Episodes
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Sometimes break ups shake you to the core. They deplete your energy, make you question yourself and feel debilitating. Heartbreak is grief. These past few weeks have been a wake up call… A reminder I put my worth in someone else’s hands. I forgot who I was until I saw something today. I wanted to share it in case others are feeling lost. Even when working so hard to love themselves. With only 2 days left in 2021 I think this might be the wake up call we all need. ❤️ Please find me on Instagram @dreafecht and send me a DM. I want to know who you are and what you’re feeling about yourself.
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Hey everyone! I was super excited when Case agreed to come on the podcast. I've been following him for a while. He has a super cool podcast called, New mindset who dis, which contains great bites of wisdom on mindfulness, dating and relationships. Case has also authored a series of workbooks designed to take people through the process of self-introspection and that's why I wanted to bring him on the podcast. I have his journal, Single is your Superpower, and I was really amazed at how helpful it was. Often we go through the motions of life and don’t take the time to really know ourselves. What we really dig into is how becoming mindful and more self aware is the biggest step in living a life without regrets.
More on Case:
Case Kenny is the Chicago-based writer, podcaster and recording artist behind The New Mindset Journal.
Case (@case.kenny) refers to himself as a "dudebroguy" because as he says he isn't "any more enlightened than the average person" but what he does have is a "hunger and drive to become the best person" he can.
It was that drive and passion for growth that inspired him to start the New Mindset, Who Dis podcast in the summer of 2018.
Almost two years later, 8 million downloads and honors as an Apple Podcast top 30 podcast, Top 100 Mental Health, iHeart Radio Top 10, Deezer Editor's Choice and many more accolades, Case has made a name for himself as a prominent podcaster and mindfulness thought leader.
Want the cliff notes of what we covered?
Why Case started his podcast Where he gets his brilliant ideas for instagram Why being single is not a negative thing Why you shouldn’t buy into other’s perspectives Why “the wrong way to think about things is to believe there is a right way.” Why we shouldn’t villianzie people just because they fulfill our agenda The importance of asking why until you can’t “why” yourself anymore How we confuse honesty with the truth.Wanna follow Case?
Instagram: @casekenny
Website: https://newmindsetwhodis.com/
Wanna follow Drea?
Instagram: @dreafecht
Website: https://dreafecht.com/
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And by “it” I mean “it” in other words: This is definitely a sensitive topic so don’t let the littles listen in.
My amazing, brilliant, beautiful, friend and guest, Janna Denton-Howes is a Desire Coach for married women who want to want sex but just don’t. As someone who personally struggled with low libido for years, she understands the frustration of feeling like sex is just another chore on a very long to-do list. Now Janna empowers women to design experiences that feel nourishing, relaxing, and intimate through her program, Wanting it More, which has helped over 1000 women reconnect with their husbands again.
Janna and I uncover (no pun intended) more than just sex. What you’ll find in this episode is that loving ourselves and respecting ourselves completely is the key to happiness and yes, even pleasure.
Where to find and follow Janna:
Instagram: @jannadentonhowes
Website: https://jannadentonhowes.com/
Where to find drea:
Instagram: @dreafecht
Website/join email list: https://dreafecht.com/podcast
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Divorce is hard. Leaving toxic relationships is hard. Rebuilding your life is hard. So how do you do it? Truth is when you take the time to really know and love who you are. You’ll find the strength to accomplish anything and live an amazing life.
That’s why I brought Ashley Lane Adams on the podcast today.
Ashley Lane is a coach who helps single moms drop the struggle and fall in love with themselves… which I know from experience is easier said than done.
After traversing two back-to-back emotionally unhealthy relationships and finding herself divorced with two small children at age 40, Ashley Lane Adams took a deep dive into personal and spiritual development. Compiling all the tools that she learned on her journey through counseling, coaching, masterminds, emotional intelligence training, and learning coaching skills, Ashley empowers divorced women and single moms to let go of guilt, shame, and regret and step into their power, passion, and a life that they love!
In today’s episode we discuss:
Ashley Lane’s personal story How she left a toxic relationship How becoming more self-aware leads to happiness and healing What she did to heal. What she did to help find herself How she handles co-parenting with grace Why learning to forgive yourself is vital Taking responsibility for your life and happiness Her approach to datingMentioned in this show:
Follow Ashley Lane on:
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Ohhh momma this one is for everyone. And it’s a pretty big deal because this is the first male I have interviewed on this podcast.
So why bring a dude in our lady space? Perspective.
