Episodes
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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Lily, co-founder of @quench_london, a unique queer party that centers people who are queer, kinky, of colour, trans, neurodivergent, disabled, and of all sizes. In this episode, we talk about who can attend Quench, what to expect when you walk through the doors, where you're allowed to play, and how they prioritize safety and inclusivity for everyone. Lily also shares Quench's journey, their dream venue and theme nights, and some unforgettable moments in the party’s history.
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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Cydney (@cydneythelight) in this episode where they dive deep into postpartum body insecurities, bisexuality, and dating. Cydney opens up about her journey from being confident in her body before giving birth to hiding her body for 8 years after having her son at 19. They also discuss how her mom raised a confident daughter, but the lack of representation for stretch marks and postpartum bodies took a toll. Cydney talks about her bisexual awakening, what dating women is like compared to men, and how intimacy and sex differ. From insecurity to acceptance, Cydney shares her inspiring story of body positivity and love.
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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Emma Richardson-Gerrard, CEO and founder of Knude Society, for a deep dive into her upbringing in the UK, where sex education was lacking, and how she’s changing that with her own daughter. Emma shares her story about her first boyfriend gifting her a vibrator, but never achieving an orgasm with him, and how she now advocates for introducing toys in the bedroom. We talk about the best ways and places to have these conversations, how to receive feedback, and how parents can create a safe space for their kids to ask questions. Emma also opens up about starting her company, the challenges she’s faced, and the exciting new toys she’s released – The Wanda and The Bette.
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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by content creator Taiwo (King TM) for a candid conversation about sex education in the UK and his first masturbation experience. We explore how growing up with a single mom gave him the freedom to explore, and why he made a pact not to have sex until he was 16. Taiwo shares how he learned to be a good lover by asking his partners for feedback, tells us the dynamics of low-effort vs. high-effort first dates, and dives into why men often enjoy the chase and respect these women more. We also tackle topics like penis size insecurities, cheating, and more.
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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Hani Dresner, founder of @gashtrays, a unique ceramics line focused on sex education. We dive into Hani’s upbringing in a naked household, how it shaped her body image journey, and what it was like growing up as the "weird kid" in school. Our conversation explores why sex education is so important, society’s obsession with big penises, the fascinating world of play parties, and the need for greater acceptance of genital diversity. Tune in for a deep, insightful chat that challenges norms and celebrates individuality.
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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by a very special guest—her sister! In this episode, they dive into everything from their easy orgasms and first boyfriends to their Catholic upbringing and how it impacted their body image and relationship with femininity. They share stories of sexual exploration as teens, their journeys with masturbation, and tips on how to ask for what you want in bed—especially when one of them is a pro at it despite their shared upbringing. The conversation also covers the difference between being vanilla and having a routine that works, the challenges and rewards of growing as a couple, and the balance between accepting your partner as they are versus trying to change them. Plus, they discuss what it's like to have Alexa as a sister, figuring out bisexuality while in a straight relationship, the quirks of dating a boyfriend without a sense of smell, and tips for making long-distance relationships work.
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Kicking off Season 3! Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Jessica Stahl (@vanillacooldance), a sex-positive cartoonist and creative director. We dive into Jessica's mfm fantasy, her experience growing up in an open household, and how her mom gifting her her first vibrator shaped her advocacy for pleasure. Jessica shares her journey from anger at men to a place of curiosity, her experiences with toys and partners, overcoming dry spells, and the culture shocks she’s faced since moving to Amsterdam. Plus, we get into the highs and lows of sex parties!
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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Tara Michaela, a sex educator and founder of the Youth Sexpert Program. We dive deep into body image, sharing our personal experiences and discussing the importance of sensate focus and overcoming spectatoring. Tara offers insights on changing up your masturbation technique, the benefits of doing so, and why it's totally okay if you prefer sticking to the same routine. We also discuss her work in sex education, and wrap up with a candid conversation about men who boast about eating pussy but don’t deliver when it matters.
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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Rachel Wright, a therapist, sex therapist, educator, and non-monogamy expert. We dive into the most common issues she sees in her sex therapy practice and her 4-step process for better communication with your partner. Rachel shares her unique journey as a pregnant woman with another pregnant wife, discussing body changes, hiring a doula, and fulfilling people's desire to have sex with a pregnant person. We also cover how to ask for reassurance, cope with a partner's past cheating, and get along with an ex. Plus, a special update: baby Logan has been born since we recorded the episode and is a happy, healthy baby!
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Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault
In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Goddess Bats, a versatile and empowering sex worker. We dive into their journey, starting with camming at 18 and transitioning to various facets of sex work, including findom. We uncover the realities behind porn productions, like where the lube bottles are and how performer collaborations actually work. Goddess Bats shares their queerness journey, being demisexual as a sex worker, and how they navigate it all. We also discuss our takes on consent, providing valuable insights into this crucial aspect of the industry
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In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Sarah Casper from @comprehensiveconsent, author of The Kids and Consent Curriculum, and consent educator. We dive deep into the concept of consent, exploring its different types and how to ask for it. Sarah explains why consent doesn't necessarily have to be sexy but should always be asked for anyway. We also tackle some gray area situations, such as both people being equally drunk, whether you should ask for consent every single time in a long-term relationship, and how power dynamics like a big age gap can affect consent. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand and practice consent more effectively.
