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As part of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Kim and Kara finally get to talk with Kayla Hayes.
At just 25, Kayla Hayes is a passionate advocate, speaker, and author who embodies resilience. Having faced the challenges of childhood sexual abuse and teenage domestic violence, she made a powerful choice to transform her pain into purpose, embracing her scars as wings of strength.
Kayla’s story has resonated widely, earning features on Inside Edition, in Cosmopolitan Magazine, and on various national platforms dedicated to empowering survivors. Through podcasts, interviews, and impactful speaking engagements, she raises awareness about domestic violence and empowers others to reclaim their identities.
A pivotal moment in Kayla’s journey was the realization that her experiences did not define her; rather, they could be a source of strength. This insight drives her mission to inspire young people to heal from their pasts and see their scars as symbols of hope and resilience. She believes that by sharing our stories, we can create a supportive community that uplifts one another.
Kayla's Call to Action:
"Our scars, both physical and invisible, can become our wings, lifting us towards healing and empowerment. I just want to urge you to embrace your journey and wear your scars proudly, knowing they are symbols of resilience. If you or someone you know is struggling with the effects of abuse, I urge you to seek support and share your story because I believe that truly together we can create a community of healing and strength and to show the world that our past does not define us. Instead, we can propel us into a brighter, more powerful future."
Learn more from Kayla:
To discover more about Kayla’s advocacy or to book a speaking engagement, visit sheriseswithkaylahayes.com.
Instagram: @sheriseswkaylah
TikTok: @sheriseswithkaylahayes
Facebook: @InTheEndIWillRise
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Kim and Kara are hot off their time together in Colorado for a project they can finally discuss… The Survivor's Guide to True Crime documentary! The impact of recent hurricanes, ongoing relief efforts, and organizations you can check out are discussed. Kara and her husband watched two true crime documentaries that have stuck with her, whether she likes it or not. The significance of Domestic Violence Awareness Month and supporting your local advocacy center is this week's call to action, specifically SAVA of Weld and Larimer counties. Kim has been hired as their development consultant and would love to have tickets and/or donations made towards the biggest fundraiser of the year, the SAVA Soirée, on November 2nd in Fort Collins at the Hilton.
Throughout the episode, Kim and Kara highlight the need for community involvement and the power of storytelling in raising awareness and supporting survivors.
Links Mentioned:
SAVA Soirée Tickets
Convoy of Hope
Mountain Mule Packer Ranch
Every Life
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Kim and Kara have an infuriating conversation learning some unbelievable things from Dr. Nicole Bedera as she shares 8 years worth of her original, pioneering research. This explosive investigation reveals the profound failures of the Title IX system and identifies concrete, simple steps we can take to protect students. Get ready, listeners--you're going to want to ride at dawn by the end of this chapter.
Nicole Bedera, Ph.D. is a sociologist and author of the forthcoming book On the Wrong Side: How Universities Protect Perpetrators and Betray Survivors of Sexual Violence. Her research broadly focuses on how our social structures contribute to survivors’ trauma and make sexual violence more likely to occur in the future. Her scholarship has influenced sexual violence prevention programming across the country, including for Planned Parenthood, and her work has been featured in many popular outlets, including The New York Times, NPR, Time Magazine, and Teen Vogue. Nicole puts her work into practice as an affiliated educator at the Center for Institutional Courage and as a co-founder of Beyond Compliance Consulting.
Learn more from Nicole:
https://www.nicolebedera.com/
Nicole Bedera launched her debut book, On The Wrong Side, October 8th, 2024! Order the book here.
Nicole's Call To Action:
Purchase the book, preferably from an indie bookstore, and if you have any questions you want to send Nicole directly, she would love to hear them. If you read the book and you have thoughts about it, she'd love to hear those too.
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You asked, Kim and Kara answered. Or at least, they tried. Welcome to the first Q&A episode of season two.
Don't forget - there will be no new episode next week. Kara will be in Colorado with Kim, but you can keep up with their real-time shenanigans over on Patreon.
Links mentioned:
Paris Hilton surrogate choice: https://www.vanityfair.com/style/paris-hilton-on-why-she-chose-surrogacy-for-her-children
Helpful information for medical providers working with pregnant and postpartum survivors: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9377212/
A classic study on how dark humor helps with trauma and stress coping: https://www.degruyter.com/document/doi/10.1515/humr.14.1.83/html:
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Pack your suitcase for a trauma trip! Kim and Kara chart new territory reflecting on alcohol consumption, Kim's Irish goodbyes at concerts, Kara's real-time unpacking of the challenges of parenting, and the compounded mental burdens that come with these responsibilities as survivors. They also discuss the concept of code-switching and its impact on identity. Kim asks listeners for a very specific birthday gift this year: urge Congress to pass the Crime Victims Fund Stabilization Act.
