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What happens when we avoid feeling our emotions? In this episode, we explore the importance of emotional awareness: tuning in instead of checking out. We share what happens when we suppress our feelings, and how to navigate the tough ones with compassion and care.
We also explore:
The link between emotional avoidance and things like addiction, depression, and burnoutWhat blocks us from feeling our emotionsPractical ways to process emotions that feel overwhelming or uncomfortableThe power of self-compassion in emotional healingWhy learning to feel your emotions leads to more empathy, connection, and confidenceWhether youâre someone who bottles it all up or someone who feels everything all at once, this conversation will give you insight and tools to better understand yourself and others.
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Itâs Pride Month, and with everything going on in the world right now, it feels especially important to pause and reflect.
In this special panel discussion episode, Reno Johnston is joined by three incredible guestsâMark Fleming, Keone Wales, and Jordan Layneâfor a candid panel discussion on the meaning of Pride: where it began, how itâs evolved, and what it means to each of us today. Together, they explore questions like:
What does Pride mean to you?What was your first Pride experience?How has Pride changed since then?What would you like Pride to become?This conversation isnât a history lesson or a debate. It's an open, honest sharing of lived experience. Whether youâre a seasoned activist or celebrating your first Pride, we invite you to reflect alongside us and consider what Pride means to you, not just this month, but all year round.
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In 2025, LGBTQ rights are facing renewed challenges- from the rise of far-right populism to legislative rollbacks and the rise of hate sweeping across the globe. But how serious is the threat? And if the fight is back on⊠are we ready?
This week, Michael is joined by author and longtime activist, Tim McCaskell, whoâs been on the front lines of LGBTQ+ resistance for over five decades. From the bathhouse raids to the fight for AIDS treatment and beyond, Tim brings deep historical context and lived experience to the conversation.
Together, they explore what activism looks like in 2025, whether weâve grown too comfortable, how activism has changed over the decades, and most importantly, what we need to do to show up and fight for our future.
Today's Guest: Tim McCaskell
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In todayâs episode, weâre diving into a question many in our community have been quietly (or loudly) asking: Has Pride lost its meaning?
In this wide-ranging conversation, we reflect on how Pride has evolved from its radical roots in activism to its present-day celebratory scene shaped by media, politics, and corporate sponsorships. We talk about whatâs been gained, whatâs been lost, and what still needs to be reclaimed.
Some topics we explore:
The impact of corporatization and rainbow capitalismHow weâd reimagine Pride moving forwardThe meaning Pride has for us personally The importance of making Pride more inclusive for those still on the marginsThe role media plays in shaping what Pride looks and feels likeHow far our rights have come⊠and how fragile they still areWhether you love Pride, feel disconnected from it, or land somewhere in between, this episode is an invitation to reflect, reimagine, and reconnect with what Pride means to you in 2025.
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In this episode, Matt speaks with a panel of demisexual gay men about their experiences dating as demisexuals. What we want you to get out of this episode is greater awareness of yourself if you are demisexual, and to know you are not alone. We want to share our own experiences in the hope that you can learn ways to thrive as a demisexual. If you are not demisexual, this episode will offer you a greater understanding of demisexual men you might come across in dating. We also share helpful, practical dating advice, so stick with us until the end of the episode.
The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:
How did you discover youâre demisexual?What has been challenging for you about dating as a demisexual?Where have you found success when it comes to dating as a demisexual?What advice do you have for other demisexual men who might be struggling in their dating lives?Related Episode:
Demisexuality: What is it?Today's Guests:
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For many gay men, friendship is complicated, performative, and sometimes downright painful. We crave genuine connection but end up navigating cliques, comparison, and quiet loneliness.
In this episode, Michael and Pepper are doing an exposĂ© on gay friendships to unpack whatâs really going on beneath the surface and why so many gay friendships fall short of the depth and safety we actually want.
Weâre breaking it down in three parts:
The Pretty Lies: Performative friendship, superficiality, and toxic group dynamicsThe Ugly Truth: How shame, fear, and survival strategies get in the way of true friendshipTrue Friendship: What fun, nourishing gay friendship looks like and how we can build itThis episode is your invitation to shift from followers to friendship, and from competition to collaborationâand start building real connection.
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Making Friends (Introvert Edition)How to Make Friends with Gay MenToday's Guest: Pepper Rojas
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How do the unmet needs of our childhood shape who we are today? And more importantly, how do we learn to meet those needs for ourselves as adults?
In this deeply personal and eye-opening episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we explore the re-parenting processâa therapeutic model that helps us heal old wounds, develop self-compassion, and rewrite the internal narratives we inherited from childhood.
Weâll be getting personal as we reflect on on three powerful questions:
1ïžâŁ What needs went unmet for you as a child?2ïžâŁ How did you cope with these unmet needs?3ïžâŁ How have you learned to meet these needs for yourself as an adult?
