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“We can't just stop at transforming the mind. We can't just have our kids act like Christians. They might say the right thing. They may know what to say to make mom and dad happy, but we want that heart transformation.” – Lauren Gaines.
Lauren Gaines is a wife, mother, author, and teacher. She is the creator of Inspired Motherhood, a thriving online community equipping parents to raise up the next generation with boldness. Lauren has a unique parenting approach, as she’s a busy mom of three children and holds a master’s degree in school psychology. Her newest book, Unshakable Kids: Three Keys to Raising Spiritually Strong and Emotionally Healthy Children, equips parents to raise strong kids even in a broken world. When Lauren isn't writing, you can find her enjoying the outdoors with her family, experimenting with her camera, or putting on a variety show with her kids.
During this episode, Lauren shares her insights on parenting and discusses the importance of an authoritative approach to raising resilient and unwavering children. She dives into the key areas of mind, heart, and identity, offering practical tips for nurturing strong Christian kids in today's challenging world.
Key Takeaways:
Rising anxiety in adults and children, including those in the church, and Lauren's personal experience with anxiety and its impact on her children.
Recognizing overwhelming feelings in parents and children and seeking to address anxious behaviors.
The importance of addressing the mind, heart, and identity in raising strong Christian kids.
Using the cognitive triangle to identify feelings, thoughts, and actions.
Ensuring a transformation of the heart, not just actions or behaviors.
Teaching children their identity in Christ and building self-esteem from a biblical perspective.
Bringing God into everyday life to develop a personal relationship with Him.
"I'll be happy when" mindset and its impact on happiness.
The importance of savoring moments to experience gratitude and living in the present.
Reflecting on the importance of slowing down and appreciating the little things in life.
The definition of authoritative parenting as warm, sensitive, and balanced.
Balancing love, discipline, and autonomy for children as they grow.
The drawbacks of wanting to be too much of a friend to kids than a parent.
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“The last thing is scripture and prayer. It's a practice, more than a technique. It's a demonstration of being obedient to stay connected to God.” - Rhonda Stoppe.
Three women of Christ on a mission, Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield, Rhonda Stoppe, and Lee Ann Mancini, have joined together to share empowering Godly advice, information, and encouragement for everyone who is raising the next generation of warriors for Christ. Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield is a national speaker, author, podcaster, and a licensed professional counselor of 27 years. Rhonda Stoppe is a best-selling author, speaker, and podcaster who has helped countless women build “no regrets lives”!
During this episode of Digging Deeper, all three ladies share insightful advice and practical tips on managing stress, maintaining composure, and navigating the aftermath of lashing out in anger. From understanding the impact of emotions on both parents and kids to embracing grace and seeking forgiveness, they offer valuable guidance for parents seeking to create a peaceful and loving environment for their families.
Key Takeaways:
Impact of parental stress on children's behavior.
Understanding the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses in stress.
Effects of parental lack of regulation on children and practical ways for parents to regulate themselves and their children.
Importance of deep breathing and bilateral stimulation tapping.
Incorporating prayer and scripture to cope with stress.
Lessons from the behavior of Christ in stressful situations.
Importance of mindful awareness to understand anxiety triggers and being able to identify and address personal triggers and fears.
The danger of allowing stress to manifest as anger.
Understanding and addressing personal idols affecting stress responses.
Modeling healthy stress responses to teach children productive coping skills.
Intentional alignment with Christ's perspective.
Making amends without making excuses for outbursts.
Seeking forgiveness from children and setting an example of humility.
"Make amends, don't make excuses. So, the best question you can ask is, 'Tell me how I hurt you when I responded that way.'" - Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield.
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“Investigation is critical for our kids to understand and not to be afraid of it.” – Lori Wildenberg.
Once a month, Lori and Lee Ann will discuss complex topics regarding parenting and disciplining. Lori Wildenberg is a national speaker, a licensed parent-family educator of over 25 years, and an award-winning author of six Christian parenting books. Lori also leads the popular Moms Together Facebook Community Page and Group.
During this episode of MOMents, both ladies dive into the complex theme of deconstruction and how it relates to teenagers and their faith. They explore the signs parents can look out for, the stages of questioning, and how to support and guide teenagers through these challenging times.
Both ladies also emphasize the necessity of fostering open dialogue with teenagers and encouraging critical thinking while remaining rooted in biblical truths. Offering solace and reassurance, Lori and Lee Ann emphasize the power of prayer and the role of the community in providing steadfast support during times of spiritual turmoil.
