Episodes

  • Dating in the digital age is a wild ride! This week, we’re talking about the highs and lows of modern romance—getting ghosted, the shocking reality of being catfished, and the art (or chaos) of dating multiple people, we’re sharing our personal experiences and lessons learned along the way. Plus, we’re spilling the tea on receiving explicit snaps: Is it flirty fun, or a recipe for disaster? And what happens when catching feelings gets in the way of staying true to yourself? Join us as we navigate the highs, lows, and hilarious moments of dating in today’s world. Grab a drink—this one’s juicy!

  • !!THIS EPISODE IS VERY EXPLICIT!! Get ready to turn up the heat! In this episode, we’re delving into the thrilling and often taboo topics of sex, desire, and what men and women really want when the lights go out. With a special male guest, we break down the secrets behind our wildest fantasies, unfiltered preferences, and those "off-limits" topics that make the bedroom sizzle and we are not holding back! From confessions that might surprise you to an honest look at what makes intimacy unforgettable, this episode promises to be as raw as it is spicy. Tune in for laughs, gasps, and plenty of heat as we explore the art of pleasure and what men and women truly crave in their most intimate moments. Warning: things get explicit and VERY spicy!

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  • In this episode, we’re keeping it real and raw as we dig into what women and men truly want in relationships. From the value of honest communication and genuine effort to the power of vulnerability and being unapologetically yourself, we explore the elements that make relationships thrive. We’ll talk about why being authentic matters, how showing up as the real you can deepen a connection, and what it takes to build something meaningful and lasting. Get ready for a candid, unfiltered conversation that cuts to the core of love, connection, and what both partners are really looking for.

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    Don’t forget to share your thoughts and follow us! We’d love to hear from you.

  • Get ready to meet us, your new best friends in dating! In this episode, we're not only sharing our (mis)adventures in dating but giving you a front-row seat to our unfiltered friendship. Hear the way we really talk about our dating goals, biggest turn-ons, and what we’re hoping to find in a partner. From raw truths to laugh-out-loud moments, this episode is all about bringing you into our world, where no story is off-limits and no advice is sugarcoated. If you’re looking for real talk, real laughs, and a peek into our friendship, hit play and join the conversation!

    Book references in this episode include A Touch of Darkness by Scarlett St. Clair and the big one that will ruin you from any men is Ruthless Creatures by J.T. Geissinger Spice level

    We talk briefly on Limerence which is a state of involuntary obsession with another person. I will tag the video below

    https://youtu.be/pYIcu6Nuzsk?si=TZkAv4im79vUjfhR

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