Episodes
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Join us for this episode as Flourish Therapy practitioner Bethany Randolph walks us through how the way we address our triggers and young parts can actually be keeping us stuck. Bethany guides Lauren through an impromptu therapy session, gently showing how to allow the wounded parts of us EXPERIENCE our strong and compassion Self. It's a powerful practice that can open you up to new neural pathways of healing and transformation.
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We so enjoyed this guest interview with Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free. We quickly connected and had such an engaging conversation about her new memoir where she shares about her exit from her marriage, her church and the toxic theology and shame that had trapped her for so long. She found a lot of help with her healing process through IFS, and actually writes part of her book from the perspective of her different parts. It is such a brave and brilliant move! If you or someone you love is questioning the health of your marriage, family of origin or community of faith, this episode is for you.
Find Natalie at https://www.flyingfreenow.com/
Natalie Hoffman is the author of Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse and All the Scary Little Gods: a Memoir as well as the host of the Flying Free podcast. She is a mother, grandmother, educator, and passionate advocate for Christian women in abusive homes and churches. Natalie empowers Christian women to discover and use their God-given voices, gifts, and freedom to make their own adult choices for their spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being.
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We all want more regulated nervous systems, but HOW do we get from information and knowledge about the nervous system, to actually experiencing a wider window of tolerance and deeper regulation capacity?
💭🎙🧠 In this episode we offer you 11 effective ways to cultivate a more regulated nervous system over time, and help you recover from the effects of trauma and chronic stress. Most of them are very accessible to most people, and guess what--none of them are therapy (although, of course that is often a very helpful support in developing a more regulated nervous system). We hope this is helpful to you! What would you add? Which have helped you?
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Join us as we explore what we propose could possibly be the root behind misogyny.
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In this episode of the Filled to Flourish podcast we examine the topic of boundaries with more detail and nuance than a lot of boundaries conversations. We explore this topic a lot with each other and clients, and wanted to bring some of that more complicated conversation to the podcast.
We discuss:
-Boundary basics
-Power, autonomy and systems
-When defensiveness is normal, when it's harmful
-Why those closest to us might have such a hard time with our boundaries
-Family systems and roles
-Shared and unshared boundaries
-How powerfully healing it can be when someone responds well to our boundaries
-What people's reaction to your boundaries can tell you about your relationship -
Jessica Willis Fisher was the oldest daughter in a high-control family system, that just so happened to also be famous (TLC, AGT...ect) Behind the gorgeous smiles and stunning talent of this 14 person family- fear, control and every kind of abuse reigned.
When Jessica became able to really face the horrors of what was happening to her, and her family members, she was faced with a seemingly impossible decision. Her memoir captures the immense struggle of her story with striking heart and clarity. We had the honor of interviewing Jessica and hearing from her personally about:
-the nature of the effects of abuse on victims
-the role of responsibility in getting free and staying free
-reframing how we understand committed relationships like marriage
-how everyone plays a part in abuse prevention, awareness and support
-Jessica gives a sneak peak into what she is working on next by way of writing
-and more!
Jessica shares so authentically and powerfully, this episode is a new favorite of ours! Find Jessica on IG @jessicawillisfisher and her website https://jessicawillisfisher.com/
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So much of our lives involve managing life in the aftermath of other peoples choices. This is particularly true when it comes to your childhood.
Join us as we chat with a therapy Hannah Brents about the repercussions, challenges and heartaches surrounding pasts that were chosen for you.
examples of having "a past you didn't choose" how grief and acceptance are interconnected and how they heal us moving from helplessness to taking ownership/control of your life forgiveness for those who were responsible for your past experiences? how to titrate through big emotions when grieving a past you didn't chooseYou can also watch this chat on YouTube!
🎙🌿Luke + Lauren
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Hannah Brents is a therapist with a private practice in Massachusetts. She has a background in religious studies, yoga, and meditation. She is launching a course on Making Peace With Your Religious Past that will be available at the end of the summer.