Key Takeaways:
Understanding deconstruction versus investigation.
Investigating and questioning the faith and the importance of not being afraid of investigation.
Transition from investigation to dissecting biblical truths.
Emphasizing the importance of prayer.
Addressing signs and symptoms of deconstruction.
Recognizing the importance of understanding autonomy in teenagers.
Establishing a family mission statement and rules for disobedience.
Identifying social and personal factors contributing to doubt.
Addressing the impact of personal wounding on faith, understanding grief, and responding to deep emotional loss.
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Hannah Pierrou is a long-time photographer, designer, and artist. She started the shop and publishing company Treehouse Storytellers as a way to bring wholesome and biblical resources to parents and their children. She is passionate about spreading the Gospel and helping fellow parents train up their kids with a biblical worldview. Hannah and her husband and three kids live in the Colorado foothills on a small hobby farm. She is also the host of the new and growing Treehouse Storyteller podcast.
During this episode, Hannah delves into the inspiration behind her new book, Miss understood, as listeners will be drawn into her heartfelt account of receiving a divine calling to write the story and its uplifting message about God's promises. Through her beautifully illustrated book, Hannah aims to bring hope and restoration to the next generation by rediscovering the true significance of the rainbow in a biblical context. Hannah also touches on topics such as parenting in a "sideways" culture, equipping parents with solutions, and instilling biblical foundations in children's lives.
Here are some key takeaways and tips from this episode:
Focus on biblical principles: Encourage kids to understand and live by the foundational truths of the Bible, instilling them with a sense of purpose and faith.
Embrace Hope and Restoration: Through stories and illustrations, convey the hope and restoration found in God's love, emphasizing redemption and forgiveness. This can be done through engaging books, art, and everyday conversations.
Compassionate Communication: Teach kids to embrace compassionate and empathetic communication, reaching out with the love of Jesus to people from all walks of life.
Cultivate a God-Centered Home Environment: Create a nurturing home environment where biblical values are not only taught but practiced, encouraging kids to seek God's promises in their daily lives.
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Teenagers have a huge influence on each other. Let's equip them to be disciples for Christ!
During this episode, Lee Ann reflects on her own teenage years and the influence that friends had on her decision-making. She shares insights on how to raise teenagers to be the best disciples for Christ and equip them to share His message with others.
She also elaborates on five key points to help parents and guardians guide their teens in becoming counter-culture warriors and strong Christian ambassadors:
Cultivating a home environment rooted in faith: Lee Ann stresses the importance of fostering a heavenly atmosphere within the home through prayer, worship, and engagement with Christian materials.
Emphasizing honor and serving others: Encouraging teens to honor their parents and others, thus learning the value of serving God and honoring those in authority.
Choosing friends wisely and extending unconditional love: Assisting teens in making wise choices in friendships and demonstrating unconditional love, even towards those who may be challenging to love.
Initiating conversations about God: Helping teens engage in meaningful conversations about faith and providing them with resources to navigate discussions with their peers.
Role-playing and preparation: Supporting teens by role-playing scenarios they may encounter and preparing them to address challenging situations with love and wisdom.
In a world where the secular culture often challenges Christian values, it's crucial for us to equip and support our teens in becoming counter-culture warriors, sharing God's love and truth with their peers.
The article mentioned: “10 Social Issues and Problems That Trouble Today’s Teens” by Charissa Chamorro with CSW.
“How often do you pray at home, study the word of God, listen to worship music, prepare to serve others, read Christian materials, or watch Christian movies? Do you have a family mission statement or a disciplinary contract? Do you, as a family, discuss how you will serve others and the community? Is your family active in church? All of that is so, so important!” – Lee Ann Mancini.
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“We wanted to encourage girls that they're designed to have good friendships. And the source of that is God.” – Blythe Daniel.
Blythe Daniel is the co-author of Mended, and I Love You, Mom!, which she wrote with her mother, Dr. Helen McIntosh. She worked for Harper Collins Christian Publishing in marketing and publicity and now enjoys her work as a literary agent.
Calyn Daniel, one of Blythe's daughters, is a middle schooler who loves spending time with her friends and family, including her older sister, Maris, and twin brother, William, who is also an author. Calyn believes girls need to know who they are in Christ, how to navigate friend groups—especially when they change—and how to not lose sight of who God has made them to be.
