Episodes
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Your hosts A some Qs and also have a little summer announcement.
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In this episode, Lauren and Katie discuss The Gottman Institute's principles of "accepting your partner's influence" and "yielding to win."
HEAD'S UP: Parts of this episode feature summery hum of our neighbors' lawn mowers (the day we recorded this episode was a real beaut...). We know it's a little distracting, sorry! We'll be back with some less noisy content next week. -
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This week your hosts tackle the research behind the advice "When in doubt, say 'yes, dear" and "Communication is key!"
Recommendations:
Voting for common sense gun laws.
Netflix Movies: Wine Country & Always Be My Maybe -
Your hosts consider the research on common marriage advice. Today we begin with "Never go to bed angry," and "Don't keep score."
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Spousing: A pro-marriage podcast for the rest of us.
Lauren is an elementary school teacher, queer lady and IPA enthusiast. Katie is a psychotherapist who never uses her inside voice. We're best friends, newly(ish) weds and totally would have been in separated for talking too much if we had been in grade school together. Drawing from personal experience, expert opinion, and conventional wisdom, we approach the gravitas of marriage with candor and levity. We take marriage seriously, ourselves not so much. -
Birthdays, graduations, new jobs - when you have a lifelong partner, the list of things to celebrate is endless! How do you mark your partner's milestones? How can you manage the stress of expectations? In this episode, we explore the ups and downs of celebrating your spouse.
Recommendations:
Katie: American Housewife (ABC Sitcom)
Lauren:
1. Keeping a list of your friend's recommendations.
2. Dirty Computer (album by Janelle Monae). 3. Know (album by Jason Mraz);
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Spousing: A pro-marriage podcast for the rest of us.
Lauren is an elementary school teacher, queer lady, and IPA enthusiast. Katie is a psychotherapist who never uses her inside voice. We're best friends, newly(ish) weds, and totally would have been separated for talking too much if we had been in grade school together. Drawing from personal experience, expert opinion, and conventional wisdom, we approach the gravitas of marriage with candor and levity. We take marriage seriously; ourselves not so much. -
"You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation." - Plato*
In this exciting episode RECORDED IN KATIE'S KITCHEN; your hosts dig into the importance of play in relationships.
Recommendations:
Katie: Mark Manson article -https://markmanson.net/healthy-relationship-habits
Lauren: Azul (board game)
*Or at least POSSIBLY Plato... It's hard to accurately quote the Greeks. -
As Katie's Floridian grandfather used to say, "Life is just waiting for another hurricane." This both was literally true for Katie's grandfather, and metaphorically true for all relationships. On today's episode, Lauren & Katie discuss how to be beacons of light--not rescue boats--for our spouses, and share survival stories from past metaphorical hurricanes. Silliness ensues.
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Your hosts dig into some listener questions about date nights, what we like about each other's marriages and what we've learned from past relationships.
Check out this artist for all your reproductive organ / body part art needs: https://designsbyduvetdays.com/shop/uterus-anatomy/ -
Emotional intelligence: What is it? Who has it? What do you do when your partner doesn't use it? In this episode, we address the perils of both emotional and physical infidelity before diving into the research on emotional intelligence.
Article: https://verilymag.com/2016/03/marriage-advice-communication-emotional-intelligence
Recommendations:
Lauren - Russian Doll (Netflix); Mile Marker 181 (Podcast)
Katie - Couples Massages (Duh), "Night Shift" by Lucy Dacus (song) -
Your hosts respond to a listener Q about the politics of name-changing. Next, we dissect the 4 types of support identified by the research.
Recommendations:
Sushi Go (card game)
Leaving Neverland (HBO Documentary)
Armchair Expert: Johann Hari Episode (Podcast)
Invisibilia: The Fifth Vital Sign Episode (Podcast) -
Your hosts dig into the research about attachment styles, the fascinating interpersonal relationship patterns that form in the early years of your life... and then (SURPRISE) show up in all kinds of mysterious ways in your adult relationships.
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This week, Lauren and Katie are processing the helpful framework of Love Languages and how knowing how to "speak" your partner's Love Language can improve your groove.
Recommendations:
One Day at a Time on Netflix (a rare double endorsement!)
The Anthropocene Reviewed from WNYC -
Our hosts dive into the world of The Enneagram! From Reformers to Peacemakers, there's something in this episode for everyone.
Recommendations: Broadchurch (Netflix); SubReddit r/skincareaddiction . -
In this (slightly tardy) episode, your intrepid hosts tackle the oh-so-blissful and short-lived honeymoon phase of every long-term relationship.
Recommendations:
1. Brisket
2. Married at First Sight on Lifetime
3. Pen15 on Hulu
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In this week's episode, your hosts are getting all mushy in honor of Valentine's Day. That's right, we're throwing it back to the days we became spouses-- our wedding days!
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This week, your hosts discuss our relationships with mental health and offer some resources to be conversation starters.
Check them out here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Dq9eQE_QSVA5pd3QvUQbiWkhzI1hfMqs/view?usp=sharing
Additionally, we answer a listener question about traits we sought in partners in dating vs. traits that have turned out to be important in marriage. -
In this episode, your hosts take a listener question about the complexities of same-sex partnerships, get (lovingly) shamed for their bad taste in alcohol, and discuss daunting considerations for the pre-parenthood set.
THINGS YOU SHOULD LOVE:
-"Derry Girls", "Orphan Black", and "Three Wives One Husband" on Netflix
-The Orphan Black review podcast "Tatiana is Everyone"
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In this episode we tackle what it's like to have a spouse as a roommate. We also answer a listener question and fall in love with some seriously beautiful prose.
Sources:
https://www.brainpickings.org/2018/09/03/rilke-love-marriage/mc_cid=a499f42fca&mc_eid=48d2c43154
https://contemporaryfamilies.org/whocohabits/ - Show more
