Episodes
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How do you view men who experience same-sex attraction (SSA)? In this episode, Jordan Castille and Drew Boa deconstruct 10 stereotypes about men who are sexually attracted to men.
Jordan Castille is a Board Certified Christian Counselor, Certified Clinical Sex Addiction Specialist, APSATS CPC (Certified Partner Coach) - Candidate, and Certified Husband Material Coach. He and his wife Cherise have two boys. Jordan loves Jesus, people, video games, working out, Tex-Mex, learning how to fix things, legos, and his church community. Jordan also does one-on-one coaching and small group coaching within the Husband Material Community. He is trained with partner betrayal sensitivity through the APSATS organization.
https://www.castillecoaching.com
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How do you view men who experience opposite-sex attraction (OSA)? In this episode, Jason Pidcock and Drew Boa deconstruct 10 stereotypes about men who are sexually attracted to women.
Jason Pidcock is a Certified Trauma Informed Recovery Coach and longtime member of the Husband Material community. Jason is passionate about helping men overcome the coping strategies they have developed that are no longer serving them well. After finding much healing from his own story of spiritual abuse and pornography addiction, he is transitioning from a career as a construction contractor to working full-time as a coach helping other men find their path to wholeness.
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Website: Www.jasonpidcockcoaching.com
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If you've spent years wishing your sexual thoughts and feelings would go away, this episode is for you.
Unwanted, by Jay Stringer (paid link)How To Interpret Sexual FantasiesHow To Analyze Sexual FantasiesWhy We Sexualize Emotions...And How To Desexualize Them
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Have you ever felt unable to enter into your wife's pain? In this episode, Nathaniel Gustafson explains how to come close to your wife in a way she is more likely to trust. You'll learn how to stay out of shame, keep the spotlight on her, and practice these skills before "game time." Sobriety is not enough. You must learn empathy. Nathaniel's compassionate guidance will help you develop it.
Watch the video of this episode here.
Nathaniel Gustafson is a licensed professional counselor and ordained pastor who specializes in working with men and couples recovering from pornography and affairs. Nathaniel also offers monthly webinars alongside his wife, Tammy.
Learn more about Nathaniel at tenderheartedmen.com
Join Nathaniel's next Know Your Why Workshop in October!Take the Husband Material Journey...
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Many men have been wounded by women. In this episode, Britta Eskey explains how women can help men heal wounds caused by women. Without women, we are missing half of humanity.
Britta Eskey co-founded COR, which assists people in finding and living their purpose, including through the Noble Man workshop. Britta is the author of Initiations in Love, a spiritual memoir which answers the age old question: âWhat do we do with our pain?â Britta has a background in social work, family therapy, counseling, family constellation work, dance and movement, spiritual direction, and life coaching. Britta is a NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) trauma-informed professional and a certified Compassion Cultivation Teacher. She lives in Asheville, North Carolina, with her husband, Lee Eskey, and their dog, Heidi.
Explore Britta's work at corexperience.com
Buy Britta's book: Initiations in Love: A Memoir (paid link)
Learn more about The Noble Man Workshop at corexperience.com/noblemanTake the Husband Material Journey...
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Did you know that you have more than one inner child? In this episode, you'll get to know three types of unhealed boys within you. Then at the end, I'll share what it looks like to help them heal.
The "good boy" who became "the hero."The "bad boy" who became "the villain."The "hurt boy" who became "the victim."
You'll meet:
Porn And The Inner ChildThe Inner Child ChallengeHow To Heal Your Inner ChildFind The Boy Within The ManFour Ways To Reparent Yourself
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Have you ever tried to remove access to porn on your digital devices? What if you could create a filter with no loopholes? In this episode, you'll learn a new and innovative approach to internet filtering with Jon and Kristin Wilkes, founders of pluckyfilter.com. You'll also hear from Scott Wurtz, a passionate Plucky user. If you're interested in protecting yourself from porn without giving up your phone, this episode is for you.
