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Are your kids able to fit in with the rest of his or her classmates at school? Are they able to freely express their individuality?
In this episode, we delve into the concept of "the box" and discuss how it relates to the education system and our children's development. The box represents the systems we exist in, such as the political, social, and educational systems. These systems were not designed to cater to everyone's unique needs and abilities, resulting in many individuals, particularly children, feeling like they don't fit inside the box.
We focus on the education system as an example, highlighting how it primarily caters to a specific group of students while leaving others feeling inadequate or wrong. In addition, we also discuss the need to recognize the existence of the box and understand that it is not our children who need fixing, but rather the system itself. By acknowledging the limitations of the box, we can advocate for change and push for more flexibility and individualized approaches to education.
We explore the importance of empowering children by helping them understand the box and its limitations. By fostering a sense of self-worth and emphasizing that their unique abilities are valuable, we can encourage them to break free from the constraints of the box and embrace their individuality.
Ultimately, the goal is to expand or even eliminate the box, creating systems that cater to the diverse needs of all individuals. By doing so, we can nurture a love of learning, empower both children and teachers and pave the way for a more inclusive and adaptable future.
Today’s podcast is taken from a training from inside my group membership called, ‘The Village’. Of course, it has been edited to protect people’s privacy.
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What were the taboo topics you never got to discuss with your parents? Could they be the same topics your children might have wanted to talk with you about?
In this episode, I discuss the importance of creating an environment where we can talk about anything, no matter what it is. I reflect on my experience teaching body safety to children and how telling them that they can talk about anything doesn't always align with their lived experiences. I invite listeners to share their own experiences of taboo topics from their childhood and how they knew those topics were off-limits.
I then delve into the reasons why it is crucial for children's well-being and how to create an environment where they feel comfortable discussing anything.
I acknowledge the challenges in creating such an environment and the potential impact it can have on our children's well-being. I urge listeners to actively work on building this culture of open communication, emphasizing that even mistakes or difficult topics should be addressed without shame or judgment. By doing so, we can support our children and ensure their safety and emotional health.
Today’s podcast is taken from a training from inside my group membership called, ‘The Village’. Of course, it has been edited to protect people’s privacy.
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Are we raising our kids to be aware that they can readily seek help whenever they need to?
Seeking help, both formal and informal, is crucial for our mental health and overall well-being. While seeking help has always been important, our awareness of it has improved over time. This is not just an individual issue; it is a systemic one influenced by social support, education systems, and the pressures of social media.
Along with it, I discussed the five ideas for raising kids who seek help. They need to know who they can go to for support. They need to hear stories of other people seeking help and how it made a difference. They need the skills to describe what they are feeling. They need to trust that it is emotionally safe for them to seek help. And finally, they need to understand that seeking help is not just for extreme situations but for any time they feel that life could be better or when they are carrying a burden that feels too heavy.
By following these ideas, we can raise kids who are more likely to seek help without hesitation, empowering them to improve their well-being and live healthier lives.
Today’s podcast is taken from a training from inside my group membership called, ‘The Village’. Of course, it has been edited to protect people’s privacy.
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Wonder how we can cultivate critical thinking in our children, especially considering the rapidly changing world they are growing up in?
I realized that we might have overlooked the importance of home life in developing critical thinking skills. We tend to associate critical thinking with education and overlook the role of parents in fostering these skills. However, our children need critical thinking not only for academic success but also for navigating their everyday lives.
In our parenting journey, we often prioritize behavior control and compliance, especially when our children are younger. We want them to cooperate and do what they're told. However, as they enter their teenage years, we suddenly expect them to think for themselves and make their own choices. It's interesting how we have this shift in expectations without necessarily preparing them for it.
In this episode, we explore why critical thinking skills are crucial for our children, particularly in today's world and how we can cultivate critical thinking skills in our children.
Critical thinking skills are vital for our children's success and well-being in an ever-changing world. As parents, we play a crucial role in fostering these skills, both at home and in conjunction with their education. By creating a secure environment and providing opportunities for critical thinking, we empower our children to become independent thinkers who can navigate the complexities of life with confidence.
Today’s podcast is taken from a training from inside my group membership called, ‘The Village’. Of course, it has been edited to protect people’s privacy.
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Have you heard statements such as, “You’re unlikable, you don’t belong here, you don’t fit in”?
One of the things where shame comes from is the sense of not belonging. Those negative messages convert to shame. Children either try to prove themselves to the world or completely reject the world.
Repeated experiences of feeling they do not belong usually occur in schools but it can also happen in the family, as well.
In this episode, we will discuss
the effects of shame and praise on a child,the ‘Spare the rod, spoil the child’ disciplinethe role of the family in a child’s shame.That’s what this podcast today is about. It’s taken from a training from inside my group membership called, ‘The Village’. Of course, it has been edited to protect people’s privacy.