Joe Romano has been a close friend of mine for several years. He’s a good dude. And like any of us… not perfect. When I met him he was in a dark place post-divorce and I was on the verge of leaving my husband. And since we’ve seen each other go through a lot and supported each other - I wanted him to share his story.
P.S. This interview wasn’t pre-planned at all. Joe and I decided to have this conversation very last minute.
We discuss so much but here’s a breakdown:
Joe’s divorce story. His darkest times. His attachment style and why learning it has helped him to heal. Why he stayed in a toxic relationship for so long. Kiddos come first. Parenting as a single parent. Introducing kids to your new partner. How he’s found a great partner and the challenges they’ve overcome. His favorite relationship books. How you should go with your gut when it comes to relationships. Why we stay in stuck in the same relationship patterns. How it feels to be with a partner with a secure attachment style.Wanna hear more from Joe? He’s got an inspiring Instagram feed with positive messages, recipes, and health advice: https://www.instagram.com/romano
Books talked about:
Attached
5 Love languages
Getting the love you want
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Oh Momma! Today I interviewed Maya Diamond, licensed therapist and expert on Attachment theory.
Maya is an expert Dating and Relationship Coach who is known for helping women and men finally find their beloved after years of trying, so that they can have happy, satisfying, and fulfilling relationships.
Maya believes that having a great relationship positively impacts all areas of your life, and that by following her simple process for calling in the partner you really want, you can have more success and abundance in your career, finances, social life, spiritual development, or anything else that is important to you.
Maya is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) and holds a Master’s Degree in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies.
If you feel you’ve been in a cycle of bad relationships and not getting your needs met… This is for you.
Learning about your attachment style can be the catalyst for your personal healing and finding love in a healthy relationship.
In this episode we’ll cover:
Maya’s story and background What is attachment theory? The difference between attachment styles Can you heal your attachment style? Anxious and avoidant relationships How the different attachment styles relate with each other Independence between interdependence How we are wired for secure, loving relationshipsLinks to this episode:
Apply to work with Maya Rewire Your Attachment Style PodcastNow I want to hear from you. Duh!
Tell me about your online dating experiences or why you haven’t tried it yet.
Join the conversation on Facebook.
Hang with me on the “gram my handle is @dreafcht
Get on the MTASM mailing list and be the first to hear about new episodes and extra content.
Oh hey and if you like what you hear purty please write a little review and rate on Apple podcasts. If you do, I'd love to feature it on my podcast and for you to be my newest friend.
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Today I got a hot topic for you…. Online dating.
I sit down with my Magic MIke and I spill it.
What I hope it does is give you some confidence and peace of mind to try online dating or see it from a different perspective.
I’ve been using dating apps since 2014 and have learned A LOT my friend! So before you dive in or give up on it all together I want to normalize all the pros and cons… but mostly have fun!
Dating should be fun ladies and it all starts with your attitude. (insert diva finger wag)
Here’s what I cover:
Shifting your mindset Handling rejection… psst it's not rejection. Not taking things personally Differences between a few dating apps...Tinder? Bumble? Match.com? Online dating is numbers game… not a Nicholas Spark book What kind of pictures you should use for your dating profile What is Ghosting? What is Breadcrumbing? Your dating funnel… yes it’s a funnel! My personal dating strategy. Coffee dates And a few general safety tips.Now I want to hear from you. Duh!
Tell me about your online dating experiences or why you haven’t tried it yet.
Join the conversation on Facebook.
Hang with me on the “gram my handle is @dreafcht
Get on the MTASM mailing list and be the first to hear about new episodes and extra content.
Oh hey and if you like what you hear purty please write a little review and rate on Apple podcasts. If you do, I'd love to feature it on my podcast and for you to be my newest friend.
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I bring my friend and love coach Brenda Brewer back to the podcast to go a bit deeper.
In this episode Brenda and I discuss…
It’s about you not him/them Passion is not drama Beyond no contact (during break ups) Why you should date multiple men (in beginning stages or until he asks for exclusivity) How you can’t control a man but you can inspire him to meet your needs 4 rules on how to respect a man/masculine partner And a little about my experienceLike what you heard? Wanna work with Brenda?
Email: [email protected]
Get her free workbook: hhttps://blowupbackfire.com/respect/
Here’s where you can find her: https://brendabrewercoaching.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brendabrewerlove
Wanna stay connected with me aka Drea?
Let’s talk about this episode on Facebook
Or goof off with me on Instagram @dreafecht
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If you’re going through a devastating break up or still missing your ex this one's for you.