From loneliness and perfectionism to people-pleasing and self-expression, we dive into the real-life stories and coping strategies that shaped our past and the lessons weâve learned to become the men we are today.
Tune in for an honest, vulnerable, and inspiring discussion on how we can become the loving, supportive parents we always neededâfor ourselves.
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In this episode, Matt speaks with therapist and author, Tom Bruett, about how to avoid losing yourself in your relationships. By balancing connection and autonomy in our relationships, we can foster more secure relationships that allow us to maintain our sense of self while allowing our partner to do the same.
If you easily lose yourself in your relationships or youâre having a hard time establishing intimacy, this episode will offer a refreshing perspective and tangible takeaways to help you improve your relationship with yourself and others.
The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:
What is codependency and enmeshment?What are the consequences of being codependent or enmeshed in relationships?What causes codependency and enmeshment?How can we heal from codependency and enmeshment?What is interdependency and differentiation?How does interdependence and differentiation support secure relationships?How does attachment style play a role in this topic?What are some tangible ways to practice interdependence and differentiation?Book by Tom Bruett:
The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men: From Honeymoon to LastingCommitment
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From Madonna to Mariah, BeyoncĂ© to Barbraâ throughout the generations, gay men have been obsessed with divas. But why?
In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, weâre diving into the deep connection between gay men and our beloved divas, exploring:
Who are the divas and what do they have in common?Why divas resonate so deeply with gay men How these women inspire us The diva anthems that have become the soundtrack of self-confidenceWhat it means to channel your inner diva in everyday life.Who are todayâs divas?This isnât just about pop cultureâitâs a conversation about power, identity, and how divas have given generations of gay men comfort and strength.
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The women in our lives have influenced us in ways we donât always recognize, but when we take a step back, their impact is undeniable.
In this heartfelt episode, weâre celebrating the uniquely beautiful relationships gay men have with womenâfrom mothers and grandmothers to besties, sisters, and beyond. Weâre showing love to all the women who have supported us, shaped us, and often modeled the traits that helped us become who we are today.
Some of the topics weâll explore:
How our childhoods were shaped by the women around usThe unique love and support between gay men and womenWhat makes female friendships different from male friendshipsThe role of empathy and emotional intelligence in these relationships How friendships evolve over the yearsJoin us for a deep conversation about the power of women and how these relationships continue to shape usâtoday and always.
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Do you find yourself putting other peopleâs needs ahead of your own? Struggle to set boundaries? Feel responsible for keeping the peace even when it costs you your authenticity?
In this episode, gay therapist Michael Pezzullo joins Michael to go deeper into the roots of people pleasingâespecially why so many gay men fall into this pattern. Weâll explore how people pleasing shows up in everyday life, why itâs so hard to stop, and how the fear of conflict and rejection keeps us from showing up fully in our relationships.
Weâll also discuss:
How to recognize when youâre people pleasing (and why itâs not the same as being kind)The impact people pleasing has on your self-confidence and relationshipsWhy gay men are especially prone to itHow to handle the fear of disappointing othersWhat you can do to finally break the cycleIf youâre ready to stop performing for approval and start living with more authenticity, this episode is for you.
Today's Guest: Michael Pezzullo
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Many gay men struggle with saying no, setting boundaries, or engaging in difficult conversations due to deep-seated people-pleasing tendencies and fear of conflict. But staying silent often leads to resentment, burnout, or feeling disconnected from your true self.
As recovering people-pleasers themselves, Matt and Michael have plenty to share about their own journeys toward becoming more assertive in their boundaries.
In this episode, we dive into:
The difference between people-pleasing, healthy compromise, and values-based choicesPractical strategies to speak up with confidence and authenticityHow to set boundaries and say no without guilt or fearIf youâve ever found yourself saying âyesâ when you really meant ânoâ or avoiding confrontation at the cost of your own needs, this conversation is for you!
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In this episode, Matt speaks with Psychotherapist, Merle Yost, about how shame may influence sexual desire and arousal by eroticizing shame as a way of coping with it. Merle shares his story about being sexually molested by his father and the impact this had on his sexual development. Join us for this interesting topic that is often not talked about but deeply impacts many of us.
The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:
What does it mean to eroticize shame?How do shame and desire become intertwined?What is dissociation, and how can someone overcome it?Why is there so much sexual compulsivity in the gay community?What are some common ways people turn shame into pleasure in BDSM, kink, or other erotic practices?How can someone safely explore these dynamics without reinforcing negative self-perceptions?Can eroticizing shame be a healing experience? If so, how?How can someone tell if they are using this exploration in a healthy or unhealthy way?Today's Guest: Merle Yost
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Communication is at the heart of every relationshipâwhether itâs with friends, partners, colleagues, or even yourself. But what does it actually mean to be a strong communicator? In this episode, weâre diving into the key skills that make conversations more effective, engaging, and authentic.
