Episodes
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In this episode, Adam Quiney talks about the ontology of being always right.
Anytime you've been around a leader who always got the answer or is always right, that's the ontology or the way of being that we are going to talk about. It is a way of being that is automatic and unconscious.
The way of being of being right. These are the leaders that if you volunteer something, they are already aware of it. They already know that. The underlying experience that this creates is that there is no way for you to actually have an impact; everything you bring bounces off.
While this is nice in that it provides a degree of certainty, like the leader always knows how to handle the situation, it creates the rest of us as followers because there is nothing we can really contribute. There is nothing we have to offer.
Listen as you will know the impact of being right. Enjoy the show!
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How to catch and reflect on someone's impact? How to provide feedback?
It is a big issue in leadership not only because a lot of people simply avoid providing feedback but the other thing that happens is that people give feedback, but it does not land.
The impact someone is having is the way how they are showing up, and what they are doing lands on other people. We are continually having our impact even when we go out of our way to not have an impact.
We always have an impact. Sometimes, our impact in service is in alignment with our intention, and other times, we have one intention but our impact is different. Those are the times when feedback is most important because if our intention is out of alignment with our impact, we've got a problem.
That's what we mean by catching and reflecting on someone's impact. Listen and know how we can catch and reflect on someone's impact. Enjoy the show!
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On this week’s mid-week episode, Adam is discussing two topics provided by our community: 1. How to support clients through recognizing patterns in their life, Navigating difficult conversations with colleagues, and taking yourself out of coaching and being fully present with the client (i.e., not leading them based on your own "stuff.") and 2. Relationship with the unknown. Whether it is something small unknown I meet with in my daily life, or I have something big (in my mind) unknown coming for me or I am going towards something unknown so far for me. I believe we all have the unknown with us under some form.
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In this episode of The Transformational Leader, Adam Quiney talks about the metaphors of transformation. This episode will help you understand why transformation is challenging and what we are working with, in terms of our human nature when we are up against that.
Human nature is to experience a problem and want to solve it. That's what humans do. The trouble is we can't see with much altitude in our lives. We can see it with other people, but in terms of ourselves, we are stuck inside our perspective and our worldview. What that means is we don't see our beliefs as a set of beliefs. Instead, we see them as reality.
Listen and know the metaphors you can relate to in terms of transformation as a leader. Enjoy the show!
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Today, Adam Quiney shared some of the things he noticed and learned from the Intensive. The intention is to create breakthroughs not just for those who attended but also for Adam and the team.
Most people see a breakthrough as an insight. The meaning of breakthrough, in Adam and his team's lenses, is access to a new way of being that was previously unavailable while a person's circumstances remain the same.
The work of any transformational approach is to confront your resistance to what you fear. Whatever you want that is not currently available to you is locked behind the door made up of your fear and resistance to that fear.
Listen and learn more of the lessons from the Intensive. Enjoy the show!
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On this week’s mid-week episode, Adam is live coaching Amy Armstrong, around distinguishing around where she began versus where she is now, in addition to concepts about boundaries, breakdowns and breakthroughs.
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If you had a bad start to the day, you are wrapped up in the story of what a shitty day is. As you go with the rest of the day, you will look at things to justify that it is indeed a shitty day. Generating the event in yourself how you want to experience it requires some energetic input.
Generating as a leader is the act of choosing how we will be and showing up in alignment with that. It sounds like a trait, but it is more about our state of being.
In an event like getting stuff done, there is a default way that will show that you are tired, exhausted, and not excited about what you have to do. With this, you are entirely justified, and no one could criticize you. That is not the experience of the event you are committed to creating.
Listen and know more about the art of generating and how it matters for us leaders! Enjoy the show!
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On this week’s mid-week episode, Adam is live coaching Kacie Martin, around the process of creating Possibility, offering practical insights you can apply to your own leadership journey. Don’t miss this chance to see transformation in action!
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If you've ever found yourself in a situation where you do a lot of research and try to get the answer but can never seem to find it, this episode is for you!
As a child, we are taught to trust our paths and learn by failing. We understand how to move through life by doing crazy stuff.
As we age, we will meet people who want to keep an eye on our future and will help us grow on how most people are going. What happens is, that instead of being invited to discover our path and giving us space to do so, we are asked to do what society tells us is the right thing to do.
We are taught to shift our desire with collective wisdom and understanding. Because of this, instead of trusting ourselves, we follow what other people would say is good for us. We start to look for an internal answer.
Listen as you learn more what are the consequences of the need for the right answer, and what can we do about it. Enjoy the show!
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"My life is already super busy and I have very few precious resources to manage time to practice."
Practice is a concept that gets used a lot in coaching, sports and meditation. It comes into play whenever there is something in life that we want to improve, change, shift and develop in ourselves. Before we go to practice, this is not typically our default way of approaching stuff especially when it comes to something like changing ourselves. Instead, we have a default context or approach to how we relate to life.
In this episode, we will talk about the ontology of practice. We will dive into the ontology of what it is to practice. Enjoy the show!
