. These may be wonderful pieces of art, but make sure you put them in other places in your bagua.
*You only want pairs. Somehow I inherited two wooden carved elephants. Those are perfect for where my love area is, which incidentally is our bedroom. If you have a picture up, make it one of you and your beloved. If you don’t have a beloved, move the picture of just you elsewhere. If you have a picture of your dog, move it unless you have two dogs. Lovebirds is a great option, amazon has some.
*You can decorate with fresh flowers – make sure they are alive and get rid of them immediately once they die. You can also decorate with photos or paintings with flowers. That works just as well.
*You don’t want conflict in this room. No object or image that’s negative, sad, makes you angry or lonely. If you really like the art, put it in another place.
*Feel free to decorate with pink, red or white – but don’t make it too girly if you’re single. If you’re looking for a relationship with a man, you’ll want the place to be very comfortable for both of you.
*If you like sexy art, I found some great pieces for a reasonable about of money on Etsy. But again, if you have a person in the artwork, make sure it’s two people.
*Do not put a mirror across from your bed. The energy bounces back and forth. You can cover it with a towel or a sheer curtain if you want to improve the restfulness.
*if your love area is in a cluttered area like a garage or a closet, clean it out as soon as possible.
*Healthy green plants are helpful in the love area. Put them in a clay pot for maximum effect.
Let me know how these tips help – or don’t – at [email protected]. I’ll try to help you out.
And here’s a reminder. If you haven’t reached out for my 50 places to meet people over 50, now’s a great time. Go to my website – dianebrandonmoody.com and you’ll find it. Easy breezy!
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00:40 What's important to you in a relationship?
01:30 Staying longer than you should
02:10 What's really important?
03:40 An illustration of why knowing what's important
04:58 Ridiculous ideas of compatibility
06:40 Pick your biggest ally and fan
07:31 Rapidfire questions
08:40 Signoff
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No fancy music this week, just slapping it up there!
Talking to the single ladies over 50 today.
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Introduction to Diane Brandon Moody. Get 50 ways to meet singles over 50 at www.dianebrandonmoody.com/50-ways.
Talking to Deanna Marie who is coaching women in alcoholic relationships. She talks about her background and how there were no resources for her. So she created them!
How could she understand their struggles without her life history?
Pervasive issue: they didn't get into the relationship because they really loved the alcoholic and had a vision for the future. How to reconcile?
How do you help? Case by case basis. Some choose to stay, some choose to go. Empowering them to create a life tomorrow by working today. She supports them wherever they are.
DeannaMarieLifeCoaching.com. Online group therapy sessions available.
One tip: Why you want to stay/go and see which one aligns with you more.www.dianebrandonmoody.com/50-places
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This is Diane Brandon Moody, a dating coach for people over 50. Join us today as I explore the topic of conscious men with Mike Watts. He's married to Kate Northrup, is a co-founder of their company together and the father to two daughters. He's the first guy to appear as a guest on FiftySomething Love and the first person much younger than 50.
What's a panty dropper?! Listen and we'll finish the thought from the first episode.
I encourage women to encourage the men in their lives to listen.
Have a conversation, a real one without distractions, talk about the future.
Don't get stuck in the how.
The super power is in the discomfort.
The panty dropper is learning how to listen and apologize, but women need to quit apologizing all the time.
He genuinely apologized for something he did wrong. Usually when he's mad, it's about him, not "you." He felt like apologizing might be weakness.
Discusses relationship to time, end of life and where healing needs to take place.
Dudes, you can learn to apologize correctly and we don't have to fix everything.
What do you want? It helps give guidance.
Discussing polarity. For men, find men to work things out with and the same with women.
If men would ask questions of women they meet, they are automatically up several notches.
Talking about getting to know people dating.
Asking my list of favorite questions.
Parting words of wisdom. Have a lot of grace for each other. Become the person you want to be with! "I am the only one I can be in charge of." How do I show up in the world? Who are you hanging with?