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So many of you enjoy our content on IFS, and we’re glad to share another podcast episode with you about how our bodily symptoms can be coming from specific parts of our internal world.
We interviewed Katie LaCelle from @cressanallc, and looked at IFS (parts work) through a somatic lens.
-quick overview of the Self, exiles, protectors
-how to tell if you are “in Self”
-how hard it is to stay embodied in a body that is suffering
-what a somatic protector and how it might try to protect you
-polarized parts and the tension they create internally
-how protectors may feel about their burdened roles
-an important goal of healing
If you’ve found IFS to be a powerful healing paradigm for you, or if you are intrigued by it, be sure to check out this episode- and share it with other IFS friends!
If you'd prefer, you can watch this conversation on YouTube!
Katie LaCelle is a lifelong seeker and recovering corporate executive who loves helping women thrive personally & professionally while prioritizing self-compassion and presence. She's passionate about mental health and trained in IFS, a trauma-informed therapy modality. She has a bachelors degree in chemical engineering and a masters in organizational leadership and deeply enjoys integrating all of her knowledge to meet and support people where they're at. In her spare time, she coaches and performs on the flying trapeze. Learn more about Katie and the work she does over at:
https://www.cressanallc.com/
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We promised we would do some teaching on the mixed states of the nervous system- so here is an entire episode on it! 🌿we review the 3 primary states of the nervous system🌿introduce the 3 mixed states (play, stillness and freeze)🌿differentiate between freeze and shut down🌿the goal of nervous system regulation🌿touch on the importance and role of the vagal break🌿explain how to expand your regulation capacity through beauty🌿share how we’ve personally grown to experience the states of play and stillness more in the last few years....and more!
We hope this helps expand your understanding of your nervous system and those around you!
You can also watch this episode in video format on our YouTube channel.
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Is “masculinity” a bad thing? Our teenage son asked once when he was trying to make sense of all the things.I think his question is something we are asking as a collective as well.Join us for this engaging conversation about masculinity with Dr. Brendan Kwiatkowski from @re.masculine.We explore:-What restrictive masculinity is-What is missing from the idea of “toxic masculinity”-3 of the most harmful beliefs about masculinity-Negative health outcomes of restrictive masculinity-Surprising results from his research regarding emotional sensitivity in males-What the difference is between understanding restrictive masculinity vs. tolerating/coddling abusers-Positive framework for masculinity moving forwardWe feel this episode is SUCH a needed conversation and are so thankful @re.maculine was willing to have it with us.
Find Brendan on instagram @re.masculine and tiktok @remasculine. Visit his site and check out his research at www.remasculine.com.
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A regulated nervous system has an important role in a healthy and connected sex life. In this episode we explore how the NS is needed in the 4-stage sexual arousal cycle, how cues of safety and cues of threat play into sexual engagement and the aspect of novelty in a sexual relationship. We are excited to introduce the "M.A.P. of Sexual Responsiveness", a model we created to help guide couples to deepen their sexual connection and pleasure. This episode has A LOT in it -- go slowly if needed. Find us on social and let us know your thoughts or questions once you have listened!