Learn more at pluckyfilter.com.
Jon and Kristin Wilkes, founders of Plucky, have been married for 12 years and have 3 young children. Jon created Plucky because he needed a strong internet filter and happened to have the software skills to make it. Kristin is the Director of Communications and Jon's cheerleader. They've been on this adventure of using their skills for God's kingdom full-time for the past 9 years.
Scott Wurtz grew up in Wheaton, IL, and attended Wheaton College (BS, MA). Professionally, he has taught physics and computer science at the high school level and currently works as a software developer. Scott discovered Plucky during the Covid-19 pandemic in 2020. He has used it ever since.
Learn more at pluckyfilter.com.
Your free guide to technology that keeps you safe from porn:
https://www.purelifealliance.com/porn-fighting-technology.htmlTake the Husband Material Journey...
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How can a couple devastated by porn heal, grow, and become even stronger? In this episode, Rich and Deanna Millentree tell their incredible story.
Growing In Marriage website: growinginmarriage.comGrowing In Marriage podcast: growinginmarriage.com/podcastConfident Husband Mastermind: growinginmarriage.com/chmCouples Bible Study: growinginmarriage.com/couplesInstagram: instagram.com/growinginmarriage
"We're Rich and DeAnna Millentree and we love growing in marriage! We've ridden the rollercoaster of marriage for over 28 years. The ups are exhilarating, but the downs are daunting. As Christian Marriage Coaches, we have one big goal: guide couples to ignite deep, lasting connections to Jesus and one anotherâno matter where your marriage is at. Together, we will help you break the bad habits that have left you feeling like distant roommates. Let us help you find your vibe."
Connect with Rich and Deanna here:Take the Husband Material Journey...
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In this episode, I transform one of my triggers using The F.L.O.S.S. Method with help from three Certified Husband Material Coaches: Andrew Loyd, Juan Mejia, and Rocky Pisor. This episode was recorded live at the recent HMA In A Day workshop as a live demonstration of Trigger Tuesday, one of the weekly coaching calls in Husband Material Academy.
The F.L.O.S.S. Method:F = Fear
L = Lie
O = Origin Story
S = Sadness
S = Surrender
What If I Don't Remember Much Of My Childhood? by Adam Young
Drew Boa is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional and Coach in Colorado Springs, Colorado. Connect with Drew at drewboa.com
Andrew Loyd is an Ordained Pastor and Coach in Cottage Grove, Oregon. Connect with Andrew at restoredstorycoaching.com
Juan Mejia is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Coach in Atlanta, Georgia. Email Juan at [email protected].
Rocky Pisor is a Pastoral Counselor and Coach in Fresno, California. Connect with Rocky at reconnecthope.com
Free resource mentioned in this episode:Take the Husband Material Journey...
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Triggers don't have to be tyrants. In this episode, you'll learn how to transform your triggers from threats into opportunities for healing using The F.LO.S.S. Method. This episode is an excerpt from the recent HMA In A Day workshop.
F = Fear
The F.L.O.S.S. Method:
L = Lie
O = Origin Story
S = Sadness
S = Surrender
Free resource mentioned in this episode:
HMA Preview Lesson at husbandmaterial.com/hma-previewTake the Husband Material Journey...
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Tera Brown went from trying to fix her husband's sex addiction to finding herself, her emotions, her boundaries, and her sacred ground. In this episode, you'll learn what it looks like to heal from relational trauma and feel alive in your body.
Tera Brown is a trauma-informed life coach trained by APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addiction Treatment Specialists). She woke up from a lifelong pattern of avoiding her emotions when her husband disclosed his sex addiction after 16 years of marriage. Tera and her husband have now been married for 29 years.
Tera specializes in helping women and couples create personal safety, emotional sobriety, and peace. Learn more about her coaching practice, support groups, and online classes at coachtera.com.