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Very special episode with a special guest, a two-parter, Mike Watts. You may know him as married to Kate Northrup and co-founder of Kate Northrup (they created Relaxed Money). We're talking on the topic of "conscious men," and what do we mean by that? You'll have to listen! This is a PERFECT episode to invite the men in your life.
Two firsts: first time a man was a guest and the first time he's younger than 50.
Diane thinks he's a conscious man. The definition from Diane is the kind of guy uplifting other people in the room, men AND women, not a perfect guy but always learning and trying to be a better man. Mike agrees that he would consider himself one. He doesn't know how to find them, but here's his background. He's always been around large numbers of women. Kate wasn't a pushover.
We're both Virgos and we both have Scorpios rising. He realized he's not right all the time.
What's the purpose of life? He'd like to be a better person when he dies and have fun doing it. So he's put himself in uncomfortable situations.
Letting kids have their own opinions, he's always interested in his kids. The kids can state their opinions and he listens.
He thought therapy was about trauma only, but now goes when needed. Enjoys men's events. He especially enjoys Sacred Sons, not religious or militaristic and contains diversity. "Men can't heal with women, they need men. Women can heal through conscious men but not the other way around."
One part of the success of their 10 year marriage: they really like each other.
Prefers the term "conflict" instead of "fighting" or "arguing." They have shared interests like company, the kids, movies, traveling. Also enjoy solo time.
When he's 50, he likes what he does now. He's looking forward to hanging around for breakfast, coffee, dominoes and pickle ball.
Suggestions for men who want to be more conscious: have real conversations, what are their desires for the future? Getting to know that person. You may want to check out, but stay with it. Don't get stuck in the how. The feeling of "how do I fix this now?" is where the Super Power is.
It's called the Panty Dropper.
What a cliffhanger!
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Welcome to another episode of Fiftysomething Love. Today we're coaching with Tihesha.
I'm a dating coach for singles over 50.
Get 50 ways to meet singles over 50 at dianebrandonmoody.com.
Tihesha wants to know if she can find a partner when she's over 50 but has two young children.
She hasn't asked anyone and hasn't received any feedback.
Diane asked this question in a large FB group.
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Welcome to another episode of Fiftysomething Love, the podcast of interest for women over 50.
I'm your host, Diane Brandon Moody, I'm a dating coach for people over 50.
Who pays for dates?
Ellen introduces herself, works with all women having to do with money. It's a challenge to talk about money in our culture. Men talk about money more than women do.
Diane's history of money within the family.
7:40 Money and masculinity and achievement.
9:55 Money is an exchange of energy.
11:50 No rules, there are laws, but no rules. Whatever you believe money stands for is the pain point.
14:00 Where you put your money is what you value. How do you feel when you spend money? Track in. Make it feel as good as possible.
15:50 Who pays for dates?
22:01 Text ahead so you know and not struggle in the middle.
27:00 Quick questions.
Free personality & money quiz on www.ellenyale.com
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Intro to Diane Brandon Moody, a dating coach for people over 50.
1:30 Date ideas - DO NOT SET YOURSELF UP FOR NEEDING A QUICK GETAWAY.
No real romantic qualities with a coffee date.
There are differing opinions about who should set up the date.
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:15 introduction to Diane (me), a dating coach for people over 50. PLEASE bring your partner, significant other, spouse or friends into this topic - MENOPAUSE. Get my free guide - 50 places to meet singles over 50 at dianebrandonmoody.com.
2:00 Introduction to Vanessa Ross, nurse & midwife, certified as a coach and in menopause, started this business when she started feeling the effects of perimenopause.
Estrogen Matters - book mentioned, history of hormone therapy, the importance of accurate information.
7:24 Diane's story of uterine cancer and hormone cream.
8:52 Letting in men on the conversation.
10:00 Lack of women within studies. Menopause actually changes your brain.
The Menopause Brain - another book
12:00 Diane continuing her story, no hot flashes. Knowing options are worth it.
14:09 Where to find health care professionals that are trained - menopause.org.