Together, they wrote the book Let’s Be Friends: A Tween Devotional on Finding and Keeping Strong Friendships, which offers tween girls helpful advice on how to find and maintain beneficial friendships with faith at the forefront.
During this episode, Blythe and Calyn share their insights on why they decided to write this book and how this book can serve as a guide for girls who may feel lost in their friendships with friends, family, and even God. Developing meaningful friendships is a vital skill for tween girls, shaping their emotional and spiritual growth and empowering them to positively impact others with their unique talents. This book guides girls in distinguishing between healthy and harmful friendships, navigating conflicts, staying authentic, and exploring other essential aspects of friendship. Each section features heartfelt wisdom on friendship and includes carefully chosen Scripture verses, words of encouragement, and reflective questions with ample space for personal responses.
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“Listening to God speak to us through his holy spirit will help us to have a robust prayer life, where we learn how to be in conversation with the Lord.” – Lee Ann Mancini
Do you ever find yourself repeating the same prayers, feeling like your prayer life has become more of a routine than a sacred privilege? How can we, along with our children, engage in genuine and meaningful conversations with God that fill us with joy, keeping us connected to the Almighty, the great I Am?
During this episode, Lee Ann discusses the significance of prayer in our lives and the lives of our children. She shares her personal reflections on the depth and meaning of prayer, acknowledging the challenges and the desire for a more profound connection with God. Lee Ann also explores the ways in which parents can engage in genuine and meaningful conversations with God and how they can guide their children to experience a rich and impactful prayer life.
Key Takeaways:
Realizing the significance of genuine and meaningful conversations with God.
Recognizing the routine nature of prayer and the desire for a deeper connection with God.
Exploring different ways and times to pray and highlighting the need for consistent and frequent prayer.
Introducing the concept of praying in different personalities for a deeper connection with God.
Referencing biblical instruction on how to pray.
Emphasizing the importance of acknowledging God's holiness and aligning with heavenly principles in prayer.
PRAY - Praise, repent, ask, and yield.
Encouraging the use of simple and varied prayers, including praise and gratitude.
Utilizing the Psalms as guidance for prayers, showcasing a wide range of human emotions in communication with God.
Encouraging support and intercessory prayers for others to foster a robust prayer life.
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“Most people's biggest problem with homeschooling is they don't really believe that they're good parents. And that's why the subtitle became How Amazing Parents Become Excellent Home Educators because you are an amazing parent because you are the parent that God created specifically for that child whether by birth or by choice. God put that child in your family. " – Leslie Nunnery.
Leslie Nunnery is a prominent figure in the Christian homeschooling community. As the co-founder of Teach Them Diligently, she has dedicated herself to providing resources and experiences to strengthen Christian homeschooling families.
Leslie is also an accomplished author, with several books on parenting and homeschooling to her name, including Teach Them Diligently: Raising Children of Promise and Heart School: How Amazing Parents Become Excellent Home Educators. In addition to her writing, she is a sought-after speaker and the host of the Teach Them Diligently podcast, where she shares her expertise and passion for educating and equipping parents to realize their call and execute it well.
During this episode, Leslie shares her unique perspective on homeschooling and parenting. She discusses how her new book differs from other homeschooling books and how it can benefit all parents, regardless of their approach to education.
Key Takeaways:
Common misconceptions about homeschooling:
Fear of not being "enough" as a parent and educator.
Shifting the focus to understanding the primary mission of homeschooling.
The mission is to disciple and shepherd the hearts of children.
Homeschooling is a tool to complement the mission of discipleship.
How Heart School can be used as a tool to help see the alignment between the educational outlet used and the family's call.
Emphasis on being amazing parents to become excellent home educators.
Addressing parental doubts and instilling confidence in the parenting role.
“Teach Them Diligently is here to really help reorient families to see their main mission is to disciple and shepherd the hearts of their children, bring them to Jesus, and then homeschooling actually becomes a fabulous compliment for that.” – Leslie Nunnery.
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Why should you be taking a parenting class?
During this episode, host Lee Ann Mancini dives into the importance of parenting classes and the profound impact of raising children in the Christian faith. She discusses the essential role parents play as spiritual leaders in their children's lives and emphasizes the significance of equipping ourselves to be the very best for our children, instilling in them a deep love for God and his word.