Call to Action: Urge Congress to Pass the Crime Victims Fund Stabilization Act (H.R.8061/S.4514)
urging the U.S. Senate and House of Representatives to authorize much-needed 2024 bridge funding for the federal Crime Victims Fund (VOCA Fund). The VOCA Fund supports the provision of essential direct services for crime victims and survivors across the country. According to the U.S. Department of Justice’s Office for Victims of Crime, projected fiscal year 2024 funding for victim service grants will be $700 million lower than fiscal year 2023.
The VOCA Fund was established by the Victims of Crime Act of 1984, and it is the primary financial source for victim services in all 50 states, five U.S. territories, and the District of Columbia. VOCA Fund revenue is generated from offenders convicted of crimes, not from taxes.
In 2021, Congress passed the VOCA Fix Act, which allows monetary recoveries from federal deferred prosecutions and non-prosecution agreements to replenish the fund. While passage of the VOCA Fix Act was necessary, it was not sufficient to adequately shore up fund balances, and 2024 VOCA funding for crime victim service programs is anticipated to be 41% lower nationwide when compared to 2023 grant awards. Without prompt action by Congress, many victim service programs across the country may be forced to close.
The VOCA Fund supports medical care, mental health counseling, lost wages, courtroom advocacy, and temporary housing for victims and survivors of crime. It also helps to fund federal, state, and tribal victim service programs, crime victim compensation, discretionary grant awards, victim specialists in U.S. Attorney’s Offices and the Federal Bureau of Investigation, and the federal victim notification system.
Links mentioned:
Parents' mental health is in crisis…duh: https://www.hhs.gov/about/news/2024/08/28/us-surgeon-general-issues-advisory-mental-health-well-being-parents.html
Code-Switching: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Code-switching
VOCA call to action toolkit:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/17h46esgo2r2n2xAXxkRqFXLLVRuxtUptsXIwA-kQS-0/edit#heading=h.r966jdpkv967
Journey is messy: https://www.billboard.com/pro/journey-band-lawsuit-court-appoints-neutral-resolve-deadlock/
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Did we just become best friends? YEP!
Fellow survivor advocate Marlee Liss joins Kim & Kara for a conversation that could have kept going infinitely. Marlee introduces listeners to restorative justice and shares her experience with this alternative form of survivor-centered closure.
Marlee Liss is a somatic educator, social worker, and sparkle-loving lesbian Jewish feminist. She made history in the justice system when her sexual assault case became the 1st in North America to conclude with restorative justice through the courts. Since then, she has supported thousands in learning trauma-informed pleasure and inclusive consent education . Marlee's work has beenfeatured in Forbes, Huff Post, Buzzfeed, the Mel Robbins Show and more. As an award-winning speaker, she's delivered talks for: National Sexual Assault Conference, Vanderbilt University, Action Trauma Summit, Fordham University, Women's Mental Health Conference at Yale and more. Marlee was 1 of 25 survivors on an elite panel for the National Action Plan to End Gender Based Violence informing federal policy and her story is currently being made into a documentary directed by Kelsey Darragh.
Learn More from Marlee:
MarleeLiss.com
Social Media: https://instagram.com/marleeliss
Speaking Engagements & Advocacy: https://www.marleeliss.com/speaking
Marlee's Call To Action:
Download the Restorative Justice Resource Guide: https://www.marleeliss.com/resource
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Kara is on a break from social media and the impact it has on her mental health is profound. Delving into heavier topics, Kim sent Kara a Washington Post article on a Columbia, SC school resource officer who sexually abused students. Turns out, Kara worked with him.
They explore the complexities of knowing and liking someone who is later revealed to be an offender, and the importance of not making excuses for their actions. They also touch on the role of character witness statements and the power dynamics that enable predators to exploit their victims. The conversation highlights the need for accountability and the dangers of compartmentalization.
Kim and Kara also touch on the tragic school shooting in Georgia as it unfolds. The conversation covers heavy topics but emphasizes the importance of understanding different perspectives and always remaining open to new information and varying opinions.
Links mentioned:
Columbia, SC SRO Sexual Assault via Washington Post
Age of Consent per US State
One Sec App to help social media addiction
No Notoriety Campaign
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SASSGO
SASS Go is on a mission to love people and help protect them from violence and abuse. Through prevention, education, courses, self-defense, training, and case consulting, they have served over 24,000 people across 4 continents.
