Episodes

  • Episode 70 of Gaming the System, Brought to you by Game Quitters - How Caleb Quit Gaming After Trying for 6 Years!

    Caleb has successfully quit gaming for 94 days and counting, after struggling to do so for over 6 years. In this interview he shares what helped him finally break free!

    In this episode we cover:

    What life was like for Caleb before Game QuittersHow life has changed after 94 days off gamesCaleb's advice for othersHow to get help for your gaming problem

    Resources:

    Book a Gameplan Strategy CallTake our video game addiction quizGuide to Video Game AddictionGame Quitters ForumGame Quitters DiscordHow to Quit Gaming

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  • Episode 69 of Gaming the System, Brought to you by Game Quitters - Husband Addicted to Gaming - Bubba Gaeddert Interview

    Bubba lost 40 pounds after he took a 90 day break from gaming. In this interview he shares what helped him develop more balance in his life.

    In this episode we cover:

    How Bubba's gaming addiction startedWhat happened when Bubba did the 90 day detoxHow Bubba's marriage changedWorking in the esports and gaming industry

    Resources:

    Book a Gameplan Strategy CallTake our video game addiction quizGuide to Video Game AddictionGame Quitters ForumGame Quitters DiscordHow to Quit Gaming

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    Varsity Esports FoundationFollow Bubba on Twitter
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  • Episode 68 of Gaming the System, Brought to you by Game Quitters - How I Overcame My WoW Addiction - Dario Quacquarelli Interview

    WoW hooked Dario from the moment he started playing. But his story has a twist - his addiction led him to make millions.

    In this episode we cover:

    The peer pressure of gamingWhy World of Warcraft (WoW) was so addictiveWhat WoW can teach you about businessHow Dario quit gamingAdvice for teens to be successful

    Resources:

    Book a Gameplan Strategy CallTake our video game addiction quizGuide to Video Game AddictionGame Quitters ForumGame Quitters DiscordHow to Quit Gaming

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  • Episode 67 of Gaming the System, Brought to you by Game Quitters - How Gaming Destroyed A Generation - Sam Harbonator Interview

    This 24 year old reveals how gaming almost ruined his life - and he's not the only one! Most of his generation are lost in gaming.

    In this episode we cover:

    How Sam's video game addiction startedHow gaming is affecting the potential of young peopleGamers in denial about addictionHow to build an epic life after gaming

    Resources:

    Book a Gameplan Strategy CallTake our video game addiction quizGuide to Video Game AddictionGame Quitters ForumGame Quitters DiscordHow to Quit Gaming

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  • Episode 41 of Gaming the System, Brought to you by Game Quitters - Why I Quit Gaming for 3 Years featuring Leo

    In this episode we cover:

    How Leo's gaming addiction startedWhat advice we have for gamers to find balanceLiving a fulfilling life beyond gaming

    Resources:

    Guide to Video Game AddictionGame Quitters ForumHow to Quit Gaming

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  • Episode 40 of Gaming the System, Brought to you by Game Quitters - Improving Your Social Skills with Dr. Jay Berk PhD

    In this episode I cover:

    Practical steps to make friends and improve your social skillsHow to navigate challenges such as ADHD and social anxietyWhy it can be a challenge to quit gaming and focus on other areas of your life

    Resources:

    Guide to Video Game AddictionGame Quitters ForumHow to Quit Gaming

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  • Episode 39 of Gaming the System, Brought to you by Game Quitters - How to Stop Escaping into Video Games

    In this episode I cover:

    Why you use games to escape from your lifeWhat is the difference between healthy escape and unhealthy escapeHow you can stop escaping into video games and deal with your life instead

    Resources:

    Guide to Video Game AddictionGame Quitters ForumHow to Quit Gaming

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  • Episode 38 of Gaming the System, Brought to you by Game Quitters - Dealing with Gaming Nostalgia

    In this episode I cover:

    Why you get nostalgic about gamesHow to practically overcome nostalgia and avoid going back to gaming

    Resources:

    Guide to Video Game AddictionGame Quitters ForumHow to Quit Gaming

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  • Episode 37 of Gaming the System, Brought to you by Game Quitters - Why Are Some Games More Addictive than Others?