Interested in Tera's experiential retreat?Check out La Loba: The Woman Who Knows
Next retreat: October 18-20, 2024 in Smithfield, Utah
Mentioned in this episode:The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (paid link)
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How do I sit in the dirt with someone who is experiencing sexual brokenness? What if I don't know what to say? What if I find myself dysregulated or sexually aroused by the other person? Jeremy Williamson offers invaluable wisdom and counterintuitive clarity about how "be with" others in such a way that they experience the presence of God.
Take the Sitting In The Dirt Course by Chris Bruno and Jeremy Williamson (highly recommended!)Join Sitting In The Dirt Cohort (for 5 weeks with Jeremy)
Jeremy Williamson is a storywork coach and counselor with ReStory. He is also the Director of Restorative Experiences at Restoration Project. As a former pastor and missionary with 20+ years of experience, Jeremy serves as a kind and passionate guide for men and women who long to know God and live in wholeness. Email Jeremy at [email protected].
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Have you ever been disappointed by traditional counseling or talk therapy? In this episode, you'll discover the power of a whole-brain approach to outgrowing porn. You'll learn the why, what, and how of experiential healing work. This episode is required viewing for my clients.
How To Heal Your Inner ChildExperience Healing Through IFSExperience Healing Through The Immanuel ApproachExperience Healing Through PsychodramaHealing Through Artwork And StoryworkAttunement: The Key To Connection
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Join the waitlist for HMA: joinHMA.comApply for 1:1 coaching with me: drewboa.com/applicationApply for our next healing weekend: husbandmaterial.com/apply
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How do you pursue restoration after a relapse, especially in marriage or ministry leadership? Rocky Pisor tells his own story of processing a porn relapse after 17 years of sobriety. You'll learn how to notice the warning signs of impending relapse, and how to respond to relapse with curiosity and compassion rather than punishing yourself or pretending like everything is fine. There is wisdom in this episode!
Rocky Pisor is a Certified Husband Material Coach, Sex Addiction Mentor, Trauma-Informed Facilitator, and Pastoral Counselor who has worked through his own story of freedom from sex addiction. Learn more at regener8mentoring.com
Read Rocky's free resource: How to Process a Lapse/Relapse
Schedule a free, no-obligation personal chat with Rocky: https://calendly.com/rocky-pisor/quick-chat
Email Rocky at [email protected]Take the Husband Material Journey...
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"There is nothing inherently wrong with an aroused man." What is arousal? Why is it good? Sam Jolman helps us reclaim the heart of masculine sexuality for the purpose of awe, play, and worshipping God. You'll learn how arousal always has a script, why evil hates arousal, and the difference between sexuality and sensuality. At the end, you'll receive a beautiful blessing from Sam. This episode is amazing!
Sam Jolman (MA, LPC) is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in menâs issues and sexual trauma recovery. His writing flows out of this unique opportunity to help people know and heal their stories, and find greater sexual wholeness and aliveness. He received his masterâs in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was further trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through the Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. Sam lives in Colorado with his wife and three sons. Fun fact: Sam and Drew attend the same church!
Buy Sam's new book (paid link):
The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine SexualityJoin Sam's newsletter for a free copy of the first chapter: samjolman.substack.com
Learn more and connect with Sam at samjolman.com
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Why do I struggle with gay porn? What does freedom look like? How can I stop using gay porn? In this episode, I answer these questions based on years of research and helping hundreds of men achieve lasting freedom from gay porn.
Healing And Recovery: Perspective For Young Men With Sexualized Attachments by Floyd GodfreyMan Cards: Conversation Starters For Men (Sale: 30% off until Father's Day)
Recommended resources (including paid links):Related episodes of Husband Material:
Why We Sexualize Emotions And How To Desexualize ThemHow To Interpret Sexual FantasiesWhat If I'm Sexually Attracted To Myself?How My Sexual Fetish Shifted Over TimeThe Exact Path To Freedom From PornReady to pursue freedom from gay porn?