SASS Go understands that everyone is born with purpose and dignity. Supporting survivors, their families, and the professionals who serve them is how they do their part to protect the tribe.
Brett Brown
Brett Brown is the Executive Director of SASS Go and an Adjunct Professor at the University of South Carolina, Aiken. For more than 20 years, Brett has worked alongside survivors of violence and the professionals that serve them in multiple capacities including crisis intervention, prevention education, and best practices training and development. Her wisdom and ingenuity have partnered her with agencies like the CDC, US Department of Justice, US Embassy, and US Army. Attorneys, advocates, law enforcement, emergency medical personnel, and victims of crime welcome her generous spirit and collaborative approach making our communities safer across the globe.
Shannon Henry
Shannon Henry is the President and Founder of SASS Go, a 501c3 nonprofit making women and girls safer against assault, abuse, and trafficking globally, and an adjunct professor at The University of South Carolina. Her expertise in violence prevention and response has been utilized by the US State Department, our military, the World Health Organization, the US Embassy, as well as businesses, universities, and first responders in some of their darkest hours. At her core, she is a pattern finder, strategist, and hope dealer who is honored to help protect the most precious thing we have in our communities- lives.
This year, SASS hosts their "I Will Survive Weekend" October 18-20 in Laurens, South Carolina.
Links mentioned:
Survivors and attachment styles
Molly Jane's Law (ViCAP)
Soft Interview Rooms
"Wounded Healers" terminology coined by Carl Jung
Learn more from Brett and Shannon:
www.sassgo.org
@sassgoglobal
Brett and Shannon's CTA: "Join us!" Become part of the "SASS Tribe" by engaging with them online, attending a training, or offering support in any way you are able.
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The journey to becoming a girl's girl is not all pink and sparkles. So what exactly is a girl's girl, you may ask? Kim and Kara dive into this, together.
After the dumpster fire of a recording that was the original recording of Kim & Kara's conversation, they decided to scrap it and try again. Behold. Chapter 34, take 2.
Thanks to SGTC listeners, the ladies were made aware of Snoop Dogg's self-proclaimed history with human trafficking. For more context, read HERE.
Speaking of dumpster fires, 'It Ends With Us' is slammed for romanticizing domestic violence, amongst other issues Colleen Hoover's work presents. The PR and marketing teams are clearly working overtime. Many other literary options that surpass IEWU are offered.
TLDR: ACOTAR > IEWU
Kara shares a recent, real-life example of why speaking out and sharing our stories matters so much.
Links mentioned:
Justin Baldoni's Instagram and podcast: @WeAreManEnough
Linguistics breakdown video from @etymologynerd
Video on teaching girls to set boundaries in friendships from @resilientdaughterproject
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Kim and Kara talk about ambiguous grief with Heather Straughter and the ways grief and trauma are so intimately cooccurring.
Heather Straughter (said like “daughter”), was a Special Education Inclusion teacher in Roxbury, Massachusetts for nearly 10 years before moving to Saratoga Springs, NY with her husband Brian and growing family. Her first child Ethan was born in 2005 and her second Jake was born in 2006. Both boys were healthy and vibrant; then, when Jake was eight months old, he had a seizure that changed the families lives forever.
They spent 117 days in the hospital before going home. At that point Jake had lost all his milestones. They continued to advocate for their son and made sure that he got the care he needed to thrive – despite the fact that doctors were never able to diagnose him. When Jake was 4-years-old he suddenly passed away. In the chaos of that grief the non-profit “Jake’s Help from Heaven” was born.
In the 13 years since his death the small non-profit has awarded $1.7 Million dollars to 1,000 medically fragile individuals – mostly children – who live within a 100 mile radius of Saratoga Springs, NY. Many of them come back year after year, with new needs as they age.
Heather’s story is one of resilience and determination in the face of unimaginable loss.
Heather's CTA: Listen to "A Place of Yes"
Learn more from Heather: @Jakeshelp
Jake's Help From Heaven
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If covering as many topics in one episode as possible were an Olympic sport, Kim and Kara would be taking home the gold. This week, the ladies offer a broad range (not surprising) including the Olympics, updated title IX regulations, Eminem's new album, hyper fixation hobbies, and the concept of "trad wives".
Kim and Kara discuss their experiences watching the 2024 Summer Olympics in Paris, seeing a diverse array of athletes' bodies, and the importance of self-acceptance. Fangirling over US Rugby star, Ilona Maher takes place which is very warranted.
