Episodes
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This episode introduces the foundations of a healthy relationship through four key pillars. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren use relatable examples, such as navigating differing preferences in dance lessons or understanding the dynamic between pursuers and withdrawers, to illustrate these concepts. They emphasize the importance of shared language, emotional safety, and empathy in building deeper connections. Rather than prescribing rigid rules, the episode advocates for learning and practicing relational skills through therapy and real-life experiences.
In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Emotional Regulation / Window of Tolerance
Recognizing/Breaking Negative Cycles
Vulnerability
Emotional Connection
Roles of Boundaries
Building Skills Through Practice
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In this episode we sit down with licensed therapists and our incoming Relationship Advice hosts Colter, Cayla, and Lauren to talk about the "protective moves," or behaviors people exhibit during conflict to shield themselves emotionally or regain a sense of control in relationships. These 3 are experienced therapists specializing in attachment, trauma, and anxiety, explore how these moves—like defensiveness, criticism, passive aggressiveness, avoidance, or over explaining—are common yet often disconnecting strategies.
Key Points Include:
Understanding Protective Moves
Examples and Intentions
Origins and Patterns
Moving Through Conflict
Building Resources
The hosts emphasized that while protective moves are natural, fostering awareness and understanding can transform them from barriers to bridges in relationships. They closed by advocating for patience, self-compassion, and communication to navigate these dynamics effectively.
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Today's episode is a real treat as I have a wide ranging conversation with Diego Perez, aka, Yung Pueblo. Listen to today's show for valuable insights and tools to improve your life and relationships today.
In this episode with Diego Perez we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
What to do if you feel your partner is not self aware
The importance of being loosely attached to your views while in conversation
Why the ego loves sameness
Diego's writing process and where he draws inspiration from
How to create more depth in your relationship
Tools for nervous system regulation
And much more!
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The pursuit of happiness is one of the most talked about topics in the self-help world and life in general. What does it mean to be happy? Perhaps the pursuit of happiness is actually just a myth and what we really want to be looking for is joy and contentment. Listen to today's show for important questions to ask yourself and tools to discover what real happiness means.
In this episode with Shawn Léon Nowotnik we discuss
relationship advice topics that include:
The importance of creating meaning in your life and relationships
The commercialization of happiness and how it can lead you down the wrong path
Tools to discover your most authentic self and live authentically
Challenging the idea that you have to be perfect
What to do when you feel like you have everything and still are not happy
And much more!
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Navigating a relationship where you or your partner suffers from chronic pain can be very challenging. Listen to today's show to learn more about healing your chronic pain and how to support your partner on their journey while maintaining a healthy relationship.
In this episode with Bonnie Lester we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
The biological, social and physical impacts of pain
Using neuroplasticity tools and exercises for chronic pain reduction
The importance of developing a language around pain
Keys to healing and improving chronic pain
How to support a partner with chronic pain
Navigating the economic challenges of chronic pain
And much more!
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Most people have experienced anxiety at some point in their lives. For some, anxiety can be frequent and debilitating. No matter the levels of anxiety you experience, we could all benefit from calmer, more peaceful states of being. Listen to today's show to learn how to heal your anxiety and thrive in your life and relationships.
In this episode with Dr. Nicole Cain we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Understanding the different features of anxiety to help heal them
Four actionable steps to move through anxiety with proven effectiveness
Why it's important to get out of your logical brain to heal anxiety
Reclaiming your agency to help cope with anxiety
Bridging the gap between the mind and the body to heal your anxiety
Breathwork exercises to help with anxiety
How to reprogram yourself to break the cycle of anxiety
And much more!
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In today's wide ranging conversation, Dr. Jenn and Chase discuss why you might want to rethink who you follow on social media, how your relationships will evolve and how to have difficult conversations. Listen to today's show for valuable relationship insights and tools you can start using today!
In this episode with Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Why the early stages of a relationship can be so easy compared to longer term relating
Recognizing if you are serial monogamist and what to do about it
Social media's negative impact on your relationship and unfollowing exes
How to be more vulnerable in all of your relationships
Bringing up difficult conversations with your partner and how to do it effectively
And much more!
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Codependency can feel difficult to navigate whether it's you or your partner displaying codependent behaviors. Listen to today's show for valuable tips and insights into dealing with the difficult emotions codependency can cause and start learning how to heal today!
In this episode with Dr. Nicholas Jenner we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Traits of codependency and the different types of codependents
Why people may develop codependency
How to begin healing your codependency or support a codependent partner
Working toward personal autonomy in a relationship while still feeling safe
How to examine your childhood to heal and grow through codependency
The importance of setting boundaries in a codependent relationship
And much more!
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Love is a verb and so is intimacy. It takes practice and dedication to have a thriving, intimate relationship. Listen to today's show to learn actionable tips to grow a deep connection in your relationship today!
In this episode with Dr. Joy Berkheimer we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Dealing with perfectionist blocks to intimacy
How to access your full pleasure
Communication tips for a thriving sex life and relationship
What to do if you're not feeling desired in your relationship
Normalizing sexual behaviors
And much more!
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There are many factors that influence how we think, act and feel about sexuality. Understanding these factors can help us improve our relationships with our own sexuality and those we are intimate with. Listen to today's show for valuable insights and actionable tips!
In this episode with Danielle Savory we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Understanding what is going on in your brain around sexuality
Deconstructing the 'should' of sex and other cultural misinformation
How to communicate and deal with if you or your partner are "too tired to have sex"
Why you should start planning and scheduling sex with your partner
How to be OK with disappointing your partner or others
Standing up for yourself if you're a people pleaser
And much more!