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In the concluding part of The Heartbreak of Leadership series, we will discuss a person who doesn't know where to stand in their leadership process.
To summarize our previous episodes, in Part 1, we talked about the heartbreak of leadership from your perspective as a leader standing for the people you are leading.
In the second part, we talked about the experience of developing your leadership and how it goes when you have a leader who is not doing their work and putting it on to you.
In this episode, we will focus on the stand that the leader is 100% responsible for how things have unfolded. Enjoy the show!
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In the previous episode of The Transformational Leader, Adam Quiney talks about the heartbreak of leadership. The heartbreak of leadership occurs as you are leading someone, and they turn against you, fight with you, and argue with you. Today, we will look at the other angle.
We can't see the new dimension. All we can do is pull whenever someone is trying to help us see beyond our current worldview. All we can do is pull that into our worldview. The whole process of leadership transformation starts here.
You start getting very inspired and excited and suddenly, it will direct us back towards the world we know. What happens over time is we see our failure and not see our results. This is where the heartbreak of leadership begins. Listen to know more and enjoy the show!
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The heartbreak of leadership is a function of the fact that, as a leader, your job is to have a little more altitude than those whose leadership you are developing. Altitude is the ability to see a little bit more of the picture, like a coach, than the players on the court can.
With this altitude, the leader can see a little bit more of a bigger picture. As a leader, you will be able to see something that these people are not. Your job is to develop their capacity to rise and see that. That will happen in the face of their former strategy to cut down the tree and in the face of human resistance that will pull them back to what they know.
There are chances that leaders might take this personally like you are not good at leadership or doing a bad job developing them. Leaders can also project that they are unable to take leadership development and are not candidates for leadership.
Listen and know how heartbreak works, how that is created, and what happens. Enjoy the show!
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Conversation for transformation and conversation for survival are two important distinct conversations valuable when leading, coaching, and supporting someone.
In this episode, we will see the distinctions between these two types of conversations.
Some distinctions include conversation for transformation is different from our default conversation or the conversation we operate regularly in our daily lives.
Our daily life is a conversation really for survival. It is a conversation about what is going on with your life and what you have to do.
A conversation for transformation is a conversation that exists in the realm of possibility, and that possibility is everything outside of what is already predictable for you to have.
When we engage beyond the transformational conversation, we are stepping beyond the balance of "here's why I can't do that."
There are more things to learn about this topic, so listen and enjoy the show!
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On this week’s mid-week episode, Adam is live coaching Laura Camacho, around the topic of how to make more money without working harder, and all of the layers that are at play around this topic.
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There are two types of investment for yourself. The first type is where you make an investment that does not cost you much financially and is not of too much concern. This type of investment is common for most people.
But what happens when you invest in something you couldn't afford to fail? This is the type of investment that arrests you.
In this episode, we will talk about the ontology of investing in yourself. Investing in something that makes you confronted by fear. The type of investment that diminishes your desire to go beyond the threshold of your fear and go beyond the possibility. Enjoy the show!
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If you ask people who are high performers how they experience disappointment, they will tell you that they don't have a lot of disappointment in their life. Disappointments are uncommon for these people.
What is going on is that people learn to perform and put out some excellent work, and they constantly try to outrun the specter of disappointment for themselves and other people.
There is a pattern for high performers that leads to a great deal of burnout because there is an inability to slow down and take a rest. It is the trait or pattern where someone hurts and injures themselves and drives them crazy.
In this episode of The Transformational Leader with Adam Quiney, we will start to look at it from a different perspective. We will look at it not on how they have always been, but on how they became. Enjoy the show!
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In this episode of The Transformational Leader, we talked about the Ontology of Patterns, the nature of a pattern, and how we stay stuck.
The nature of a pattern is that over time, we do something and are rewarded for it. We learn a particular set of thoughts and beliefs, and we learn to take a specific set of actions from those thoughts and beliefs. We are rewarded for those actions.
As time goes on, those neural pathways get optimized and become more efficient. Over time, we stop thinking about this as a pattern or even as a choice.
In transformational work, we talk about how you work on the technique. At this point, you stop using it. Now, the technique is using you. You are no longer consciously doing it, it is happening for you.
Listen and learn more about this topic and how it affects the transformation in you as a leader!
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On this week’s mid-week episode, Adam is breaking down all things related to the topic of Empathy. You’ll hear him discuss What is in the way of our empathy, How empathy is related to our aging process, How empathy can provide access to our own blindspots, What the consequences of opening our heart empathetically are, and more.
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In this episode of The Transformational Leader, Adam Quiney talks about the danger of the typing model.
The trouble with the typing systems is that they are ostensibly in service of helping people transform and grow, but what they do is diminish possibility. They take it off the table because if you relate to yourself as low emotionality, you will not bother investing that much time in it.
You learn that emotions are a liability or you don't like how it feels when you are sad, so you start cutting off your sadness and thinking about it. When we cut off one emotion, we end up covering up the other emotions.
A lot of these typing models are very ironic and they celebrate the fact that you are being diminished.
Listen and know the dangers of labeling ourselves in a particular way. Enjoy the show!
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