Addressing the importance of continuous learning and growth, Lee Ann encourages listeners to view parenting as a calling, blessing, and honor. She emphasizes the impact that proper parenting can have on shaping children's future faith and, ultimately, the preservation of Christianity. Lee Ann also acknowledges the challenges of raising children in today's world and offers a compelling argument for the necessity of equipping oneself through parenting classes.
Key Takeaways:
How parenting classes can help you increase your knowledge in becoming better at the craft of parenting.
The importance of educating ourselves to become the best spiritual leaders for our children.
Being chosen by God to raise children in His image.
Imparting values through actions and words and showing commitment to living out and sharing faith.
Preparing children for their divine purpose.
Instilling unwavering love for God and His Word and equipping them to stand firm in their faith.
The need for planning and training to raise spiritual champions.
Being proactive in training children against spiritual warfare.
Necessity for good planning and diligent implementation.
Making disciples as instructed in Matthew 28:19-20.
“To prepare them for the Lord's divine purpose for their lives, we must instill in our children a deep, unwavering love for God and His word.” – Lee Ann Mancini.
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“The peace that prayer brings is that it's really less about answers and it's more about access. The fact that we have this privilege of being able to go to God. And so, as we pray, we become more like Him.” – Janet McHenry.
Janet McHenry is a national speaker and the author of 26 books--seven on prayer, including the best-selling PrayerWalk and her newest, Praying Personalities: Finding Your Natural Prayer Style. She coordinates the prayer ministries at her church in Reno and serves on the California leadership team for the National Day of Prayer. A former high school English teacher, she and her high school sweetheart husband Craig raised their four kids in the Sierra Valley, where he is a rancher. They love nothing better than watching their adult kids and grandkids play whiffle ball in the backyard or kayak on nearby mountain lakes.
During this episode, Janet discusses the importance of prayer in children's lives and shares insights from her book Raising Personalities: Finding Your Natural Prayer Style. She elaborates on how different biblical praying styles can help parents understand their children's unique approaches to prayer. From problem solvers to peace seekers, Janet provides valuable advice on fostering a natural and enjoyable prayer practice for kids.
Key Takeaways:
The four main categories of biblical praying personalities: problem solver, friend of God, organized lamenter, and peace seeker.
How biblical figures exhibited the different praying styles (Moses, Gideon, Abraham, Daniel, and Josiah).
Observing children's personalities to identify their natural prayer style.
Navigating children towards their natural prayer style to make prayer more natural for them.
Addressing specific scenarios for different prayer personalities (dinner time prayer, introverted children).
Overcoming time constraints and lack of knowledge on how to pray with children.
Incorporating personal quiet time with open-handed prayer.
Following the example of Paul as an "on the run intercessor" to navigate daily challenges.
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“When we look at our actual homes, really the question to ask is, ‘How is screen time affecting my home - does technology bring my family closer together?’” – Arlene Pellicane. Raising Christian Kids has decided to re-release our disciplining series, which was originally released in March of 2023. We feature experts who share their knowledge and are passionate about helping parents and caregivers navigate the rough waters of disciplining. We cover many topics, such as disciplining strong-willed children and children with varying cognitive abilities, the different types of consequences, and the most problematic issues parents face in today’s chaotic society. The wisdom that’s shared will hopefully help you raise children who are teachable and obedient to you and, most importantly, obedient to God.Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of several books, including Parents Rising, 31 Days to a Happy Husband, Calm, Cool, and Connected, and Screen Kids. Arlene has been a featured guest on the Today Show, Fox & Friends, and Focus on the Family. She hosts the Happy Home Podcast and lives in San Diego with her husband and their three children.Arlene is passionate about helping families on an array of topics. One of her missions is encouraging parents to remember that they control screen time and technology usage in their homes!During this final episode of disciplining month, Arlene dives into some important topics from her book, Screen Kids. She elaborates on the following key points on how to confront technology issues when disciplining: Our confusing culture today teaches us that electronic devices are educational and that they help our kids connect with other kids—which can be true, but our kids then lack emotional skill sets. Tips on imposing new rules: Prepare for resistance, try to make screen time as specific as possible, and have an end goal in mind. The benefits of reducing screen time in small incremental sections vs. all at once. Apologize and take responsibility for being “soft” when they get upset by your new rules to reduce screen time; admit you were wrong for letting them take advantage of their screens. Advice in disciplining a child who continues to abuse the digital rules – review the different types of rules that have failed, get other perspectives from parents or friends on how they deal with this issue in their home, and be willing to open your mind to other solutions. If it isn’t working, it’s time to try something different. Don’t be afraid to give consequences, and don’t extend the deadline. Allow the experiences and consequences to discipline your children.Arlene’s website, Instagram, & Happy Home University.RCK social media: Facebook Join our Facebook community group! Instagram PinterestLove this episode? Please leave us a rating/review and share this episode with a friend! You can find a list of all our episodes here.