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How do we raise kids who know that they are worthy of and deserve relationships and respect? How do we raise them to know that they have the right to feel safe all the time?
Respectful relationships. Not just with the family but with peers, close friends and even with coworkers in the future as well. We want them to identify a good relationship from a bad one.
It’s not about doing them perfectly but role modelling them in front of our kids, showing vulnerability, owning up to the mistakes, and getting and picking ourselves back up.
In this episode, we will discuss:
Characteristics of good relationship and bad relationshipRole of childhood experiences as to know we view the normBoundaries and how to express positive message through itToday’s podcast is taken from a training from inside my group membership called, ‘The Village’. Of course, it has been edited to protect people’s privacy.
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Are we raising our kids to speak or live the truth? Or are they living the way we want them to live? Are they pretending to be someone they are not? Are they genuine and being themselves?
Children are innately assertive. They don’t stress or think about what others might think of them. They aren’t afraid of what others think.
In time, authenticity, and individualism start to go away. But why? Where does it go and why does it start to fade?
In this episode, we will discuss:
Different areas of why our kids’ individualism start to fadeHow to encourage our children to show their true selfToday’s podcast is taken from a training from inside my group membership called, ‘The Village’. Of course, it has been edited to protect people’s privacy.
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Have you heard statements as such as, “You’re unlikable, you don’t belong here, you don’t fit in”?
One of the things where shame comes from is the sense of not belonging. Those negative messages convert to shame. Children either try to prove themselves to the world or completely reject the world.Repeated experiences of feeling they do not belong usually occur in schools but it can also happen in the family, as well.
In this episode, we will discuss:
Effects of shame and praise on a child‘Spare the rod, spoil the child’ disciplineRole of family in child’s shameToday’s podcast is taken from a training from inside my group membership called, ‘The Village’. Of course, it has been edited to protect people’s privacy.
Download your FREE guide, ‘Six Steps to Safer Sleepovers’ **here **
Got any questions? Get in touch and connect with Caroline Ellen:
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What are the things you’re ashamed of? Where has shame popped into your life? How has it shaped you? Is there a shame you are now ready to let go of?
Shame is lurking in the darkness and filtering into everyday but likely you have not stopped to take time, think about it and let it go before it gets passed on to the next generation.
In this episode, we will discuss:
What shame is and how to identify itWhere shame could have stemmed fromThe effects of shame on our identity and how we view the worldShame vs GuiltThat’s what this podcast today is about. It’s taken from a training from inside my group membership called, ‘The Village’. Of course, it has been edited to protect people’s privacy.
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Think back to your childhood. Were you labelled as the smart one, the pretty one, the clumsy one, or something else entirely? Did these labels shape the choices you made, and do you still believe them to be true about yourself?
In this episode, we'll be exploring the power of shedding the labels we carry with us from childhood and adolescence and how they can limit our growth and potential.
When we pause to notice, we can make different choices and remove the limitations on ourselves, and in setting ourselves free in this way, we can in turn do the same for our kids.
I'm excited to share with you some practical strategies for challenging these labels and finding new possibilities for growth and expansion in your life.
Today’s podcast is taken from a training from inside my group membership called, ‘The Village’. Of course, it has been edited to protect people’s privacy.
**Download your FREE guide, ‘Six Steps to Safer Sleepovers’ ** **here **
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Have you ever found yourself feeling burnt out, reactive instead of proactive, or losing the joy of parenting?
It is nothing to feel ashamed of.
In fact, shame will only prevent you from seeking the help you may need.
In my professional development days as a social worker, I learned that there was a name for this.
It’s called ‘blocked care’. It’s when your ability to sustain care for your child in the most ideal, loving way, is blocked, due to your own needs for connection and care being unmet.
But if you understand what is happening and why, you can also learn what you can do about it.
And that’s the good news.
There ARE things you can do.
That’s what this podcast today is about. It’s taken from training from inside my group membership called, ‘The Village’. Of course, it has been edited to protect people’s privacy.
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In this episode, we discuss:
the types of blocked care: chronic, acute, child-specific, and stage-specific.Dan Hughes and Glennon Doyle and the helpful perspectives they shareHow to identify if you are experiencing blocked careThe brain neurology involvedHow we can rewire our brain and nervous system, reducing the size of the amygdala and helping that “guard dog” learn that it doesn't need to be so sensitive.Download your FREE guide, ‘Six Steps to Safer Sleepovers’ here
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Can you think of the last time you needed to address an issue with one of your children? Can you think back to the last time that happened? How did it go when you tried to address it?
Perhaps you found yourself escalating. Perhaps you felt like you and your child were on the opposite sides of the Grand Canyon, staring at each other, knowing that you needed to find a way to communicate, but just stuck at that moment where you are unable to reconnect with each other and really work together.