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A lot of what is talked about in the relationship space, including this podcast, involves the psychological side of relationships. However, a huge part of personal development can come from learning to regulate your nervous system and become more embodied. Listen to today's show for valuable tips and insights to begin this part of your journey.
In this episode with Karden Rabin we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Analyzing the sensations in our body to regulate emotions
How to transform your fight or flight response with embodiment exercises
The practice of finding your body when you're losing your mind
The benefit of approaching your healing through the body instead of always through the mind
Recognizing the signs of cumulative stress in your body
How to break the habit of overactive defense mechanisms
And much more!
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Relationships develop in stages and understanding how we show up in each stage is a valuable tool for relationship success. Understanding our needs and how to get them met is also incredibly important for relationship satisfaction. Listen to today's show for valuable information about both of these topics and much more!
In this episode with Thais Gibson we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Why we sometimes betray ourselves because of infatuation with another person
The stages of dating and the subconscious mind
How to understand, communicate and get your needs met in relationships
The importance of meeting your own needs sometimes
The biggest factor for why people cheat
How to understand the area our subconscious mind is running things
And much more!
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As a relationship progresses most people will inevitably become more comfortable and complacent. In order to have a thriving long term relationship, we must take deliberate steps to avoid complacency, resentment and a loss of connection. Listen to today's show to learn the tools that will help you stay connected and create a loving and lasting relationship.
In this episode with Penny McGoey we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Why it's important to remember that sometimes, "people change and forget to tell each other"
How to use journaling to find out what is working and what is not in your relationship
Getting clear and communicating what you want and need in your relationship
The importance of nurturing gratitude in your relationship
The value of making plans together and staying curious about your partner
How Penny cultivated a positive mindset to be with "the best man I've ever known"
And much more!
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Relationships are difficult to navigate in the best of times. Dealing with infertility and other sexual health issues can add another layer of stress and disconnect in even the healthiest relationships. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to navigate these difficult times with grace and love.
In this episode with Gabriela Rosa we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
How to deal with the emotional challenges of infertility as a couple
How to avoid blaming and communicate in a healthy way when dealing with sexual health issues
The importance of communicating exactly what each person wants when it comes to having kids
The value in distinguishing between venting and problem solving conversations
How to communicate your needs effectively
And much more!
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It may sound counterintuitive, but there are ways to embrace criticism to create more love in your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate criticism and communication in a more productive, loving way.
In this episode with Dr. Warren Farrel we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
How to not be defensive when dealing with criticism
The importance of dedicated communication time with your partner each week
Why loving someone is an art and a discipline that does not just happen on it's own
What to do if you feel your partner is not putting effort into the relationship
How to create and sustain a conflict free zone in your relationship
Using journaling to process your emotions before communicating with your partner
And much more!
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Dating can feel overwhelming and challenging for many people. Navigating dating anxiety and fears can be easier when you have the right tools and awareness. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to date better while managing your anxiety and fears.
In this episode with Alistair Wolfe we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Recognizing our innate desire for connection while not losing yourself while dating
Early steps for dating success and important questions to ask yourself
Setting realistic expectations for what dating and relationships should look like
What to do if you feel there is a lack of effort when you're dating
The importance of being honest with yourself during the different stages of dating
And much more!
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Money is one of the biggest causes of relationship conflict and divorce. Money can also be a personal strain that causes a great deal of stress and anxiety. Listen to today's show to learn how to get your finances in order and gain a deeper understanding of your relationship to money.
In this episode with Ben Hockema we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
The different ways we think about money and the importance of understanding this for yourself and your partner
Why we create different money mindsets and the biases we carry around money
Creating agreements around money that work for your relationship
Why some people look at money to increase security and others want to use it for experiences
How to create real systems for your money management
Understanding and communicating your goals around money
And much more!
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Betrayal is one of the hardest things to move through in life and relationships. Working toward forgiveness is a key factor in the healing process. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with betrayal, integrate it and forgive.
In this episode with Dr. Bruce Chalmer we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Learning what exactly is betrayal and forgiveness
Why forgiveness is so hard
How to manage the initial shock of betrayal
Different ways to think about forgiveness
How to deal with the fear that you may be betrayed again
How to integrate pain and betrayal and rebuild trust
And much more!
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Our childhood, religion, culture and many other factors all influence how we view sex and relationships as adults. Listen to today's show to better understand how these things have impacted your views so that you can take an informed approach to improving your sex and relationships.
In this episode with Ann Russo we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
Religions impact on how we think about relationships
How to understand our past and get to our authentic sexual selves
Unpacking the cultural and religious messaging that women are not sexual
Why we've been taught that women's sexuality is dangerous
Promiscuity biases between men and women
Shame around sex and how to create empowerment
How to cultivate a flexible mindset and change your mind about sex and other relationship topics
And much more!
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Some might say that the secret to happiness is managing your expectations. If you are operating with unrealistic expectations and frameworks, you can expect to be constantly disappointed and upset. LIsten to today's show to learn how to become aware of your thinking and create frameworks that serve you and your happiness.
In this episode with Nneka Symister we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
How to change your frameworks and expectations
Social media's negative impact on relationships and expectations
How to understand what it is that you want in a relationship
The importance of creating agreements in your relationship and following through with them
Why you must acknowledge that you will unintentionally hurt your partner and they will unintentionally hurt you as well
And much more!
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