Join the waitlist for HMA at joinHMA.com
***Save the date: HMA in a Day on Saturday, July 13, 2024!***Take the Husband Material Journey...
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What's the point of processing childhood experiences? In this special episode recorded live at the Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit, Drew, Doug, Eddie, and Matt share insights and stories about how processing childhood experiences can help you outgrow porn.
Drew Boa (MA, PSAP) a Certified Unwanted Guide and Inner Child Recovery Specialist. Drew is the founder of Husband Material, where he helps men outgrow porn. Learn more at husbandmaterial.com
Dr. Doug Carpenter is a clinical psychologist and the co-owner of Insight Counseling Services in Rochester, Michigan. He's the author of "Childhood Trauma and the Non-Alpha Male."
Eddie Capparucci is a Christian therapist who specializes in the treatment of sexual and pornography addiction. He's the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP) and the author of "Going Deeper: How The Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction."
Matt Wenger is the clinical director of Boulder Recovery, a 14-day intensive for men struggling with sex, porn, and relationship issues and their impact on faith. The program uses the TINSA treatment model (Trauma-Induced Sexual Addiction) to heal the traumatic experiences and attachment wounds driving addictive behaviors and problematic thinking around sex and intimacy.
You can also watch the video version here: www.husbandmaterial.comTake the Husband Material Journey...
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Why do we sexualize emotions, and how can we desexualize them? In this episode, I explain what it looks like to "right-size" sexual energy through processing emotions and releasing trauma.
Feelings And Needs WheelFeelings And Needs Inventory
Free tools to process emotions:
Ready to release some trauma? Come to the Husband Material Retreat in Colorado on September 6-10, 2024. Sign up at husbandmaterial.com/retreat"Before the retreat, I was plagued with an overwhelming sense of sadness that I could ignore for a while but never escape. During the retreat, I was able to access my suppressed, righteous anger, experience it, and direct it for good." âScott
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What happens when you feel entitled to sex and treat your wife like a replacement for porn? In this episode, Noah Filipiak tells his story of overcoming sexual entitlement and objectification. Along the way, he unpacks the false promises of purity culture, what love really looks like, how God's grace changes us, and the power of gratitude.
Noah Filipiak is a pastor, author, and the host of The Flip Side Podcast. He also blogs at noahfilipiak.com. Noah and his wife Jen have three daughters. He is on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram @noahfilipiak.
Buy Noah's book (this is a paid link):
Beyond the Battle: A Manâs Guide To His Identity In Christ In An Oversexualized World
Needed Navigation: A Teenâs Guide to His or Her Identity in Christ in a Sex & Porn-Filled World
Join a 7-week online group with Noah to experience how to overcome pornography, lust, and fantasy. After the 7 weeks, alumni get to join the free Beyond the Battle alumni community filled with ongoing support and encouragement. Sign up at www.beyondthebattle.net.Take the Husband Material Journey...
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What is the definition of sexless marriage? Why do couples experience this? Sexless marriage is often a symptom of deeper psychosomatic issues. Adam and Karissa teach practical tools to build a sexful marriage through vulnerability, intimacy, and safe touch. This episode can also help couples for whom intercourse is painful or not possible.
Adam and Karissa King are a licensed coach/therapist team and the founders of Dear Young Married Couple, where they help couples become intimately connected, get adventurous, and find purpose.
Free download: 5 Steps When Trust Has Been Broken
Free download: Because, Because, Because
Check out Adam and Karissa's EROS Conference: dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/eros
My wife and I attended and it was exactly what we needed!
Buy Adam and Karissa's Card Decks For Couples (these are paid links):
FOUNDATIONS - Questions And Tips To Become More Connected
REALIZATIONS - See How Well You Know Your Significant Other
SEXPECTATIONS - Talk Openly About Sex Without Having SexTake the Husband Material Journey...
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