In this episode, we will be:
encouraging you to value your child’s perspectivehelping you listen to their voicehelping you bridge the gap between you and your child.Got any questions? Get in touch and connect with Caroline Ellen:
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Do you know that there is a parenting challenge that is so normalized, so expected, so talked about that there’s ever a chance that you would’ve known this stage before you even became a parent, and even before you had children, just accepted that this is a challenge you will face that you didn’t really give it much thought after that?
We have normalized the idea that parents will be sidelined, no longer relevant to their teenagers and even to their tweens. We have normalized it to the point where parents now take it for granted. They stop knocking. They think their child doesn't want them to knock, and instead they wait. They accept.
In this episode, we will be:
encouraging you to check in instead of checking out your teenager, your tweenguiding you to let them find their place in the world without interfering or controlling themhelping you to let them individuate while still being able to stay connected with youmaking sure that our children or our teenagers have the freedom that they needGot any questions? Get in touch and connect with Caroline Ellen:
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Are you ready to make parenting a fun, positive experience for both you and your children?
We’re focusing on a powerful technique I’m calling, ‘Love Bombing’ that will help you create and maintain deep, loving connections with your children.
In this episode, we will be:
exploring a variety of simple, yet impactful ways to show our love and supporttransforming everyday moments into opportunities for both bonding and growth from the magic of physical touchdiving into our children’s worlduncovering the secrets to making parenting not just manageable but truly enjoyable.Got any questions? Get in touch and connect with Caroline Ellen:
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Do you remember the last time your kid said something and you didn't know what to say in response?
Have they asked you a question or commented about something that shocked you so much which made you silent for a minute?
Whenever I am faced with these moments, my favorite trick is to ask a question instead of offering an advice.
Instead of offering a story of the same experience or starting off with the word “at least” – just ask a question and make them feel that you are interested to know what’s going on in their mind.
In this episode, we will be discussing more about:
Tricks to do when you don’t know what to say in responseHandling sticky conversationsHow to properly ask a question instead of offering an adviceBuilding stronger communication and connectionGot any questions? Get in touch and connect with Caroline Ellen:
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Have you ever thought about ways on how to strengthen your connection with your child?
Have you heard about “Emotion Coaching”?
It is one of the most powerful tools that can help us strengthen our relationship with our kids.
As parents, this will help us recognize the significance of our children’s emotions and improve ability to self-calm and label their feelings by being receptive and accepting through spoken directives.
In this episode, we will be discussing more about:
What is Emotion CoachingFive Steps to Emotion CoachingFramework for responding to our child’s feelingsReflective ListeningBenefits of Emotion CoachingGot any questions? Get in touch and connect with Caroline Ellen:
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Are there moments when you find yourself getting flustered and frustrated that none of your kids seems to be listening?
How do you approach it at that moment?
Did you ever find yourself wondering, how to get these kids to cooperate so you can do the things that you need to do in the timeframe that you need to do them?
These are really common struggles. And you know what, you are not alone.
In this episode, we will be discussing more about:
The Power of OxytocinConnection and CooperationWhat Oxytocin DoesHow to Increase Sense of ConnectionGot any questions? Get in touch and connect with Caroline Ellen:
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As a parent, is there a part of you that wants to control your child’s outcomes for their life and their future?
When you try to control them, how does it come out? What does it look like?
Our reason for doing this may be quite reasonable and might be driven by the desire of keeping them safe.
But we must remember that our kids need to experience having some control over their own body, their own choices, their own future and their own life.
It doesn’t mean that they get to control everything, but they do want choices. They want to be heard and respected.
In this episode, we will be discussing more about:
How Control Harms ConnectionImpacts of Controlling Everything for Your ChildFocusing on the quality of Relationship with your ChildEstablishing Influence and GuidanceGot any questions? Get in touch and connect with Caroline Ellen:
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Connection is enjoying, savoring, being grateful for being in your child’s presence.
It is being not just physically present, but emotionally present.
When you tune into your children, it gives them the message that they matter, that they are important, that they are loved, that they are worth your time.
In this episode, we will be discussing more about:
Why Connecting with Your Child MattersEstablishing Connections with Your ChildImpacts of Building Good ConnectionGot any questions? Get in touch and connect with Caroline Ellen:
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Raising children is hard.
They push us to our limits, invoking feelings of inadequacy.
But instead of telling yourself that you’re screwing up, shift your focus on what’s going well.
Pat yourself on the back for small accomplishments.
Spend some time each day focusing on what you’re offering your child and how well you’re doing.
In this episode, we will be discussing more about:
Growing as a ParentSeasons of Parenting LifeSelf-appreciation and Self-careGot any questions? Get in touch and connect with Caroline Ellen:
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