Join us as we discuss:
What makes a strong communicator?The role of emotional intelligence in communicationCommon barriers that create conflict and misunderstandingsPractical tips to improve your listening and speaking skillsWhether you want to deepen your connections, set clearer boundaries, or simply get your point across without second-guessing yourself, this episode will give you insights to help you communicate with more clarity and impact.
Related Link: Authentic Relating and Empowerment for Gay Men
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They didnât teach us about gay sex in school⊠so we had to teach ourselves. From porn to awkward trial-and-error hookups, most of us pieced together our own âeducationââfor better or worse.
In this episode, Michael is joined by porn star turned sex educator, Patrick Marano, to talk about the sex ed we should have had, how weâve had to create it for ourselves, and why stigma and censorship still keep gay men in the dark. Some of the topics covered in this episode:
đč How conventional sex education fails gay menđč How porn, hookups, and our peers became our teachers (for better or worse)đč How silence and secrecy fuel sexual shameđč What weâre still learning todayđč How censorship and misinformation prevent us from getting the info we needđč How to take control of your own sex education
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Is your dating profile truly showing the best version of you? In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we're diving into the do's and don'ts of crafting a profile that is aligned with what youâre truly looking for. On the apps, your profile is the first impression that counts so whether you're looking for love, fun, or meaningful connections, it matters.
Some topics weâll discuss:
What it means to show your authentic self without being cringyChoosing the best photosCrafting a bio that stands out.Common profile pitfallsHow to be clear without being overly rigid Balancing confidence with humilityHow we communicate on appsTune in for tips, insights, and takeaways to help you create a profile that attracts the right matches and reflects the real you.
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In this episode, Matt speaks with menâs coach Shay Doran about the psychology and mindset of erectile dysfunction. Did you know that some research indicates that gay men experience a higher rate of erection problems compared to straight men? This episode unpacks the reasons gay men experience erection problems and how to overcome them. If you struggle with erection issues or performance anxiety and feel ashamed and alone, then this episode can help you feel less alone and see a way out of the suffering.
The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:
How do erection challenges show up?What are the three main unique factors in how it shows up for gay men?How does sexual performance anxiety come into play?How does perfectionism play a role in ED? The cycle of shame and secrecy caused by negative feedback loopsHow demisexuality plays a role in EDExploring solutions to EDRelated Links:
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Sexual Performance Anxiety and Erectile DysfunctionResearch - Study published in the National Library of MedicineResearch - Study published in the Journal of Sexual MedicineToday's Guest: Shay Doran
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Join us as we take a deep dive into the impact of dating apps on both our personal lives and the gay community at large. We get candid about how these apps have shaped our experience of dating and relating with other guys. From mindless swiping and ghosting to feeling used and disconnected, we explore the darker side of app culture while offering practical tips to create healthier, more positive experiences on dating apps.
Tune in for discussions on:
The personal toll of app addictionThe good, the bad, and the ugly side of dating apps How have the apps changed the gay communityâ for better or worse?Tips to maintain a positive relationship with dating apps.How to know when itâs time to take a breakWhether you're a fan of the apps or ready to delete them altogether, this episode will inspire you to reflect on how they fit into your love life and community connections.
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6 Signs Itâs Time to Take a Break from Dating AppsAddiction & Recovery Part 1Addiction & Recovery Part 2Today's Hosts:
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Bottoming is more than just a position. Itâs time to flip the script on the old, tired narrative that bottoms are the passive or submissive partners.
In this episode weâre celebrating all things bottom and introducing the concept of the Empowered Bottomâsomeone who owns their pleasure, sets boundaries, and takes charge of the experience, whether theyâre submissive, bossy, or anywhere in between.
Weâll be talking about:
The difference between power bottoms and empowered bottoms (and other types of bottoms)Power, control, and whoâs really in charge in bedOwning your pleasure without apologyBottom shamingAdvocating for yourselfSexual health and feeling confident in your bodyJoin us for an episode that challenges sexual norms and subverts stereotypes within gay culture.
Related Link: Sexual Empowerment 101 Menâs Group (starting April 3)
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In this episode, we take a deep dive into the dynamics of monogamy in gay relationships. From unpacking the myths and stigmas surrounding monogamy to exploring the concept of devotion and intimacy, weâre challenging assumptions and offer fresh perspectives.
Some of the things we discuss:
The benefits of monogamy and why some gay couples choose it.What it takes to make monogamy work, and why that may be hard for some peopleIs there a stigma against monogamy in the gay community?How monogamous relationships help you growWhat the research tells us about gay relationships and monogamyWhether youâre in a monogamous relationship, considering one, or simply curious about the topic, tune in for a thoughtful discussion that blends personal stories, cultural observations, and practical advice for navigating gay relationships.
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