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If we are not responsible for our children’s actions and behaviors, then who is?
Raising Christian Kids has decided to re-release our disciplining series, which was originally released in March of 2023. We feature experts who share their knowledge and are passionate about helping parents and caregivers navigate the rough waters of disciplining. We cover many topics, such as disciplining strong-willed children and children with varying cognitive abilities, the different types of consequences, and the most problematic issues parents face in today’s chaotic society. The wisdom that’s shared will hopefully help you raise children who are teachable and obedient to you and, most importantly, obedient to God.
As parents, we tend to think that our children’s actions and behavior directly reflect our parenting skills or lack thereof. And in some instances, this may be true. We may find ourselves as adults making excuses when we behave badly in front of others. But we are not responsible for how they act; we are responsible to them – meaning, we have a responsibility as their parent or caretaker to teach them, guide them, and emulate good behavior, especially when disciplining. When they deliberately choose to do wrong when they know they shouldn’t, it is not always our fault, and sometimes, they must suffer natural and logical consequences. Natural and logical consequences are great tools in our disciplining arsenal.
Although we are not entirely responsible for our children’s actions, there is one area in life where we are held responsible. The laws of society say that parents are legally responsible for their minor children’s actions in civil and criminal court, regardless of whether it was intentional or accidental. This is another reason to ensure children we are disciplining our children early so they understand that their family is at stake in more serious matters.
“For he who does wrong will receive the consequences of the wrong which he has done, and that without partiality.” – Colossians 3:25.
During this episode, Lee Ann elaborates on these helpful guidelines to remember when disciplining children:
Be clear about our expectations and what is expected of them.
Provide guidance and support without being overbearing.
Let them make mistakes and learn from them – don’t rescue or bail them out every time.
Encourage them to be independent and responsible.
Instill values like honesty, integrity, and respect for others.
Encourage them to think for themselves and make their own decisions.
Be patient as they learn to make responsible choices, and don’t forget to praise them when they do.
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“It’s never too late. God changes people at any age; he changes little children, he changes, elementary-aged children, he changes teenagers, he even changes adults; so, we’re really grateful that God’s grace permeates the heart of any person.” -Scott Turansky.
Raising Christian Kids has decided to re-release our disciplining series, which was originally released in March of 2023. We feature experts who share their knowledge and are passionate about helping parents and caregivers navigate the rough waters of disciplining. We cover many topics, such as disciplining strong-willed children and children with varying cognitive abilities, the different types of consequences, and the most problematic issues parents face in today’s chaotic society. The wisdom that’s shared will hopefully help you raise children who are teachable and obedient to you and, most importantly, obedient to God.
Dr. Scott Turansky is the co-founder of the National Center for Biblical Parenting and the author of over 15 books. He is a professor at Concordia University, where he teaches the master’s level parenting class to students who will be social workers, counselors, and ministry professionals.
During this second part of the two-part episode series, Scott continues to share his wisdom and expertise regarding effective disciplining to help parents reach children’s hearts. He specifically emphasizes the effectiveness of taking a break versus a time out and the benefits of parenting with firmness and consistency.
Scott elaborates on the difference between a break and a time-out and how a break is much more effective than a time-out. Taking a “time out” is not a good parenting model because it’s a punitive punishment like a timed sentence that a child has to serve for a “crime” they’ve committed. Taking a “break” is more effective because it is based on repentance in the Bible, and it transfers responsibility to the child by letting them come back on their own terms when they feel like they’ve had a change of heart.
“There comes this point when time and conscience and the Holy Spirit work in a child’s heart, and they come back and say, ‘Okay, I’m ready.’ That’s what we’re looking for – that’s the power of the break.” -Scott Turansky.
Scott shares tools parents can implement to help improve communication and effectively reach their obstinate teenagers when disciplining. First, there has to be a relationship between the child and the parent. Although parents should have empathy and sympathy for their child, they must also have firmness and consistency when disciplining to be most effective for long-term results. He shares real-life examples of children who have had a heart transformation through a balance of consistency and firmness.
