Episodes
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Meet Raymond Lum
Survivor and Film ProducerAs a young boy, he was sexually abused by their female live in nanny for years. When he eventually told his father the response was ‘Look out for your brother’.
To reach Raymond go to: https://www.facebook.com/sting16 or https://www.instagram.com/raymondtlum/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:
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As survivors of child sexual abuse, it is widely accepted that we were controlled through grooming simply so the abuser could exploit us. What is less discussed is the coercive control that lay underneath all of it.
What that meant (for some of us), is that we weren’t just controlled through sexual abuse, there was also the emotional and physical manipulation as well. How that impacted us was we had no opportunity to live or behave in a way that was truly ours.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
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Missing episodes?
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Be aware if you are deciding on how to confront your abuser, your emotions will be running at an all time high, and therefore deciding on something of this importance may not serve you - Yet!
It will in time, but maybe just not today. Because this is of such huge significance, please allow yourself further clarity of thought as the last thing you need is to regret your decision later.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
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Meet Kel Humphries
Survivor. Advocate. Speaker. Researcher.
She was abused by her Uncle between ages 7 - 8, and recognises the grooming for what it was. He knew exactly what he was doing, her parents had no idea.
For more on her reach out to her at kellyhumphries.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsWe are on all social media platforms:
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Losing your voice
As children being abused we couldn't speak, because our brain froze.
This is a trauma response, and just so you know: when your brain is flooded with cortizal there is no way you can speak, as this is a chemical reaction which cannot be controlled.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback
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Gloria returns to Shaun’s platform to discuss the impact of CSA on survivors in light of the current media storm around P Diddy. She shares her story and offers insight and ideas into how to combat this to protect our children. For more on her go to handingtheshameback.org and gloriamasters.com All links to her books can be found there in all versions as well as on amazon.
https://gloriamasters.com/shop/
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Meet Kel Humphries
Survivor. Advocate. Speaker. Researcher.
She was abused by her Uncle between ages 7 -8, and now realises her parents were the ones being groomed. At age 12 her mother asked her directly if she had been abused, but she couldn't speak. For more on her reach out to her at kellyhumphries.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsWe are on all social media platforms:
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Negative self talk
It is more common than not for your survivor to put themselves down and talk about themselves negatively. This is part of, or a consequence of the abuse suffered as children. Listen for ways to contradict their self talk. Sometimes simply challenging something can change it.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
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Full clip here https://youtu.be/h4lhCTH22nM?si=Nl8g-FGovgqD7_QsWe are on all social media platforms:
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Uipo Tagaloasa Part 2
Was born and raised in Samoa without his father, who had passed away before he was born.
He has 11 siblings, and was raised by grandparents.
He was abused from the age of 9 by a really close family friend.
As he was working through his trauma, he considered shooting his abuser and then realised it would really only punish him and his family unnecessarily.
To contact him, please use the links below to his Break The Cycle from Past Trauma FB and Instagram pages. https://www.facebook.com/UipoTagaloasa?mibextid=ZbWKwL or on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/breakthecycle_from_past_trauma?igsh=MWl5cHNmc25rMm5oeA==
Or find him at Tautoko Tāne Aotearoa. HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsWe are on all social media platforms:
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Needing love
As children being abused we were looking for some love from those tasked with caring for us.
We were children, with needs not being met, and yet through the abuser manipulating us and providing comfort , we may have felt we were complicit somehow.
They were in charge, we weren't.
Love that little child inside.
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Uipo Tagaloasa
Was born and raised in Samoa without his father, who had passed away before he was born.
He has 11 siblings, and was raised by grandparents.
He was abused from the age of 9 by a really close family friend, who was helping his family out with things. He also played rugby with him. To contact him, please use the links below to his Break The Cycle from Past Trauma FB and Instagram pages. https://www.facebook.com/UipoTagaloasa?mibextid=ZbWKwL or on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/breakthecycle_from_past_trauma?igsh=MWl5cHNmc25rMm5oeA==
Or find him at Tautoko Tāne Aotearoa.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsWe are on all social media platforms:
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Sometimes it can all feel a bit much when trying to work your way through the trauma the abuse created. Sometimes it feels easier to just give up working on this, and just pretend you are okay with how it is.
Please don't do that. Never give up, the rewards you receive are insurmountable.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
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Meet Janet Jacobsen
Grandmother, wife, mother, football lover and survivor.
Janet's story continues.
You can reach out to her on Facebook as Janet Jacobsen and on Instagram as https://www.instagram.com/gdadnansjj/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
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Even though you may feel that you should take other's advice on what action you should take regarding the abuse you suffered: like (for example), forgive your abuser, or just move on with your life: The reality is you must do what resonates with you, in other words:
You do You.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
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Meet Janet Jacobsen
Grandmother, wife, mother, football lover and survivor.
Janet was abused by a doctor while her father was dying. she also had a local shopkeeper do the same. Her call to action was on hearing of the death of the doctor. Don't miss this survivors incredible story of courage and overcoming.
You can reach out to her on Facebook as Janet Jacobsen and on Instagram as https://www.instagram.com/gdadnansjj/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsWe are on all social media platforms:
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Resolution Options
Because we are all different, so are our views on how to get resolution regarding our abuse.
For some of us it may be finding forgiveness, for others it may be confronting the abuser. Whatever you need to do to find peace is the key. Trust how you feel and go from there.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
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Gloria talks about her life story.
What she experienced and what led her to do the work she does on Handing the Shame Back.HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
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Never Give Up
Even tho it can feel tough at times, please keep going on your individual survivor path. That could be making sense of what happened to you, or convincing people how hard it is some days etc. You so deserve to get what you need: The simple message being, Never Give up.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
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Meet Three incredible survivors of Abuse in Care.
Malcolm Justice. Phill Ashworth and Neil Harding.
Their stories will move you.
For more on this please watch the entire video.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#letssavesomekids #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #believesurvivorsWe are on all social media platforms:
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Every wonder why you struggle with certain areas in your life?
This could be anything: Confidence, speaking up, relationships, even food.
I liken it to a puzzle with missing pieces, because underlying those struggles will be a connection between them and your childhood abuse.
Have a listen, you may just solve your own puzzle.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
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