    In this episode I cover:

    The 4 reasons why you get addicted to gamingThe Game Quitters addiction model and how it can help you identify games you should avoidExternal and internal factors that contribute to a game's 'addiction score'

    Resources:

    Guide to Video Game AddictionArticle on Why Games Are More Addictive than Others (+Addiction Model)Game Quitters ForumHow to Quit Gaming

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  • Episode 36 of Gaming the System, Brought to you by Game Quitters - The #1 Habit to Start When You Quit Gaming.

    In this episode I cover:

    Why I hated journaling in the pastHow I've implemented it into my routine so that it has become effortlessThe benefits of journalingThe best way to get started

    Resources:

    Game Quitters ForumHow to Quit Gaming

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  • Kids are at home and uncertainty is in the air... how do you find balance with technology use without constantly fighting and being stressed?

    1) Get in the right mindset!


    Reframe this crisis as an opportunity for you and your family to develop a deeper connection.


    It might be painful at first, but don’t lose hope. Be prepared for bickering and decide how you are going to show up. We like the mantra, KFC: Kind, Firm, Calm.

    Some of you might need to relax your rules a little…Okay but don’t feel you have to or get pressured into having no rules.

    2) When it comes to screen time... focus on quality over quantity.

    Are you/they watching cat videos on YouTube or learning to code? Are they FaceTiming with a friend or scrolling through Instagram? Are they playing a game that makes them angry or laughing and having a good time with mates? Are they playing educational games? Doing courses?


    How they spend time on screens matters a lot more than "how much" time they spend on screens. And yes, sometimes, that even includes needing to watch a few cat videos on YouTube.

    3) Use this newfound time to build skills and learn!


    We always say we don't have time to read that book, do that course, clean that room, try that new hobby, pick up the guitar again, call that friend, write that book.


    Now you have it. Invest in yourself wisely. That doesn't have to be all day, but every day, do something to grow and push yourself forward. And encourage your family to do the same.


    This is a great opportunity for you to ask your tech savvy kids to teach you about the features on your phones or computers that you don't know.


    4) Get healthy!

    Work out a bit each day. Do it as a family. Put a yoga video on YouTube. Maybe break out the Nintendo Wii from the attic. Find time every day to do bodyweight exercises, stretch, meditate, get in shape! It will make staying home easier.


    5) Establish a routine.


    Maybe when you work. They do homework. You focus as a family for two hours and then take a break. Rinse and repeat as needed. This process is one day at a time. Use structure wisely to provide certainty.

    6) Have a family meeting!

    Gather everyone's input on what this experience has been for them and what they hope it to be over the next days, weeks, months. Let everyone have a voice!

    Just get it out on the table so you can begin to have discussions on finding a compromise that works for your family. This is a good time to discuss family values!


    If it starts get loud and confrontational, have everyone write their points and questions on index cards and go through them one at a time. Communicate expectations early and clearly.

    This is also a good time to discuss any emotions or fears that are coming up around the crisis. Remember that some people are more comfortable communicating in writing and not out loud.

    7) Establish "if then" consequences in writing.

    Don’t go overboard.. especially if they are not realistic for you to adhere to over the next few weeks. Consistency is probably more important than rigidity at this time.

    If this happens, then this happens. Standards are set and consequences are not surprises.

    8) YOU ARE THE ROLE MODEL

    Are you using technology wisely? Are you scrolling Twitter for your 18th hour today stressed and anxious and passing that onto other family members? Are you focusing on your own self-care? Are you embracing new hobbies?

    Your capacity to be the best version of yourself at this time will be seen by others. Let your focus inspire them.

    9) NEED MORE HELP?

    We have a FREE FB group for parents to navigate gaming or digital overuse issues. Join here.

  • I couldn’t see myself spending more than a few hours on something like Solitaire, but if you put me in front of Dark Souls then it’s a disaster waiting to happen.

    At Game Quitters, we see the same names pop up over and over again when people are talking about the most addicting games.

    Modern video games are a far cry from the games of old. They’re no longer just intended to provide a few hours of entertainment. Gaming companies know exactly how to keep you hooked.