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“Understanding the action point is a crucial idea that will help parents be more powerful and significant when working with their children.” -Dr. Scott Turansky.
Raising Christian Kids has decided to re-release our disciplining series, which was originally released in March of 2023. We feature experts who share their knowledge and are passionate about helping parents and caregivers navigate the rough waters of disciplining. We cover many topics, such as disciplining strong-willed children and children with varying cognitive abilities, the different types of consequences, and the most problematic issues parents face in today’s chaotic society. The wisdom that’s shared will hopefully help you raise children who are teachable and obedient to you and, most importantly, obedient to God.
Dr. Scott Turansky co-founded the National Center for Biblical Parenting and is the author of over 15 books. He is also a professor at Concordia University, where he teaches the master’s level Parenting Class to students who will be social workers, counselors, and ministry professionals. During this first part of the two-part episode series, Dr. Turansky discusses what he offers for families at Biblical Parenting University and shares important teachings from his book, Parenting is Heart Work, to help children have heart-based obedience. Biblical Parenting University is an online university where parents can take different parenting or coaching classes. These classes help parents learn how to take biblical principles and apply them to the parent-child relationship to teach children how to get things done and to help children develop essential life skills.
Scott shares three important teachings from his book to help children obtain heart-based knowledge and obedience:
Parents need to go into their children's hearts—the three components that they need to reach are their children’s desires, emotions, and beliefs.
Parents need to recognize they are the best counselors for their kids IF they have a good plan. The best way to help your children overcome behavioral issues and temperament is to get some training as parents first because the parent knows the child more than anyone else.
Consider your action point – every parent has an action point, and when you stop talking and start acting through practical application and exercises, children can learn what they need to do in their own hearts versus what they don’t want to do.
Scott also details the “coming when called” exercise as an effective disciplining tool for children who don’t have an internal sense of obligation or tend to constantly argue instead of saying yes when called.
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“We do not need to be ‘punishing’ our children because Christ already took the punishment.” – Sarah R. Moore Raising Christian Kids has decided to re-release our disciplining series, which was originally released in March of 2023. We feature experts who share their knowledge and are passionate about helping parents and caregivers navigate the rough waters of disciplining. We cover many topics, such as disciplining strong-willed children and children with varying cognitive abilities, the different types of consequences, and the most problematic issues parents face in today’s chaotic society. The wisdom that’s shared will hopefully help you raise children who are teachable and obedient to you and, most importantly, obedient to God.Sarah R. Moore is the author of Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science, and Better Behavior and the founder of Dandelion Seeds Positive Parenting. She’s a public speaker, an armchair, a neuroscientist, and, most importantly, a mother and a daughter of Christ. Sarah is a lifelong learner with training in child development, trauma recovery, interpersonal neurobiology, and improv comedy. As a certified master trainer in conscious parenting, she helps bring joy, ease, and connection back to families around the globe.During this episode, Sarah discusses how emotional safety and connection can be used in our parenting to discipline more effectively and more like Jesus! She elaborates on the following key points from her book, Peaceful Discipline: Some of the many ways Jesus taught people throughout the Bible can be used in parenting when disciplining children. We can teach our children the story of Zacchaeus from the Bible. He was a tax collector known as a bad guy who sinned often; instead of punishing and perishing him, God taught him through emotional safety and connection that there was another way. Jesus also taught through parables – it was always connection-based, and these stories illustrate what God’s love is like and how to live for God. We all have a part of the brain called the hippocampus, which allows everyone to be a natural storyteller and create narrative memories. When we directly access the hippocampus part of a child’s brain, it is emotionally safe for them, and we are using a tool that Jesus used himself. Jesus took all the punishment for all his believers; therefore, we do not have to punish our children, although there are consequences for their behavior. When we look at our children, we can see our father’s face in Heaven.“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” – Romans 8:1.Sarah’s social media: Instagram, Facebook & Facebook Group, YouTube, Pinterest, & TikTok.RCK social media: Facebook Join our Facebook community group! Instagram PinterestLove this episode? Please leave us a rating/review and share this episode with a friend! You can find a list of all our episodes here.