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"Many abuse, assault, or trauma survivors experience The Second Wound when they disclose their experiences: a combination of disbelief, minimization, shaming, victim-blaming, silencing, and ostracism." In this episode we talk with Miranda Pacchiana of The Second Wound, and explore the dynamics of this gut-wrenching re-traumatization, how to prevent yourself from unknowingly causing this harm, as well as how to begin to heal from the second wound. We discuss childhood sexual abuse, and the issue of consent, arousal and memory related to this form of abuse. If you are survivor of the second wound, you are sure to leave this episode feeling so affirmed and understood. Some listeners may even feel compelled to reach out to those that they have unintentionally harmed with their minimization, shaming or ostracism. Understanding the second wound is so vitally important for the individual and collective healing of the traumas of our stories. Please share this episode with others who have gone through subsequent harm after their initial abuse as it is a lonely and confusing road to walk. Miranda Pacchiana, MSW is a writer, personal coach, creator of the website The Second Wound, and host of the podcast Truth and Consequences. She writes and speaks about recovery from abuse, family estrangement, parenting, and grief, among other topics. A survivor of child sexual abuse, Miranda applies the lessons she learned through the traumatic events in her own life to provide comfort, information, and support to others. She works and lives in Sandy Hook, Connecticut. You can find her on: Instagram @thesecondwound, Twitter @SecondWound, Facebook @SecondWound, Website https://secondwound.com/
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Today on the podcast we share our interview with the lovely Julia + Jeremiah of @sexvangelicals on the intersection of high-control religions and sexuality. We explore:🎙How to establish safety around sex and conversing about sex 🎙How relationships require a challenge of your sexuality in a way that not being in a relationship doesn’t 🎙How high-control religions prescribe a lens of fear and how this can hinder you from asking questions, being in tune with your desires, exploration, playfulness and pleasure🎙How sex therapy is not glamorous, rather always includes grief and loss 🎙How patriarchal views are incompatible with genuine intimacy 🎙Approaching sexual “dysfunction” diagnoses from the root in a supportive, partnered way…..and more! We think these conversations are a much-needed, unfortunately over-due addition to the mess of information out there that is largely religiously and culturally driven. GUESTS: Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema are the co-hosts of the podcast Sexvangelicals: The Sex Education the Church Didn't Want You to Have. They are both licensed psychotherapists in Massachusetts, and certified sex therapists. They are currently living in Utrecht, the Netherlands for the next 18 months to do three of their favorite things--travel, hike, and eat amazing foods. You can learn more about them on IG @sexvangelicals.
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We asked Clinician Andrew Bauman to join us as we attempt to explore this landmine topic mindfully and truthfully. While more are becoming "abuse-informed" it is still incredibly common for couples and helpers alike to feel very unsure how to identify these dynamics in themselves, their spouses, or who they're working with. Andrew shares with refreshing honestly what he looks for as he helps couples in his practice, and how he navigates what he finds.
This episode is only intended to be informative, and we encourage you to seek out a qualified abuse-informed, trauma-informed practitioner to help you navigate this for your individual situation.
Andrew J. Bauman is the Founder & Director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC) He is a licensed mental health counselor with a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology. Andrew is the author of How Not to Be an *SS, The Sexually Healthy Man, Floating Away, Stumbling Toward Wholeness, The Psychology of Porn, and (with his wife Dr. Christy Bauman) the book A Brave Lament and award-winning film. You can find him at ChristianCC.org & Andrewjbauman.com or on facebook @andrewjamesbauman -
Join us for this episode-with-a-twist! Lauren randomly pulls from a hat 2 distinct therapy modalities, and Luke jumps in with an on-the-spot explanation of how they are connected. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. It's a helpful episode if you are in the trauma healing world (personally or professionally) and are trying to better understand how these worlds connect. We have a tendency to learn through what we already know, to understand what is new, so hopefully that is what we are offering to you here! Check out our site FlourishTherapy.co if you'd like to learn more about our offerings.
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In this latest episode we have a WONDERFUL chat with Bethany, the new mental health practitioner @flourish_therapy!
In the first half we ask a bunch of fun questions so you call get to know her and the lovely human that she is.
Then we delve into some questions about therapy. It's like a refreshing drink from the wellspring of insight and goodness she offers!
We hope you enjoy this time getting to know Bethany and hearing each of our hearts about this special work we do.
If you are looking for a partner in your trauma healing journey, please contact us via www.flourishtherapy.co to connect with Bethany!