Today I interviewed Break Up Coach Kendra Allen.
Kendra Allen is a breakup coach, blogger, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast and founder of Break Up Bestie.
During this interview we go over…
What the “No Contact” rule is and why it’s so important.
Why it’s not a good idea to stay friends with your ex.
Why journaling helps you process what you’re feeling.
That it’s completely normal to go through a range of feelings and emotions.
The difference between missing your ex and missing the benefits of your relationship.
How to get through the initial feelings of shock and overwhelm.
What is attachment theory?
What are the 3 attachment styles?
And to remember, this too shall pass - You won’t feel this way forever.
If you are looking to get guidance and support during your break up you can find Kendra here:
https://www.breakupbestie.com/
Instagram: @yourbreakupbestie
Podcast: https://www.breakupbestie.com/podcast
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Ohhh Momma!
In this episode my love coach, Brenda Brewer, and I talk about all things relationship, self-love and how she’s greatly affected my love life and peace of mind.
If you listened to my last episode: you’ll find out about how I’m doing and what happened after I walked away from my relationship… it’s pretty amazing.
Brenda Brewer is a Love and Alignment Coach who helps women in pain over relationships realize their worth by shifting into alignment with their radiant nature and magnetizing their desires with ease.
And she ain’t joking.
In this episode - it’s long but SOOO worth the listen - we deep dive into:
How Brenda became a love and alignment coach
How I found Brenda
How she helped me turn my relationship around with my boyfriend
Why feeling messages make you desirable
How we sabotage our relationships
Self love - how to get started
What men want and how they think. (it’s nothing like us)
How to use our feelings to make ourselves irresistible to men
Our relationship timeline vs. Mens’ timeline
Letting go of control
How loving ourselves and leaning back attracts a man
Standing up for yourself
How to talk to a man when your needs aren’t getting met or if he won’t help you around the house
How to inspire a man
Why men need us.
What is circular dating
Why dating multiple men is good for youLike what you heard? Wanna work with Brenda?
Email: [email protected]
Here’s where you can find her: http://brenda-brewer.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brendabrewerlove
Email:
Brenda’s must read books for women:
Have the relationship you want by Rori Raye
Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
Recovering from a broken heart by Philip Golabuk
Wanna stay connected with me aka Drea?
Let’s talk about this episode on Facebook
Or goof off with me on Instagram
About me: I’m a twice divorced single mom who is living life her way and wants what you want - Love and happiness...duh. I skateboard, play guitar, hit the gym, read all the books on self-love, write FB ads for living and make really bad Tik Tok videos.
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This is dedicated to anyone suffering deep heartbreak or grief. The ones who can't sleep, who can't eat, who can't focus who can't stop thinking of what could of been. The ones begging their bodies for relief.
It was one of the hardest podcasts for me to record.
In it, I talk about
My medical diagnosis. My fears, my pain, and why I decided to let go of a relationship that didn't serve me. Why we should all know our worth and love ourselves enough to walk away when we aren't getting the love we deserve. Wisdom and advice on how to move forward - even when it hurts so bad you can't get out of bed.Thank you to Rachel Kay Albers for sending me "A Curriculum For Poetry" which I read.
Thank you to my coach Brenda Brewer for her great wisdom, support, and reminding me (and other women) of how incredibly worthy we are.
And thank you to all of my wonderful friends that have come to me, sat with me while sobbing, held my hand, and reached out every day to see how I'm doing. Women truly know how to love and care for each other when it's needed the most.
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Today’s episode is super exciting because I’m bringing in Jenny Richardson:
Jenny is a relationship and dating expert and she helps women fall in love with dating again and find the relationship of their dreams. Through her own experiences of dating after bereavement, she teaches women that dating doesn’t have to be stressful or a chore. She works with clients to show them how to attract the most amazing relationship and have fun while they’re doing it by building their self worth and confidence and showing them all the pitfalls to avoid. If you’re ready for next-level dating then she’s the woman for you.“
We jump into how she became a dating coach.
Why dating should be fun and easy.
And dives into
Is it ok to sleep with someone on the first date
And when should you bring up dealbreaker topics like marriage, kids, etc.
How to know if you’re ready to date.
If you are in the trenches of dating or thinking about getting back out there, this episode is for you.
And lots more!
So without further ado let’s get started.