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“Another issue with disciplining today is that way too many people think of it as punishment; discipline is training for righteousness; discipline is walking with!” -Kathy Koch. Raising Christian Kids has decided to re-release our disciplining series, which was originally released in March of 2023. We feature experts who share their knowledge and are passionate about helping parents and caregivers navigate the rough waters of disciplining. We cover many topics, such as disciplining strong-willed children and children with varying cognitive abilities, the different types of consequences, and the most problematic issues parents face in today’s chaotic society. The wisdom that’s shared will hopefully help you raise children who are teachable and obedient to you and, most importantly, obedient to God.Dr. Kathy Koch is the founder and president of Celebrate Kids and the associate co-founder of Ignite the Family. She regularly speaks at conventions, schools, churches, and pregnancy resource centers, where she has influenced thousands of people. Dr. Kathy is a popular guest on Focus on the Family radio, and her podcast, Celebrate Kids with Dr. Kathy, is among the most popular parenting podcasts. She is also an author of many books published by Moody Publishers.Throughout this episode, Dr. Koch shares advice on disciplining, understanding strong-willed children, and the most problematic issues with disciplining children today.Key Takeaways: The discipline of wisdom can be defined as agreeing with God, a perspective God brings to a topic, and applying truth – wisdom is using the right with the right motive for the right outcome. Ways to address a strong-willed child when they continue arguing, talking back, or ignoring their parents’ directives. A strong-willed child is not bad when they have self-control, self-respect, and respect for others; having a strong will is a great characteristic for decision-making and leadership. What a strong-willed child wants is power, control, and victory. Advice for disciplining and understanding strong-willed children: Keep a written record of when your child argues, talks back, or ignores you to help determine if it’s situational. Avoid saying “no” when your child asks a question; replace it with “when and then.” Most problematic issues when disciplining children today: Overwhelmed parents. Consequences differ from punishments. Technology.Dr. Kathy’s Books & ResourcesRCK social media: Facebook Join our Facebook community group! Instagram PinterestLove this episode? Please leave us a rating/review and share this episode with a friend! You can find a list of all our episodes here.
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“If we want to understand what biblical discipline truly looks like, we need to look at Jesus, and we need to see how Jesus disciplined his disciples.” -Angela Harders.
Raising Christian Kids has decided to re-release our disciplining series, which was originally released in March of 2023. We feature experts who share their knowledge and are passionate about helping parents and caregivers navigate the rough waters of disciplining. We cover many topics, such as disciplining strong-willed children and children with varying cognitive abilities, the different types of consequences, and the most problematic issues parents face in today’s chaotic society. The wisdom that’s shared will hopefully help you raise children who are teachable and obedient to you and, most importantly, obedient to God.
In this second part of the two-part episode series, Angela continues to share her wisdom regarding the controversial passage, Proverbs 23:13-14, which states, “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die. Punish them with the rod and save them from death.” Angela explains how the four proverbs (this verse included) were written by King Solomon, addressing his sons in hopes of training them to one day be King. The book of Proverbs is meant to address adults; it is not a parenting guide for toddlers.
Proverbs 1 states right from the beginning, ‘these are the proverbs of Solomon;’ these are NOT commandments from God!
The word “child” in Hebrew refers to a legal adult that is typically between the ages of 13 and 17, and people in this age group were considered adults back in ancient times. Therefore, if there are any claims of a child being punished with a rod, it is for committing a crime and about a legal adult. The word “rod” is meant to be a figurative rod in many circumstances throughout the Bible – it is not always meant to be a physical rod.
But one thing we know for sure: the Bible never tells us as parents to hit our children with rods!
Angela also discusses some tools to help you interact with your children, such as modeling, teaching, showing compassion, forgiveness, and correction, as Jesus interacted with his disciples. She also elaborates on the benefits of giving children a choice instead of giving them commands. This technique removes the power and control dynamics of a child wanting to argue back. It also empowers the child to make decisions and become a better critical thinker.
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“We need to remember that when we see the word discipline in the Bible, it does not mean punishment; that word means to verbally teach or instruct; it does not mean physical punishment at all!” -Angela Harders.
Raising Christian Kids has decided to re-release our disciplining series, which was originally released in March of 2023. We feature experts who share their knowledge and are passionate about helping parents and caregivers navigate the rough waters of disciplining. We cover many topics, such as disciplining strong-willed children and children with varying cognitive abilities, the different types of consequences, and the most problematic issues parents face in today’s chaotic society. The wisdom that’s shared will hopefully help you raise children who are teachable and obedient to you and, most importantly, obedient to God.