Midi - no affiliation, telehealth for women in menopause.
15:50 What can women do to help this time of health beyond hormones. Strength training is so important for bones, muscles and cognition. Prioritizing self-care: rest, stress, sleep, fun, pleasure, relationships.
21:00 How important connections are.
21:37 Where do we start?
26:00 How to find Vanessa? www.vanessarosscoachingcom, IG @vanessarosscoaching
26:34 Rapid-fire questions.
30:00 Sign-off
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Hellooooo, everyone. I'm back with THE MOST FASCINATING EPISODE.
I'm with Joan Wiseman, who is a coach for women with married men. Suspend judgment for this episode for a bit, and you'll find a very interesting conversation indeed.
:25 Let your guy listen to this one if you have one.
:60 Introduction to Joan Wiseman.
1:39 How did you get into this business? She sought help from a life coach. Wanted to help others. She had an affair with a married man. She had no support.
3:40 It's an original niche. Speaking about compassion. The other woman always gets the blame. The man is "boys will be boys."
4:38 Baffles me about women who never blame their husbands, going after the other woman. Why aren't you mad at your husband?
5:34 The reason is the wife doesn't want to lose what she has.
6:25 How do you help them? Explanation of how the brain works in this situation. Helping them understand power of decision, and work with their thinking and brains.
9:21 Where does someone find you on TikTok? @thejoanwiseman or The Wise Coach.
9:30 What are the "hardest nuts to crack" here?
12:30 Where do people find you? What would you say to "the other women" if you catch her before she becomes that?
14:00 Quickfire questions.
You can find Joan Wiseman at DiscreetCoaching.com.
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This is the place to go if you're single, over 50 and looking for love.
1:00 The story of how I learned what I needed to do to change as a single woman over 50 looking to find the love of her life. Listening to my intuition.
2:15 You can only change yourself. It's disempowering to wait for THEM to change.
3:30 Tips & tricks for online dating.
6:45 Rejection isn't personal.
7:20 Are you looking for a Disney prince? Or a real guy?
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9:54 Rejection isn't always rejection.
11:43 If you don't want to be online, go to my website: www.dianebrandonmoody.com/50-places and you'll get a list of 50 places to meet people over 50.
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Welcome to a very special episode - I'm speed coaching Mary Beth about her dating life. We can't get into it all in the time frame we have, but it's a little taste of getting to what might help change.
1:15 She's a divorced mom of a young teenager and now has more time to focus on her own desires. Stopped dating a few years ago intentionally to work on her own things. Wasn't a priority, didn't like who she was meeting. It sounds and feels like a lot of work. She lacked some skills.
4:15 It's a different experience than when we were younger - we carry scars and are more protective, always looking for red flags. Could be good, could be too much examining. And sometimes not enough time is the truth.
5:40 Toxicity can be everywhere and nowhere at the same time, the apps can be toxic but I met my husband on Craigslist which was a sewer. I didn't carry the toxicity with me.
8:50 Do you meet anywhere in person? She doesn't go many places but she's outgoing and talks to people in public. Does she know how to flirt? Does she recognize someone interested? A friend told her she's misses opportunities.
11:20 Are you really interested in meeting anyone right now? Let's not be contradictory. Open to a partner, doesn't need a dad for the kid, doesn't need someone to pay her bills. Not searching for it.
13:20 She knows her value and is willing to stay single. But she's guarded around men. No vulnerability. She hasn't been able to count on a man. She doesn't want to get hurt.
14:40 Vulnerability is part of it! You have to be willing to put yourself out there.
17:40 In coaching, I teach how to minimize the risk.
18:00 Taking time to get to know someone. You CAN get hurt, that's the downside of love. Finding a person worth taking the risk may be difficult but it's also the cart before the horse. You need time.
20:21 There's someone she has a bit of a crush on someone.
23:00 Diane gives this assignment to her. Flirt in person with three guys, including the one she has a crush on. A guy needs a clear runway.
28:00 50 Places to Meet People Over 50 - where to meet them in person.
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