    They understand how often to reward you, how to tailor their game to specific people, and how to extract as much money as possible from their players.

    However, if games are designed to be addictive, does that also mean that certain games or genres are more likely to keep you hooked?

    Read our list of the most addicting games in the world.

  • How can you overcome cravings for video games?

    I've spent over 5 years battling with a video game addiction, and almost 1 year working with Game Quitters. I've learnt a lot about how to overcome certain problems in this time, and cravings are definitely at the top of the list for most common struggles.

    Here's what we cover in this episode:

    Understand why you have cravings; what needs are you missing out onCatch yourself in the momentHabit loop; trigger, action, rewardAcknowledge, Accept, ActionChange your environmentKeep yourself occupied with other activitiesBe more socialMindset of momentum

    Also, make sure to stick around to the end for a special announcement!

    Thanks for watching, and if you enjoyed don't forget to leave a rating, review, and subscribe to the show. It really helps us out a lot!

  • What do you think the average gamer looks like? A man in his early 20’s, perhaps a college student? Wrong. It’s actually a woman in her mid 30’s.

    Why is it then that the average gaming addict is a 24-year-old male?

    With men making up over 90% of the population of gaming addicts, scientists have been prompted to undertake research into why this is the case.

    As it turns out, there may actually be underlying neurological reasons as to why men are more likely to become addicted to gaming, read more in the study here.

    Personally, I think the naturally competitive nature of men plays a bigger role in it. Video games are the perfect place for men to assert dominance in ways that would have been fulfilled through fighting or sports in the past. It's no wonder then, with so many people playing games, that men have naturally tended to dominate the competitive space.

    Want to know more? Read our article: Everything you need to know about gaming disorder.

    Also, if you stick to the end of the episode I make a big announcement about the launch of a new podcast!

    Life After Gaming is going to feature stories and interviews from the people that make Game Quitters possible: You!

    I'll post more information in the future but you can have a read of the post on our forum here if you're interested!


    Thanks for listening, and as always don't forget to rate, review, and subscribe to Gaming the System so you're notified of future episodes!

    See you next time.

  • It's one thing to quit gaming and find some new hobbies to fill your time, it's another to develop these hobbies into meaningful passions that bring you fulfilment, motivation, and growth throughout your life.

    The problem is, it's difficult. Gaming warps your ability to gain happiness from other things.

    Nothing can compete with video games on a primal level when it comes to meeting your basic human needs. Combine it with other modern luxuries such as smartphones, food delivery, and even porn, and you've got the perfect conditions for humans to stop seeking fulfilment outside of what's comfortable to them.

    In this episode of Gaming the System I go into why gaming is making everything boring, and what you can do about it. The answer is simpler than you think.

    However, don't confuse simple with easy.

    LINKS:
    - Game Quitters Hobby Tool
    - How to Quit Gaming
    - Quitting Gaming in College

    Thanks for listening. Don't forget to subscribe to Gaming the System and leave a rating if you enjoyed!

    See you in the next episode.

  • With tens of millions of teenagers playing violent video games such as Call of Duty, Grand Theft Auto, and PUBG do parents have cause for concern? Does playing video games make you violent? If you are playing violent video games, are you at risk of committing horrific acts of murder?

    As it turns out, the answer isn't quite so black and white.

    There has been a huge amount of research done on the topic of whether or not video games cause violence, and the general consensus sits somewhere in the middle.

    Most people are in agreement that prolonged exposure at an early age to violent video games could increase the likelihood of aggressive behaviour in adolescence, however, aggressive doesn't necessarily mean violent.

    You can find some links that I made use of throughout the episode down below, and there's a huge rabbit hole of information that you can end up getting lost in if you really want to.

    Liked the podcast? Didn't like it? Let me know what you think by sending an e-mail to [email protected] if you have any feedback, questions, or just any comment at all.

    Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast and leave us a rating, it really helps out a lot!

    Until next time.