Angela Harders is a certified special education teacher, an international best-selling author, and the founder of Pax Ministries. She left a toxic school environment to practice Peaceful World schooling with her own children and to inspire other families to do the same. Angela empowers families to live with faith and freedom through her organization, podcast, books, courses, coaching, and more.
During this first episode of this two-part series, Angela discusses her inspiration for writing her book, Gospel-based Parenting, and the truth behind the misconception of physical punishment in the Christian world. Angela explains that the phrase “spare the rod, spoil the child” does not come from the Bible but from an erotic poem! The correct passage from the Bible is, “He who withholds the rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently,” which can be found in Proverbs 13:24. Parents should understand the meaning of this passage from the Bible correctly to be able to apply it when disciplining.
Angela also details the three different types of consequences with real-life examples: contrived consequences (punishment), logical consequences, and natural consequences. She acknowledges the misconception regarding gentle parenting and emphasizes that even though it is “gentle” parenting, children still experience consequences. They get natural and logical consequences, not physical/emotional-based responses such as spanking or unrelated offenses.
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“Discipline literally means to teach. And Jesus disciplined by how he lived his life, not by lecturing, punishing, and sending his disciples to their rooms.” -Kirk Martin.
Raising Christian Kids has decided to re-release our disciplining series, which was originally released in March of 2023. We feature experts who share their knowledge and are passionate about helping parents and caregivers navigate the rough waters of disciplining. We cover many topics, such as disciplining strong-willed children and children with varying cognitive abilities, the different types of consequences, and the most problematic issues parents face in today’s chaotic society. The wisdom that’s shared will hopefully help you raise children who are teachable and obedient to you and, most importantly, obedient to God.
Celebrate Calm founder Kirk Martin has helped almost one million parents stop the yelling, defiance, and power struggles with the most strong-willed children. He is also the host of the Calm Parenting Podcast, and he offers a multitude of resources and packages on his website for you and your child’s specific needs.
During this episode, Kirk elaborates on the following key points to help discipline children, especially those who are strong-willed:
Ways to overcome apathetic children who don’t want to change their behaviors.
The benefit of giving impulsive or anxiety-prone children the tools to succeed rather than getting angry at them for not behaving right off the bat.
How to make mornings more fun for younger kids – a treasure hunt or challenge in the morning can be a positive motivator to get them to want to get up versus telling them they have to get ready for school.
Connection breeds cooperation – we can connect with children on things they are interested in and use that as a tool to connect and discipline them more effectively.
Spark internal motivation using a mission and mentor tactic – getting another adult in the child’s life to spark motivation or have them do activities that they are good at to motivate them to want to do well in school.
Some of the major things that parents often do wrong when disciplining their children – reacting emotionally and taking things personally.
Stop the power struggles with your strong-willed children, and check out Kirk’s Calm Parenting Package, which includes 30 hours’ worth of resources, from 13 different programs to help you discipline more effectively.
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Discipline, instruction, and guidance… what do you think when you hear those words?
Are you ready to dive back into the world of Christian disciplining?
Raising Christian Kids has decided to re-release our disciplining series, which was originally released in March of 2023. We feature experts who share their knowledge and are passionate about helping parents and caregivers navigate the rough waters of disciplining. We cover many topics, such as disciplining strong-willed children and children with varying cognitive abilities, the different types of consequences, and the most problematic issues parents face in today’s chaotic society. The wisdom that’s shared will hopefully help you raise children who are teachable and obedient to you and, most importantly, obedient to God.
During this episode, Lee Ann will dive into what she believes can be the first step in disciplining: creating a discipline plan for your children.
Some tips to help you begin your disciplining journey:
Pray for guidance – ask God to help you develop a discipline plan that best serves the children in your care.
Get input from your children – ask them what they think would be helpful to learn and consider their suggestions as you develop your plan.
Be consistent with your rules and expectations.
Avoid physical punishment.
Use logical consequences.
Be patient, and remember that your children are still learning.
Explain to them your reasons for disciplining them.
Apologize to your child if you lose your temper.
Always show love and grace towards your child.
Once you develop your plan, you can consider what areas of your life you need to work on and create a list of specific goals you would like to accomplish. Once you have your goals in mind, start working on a daily or weekly schedule to help you stay on track. Include regular Bible reading and prayer time, and ensure your other outside activities support those goals. And don’t be afraid to ask for help from a friend or mentor who can help to hold you accountable.
Hopefully, we can all learn to discipline with a positive attitude, a humble spirit, and a servant’s heart!
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