How to find Jenny:
FB: Jenny Richardson
FB group: smart women dating intelligently
www.jennyrichardson.co.uk
Jenny’s book recommendations:
Books:
The Goddess revolution by Melissa Wells
You’re a Badass by Jen Sincero
World War Z by Max Brooks
Wanna hang out with me?
I'm on the insta! https://www.instagram.com/dreafecht
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Debt can weigh you down mentally and that’s why I brought in Financial coach, Katy Almstrom.
Katy lives in NH with her husband and two young kids. She is a financial coach who's particularly skilled at helping women improve their money habits and behaviors, including learning how to pay off debt and get excited about their money plan!
In this episode we cover:
How Katy got herself out of debt Is there such a thing as “good debt” How not having a budget is like not having a shopping list. How to handle money during the pandemic Steps for getting out of debtKaty’s Book Recommendations:
Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey
Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Vision and Make Things Happen by Tara Mohr
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Condo
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Katy’s favorite budgeting app: https://www.everydollar.com/
Her Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thesimplifiedbudget
That it! Continue the More than a Single Mom Conversation here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/singlemompodcast
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In this episode I'm bringing in Cori Strong...
Today’s episode is super exciting because I’m bringing in Cori Strong
Cori is a boudoir photographer whose mission is to help women redefine sensuality and what it means to be a woman: on their own terms. Through her own dedication to self-discovery and mindfulness, she takes a nuanced approach in her work with clients, guiding them to question the beliefs about their bodies that have held them captive most of their lives.
We jump into how she got started as Boudoir photographer.
How she helps her clients get comfortable before the shoot.
What we can do get our sexy back.
Importance of self-love and where to start.
How she runs her business while being a mom too
And lots more!
You find Cori here:
IG: https://www.instagram.com/cori_strong_photography
FB: https://www.facebook.com/coristrongphotography
Private FB Community: http://bit.ly/CSboudoirgroup
Book Recommendations:
Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur
I will teach you to be rich by Ramit Sethi
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
Where to find Drea:
https://www.instagram.com/dreafecht
https://www.facebook.com/groups/singlemompodcast
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If you feel a little lost because you're no longer in a relationship, this episode is for you.
Often we get lost in our relationships - depending on someone else to keep us motivated, entertained, and fulfilled.
Logically we know this is a bunch of unrealistic BS - We don't need a partner to be fulfilled,
BUT the HOW is a whole other ballgame and we are gonna talk about it in this episode.
Self-love allows us to heal faster but HOW?
How do we love ourselves when we are feeling alone and rejected?
There's a lot of ingredients when it comes to self-love - today I'll cover one of the secret ingredients to help you move forward.
One more thing! Come join the convo about this episode and the others on Facebook: More than a Single Mom Facebook Group
If you wanna see what I'm up to you can follow me on Instagram too.
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Starting over is hard... but sometimes it's worth it! This week interviewed my friend Stacy Moscotti all the way in Philly... well we phoned it in. I really loved this interview…. Stacy is a powerhouse of empowerment. And we had a ball. I only wish she was sitting across from me with a cocktail >You’ll learn her starting over story.
>What led her to divorce
>What she would do differently
>How she coped during the divorce process
>Her take on relationships
>Romance,
>Chemistry
>Social media
And all kinds of juicy bits.
About Stacy: Stacy is the founder of Theatre Kid Audition Coaching, an educational and service platform committed to theatre kids getting the roles they want and deserve, regardless of talent or experience. Stacy is a retired triple threat in musical theatre, having starred in the national tour of the Unsinkable Molly Brown as Molly Brown, as well as many other dream roles such as Evita in Evita, Cassie in A Chorus Line, and Sally Bowles in Cabaret. Stacy was a single mom for 7 and a half years, having her first marriage end when her daughter was just 5 months old. She is now remarried with another child and spending her days coaching aspiring Broadway performers and preparing to listen to the soundtrack of every Broadway show from 1950 to 2020 and blog her journey. Y
ou can find Stacy here: Instagram, instagram.com/stacymoscotti Tik Tok
Stacy's book recommendations:
Codependent No more
Peace From
Broken Pieces Atomic Habits
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You can follow Drea on Instagram www.instagram.com/dreafecht to see what she's up to.... probably skateboarding or playing guitar. or check out her business website dreafecht.com (she is still working on it) OR leave her a voice message here https://anchor.fm/singlemompodcast/message -
I'll be talking about the conversation I had with my friend Kelli and how it inspired this podcast. You'll get nuggets of real perspective and hopefully some wisdom on:
- How we view our relationships
- What we are doing to better ourselves
- Attachment theory
- How social media affects us