    Useful Links:

    Business Insider, 2018APA, 2015Berkowitz, 1993Eron, Huesmann, Lefkowitz, & Walder, 1974Ferguson et al., 2013Sameroff, Bartko, Baldwin, Baldwin, & Seifer, 1988Supreme Court, 2011https://dana.org/article/do-violent-video-games-lead-to-violence/https://www.nytimes.com/2019/08/05/sports/trump-violent-video-games-studies.htmlhttps://www.ft.com/content/1c5914b6-bdb7-11e9-9381-78bab8a70848https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/ulterior-motives/201908/the-evidence-video-games-lead-violence-is-weakhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violence_and_video_games

  • The question of whether or not you can play video games in moderation is one of the most common problems we get asked at Game Quitters.

    People post on our forum, on social media, and on the Stop Gaming subreddit about it almost daily asking for help.

    If you're in this position, where you want to play games but aren't sure how to go about doing it, then you'll want to listen to this podcast.

    You'll learn:
    - What healthy gaming looks like
    - Why people want to play in moderation
    - Whether or not it's possible to play in moderation
    - Why it's so difficult to avoid gaming after you quit
    - Everything you need to know about playing in moderation

    Links mentioned:

    - Instant Gratification
    - How to Develop Self-Discipline
    - Dopamine Fasting
    - Distraction Free YouTube
    - Hobby Tool for New Activities

    Thanks for listening to the episode, and if you enjoyed it don't forget to leave a review and subscribe, it really helps us out!

    Until next time.

    Peace.

  • When you quit gaming it often means leaving a lot of your old friends behind. Whether it's because you can't cope with them talking about video games all the time, inviting you to play, or because you're trying to shed your old identity as a gamer, it's never an easy process to go through.

    So what can you do? Ultimately it comes down to one thing.

    You have to become someone that can attract new friends.

    If you're living a boring life with no hobbies and spend your free time on YouTube, it's not going to go well. Regardless of whether or not you're playing video games anymore.

    If, however, you decide to get yourself out of your comfort zone and learn new skills, meet new people, and live an interesting life you'll soon find yourself at the centre of an awesome friendship group.

    It's not easy, though. It can take a long time and a lot of effort to build new relationships. But I can assure you it's 100% worth it.

    If you enjoyed the episode, don't forget to review and subscribe, it really helps us out!

    Until next time.

    Music by Nordgroove from Fugue.

  • You might think the biggest problem with Twitch is that you're spending too much time on the website, but you'd be wrong.

    In reality, the Twitch community with their crabs-in-a-bucket attitude is holding you back in more ways than you think. When you spend your free time listening to people talk about how poorly their life is going and being proud of that fact, it's going to wear down your mindset to the point where eventually you're going to join in.

    If you're trying to quit gaming and you're still watching Twitch, you might want to reconsider your relationship with the platform.

    Listen to the full episode to find out more, and learn how to avoid Twitch forever.

    Thanks for tuning in, and don't forget to rate, review, and subscribe if you haven't already! It really means a lot.

    Until next time.

    Music by Nordgroove from Fugue.

  • To say Pauline's story is inspiring would be doing it a disservice.

    Having started her first 'side hustle' at 8 years old by learning how to turn HTML into websites, it seems like she was destined to be a part of the tech world.

    However, when school came around she found herself at one of the lowest points of her life.

    Constant bullying, poor grades, excessive gaming and bad eating habits led her to the realisation that something needed to be done.

    It was at this point that Pauline quit video games, and started turning her life around for good.

    Since then she has been listed as one of the most influential women in tech, done a number of public speaking gigs, influenced 100's of people to get into coding through numerous programs, and that's just scratching the surface.

    Pauline's an inspiration to thousands of people on social media every single day, and I hope you find some of that inspiration from watching this podcast.

    LINKS:
    Personal blog: https://pawlean.com
    Professional site: https://paulinenarvas.com
    How to get into coding: https://pawlean.com/2019/01/14/learning-to-code/
    Code Newbies: https://codenewbies.org
    Twitter: https://twitter.com/paulineuh
    Instagram: https://instagram.com/paw.lean/

    Thanks for tuning in, and don't forget to rate and review if you haven't already! It really means a lot.

    Until next time.

    Music by Nordgroove from Fugue.