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In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Violet, an extremely lesbian-leaning bisexual and founder of Mesh, a queer event app in NYC. We dive into the world of queer dating, discussing how to pick up women (or non-cis men), how to approach, what to say, and where to go. Violet shares her insights on figuring out if someone is queer, handling rejection, and the differences between picking people up in real life versus on dating apps. Whether you're new to the queer dating scene or looking to refine your skills, this episode is packed with valuable advice and tips.
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In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Maybe Burke, a trans woman, artist and educator for an open and heartfelt conversation. We discuss her sexuality, orientation, identity, and expression journeys, and delve into her dating stories. Maybe shares how she stays safe as a trans woman and the unique challenges she faces. We also talk about the fact that she has never been in love, her thoughts on relationships, and some of her personal kinks. Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions about sexual assault and consent violations.
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In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) hosts her first threesome on the podcast with Vee and Elle, hosts of the Girls Gone Deep podcast, besties and lovers. We dive into their ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) journeys, recounting our experiences at Hedonism and the play party where Vee and I first met. Vee and Elle share how they met and their adventures in double penetration and double vaginal penetration. We provide tips for those wanting to try non-monogamy, discussing how to advocate for your pleasure and ask for what you want. Vee and Elle also talk about the vibrant non-monogamous community they have built together. Tune in for an open and enlightening conversation about pleasure, connection, and community in the world of ENM.
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In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Yair Lenchner, a private chef and husband to two pregnant wives (11 weeks apart), one of whom is sex therapist Rachel Wright. Yair shares his incredible journey from being a serial monogamist and cheater to embracing life as an open, polyamorous partner. We discuss how they’re navigating the pregnancies, what they plan to explain to their children, and Yair’s advice for those who have cheated or are new to non-monogamy (he’s now taking coaching clients).We also delve into what dating a chef is really like, the valuable lessons he’s learned from his sex therapist wife, and how they manage finances in their polyamorous household. Additionally, we discuss his therapy journey and the importance of seeking professional help. This episode offers a deep dive into the complexities and joys of polyamorous life, parenting, personal growth, and the crucial role of therapy in navigating it all. You can email him at [email protected] for his coaching services! @chefyairlenchner on IG.
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In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Cassie Black (@safe.slut), a sex educator, herpes advocate, and adult entertainer. We dive deep into the world of herpes, discussing whether your sex life is over after a diagnosis or if you can still be a safe and empowered slut. Cassie shares her personal story of discovering she had herpes, the stigma surrounding it, and the common misbeliefs and myths that need busting. We also tackle the important topic of disclosure, exploring if and when you should always disclose and the best ways to do so. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand herpes better and break free from the stigma.
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In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Cory Bush, a non-binary full spectrum doula and sex educator. In this episode, we explore the profound role of a full spectrum doula and the magical aspects of birth, challenging the notion that childbirth must be traumatic. Cory shares insights on why opt-out consent can be beneficial for neurodivergent individuals, and opens up about their non-monogamous and queer journey. We also discuss how coming off birth control has transformed Cory's life, providing a deeper understanding of body autonomy and self-discovery. This episode is a celebration of empowerment, inclusivity, and the diverse experiences that shape our sexual and reproductive lives.
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In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Portia Brown, a renowned sex coach and educator, for a candid discussion on the importance of vocalizing pleasure in the bedroom. Together, we explore techniques for performing during sex, advocating for your pleasure, and giving and receiving feedback to enhance intimacy and satisfaction.Join us as we delve into why silent sex can be a turn-off and how to get better at making noise in the bedroom for a more fulfilling sexual experience. Portia opens up about her upbringing and queerness journey, highlighting the transformative power of radical honesty in relationships.We also emphasize the significance of self-pleasure and exploration regardless of relationship status, emphasizing the importance of owning your sexuality and desires.
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In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by the incredible Megan, known as @msgigggles, a fierce fat activist and self-proclaimed hottest whale in the ocean. Together, we embark on a journey of empowerment, discussing the nuances of reclaiming the word "fat" and challenging societal beauty standards.Megan fearlessly dives into the harsh reality of the fashion industry's lack of space for plus-sized individuals and offers invaluable insights on what slim people can do to support inclusivity. We explore the complexities of body confidence and share tips on how to become more self-assured in a world that often dictates beauty standards.But our conversation doesn't stop there! We delve into topics of queerness, the importance of being a supportive "girl's girl," and our mutual love for lingerie as a form of self-expression and empowerment.
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In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Billy Procida, the host of The Manwhore Podcast and a seasoned comedian. In this revealing conversation, Billy opens up about his journey from growing up without sexual shame to becoming a figure in the world of sex positivity and comedy.We delve into other chapters of Billy's past, from enduring bullying up until graduating high school to struggling to escalate casual relationships despite his active sex life. Billy shares candid anecdotes about setting up a gloryhole during the COVID-19 pandemic following NYC's sexual health directives, shedding light on the unexpected twists life can throw our way.Billy takes us on a humorous ride through his days of webcam work for money, his transition to OnlyFans, and his experiences hosting his own naked comedy show. We also explore Billy's evolving relationship with his body and its impact on his sex life.
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