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Parenting can be one of the most dysregulating relationships and there are SUCH legitimate reasons why! We've invited parenting coach Lelia Schott from @leliaschott_synergyparenting on the podcast to explore what it is about parenting that makes you so vulnerable to dysregulation, how to better understand yourself as a parent, creating safety for yourself amidst the triggers of parentings, and how to cultivate a healing relationship with yourself and your child. You will find Lelia to be such a tender, encouraging soul, and we know this episode will be a breath of fresh air to weary parents. Lelia is a Trauma-Informed Counsellor, NeuroEmotional Practitioner, and a Certified Parent Coach. She is a South African living in a small coastal town in Cape Town with her family. Lelia’s children turn 26, 24, 22, 19, 12, and 9 this year. She loves swimming in the cold ocean and walking in the fynbos mountains. As a family, they are dedicated to softening the hurting and strengthening the healing for generations to come. Find her at https://www.leliaschott.com/ and on IG @leliaschott_synergyparenting 🌿 Lauren + Luke @flourish_therapy
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This is a special episode where Lauren takes some time to highlight the powerful portrayals of the effects of trauma, abuse and oppression in the very moving series "Handmaids Tale". The series did a remarkable job showing how power, control and indoctrination quickly break down a persons sense of self and lead to utter despair and compliance. She covers some themes in the show: - conflicted loyalties - thorough indoctrination - making victims "complicit" in their abuse - authoritarian control, patriarchy - intense psychological abuse - religious, physical and sexual abuse (every kind is present) - the enduring love of a mother, and deep friendship And some of the effects of the trauma: - how haunted the victims are by their stories - warped sense of self - vengeance, anger, withdrawn and/or hypervigilant states - confused faith - people supporting the oppressors/perpetrators - difficulty finding safe support. While the series is an extreme portrayal of every kind of abuse, the themes and effects are similar in day to day life with those who are currently in abusive situations or recovering from it. This series is an invaluable teacher to those who want to better understand their own story and the epidemic of abuse affecting so many. If you have watched this series, take a listen to this brief commentary on it, and share it with other Handmaids Tale fans! (If you haven't watched it, but are intrigued, know that there are strong trigger warnings on this show for every kind of abuse imaginable. It is found on Hulu.)
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"Conventional medicine approaches pain in this funny way. It operates as if the mind and the body are separate, when we know that they are continuously and unquestionably connected." Join us for another incredible guest episode, this time as we talk with Dr. Anna Redmond about the mysterious and frustrating topic of chronic pain. Dr. Redmond brings much needed clarity on the brain science behind pain, the factors that contribute to whether or not pain becomes chronic, and how the nervous system is intimately involved. We share some of our personal experiences with chronic pain, and talk about the power of neuroplasticity to help you recover from chronic pain. If you or someone you know wrestles with any of the various forms of chronic pain, you won't want to miss this episode! Find Dr. Redmond at drannaredmond.com and be sure to follow on IG @drannaredmond.
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IFS- internal family systems- is an amazing therapeutic modality that brings dignity and understanding to all parts of you, particularly the ones that you have tried to suppress, manage, shame and erase for most of your life. Join us for this incredibly meaningful conversation with IFS educator Christine Dixon. You will discover the basic tenets of this popular approach to trauma healing, the 3 different types of parts all people have, polarization of parts, who Self is, how wounded parts become "unburdened" and the profound beauty of how healing happens.
Christine Dixon describes herself as "a wounded healer leading other wounded healers into the house of Love so that we can heal the world" (I stole this from one of my IFS trainer's, because I loved it so much). With more than 20 years as an Educational Therapist, Christine's own relational, religious, and medical trauma eventually resulted in panic attacks and bodily symptoms that left her incapacitated. In a desperate effort to heal herself, Christine discovered how integrated her mind and body truly are. After training with renowned Life Coach, Martha Beck, Christine fell in love with the modality of IFS - Internal Family Systems - which she found to be the most direct, effective, holistic, and compassionate inner healing method she had ever encountered. After experiencing the healing of life-long physical and emotional wounds, Christine naturally began to share this "good news" with anyone who would listen. She now finds great joy and purpose as an IFS educator and group facilitator. Her website is: theordinarysacred.com and you can find her on IG: @the_ordinary_ sacred. - Show more