Kim fully goes off while filling Kara in on the controversy surrounding a Dutch child rapist...who just happens to be participating in Olympic volleyball. They emphasize the need for accountability and support for survivors, as well as the importance of holding offenders responsible. (Since recording, this particular societal skid mark has been eliminated from the competition. Our international thanks to the Brazilian volleyball team for their service.)
"The Dutch Olympic committee said Van de Velde met the conditions to return to competition after a conviction and resumed his career in 2017. “Van de Velde now meets all the qualification requirements for the Olympic Games and is therefore part of the team,” the committee said."
Links mentioned in the show:
Ilona Maher's IG
New York Times, Ballerina Farm Article
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This week on the pod Kim and Kara talk to personal safety expert James Hamilton, about protection, intuition, and living with courage.
James Hamilton is a nationally recognized personal security expert and former FBI Supervisory Special Agent. For more than 30 years, he has been a protector, trainer, and advisor to the nation’s most at-risk individuals. He has real, practical, and unparalleled experience in violence prevention and personal security. This real experience was earned through service in local law enforcement, the FBI, and America’s premiere executive protection firm. He has protected government officials, high-net-worth individuals, and leading religious figures all over the globe and has empowered thousands of individuals to stay safe in an increasingly dangerous world. He has dedicated his entire career to this particular area of expertise and is sought after by those seeking practical and sound security guidance.
A few highlights of his distinguished career:
• Former Senior Vice President, Gavin de Becker and Associates
• 18 years as an FBI Supervisory Special Agent
• Created the FBI’s Close Protection School
• Tactical Instructor for New Agents at the FBI Academy, Quantico, VA
• Program Manager for the FBI Overseas Survival Awareness Program where he instructed hundreds of personnel in travel safety
• Served on the elite FBI Director’s Protective Detail and FBI SWAT Team
• Personal Security Advisor to the US Attorney General and two FBI Directors
• Joint Terrorism Task Force Coordinator
• Professional Certifications: FBI Firearms Instructor, FBI Tactical Instructor, FBI SWAT Operator, FBI Hostage Negotiator, FBI Driving Instructor, Active Shooter Instructor (ALERRT), GDBA Threat Assessment Management
• Member of the International Protective Security Board and former member of the ASIS Executive Protection Council and the Board of Executive Protection Professionals
James earned a Bachelor of Arts degree from The Citadel, The Military College of South Carolina.
Learn more from James:
https://hamiltonsecuritygroup.com
LinkedIn: @james-hamilton
Instagram: @hamiltonsecuritygroup
You Tube: Safety Seconds with James
James' CTA: "Live with courage"
Links mentioned in the show:
Cooper's color code:
https://cdn.ymaws.com/www.caceo.us/resource/resmgr/imported/documents/as14/Coopers-System-for-Awareness.pdf
Man in the arena speech:
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/7-it-is-not-the-critic-who-counts-not-the-man
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Kara and Kim discuss the concept of "masking" and how it relates to trauma and personal experiences. They share their own experiences of feeling the need to mask in certain situations and the impact it has on their mental and emotional well-being. They also come back to the topic of forgiveness and how it is not a condition of faith or healing, but rather a result of it. The lede gets buried, but they conclude with a discussion about recent news events and the importance of recognizing the humanity of all individuals involved.
Learn more about the Spotlight Effect
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In this episode, Kim and Kara talk to Cheyenne Wilson, the woman behind We Are the Evidence Instagram and author of the newly published "We Are the Evidence - A Handbook for Finding Your Way After Sexual Assault."
They discuss the importance of feeling seen and heard as a survivor and the need for accessible resources. Cheyenne shares her journey of writing and publishing her book, and the control she had in the process. They also break down the impact of sexual assault on sexuality and the importance of normalizing different responses to trauma. The conversation highlights the need for support and belief for survivors, the power of sharing their stories, the challenges of processing trauma, and the different ways individuals cope.
"We Are the Evidence," is a comprehensive resource for all survivors of sexual assault. This handbook contains everything victims, advocates, and supporters need to know to navigate the challenges and confusion in the wake of an assault. Woven together with voices of support from other sexual assault survivors, you’ll also find invaluable guidance from experts, including attorneys, detectives, and therapists.
Cheyenne Wilson BSN, and author of "We Are the Evidence: A Handbook For Finding Your Way after Sexual Assault" is on a mission to raise awareness about the reality of sexual assault, eliminate the stigma associated with being a victim of this violent crime, and make lasting changes in the justice and healthcare systems. Cheyenne earned her Bachelors in Psychology and worked in social services before pursuing a career in nursing.
Learn More From Cheyenne:
Website: We Are the Evidence - We Are The Evidence
Instagram: We are the Evidence (@wearetheevidence) • Instagram photos and videos
Cheyenne's CTA: Contact your local libraries and ask them to carry the book, providing a safe and accessible resource for survivors. Want help? Use the form letter we created HERE.
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Get ready, things are about to get spicy. Kim & Kara are squarely perched upon their soapboxes discussing spicy topics like forgiveness, religion, toxic positivity, and purity culture.
A national survey in which 63% of cases established paternity, 70% of children born to teen mothers were fathered by men over the age of 20. (https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9099568/)
Stuff Mom Never Told You: The Myths of Virginity Part 1
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In this conversation, Kim and Kara interview Veronica Cisneros, a licensed marriage and family therapist and host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast. Veronica shares her story of growing up with a father addicted to heroin and alcohol, and how her adverse experience inspired her to become a therapist. They discuss the importance of challenging women outside of their comfort zones and empowering them to live the life they want.
This captivating conversation also covers topics related to relationships, trauma, and personal growth, exploring the dynamics of unhealthy relationships and the challenges faced by individuals who want to leave but may not be able to due to safety concerns or other factors. Veronica provides a script for initiating conversations about past trauma and offers the DEARMAN acronym as a tool for effective communication.
Links: Gottman's 4 horsemen
How to find the right therapist
https://veronicacisneros.org/episode144/
Veronica's FREE Relationship Guide
https://veronicacisneros.org/guide
Veronica's Call to Action: "Respect where you're at currently and acknowledge the need for change."
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What Tour?
K&K are back discussing Eminem, their admiration for the Paris Hilton renaissance, the upcoming anniversary of Kara's kidnapping, and the support they've received from their captive audience.
Diving straight into the deep pool of dark humor, Kara prepares to launch new merch following a series of unhinged texts from Kim, kicked off by this early 2000's Nike ad.
Consent conversations with their children highlight the importance of having open and age-appropriate conversations with kids about subjects like sexuality, pornography, and menstruation. Helpful videos from Planned Parenthood are referenced. They emphasize the need for ongoing communication and being a reliable source of information for their children, because as Kim says, "if they aren't hearing it from you, they're going to hear it from somewhere".
Both ladies touch on the importance of consent and the challenges of discussing their own experiences of sexual assault with their kids.
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Welcome back to season two of Survivor's Guide to True Crime! Catch up on the past few months with Kim & Kara and get a feel for the updated show format.
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Kim & Kara drop a bonus update episode to kick off 2024. Kara's almost done with growing her tiny human, Kim launched her online merch shop, and aligning our language to reflect our emotions is carrying us into our second year of SGTC.
A special thank you to everyone who has been listening, interacting, sharing, and supporting us throughout our first year of this passion project we call Survivor's Guide. We could not have done this without you, and are grateful for every moment you choose to spend with us.
Here's to sharing this next season of life and SGTC.
Love, K&K
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It's our last episode of season 1! We will announce our season 2 date soon, but rest assured we will still be doing minisodes and having fun on Patreon during our break.
Kim and Kara catch up in the midst of travel and Kara shares what she's having! Much to Kim's chagrin, it is NOT a velociraptor.
Today's guest is forensic nurse Shaun Johnson. In an SGTC first, you all had the opportunity to submit questions ahead of our conversation. Listen as Shaun answers these and more.
Shaun Johnson is a dedicated registered nurse passionate about providing compassionate and patient-centered care to survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence, human tracking, and stalking. Shaun has been a Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner (SANE) since 2018.
Since becoming a SANE, Shaun has made significant contributions to the field of sexual assault care and advocacy in Maine. His role extends beyond conducting forensic examinations; he also plays a crucial part in educating his community and other healthcare professionals about sexual assault, domestic violence, human trafficking, and stalking prevention and the importance of a trauma-informed approach to care and services provided to survivors.
Shaun's career as a SANE began in Portland, Maine, where he worked as a registered nurse before specializing in forensic nursing. He developed exceptional clinical skills in assessing and treating victims of sexual assault while training colleagues, throughout the hospital, about the role and the services SANEs provide.
In late 2021, Shaun started The SANE Corner Instagram page to create a community and bring awareness and education to social media about forensic nursing.
His passion for providing specialized care to vulnerable populations led him to pursue an advanced degree, and is currently procuring a Master’s in Public Health. In addition, Shaun has a passion for breaking the stereotype that men can be SANEs and that more are needed in this field.
Learn more from Shaun:
Instagram: @TheSANECorner
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